Identity Shifting: How to Reinvent Yourself in 3-6 Months (in 2026) — Transcript

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1. 0:00One of the most powerful ways you can
2. 0:01reinvent yourself in three to six months
3. 0:03is through identity shifting. And that's
4. 0:06what we're talking about today. I'll
5. 0:08give you three practical steps. We'll
6. 0:10look at how you actually do this. So,
7. 0:12what exactly is identity shifting? Let
8. 0:14me explain it with an urban legend.
9. 0:16There's an urban legend of a goldfish
10. 0:18that it can only grow to the size of its
11. 0:20bowl. But then when you take that
12. 0:21goldfish and you put it in a large pond,
13. 0:23gets much bigger, eventually growing
14. 0:25into those expensive koiish you see in
15. 0:28Bond villain movies. We are just like
16. 0:30that fish and the bowl is our identity.
17. 0:33You can also call this your self-image.
18. 0:35How you see yourself. This is the
19. 0:37deepest layer of who you are. You have
20. 0:38three layers of change that you can
21. 0:41focus on. Most people start with the
22. 0:42third layer. This is actions. You want
23. 0:45to get fit, you go running. You want to
24. 0:47build a business, you post content. You
25. 0:49want to get in a relationship, you start
26. 0:51dating. One layer deeper are the stories
27. 0:53you tell yourself. So if you tell
28. 0:55yourself, ah, business is too
29. 0:56competitive, you know, I just can't get
30. 0:58ahead. Well, then it becomes a feedback
31. 0:59loop. It blocks the actions. All of that
32. 1:02is getting at the identity. James Clear
33. 1:04has a great book on this, Atomic Habits.
34. 1:06He says that the goal is not to go on a
35. 1:08run. It's to become a runner. That's an
36. 1:10identity goal. The goal is not to make a
37. 1:12million dollars. It's to become someone
38. 1:14who's financially free. The goal is not
39. 1:15to just go on dates and, you know, waste
40. 1:17time. It's to hopefully find someone you
41. 1:19vibe with that matches your lifestyle.
42. 1:21And here's the problem. Most people want
43. 1:23to change by going from the outside in.
44. 1:27But the faster way to change is to go
45. 1:29from the inside out. And when you change
46. 1:32your self-image, how you see yourself,
47. 1:35that changes your core stories of what
48. 1:37you can and can't achieve. And once
49. 1:39those change, of course, you're going to
50. 1:41take new actions because you're
51. 1:42basically a different person. You ever
52. 1:44seen someone do something you thought
53. 1:45was impossible and it totally rocks your
54. 1:47worldview of what is? This is
55. 1:49controlling the amount of money you make
56. 1:50or don't. This is controlling the type
57. 1:52of person you attract or don't. And this
58. 1:55is controlling your future you or if
59. 1:58you're held back in the past like we
60. 2:00spoke about. Now I want to give you
61. 2:02three steps to do this. But first I want
62. 2:04to tell you a brief story to really make
63. 2:06this land of how these identities hold
64. 2:09you back and are keeping you stuck. So
65. 2:11back in grade school I was a kid and we
66. 2:13were learning multiplication tables. I'm
67. 2:15sure you did something similar where
68. 2:17your teacher gets 12 of you up in the
69. 2:21black on the blackboard and she says,
70. 2:23"Okay, you're doing the ones. 1 * 1 is
71. 2:251. 1 * all the way up to 12. You're
72. 2:28doing the fives. 5 * 6 is 30. All the
73. 2:31way up to 12." Well, I got the 11s. So,
74. 2:34I'm up there sweating bullets in front
75. 2:36of the whole class trying to do mental
76. 2:39gymnastics to solve these damn 11s. I
77. 2:42didn't know the trick that it's 11, 22,
78. 2:4433, 44. I am the last one up there and
79. 2:48everyone starts laughing and I'm
80. 2:50humiliated. I carried that belief I'm
81. 2:52bad with math around through high
82. 2:54school, through college. It held me back
83. 2:56from classes cuz anytime there was math,
84. 2:58my identity was like, buddy, you don't
85. 3:00do math. Remember the 11s. And so when I
86. 3:03got into business post college for
87. 3:04myself, a funny thing happened. that
88. 3:07belief I'm bad at math. All of a sudden,
89. 3:09when the numbers meant something to me
90. 3:11and it was my business, I realized I
91. 3:14love math because numbers are just data.
92. 3:17And if we cut this, then we gain this
93. 3:19and oh, what if we move things around? I
94. 3:21realized that that identity I was bad at
95. 3:23math was just a story I had been
96. 3:25carrying around that wasn't true. And
97. 3:27so, the reason I'm telling you this is
98. 3:29because I call those identity anchors.
99. 3:31things that strap to you, you carry
100. 3:33around your whole life that are like
101. 3:36literal weight holding you back and
102. 3:38keeping you stuck. The gap between who
103. 3:40you are and who you could be is filled
104. 3:42with the stories you tell yourself. So,
105. 3:44the very first step you do to shift your
106. 3:47identity is ask yourself, what are the
107. 3:50three to five core stories I've been
108. 3:52telling myself keeping me in the small
109. 3:54bowl? Now, you're like, okay, well, what
110. 3:56are my stories? After working with
111. 3:58thousands of people, I noticed four
112. 4:00camps that a lot of these stories fall
113. 4:02into. So, I'll just give them to you
114. 4:04here. Take these, journal on them, and I
115. 4:07bet your core stories are going to be in
116. 4:08one of these four groups. I'm too old or
117. 4:12too young. I'll fail. And everyone will
118. 4:14insert the word. I'm not ready yet. I'm
119. 4:18not the kind of person who fill in the
120. 4:20blank. It's too late. It's too scary.
121. 4:22It's the wrong time. Or small bowl
122. 4:25syndrome. The most dangerous story isn't
123. 4:27the one that's completely false. It's
124. 4:29the one that's just true enough to where
125. 4:30you believe it. Hey, if you're liking
126. 4:32this before the next point, make sure
127. 4:34you're on our refusing to settle
128. 4:35newsletter down below. I send it every
129. 4:37Saturday morning directly to you with
130. 4:39ideas that'll change your life. But
131. 4:41knowing what your core stories are
132. 4:43aren't enough because people identify
133. 4:46them and they get caught in self-healing
134. 4:49hell I call it where their whole life
135. 4:51gets consumed with why they can't and
136. 4:53they have to find the root and oh I
137. 4:55can't move forward until I find this
138. 4:57thing. So the next step is as important
139. 5:00that I recommend doing as soon as
140. 5:02possible. In the same way people have
141. 5:04blueprints before they build a house.
142. 5:06You have to know a rough idea of who you
143. 5:09want to become. What would make it a win
144. 5:12for you? And so what I like to recommend
145. 5:14here is a very simple exercise, and
146. 5:17there's so many different ones, but this
147. 5:19one, if you do it, will at least get you
148. 5:22started. You grab a journal, you set a
149. 5:24timer for 30 minutes, and you write out
150. 5:27your ideal week. This doesn't have to be
151. 5:305 years from now, 10 years from now.
152. 5:32That can be really far away. But as if
153. 5:34right now, what would your ideal week
154. 5:36look like? Who are you surrounded by?
155. 5:38Who are you with? How do you carry
156. 5:41yourself? How are you structuring your
157. 5:42time? What do others say about you? What
158. 5:45do you do for work? Do you have any
159. 5:47hobbies? You want a bonus question? This
160. 5:50is one that I asked and without it, I
161. 5:54wouldn't have gotten the opportunity to
162. 5:56tour all around the world in one of my
163. 5:58favorite bands playing sold out shows. I
164. 6:00wouldn't have started this YouTube
165. 6:01channel. the question, "What do you
166. 6:04really want, but you're too scared to
167. 6:07ask for it?" Go after what you really
168. 6:09want. Find your real motivation for it.
169. 6:12And guess what? Your motivation changes
170. 6:14as you get closer to it. Like, it's
171. 6:16totally fine for you to say, "I want to
172. 6:18get in the best shape of my life so I
173. 6:20increase my uh dating life and I look
174. 6:23hot." That's totally better motivation
175. 6:25than to say, I want to lower my
176. 6:27cholesterol levels and, you know, have a
177. 6:28resting heart rate of it's totally fine
178. 6:30if you want to make a bunch of money so
179. 6:31that you escape your current situation
180. 6:33or so that you can buy the car you
181. 6:35always wanted to or live in the house
182. 6:37that you've been dreaming of. But it's a
183. 6:39natural process to work your way through
184. 6:41those base level wants. The reason I'm
185. 6:44saying this is because find your
186. 6:46authentic drive. Dig for it. Not what
187. 6:49sounds good on paper. Not if somebody
188. 6:51reads it what they're going to think.
189. 6:53Don't censor yourself. Write out what
190. 6:55you really want. All right. So, now that
191. 6:57you've identified your core stories,
192. 6:59you've set up the 2.0 version of you
193. 7:01through your ideal week or exercises
194. 7:04like that, you're ready to install it
195. 7:06into your brain. You need the third
196. 7:08step. Now, I say install because your
197. 7:10brain is like a supercomput. It
198. 7:12processes over 11 million bits of
199. 7:15information every single second, but
200. 7:17you're only conscious of about 40. Every
201. 7:19day you have between 60 and 70,000
202. 7:22thoughts. He's law states that your
203. 7:24neurons that fire together wire
204. 7:26together. You might have had the
205. 7:27experience of stubbing your toe and
206. 7:29boom, you fire off a four-letter word.
207. 7:32These associations are wiring your
208. 7:35brain. In fact, here's a video right now
209. 7:37of neurons connecting. They're like
210. 7:39little spiderw webs that when you're
211. 7:41learning start connecting together and
212. 7:44then that connection fires off faster
213. 7:47and faster the more you do that. That's
214. 7:49a badass video, isn't it? Super cool.
215. 7:51All of this is happening right now
216. 7:53whether you know it or not. Your whole
217. 7:55life you've trained yourself to fire and
218. 7:57wire a certain way for your old
219. 7:59identity. So if you want to install a
220. 8:01new one or what you just created or
221. 8:04break one, you need to rewire your mind.
222. 8:07But there's one thing that helps you
223. 8:08fire and wire and break these
224. 8:10connections like 10 times faster. You
225. 8:13want to know what it is? How can you
226. 8:15learn by doing? I've said this before,
227. 8:17but I thousand% believe it for you.
228. 8:20Every 1 hour of doing beats 10 hours of
229. 8:25planning, prepping, and researching. Who
230. 8:28learns more? The person who spends two
231. 8:30hours reading a book on surfing or the
232. 8:32person who gets in the ocean, falls off
233. 8:35the board, gets back up, learns by
234. 8:38doing. Now remember our two things
235. 8:40before this. The identity anchors. Well,
236. 8:43how can you do something about them once
237. 8:45you've identified them? You want to be
238. 8:47more charismatic? Start talking to every
239. 8:49single person you see throughout the
240. 8:50day. You want to be better articulating
241. 8:52yourself on camera? Turn it on and talk
242. 8:54to it for 15 minutes a day. You want to
243. 8:56be more disciplined, commit to a
244. 8:57challenge like 75 hard or one that you
245. 9:00come up with and make up for yourself.
246. 9:02You want to find your purpose, come up
247. 9:04with a list of 50 things you could try
248. 9:06and go down the list checking them off.
249. 9:08The key here is understanding that this
250. 9:10rewiring of your whole brain and
251. 9:12programming doesn't happen
252. 9:14automatically. And yeah, it can happen
253. 9:16through learning and consuming, but
254. 9:18it'll happen 10 times faster through
255. 9:20doing and testing. Are these stories
256. 9:23really true? Let me do something about
257. 9:25it. and testing. Do I really want this?
258. 9:27Let me make this happen. That is
259. 9:29identity shifting. Hope there was a few
260. 9:31things in there we haven't spoken about
261. 9:32in other videos. Some fresh ideas for
262. 9:34you. And if you want to get more done in
263. 9:38one week than most people do in an
264. 9:40entire year, I'll link up right here a
265. 9:42perfect follow-up. Over a million people
266. 9:44have seen this video and thought it was
267. 9:45useful. So, I think it's a good
268. 9:47follow-up if you're looking to get more
269. 9:48done. I'll see you there. Remember to do
270. 9:50hard things, bet on yourself, and make
271. 9:52your future self proud. Peace.