Lecture 57- Life Skills-II — Transcript

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1. 0:17Hello friends, welcome back to lecture 2
2. 0:21of module 12 of the stress management
3. 0:24course. I'm your host Shubrasa and this
4. 0:29section will take you to a tour of the
5. 0:32basic life skills and how they f are
6. 0:37proved to be beneficial for us.
7. 0:42So basic life skills includes a bouquet
8. 0:46of skills which can be implemented as
9. 0:50and when required.
10. 0:53First of them is called selfawwareness.
11. 0:57This is basically being conscious about
12. 1:00oneself
13. 1:02through reflection or introspection.
14. 1:06When I say that it is about being
15. 1:09conscious of oneself means being aware
16. 1:13of one's thoughts, intentions, emotions
17. 1:18and their causes, their actual causes
18. 1:21and their probable consequences.
19. 1:25If we simply know about ourselves
20. 1:28correctly, many of the problems of our
21. 1:32life can be solved.
22. 1:34The second skill of life is the critical
23. 1:38thinking ability which involves
24. 1:41reflective thinking to make decisions
25. 1:45about what to believe or do.
26. 1:49What should I believe? What should I
27. 1:52not?
28. 1:53Why should I work in a certain manner?
29. 1:56Why should I comply with the command
30. 1:59which is being given to me? And all
31. 2:02these wise should be answered in a very
32. 2:06logical manner.
33. 2:08This logical thinking
34. 2:11and removing of the ideas which are
35. 2:15found illogical
36. 2:18irrational is called critical thinking
37. 2:22where I'm questioning my own thoughts
38. 2:25and also my own way of thinking about a
39. 2:28particular thing where I'm conscious
40. 2:32about the reasons the logics on which I
41. 2:36base my decision
42. 2:38I base my thinking my principles.
43. 2:42This particular thing is called critical
44. 2:45thinking. So I am no way claiming that I
45. 2:50am an uh you know person free of all
46. 2:54kind of errors as a human being.
47. 2:57Everybody is open to commit certain
48. 3:00errors. But the important aspect is
49. 3:05whether I accept that I am uh I can do
50. 3:09certain errors. Whether I am conscious
51. 3:12for looking my errors and then
52. 3:15correcting them in future. If I'm
53. 3:18behaving in this way, I am engaged in
54. 3:21critical thinking. I'm not only uh
55. 3:24thinking of the advantages of what I do
56. 3:28or say but also the possible
57. 3:30disadvantages. I also keep an eye over
58. 3:34where I went wrong and I genuinely try
59. 3:38to improve over this particular aspect.
60. 3:42So taken together this thing is called
61. 3:46critical thinking.
62. 3:48Then creative thinking means am I able
63. 3:52to do out ofthebox thinking means can I
64. 3:56generate ideas and solutions which are
65. 3:59not conventional rather innovative
66. 4:02which makes them more suitable to solve
67. 4:06problems of the current era which is in
68. 4:09many ways different from the earlier
69. 4:11times.
70. 4:13If I do means I'll be able to provide
71. 4:17more solutions during a brainstorming
72. 4:20session. Whenever I'm thinking of a
73. 4:22problem which needs to be solved,
74. 4:26I can look at the situation from a f
75. 4:29fresh perspective. I can get new
76. 4:32insights from it that will help me
77. 4:34greatly in solving that problem.
78. 4:38So creative thinking also includes
79. 4:41fluency, originality and elaboration of
80. 4:46ideas. It requires resistance to closer
81. 4:50or keeping an open mind. Means I don't
82. 4:54want to close my thinking rather I want
83. 4:57to keep it open and let the ideas flow
84. 5:00to me from all directions out of which I
85. 5:04can do some wonders by assimilating them
86. 5:08by combining them in a new innovative
87. 5:11way. Then decision making is another
88. 5:15important skill and it is basically a
89. 5:18process of identifying and choosing from
90. 5:22different options. When there are more
91. 5:24than one possibility
92. 5:27existing
93. 5:29uh for a particular issue
94. 5:33for us it is sometimes difficult to
95. 5:35select the correct one. This is called
96. 5:38the process of decision making that out
97. 5:41of all possible solutions which one I'm
98. 5:44going to choose and why if I'm good at
99. 5:48this exercise of course my life will be
100. 5:52very much smooth but if I either dare
101. 5:57either I fear making decisions so I
102. 6:00simply push it towards other people or I
103. 6:04take decisions in haste or I take
104. 6:07decisions without proper planning and
105. 6:10understanding of the thing. It may cause
106. 6:13me a lot of stress in future.
107. 6:18Problem solving is a closely related
108. 6:21process where I utilized my knowledge
109. 6:24and skills to manage unfamiliar
110. 6:28situations.
111. 6:30Uh this is of course not like following
112. 6:33a set of algorithm that computers do but
113. 6:37human minds can handle more complex
114. 6:40manner uh problems than what we do with
115. 6:44the help of computers
116. 6:47and it requires
117. 6:49a complicated way of thinking and
118. 6:53thinking about the situation and
119. 6:55utilizing the knowledge that we have.
120. 6:59Next is effective communication.
121. 7:02Nobody
122. 7:04can be unaware of the importance of this
123. 7:07particular part. Effective
124. 7:08communication. So whenever we try to
125. 7:12share our ideas with other people, how
126. 7:14good we are in doing it. uh can I
127. 7:20correctly convey my own thoughts, my
128. 7:23ideas, my perceptions to others and
129. 7:27correctly understand their ideas, their
130. 7:32perspectives, their messages which they
131. 7:35are sending to me.
132. 7:38If this communication is effective, it
133. 7:42is going to help us a lot in achieving
134. 7:47success in life. Then comes the
135. 7:50interpersonal relationships.
136. 7:54Man is sometimes referred to as a social
137. 7:58animal means something that cannot live
138. 8:02in isolation.
139. 8:04Wherever we live, we need people around
140. 8:07us for a number of reasons. It is not
141. 8:10only that they help us doing our task,
142. 8:14but their presence is most of the time
143. 8:18relaxing and assuring that somebody is
144. 8:21there. It refreshes me. Whenever I get
145. 8:24bored, I can simply walk and uh have a
146. 8:27chat with my friends or people around
147. 8:30me. So having interpersonal relationship
148. 8:32is very important for emotion regulation
149. 8:36for you know uh having a sense of
150. 8:39reassurance and safety and belongingness
151. 8:44and therefore
152. 8:46initiating and maintaining relationship
153. 8:49is also a kind of a skill one must have.
154. 8:54Empathy is the next set of skill that we
155. 8:57must have and it refers to the
156. 9:00understanding and sharing the feeling of
157. 9:03another person by putting oneself into
158. 9:08his place or her place.
159. 9:11This is simply means seeing the world
160. 9:14from somebody else's perspective.
161. 9:18Another
162. 9:19life skill which is important is coping
163. 9:24with stress. How much stress tolerance
164. 9:26or coping strategies I have?
165. 9:31Coping with emotions, whether I'm able
166. 9:34to manage my emotion and manage my
167. 9:37feeling, whether I know how to discharge
168. 9:40them in a socially sanctioned way.
169. 9:44And of course coping with the problem,
170. 9:48coping with the situation also is a big
171. 9:52skill which individuals require if they
172. 9:56want to live a happy and contended life.
173. 10:01What could be the consequence of
174. 10:04employing these life skills in different
175. 10:07domains of life? Well, we can have very
176. 10:10explicit positive consequences
177. 10:13like improved mental health. Our mental
178. 10:17health will get improved due to this.
179. 10:20The bonds that we share with other
180. 10:22people will get strengthened by having
181. 10:26this kind of tools in our behavioral
182. 10:29repertoire.
183. 10:31We can become more resilient that is
184. 10:34able to tolerate more stress than
185. 10:37before.
186. 10:38And also I am capable of answering back.
187. 10:43I'm capable of rising up again and again
188. 10:47whenever I'm confronted with problems.
189. 10:52Then the decision making ability
190. 10:54improves
191. 10:56and the confidence level also get boosts
192. 11:01because of such life skills.
193. 11:06So this was all about the summary of
194. 11:10life skills and some of them will be
195. 11:14elaborated separately in the upcoming
196. 11:18lectures.
197. 11:20So here is a quick recap which says that
198. 11:23in this module we have learned about
199. 11:26basic set of life skills which includes
200. 11:29a number of skills like self-awareness,
201. 11:32critical thinking, creative thinking,
202. 11:35decision making and problem solving,
203. 11:37effective communication, interpersonal
204. 11:40relationships and so on. And we also
205. 11:44uh discuss some of their positive
206. 11:47effects on life.
207. 11:50Here is the list of recommended readings
208. 11:53for you.
209. 11:57Keep going through the list.
210. 12:01Thank you very much for your patient
211. 12:03listening. Thank you.