If Nobody Ever Told You That You Were Enough, Watch This. — Transcript

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1. 0:00Angle, I said, I said angle, that's crazy.
2. 0:03All right, do you know what I realized?
3. 0:06I realized that most people do not treat
4. 0:09themselves as somebody that they get to experience.
5. 0:13And I'm telling you, this sh*t changed my
6. 0:16entire life.
7. 0:18It changed my relationship with myself.
8. 0:22Trigger warning, I grew up in a way
9. 0:24where every name in the book I was
10. 0:27called, okay?
11. 0:28There was just so much violence and just
12. 0:31so much verbal abuse and just so much,
13. 0:34it was just terrible.
14. 0:36It got to a point in my life
15. 0:37where I will tell people, there's nothing you
16. 0:38can say to me that can move me
17. 0:40because I've heard it all at home.
18. 0:42My childhood made me believe that everything about
19. 0:44me was wrong.
20. 0:45Every time you relate to people, they are
21. 0:47giving you information about how they see you,
22. 0:51about your place in the world, how they
23. 0:53accept you, how it allows you to move
24. 0:55through the world.
25. 0:55Why do you think people pleasing is a
26. 0:57thing? I had to figure out a way to
27. 1:01create a relationship with myself where I could
28. 1:04gather information about myself outside all that I
29. 1:07had been given.
30. 1:08And the only way I could do that
31. 1:10was by treating myself as a separate entity,
32. 1:14a separate person.
33. 1:15Sometimes the reason why we struggle so much
34. 1:17is you're moving through the world.
35. 1:19Your entire way of moving through the world
36. 1:21is about how other people relate to you
37. 1:24and how you relate to other people.
38. 1:25But I had to turn it around where
39. 1:28I included myself in the other people that
40. 1:32I relate to.
41. 1:33How do I treat Pearl?
42. 1:36What does Pearl need?
43. 1:37What does she like?
44. 1:38I thought about it this way.
45. 1:40When somebody comes to you, when a person
46. 1:42comes to you to talk to you and
47. 1:43you care about what they're saying, you sit
48. 1:45down and you listen, don't you?
49. 1:46You listen to them, they talk about their
50. 1:48problems or they talk about what's on their
51. 1:50mind.
52. 1:50You give them your 100% attention.
53. 1:53I started treating myself that way.
54. 1:55I will sit in silence for hours.
55. 1:58Yeah.
56. 2:00And I'll try to hear my thoughts.
57. 2:02What is going on?
58. 2:02What is coming up for me?
59. 2:04This is part of the reason why I
60. 2:05don't drink.
61. 2:06I don't smoke.
62. 2:07I don't use any substances because I told
63. 2:09myself, I want to be somebody who knows
64. 2:13this person.
65. 2:14I want to know Pearl so much that
66. 2:16nobody can tell me something about Pearl that
67. 2:18I don't know about Pearl.
68. 2:20I have full conversations with myself.
69. 2:22Sometimes when things are swelling in my head,
70. 2:24I will just stand for a few minutes
71. 2:27and I'll be like, Pearl, what's going on?
72. 2:29And I will speak and I will answer
73. 2:30and I will go, you know, this is
74. 2:32what I'm thinking.
75. 2:33And I'll allow all parts of me, all
76. 2:35my tension, I'll speak it all out as
77. 2:38if there are two people or three people
78. 2:39in the room.
79. 2:40If I'm mean to me, I go, oh
80. 2:42my God, I am sorry, babe.
81. 2:45I kiss myself.
82. 2:46I have my lip gloss on now, so
83. 2:47I'm not gonna do it.
84. 2:48But if something good happens, the way people
85. 2:51hug you and they're like, oh my God,
86. 2:52Pearl, I love you, I love you.
87. 2:53And you know, my friends, sometimes they hug
88. 2:55you and they kiss you.
89. 2:56When I get the kisses and hugs from
90. 2:57everybody, I kiss myself too.
91. 3:00I go, I love you so much, thank
92. 3:02you, thank you.
93. 3:03I pat my bum.
94. 3:04Let me keep this iPad.
95. 3:05I pat my bum.
96. 3:06I'm like, well done.
97. 3:08I'm like, boo, well done.
98. 3:11I do it all the time.
99. 3:12By treating myself like that, I allowed myself,
100. 3:16I allowed myself to exist fully.
101. 3:18I still haven't met anybody who has told
102. 3:20me something about myself that I don't know.
103. 3:22I'm just telling you, because I make studying
104. 3:26Pearl a daily task.
105. 3:30Wow, I didn't know this about Pearl.
106. 3:33That's so interesting, babe.
107. 3:34Wow, this has changed from this time.
108. 3:36Oh my God, babe.
109. 3:38And it's a whole thing.
110. 3:39It's as if there's another person in the
111. 3:40room.
112. 3:41Okay, when you're with people that you love,
113. 3:42what do you do?
114. 3:43You're learning, you're trying to accommodate them.
115. 3:45You're trying to know what works for them,
116. 3:47what doesn't work for them.
117. 3:48You're trying to see how you guys merge,
118. 3:50how you work together, you do your best.
119. 3:53But because you're like merged with yourself, you
120. 3:56just let it go with yourself.
121. 3:58You're rude, you're mean, you're nasty, you're unkind.
122. 4:03Maybe some people, you don't need this, but
123. 4:05I'm speaking to people who struggle.
124. 4:07Maybe your entire sense of self has been
125. 4:10built by a lot of trauma and a
126. 4:12lot of pain and a lot of struggle.
127. 4:14This might help you because now you become
128. 4:17a trusted adult.
129. 4:18You know how as children they'll say bring
130. 4:21a trusted adult.
131. 4:23What is a trusted adult?
132. 4:24A trusted adult is a person who holds
133. 4:26on all the information, all the necessary information
134. 4:29about a thing, about a person, about a
135. 4:32situation.
136. 4:32When you call a trusted adult, the person
137. 4:35you're calling them for trusts that something will
138. 4:38be sorted in one way or the other.
139. 4:41The reason they are trusted is because when
140. 4:44they come into the situation, something will change.
141. 4:47When someone says, call your manager, I'm the
142. 4:50manager, okay?
143. 4:51In this business of Pearl, I am the
144. 4:54manager.
145. 4:55So when I say something about myself, I
146. 4:57mean it because I know myself.
147. 5:01Genuinely, I am so curious about myself.
148. 5:04I know myself enough to know my limits.
149. 5:08I know myself enough to know my, not
150. 5:11just my limits, my shortcomings.
151. 5:14It's basically treating yourself like somebody you are
152. 5:17in a relationship with.
153. 5:19You will not ignore your loved ones for
154. 5:22so long and then be wondering why the
155. 5:23relationship is terrible.
156. 5:24And that's what happens to most of us.
157. 5:27You ignore yourself, you don't know yourself.
158. 5:29Things have been happening, giving you information about
159. 5:32who you are, what you are, about what
160. 5:33you do.
161. 5:34You never catch it because at no point
162. 5:37in your life are you looking at yourself
163. 5:40as an entity that you also get to
164. 5:44experience.
165. 5:44And now listen, some people might think that
166. 5:46this is too much.
167. 5:47You shouldn't try to know yourself.
168. 5:48So too much awareness is bad.
169. 5:51Honestly, when I say stuff here, I'm not
170. 5:53trying to convince you of anything.
171. 5:55When I come in here, it's like, girl,
172. 5:57did you know?
173. 5:57Did you know?
174. 5:58Did you know I learned?
175. 6:00That's all I'm here to do.
176. 6:01I just know that there are people who
177. 6:03really struggle, honestly, to take up space in
178. 6:06this world, to be okay with themselves, to
179. 6:08love themselves, to hold their boundaries, to move
180. 6:12with confidence and with love and with care
181. 6:15for themselves.
182. 6:16As somebody who was never taught, I'm telling
183. 6:18you what I was handed about myself was
184. 6:21hate.
185. 6:22You are worthless.
186. 6:23You are useless.
187. 6:24I wish you were never born.
188. 6:26I hate you.
189. 6:26I hate you.
190. 6:27I started hearing these things from a really,
191. 6:30really, really early age.
192. 6:33You are ugly.
193. 6:35You're this, you're that, you're demonic.
194. 6:38You're a liar.
195. 6:39I want you dead.
196. 6:41I heard all these things.
197. 6:44Okay?
198. 6:45Okay?
199. 6:46No one told me I was beautiful and
200. 6:48that I'm confident and I'm this.
201. 6:50No one told me that I'm strong and
202. 6:53I'm able.
203. 6:54No one told me.
204. 6:55I learned this because I met Pearl, because
205. 6:59I asked about her, because I watched her,
206. 7:02because I read her.
207. 7:04I listened to Pearl.
208. 7:06So that's how I know.
209. 7:08Because by relating to Pearl as an entity
210. 7:12that I get to experience, the information is
211. 7:15fact.
212. 7:16So it countered all the words and the
213. 7:20lies because I have eyes.
214. 7:22I can see who Pearl is.
215. 7:26So no, the lies mean nothing.
216. 7:30They don't mean anything anymore.
217. 7:32Because I know Pearl and I seen her
218. 7:36and she's kind and she's firm and she's
219. 7:38assertive and she's powerful and she's sweet and
220. 7:43she's not always nice, but her heart is
221. 7:46so good.
222. 7:47Honest.
223. 7:48Oh girl, she's honest.
224. 7:49I knew this.
225. 7:51So when someone calls me names and when
226. 7:52someone says stuff about me, it just falls
227. 7:54off my back because you don't know Pearl.
228. 7:57I do.
229. 7:59And people who know Pearl wouldn't say that.
230. 8:01This is a very, very tiny shift.
231. 8:05Tiny shift.
232. 8:07Because when I tell you, oh, love yourself,
233. 8:09treat yourself better, don't criticize yourself.
234. 8:11It's not about feeling.
235. 8:13Out of habit, treat yourself like a separate
236. 8:16entity that you get to experience.
237. 8:21I spend all my time with me.
238. 8:24Almost all my time with me.
239. 8:25And even people who don't like spending time
240. 8:27with themselves, whether you like it or not,
241. 8:30you will spend almost all your time with
242. 8:33yourself.
243. 8:35So it's not even a choice.
244. 8:37If I know that I'm always with myself,
245. 8:39no matter what, everywhere I go, there I
246. 8:41would be, I have no option, absolutely no
247. 8:46option, okay?
248. 8:48Than to realize that at the end of
249. 8:49the day, the only person I should be
250. 8:53people pleasing for is me, that entity that
251. 8:57is me.
252. 8:57Because everywhere I go, the effects of my
253. 9:01action will follow me there.
254. 9:05Neurocosmic Notes is back.
255. 9:07There is my newsletter, okay?
256. 9:08I know some of you signed up and
257. 9:10you're like, where are my notes, Pearl?
258. 9:12Pearl girl, where are the notes you promised?
259. 9:14The notes are back.
260. 9:17To celebrate my welcoming back, or to celebrate
261. 9:19my coming back, I made a little guide
262. 9:21for you.
263. 9:22Just a small gift.
264. 9:23Download it in the first link, just the
265. 9:26first link.
266. 9:27It's a free guide, a self-inquiry guide
267. 9:30that I've made for you.
268. 9:31Now that I've figured out a system for
269. 9:32myself, you'll find me on Neurocosmic Notes.
270. 9:38You'll be hearing from me often.
271. 9:40So run, jump, hurry, and download your free
272. 9:45guide.
273. 9:45And I will see you in the next
274. 9:48video.
275. 9:50Bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.
276. 9:53I am saying bye.
277. 9:55Bye, bye, bye, bye.
278. 9:58I am saying bye.
279. 10:01Bye to a friend.
280. 10:02Bye to a brother.
281. 10:04Bye to a sister.
282. 10:06Bye to everybody, bye.
283. 10:08Bye to a brother.
284. 10:10Bye to a sister.
285. 10:12Bye, bye.
286. 10:13Oh, I'm saying bye.
287. 10:15Bye, I'm saying bye, bye.