Laura (Social Worker) guiding Mattie through an ecomap — Transcript

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1. 0:04[Music]
2. 0:12so
3. 0:12today
4. 0:14we are going to be discussing how to
5. 0:17draw an eco map for your life okay and
6. 0:20basically what that means is
7. 0:22it will be a diagram of yourself and all
8. 0:26of the things that you value in your
9. 0:28life and things that you can pour into
10. 0:30that make your life better okay so to
11. 0:33begin
12. 0:34um
13. 0:35there are a couple of technical things
14. 0:37that make this work
15. 0:38so
16. 0:40i will write a little diagram for you
17. 0:41over here and explain kind of how it
18. 0:43works and basically you will first of
19. 0:46all write your name
20. 0:48and then make it into like a circle
21. 0:49around it okay and then we'll connect
22. 0:52the dots to things that you value in
23. 0:53life that give you purpose okay okay
24. 0:56sounds so so first of all we have
25. 1:00the first connecting line that you can
26. 1:02use for something in your life
27. 1:04is a strong line and this is going to be
28. 1:07a really thick one
29. 1:08so basically
30. 1:10anything in your life that you have a
31. 1:12strong connection to
32. 1:14that really just like
33. 1:16helps you
34. 1:17um get through your day so like your
35. 1:19family if that's something that you have
36. 1:22a strong connection with yeah um it
37. 1:24could be a spouse boyfriend
38. 1:27could be a pet
39. 1:29or your job really anything like that
40. 1:33um the next one is a thinner line
41. 1:37that has an arrow
42. 1:39on the end of it
43. 1:40um
44. 1:42and this is one that
45. 1:44gives you energy or one that you can
46. 1:46pour energy into okay so again like
47. 1:49these can all be interchangeable with
48. 1:51different things in your life so like
49. 1:53for you it might be different than
50. 1:55someone you know someone else like you
51. 1:58might put your energy into your work or
52. 2:00your school or your family or someone
53. 2:02else might think that that's just a
54. 2:04strong relationship you know
55. 2:06and then we have
56. 2:08a line that is a reciprocal
57. 2:11um
58. 2:13line for energy
59. 2:14um so it goes both ways rather than just
60. 2:17you pouring in just you giving all of
61. 2:19your energy and time to it right it's a
62. 2:22line that is pouring into you as well
63. 2:32and then
64. 2:34we have a
65. 2:35kind of a dashed line like a dotted line
66. 2:37almost
67. 2:38and this is going to be a weak line see
68. 2:40how it's kind of like broken up like
69. 2:42it's not a strong connection there like
70. 2:44this one right
71. 2:46so this is going to be anything
72. 2:48that you don't feel like you have a
73. 2:51strong connection with it's a it's a
74. 2:53very weak um
75. 2:56almost like mundane thing that's in your
76. 2:58life maybe
77. 2:59some people might say
78. 3:01it could be family it could be draining
79. 3:02to them you might have a weak
80. 3:04relationship with your family yeah um
81. 3:07and then we have something that is
82. 3:09strenuous
83. 3:10so this is going to be a line with two
84. 3:13arrows
85. 3:14on either side with lines in the middle
86. 3:17so it's almost like the the weak one but
87. 3:19this one's more like a barrier
88. 3:22in your life so like something
89. 3:25that's kind of holding you back or
90. 3:26holding you down to make it where you
91. 3:28can't
92. 3:29reach your full potential yeah for sure
93. 3:32so that's the strenuous one
94. 3:36all right
95. 3:37and now
96. 3:41now that we have a little like diagram
97. 3:43for you to kind of go off on you'll
98. 3:45basically draw like a bubble with your
99. 3:47name in it and then draw these lines
100. 3:50off into other little bubbles
101. 3:52that are in your life all right and you
102. 3:54can go ahead and do that
103. 3:56and then we'll talk about it
104. 4:37it's going to have a strong line to your
105. 4:39parents
106. 4:40it's good
107. 4:54okay everyone has a different eco map
108. 4:58you can have a different design
109. 5:02i like i mean i think i pour back into
110. 5:05my parents more and now like they're
111. 5:07just i mean at least they show like they
112. 5:09are proud and like i don't know i think
113. 5:11that's like what i do for them it's just
114. 5:13like honoring like what they're doing to
115. 5:14me so i guess that's how important them
116. 5:16but they'd be more so important to me so
117. 5:18i put the arrow but this is probably
118. 5:20stronger arrow even though there's no
119. 5:21way to show that and
120. 5:23um i think my sister more recently has
121. 5:25been able to pour back into me because
122. 5:27she is like kind of taking more like
123. 5:29control over her life she's just gone to
124. 5:31college she's nursing and like she's
125. 5:33just recently just been more important
126. 5:35to me i used to like point to her a lot
127. 5:36and it's just because like i loved her
128. 5:37so much and she was my little sister so
129. 5:39there wasn't a ton she could do like for
130. 5:41me but like more recently she's
131. 5:43definitely
132. 5:44been more important role in my life
133. 5:48and not like she supports me as well
134. 5:50um other than that
135. 5:52school raspberry i go to college
136. 5:59and honestly like for the purpose of
137. 6:01our diagram today like if something if
138. 6:03you feel like something pours into you
139. 6:05more you pour more into it
140. 6:07you can make your arrow just a little
141. 6:09bit bigger just for the purposes of our
142. 6:10session today just so you
143. 6:12like to see visually that that's what
144. 6:15happens yeah
145. 6:25like the community the friendships i've
146. 6:27built um they're pointing to my future
147. 6:30obviously
148. 6:31but then i really don't like school so i
149. 6:33might put some strenuous lines sure but
150. 6:36it's all like it's still pouring into me
151. 6:38it's not just a strenuous relationship
152. 6:40um
153. 6:41i guess i pour into friendships here but
154. 6:44that'll be different
155. 6:49it's good that's always good to
156. 6:50acknowledge
157. 6:52like when something
158. 6:54does create more
159. 6:56of a
160. 6:57barrier
161. 6:58for you
162. 6:59it's not a bad thing necessarily but
163. 7:01it's good to
164. 7:02um
165. 7:04be
166. 7:04proactive and thinking about that
167. 7:09i think like just more recently i'm able
168. 7:11to put like that friends poured back
169. 7:13into me and it wasn't that they weren't
170. 7:14like good friends it's just like it was
171. 7:16harder for me to like
172. 7:18i guess ask for help because i like to
173. 7:19be the one that was always put together
174. 7:21and like help my friends and then like i
175. 7:23got to school and i was like oh i i
176. 7:26think it'd be nice to be able to depend
177. 7:27on some people but like to trust them
178. 7:29like enough to let them like take help
179. 7:32take care of like things that i might be
180. 7:34struggling with like that was hard but i
181. 7:36think more recently i've
182. 7:38been able to do better than that it's
183. 7:39not perfect but i mean that's gross
184. 7:42that's good i think um other than that i
185. 7:45have a job i work at chick-fil-a
186. 7:48um but job boss it's not like it's just
187. 7:52good money it's not really something i'm
188. 7:53passionate about i work back home too
189. 7:55but
190. 7:56the job here is more just for everybody
191. 7:58so i guess it's like
192. 8:01a perfect relationship because it's
193. 8:02there it's good it gives me money but
194. 8:04there's not a lot
195. 8:06beneficial other than just the money
196. 8:07aspect of it
197. 8:09um
198. 8:10oh
199. 8:11i just got a boyfriend
200. 8:13that's weird to say
201. 8:15that's great but yeah so now you have
202. 8:18someone else maybe that
203. 8:20pours into you also besides just you
204. 8:22know general friends yeah yeah so that's
205. 8:25fun
206. 8:26first time thing too so this is weird
207. 8:29for me
208. 8:30but it's strong and i mean so far so
209. 8:33good you know i'm sure
210. 8:34lines will change and adjust but i think
211. 8:37we're doing really well right now and
212. 8:39i'm able to trust him more than i mean
213. 8:42like i said i'm working on trust so like
214. 8:44that was a huge thing if i was going to
215. 8:45commit to a relationship like i wanted
216. 8:47to be able to put my best foot out there
217. 8:49and be trusting and vulnerable and stuff
218. 8:51so like that's really challenged me but
219. 8:53it's been really good so far true but
220. 8:56other than that i think those are the
221. 8:58most important things like going on in
222. 9:00my life right now that i can think of
223. 9:02okay
224. 9:03yeah
225. 9:04what about um
226. 9:06what about any mental health like do you
227. 9:08value that or anything like
228. 9:11like spiritual
229. 9:12oh yeah for sure um my my school is a
230. 9:15christian school church absolutely it's
231. 9:18been a part of my life my parents are
232. 9:19missionaries um
233. 9:21so like god has always been like a big
234. 9:24part
235. 9:25but like i guess like leaving calm like
236. 9:27i have to make sure like all of that is
237. 9:29for me and not just like from what
238. 9:30they've given me and passed down to me
239. 9:32but that i'm making it more personal so
240. 9:35um i mean that has to be like one of the
241. 9:37strongest things
242. 9:39it's good but yeah it has to kind of be
243. 9:42encompassed in all of this and
244. 9:44definitely important to me i don't know
245. 9:45how much i do for god but
246. 9:47there's a lot
247. 9:49that i get out of that basically my
248. 9:51whole identity
249. 9:52yeah
250. 9:55all right
251. 9:56well i think that sounds great we have a
252. 9:58good start
253. 9:59and we will check back in on our next
254. 10:01session and work more towards our goals
255. 10:04thank you so much you're welcome have a
256. 10:05good one thank you