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1. 0:00I would not see discipline as something very desirable.
2. 0:03On the contrary, when someone who is disciplined is mentioned, a grumpy, grumpy person comes to life in my eyes.
3. 0:09However, after reading this book, I discovered how important it is to have discipline
4. 0:15.
5. 0:16The perspective the book offers is amazing.
6. 0:17Stay here so that you do not regret in old age and do not wish in the future.
7. 0:22In this video, you will find my important takeaways and personal views from the
8. 0:27worldwide bestselling book “Discipline is Destiny” by Ryan Holiday .
9. 0:32The book begins with an example from mythology.
10. 0:35Our hero is Hercules.
11. 0:36In the story, Hercules comes to a crossroads.
12. 0:38A life of luxury on the road.
13. 0:40No pain, no unhappiness and she will have everything she wants.
14. 0:45The other way is less flashy.
15. 0:47Here are the prizes.
16. 0:49But only the awards he has won himself.
17. 0:51This journey will be long.
18. 0:53It would take hard work and sacrifice.
19. 0:56But this trip would make him the person he was meant to be.
20. 1:00In fact, we all face these crossroads every day.
21. 1:02An easy but pointless way.
22. 1:06A difficult but rewarding way.
23. 1:08If we take it further, we have to choose between virtue and vice.
24. 1:14By the way,
25. 1:20it goes without saying that our hero, Hercules, chose the path that would make him the person he was meant to be, namely the difficult but satisfying path.
26. 1:24Now it's your turn to choose.
27. 1:26Self-discipline does not deprive you - it gives you freedom.
28. 1:30Today, we can say that the average person lives a utopia life compared to 300 or even 200 years ago
29. 1:37.
30. 1:38We have not experienced many of the problems experienced in the past.
31. 1:40Yes, of course there are problems.
32. 1:42But to what extent?
33. 1:44Socio-economically, the average person
34. 1:49leads a comfortable life in his private property, with his own car,
35. 1:55without any heating problems, where both small and large boxes try to entertain him
36. 1:57. It provides access to many things with the click of a finger from where it sits.
37. 2:01Look at your life through the eyes of an ordinary person who lived 300 years ago for just a little while
38. 2:08.
39. 2:09You realize what a utopian life we ​​actually lead.
40. 2:12But despite all this freedom, most of us are unhappy.
41. 2:15Maybe those people who lived 300 years ago were happier than us.
42. 2:20So what do you think we are doing wrong here?
43. 2:23This unrestricted access to all things without restraint causes us to miss the mark
44. 2:29.
45. 2:30All these things that are supposed to liberate us just
46. 2:35leave us directionless and aimless.
47. 2:36From this point of view, there is a concept that is emphasized in the book.
48. 2:39Self discipline.
49. 2:41What I understand by this concept is that one can limit himself.
50. 2:44Yes, having self-discipline is not an easy task.
51. 2:48We all struggle to achieve this.
52. 2:51But besides the difficulty of providing this, of course, the benefit to the person is very high.
53. 2:55By providing self-discipline, when you don't eat too much, the result will be relief from the uncomfortable
54. 3:01feeling of bloating.
55. 3:03If you manage to wake up early by maintaining self-discipline, you will avoid feeling unproductive.
56. 3:09If you stay away from people who constantly complain, the result
57. 3:16will be getting rid of depressive feelings.
58. 3:17There are other things that restricting yourself will bring you a better lifestyle,
59. 3:22you think.
60. 3:23Self-discipline isn't about depriving yourself - it's actually the opposite.
61. 3:28It is to gain control to open the doors of the world of opportunity.
62. 3:32Remember; "The strongest is he who has his own strength."
63. 3:36(Seneca)
64. 3:37Discipline Equals Freedom
65. 3:38Easy choices now lead to a difficult life in the future.
66. 3:43The difficult choices of the present allow you to live a comfortable life in the future.
67. 3:47If you keep taking the easy road in life, you won't like where you're going in the end.
68. 3:53However, if you make hard choices - make some wise sacrifices and make some tough decisions
69. 4:00- you eventually start building yourself up to achieve something much greater.
70. 4:05Undoubtedly, those who own their "NOW" will eventually win.
71. 4:09Whatever you think, the first thing to do is to get down to business now.
72. 4:15“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago.
73. 4:19The second best time is right now.”
74. 4:23Discipline is not a punishment.
75. 4:25Discipline is a gift.
76. 4:26Freedom to maximize your life by reining in your worst impulses
77. 4:32you actually do.
78. 4:33Being controlled by all those external factors in your life, around you,
79. 4:38cannot be a way to maintain a quality life.
80. 4:41If the number of likes you get on a post
81. 4:48can determine whether you're having a good day or a bad day, how much fun can social media be?
82. 4:52The world will try to distract you from the things that matter to you at every opportunity,
83. 4:58and you will either make your dreams come true or
84. 5:03be hired to work for others' dreams.
85. 5:05Self-discipline offers us an escape from all this,
86. 5:09a way out of confusion, pessimism, and despair, and it's a gift we can give ourselves.
87. 5:17Not tomorrow or next week, right here, today.
88. 5:22But most people don't think of self-discipline that way.
89. 5:25They think of it more as deprivation of something.
90. 5:29In reality, discipline
91. 5:35provides an incredible opportunity to make our time in this world as magical as possible.
92. 5:37Constraints and limits make everything else possible.
93. 5:41For example, letters in the alphabet need to be arranged so that they have a meaning.
94. 5:46An art doesn't come out by typing random strings of letters.
95. 5:50Grammar and syntax are the structures and constraints that make great works of literature possible.
96. 5:56Likewise, strenuous exercise brings out something much more beautiful afterward
97. 6:02.
98. 6:03Restricting your television viewing now can give you very different business ideas
99. 6:08when you think about it instead
100. 6:10. Another important framework is that self-discipline is synonymous with self-love.
101. 6:16You don't discipline yourself because you hate yourself.
102. 6:20In fact, the opposite is true!
103. 6:22You set boundaries because you love yourself, want the best for yourself,
104. 6:29and are willing to do whatever it takes to show your future self that you love and value them
105. 6:35. You treat
106. 6:36yourself like a really great friend, someone you are responsible for helping
107. 6:42.
108. 6:43Like someone you want to see succeed.
109. 6:46Consistency is a Superpower
110. 6:48Neither inspiration nor genius.
111. 6:51The secret superpower to success is consistency.
112. 6:53Many people are intelligent or talented.
113. 6:56However, not everyone works hard.
114. 6:58So
115. 7:04take care of your priorities every day, even if you're tired, busy, or don't have to.
116. 7:05Take that action, even if it's small. A 10-minute run. Reading a 10 page book.
117. 7:11Once that becomes a habit, you'll see momentum build up. 10
118. 7:16minutes of jogging turns into half an hour. A 10 page book becomes 100 pages.
119. 7:22Many growths are exponential, almost invisible at first.
120. 7:26It becomes easily noticeable over time.
121. 7:28To give an example from myself, when I opened this channel in 2019,
122. 7:33although I uploaded dozens of videos and spent hours and days for this cause, this channel did not
123. 7:38gain a decent number of views or a significant number of subscribers.
124. 7:42Even though I don't create my content with the sole concern of being watched,
125. 7:46it is a very nice feeling that something one has worked hard for is paid attention and valued by others.
126. 7:52The equivalent of this on YouTube is the number of subscribers and likes.
127. 7:55Undoubtedly, these are also encouraging in terms of continuity.
128. 7:59After that, progress took place in the channel. It had around 1,000 views per day until 2021
129. 8:04, after which it broke a record with 175,000 daily views.
130. 8:09At first, I could have said that he was not interested and gave up.
131. 8:12But continuity has carried the channel to these points.
132. 8:15These numbers will likely increase exponentially as I continue on the continuum.
133. 8:19Let's look at another example.
134. 8:21You can clearly see that going to the gym once and doing sports for 10 hours will not work
135. 8:26.
136. 8:27No single workout will get you in shape.
137. 8:30But if you do it for 20 minutes a day for 6 weeks, the results start to show.
138. 8:36Get started today. You start to feel it in 2 weeks and see it in 4 weeks. At the end of 6
139. 8:42weeks, people will ask you how you are.
140. 8:48The most important thing to remember here is that people
141. 8:55exaggerate what they can do in a day.
142. 8:56But it greatly underestimates what they can achieve in a year.
143. 8:59The most disciplined people in the world have this awareness very high.
144. 9:02They don't have to see the results of their actions, but they know it's working.
145. 9:05They are mentally willing to continue the process.
146. 9:08Commit yourself to doing something 100 times.
147. 9:12It's called the Rule of 100.
148. 9:13The idea is that you commit to doing something important and
149. 9:19do it long enough; so that it becomes unreasonable to believe that you cannot succeed.
150. 9:23If you're into trading or selling something, don't
151. 9:29you think you'll make a lot more money if you make 100 sales calls every day and keep it up 365 days a year
152. 9:34?
153. 9:35If you are a writer, don't you think that if you write 1 article every day and continue this for 365 more days,
154. 9:42you will reach a good point at the end of 365 days?
155. 9:45Whatever you are doing, try to do it every day.
156. 9:48Is this hard to do?
157. 9:50It's definitely difficult!
158. 9:51But squatting even once a week for a year
159. 9:58will give you strong legs and a completely different physique.
160. 10:00People know this, but they don't!
161. 10:02Here lies the competitive advantage.
162. 10:05“The good news is that most people don't do it because it's hard.
163. 10:10They don't show up.
164. 10:11They can't even do a small thing a day.
165. 10:15Yes, you're alone on the track in the rain.
166. 10:19But being a leader is, by definition, a bit of solitude.
167. 10:21That's why it's quiet in the morning.
168. 10:24All opportunities belong to you.”
169. 10:26Who Controls Your Body?
170. 10:28Being self-disciplined with your body
171. 10:33means building your stamina and investing in yourself for the long term.
172. 10:38To combat laziness, you must invest in your body. There are many small changes
173. 10:41you can make in your life to start conquering your body before it conquers you
174. 10:45.
175. 10:47First, add strenuous activities to your day.
176. 10:49It doesn't matter what you do.
177. 10:51Weightlifting, basketball, long walks, marathon.
178. 10:55However, it should be physically demanding and somewhat uncomfortable.
179. 11:02One must be in search of discomfort.
180. 11:04Maybe you think the point of success is not to have to struggle.
181. 11:08But here's the thing: too much comfort makes us weak, dependent, and afraid of losing them . By being tough on yourself, you empower yourself;
182. 11:15you
183. 11:16also make it impossible for others
184. 11:20to be harsh with you.
185. 11:25So test yourself.
186. 11:27Take a cold shower.
187. 11:28Try sleeping on the floor.
188. 11:30If you can settle for less.
189. 11:31The result is that you become richer, freer and more powerful.
190. 11:36Remember that when you invest in your body, you are investing in your willpower.
191. 11:40Because “A healthy mind resides in a healthy body.”
192. 11:43A strong body does not only provide a six pack, it also opens the door to a healthy mind.
193. 11:49Afterwards, go to bed early - for two reasons.
194. 11:52First, to get enough sleep.
195. 11:54Be honest: Do you perform better when you're well rested, or
196. 12:00when you're dark and tired?
197. 12:03It may sound mundane, but getting enough sleep will change your life.
198. 12:08You have more motivation and energy, and you make better decisions.
199. 12:13The second reason is that you can master it in the morning - those quiet, early hours
200. 12:20when your thoughts are the freshest and you have the most willpower
201. 12:24. If you get enough sleep, you can get up and get to work before the disappointments of the day wear you down.
202. 12:31Develop your physical self-discipline to soften your mind.
203. 12:35When you practice self-discipline in your body,
204. 12:40you empower your mind to work at its full potential.
205. 12:41These are not just fancy words – neuroscientist Lisa Feldman's work has shown that brain
206. 12:46function depends on the well-being of the body.
207. 12:49If you are physically exhausted, your brain cannot do its job of regulating your body.
208. 12:54Of course, this doesn't mean things are okay when you build muscle.
209. 12:59Because there are many people out there who are physically self-disciplined.
210. 13:02However, their life is not very pleasant.
211. 13:05If the mind is constantly at the mercy of distractions, bad moods, or self-
212. 13:11sabotaging urges,
213. 13:16it doesn't matter when you wake up, what you eat, or how hard you push your body.
214. 13:20So here we need to adopt moderation as a principle.
215. 13:23Only when all the parts are completed is the whole is revealed.
216. 13:26Once you've got your body under control, it's time to work on the next step
217. 13:32: controlling your mind.
218. 13:34This
219. 13:40requires balancing how you feel, think and react amid the chaos and confusion known as life.
220. 13:43The motto “keep calm and carry on” is beautiful.
221. 13:45"Stay calm and move on"
222. 13:47There is a brief moment between each stimulus and your response.
223. 13:51I find this place very important.
224. 13:53Do not immediately react to every stimulus that happens around you.
225. 13:56You either use this time to reflect, collect yourself, and wait for more information,
226. 14:01or
227. 14:06you succumb to destructive patterns of being offended, jumping to conclusions, and blaming others.
228. 14:07Bad situations don't get better with bad reactions to them; it just gets worse.
229. 14:12So hone that little moment of patience before you react. Ask yourself
230. 14:17if what you're going through is truly true,
231. 14:20whether it's as annoying or upsetting as you feel.
232. 14:23Don't let fear, anger or prejudice take over your mind.
233. 14:28And don't try to reach perfection.
234. 14:31An obsession with being imperfect
235. 14:36means missing out on an opportunity to get things done and learn from them.
236. 14:38Instead of trying to be perfect, aim to do your best.
237. 14:42Remember, the perfect is the enemy of the good.
238. 14:45Failure does not last forever.
239. 14:47And it is a chance to grow.
240. 14:48The truth is, anyone can improve.
241. 14:52Socrates knew he didn't know much.
242. 14:54But he was sure of one thing: "We cannot stay as we are."
243. 14:58Believing it or not becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
244. 15:03If you believe you can improve, you will improve.
245. 15:05If you don't believe you can improve, then you're right - you can't. Self-discipline
246. 15:10doesn't make much sense in the real world unless it's balanced with kindness, compassion, and love
247. 15:16.
248. 15:17Moderation is not an easy task.
249. 15:20At times, people may not understand your choices; They may not agree with you.
250. 15:25You will realize that everyone is on their own journey and doing their best
251. 15:30.
252. 15:31You are not here to judge.
253. 15:32You are here to accept them and inspire them to be better.
254. 15:37It's a very short story: a philosopher one morning while walking in Athens,
255. 15:42met a man who was making fun of him for his mistake.
256. 15:44The philosopher paused and said, "Remember, you're not talking to a bad guy."
257. 15:47said.
258. 15:48As a self-disciplined person, you hold yourself to high standards,
259. 15:54push your limits, and don't accept excuses.
260. 15:57But that doesn't mean you have to hurt yourself or hate yourself when you make mistakes
261. 16:01.
262. 16:03If you witnessed a friend make a mistake,
263. 16:08would you tell him it sucks?
264. 16:09You probably wouldn't have said.
265. 16:10Instead, you would try to convince them that it wasn't the end of the world and
266. 16:15encourage them to keep going.
267. 16:16It is useful to use this language against yourself.
268. 16:20So be your own friend.
269. 16:22Environment is Destiny You've probably heard the saying that you are the average of the 5 people
270. 16:26you spend the most time with somewhere
271. 16:28. It is useful to go a little beyond this idea.
272. 16:31This includes the books you read, the podcasts you listen to, the foods you ingest, and much
273. 16:37more.
274. 16:39Your environment constantly affects you.
275. 16:41The quality of your inputs matters.
276. 16:43It is also very important.
277. 16:44Of course, this is a fact; Most of the time we can't choose our environment.
278. 16:48We are born in certain places, as certain people,
279. 16:53we are exposed to certain ideas and customs.
280. 16:54So the idea that you are fully responsible for everything that happens to you is not entirely
281. 16:58true.
282. 16:59Check the controllable.
283. 17:02Recognize that you take action in your environment and that it
284. 17:07has a huge impact on your ability to delay gratification and create the kind of life you want for
285. 17:12yourself.
286. 17:13We must understand that the modern world is conspiring against us, working to reduce
287. 17:19our ability to withstand even the slightest difficulty
288. 17:21. If a hacker wants to crash a website, multiple computers can run that website at the same time.
289. 17:26tries to connect to the site.
290. 17:27As such, since the traffic capacity of that site is limited, that limit is enforced
291. 17:32and the site crashes.
292. 17:33The modern human is just like the website that was hacked by this hacker.
293. 17:38Our traffic capacity is so full that we are incapable of responding to anything else.
294. 17:43We are in a state of paralysis.
295. 17:45We are exposed to such an intense flow of information that it fills our world.
296. 17:49You can't find a place where you can notice your distraction and figure out what to do about it
297. 17:54.
298. 17:56You are under attack.
299. 17:57You need to do something.
300. 17:59You should take the time to find out how your environment will support your goals.
301. 18:04Who we spend time with is important.
302. 18:06It is important what we spend time thinking about and preoccupying with.
303. 18:11The books we read and the knowledge we acquire are important.
304. 18:14But sometimes?
305. 18:15Sometimes everything is too much.
306. 18:18Sometimes we need to cut down on inputs, slow down, and allow
307. 18:25only the best and what will serve us the most
308. 18:27. Read only the best books.
309. 18:29Spend time with only the best people.
310. 18:32Feed yourself the best food.
311. 18:34You don't deserve any less.
312. 18:36The Universal Secret to Success
313. 18:37Without the discipline to say NO to all the other unnecessary things, it's nearly impossible to stick to anything
314. 18:44.
315. 18:45Social media, a nice trip, dinner with friends, a new trend that's hard to resist
316. 18:49…
317. 18:51No one is saying these aren't going to be fun or have potential benefits
318. 18:55.
319. 18:56But they have an opportunity cost.
320. 18:58Remember, every choice is giving up something else.
321. 19:02If what you're giving up is more valuable to you, these choices may not make much sense.
322. 19:06Everything we say YES means saying no to something else.
323. 19:10No one can be in two places at the same time.
324. 19:13No one can give their full focus to more than one thing.
325. 19:16Every NO can also be a YES, a YES that really matters.
326. 19:20Turning down an opportunity means seizing another opportunity.
327. 19:25Self-discipline is not about deprivation; it's about controlling
328. 19:30your actions, thoughts, and emotions
329. 19:32. Do not try to build a magnificent wall.
330. 19:36Just try to place the brick you are going to put in perfectly.
331. 19:40If you do this every day, you will eventually have an amazing wall.
332. 19:43Your focus should be on just placing that one brick more perfectly each day
333. 19:52.
334. 19:53What will ensure this will be discipline, nothing else…
335. 20:00Will you be brave or cowardly?
336. 20:05Will you be strong or weak?
337. 20:11Will you be wise or stupid?
338. 20:17The easy way or the right way?
339. 20:23The choice is yours…