If You Want a Girlfriend, Watch This — Transcript

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1. 0:00Have you ever just been laying in bed at
2. 0:01night just wishing you had someone?
3. 0:03>> [music]
4. 0:03>> Like you open your phone and you see
5. 0:04some random couple doing the simplest
6. 0:06things together, going on drives,
7. 0:08watching movies, or just laying next to
8. 0:09each other. And you can't help but
9. 0:10think, bro, I really want that. I don't
10. 0:13even care about having some perfect
11. 0:15relationship. I just [music] want a girl
12. 0:16who actually likes me. Someone who gets
13. 0:18excited when I text her. Someone who
14. 0:20spends time with me even [music] if
15. 0:21we're literally doing nothing. And I
16. 0:23think the worst part is when you start
17. 0:25wondering if you're ever going to
18. 0:26[music] actually experience that. Like
19. 0:28you see everyone else finding someone
20. 0:29and you're just sitting there thinking,
21. 0:31what's wrong with me? Am I not good
22. 0:32enough? Am I too awkward?
23. 0:34>> [music]
24. 0:34>> Or am I just going to be alone forever?
25. 0:35And I know that might sound really
26. 0:36dramatic to someone who's never felt
27. 0:38that way. But when you wanted something
28. 0:39for so long and it feels like everyone
29. 0:41[music] else has it except you, it
30. 0:42genuinely starts to hurt. And if that's
31. 0:44how you've been feeling lately, I want
32. 0:46to talk [music] to you for a little bit
33. 0:47because wanting to be loved isn't
34. 0:48something you should feel embarrassed
35. 0:49about. But there's something I think you
36. 0:51really need to understand. You actually
37. 0:53have to give yourself a chance. And I
38. 0:55know that sounds obvious, but hear me
39. 0:56out. You can't spend [music] every
40. 0:58single day doing the exact same thing.
41. 1:00Never meeting anyone new and then wonder
42. 1:01why you're still single. Like bro, if
43. 1:03the only people you talk to are your
44. 1:05friends and the [music] cashier at
45. 1:06Walmart, it's going to be pretty hard to
46. 1:07find someone. And I'm not saying you
47. 1:09need to start approaching every girl you
48. 1:10see, but you have [music] to put
49. 1:11yourself in situations where meeting
50. 1:13someone is actually possible. Go to
51. 1:15places with your friends. Talk to people
52. 1:16at school. Start conversations when you
53. 1:18[music] get the opportunity. And if
54. 1:19there's a girl you think is cute, don't
55. 1:21immediately start wondering whether
56. 1:23she'd date you. Just [music] get to know
57. 1:24her because here's something I think a
58. 1:25lot of guys do and I've definitely
59. 1:27caught myself doing it too. You see a
60. 1:29girl you like [music] and before you
61. 1:30even had a proper conversation, you're
62. 1:32already imagining what dating her would
63. 1:33be like. And suddenly, talking to her
64. 1:35feels like the most important thing in
65. 1:36the world. You're overthinking every
66. 1:38word,
67. 1:38>> [music]
68. 1:38>> every little interaction, wondering if
69. 1:40you somehow messed up. Bro, you're just
70. 1:42talking to another person. You don't
71. 1:43need to be perfect. You don't need some
72. 1:45crazy pickup line. Just be friendly, ask
73. 1:47her something, [music] and actually
74. 1:48listen to what she says. And if you two
75. 1:50get along, maybe ask to hang out
76. 1:52sometime.
77. 1:52>> [music]
78. 1:52>> That's how things start. But here's
79. 1:54another thing. Don't try to become
80. 1:55someone you're not. There's so much
81. 1:57dating advice online telling guys to act
82. 1:59like they don't care. Don't text back
83. 2:00too fast. [music] Don't show too much
84. 2:02interest. Make her chase you. I just
85. 2:04don't understand that. Like if you
86. 2:05genuinely like someone, why [music] are
87. 2:07you pretending you don't? Obviously,
88. 2:09there's a difference between showing
89. 2:10interest and being overwhelming, but you
90. 2:12shouldn't have to play games [music]
91. 2:13just to get someone to like you. And
92. 2:14look, I'm all for improving yourself. Go
93. 2:16to the gym, take care of [music]
94. 2:17yourself, work towards something you're
95. 2:18proud of. But do those things because
96. 2:20they're good for you, not because you
97. 2:22think you need to become a completely
98. 2:23different person before you're ready
99. 2:25ever relationship. Because if you have
100. 2:26to [music] fake your entire personality
101. 2:28to make someone like you, what's even
102. 2:29the point? Now, something else you need
103. 2:31to understand is that rejection is going
104. 2:33[music] to happen, especially when you
105. 2:35really thought something might work out.
106. 2:36You might sit there wondering if you
107. 2:37should have said something differently
108. 2:39or if there's something wrong with you.
109. 2:40But sometimes, someone [music] just
110. 2:42doesn't feel the same way and there's
111. 2:43not much you can do about it. And that's
112. 2:44okay. Think about it. You've probably
113. 2:46met people who were perfectly nice to
114. 2:48you, but you just weren't interested
115. 2:49[music] in them. It doesn't mean there's
116. 2:51anything wrong with them. The connection
117. 2:52just wasn't there. And the same thing
118. 2:54can happen to you. You can't make
119. 2:55someone [music] like you and you
120. 2:56shouldn't have to convince someone to be
121. 2:58with you. You want a girl who's actually
122. 3:00excited to see you, not someone you
123. 3:01constantly have to chase just to get a
124. 3:03little attention. And finally, please
125. 3:04don't put your entire life on hold
126. 3:06waiting for a girlfriend. Because I know
127. 3:07how easy it is to look at couples online
128. 3:09and wonder when it's finally going to be
129. 3:11your [music] turn. And sometimes,
130. 3:12especially at night, that feeling can
131. 3:14get pretty lonely. But I want you to
132. 3:15think about something. What if you spent
133. 3:17the next year doing nothing but wishing
134. 3:19you were in a relationship? You stop
135. 3:21making memories, stop enjoying things,
136. 3:23[music] and start treating every day
137. 3:24you're single like it's just another day
138. 3:26you have to get through. And then
139. 3:27[music] one day, you finally meet
140. 3:28someone. Does that mean the entire year
141. 3:30before was worthless? Of course not,
142. 3:32[music]
143. 3:32bro. Your life is happening right now.
144. 3:34You don't need to wait until you're in a
145. 3:36relationship to enjoy it. Keep doing
146. 3:37things you love. Keep making memories
147. 3:39[music] with your friends. Keep working
148. 3:40towards those goals. And when you meet
149. 3:42someone you're interested in, don't be
150. 3:43afraid to give it a chance. Because
151. 3:45here's the thing, [music] you might get
152. 3:46rejected, you might end up going on a
153. 3:48date, or you might meet someone who
154. 3:50becomes a really important part of your
155. 3:51life. You genuinely don't know until you
156. 3:53try, and I think [music] that's what I
157. 3:55really want you to take away from this
158. 3:56video. Don't spend the rest of your life
159. 3:58desperately searching for someone to
160. 3:59love you while forgetting to actually
161. 4:00live it. And when you do find someone,
162. 4:02remember [music] that it's not just
163. 4:03about having a girlfriend. It's about
164. 4:05having someone who genuinely care about,
165. 4:07who cares just as much about you.
166. 4:08Someone you can laugh with, trust, and
167. 4:11be around with. And if you haven't found
168. 4:12that person yet, [music] that's okay.
169. 4:14And it doesn't mean you never will.
170. 4:16Anyway, I hope this helps somebody out
171. 4:17there, and if you're [music] still
172. 4:18looking for that person, I genuinely
173. 4:19hope you find them. I'll see you guys in
174. 4:21the next one.