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0:00Listen to me, there are two worlds we
0:02all have to learn to master. We know it
0:05, even though almost no one says it out
0:07loud. There is an outside world and
0:09there is an inside world. And here is
0:11the problem. Our entire culture trains
0:14us from childhood to conquer the
0:16outside one. Get good grades, get the
0:19job, buy the house, get the body, the
0:22car, the followers, the title. No one,
0:26absolutely no one, sits us down at age
0:288 and tells us, "Hey, now I'm going to
0:31teach you how to manage what happens
0:33inside your head." That is why we live
0:36in an era where we have more comforts
0:38than any previous generation in history
0:40and at the same time more anxiety, more
0:41burnout, more people who feel empty
0:43inside. When we go into our minds
0:46without training, what do we find?
0:49Judgments, expectations, comparisons, a
0:52voice that never shuts up and that
0:54almost always speaks against you. I am
0:57going to tell you something that might
0:59make you uncomfortable. You cannot
1:00control the outside world, you will
1:02never control it. You don't control
1:04what people think of you. You don't
1:06control the economy, you don't control
1:08traffic, you don't control if they
1:10reply to you or leave you on read. And
1:12I am going to tell you something even
1:13stronger. I have heard people say with
1:16pride, "I just let everyone have their
1:18opinion," and I think, what a big ego,
1:21as if you had the permission to grant
1:23them or take them away. They will have
1:26their opinion with or without your
1:27permission. You never had that power.
1:30And do you know what the ego really is?
1:31The ego is fear in disguise. It is that
1:34little voice deep down that tells you,
1:36"I am not enough." And when we feel
1:39that, what do we do? We judge ourselves
1:42. And because it hurts, we judge others
1:45. That is how harshness, criticism,
1:48resentment, and distance between people
1:50are born. But there is good news. There
1:54is an inner world that you can master,
1:56and the way to master it, if you allow
1:58me to share what I have learned, is by
2:00understanding that there are seven
2:02decisions you are making every day at
2:04every moment of your life. Seven. And
2:07the problem is not that you make them,
2:09the problem is that you almost never
2:10make them consciously. And when you do
2:13not decide consciously, you decide by
2:15habit. And deciding by habit means
2:17deciding from the subconscious on
2:19autopilot. And autopilot, my friend, is
2:23the reason why you keep living the same
2:25problems over and over with different
2:27people in different places, but with
2:29the same result. So stay until the end,
2:32because if you truly put these seven
2:34decisions to the test, they can change
2:36the quality of your life faster than
2:38you imagine. Come on, before we get
2:39into the seven decisions, I want you to
2:42understand why this matters so much.
2:45Imagine two people in the exact same
2:47situation. Both of them lost their jobs
2:50on the same day. The same company, the
2:52same boss, the same termination letter,
2:54the same severance package. Identical
2:57outside world. The first person gets
2:59home, sits on the sofa, and for 3 weeks
3:01repeats in their head. I’m a failure,
3:04I’m useless now, no one is going to
3:05hire me. What will my family think? The
3:09second person gets home, takes a deep
3:11breath, and tells themselves, "This
3:13hurts, but perhaps this was the push I
3:15needed to do what I've been putting off
3:17for years." Same external event. Two
3:21completely different lives. What
3:24changed? It wasn't the outside world,
3:26it was the inside world. Now, I want to
3:28be very clear, I’m not talking about
3:31positive thinking. I don’t believe in
3:33pretending that everything is fine when
3:35it isn’t. I’m talking about being
3:37smart, about understanding how your own
3:39operating system works so you stop
3:41being its victim and start being its
3:42pilot. Because your mind is software,
3:46very powerful, yes, but software, and
3:48you, your essence, your soul is much
3:50more than your software. Think about
3:52this. Most people believe that their
3:54mind is who they are. I am anxious,
3:57I’m just like that, I always think
3:59the worst. No, you are not your mind.
4:01Your mind won't even let you enjoy an
4:03apple in peace. You’re about to eat
4:05it and it tells you, "Is it organic?
4:07Does it have pesticides? Does it have
4:09too much sugar? Shouldn't I be eating
4:11something else?" It’s just an apple,
4:13please. The mind has an obsession with
4:16reducing, with analyzing, with finding
4:17the flaw. And why? Because you have a 2
4:21-million-year-old brain. A brain
4:24designed not for you to be happy, but
4:26for you to survive. Its only job was to
4:29detect threats and give you three
4:31options. Freeze so they don't see you,
4:33run, or fight. Freeze, flee, or fight.
4:35The problem is, there are no more
4:37saber-toothed tigers. Today the tiger
4:39is, what will they think of me? The
4:40tiger is, will I have enough money at
4:42the end of the month? The tiger is an
4:45unread message, a strange look in a
4:47meeting, a comment on social media.
4:50Your brain reacts to all of that with
4:52the same alarm it would use for a
4:54predator. And that is why an untrained
4:57brain tends to look for what is wrong.
4:59It has a built-in negative bias.
5:01That’s why the news is the way it is.
5:03And mind you, it’s not that the media
5:05is evil; it’s a business. Their job
5:08is to capture your attention. And what
5:10captures attention the fastest? What
5:11scares you, what outrages you. A story
5:14that makes you feel good doesn't keep
5:16you glued to the screen. One that makes
5:19you feel threatened, does. That’s why
5:21there are so few feel-good stories and
5:23so much pain on the front pages. Now,
5:26who are the ones who focus most on what
5:28is missing? It will surprise you. High
5:33achievers, those who strive the most,
5:36perfectionists, those who want to be
5:39better, entrepreneurs, those with big
5:42goals. And yes, there is an advantage
5:45to that. When you see what is missing,
5:47you say, "I’m going to fix it." That
5:49makes you grow. But, and this is a huge
5:51"but," if you live constantly focused
5:54on what is missing, how can you sustain
5:56happiness? The answer is you can't. It
5:59is mathematically impossible. There
6:01will always be something missing. So,
6:02let’s see how to take control. These
6:04are the seven decisions. The first
6:07decision, the mother of them all, is
6:09this. What are you going to focus on?
6:12Your whole life is controlled by what
6:14you focus on. What you focus on is what
6:17you feel and what you focus on is what
6:19you experience, not necessarily what is
6:21real. Let me give you an example you
6:23have surely lived through. A good
6:25friend, someone you love, someone you
6:27trust. A rumor reaches you, someone
6:29says, "Hey, I heard your friend talked
6:31behind your back." And you feel your
6:34stomach tighten. You start reviewing
6:37memories. No wonder they were acting
6:39weird last time. I knew something was
6:41up, you get angry. A reasonable anger,
6:43even, because if it were true you would
6:46have every right. You spend two days
6:48with that on your mind, two days of
6:50your life with a tight chest, and then
6:52you go talk to that person and discover
6:54they never said anything, it was a
6:56misunderstanding, someone got it wrong,
6:58and you’re left there with all that
7:00emotion you already lived, that you
7:02already suffered for something that
7:04never happened. Do you understand what
7:07that means? To your body, focus is
7:09reality. Even if it isn't the actual
7:11reality, your body lives it as if it
7:13were. Focus the reality for the
7:15individual the same way. Put simply,
7:17focus on feeling. And here comes the
7:19phrase I want you to take away. The
7:21quality of your life is where you live
7:23emotionally. Think about it. You can
7:25have a billion in the bank, three
7:27beautiful children, a partner who
7:28adores you, a gorgeous home. But if you
7:31wake up every day and focus on what
7:33worries you, what isn't right, what's
7:35missing, what you were told, what could
7:36go wrong, you will be a very unhappy
7:38person. It doesn't matter what you have
7:40, what matters is where you focus. And
7:43conversely, I know people with very
7:45little, with a very simple life, who
7:47live with a peace many millionaires
7:50would envy. The difference is focus.
7:52Now, how do you practice this? I'm
7:54going to give you three practical tools
7:56to make this decision consciously.
7:58First tool, the three things question.
8:00Every morning before touching your
8:02phone, name three things that are right
8:05in your life right now. Not three
8:06perfect things, three real things. That
8:09you have the health to get up, that
8:10someone loves you, that you have a roof
8:11over your head. It's not a decorative
8:13gratitude task, it's an exercise for
8:16your brain to change channels before
8:18the day hijacks it. Second tool, the
8:21alarm switch. When you notice you're in
8:24worry mode, say out loud, "I am
8:25focusing on what is missing." Just that
8:27. Naming it separates you from it. You
8:31are no longer the worry, you are the
8:33observer of the worry, and that
8:34distance, even if small, is freedom.
8:37Third tool, the control filter. Ask
8:40yourself, is this within my control? If
8:42it isn't, let it go. If it is, take
8:44action. That one question eliminates
8:46half of your daily worries. Remember,
8:49what is wrong is always available,
8:52always. You can find it anywhere, in
8:54anyone, on any day, but what is right
8:56is also always available. The
8:59difference is which one you decide to
9:00look for. And that leads us to the
9:03second decision, decision number two.
9:06What does this mean? Once you focus on
9:09something, your brain immediately makes
9:12another decision without asking your
9:14permission in a fraction of a second.
9:17And if you don't take control, it
9:19happens unconsciously. The question is,
9:22what does this mean? Is this the end or
9:24is it the beginning? Is this person
9:26attacking me or helping me? Is it
9:29challenging me? Is it correcting me? Is
9:31it loving me, is it a punishment or a
9:33lesson? Is it a failure or is it data?
9:36Whatever meaning you give it instantly
9:38changes your emotion, and that emotion
9:40changes the life you're living, as
9:42we've seen. Let me give you an example
9:44with relationships, because it's
9:45crystal clear there. If you think this
9:47is the end of your relationship, you'll
9:48act differently than if you think it's
9:50the beginning of one. Not at all. If
9:52you think it's the end, you'll get
9:54defensive, you'll attack, or you'll
9:56shut down, you'll say hurtful things
9:57because, well, it's over anyway. But if
10:01you think it's a beginning, you'll be
10:03curious, patient, affectionate, and
10:05you'll put in the effort. That's why I
10:08tell people something that sounds like
10:10a trick, but it's pure psychology. If
10:12you don't want this to be the end of
10:13your relationship, act as if it's the
10:15beginning, and you'll see there won't
10:17be an end, because people behave
10:18radically differently based on the
10:20meaning they give to what they
10:21experience. I want to share a story
10:23here that illustrates this. There's an
10:25old tale about a farmer whose horse ran
10:27away. The neighbors said, "What a
10:29terrible misfortune." And he replied, "
10:31Maybe." The next day, the horse
10:34returned, bringing three wild horses
10:37with it. The neighbors said, "What
10:39great luck." And he replied, "Maybe."
10:42His son tried to tame one of the horses
10:44, fell, and broke his leg. The
10:46neighbors said, "What a tragedy!" And
10:48he said, "Maybe." A week later, the
10:50army arrived to recruit young men for
10:52the war, and they left the son at home
10:54because of his broken leg. Was it good
10:56luck or bad luck? We will never know
10:58for sure. Events don't come with their
11:01meaning attached like a label. You
11:03assign the meaning, and that is a
11:05decision you can make consciously. Now,
11:08an important point: giving empowering
11:10meanings to things does not mean
11:13denying the pain. If you lost someone,
11:15it hurts. If you were betrayed, it
11:17hurts. I'm not asking you to smile and
11:19say, "Everything happens for a reason,"
11:20as if nothing happened. I'm asking you
11:22to, along with the pain, ask yourself
11:25what other meaning, just as true, would
11:27make me stronger. Because almost every
11:30event has more than one true
11:31interpretation. "I was rejected" can
11:33mean "I'm worthless," or it can mean "
11:35It wasn't for me, and now I have space
11:36for something better." Both are
11:38possible interpretations. The question
11:40is, which one helps you get back up? So
11:43here is your exercise. The next time
11:45something hits you, write down three
11:47possible meanings. The first one, the
11:49one your automatic mind already gave
11:51you, the darkest one. The second, a
11:53neutral one. The third, one that
11:56empowers you, and then consciously
11:57choose which one to keep. Meaning
12:00equals emotion, and emotion is your
12:02life. But before moving on to the third
12:04decision, there is a question that
12:05defines everything that follows.
12:07Decision number three: what questions
12:09are you going to ask yourself? Your
12:11brain is an answer machine, but it only
12:14answers what you ask it. And here is
12:17what almost nobody understands. The
12:19quality of your life is the quality of
12:20the questions you ask yourself. Look,
12:22if you wake up in the morning and your
12:24first question is, "Why does this
12:26always happen to me?" Your obedient
12:28brain will go out to find answers and
12:30it will find them for you, because the
12:32brain never leaves you without an
12:33answer: because you aren't good enough,
12:35because the world is against you,
12:37because you are disorganized. There
12:39will always be an answer, but it will
12:41be an answer that sinks you because the
12:43question was already poisoned. But if
12:45you ask yourself, "What can I learn
12:46from this?""What is actually working?""
12:48What is the next small step I can take
12:50today?" Your brain goes out to look for
12:53other types of answers. Answers that
12:55move you. Look at this. Questions are
12:58like the steering wheel of a car. They
13:00don't change the landscape outside, but
13:02they completely change where you are
13:04going. Let me give you concrete
13:06examples of questions that sink versus
13:08questions that uplift. Sinking question
13:10: "Why can't I do anything right?"
13:12Uplifting question: "What would I do
13:14differently next time?" Sinking
13:16question: "Why did they do this to me?"
13:18Uplifting question: "What is this
13:20situation teaching me about my limits?"
13:23Sinking question: "What if everything
13:24goes wrong?" Uplifting question: "What
13:27if it goes better than I expect?"
13:28Sinking question: "What am I missing?"
13:31Uplifting question: "What do I already
13:32have that I can use?" Do you see the
13:34pattern? It's not that negative
13:35questions are forbidden; it's that you
13:37need to know which one you're asking
13:39because your brain will obey whichever
13:41you give it. There is one question that
13:43I consider especially powerful, and it
13:45is this: "What can I be grateful for
13:47right now?" Even in the middle of this
13:49problem. I challenge you to ask it when
13:51you are having your worst day. It isn't
13:54easy, but it's transformative, because
13:56you cannot sincerely look for something
13:58to be grateful for and feel like a
13:59victim at the same time. The brain
14:02cannot do both things at once. And here
14:06I want to talk about something I see a
14:08lot in high achievers, in the ambitious
14:10, in those who have a company, a
14:12channel, or a project. They ask very
14:14good strategy questions, but very bad
14:16questions about themselves. They ask,
14:18how do I grow my business? But they
14:20also ask themselves silently, why am I
14:22still not enough? One question drives
14:25them, the other wears them down. Your
14:28task. Choose one power question for the
14:30morning and one for the night. In the
14:32morning, what can I do today that my
14:34future self will thank me for? At night
14:37? What did I do well today? What did I
14:38learn? Just with that, in 30 days, your
14:40internal dialogue starts to sound
14:42different. And now, once you have
14:44decided where to focus, what it means,
14:46and what questions to ask yourself,
14:48comes something most people completely
14:50ignore. Decision number four, how are
14:53you going to use your body? This is the
14:55decision that almost no one considers a
14:58decision, but I assure you, it is the
15:00fastest way to change how you feel.
15:02Think about this. When you are
15:04depressed, how is your hunched body?
15:07Shoulders slumped, shallow and short
15:09breathing, gaze downward, slow
15:11movements. And when you are full of
15:14energy, enthusiastic, how is it? Chest
15:17open, shoulders back, deep breathing,
15:19gaze forward, energy in the body. Now,
15:22most people think, "I'm sad, that's why
15:25my body looks like this." And it's true
15:27, but what almost no one knows is that
15:29it works the other way around. You also
15:32change your body and you change your
15:33state. Do me a favor. Right now, no
15:37matter where you are, I want you to do
15:39something. Whatever you are feeling,
15:42straighten your back, open your chest,
15:45breathe. Deeply through your nose,
15:47raise your gaze, and smile even if it's
15:50forced. Hold that. 10 seconds. Did you
15:53notice anything? Maybe small, but
15:55something changed. And that is that
15:58your body and your mind are not two
15:59separate things, they are one single
16:01system. I told you before that a
16:04thought is like an invisible wave. Just
16:07like when you turn on a television,
16:09depending on the channel, you see a
16:11love story, a comedy, a horror movie;
16:13they are all in the air at the same
16:15time. What you see depends on the
16:17channel you tune into. Well then, your
16:20body is the remote control. The way you
16:23use your body determines which thought
16:25waves pass through you. One moment
16:27you’re furious, and the next, someone
16:29says something funny, you laugh, your
16:31body changes, you switch channels, and
16:33what you’re experiencing is something
16:34else entirely. That’s why my advice
16:37is to treat your physiology as a
16:38strategic decision, not as something
16:40that just happens to you. I’ll give
16:42you four concrete levers. Movement.
16:45When you’re stuck in a heavy emotion,
16:48move. Walk, shake your hands, jump.
16:52Dance in the kitchen like no one is
16:54watching. It’s not silly. Movement
16:56breaks the pattern. Breathing. Three
17:00deep breaths. Inhaling through your
17:03nose, counting. Four. Exhaling through
17:05your mouth, counting to six. The long
17:07exhale tells your nervous system
17:09there’s no tiger, that you can let
17:11your guard down. Posture. You already
17:14tried this a moment ago. Before a
17:17difficult meeting, before an
17:18uncomfortable conversation, before
17:20recording a video, adjust your posture.
17:23Your brain reads your body and decides
17:25how much confidence to have. Sleep,
17:28water, and food. I know it sounds
17:30boring, but it’s impossible to have a
17:33powerful state with an exhausted body.
17:36Many existential crises are actually
17:38just people who have been sleeping four
17:40hours a night for three weeks. Don’t
17:43ask a phone with 1%battery to run the
17:45heaviest application. And here I want
17:47to plant an idea in your head that
17:49I’ll return to later. There are
17:51beautiful states and there are
17:52suffering states. Beautiful states are
17:54high energy. Love, joy, gratitude,
17:58drive, courage, faith, playfulness, fun
18:01. Suffering states are low energy or
18:05tense energy. Frustration, sadness,
18:09anger, resentment, loneliness, boredom.
18:12And when you are in a beautiful state,
18:13everything flows. Ideas come,
18:15conversations go well, problems are
18:18seen as puzzles, not walls. In a
18:20suffering state, even the simplest
18:23thing weighs a ton. Now, imagine you
18:26learn to move between states at will.
18:29That is the art of emotional mastery.
18:31And it’s not about eliminating pain,
18:33but about not staying to live in it.
18:35That is the point where the next
18:37decision comes in. Decision number five
18:38: who are you going to say you are?
18:41This decision is profound and is one of
18:44those that most silently shapes your
18:45life. What identity are you going to
18:48adopt? We all have a story about who we
18:51are. I am a shy person. I am messy. I
18:56am the type who always quits halfway
18:58through. I am the type who has no luck
19:01with money. I am the type who gets
19:03angry quickly. It’s my character. And
19:05those phrases seem like descriptions,
19:07but in reality, they are sentences.
19:09Because your brain has an almost
19:11obsessive need to be consistent with
19:13the image you have of yourself. If you
19:15tell yourself, "I'm the type who leaves
19:17things unfinished," when you're about
19:19to leave something half-done, your
19:21identity will whisper to you. Relax,
19:23it’s what you do, it’s who you are.
19:25But notice, identity is not a fact, it
19:28is a repeated decision. No one is born
19:31unpunctual. It is a chain of small
19:33decisions that became a label, and the
19:35label became an excuse. I am going to
19:38share an example with you. I know a man
19:40who for years said, "I’m not good at
19:42public speaking, it terrifies me." And
19:44he said it with such conviction that it
19:46became a fact. He avoided every
19:48opportunity. One day his daughter asked
19:50him to come speak at her school, and
19:52instead of saying, "I'm not good at
19:53this," he told himself something
19:55different. I am someone who is learning
19:57to speak in public; I'm not even a
19:59great orator, just someone who is
20:00learning. That small identity shift
20:04opened a door; he went shaking, did it
20:06poorly the first time, a bit better the
20:09second, and today he gives lectures. He
20:12didn't change his talent overnight; he
20:14changed the story of who he said he was
20:16. Here is a very common trap: believing
20:18that your mind is you, that your
20:20thoughts are your identity. I have a
20:22fearful thought, so I am a coward. No,
20:25you have a fearful thought. Thoughts
20:28pass by like clouds. You are the sky,
20:30not the clouds. And I want to tell you
20:33about something I discovered regarding
20:35suffering and identity. Almost all
20:37suffering has one root. The I, the self
20:40, and the me. When you suffer, it is
20:43almost always because you believe
20:44something took or is going to take
20:45something from you. And I call these
20:47the three triggers of suffering. Loss,
20:50less, and never. Loss. Do you think you
20:53lost something? An opportunity, money,
20:56time, a person, a position? Your mind
20:58says, "This is over, I lost it.""Less":
21:01you feel you have less of what you
21:03value—less love, less money, less
21:05freedom, less respect, less importance
21:07—you didn't lose everything, but you
21:10no longer have the same. Never. This is
21:13the worst one. Here your mind concludes
21:15, I am never going to have love again.
21:18I am never going to be rich. I am never
21:20going to be free. I am never going to
21:21get out of this. And the moment you
21:23believe that, you are dangerous to
21:25yourself because you stop trying. When
21:27you think it's impossible, you don't
21:28start, you don't solve, you don't
21:30create. That's why I'm extremely
21:32sensitive whenever I detect the word "
21:34never" in my own head. It's a red alarm
21:37. And notice how subtle this is. Almost
21:40always, the suffering isn't in the
21:42event, but in what that event says
21:43about you. A mother tells me, "I'm
21:46suffering because of my children, I'm
21:48very worried." And I ask her, "Tell me
21:50about it." And she says, "It's just
21:51that they don't do this, they don't do
21:53that." And gently I say, "I wish you
21:55could hear yourself, because the real
21:57reason for your suffering isn't your
21:59children." It's that deep down you
22:00believe you failed them; it's about you
22:02, because if it weren't, you would be
22:04working on the solution instead of
22:06punishing yourself, thinking about the
22:07worst-case scenario, feeling guilty.
22:09And the same thing happens with the
22:11person who says, "My business is doing
22:12poorly." That stress is often not about
22:14the business, it's about what this says
22:16about me; it's the wounded ego. So here
22:20is your identity exercise: write three
22:22sentences that start with "I am someone
22:25who"—the ones you already believe
22:27that limit you, cross one out and
22:29rewrite it as "I am someone who is
22:31learning to"—don't lie. Don't say "I
22:33am a millionaire" if you aren't. Say
22:36something believable but open. I am
22:39someone who is learning how to manage
22:40their money. That leaves the door open
22:43for movement, and then act according to
22:46that identity, even if with small
22:48actions. Because identity is built by
22:50evidence. Every small action is a vote,
22:53and with enough votes, you win the
22:55election within yourself. But to win
22:57those elections, there is something
22:59else you decide often without realizing
23:01it. The sixth decision is about your
23:04environment. And for those of us who
23:06work hard on our mindset, it's hard to
23:08admit, but willpower loses against the
23:10environment. Look, you can have the
23:13best intentions in the world, but if
23:15you live surrounded by people who
23:17complain all day, who mock your goals,
23:19who ask why you even try, who live in
23:21complaints and gossip, your mind will
23:23adapt to that rhythm. Not because you
23:26are weak, but because we are social
23:27beings. Our brain is designed to adapt
23:30to the tribe. And I'm not just talking
23:33about people, I'm talking about
23:34everything that enters your life: what
23:36you watch, what you listen to, what you
23:37consume on your phone, what you fall
23:39asleep to and what you wake up to. Let
23:41me ask you an uncomfortable question.
23:43Think about the five people you spend
23:45the most time with and the five
23:47profiles you see most on social media.
23:50Do they lift you up or bring you down?
23:51Do they make you feel possibility or
23:53make you feel comparison? Do they make
23:55you want to create or make you want to
23:57give up? Think about learning a
24:00language. If I wanted to teach you
24:02Italian, I have two options. I can give
24:05you a one-hour class per week for years
24:06, like they do in school, and you'll
24:08probably still barely be able to order
24:10a coffee after all that time. Or I can
24:12take you to Italy, have you live there
24:14for 3 months, and I guarantee you'll
24:16speak Italian. Why? Because you would
24:18be immersed. Everything you see, hear,
24:20eat, and live forces you to learn.
24:23That’s what happens with your mind.
24:25If you dedicate 30 minutes a day to
24:27reading something inspiring, but spend
24:29the other 16 hours immersed in
24:30complaints, news that upsets you, and
24:32people who drain your energy, which one
24:34do you think will win? It’s an unfair
24:37battle. That is why great
24:40transformations happen in immersion.
24:42That is why retreats, multi-day events,
24:46and intensive programs work so well.
24:50For many hours straight, your entire
24:52environment pushes you in one direction
24:55. There are people who can't sit still
24:57for even 3 hours watching a movie that
24:59cost hundreds of millions, yet at a 4-
25:01day event, they are on their feet with
25:03energy for 10 or 12 hours a day. Why?
25:05Because the entire environment supports
25:07you. Now, you don't need to go to an
25:09event to apply this. You can design
25:11micro-immersions in your daily life.
25:15First, clean up your input. Stop
25:17following accounts that make you feel
25:19less than. Mute groups that only bring
25:21you drama. It’s not arrogance, it’s
25:23mental hygiene. Second, raise your
25:26ceiling. Look for at least one person
25:29who is a step or two ahead of you in
25:31what you want to achieve. A mentor, a
25:34friend, a community. When you are near
25:37someone who has already done what you
25:39want, the impossible becomes normal.
25:42Third, design your space: your desk,
25:45your room, your home screen. Put what
25:48you want to remember in plain sight.
25:51Hide what distracts you. Your physical
25:53environment speaks to you all day long.
25:55Fourth, control your input and output
25:57dialogue. The first 20 minutes of the
26:00morning and the last 20 of the night
26:01are golden hours. It's when your mind
26:03is most open—will you fill it with
26:05noise or with something that builds you
26:07up? And an important warning: I’m not
26:10saying you should abandon the people
26:11who love you because they are going
26:13through a bad time, nor that you should
26:15isolate yourself in a bubble. I am
26:17saying that you should consciously
26:19choose who you give access to your mind
26:21. You can love someone and still not
26:24let their anxiety become your weather.
26:26And now, we arrive at the decision that
26:28makes everything mentioned previously a
26:30reality. The seventh decision is action
26:34and its inseparable sister, repetition;
26:36because you can understand the six
26:38previous decisions perfectly, you can
26:41nod your head, underline the video,
26:43save it, share it, but if you don't
26:45embody it, if you don't repeat it, it
26:47remains just information, and
26:49information alone changes no one. Now,
26:52what controls what you do? Your emotion
26:55. When you have an emotion, that
26:58emotion controls your decision-making.
27:01If the meaning you gave to something
27:02makes you angry, the action you take
27:04will be one thing. If the meaning gives
27:06you playfulness and curiosity, the
27:08action is something completely
27:09different. That is why everything we
27:11saw before matters. Focus, meaning,
27:13questions, body, identity, and
27:16environment are the six levers that
27:18produce the emotion from which you will
27:21act. And that emotion, that action
27:24repeated over time, is your destiny.
27:27I’m going to tell you something that
27:29impacted me. There was an event where a
27:31woman of about 78 or nearly 80 years
27:33old arrived. It was a huge stadium and
27:36she was in the front row jumping with
27:38impressive energy, more than people in
27:40their 30s. During a break, she came
27:43over to take a picture and I asked her,
27:46"This is your third time here, right?"
27:49And she replied, "No, it's my fourth.
27:52You missed one, I was further back and
27:53I asked you, why do you come so many
27:55times?" And she said, "It's because I
27:58get so much out of this. You say that
28:00repetition is the mother of mastery."
28:02And I replied, "Well, I'll give you a
28:04hint. That's why I also come, because I
28:07teach this, but I also live it and if I
28:08do it over and over again, it gets into
28:10the body." That is the key. No one
28:13masters anything by reading it once. A
28:15pianist doesn't learn a piece by
28:16listening to it. They play it 1,000
28:18times until the fingers just know. An
28:20athlete doesn't win because they
28:22understood the theory. They train until
28:24the movement is automatic. It's the
28:26same with your mind. Right now, as long
28:29as you are making a conscious effort,
28:31it's a battle. Every time you change
28:34your focus, every time you ask yourself
28:35a better question it's difficult, but
28:37when you change the conditioning it
28:38becomes automatic; you train it like a
28:40muscle. I have done it myself. It’s
28:43not that I’m a better person, it’s
28:45not that I’m special, it’s that I
28:47learned to recognize mental spaces that
28:49are destructive. I’ve had dark
28:51moments in my life, moments where I
28:52felt I didn’t want to feel what I was
28:54feeling anymore. And when I understood
28:58what was creating it, when I saw it was
29:00a combination of negative focus,
29:02negative meanings, and negative
29:03emotions repeated without control, I
29:05decided to draw a line in the sand; and
29:07I drew that line with such intensity
29:09that today, even though those moments
29:11can still appear, they change very
29:13quickly because I know the consequences
29:15of staying there. And I want to tell
29:18you something from a place of care. If
29:20you ever feel that darkness is winning,
29:22if you feel you’ve been carrying
29:25something heavy for too long, please
29:27talk to someone, a friend, a family
29:29member, a professional. Asking for help
29:32is not weakness; it’s one of the most
29:34intelligent decisions that exist. Now,
29:37to make this seventh decision practical
29:39, I propose the 90-second rule. When
29:43you feel tension appear in your body,
29:45that discomfort, that frustration, that
29:47worry, stop and ask yourself these
29:49quick questions. One, where am I
29:52suffering? Whether it’s frustration,
29:55worry, anger, sadness, give it a name.
29:57Two, what thought am I believing?
30:00Because stress only appears when you
30:02believe a stressful thought. Is it I
30:05lost something, I have less, I will
30:09never have it? Is this really true or
30:12is it a story my mind is telling? Four.
30:15Change your body and focus on something
30:17to appreciate. Breathe, straighten your
30:20posture, and name three things you
30:22value. 90 seconds, not 90 hours, 90
30:26seconds. Why does it work? Because you
30:29are killing the monster while it’s
30:31still small. Don’t wait for it to be
30:33Godzilla destroying the city. Break it
30:35when it’s barely a lizard. When you
30:37start to feel the tension, you see the
30:39thoughts passing like clouds and you
30:41focus on something to be grateful for,
30:43something to love, something that
30:45brings you joy, because appreciation,
30:46love, and joy destroy suffering. It is
30:49physiologically impossible to be
30:50grateful and angry at the same time. It
30:53is impossible to be worried and
30:54grateful in the same instant. The brain
30:56does not process both things at once.
30:59So gratitude is not a spiritual
31:01decoration, it is a precision tool. And
31:03be careful with this, I’m not telling
31:05you that you will eliminate suffering
31:07forever. Whoever promises you that is
31:09lying to you. Your brain, that 2-
31:11million-year-old brain, was not
31:13designed to make you happy, but to keep
31:15you alive. It will always generate some
31:18alarm. What you can do is not live
31:20there, recognize it quickly, interrupt
31:23it quickly, redirect it quickly, and
31:25with practice, faster every time. An
31:28extraordinary life. And now I ask you,
31:30what is all this for? Why master these
31:32seven decisions? To have an
31:34extraordinary life, which is what
31:35almost everyone wants, even if they
31:37don’t say it that way, but what is an
31:39extraordinary life? It's not mine,
31:40it’s not your neighbor's, it’s not
31:42what you see on Instagram. An
31:44extraordinary life is a life on your
31:46terms. It’s three beautiful children
31:49and a house with a garden. It’s
31:51building a business. It’s both things
31:52. It’s writing a book, tending a
31:56garden, dedicating yourself to poetry,
31:57traveling the world, serving your
31:59community. I am not here to tell you
32:01what it should be. Whatever it is, it
32:03has to be yours. And to have that life
32:05on your terms, you need to master two
32:08skills. The first is the science of
32:10achievement, how to take what you
32:12visualize and make it real. This is a
32:15set of skills that can be learned like
32:17any other. Strategy, discipline,
32:20consistency, systems, knowing how to
32:22ask for help, executing. If you are
32:24watching this video, you surely already
32:26know how to do a lot of that. You have
32:28already taken things that only existed
32:30in your imagination and made them a
32:31reality. That is more than most people
32:33achieve. Look at how much you have
32:35built. Stop for a second to appreciate
32:37it. When you study the most successful
32:39people in any field, you notice
32:41something. They are all different, with
32:45different personalities, different
32:46histories, different industries, but if
32:48you look for patterns you find things
32:50in common, and those patterns are a
32:52science; they can be studied, they can
32:54be copied, you don't need to reinvent
32:56the wheel. But there is a second skill,
33:00and it is the one that many high
33:01achievers forget. The art of
33:03fulfillment, how to feel fulfilled
33:05along the way, not just upon arriving,
33:07because you can have enormous success
33:09on the outside and feel empty on the
33:10inside. You can achieve everything and
33:12enjoy nothing. And that is one of the
33:14great dramas of our time, successful
33:16people who feel miserable. The science
33:18of achievement without the art of
33:20fulfillment is a golden cage. And the
33:22art of fulfillment without the science
33:23of achievement is dreaming without
33:24building. You need both. And this is
33:27where these seven decisions connect.
33:29When you focus on what you have and
33:31what you can build, you give it
33:33empowering meanings, ask yourself good
33:35questions, use your body to your
33:37advantage, adopt a growth identity,
33:39surround yourself with an uplifting
33:41environment, and act and repeat with
33:43consistency; you no longer rely on the
33:45outside world to give you permission to
33:48feel good. You can enjoy the process,
33:52you can weather the storm, you can
33:54celebrate without becoming arrogant and
33:57fail without becoming small. And I
34:00leave you with one last idea, perhaps
34:01the most important one in this whole
34:03video. Trade your expectations for
34:05appreciation. Think about this. 100
34:09years ago, if you had told someone that
34:10one day a human would go to the moon
34:12and back, they would have called you
34:13crazy. If you had told them you would
34:17have a little box in your pocket that
34:19lets you see the weather anywhere in
34:21the world, talk in real-time to someone
34:23on the other side of the planet and see
34:25their face, and that it all works with
34:27invisible waves traveling through the
34:29air, they would have said: "You're
34:31lying." Don't be ridiculous, that's
34:34impossible. And today you have it in
34:36your pocket and sometimes you don't
34:37even appreciate it. We get used to the
34:40extraordinary so fast that we turn it
34:42into an expectation, and expectations
34:44are the direct path to frustration,
34:46while appreciation is the path to
34:47fulfillment. So give yourself a gift
34:51over the next 7 days. Make a conscious
34:53decision every day. Day one, focus on
34:55what you have. Day two, choose a
34:57meaning that empowers you. Day three,
35:00change your questions. Day four, use
35:03your body to your advantage. Day five,
35:05rewrite your identity. Day six, clean
35:09up your environment. Day seven, act and
35:12repeat. One decision per day, 7 days.
35:16And at the end of the week, see how you
35:18feel. You don't need to be perfect, you
35:21just need to be aware. Because the
35:24difference between a life that happens
35:27to you and a life you design is in
35:29those seven decisions that you are
35:31already making every day. The only
35:33question is, are you going to keep
35:35making them asleep, or are you going to
35:37make them awake? If this video brought
35:39you value, share it with that person
35:40you know needs it today. And tell me in
35:42the comments, of the seven decisions,
35:44which one is the hardest for you? Focus
35:47, meaning, questions, body, identity,
35:49environment, or action. I want to read
35:52your thoughts. See you in the next
35:54video and remember, you can't control
35:56the outside world, but the inside world
35:58is yours.

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