If I Wanted a Great Partner, I'd Go on One Date a Week — Transcript

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1. 0:00How do we find Aella?
2. 0:03>> I didn't find you.
3. 0:06>> You found me?
4. 0:07>> Yeah, I guess I found you.
5. 0:09>> That's right. That's right. Be Be
6. 0:11findable.
7. 0:11>> Didn't I have to message you first?
8. 0:13>> You did. You did.
9. 0:14>> you on Bumble.
10. 0:15>> So, you got to have inbounds. I'm
11. 0:16telling you guys, got to go inbound. You
12. 0:18don't
13. 0:18>> want to be on Tinder. I thought it was
14. 0:19really This is like, you know, 10 years
15. 0:21ago. Tinder was nasty.
16. 0:23>> [laughter]
17. 0:23>> Bumble was like the upscale dating app
18. 0:26because Tinder I would open it up and
19. 0:28with Tinder it used to be like you open
20. 0:30it's just dicks.
21. 0:32>> [laughter]
22. 0:34>> That was it. It was just like messages.
23. 0:35I'm like, I don't know if you think that
24. 0:37girls like this, but they don't.
25. 0:39And then Bumble, the girl has to message
26. 0:41the guy first in order to allow him to
27. 0:43message her.
28. 0:43>> And then dicks.
29. 0:45>> And
30. 0:46>> [laughter]
31. 0:48>> we would not be sitting here.
32. 0:51>> Um no, I'll get the I think I think the
33. 0:54reality is that like
34. 0:56most people don't try very hard at
35. 0:57anything. And if we think of the
36. 0:59relationship that has the highest
37. 1:00correlation with your subjective
38. 1:01well-being, there's a 0.71 correlation
39. 1:03to the quality of the relationship you
40. 1:04have with your significant other and
41. 1:06your self-determined subjective
42. 1:08well-being. Meaning, how happy you are
43. 1:10has a 71% correlation with how much you
44. 1:12like your spouse. That's what that
45. 1:14means. And so, you think about all the
46. 1:16[ __ ] that you have in your life and
47. 1:17you've got one thing that's got a 0.71
48. 1:19correlation with it.
49. 1:22Like, probably worth going on more than
50. 1:24five [ __ ] dates.
51. 1:26And so, I think one of the things I
52. 1:27admire about Aella is that she did She
53. 1:28was like committed to doing one first
54. 1:30date a week. Of just like, I'm going to
55. 1:32go. I'm going to you know, go have
56. 1:34fro-yo or go have coffee or whatever the
57. 1:36thing is. So, and she just was like,
58. 1:38yep. Not the guy for me. I'll go to the
59. 1:40next date, you know, and just was like
60. 1:42so so militant about that and that's how
61. 1:45she got Like, volume negates luck. Like,
62. 1:48you have to talk to more people. Like,
63. 1:49think about Like, imagine for a moment
64. 1:51that you have one higher and you have to
65. 1:54stick with them for the rest of your
66. 1:55your business as your partner. Like, are
67. 1:57you going to are you going to interview
68. 1:59five people and just pick one? But like
69. 2:01that's how most people are living their
70. 2:02romance lives. It's like, okay, you
71. 2:04know, I went on I went on three dates.
72. 2:06It's like, dude, just go out there. And
73. 2:08of course, there's like, ah, guys are
74. 2:09getting shot down and it's harder than
75. 2:11ever. It's like, okay, well, you know,
76. 2:13there's a there's a it's both sides
77. 2:14there. Like, get in shape,
78. 2:17you know, be gainfully employed,
79. 2:21don't smell bad,
80. 2:22and then take a lot of shots.
81. 2:24Yeah.
82. 2:26Like you can wish the world it would
83. 2:27were different or say that it's not
84. 2:29fair. And you know what? You're probably
85. 2:30right. It also doesn't really matter.
86. 2:32Not for you. World's not going to change
87. 2:34for you.
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