Karen Will Hurt Miles Sorry | Married At First Sight Season 11 Episode 2 — Transcript

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1. 0:00that's a funny story one of my
2. 0:02bridesmaids received a message on
3. 0:04accident
4. 0:06or with your name how
5. 0:10i don't know how i'm confused i'm
6. 0:13confused right now gee
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20. 0:54so
21. 0:55just watching man at first sight
22. 0:57watching karen and miles very very
23. 0:59interesting seeing them interact seeing
24. 1:00them
25. 1:01um back off one another i think what's
26. 1:03really interesting about the karen and
27. 1:04my situation
28. 1:05is the fact that they're different ages
29. 1:07so she's 30 26
30. 1:09and obviously she got wind of the fact
31. 1:10that he was um
32. 1:12uh on instagram leg up it's all on your
33. 1:15instagram
34. 1:16it should really be more private i mean
35. 1:18you know he's
36. 1:20she got to see his face she's got to see
37. 1:21what he's like got to hear some of his
38. 1:23thoughts
39. 1:24um and then you know in the last episode
40. 1:25we heard her say that he's a bit
41. 1:26emotional for her
42. 1:28all right so we really know that she had
43. 1:29a negative output from the very jump
44. 1:32which means he's got a lot of work to do
45. 1:33to get over that negative outlook from
46. 1:35the very jump
47. 1:36okay cool then so what we got to see
48. 1:40is um you know her with her mother and
49. 1:42what i really found interesting with her
50. 1:44in a mother i said in the last episode
51. 1:45that
52. 1:46with her mother um you know she's very
53. 1:49of her what if i think no no no no no no
54. 1:52you cannot faint we're not going to have
55. 1:55that
56. 1:56okay if you think you're going to faint
57. 1:59look at mama i don't want to say apathy
58. 2:01honestly more
59. 2:01like you know very astute very um
60. 2:05you know stiff upper lip you know prim
61. 2:08proper
62. 2:08you know what i mean at one point where
63. 2:10um you know at one point where karen was
64. 2:13beginning to
65. 2:14i feel a little way about the fact that
66. 2:16she made a decision because you know
67. 2:17she's not a risk taker she says
68. 2:19um made this a made decision to to kind
69. 2:21of you know take this
70. 2:22this leap of faith um and she's starting
71. 2:24to doubt herself and wondering why she's
72. 2:26deciding to make this move
73. 2:27and her mother does something which is
74. 2:29really interesting you know we see this
75. 2:30in you know aristotle
76. 2:31and monarchy kind of documentaries and
77. 2:35films where
78. 2:36the the queen or the the the noble
79. 2:39family individual will say
80. 2:40no no we don't do those things no we
81. 2:44we hold our head high and we stand tall
82. 2:47and it's almost like that kind of
83. 2:48feeling what i was getting from my mom
84. 2:50um so you know i i mean like i said
85. 2:53that's its own individual pressure in
86. 2:55terms of how it's going to help
87. 2:56how that's going to play out in the
88. 2:57relationship how that's going to play on
89. 2:59her and miles how how her mom's going to
90. 3:02be interacting with him and whether she
91. 3:03considers him
92. 3:04again like i said last episode a worthy
93. 3:07candidate for her daughter
94. 3:08what we got to see later on after that
95. 3:11obviously was karen's nervousness
96. 3:13and i guess obviously her own
97. 3:14trepidation and
98. 3:16and anxiety doing something that is
99. 3:18outside of her comfort zone okay
100. 3:20she's not a risk taker but has decided
101. 3:22to take a risk
102. 3:23in this particular example and actually
103. 3:25miles said the exact same thing when
104. 3:27they were on the
105. 3:28the the hilltop they said building top
106. 3:30um
107. 3:31he said the same thing he's not really a
108. 3:32risk taker either but decided to take
109. 3:33this plunge
110. 3:34and so you got two people here taking a
111. 3:36plunge where they would normally not
112. 3:38take
113. 3:39plunges they're very more sensible
114. 3:41calculated
115. 3:43and well thought out in the decision
116. 3:45making not saying that this wasn't a
117. 3:46well-thought-out decision it definitely
118. 3:48would have been
119. 3:48but the decision and the action of it is
120. 3:51a risk
121. 3:52so um seeing both of them come together
122. 3:55on this particular plane is quite an
123. 3:57interesting that shows
124. 3:58this i'm a whole body a little bit
125. 4:04similarities there some other
126. 4:06similarities is that they're both home
127. 4:07bodies as they mentioned
128. 4:08um you know and they both both
129. 4:10homebodies but like to go out still
130. 4:12you know like to explore the world and
131. 4:13uh go to pubs and bars and clubs and
132. 4:16you know just chill and be free right
133. 4:17they mention all of that um
134. 4:20and so that's obviously interesting as
135. 4:21well i think what key points really
136. 4:23stuck out to me was
137. 4:24one obviously when mars talking to i
138. 4:26think it was his dad and he said we'll
139. 4:27say listen
140. 4:28you know it's like a bank you know you
141. 4:29don't make withdrawals you only make
142. 4:31deposits it's a bank account
143. 4:34always want to put in more than you take
144. 4:35out 100
145. 4:37right be withdrawn they're going to be
146. 4:39fees
147. 4:43do i agree that do i not agree that i
148. 4:44wasn't sure what the point was actually
149. 4:46being made in so i couldn't really
150. 4:47comment upon that
151. 4:48um what i would say is listen
152. 4:50relationships let's put it real frank
153. 4:52relationships are give and take you need
154. 4:55to find somebody who's willing to give
155. 4:56as well into as well as willing to take
156. 4:58yeah it's a current account
157. 5:00not a savings account let me say it
158. 5:02again a relationship is a current
159. 5:04account
160. 5:05not a savings account the whole purpose
161. 5:07of a current account is that it stays
162. 5:08current meaning that
163. 5:10money flows in and it flows out it's not
164. 5:12meant to be a savings account the job of
165. 5:14a current account
166. 5:15is to make money flow and that's where
167. 5:17our relations are meant to be there are
168. 5:18meant to be
169. 5:19deposits and they're also meant to be
170. 5:21withdrawals
171. 5:22and this is meant to and when you have a
172. 5:24joint account both people
173. 5:25are liable for the joint account so if
174. 5:28one person decides they're going to go
175. 5:29on a mad one yeah
176. 5:30that affects both parties i want to do
177. 5:32what i'm going to go with this
178. 5:34when you have a joint account if
179. 5:36somebody says they're going to drag that
180. 5:37account
181. 5:37into over overdraft it affects both
182. 5:40parties
183. 5:41even though one person decided to do an
184. 5:43action which was selfish on their own
185. 5:44department or
186. 5:45you can call it that or they decided
187. 5:46they were they were ill um
188. 5:48prepared and manageable not managing
189. 5:50their funds very well
190. 5:52they've taken the account into overdraft
191. 5:54but it affects
192. 5:55both people when you begin to understand
193. 5:58that you begin to deep it that hey
194. 6:00actually both of us are affected
195. 6:03by the fact that your actions affect me
196. 6:06and my
197. 6:07my my my actions affect you the bible
198. 6:10says that
199. 6:10um that the wife's body is the husband
200. 6:12and the husband's body is the wives the
201. 6:14bible says there should be a mutual
202. 6:15submission between both yourself and
203. 6:17yourself because there's christ in both
204. 6:19of you
205. 6:20so we must understand there's a give and
206. 6:21there is also a take within people
207. 6:23so if there's not a given and take
208. 6:24there's going to be problems in a
209. 6:25relationship it can't be give give and
210. 6:27it can't be take tape
211. 6:29has to be an equal footing and when i
212. 6:30say equal doesn't also it doesn't always
213. 6:32mean
214. 6:34when i say equal footing it doesn't
215. 6:35always mean as well that we're going to
216. 6:36be 50 50 because
217. 6:38it depends on the nature of the
218. 6:39relationship some people are
219. 6:41well up some will give a little bit more
220. 6:43some will give a little bit less it just
221. 6:44depends on the nature relationship
222. 6:46but there has to be some type of effort
223. 6:49procured on both sides
224. 6:51thank you so much i appreciate it should
225. 6:53be taken care of
226. 6:54promise okay miles actually again
227. 6:58showed something different before she
228. 6:59came down she like miles actually
229. 7:00decided to hug the mother
230. 7:02um you know was showing some just warmth
231. 7:05and just genuineness and what i loved
232. 7:06about miles is this
233. 7:08this sort of this confidence but it's
234. 7:10not over
235. 7:11arrogance it's not it's not exuberance
236. 7:14it's
237. 7:14a quiet confidence that makes you feel
238. 7:16sturdy and calm
239. 7:18and confident and you don't question it
240. 7:20to think that oh maybe he's just doing
241. 7:22too much but it's just a genuineness
242. 7:23when he hugged the mom
243. 7:24and you know he just showed his warmth
244. 7:25to the crowd and to the audience as well
245. 7:28for me was a big big big thing uh it
246. 7:30shows the nature of the individual
247. 7:31person
248. 7:32then obviously when karen came down
249. 7:34again you offered emotional support
250. 7:36um by saying do you want a hug
251. 7:42right um you know can i hug you right
252. 7:44basically all right
253. 7:45and just again to get her nerves to calm
254. 7:47down but also as well just to initiate
255. 7:49contact
256. 7:50and to show that i'm leading the
257. 7:51proceedings here
258. 7:58and so then we got we got friends a
259. 8:00little bit later on when they're saying
260. 8:01the different things about each other
261. 8:03and you see karen really breaking down
262. 8:04now
263. 8:05let's focus on that point um you know we
264. 8:07there's no secret that karen knows about
265. 8:09miles before miles was about karen
266. 8:11and i wonder if i'm not going to say
267. 8:13that karen was crying at a point or
268. 8:14making
269. 8:15breaking down because she knew about
270. 8:17miles but rather i would say that maybe
271. 8:18there was
272. 8:19some thought of the fact that this is
273. 8:21scary this is emotional
274. 8:23uh this is life what i'm doing and this
275. 8:26risk isn't worth it
276. 8:27because i know about you and i'm not
277. 8:28sure whether i actually like you and i
278. 8:30think a lot of us
279. 8:31don't a lot of us have the luxury when
280. 8:33we don't do mine at first sight
281. 8:34to say hey six months into a
282. 8:36relationship i don't like you
283. 8:38i did try to overcome it and i didn't
284. 8:40overco and i didn't like it and i move
285. 8:41on
286. 8:42but even that six months you know you've
287. 8:44taken someone's time not only that
288. 8:45that's six months you've taken that
289. 8:47person and said
290. 8:47actually i've i can't do it i tried it
291. 8:50and i couldn't do it
292. 8:51you've actually taken up your time and
293. 8:53actually although there's a learning
294. 8:54process and you've experienced certain
295. 8:56things
296. 8:56um the only difference between that and
297. 8:58what they do not manifest is that there
298. 8:59is an exit door
299. 9:00there's a door to exit you can't you
300. 9:02can't do that when you do man at first
301. 9:03sight
302. 9:04and i think a lot of those things were
303. 9:05playing on karen's mind i think a lot of
304. 9:07them things were
305. 9:08circling in her mind and she began to
306. 9:10cry and again and miles showing again
307. 9:12this confidence but showing again
308. 9:14this uh leadership when he offers her
309. 9:16the handkerchief in his pocket i think
310. 9:18that's amazing
311. 9:19feels beautiful and that's the way it
312. 9:20should be see he's got he's got a very
313. 9:22caring nature
314. 9:23um and the reason i said that you'll see
315. 9:25that actually within the episode where
316. 9:27even when they were entering into the
317. 9:29into the reception he
318. 9:31he lets her he lets her go in front
319. 9:33union in front of family
320. 9:34and friends and he kind of just steers
321. 9:37her into the room
322. 9:38now many people might think oh but
323. 9:40that's just normal but let me tell you
324. 9:41something that's also showing again
325. 9:42i'm supporting i'm making sure i'm
326. 9:44covering and i'm making sure i'm guiding
327. 9:47and i'm not doing it from a place of um
328. 9:49i'm not doing it from a place of
329. 9:51um trying to overpower you or show you
330. 9:53dominance but rather i'm trying to show
331. 9:55you a care and a nurture that i have and
332. 9:57a nature
333. 9:57and a nurturing i have for you and
334. 9:59that's key that's important
335. 10:01you can't buy that do you understand um
336. 10:04what also then was really interesting
337. 10:05was then um
338. 10:07as i was saying that as i was saying not
339. 10:09to say the vowels but
340. 10:10um you know as we were talking with the
341. 10:13you know as i was saying the vowels and
342. 10:14stuff
343. 10:15karen didn't look too happy if i'm
344. 10:16honest karen didn't look too
345. 10:18enthusiastic if i'm honest
346. 10:19even when they were leaving the pulpit
347. 10:21she didn't look enthusiastic at all
348. 10:24promise to respect honor and protect you
349. 10:28i promise to listen to you in listening
350. 10:30i look forward to learning
351. 10:32she looked like she was still thinking
352. 10:34about what am i what am i doing what
353. 10:36have i done
354. 10:36is the right choice right whereas miles
355. 10:39look absolutely ecstatic he's happy with
356. 10:40his choice
357. 10:41he's happy that he's got this woman on
358. 10:42his hand he's happy he's got his eye
359. 10:44candy
360. 10:44he's happy to go sweet woman but he
361. 10:46doesn't know fully about this woman
362. 10:48okay cool so then obviously what was
363. 10:50really interesting and i think
364. 10:52for me let me be honest with you let me
365. 10:54be on let me be honest with you
366. 10:56i don't want to rush things eva in a
367. 10:57relationship i don't want to run to
368. 10:59first
369. 11:00base either too quickly but the truth of
370. 11:02the matter is when i like you i like you
371. 11:04you understand now when obviously karen
372. 11:06made a point
373. 11:07as to reason because she was like um
374. 11:10when they said you may kiss the bride
375. 11:12and and
376. 11:12he said obviously can i kiss you and say
377. 11:14oh giggling laughs and
378. 11:19the cheek that for me some alarm bells
379. 11:21ringing
380. 11:23because as much as i understand that you
381. 11:26know you take your time and you know you
382. 11:27don't you can't rush things
383. 11:28that's what she said she said obviously
384. 11:30you know she's not a person that rushes
385. 11:31things
386. 11:32i'm a little bit like um but
387. 11:35is that was that a rush it's your
388. 11:37wedding i mean you you're too like
389. 11:38russian things but you've got wedded
390. 11:41that's more than a rush yeah you got
391. 11:43wedded on the first side
392. 11:45so i'm not saying again that you should
393. 11:46that you have that he has every right to
394. 11:48have any right towards her or her body
395. 11:50or anything like no no what i'm saying
396. 11:51though is
397. 11:52are you making an excuse though are you
398. 11:54making an excuse as to why
399. 11:56you're unwilling to kiss on the lips on
400. 11:58the on the on the pulpit
401. 12:00i'm just saying it is that is that for
402. 12:01me it's alarm bells just because of the
403. 12:03fact that she knew what she
404. 12:04she knew about him beforehand and she
405. 12:06said she's not
406. 12:07short of his attack so already you set
407. 12:10me on a back foot and i have to take
408. 12:12your word for it and say hey
409. 12:14you know this this is this is this is
410. 12:16this is something that you don't really
411. 12:17like let me tell you
412. 12:17a scripture as well in the bible we have
413. 12:19jacob in the bible
414. 12:21and he goes to visit his uh his uh
415. 12:23father
416. 12:24uh father's wife's uh uh in-laws
417. 12:27yeah lay ban yeah and when jacob gets
418. 12:30there
419. 12:31the bible says that when jacob saw
420. 12:32rachel he wept and kissed her
421. 12:34my guy didn't wait no time broth now am
422. 12:36i saying that you should kiss everybody
423. 12:37that you meet no
424. 12:38what i'm saying to you is that when you
425. 12:40like something you like something rachel
426. 12:42was the one that he really really liked
427. 12:43he found rachel and said um
428. 12:45i want a piece and i'm saying and i want
429. 12:47to i'm willing to work seven years for
430. 12:48it
431. 12:49you know what i'm saying so when you
432. 12:50like you like you act
433. 12:52when you don't like you you're unsure
434. 12:54that's why your movements are a little
435. 12:55bit the way they are
436. 12:56to understand like when you're on when
437. 12:57you're unsturdy and you're not sure how
438. 12:59you're going to move it's because you're
439. 13:00not sure about the situation
440. 13:03you know what i'm saying so for me it
441. 13:04was a little bit of a um
442. 13:06but i didn't want to say i don't even go
443. 13:07i don't know bouncing it too hard you
444. 13:09know what i'm telling you what do we go
445. 13:10i don't want to go too hard on the go
446. 13:11later on we get to see
447. 13:13um later on we get to have a situation
448. 13:16with
449. 13:17um you know they where they're talking
450. 13:19on the rooftop and i think this is
451. 13:20really interesting because
452. 13:21again something that i'm gonna i'm gonna
453. 13:23notice oh i'm gonna
454. 13:24let you know um number one how did the
455. 13:28how did the text that was meant for one
456. 13:30of the groomsmen
457. 13:32get to her bridesmaids that's a funny
458. 13:34story
459. 13:35one of my bridesmaids received a message
460. 13:38on accident
461. 13:39or with your name how
462. 13:43cause that makes it sound as if then
463. 13:45that means whoever said the text knows
464. 13:47both
465. 13:48the bride's groom and the bridesmaid and
466. 13:50knew both of them were getting married
467. 13:51and therefore
468. 13:52that person knows both parties how
469. 13:55but not only that um how do they know
470. 13:58that mars is going to be set up with
471. 13:59her because this was filmed before not
472. 14:02now
473. 14:03we're seeing it now but how do they know
474. 14:05you know what i'm saying
475. 14:06not only and i guess obviously i guess
476. 14:08obviously not i know who it is
477. 14:10i think i know who it is it's not often
478. 14:13that your best friend
479. 14:14gets married especially when it's to a
480. 14:17woman that you know just as well as he
481. 14:19knows
482. 14:21is it andrew because i think andrew said
483. 14:23he knew her
484. 14:26um i think i just said that he knew her
485. 14:28i think if i'm correct
486. 14:29in his speech i may be wrong
487. 14:32edit this out in his speech and you just
488. 14:34say it's like he knew
489. 14:36the girl first before or knew the girl
490. 14:38as well as he knew him
491. 14:40so i don't know maybe that's where it
492. 14:41came from maybe came from andrew okay
493. 14:43cool um so that was one of the issues
494. 14:47number two was um
495. 14:49you know she mentioned i said uh you
496. 14:50know she went through his instagram and
497. 14:53she was like you really leg up it's all
498. 14:55on your instagram
499. 14:56it should really be more private but the
500. 14:58tone that she said
501. 14:59in what's up and you know me you know me
502. 15:02guys
503. 15:02when it comes to i always listen to tone
504. 15:05because tone is where it tells you what
505. 15:06the person really be thinking
506. 15:07sometimes you would say some sweat sweat
507. 15:09things swipe things
508. 15:11and really what they mean is f you you
509. 15:13know what i'm saying like
510. 15:14but it's a tone that tells you river
511. 15:16will you're really feeling me or whether
512. 15:17you're not fully filling me
513. 15:18you know so when she said i was to you
514. 15:20really should be more private listen to
515. 15:21the tone of it
516. 15:22it wasn't like oh you know maybe you
517. 15:24should consider that it was more like
518. 15:26i'm telling you off
519. 15:27right and this could be a dynamic that
520. 15:29could happen in a relationship
521. 15:30that could be a downfall for the
522. 15:31relationship where it could be i'm older
523. 15:33you're younger i'm treating you like
524. 15:34you're younger
525. 15:35i'm older you're young i'm treating like
526. 15:37you're less mature
527. 15:38rather than doing a person on a
528. 15:39face-to-face basis um regardless of age
529. 15:43i don't know if you when you were
530. 15:43stalking me you found out that uh
531. 15:46i played ball in college then obviously
532. 15:48as well and
533. 15:49i love that miles kind of threw it back
534. 15:50at her a little bit later he said
535. 15:51obviously you know
536. 15:52um you know he said obviously basically
537. 15:54to her you know
538. 15:56uh he said obviously i've got a million
539. 15:58questions and stuff like that and then
540. 15:59he mentioned about the fact that
541. 16:01uh about her is this one of her ways of
542. 16:03kind of stalking him or kind of
543. 16:04etc etc so he threw it back a little bit
544. 16:06that's what we'd like to see you know
545. 16:07like
546. 16:08he's got obviously something to have a
547. 16:09banner he for me he's got some level of
548. 16:11banner
549. 16:11about himself and that's good you're
550. 16:12gonna need it because i think karen is a
551. 16:14type
552. 16:15that may try to test you one or two
553. 16:16times and you may need that banter bro
554. 16:18i'm telling you
555. 16:18um you know again he said obviously like
556. 16:21he's got a million
557. 16:22questions um so much
558. 16:25i got 50 million questions so if you
559. 16:28open it up i'm going to ask you they
560. 16:29told me you had a question
561. 16:30oh i i've asked so many questions you
562. 16:32know to ask her and i think it's always
563. 16:34a sign of someone intrigued when
564. 16:36someone's got a many different questions
565. 16:37it's a sign of intrigue that the person
566. 16:39is actually genuinely
567. 16:41um wanting to know more about you and he
568. 16:42actually mentioned that he wanted to
569. 16:43know more about her and i think
570. 16:45this is what you need to see ladies and
571. 16:46gentlemen what you want is somebody
572. 16:48interested in you that tries to find out
573. 16:50your mind now this
574. 16:51listen some people say it's safer sexual
575. 16:52but i don't think it's heterosexual i
576. 16:54think it's normal sexual
577. 16:55yeah normal sexual yeah that you ask
578. 16:58questions about your partner
579. 16:59to find out who they are you know people
580. 17:02who are invested in you
581. 17:03want to know who you are on
582. 17:06and more than just on a surface level on
583. 17:08a deeper level
584. 17:09you understand most people need to both
585. 17:11people that want you want to find you on
586. 17:12a deeper level those who really really
587. 17:14want to
588. 17:15desire a relationship not just sex and
589. 17:16not just a quickie and not just
590. 17:18just a bit of your time but when they
591. 17:20genuinely are invested in you they ask
592. 17:22questions because they want to know who
593. 17:25is she
594. 17:26or who is he so make sure you always use
595. 17:28that as well guys ask questions it shows
596. 17:30it's a sign of intelligence and a sign
597. 17:32of intrigue and let me hold your hand
598. 17:35and that is just not me so
599. 17:38i'm getting a little nervous at this
600. 17:39point just
601. 17:41a little bit you know as well during the
602. 17:42wedding photo as well i thought was
603. 17:43quite awkward
604. 17:44i felt like he was trying to make it
605. 17:46less awkward but she wasn't having it
606. 17:47yet
607. 17:48she's just not comfortable at this
608. 17:49moment i know when you're trying to grab
609. 17:50hands
610. 17:51um you know and you know trying to get
611. 17:53next to her it seemed a bit like for her
612. 17:55it seemed like she just couldn't let
613. 17:57herself go yet whatever she was finished
614. 17:59just couldn't let go
615. 18:00um maybe it's because she's still
616. 18:01thinking about the fact that she knows
617. 18:02him because she didn't say that she kind
618. 18:04of
619. 18:04his face looks kind of familiar whether
620. 18:06it was that or whatever the fact that
621. 18:07you know what at the end of the day she
622. 18:08just felt like
623. 18:09for her she just can't commit just yet
624. 18:12because she's not sure whether she's
625. 18:13here
626. 18:14or there or whether she really wants to
627. 18:16commit to this relationship
628. 18:17could be another situation i don't know
629. 18:19um showing again that
630. 18:21you know this miles is uh genuine care
631. 18:23for her you see him grab the chair for
632. 18:25her when they enter reception
633. 18:26he's the only one who did it uh brett
634. 18:28didn't do it and i didn't see woody do
635. 18:30it for imani either
636. 18:32but with uh miles he actually pulled out
637. 18:34a chair let her sit down
638. 18:35then he sat down that shows again not
639. 18:37only as a gentleman she mentioned that
640. 18:38as well that she laughs about he's a
641. 18:39gentleman
642. 18:40chosen a gentleman but shows that he
643. 18:41cares about her and shows obviously as
644. 18:43well that he's putting her first
645. 18:44in her needs now what we need is a
646. 18:46reciprocation
647. 18:48okay ladies and gentlemen reciprocation
648. 18:50which means um
649. 18:51as i do you do you understand as i do
650. 18:54you do
651. 18:55[Music]
652. 19:02and no matter what miles takes the time
653. 19:05to make sure that he is purposeful
654. 19:08in the decisions that he makes i wanted
655. 19:10to end this moment as well um
656. 19:11his friend andrew gave a very powerful
657. 19:13speech okay
658. 19:14um and said obviously that you know
659. 19:16miles the person that takes in
660. 19:17consideration all his actions he doesn't
661. 19:19just do
662. 19:19he's considerating his actions he
663. 19:21doesn't just move his consideration he
664. 19:22doesn't just do
665. 19:24he's considerate in his actions and the
666. 19:25bible says what is a man
667. 19:27what what man doesn't sit down to count
668. 19:29the cost before he begins to build
669. 19:31before you enter into this phase of
670. 19:33marriage yeah if we enter
671. 19:35um into the stage of married at first
672. 19:36sight what cost are you counting
673. 19:39what is it you're willing to give up to
674. 19:41make this work because there is
675. 19:42something you must give up
676. 19:44to make this work it's teamwork that
677. 19:46makes a dream work right
678. 19:47but it also requires for you to release
679. 19:50some of your own in
680. 19:51your own uh ambition sometimes your own
681. 19:53goal sometimes
682. 19:54just to accomplish this goal first and
683. 19:56set a base a foundation first
684. 19:58and then you can begin to bring back
685. 20:00your goals and ambitions so in relations
686. 20:02it's very important for you to
687. 20:02understand this look
688. 20:03build the base where people fail is
689. 20:06because the foundation wasn't built very
690. 20:08well a building is only as good as this
691. 20:10foundation
692. 20:11yes so you need to build a base
693. 20:12correctly have conversations get to know
694. 20:14each other know what each other like
695. 20:16ask them for travel questions what's the
696. 20:17ambitions what's their goals where
697. 20:19they're heading to
698. 20:20how many children do they want what what
699. 20:21do they love what they like eating what
700. 20:23do they like doing what's their hobbies
701. 20:25you understand there's so many questions
702. 20:26you were asking why are we not doing it
703. 20:29do you understand we have to do a video
704. 20:30on this very soon but yeah guys i know
705. 20:33you know it's madness
706. 20:34so guys i'm gonna leave it there and say
707. 20:36listen make sure you like share
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709. 20:38but if you if you're if you're you know
710. 20:40if you're i mean let us know your
711. 20:41thoughts what was your thoughts was
712. 20:42miles and karen i personally think
713. 20:44the issue that they're gonna have that
714. 20:45potentially in the future which will
715. 20:47derail the relationship
716. 20:48it's gonna be age number one and karen
717. 20:50can't get over it number two
718. 20:51is karen's uh taking advantage of his
719. 20:54niceness right
720. 20:55and thinking that he's a nice boy so
721. 20:56she's gonna take advantage by being
722. 20:58i guess mean to kind of create distance
723. 21:01between the two of them
724. 21:02that's what i feel may potentially
725. 21:03happen but we don't know
726. 21:05i understand you get me but make sure
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731. 21:14all got them in the roles