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1. 0:51Yeah.
2. 0:54Oh, you're crying.
3. 1:01do so with you. Like, I've been doing
4. 1:05therapy every day. I've literally talked
5. 1:08to everyone that you talk about. I
6. 1:10understand why you're mad at me and I
7. 1:12literally understand like
8. 1:16talk about. I was like, I know all of
9. 1:19this. Like, I've heard it. Like, Mason
10. 1:21and I talked about it. Like I just wish
11. 1:23Mason would know that like I'm working
12. 1:25on all that and I don't know how he's
13. 1:27going to know it if he's not around.
14. 1:30And like Levi, it just kills me.
15. 1:32Everything he looks me
16. 1:35and I just want him to come home so bad.
17. 1:38I feel terrible
18. 1:41and I just don't know how I can go on
19. 1:44with this.
20. 1:46I still can't sleep. I can't eat. I feel
21. 1:50sick every day.
22. 1:53I just want to call him, not just for
23. 1:56me, but for me. I feel so bad for him.
24. 2:02This just feels like a divorce drop off
25. 2:04every day. Like, I don't even get to
26. 2:06come inside. I don't get to hang out
27. 2:08with you guys.
28. 2:10Like, I don't know. I know the whole
29. 2:12world knows our business. Like, you told
30. 2:15them such ignorant details. Like,
31. 2:19I just I understand why, but I also just
32. 2:24I'm so embarrassed. Like, I don't know
33. 2:28how I'm ever going to show face to your
34. 2:30face again.
35. 2:32>> I need to ask a question.
36. 2:35>> I need to ask a question.
37. 2:39So, I know my mother talked about it and
38. 2:41I agree and I also knew that it
39. 2:44happened, but why why in the world would
40. 2:49you not tell your dad everything that
41. 2:50you said from the reasons and the cause
42. 2:52and the leadup and what your dad said?
43. 2:55He didn't know half the information that
44. 2:56I told him. He didn't know any of it.
45. 2:59>> I didn't tell him anything. All I told
46. 3:01them my mom asked about punch in the
47. 3:03wall and I said I sent him a letter and
48. 3:06then he like said he wants to go to the
49. 3:08gym and then I was like no can you just
50. 3:10watch Levi and then I was like
51. 3:13>> what was the
52. 3:13>> I didn't talk to my dad as my dad's been
53. 3:15working I have not talked to my dad
54. 3:17about everything.
55. 3:17>> My dad says he's he's heard it from your
56. 3:20side and he's heard things.
57. 3:21>> No he's heard that that what what
58. 3:23happened on Friday. He doesn't know the
59. 3:25leadup to all I told him finances. He
60. 3:27didn't know why. He didn't know why I
61. 3:29punched a hole in the wall.
62. 3:30>> Right. I I I'm so sorry.
63. 3:34>> It went through like I went through like
64. 3:36how she was saying that she will find
65. 3:38better and she'll go somewhere else and
66. 3:42like he didn't know any of that. And he
67. 3:43goes, "Oh, I didn't know my daughter
68. 3:45would ever say that.
69. 3:46>> I also went to the doctor."
70. 3:48>> How? How do you hold on hold on hold on
71. 3:52like this is this needs to to be
72. 3:54addressed. I told you your family
73. 3:56doesn't know you. Your family doesn't
74. 3:58know who you are.
75. 3:59>> I admit to my dad at the gym. He asked
76. 4:01me, "Did you say that?" And I said,
77. 4:02"Yeah,
78. 4:03>> but it took it took me having to tell
79. 4:05him and then you come out."
80. 4:07>> Cuz I don't I didn't know that was
81. 4:09wrong.
82. 4:09>> My My parents knew that I followed my ex
83. 4:11back. Like,
84. 4:13>> why do they know that?
85. 4:14>> Because
86. 4:15>> what do you mean? Because I thought your
87. 4:17family loved you first therapy. Why
88. 4:20would they tell you to follow your ex?
89. 4:22>> They No, they didn't tell me to. How do
90. 4:24they say that's okay? That's so
91. 4:25>> They didn't say it was okay.
92. 4:28>> How did they know?
93. 4:28>> Even though nothing. I just explained to
94. 4:31me. You just said they knew.
95. 4:33>> I just told them.
96. 4:34>> You said what? What' you say? You're
97. 4:36just like sitting with Levi and you were
98. 4:37like, I think you follow my ex again.
99. 4:39>> It was on It was on Friday when I was
100. 4:42super hurt and I was super upset.
101. 4:45>> It was okay.
102. 4:46>> They didn't say it was okay. They said
103. 4:48that's a really up thing to do.
104. 4:50But even in the ugly, I tell them the
105. 4:53ugly and then they know my full truth.
106. 4:55They know who I am.
107. 4:56>> I know, but I have to work on that. I've
108. 4:58talked to my therapist about that.
109. 5:00>> Even through all this, you have to know
110. 5:03you you have to tell your parents
111. 5:06everything. I'm not I'm not I'm not
112. 5:08trying to I'm not chewing you out over
113. 5:09it,
114. 5:10>> but I'm saying like now is the time to
115. 5:13be absolutely 100% real with
116. 5:15your parents. Like
117. 5:16>> I am.
118. 5:18>> Okay. But your dad not knowing that you
119. 5:20said that you were gonna take me by and
120. 5:21go to what I've said. I don't
121. 5:23>> It's not It's It's your family.
122. 5:25>> I don't want to get I didn't tell my
123. 5:27family about the sex stuff because I
124. 5:28don't I respect you and I don't want
125. 5:30them to know about the little things
126. 5:32which ended up being a huge thing.
127. 5:33>> Well,
128. 5:34>> you told your whole family about it, but
129. 5:35we agreed about the sex. You started
130. 5:37taking hormones and then you were like,
131. 5:39I'm more in the mood now than ever.
132. 5:40>> Your dad also now knows about the sex
133. 5:42thing.
134. 5:42>> Oh, I know. Tony,
135. 5:43>> I know.
136. 5:45There's just some things I wish we would
137. 5:47just keep with a therapist.
138. 5:49>> Yep.
139. 5:49>> And not the whole world.
140. 5:51>> They are family.
141. 5:51>> Our friends know. Our family know. My
142. 5:54friends that I have to face one day when
143. 5:55we work this out. Like I have to face
144. 5:57them again.
145. 5:59I'm so embarrassed. And you're not
146. 6:01wearing your ring. What's going on with
147. 6:02that? That's the third day in a row. You
148. 6:04haven't been wearing your ring. Every
149. 6:06day I see you.
150. 6:07>> I take it off for work.
151. 6:08>> Why?
152. 6:09>> Because I was I was running a pickaxe
153. 6:11today.
154. 6:11>> What about the gym? When you're talking
155. 6:13to other people and other girls and
156. 6:14there's no rain, you're saying you're
157. 6:15getting a divorce.
158. 6:16>> I'm not saying I'm getting a divorce.
159. 6:18>> You told that girl I
160. 6:20>> I'm not saying I'm getting a divorce. I
161. 6:22did not say I'm getting a divorce.
162. 6:24>> But do you not realize, Mason, that
163. 6:25there we both hurt each other and I just
164. 6:28both want to recognize that that we both
165. 6:30look out. We both look at each other.
166. 6:32Like you've done things to provoke me. I
167. 6:35feel like I provoked you. There's
168. 6:37different We've done the same.
169. 6:39>> I've been nothing but calm, cool, and
170. 6:40collective time. I did not look.
171. 6:43>> But I just want you to understand like I
172. 6:45am making all these subtle changes that
173. 6:47you're just not seeing cuz I don't talk
174. 6:49to you until I drop off at night.
175. 6:51>> Like I just wish you would give me a
176. 6:54chance.
177. 6:55>> You're so
178. 7:00>> I just wish you would give me a chance
179. 7:02so I can show you and we can do this
180. 7:03together. We can get an appointment on
181. 7:05Thursday, Friday, whatever day you need.
182. 7:07>> Slow down. Did my Did your dad tell you
183. 7:09everything I have planned? No.
184. 7:11>> Okay. Well, I've contacted Mark and I'm
185. 7:14going to go see an actual therapist
186. 7:16that's not his wife, one that is
187. 7:18completely oblivious to everything.
188. 7:20>> Okay.
189. 7:21>> And I plan to see her sometime this
190. 7:23week. And I said I will give you the
191. 7:26same contact so you can go in also and
192. 7:30she will be our couple's therapist.
193. 7:32>> So, we're not together
194. 7:34>> but not not at the same time.
195. 7:39Hold on.
196. 7:40I'm I'm saying depends on what she has
197. 7:43to say, depends on what's going on
198. 7:45because in my head I have an idea of
199. 7:48kind of what I want to do, but I don't
200. 7:50really know 100%. But I'm I'm not it's
201. 7:56just let me figure it out. Like I'm
202. 7:59still going through line and it's only
203. 8:01been two days. It's only been two days.
204. 8:03>> Friday since Friday, baby, you don't
205. 8:05understand since Friday. I do understand
206. 8:08and I'm I'm working to reach up to that
207. 8:11point and
208. 8:13I can ease some pain off of you. I'm I'm
209. 8:17trying I'm trying to see a silver lining
210. 8:19here.
211. 8:20>> Levi Levi is my huge silver lining. My
212. 8:23only wedge is that you used him against
213. 8:25me.
214. 8:25>> I'm sorry.
215. 8:26>> So, I'm going to a therapist to see if I
216. 8:30can navigate through this and see how I
217. 8:32can do this.
218. 8:34And I'm gonna tell her everything and
219. 8:36show her like time after time again. I
220. 8:38tried to tell her like, "Hey, I need you
221. 8:40to change." She always comes up and
222. 8:42says, "I will change."
223. 8:43>> Have the therapist tell you what to do.
224. 8:45>> Tell you what?
225. 8:46>> Nope. I'm going to lay out the situation
226. 8:48and we're going to talk about it and she
227. 8:50will give me some guidance on what to do
228. 8:52and I'll I'll decipher on if it's
229. 8:54something that I should do.
230. 8:57But I do think it's good to get
231. 8:59counselor to help me navigate some of
232. 9:01this stuff because it's a lot and I
233. 9:04can't do it all on my own.
234. 9:04>> I'm a mom of Levi. I can't do it all. I
235. 9:07have health issues where I cannot be up
236. 9:09with them. I can't be with them and I
237. 9:12didn't have a kid to be a single mom. I
238. 9:13just had him.
239. 9:15>> I I need help. I need you. He needs you.
240. 9:19Like he looks for you. I feel terrible.
241. 9:21>> I know.
242. 9:23I just I want you to try this home.
243. 9:27>> This is why
244. 9:28>> that whenever I'm home I usually take
245. 9:30care of him, right? Whenever I'm home.
246. 9:33>> This is Mason. I don't think I can do
247. 9:34it. I want my mom gone. I want you and I
248. 9:37want to work on this go to therapy.
249. 9:39>> Am I right though? This is why when I
250. 9:41come home, I take care of it.
251. 9:42>> But you took all your stuff. Why can't
252. 9:44you at least do half of that? I said,
253. 9:45like I said, why can't we you come home
254. 9:48and then the next day do like every
255. 9:50other night you spend like why can't you
256. 9:52have a safe space here? Keep some of
257. 9:53your stuff here but move back in. Like I
258. 9:57don't understand.
259. 9:59>> I'm working towards it.
260. 10:01>> I'm not saying no.
261. 10:02>> When when babe can't like be a month
262. 10:05from now. How much?
263. 10:06>> It's not going to be a month. It's not
264. 10:08going to be a month.
265. 10:11>> You can't do it.
266. 10:12>> Remember what I said. Just give me till
267. 10:14the end of the week. You said we can
268. 10:16talk Saturday.
269. 10:21But do you agree that this is why I take
270. 10:24care of Levi when I get back? Because
271. 10:26it's hard,
272. 10:29right?
273. 10:35I can't even eat.
274. 10:46I've literally lost 8 lbs since Friday.
275. 10:55I feel like I can't even hug you. I feel
276. 10:57like I can't even kiss you. I feel like
277. 10:58I can't even go near you like at the
278. 11:01gym. I feel like I have to pretend I
279. 11:03don't know you.
280. 11:05>> It's going to
281. 11:05>> I have to like just move on.
282. 11:08Like
283. 11:09>> if the decision is that we work this
284. 11:11out, remember I said that.
285. 11:13>> That's what you said. You told my dad
286. 11:15you have a divorce and that you we're
287. 11:17going to you were doing therapy or
288. 11:19something.
289. 11:20>> No, I said I'm on the brink of either
290. 11:24or. And I said, "Hold on. Hang on.
291. 11:27>> I can't do this. I can't live in
292. 11:29this. I can't like wait till Saturday.
293. 11:32>> Love. Love. Love. I can't do
294. 11:36this anymore.
295. 11:41I literally don't know how
296. 11:45I'm not trying to be manipulative. Like,
297. 11:47you guys are my world and I don't
298. 11:49do it.
299. 11:52I can't do it.
300. 11:59I know I can be who you want me to be,
301. 12:01and it just sucks that you will let me
302. 12:04do it. I see it. I've already made
303. 12:06changes. I already know. I already know
304. 12:09how you feel. I put myself in your shoes
305. 12:11the last four to five days. I know. I
306. 12:14know what you're talking about.
307. 12:16>> Okay.
308. 12:16>> I want you to come home so I can show
309. 12:18you that like I'm happy you're home. And
310. 12:20if you're tired, you're tired. If you go
311. 12:21to sexy, it's fine. Like, I don't
312. 12:23care. I just want you there.
313. 12:25You're more important to me than
314. 12:27anything. And I can't stand your way.
315. 12:38I feel like I put everyone down and let
316. 12:40me right now and it's all my phone.
317. 12:43>> All right, hang on. Just hold that
318. 12:46thought. Hang on.
319. 13:09I told you I was going to go see
320. 13:11counselor. I need to navigate this
321. 13:13stuff. So, I'm trying to get it done
322. 13:15sooner than later. I I told Mark to see
323. 13:17if you can speed track it. She can fit
324. 13:18me in probably tomorrow.
325. 13:24>> Look, you told them.
326. 13:28>> But you don't know if you would agree
327. 13:29with me. No.
328. 13:30>> How do you like I am Levi and I almost
329. 13:33died for you. I don't know how much more
330. 13:34I can show you that you mean everything
331. 13:36to me. I don't know how much more. Like
332. 13:38it's like you're just thinking if you
333. 13:39want to divorce me or not. And that
334. 13:41sucks. I'm like I might have
335. 13:44said it, but I never ever ever would
336. 13:47imagine actually doing it. And I'm sorry
337. 13:49I said it.
338. 13:50>> No,
339. 13:51>> but I would never hurt you and do that
340. 13:53to you because I love you so much.
341. 13:55>> You hurt me the minute you put me
342. 13:56against my son.
343. 13:58>> I know. And I literally taken that back
344. 14:00and said, "I will never ever do that
345. 14:01again to I was wrong for that."
346. 14:03>> Hey, but it happened.
347. 14:04>> I know it didn't. I know it did.
348. 14:07>> Multiple times. Hey, before you even got
349. 14:10to this point, I tried to tell you. I
350. 14:13tried to warn you and I tried to help
351. 14:15you and I tried to before it even got to
352. 14:17this point, before you started to admit
353. 14:19to everything.
354. 14:20>> I just feel like we can work this out so
355. 14:21much better together than we can apart.
356. 14:24Like just even us having this
357. 14:25conversation now, like I feel like it's
358. 14:27been the most civil and like
359. 14:28understanding conversation we've had in
360. 14:30the longest time. And I feel like I just
361. 14:33would love if you would just give me a
362. 14:35chance to you
363. 14:37>> to spend time with me. Not just this
364. 14:38Levi drop off thing.
365. 14:40>> It's because you're understanding that
366. 14:42you're in the run. That's why it's so
367. 14:44>> I know that. But it's not just that.
368. 14:45It's that I don't know how you expect me
369. 14:47to live with not knowing if you're going
370. 14:49to divorce me at the end of the week or
371. 14:50not. I don't understand how you do that.
372. 14:53I don't know how you sleep at night. I
373. 14:55don't I don't know how I are
374. 14:57supposed to take care of him. Like
375. 14:58everything's fine. I don't know what you
376. 15:01just made me to do. I don't want to lose
377. 15:03you and I do anything. And if you hear
378. 15:06those words coming out of my heart, like
379. 15:07I don't know why you just can't believe
380. 15:09me. I'll do anything.
381. 15:13>> Just please come home for him and for me
382. 15:16and for us.
383. 15:19We can work on therapy later the second
384. 15:21you get home. If you don't want to talk,
385. 15:23you can come back here when you want.
386. 15:24>> I told you I'm going to go to therapy on
387. 15:26my own first. I'm I'm
388. 15:28>> You can go to therapy on your own first.
389. 15:29It's fine.
390. 15:30>> Hey, you're not you're not going to
391. 15:32dictate this situation here, Bob. You're
392. 15:35not. I'm telling you what's happening.
393. 15:38I'm telling you I'm going to navigate
394. 15:40this with a therapist. It's so much.
395. 15:43>> They're not going to tell you. Therapist
396. 15:44can't tell you what to do with your
397. 15:45>> They're not telling me what to do. But I
398. 15:47It's better than talking to my family
399. 15:49about it.
400. 15:49>> Why does it take a therapist to tell you
401. 15:51if you want to stay with me or not?
402. 15:53>> I'm not asking them to see if they if I
403. 15:55should stay with you.
404. 15:56>> Then why can't you stay with me,
405. 15:59>> love? Because I'm hurt to the point.
406. 16:02Like there's so much to unpack that I I
407. 16:05didn't even know. And then now I found
408. 16:07out and now on top of this like
409. 16:10everything that you said and I just
410. 16:12asked for a week like I
411. 16:14>> a week to know but now you're saying
412. 16:15it's not just to move back in. You said
413. 16:18now for divorce or not.
414. 16:19>> Love.
415. 16:20>> Is it true? Can you answer my question?
416. 16:22Are you taking the week and talking to
417. 16:23the counselor to think if you want a
418. 16:26divorce or not? And then you're going to
419. 16:27let
420. 16:27>> I told you no. I I've already told you
421. 16:30no.
422. 16:30>> So you don't want a divorce?
423. 16:31>> That's not what I'm saying.
424. 16:33>> No. Then I just asked you. But then why
425. 16:35do you need the week? Is it for divorce
426. 16:37or to move back in? I'm confused.
427. 16:39>> You told me it was first to move back
428. 16:41in. Babe, when we talked on Sunday, you
429. 16:43told me I just need a week and then I'll
430. 16:44think about moving back in. And now it's
431. 16:46a whole new discussion where you need
432. 16:48therapy.
433. 16:48>> I need the week and I'm thinking about
434. 16:50moving back in. I'm love.
435. 16:54Do you not remember the whole thing that
436. 16:57I said before I said the word divorce?
437. 16:59Do you remember anything that I said
438. 17:01>> that you wanted me time and you wanted a
439. 17:03week? said, "I wanted a week." And you
440. 17:05said, "What? If you take the week, I'm
441. 17:07going to pack up my I'm going to
442. 17:09pack up the house.
443. 17:10>> Stop.
444. 17:12I'm going to pack up the house on Monday
445. 17:14and I'm going to move to California and
446. 17:16you'll never see your kid
447. 17:17again." And then that's when I said,
448. 17:19"I'm done."
449. 17:21But
450. 17:22>> that's this is the parting that you
451. 17:25never even want to be with me. And
452. 17:26that's why I said that. I thought you
453. 17:27had already said divorce.
454. 17:29>> Nope. No, it's not even a thought.
455. 17:32You were the only one that was talking
456. 17:34about leaving and finding something
457. 17:35else.
458. 17:36>> You said, "I wanted the horse." When we
459. 17:37right outside the garage, you said, "I'm
460. 17:39done. I wanted to eat this."
461. 17:41>> Yeah, that was after you said that.
462. 17:43>> No, you said that. I said that by Levi.
463. 17:50>> I'm sorry then. I totally blinked out
464. 17:52that day because you already said you as
465. 17:54soon as I got here.
466. 17:55>> I don't understand. You're sorry.
467. 18:00>> Cuz you don't understand. Sorry I
468. 18:02actually am you seeing me every day
469. 18:04miserable
470. 18:05>> love
471. 18:05>> and trying to make every single second
472. 18:07I'm thinking about you
473. 18:08>> I think about you every single second
474. 18:10too.
475. 18:14>> You think it kills me not to call you
476. 18:15when I'm on my way home. It sucks.
477. 18:22I used to call you every day on my way
478. 18:23home. I don't do it.
479. 18:33I've tried for so long
480. 18:36>> and and I've I've dealt with so much for
481. 18:39so long back when we were engaged.
482. 18:42>> That whole thing you said that was a
483. 18:43mistake and you should never done that.
484. 18:44I don't know why we're bringing this up
485. 18:46again.
486. 18:47>> What was the mistake?
487. 18:49>> When we got engaged when you made up to
488. 18:52me that night we talked at 5:00 a.m. The
489. 18:54next day you said I don't know what the
490. 18:56I was thinking. I'm so sorry I
491. 18:58left. I should have never stolen that. I
492. 19:00should have never left.
493. 19:03You told me the very next day that you
494. 19:05regret that. I didn't even push that on
495. 19:06you. I didn't say you need you need to
496. 19:08go there before that. You the very next
497. 19:10day said I totally regret that. You're
498. 19:12right. I should have never left you
499. 19:13guessing and sorry I even mentioned that
500. 19:15I didn't want to be with you. Yes, you
501. 19:18did. We talked till 5:00 a.m. And the
502. 19:20following day when you woke up, I was
503. 19:21like, "How do you feel?" And you
504. 19:23literally looked at me and said,
505. 19:25"Honestly,
506. 19:27I don't know what I was thinking." You
507. 19:29said that out of your mouth the very
508. 19:30next day you were still in bed. You
509. 19:32said, "I don't know what I was thinking.
510. 19:34>> I regret that."
511. 19:35>> But do you remember what the argument
512. 19:36was about?
513. 19:37>> It was about the wedding planning. I You
514. 19:39felt pinned against your mom
515. 19:42>> and me, but we had no budget for more
516. 19:44guests to come.
517. 19:45>> Who's the one that backed me into the
518. 19:46corner?
519. 19:47>> I did, but your mom also hung up on you
520. 19:50the day the day of. We both can. It was
521. 19:53I had a I had an open house on that
522. 19:55Sunday.
523. 19:56>> No, she had a reason because you were
524. 19:58putting me against my family.
525. 19:59>> No, but we were out of money and your
526. 20:01parents weren't willing to pay.
527. 20:02>> I'm not I'm not rehashing I'm not
528. 20:04rehashing out old stuff. I'm not
529. 20:06rehashing out.
530. 20:07>> I felt I might have backed you into a
531. 20:10corner, but I felt that way because my
532. 20:12family said we don't have any more money
533. 20:14to give you. And I said, "Babe, if you
534. 20:16want this wedding to happen, it can't
535. 20:18happen your mom's way because my family
536. 20:20does not have more room to give. They've
537. 20:22already given me $30,000 to this
538. 20:24wedding. We've already cancelled with
539. 20:25the first wedding planners. They won't
540. 20:27give me anything." And I tried
541. 20:29explaining that to you. And honestly,
542. 20:31looking back, I don't know any other
543. 20:33way. Like I I mean, I could have said
544. 20:35things nicer. I could have done things
545. 20:36better. And I could have sat your mom.
546. 20:38You should have sat your mom down and
547. 20:39explained to her what we that it was not
548. 20:41a personal thing. It was a budget thing.
549. 20:44And I tried with our wedding planner to
550. 20:46bring out things out of the budget to
551. 20:47remove things like having no
552. 20:49videographer for my sister.
553. 20:50>> I'm not going back in and I'm not
554. 20:51getting back into it.
555. 20:52>> I'm just saying you don't understand
556. 20:54that my whole family is fighting against
557. 20:55me too. I understand that your family
558. 20:57you felt pinned, but my mom and dad were
559. 21:00pissed too because I didn't I my dad was
560. 21:03putting on the whole wedding at that
561. 21:04point.
562. 21:06He was hosting the whole
563. 21:07>> parents were talking about a traditional
564. 21:09wedding. You want to talk about
565. 21:10traditional wedding
566. 21:12to your family? father my family
567. 21:15videographer videographer my mom my mom
568. 21:18was
569. 21:19>> your your mom was preaching about
570. 21:21traditional
571. 21:22>> videographer for my sister
572. 21:23>> I'm saying your mom was preaching about
573. 21:25a traditional wedding
574. 21:27>> when
575. 21:27>> usually the father-in-law pays for the
576. 21:29wedding and then the groom would pay for
577. 21:31the the honeymoon
578. 21:32>> it's really hurtful that you say you
579. 21:34know you never want to be engaged
580. 21:35because I remember the day
581. 21:36>> I didn't say I didn't want to be engaged
582. 21:38>> the day before we got married you said
583. 21:40I'm so lucky that you didn't get smart
584. 21:42and leave
585. 21:44And you said you were telling me you
586. 21:46were praising me that like like I was
587. 21:49the best thing that ever happened to you
588. 21:50and you had no regrets. And there were
589. 21:52even times you told me I was like I was
590. 21:54honestly like so perfect, too good for
591. 21:56you and that I was so forgiving, so
592. 21:59kind. And I wish you would remember
593. 22:00those times cuz that is not what you're
594. 22:02saying now to everyone you know.
595. 22:05>> I know what you've been saying. You've
596. 22:06been saying that there's all these
597. 22:08little things since you've been dating.
598. 22:09Why do you think Why do you think I need
599. 22:11to go see a therapist to navigate this
600. 22:13stuff? I need to see a silver lining
601. 22:15here. So, let me see a therapist this
602. 22:17week and I'm going to navigate some of
603. 22:19this stuff. Help. I'm going to have them
604. 22:21help me with my feelings to understand
605. 22:22what's going on because right now all I
606. 22:25feel is pissed off and I don't want to
607. 22:26feel pissed off. I don't want to be mad
608. 22:28at you. I don't want to feel this way
609. 22:31and all I am is pissed.
610. 22:33That's why I'm not upset. That's why I'm
611. 22:35not. So, I have to go see a therapist so
612. 22:38I can navigate my emotions and I can
613. 22:40navigate the actual truth and the facts
614. 22:42of the matter instead of just pissed
615. 22:43off.
616. 22:46>> So, I'm trying to remember that those
617. 22:48engagements and those moments and I
618. 22:51remember a lot about the zins and the
619. 22:54other things and I just felt like there
620. 22:56were things I may have reacted like
621. 22:57poorly and gotten upset about and how I
622. 23:00reacted but just know like I didn't know
623. 23:03how else to react. like my husband's
624. 23:05three weeks before I got married.
625. 23:07Like that was really hard for me to
626. 23:09forget. And the whole like quarantine
627. 23:12thing, I never knew like if you were
628. 23:14going to keep doing that. Every guy I
629. 23:17talked to was like he has a problem with
630. 23:18me. Like if if the guy's doing it like
631. 23:21they'll never stop.
632. 23:23>> Yeah, that's BS. But
633. 23:24>> I'm just saying like there's it's not
634. 23:26just you that's had to do with her. And
635. 23:28I think it's just little things that
636. 23:29have added up in our relationship. After
637. 23:32those things, who apologized?
638. 23:34>> Yes.
639. 23:35>> And who actually changed?
640. 23:36>> I apologized for the wedding planning to
641. 23:38your mom and everyone. I And then
642. 23:41Michael, the whole no kids thing. I
643. 23:43behind your back was like, I changed my
644. 23:44mind. And I I asked like no, the ring
645. 23:47bear, the flower girl. I You told me
646. 23:50>> I've done it all.
647. 23:52>> And you even told me that Bailey lied
648. 23:54about the dog thing and going up the
649. 23:55stairs. And when I think about it, I
650. 23:58actually did give Bailey a hug at the
651. 23:59bridal shower when her and Mlan were
652. 24:01leaving. And then I was like, "Oh, I
653. 24:02think I got sick." So, there was one
654. 24:03time I didn't give her a hug, but then I
655. 24:05did give her a hug another time. So, I
656. 24:08don't know why she said no. She said no
657. 24:10when she was being rude to me and pissed
658. 24:11off with me. That never happened. I want
659. 24:13you to know that like
660. 24:15was right next to her the whole time.
661. 24:16>> I hugged Mlan and her when they were
662. 24:18leaving on the way out and I was like,
663. 24:19"Thank you guys so much for driving up
664. 24:21here. Like, I mean so much to know that
665. 24:23like driving isn't good for you. like I
666. 24:25understand it's really dangerous. I
667. 24:27literally told that to them.
668. 24:30I swear on my life. I literally said
669. 24:32that and I told Bailey like, "Thank you
670. 24:34so much. I know you work a lot and we're
671. 24:37off for this." And I was thanking them
672. 24:38like praising them.
673. 24:41I thank they got us the milkshakes. I
674. 24:42was like, "Thank you guys so much. Show
675. 24:43me cuz I knew you like it was going to
676. 24:45be my mom." And then I was like, "I
677. 24:46killed you, too." And then my milkshake
678. 24:48we went to Like I was so sweet to
679. 24:51them.
680. 24:53I swear on my life I never was rude to
681. 24:55Bailey
682. 24:59and the whole thing about like the kids
683. 25:00and the screen time. Like I want you to
684. 25:03know that like we talked about those
685. 25:06things that we didn't want our kids to
686. 25:07be like Noox or Marlo when they
687. 25:10>> I told I told Michaela the only thing
688. 25:11that I have an issue with is like how
689. 25:13much Nox is on the iPad. I was like yeah
690. 25:15that's that's it. And then I I said, you
691. 25:16know, I feel like and then Bailey and I
692. 25:18talked about it and she was like, "Yeah,
693. 25:19I don't know why like like Michael
694. 25:22didn't just get like babysitters for the
695. 25:25wedding."
696. 25:25>> So Bailey and I have talked about these
697. 25:27things like together.
698. 25:28>> I understand. I'm I'm not love. I'm
699. 25:30>> I just don't When I spoke with your mom
700. 25:32today, I was really hurt that the fact
701. 25:35she's sticking up
702. 25:36>> your mom
703. 25:37>> yesterday.
704. 25:38>> Yeah. When we spoke to my mom today, she
705. 25:41I I know I was really hurt by the fact
706. 25:43that like I felt like such like hated to
707. 25:47be such bad person that I left the house
708. 25:51thinking that like you honestly hated
709. 25:53me. Like you didn't say one thing about
710. 25:56me. Not one good reason why you should
711. 25:58stay there, but every
712. 26:01hurt so bad.
713. 26:07for telling everyone not nothing the
714. 26:09good I've done, the sacrifices I made
715. 26:12for you.
716. 26:14It's all just
717. 26:17And I didn't even know that this stuff
718. 26:19was still bothering you. Like you were
719. 26:20holding on to every little thing. Like
720. 26:22still the engagement I didn't even
721. 26:24know you were holding on to that until
722. 26:25now.
723. 26:26>> I didn't.
724. 26:28You know, I forgave and let go. That's
725. 26:30why every time that we'd hash something
726. 26:32out and I say, "There's a lot that you
727. 26:34do to me that I can't even remember and
728. 26:37I would always, you know, for the
729. 26:39betterment of the relationship would
730. 26:41roll off my back and I forgive you and I
731. 26:43let go of." And you said, "Name one
732. 26:46thing. Name one thing that I do that
733. 26:47bothers you." You would always do that.
734. 26:49And I would say, "For the betterment of
735. 26:51the relationship, I let it go. I don't
736. 26:54know 100% your circumstance, but there's
737. 26:56a lot that you did that bothered me.
738. 27:00And I told you about it
739. 27:02>> and then there was alone and fix it
740. 27:04before this.
741. 27:05>> I did. I did. I did when it was in
742. 27:07>> You had an issue with me. I wasn't
743. 27:08fixing it. Why did you suggest therapy
744. 27:10>> when it was in the moment? Because I'm
745. 27:13not a therapy person. I did it in the
746. 27:15moment and understanding that you would
747. 27:17be an adult about it and hear me out.
748. 27:23But you didn't want to hear me out. You
749. 27:25kept talking over me and then it became
750. 27:27arguments. And then he would talk over
751. 27:28me even more and he would never let me
752. 27:30get my two cents in.
753. 27:35I tried to warn you about this kind of
754. 27:37stuff. I tried and I dealt with it for
755. 27:40so long.
756. 27:44So, and like I said, since you put the
757. 27:47wedge between me and my kid and you use
758. 27:49him as leverage, I'm only but pissed.
759. 27:53But there is silver linings because I do
760. 27:57love you and I do know I married you for
761. 27:58a reason. But all I feel right now is
762. 28:01just hurt. So I need to go see a
763. 28:04therapist sometime this week. If Mark's
764. 28:07going to put in a good word for me, his
765. 28:09wife is going to put in a good word for
766. 28:10me so that she can fasttrack me and see
767. 28:12me sometime this week.
768. 28:13>> But what if not?
769. 28:15>> No, it's not going to be what if not.
770. 28:16She already said she would.
771. 28:19I just don't know when. But it's going
772. 28:21to happen sometime this week and I will
773. 28:23have a conversation with her so she can
774. 28:24navigate my feelings so she can help me
775. 28:26see past just super upset. I need to be
776. 28:30able to see a silver lining here. But
777. 28:32all I feel is pissed.
778. 28:35I'm sorry, but that's just that's just
779. 28:37what it is.
780. 28:40Well, I'm sorry for the way I treat you
781. 28:41since we have honestly I I went to the
782. 28:44doctor gynecologist
783. 28:46and they did say I have like postpartum
784. 28:49thyroid issue. That's like
785. 28:52>> and
786. 28:53>> also why did you lie to me?
787. 28:54>> What do you mean?
788. 28:55>> I called your osteopath.
789. 28:57>> What do you mean? Why did I lie?
790. 28:58>> I talked to them and they said no you
791. 29:01why why she can bring her baby? No, they
792. 29:03said that I'm allowed to bring him, but
793. 29:05last time I was with him for an hour, he
794. 29:07cried most. I mean, and then my doctor
795. 29:10said, "Yeah, it's best, you know, if you
796. 29:13like."
797. 29:14>> He doesn't remember. I had a
798. 29:15conversation with him. He didn't even
799. 29:16remember that.
800. 29:18>> I swear, Mason, like I literally I even
801. 29:20the chiropractor, he screams. I told you
802. 29:23about it when I put him down the car
803. 29:24screens. When I pick him back up in the
804. 29:26car seat, he's fine. It's literally the
805. 29:28second I put him down on the floor, he
806. 29:30freaks out and he looks at me. He's
807. 29:31like, "It's squiggles."
808. 29:34I'm not lying.
809. 29:37It's really hard for me to bring him to
810. 29:38my appointments because I can't touch
811. 29:40him. Like when I'm on the table getting
812. 29:43treated, I can't go over to him. So even
813. 29:46at the chiropractor, my chiropractor has
814. 29:47had to like put back in his mouth to try
815. 29:49to soo him while treating me. And then
816. 29:51it makes him lame.
817. 29:53>> So it's hard.
818. 29:53>> I don't know. It just feels like you're
819. 29:55just It I just don't know what to
820. 29:57believe anymore cuz your osteopath says,
821. 29:59"Yeah, she can bring the baby."
822. 30:00>> I swear.
823. 30:01Listen, I you you've seen him cry in the
824. 30:04car seat if you leave him somewhere.
825. 30:05Like he will just start screaming.
826. 30:07>> He's pretty asleep right now and we've
827. 30:08been stationary this whole time.
828. 30:10>> I know that cuz he was he fell asleep in
829. 30:12my arms on the way to put him in the car
830. 30:13seat. He was already asleep when I left
831. 30:15and brought him to you.
832. 30:17He literally didn't even wake up when I
833. 30:18strapped. He was already asleep.
834. 30:22I I want I would I'm not going to Why
835. 30:25did I lie to you now when you're
836. 30:27already?
837. 30:28>> You're partially telling your parents
838. 30:29the truth. I don't I had to tell your
839. 30:31parent stuff cuz I didn't know you told
840. 30:33that.
841. 30:33>> It's not even the sex stuff. It's
842. 30:35talking about like how you used Levi
843. 30:37against me. It's talking about how you
844. 30:40were the one that were saying that you
845. 30:41would find better. Like it's all of that
846. 30:43and you didn't tell your parents the
847. 30:44full truth.
848. 30:45>> I want you to know that's cuz my mom
849. 30:47because my mom always put in my head.
850. 30:49I'll put in my head. She was like,
851. 30:51>> "Don't
852. 30:53tell me.
853. 30:53>> You take's not treating you right.
854. 30:56Everything's solid. I'm like you need to
855. 30:58leave. She's been such a pain with the
856. 31:00whole money thing.
857. 31:04Where is my money? She's like,
858. 31:10>> you don't get to put it on your mom.
859. 31:11This is accountability.
860. 31:12>> No, I'm dead ass. My dad has reached
861. 31:15out. He called me the day of that you
862. 31:17took the money out of account and he
863. 31:18said, "Where's the rent money? Is Mason
864. 31:20paying that?" And I had nothing to say.
865. 31:23They're on my ass about it.
866. 31:28for over a month. So they're like,
867. 31:30>> but I haven't had a full paycheck. I've
868. 31:32been happy to play ketchup.
869. 31:41Oops.
870. 31:43>> Where's his
871. 31:57foot?
872. 32:05What I