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1. 0:02Okay, a lot of us have a very specific
2. 0:06idea of what it means to live a
3. 0:08beautiful life. Either it's a big
4. 0:10apartment, a house, you name it, the
5. 0:13list goes on. And of course, there is a
6. 0:15reason those things appeal to us. Maybe
7. 0:18we are wanting peace, freedom, time, or
8. 0:20acceptance. And we kind of think that
9. 0:23having money is going to give us those
10. 0:26things, yet it's the other way around.
11. 0:29We want to talk about the luxuries that
12. 0:32cost zero. Not as a challenge to never
13. 0:35spend again, or because we should rather
14. 0:38settle for less. We want to explore what
15. 0:40it means to live a richer life without
16. 0:43constantly consuming things. And I have
17. 0:46journal prompts alongside this. And here
18. 0:49are a few ways that we can actually
19. 0:51practice this today on the luxury of not
20. 0:55being in a hurry. Are you always wanting
21. 0:59to do the next thing? Like you can't sit
22. 1:02down and enjoy your breakfast without
23. 1:04watching something, without constantly
24. 1:07checking your phone. You can't go in a
25. 1:10room where you don't know anybody and
26. 1:12not feel the need to escape or to fill
27. 1:16the silence with scrolling or calling
28. 1:21your friends.
29. 1:23Like you just want to call them because
30. 1:25you don't want to be alone or look like
31. 1:28you are lonely. And here, I want you to
32. 1:32just give ordinary days attention they
33. 1:35desire.
34. 1:37Start being more present in your own
35. 1:40life before it passes by.
36. 1:43If you're eating on another time, it's
37. 1:46and just don't fill every silence with
38. 1:50words, with everybody else's life, with
39. 1:53wanting to catch up, or wanting to do
40. 1:55the next thing. The journal here is what
41. 1:58parts of your day do you rush through
42. 2:01even when you don't actually need to.
43. 2:05Catch yourself when you're trying to
44. 2:07rush through and stop immediately.
45. 2:11You have to train your mind that this is
46. 2:13not how we operate anymore.
47. 2:16I think that's the trick. And the second
48. 2:19point is to become a person who notices
49. 2:21things. The second point is becoming
50. 2:24someone who notices things. We as human
51. 2:27beings, we love traveling. I don't know
52. 2:30if you do or you don't, but generally
53. 2:33most people love traveling and that's
54. 2:35because unfamiliar make us notice more.
55. 2:39If you go to a beautiful place that
56. 2:42you've never been, you actually force to
57. 2:44notice, go to places, see people,
58. 2:47explore.
59. 2:49And why don't we reserve time to notice
60. 2:53things in our own lives? I dare you to
61. 2:56keep a commonplace notebook in your
62. 2:58journal. This notes
63. 3:00to make you look like a weird person. Of
64. 3:03course, nobody likes looking weird, but
65. 3:05if you also want to look like everybody
66. 3:07else, then where is the excitement?
67. 3:10There is no excitement. Everybody looks
68. 3:12exactly like everybody.
69. 3:15Just embrace looking different. General
70. 3:18prompt is what are 10 things I find
71. 3:21interesting about me. I chose
72. 3:23specifically about you as an individual
73. 3:26because you can't start noticing things
74. 3:29around you yet. You actually don't even
75. 3:32know yourself. Start by learning more
76. 3:34about yourself, then expand the list to
77. 3:38other people, to places, uh cafes, the
78. 3:42list goes on. The third point here I
79. 3:45have the pleasure of rediscovering what
80. 3:48you already own. This is going to sound
81. 3:51a little bit confusing, but it's
82. 3:53interesting that sometimes you own
83. 3:56clothes that you haven't worn in ages
84. 3:59and you still want to buy new clothes.
85. 4:02You have books that you haven't read,
86. 4:04but you want to buy the trending book
87. 4:07that everybody's talking about.
88. 4:10You have fragrances that you're not
89. 4:12using because you're saving them for a
90. 4:14later date. Really, what we want is not
91. 4:16the things, but the feeling. So, how can
92. 4:19you rediscover what you already own?
93. 4:21Maybe it's the outfit. You can restyle
94. 4:24the same outfit in different ways. Like
95. 4:26for me, an example, I was wearing just
96. 4:29this top. These are just sweatpants and
97. 4:31I
98. 4:32just put this cardigan on top because it
99. 4:36kind of looks um
100. 4:38good, I would say. It just looks cute
101. 4:41like this. You can rediscover new ways
102. 4:44of doing things. Maybe it's a book that
103. 4:46you haven't read,
104. 4:47reread it. It's a a hobby, a project
105. 4:51that you've been working on and you
106. 4:53stopped working on it. Pick up the
107. 4:56project, pick up materials and start
108. 4:58doing things. For me, it's crocheting. I
109. 5:00love crocheting. I'm actually looking at
110. 5:03my yarn over there in the corner. I
111. 5:06haven't um did it in so so long, but I
112. 5:11don't also regret because my energy is
113. 5:16going to other things that haven't
114. 5:18explored.
115. 5:20Yeah, if that is your case, I
116. 5:22understand, but if it's not,
117. 5:25just rediscover new ways.
118. 5:28Rediscover, sorry, what you already own.
119. 5:30And the challenge here, if you feel
120. 5:32uninspired by your wardrobe, create
121. 5:34three outfits you haven't worn before.
122. 5:37And if you have a hobby that you
123. 5:39abandoned, see whether you can return to
124. 5:41it. And this leads me on to the fourth
125. 5:45point, which is have interests that
126. 5:47don't need to become anything. I don't
127. 5:50want to talk more about this. I feel
128. 5:52like it makes sense, but I want to give
129. 5:55you a general prompt, and that is what
130. 5:57would I learn today if I wasn't or
131. 6:00didn't have to be good at it, monetize
132. 6:03it, or show to anyone.
133. 6:06Linking me into becoming your own muse.
134. 6:09The reason why you can't become a master
135. 6:12at something is because you don't want
136. 6:14to learn. You don't want to fail. You
137. 6:15don't want to look cringe. But unless
138. 6:18you try,
139. 6:20you won't learn, and you going to stay
140. 6:22in that place of not wanting to fail,
141. 6:26not wanting to try something new because
142. 6:28you're afraid of being seen. You're not
143. 6:30going to learn anything. There is no
144. 6:33passion. There is no excitement in life,
145. 6:36and how can you see the beauty yet you
146. 6:39can't allow the beauty to come in?
147. 6:42Allow yourself to open those closed
148. 6:45doors. Knock again. There is magic over
149. 6:49there. It's hard, but you can still do
150. 6:52it.
151. 6:53>> [snorts]
152. 6:53>> This is sounding like
153. 6:55a self-development video. It's not. It's
154. 6:58just that I love inner work and
155. 7:01psychology, and sometimes it's hard to
156. 7:04hide that part of me.
157. 7:06And the last point is create beauty
158. 7:09through care rather consumption. Clean
159. 7:12your room so that you can return home to
160. 7:14a clean space. Have a skin care routine
161. 7:17that doesn't need to be like the ideal
162. 7:20skin care routine. Have your own kind of
163. 7:23wellness routine. Just create something
164. 7:26of your own, not something that you
165. 7:28sourced from anybody, just something
166. 7:30that works for you. You. I'm talking to
167. 7:33you.
168. 7:33And here I want to leave you with three
169. 7:36practices, as always. The first is
170. 7:39notice more.
171. 7:42The second, create more with what you
172. 7:45have. You don't have to buy other
173. 7:47things, just with what you have.
174. 7:50The third is let yourself enjoy things
175. 7:53without documenting. It's a walk, enjoy
176. 7:56your walk. Sometimes you want to
177. 7:58document something because it's pretty,
178. 8:01but other times just let yourself be
179. 8:03sucked in the beauty of things without
180. 8:06wanting to do anything about it.
181. 8:09And what can I say? Just experience your
182. 8:12life differently. That's what I wish for
183. 8:15you. I'll see you in the next one. Bye.