July 3, 2026 — Transcript

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1. 0:22What's up?
2. 0:26>> What's up?
3. 0:28>> I don't want to miss it. What's up?
4. 0:34>> So, I sent you a letter last week,
5. 0:36remember? And it was about being more
6. 0:38like compassionate like when I'm upset
7. 0:41and attending to like that and not just
8. 0:44ignoring when I'm upset.
9. 0:47And you know I'm upset. You knew I was
10. 0:49upset last night and you have not like
11. 0:52said a word to me. And what you said was
12. 0:54completely uncalled for. I've gotten no
13. 0:57apology, no recognition. You're already
14. 0:59on thin ice. And when you act like this,
15. 1:03it does not help at all.
16. 1:06Like, I'm not joking. I am so close to
17. 1:10being like, I I want a break. Like, I am
18. 1:12like thin ice. Like,
19. 1:14>> we're married. We don't take this.
20. 1:16>> No, no, no, no. We don't ignore each
21. 1:18other. And we don't do all that
22. 1:20>> I didn't ignore you. I just called you
23. 1:21all.
24. 1:22>> You've done me wrong here. And then last
25. 1:24night, I deserve an apology. You didn't
26. 1:26kiss me. You didn't say good night.
27. 1:29>> Nothing. That's all I wanted. And you
28. 1:31didn't do any of it. And you were just
29. 1:32like, I'm going to bed. I'm too tired.
30. 1:33We had a full 10-minute conversation.
31. 1:36You couldn't have just been like, "Yeah,
32. 1:37you're right. Sorry. Love you. Good
33. 1:39night."
34. 1:40>> That would have prevented all of it. I
35. 1:43was not being rude.
36. 1:46>> No, you need to you if you know your
37. 1:48wife is upset with you and this morning
38. 1:50he woke up at 7:30. I heard you
39. 1:52up here. You didn't come in and be like,
40. 1:54"I'm going to the gym. Bye." Like, "Love
41. 1:56you." Nothing. You just left for the
42. 1:59gym.
43. 2:01>> I'm not doing this. Like
44. 2:03>> your mom said I can still come to family
45. 2:05events and and she was like if
46. 2:06you're pissed at Mason you can come and
47. 2:08just be like I'm not talking to Mason
48. 2:10and I'm that close to doing that or just
49. 2:11not even going.
50. 2:14>> I can't keep putting on a fake face
51. 2:16around your family. Like everything's
52. 2:19fine.
53. 2:19>> This is your choice.
54. 2:20>> You are treating me like right now.
55. 2:23Yes, you are. You've not apologized.
56. 2:25What attitude? I asked you for a kiss, a
57. 2:28hug, or that's it. Just all good night.
58. 2:30I didn't ask for sex. I didn't ask for
59. 2:31intimacy.
60. 2:32>> I'm not saying that you weren't being
61. 2:33sweet then.
62. 2:34>> So what I can ask for that,
63. 2:37>> you know what I don't appreciate? When
64. 2:39you say that somebody's bugging you the
65. 2:41next very next day, I knew it.
66. 2:44Like doing the dishes and cleaning the
67. 2:45hole downstairs.
68. 2:47>> Instead of taking personal time, I
69. 2:49took my day to make you happy
70. 2:51and make it easier on you.
71. 2:52>> And I appreciate it and it allowed me to
72. 2:54rest.
73. 2:54>> So why the are you saying I have an
74. 2:56attitude and I'm being rude?
75. 2:58>> I'm talking about before you asked for
76. 2:59it. No, I literally all I did was tap
77. 3:02you to go to the other room to go to bed
78. 3:04cuz I assume you don't want to sleep
79. 3:05downstairs on the couch or on the
80. 3:07nursery. I'm assuming you want to sleep
81. 3:08in bed.
82. 3:08>> That's fine. You can wake me up. That's
83. 3:10not
84. 3:10>> So, what did I do wrong? Why was I being
85. 3:13rude?
86. 3:14>> How was I being rude?
87. 3:16>> Before Before you asked for it, you were
88. 3:19being rude and all I was doing was just
89. 3:21calling you out on your attitude. That's
90. 3:23it.
91. 3:24>> Change your behavior or I'm not going to
92. 3:25live in this environment. I will go I
93. 3:27will go back to California for a month
94. 3:28and you can figure out your attitude and
95. 3:30go to therapy in that time and then I'll
96. 3:32come back. I'm not doing this
97. 3:34>> My attitude is fine.
98. 3:36>> No, you don't. Reflect. No, you need to
99. 3:38self-reflect on yourself. No, you need
100. 3:40what stuff. How was I being rude? What
101. 3:42did I do? Tell me what I did. What did I
102. 3:44do?
103. 3:45>> I told you last night.
104. 3:46>> Tell me now. What?
105. 3:47>> I'm not going.
106. 3:47>> What did I do? No. What did I do that
107. 3:50was so rude that you couldn't give me a
108. 3:52hug and a kiss? Good night. I told you
109. 3:53it was.
110. 3:54>> Unless I killed your cat or your
111. 3:56dog, you should be able to hug me and
112. 3:58kiss me good night.
113. 3:59>> I don't know why you're yelling at me.
114. 4:00>> You need to hug me and kiss me good
115. 4:02night. We weren't I wasn't even mad at
116. 4:04you. Like, why didn't you hug me or kiss
117. 4:05me good night?
118. 4:06>> I was not that upset with you.
119. 4:07>> Why didn't you hug me or kiss me good
120. 4:09night when I asked you to? I asked you
121. 4:11multiple times. Why did you not hug me
122. 4:13or kiss me good night?
123. 4:14>> I was not upset with you at all.
124. 4:16>> Then why then why why' you say the cat's
125. 4:18being sweet though? Why' you say that
126. 4:19then? Because before your comment before
127. 4:22>> what comment? You can't even remember
128. 4:24what comment.
129. 4:25>> Love.
130. 4:26>> Tell me what comment. What did I say?
131. 4:29When I asked you for a hug or a kiss?
132. 4:31That one?
133. 4:32>> No.
134. 4:32>> Then what?
135. 4:33>> Before that one sad that you don't
136. 4:35remember
137. 4:35>> the one to set your alarms so that it
138. 4:38didn't wake up me and Levi cuz he wakes
139. 4:40up to them too.
140. 4:41>> That one.
141. 4:42>> Well, that's
142. 4:43>> which one?
143. 4:44>> That's one of them.
144. 4:45>> Oh, yeah. Okay. So, I didn't want you to
145. 4:46wake me up. I'm sorry. What else? How
146. 4:48was I being rude? I'm sorry for being
147. 4:50rude that I didn't want to have to wake
148. 4:52up at 5:45 a.m.
149. 4:54>> I already have to wake up.
150. 4:56>> You need to wake up earlier to go to the
151. 4:57gym.
152. 4:58>> But I You said you weren't going to You
153. 5:00were like, "I want to sleep in at least
154. 5:01a little bit."
155. 5:02>> You told me to let me sleep in. So
156. 5:04>> So I agree.
157. 5:04>> So I said Yeah. So if you agree, why was
158. 5:06I being rude? If you pull down your
159. 5:08phone and change your alarm, why am I
160. 5:09being rude? the the tone and the way
161. 5:11that you come about it is like how a
162. 5:13mother would correct
163. 5:14>> because you didn't even say you your mom
164. 5:16was like you sounds like you need to
165. 5:17mother him cuz you're you're he's not
166. 5:19doing You're punching walls.
167. 5:21You're acting like a child. You're not
168. 5:23being honest with me. Your mom said I
169. 5:26should I am acting like a mother.
170. 5:28>> You need to not you need to act like a
171. 5:30wife and not a mother.
172. 5:31>> I don't want to have to. You think I
173. 5:32want to spend my weekend today going to
174. 5:34the bank and and like pulling you
175. 5:36off and going to the gym pulling
176. 5:37you off? You think I want to spend my
177. 5:39holiday weekend doing this?
178. 5:42>> No. I want to enjoy it with your family.
179. 5:44I would be over there now.
180. 5:45>> Fine then.
181. 5:46>> But now we have to pick. No, I have to
182. 5:47pick up the pieces of all your mistakes.
183. 5:50>> Love, you're picking and choosing your
184. 5:52battle here.
185. 5:53>> Okay. There was no battle here that I
186. 5:55was trying to start. You started a
187. 5:57battle by saying the cat's being sweet
188. 5:59though. Meaning I don't deserve a hug
189. 6:00and a kiss.
190. 6:01>> Didn't say you didn't deserve it. that
191. 6:02then you didn't because that whole time
192. 6:04even with the argument even after the
193. 6:06argument even I said even when I went
194. 6:08downstairs and you came back you still
195. 6:10did not hug or kiss me you said you're
196. 6:12just being good night you were like I'm
197. 6:14just too tired I'm done I'm done I'm
198. 6:16going to bed good night you didn't kiss
199. 6:18me good night you didn't hug me good
200. 6:19night then if it wasn't that big of a
201. 6:20deal and you weren't that upset why
202. 6:21didn't you do it
203. 6:21>> I wasn't that upset
204. 6:23>> why couldn't you even lean over and kiss
205. 6:24me good night
206. 6:25>> all I said was the cat's being sweet
207. 6:27right now and that's
208. 6:28>> how am I not
209. 6:29>> all I said
210. 6:30>> how was I not though I was in bed
211. 6:32waiting waiting for you to cuddle. Every
212. 6:33night I turn back to you and you you
213. 6:36pull me in. Every single night you pull
214. 6:38me in. I always face this way. I plug in
215. 6:41my phone. Nope. That's I never am facing
216. 6:43you. I'm never on my back. I always once
217. 6:45I put my phone in, I turn over and you
218. 6:48always pull me in and you kiss me and
219. 6:50cuddle me good night.
220. 6:51>> We always spoon.
221. 6:53>> Always.
222. 6:54>> I know.
223. 6:54>> So, I didn't do anything wrong. I didn't
224. 6:56turn my back on you. That's my usual
225. 6:59routine. I do that every single night.
226. 7:01You can't even say I don't. I do.
227. 7:04>> So I in this situation last night, I did
228. 7:07nothing freaking wrong.
229. 7:09>> Love.
230. 7:09>> Even if you didn't like my tone about
231. 7:11something, I'm still your wife. You can
232. 7:13still kiss me good night and say I love
233. 7:14you.
234. 7:14>> Still call you out on your tone,
235. 7:16>> right? But you can still kiss me good
236. 7:17night and say I love you even if you're
237. 7:19mad.
238. 7:19>> You said that that's fine last night. I
239. 7:21said it.
240. 7:21>> So why didn't you? And why have you not
241. 7:23said this morning? You know, I'm sorry.
242. 7:24I You should have kissed you good night.
243. 7:26I should have kissed you good night.
244. 7:27Like why have you not said anything? I
245. 7:28told you last night I can still kiss you
246. 7:30good night. That's
247. 7:31>> You didn't though. And I was like, okay,
248. 7:33do it. And you didn't.
249. 7:34>> No, that's
250. 7:35>> I was like, I'm still waiting. I'm still
251. 7:37waiting. And you didn't.
252. 7:38>> I just called you out in your attitude.
253. 7:40That's it. You didn't do anything
254. 7:42though. You didn't kiss or hug me.
255. 7:44>> I was saying that I was giving the cat
256. 7:45affection cuz he was being sweet,
257. 7:47>> right? Where was my affection? Cuz I did
258. 7:48all this for you all day yesterday
259. 7:50and now today I'm going to go all do.
260. 7:51>> I was implying that I'm calling you out
261. 7:53on your attitude. That's
262. 7:55>> I call you out on your attitude and you
263. 7:56don't care. You're just like,
264. 7:57"Oh, yeah, whatever." And you storm out.
265. 8:00>> And like I said,
266. 8:01>> you don't fix it. If I'm like, "I call
267. 8:02you out for not apologies. You let me go
268. 8:04to bed upset. You let me wake up upset.
269. 8:06You went to the gym. I'm taking care of
270. 8:07the baby. I have to wake up at
271. 8:097. Like, I didn't get to sleep in."
272. 8:11Like, I got to do all this You get
273. 8:13to go to the gym. Whatever. Storm out.
274. 8:16>> I have to do all this to take care
275. 8:17of him.
276. 8:18>> I didn't storm out. I gave you your
277. 8:20space. You said fine. I'm not
278. 8:21>> space. I don't need space. I don't need
279. 8:24space. I need an apology. I said I need
280. 8:26an apology.
281. 8:27>> I love I'm not giving you any apology. I
282. 8:30didn't do anything
283. 8:30>> from last night.
284. 8:31>> I didn't do anything. Last night was not
285. 8:34that bad. All I
286. 8:36>> What you're going to do today then I'm
287. 8:37not going to talk to you. You're going
288. 8:38to go to the back to the gym if you
289. 8:40didn't already and switch it to your car
290. 8:42and if you don't have enough, I don't
291. 8:43care. I'm not paying for it anymore.
292. 8:44You're going to go back to the gym if
293. 8:45you forgot. You're going to go find a
294. 8:48therapist and I after my errands, I will
295. 8:51come get you and we will go down to the
296. 8:53bank together. That's how we're going to
297. 8:54spend our day. And I don't care if
298. 8:56you're like, "Oh, but my mother's in
299. 8:57town." Well, you didn't seem to care
300. 8:58when you did your car last week. So,
301. 9:00that's what we're going to do. I'm not
302. 9:01going to talk to you. I'm not going to
303. 9:02talk to you tonight. I'm not going to
304. 9:03talk to you tomorrow until I get an
305. 9:04apology that I deserve cuz I did nothing
306. 9:06wrong.
307. 9:13>> I didn't do anything.
308. 9:14>> Just called you out on your attitude.