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0:00First of all, he said, he sent me a
0:00text, he said, "Hey, you should make a
0:01piece conference like this." And he sent
0:03me a something auto go by a guy named
0:05Adam Mastroianni. Hope I said that
0:07right.
0:08It said, it's called actually good
0:10advice. He said, most advice is bad.
0:12It's either obvious, like don't sweat
0:14the small stuff. If I thought it was
0:15small, I wouldn't be sweating it.
0:17Applicable to some people but not
0:18others, like be more aggressive. Some
0:20people should, sure, but other people
0:21need to cool it.
0:22Or wrong, live every day like it's your
0:24last. So, I should spend every day
0:26making funeral arrangements. Like that
0:28doesn't really work, right? So, for a
0:29long time I've been collecting pieces of
0:31advice that are applicable to everybody,
0:33likely to help and unlikely to harm.
0:35Things that I've actually tried and
0:37worked for me, and things that I've seen
0:38work for other people. And then four,
0:40useful even without lots of context. So,
0:44that's the premise. And he had a list of
0:46his own, and I made a list for you guys
0:49that I thought you guys might find.
0:51So, let's start with
0:53actually good advice,
0:55number one.
0:56Compliment people when they don't think
0:59that they can hear you. All right, so
1:00for example, if you have a waiter who
1:02comes over and they're doing a good job,
1:03you can say, "Hey, you're doing a great
1:04job." But it's way more valuable to wait
1:07till they turn away, wait till they go
1:09like one or two tables and be like, "Was
1:11that waiter awesome? They've been on top
1:12of everything today." Right? Like that
1:14If they can hear you, but they don't
1:16think that you can hear that they can
1:18hear you, then the compliment actually
1:20hits like way harder. This also applies
1:22for like if you get out of an elevator
1:24and someone walks out and the doors are
1:26closing and they're walking away, you're
1:27like, "That guy was the nicest guy." So,
1:29if you want a compliment to like really
1:30hit, try it when you they don't think
1:34when you don't think that they think
1:35that you can hear that.
1:37Actually good advice, number two.
1:39When you're dieting, try to eat foods
1:41that you have to cut and chew.
1:44And on the flip side, when you're trying
1:45to gain weight, eat foods that you can
1:47drink or eat with a spoon. So, like
1:48cutting a steak and a salad it just
1:50takes longer and it's like way less than
1:52the same calories of a steak ground up,
1:54you can eat it like two seconds versus
1:55chewing and cutting the whole way. We
1:57good?
1:58>> The audio is a little weird.
1:59>> A little janky?
2:00>> Yeah.
2:00>> You got a little janky audio?
2:02>> Yeah.
2:02>> You must You must be
2:03>> Plus, are you plugged in?
2:04>> I'm plugged in?
2:06We cooking? We cooking with gas? That's
2:08what I mean, though.
2:10Yeah, that's one. That's a good one.
2:12It's a keeper.
2:14All right. We'll see. We have We're
2:15getting a little little techy cows.
2:18Uh this is fun, though. A little little
2:19Wednesday time together.
2:22I might reset it first since the audio
2:23sucks, so I apologize for that.
2:25>> Sorry.
2:25>> Um but I do have a big mondo list. I got
2:27some good I got some good some good
2:29cookers today. Um I spent like some
2:31decent time on this list cuz I was like,
2:33what is actually really tactile advice
2:35that applies to anyone does no harm. Uh
2:38it was like a really good uh
2:40What do you call it? Um
2:42razor or filter
2:44uh for the advice. I'm curious for you
2:45guys
2:47uh if you guys have any of that, feel
2:48free to drop it in in the chat.
2:51We're going We're going this way?
2:53>> Yeah, I'm breaking it to you.
2:54>> All right. Breaking it breaking it to
2:55me.
2:56This is amazing.
2:59Hot tech.
3:01Oh, but I can't get I can't get a hold
3:02of the full time dude. I don't know.
3:04Oh, I'm holding it the whole time. I
3:05guess that would be horrible.
3:06>> All right, we'll do it. So, while he
3:08does that, I will read you guys number
3:10three. How's that?
3:12If you want someone to say yes, ask
3:15people no base questions. So, for
3:18example, would it be crazy if I asked
3:20for your number?
3:22Uh would you be totally against going
3:23out to dinner tonight?
3:25And so, the reason it works so well is
3:26that people feel safer when they say no.
3:28Uh Never Split the Difference, Chris
3:29Voss, uh was the first person I heard
3:31this from, and it was one of those
3:33things that I was like, oh, this is
3:34something that I do but didn't name. Um
3:37and so, to be clear, it's not like you
3:39have this ultimate cheat code that
3:40people are going to say yes to or no to
3:42say yes
3:43uh it will like every time you do it,
3:45but it's like right when you have these
3:46questions that are like kind of like at
3:48right on the edge, where it's a little
3:49bit bit an ask, but not like you know,
3:51like, "Hey, would you be opposed to
3:52giving me your home?" It's like, yeah,
3:53no, of course no one's going to say yes
3:54to that. But it's like, right when
3:56you're right on the edge of like
3:57something they might say yes to, that's
3:58where I think having a no-based question
4:00um is like the perfect setting for it.
4:03Let's see here. Uh
4:05actually good advice number four, uh
4:07when you're nervous to give a talk or
4:09have a conversation, just tell yourself
4:11that you're not nervous, you're excited.
4:13For whatever reason, the first time I
4:15heard this I was like, that is
4:16incredibly useful. And as somebody who
4:17like talks about in public and has a lot
4:19of high-stakes situations, um just
4:21saying like, "Oh, I am source. I am not
4:24the thing that things are happening to,
4:26I'm the thing that's happening to
4:27everything else.
4:28Um
4:28I am excited. I am not reactive in being
4:32nervous." And so, just a small frame
4:33that's helped me out a lot. Can I hand
4:35this to you or I'm going to stop
4:36talking? Okay.
4:37Um look at this way, look at this way.
4:38This way. This way. All right, cool.
4:41Let's continue to push, shall we? I
4:42think I
4:44Let's say everyone has already filled
4:45out a survey or your team has filled out
4:47a survey. Act as though most of them
4:49have actually done it, and then try and
4:51single out the few people who haven't
4:53done it, rather than try and be like,
4:54"Guys, no one's filled out the survey.
4:56What the hell?"
4:57Instead of saying,
4:59"Hey guys, most of you guys have already
5:00taken care of this, but there's a
5:01handful of you who haven't. You know who
5:03you are, get this done by the end of the
5:04day so that we can just be 100% on
5:06this."
5:07Everyone wants to be safe, and so being
5:09safe means being with the herd, being
5:11with the majority. And so, you don't
5:13want to have people feel like the
5:14majority are not doing something, and by
5:16doing that, they feel safe by not doing
5:18it. We want them to feel like the odd
5:19man out by not doing it. And so, you
5:21want to act as if most people have taken
5:23action, and then by extension, you'll
5:25get way more people doing it.
5:26I'm good.
5:27Uh actually good advice number six,
5:30accept that you will not be able to
5:31respond to every DM, text, call, or
5:33email, and you have to feel zero guilt,
5:35because it is a physical impossibility
5:37with scale. So, it makes money.
5:39If it is an option, not an obligation,
5:41because a message is an inbound bid for
5:43time, all right? So, unlimited people
5:46can ask you for your time and you only
5:49have a fixed amount of it. And so, is it
5:51it is basically a form of source social
5:54norm budgeting. Right? You have a so- a
5:56social budget of how much energy or time
5:58or whatever, and you have to budget a
6:00certain amount of it, and you have
6:01unlimited inbound requests, and you have
6:03to be willing to just say, "I'm not
6:04going to respond."
6:06Actually good advice number seven.
6:09If you want to end a friendship without
6:11confrontation, use a forced fizzle.
6:14Slow down response times to emails and
6:16texts and calls response rates with
6:19people that you want to not have a
6:20relationship with. And so, over time
6:23they'll start looking to other people or
6:25other places to get that fast I mean if
6:27like they text you, you text back, they
6:29text you, you text back. Just text,
6:31don't get a response, they start texting
6:32somebody else, and then over time rather
6:34than having like a harsh breakup call or
6:35big con- you know, confrontation, um
6:37usually you can just like slow fizzle
6:39them out and it's not nearly as big of a
6:40deal.
6:41Uh actually good advice number eight.
6:44When shaking hands,
6:45to have a firm handshake without looking
6:48like you're trying to crush the other
6:49person's hand, try to sink your webbing
6:52deeper into their hand. Because what
6:54happens is if you try and squeeze hard
6:56here, it crushes the person's knuckles,
6:57it feels really aggressive. If you
6:59squeeze hard here, all right, got to
7:01show you this part. Here we go. If you
7:03squeeze hard here, crushing their
7:04knuckles. If you sink the webbing and
7:06you kind of like have your hand almost
7:07at the wrist, you can squeeze as hard as
7:09you want, it doesn't hurt. And so, if
7:11you want to have a firm grip that
7:12doesn't look like you're being a dick,
7:13just sink the webbing when you squeeze.
7:15Just a little hack that I got from the
7:16internet.
7:17Um actually good advice number nine. If
7:20you're going to meet a bunch of new
7:21people, bring a pack of gum. Hear me
7:24out.
7:25When you open it up, ask every person
7:27individually if they want a piece of
7:29gum.
7:30And it's one of the cheapest ways of
7:32building reciprocity in a new
7:34environment. This works especially well
7:35for kids, but especially when you have a
7:37you know, basically one one gums pack
7:40worth of people that you're getting
7:41into. If you go to a 100-person concert,
7:43you know, maybe not a good idea. But if
7:44you're going to a room where you're
7:45going to 10, 15 new people, having that,
7:48also, one, be the first person to give.
7:50Number two, everybody has good breath,
7:52so it just makes everybody's life a lot
7:53better.
7:54Uh
7:55actually good advice, I think number 11.
7:57Uh to make sure meetings aren't a waste
7:59of time, just finish every meeting with
8:01who, what, when. As in, you cannot get
8:03off the meeting without saying who is
8:05going to do what by when, and it just
8:07makes it just completely consolidates
8:09what the hell did we just talk about,
8:10and make sure that we have action items
8:11that we can actually leave with.
8:12Something that I that I've done for
8:14years and worked really, really well.
8:17Uh actually good advice, number 12. If
8:19you're ever going to say that you're
8:21good at something, and you want people
8:22to believe you, cuz sometimes you don't
8:23have somebody else who can gas you up,
8:24you kind of have to let people know.
8:26Um
8:27list the things that you're bad at
8:28first, right? And then they'll actually
8:31believe the thing that you say you're
8:33good at. So, for example, if I say like,
8:34"Hey, you know, I don't shower as much
8:35as I should. You know, I've got a bum
8:37hip. Uh I eat more dessert than most
8:39people would consider, you know,
8:40healthy. I waited longer to have kids
8:41than I probably should have. Uh but over
8:43the years I learned to make ads that
8:44sell better than most people."
8:46The likelihood they'd believe the last
8:47statement is significantly higher if you
8:49say things that are true and damaging
8:51beforehand. Um I can't tell you how
8:54incredibly powerful this is in copy for
8:57persuasion. If you're going to make a
8:58claim, you don't just make the claim and
8:59have proof, that's good, too. But you
9:01become more relatable and likable by
9:04also saying all the things that you're
9:05not good at, as well.
9:06Um actually good advice, I think number
9:0813.
9:09So, if you if you want something, don't
9:13ask if someone can do it.
9:16Ask what it would take. So, for example,
9:19if I say, "Hey, can we get five videos
9:21edited by Friday?" I'm going to get a
9:23yes or no question or answer without any
9:25context. But if I say, "What would it
9:27take for us to get five videos edited by
9:29Friday?" I'm going to get the answer
9:31that question with the assumption that
9:32the five is going to happen, and then I
9:34get to choose whether the price is worth
9:35it to me. And so, that much person might
9:37say, "Hey, I have to not have to
9:39deprioritize the other two things or
9:40have to skip two meetings or I might not
9:42be able to do the offsite." And I might
9:43say at that point, "Yeah, that's totally
9:44worth it." But if I just ask the
9:45question, "Can you get me five videos by
9:47Friday?" they might say, "No." And then
9:48make the assumption that they basically
9:50make the decision for you with their
9:52calculus of your priorities without
9:55giving you context on how they're making
9:57the decision. And so I have found it to
9:59be a far more effective question to just
10:00say what I want and what it would take
10:02and then I get to determine based on
10:03what they give me is whether or not it's
10:04worth it.
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