I FIXED My Whole Life In 1 Night, Learn How In 146 Seconds — Transcript

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1. 0:00Do you know your entire life can change
2. 0:01tonight?
3. 0:06And all it takes is one simple [music]
4. 0:07technique.
5. 0:11You ever notice how easy it is to spot
6. 0:13what's wrong with your friends' lives?
7. 0:16They hate their job.
8. 0:17>> [music]
9. 0:17>> So, quit.
10. 0:19Their partner cheated on them.
11. 0:21Just leave.
12. 0:23They have a dream, but don't have the
13. 0:25courage to chase it.
14. 0:26Start.
15. 0:28But when it comes to your problems,
16. 0:31well,
17. 0:33you draw a blank.
18. 0:35All of a sudden your life feels
19. 0:36impossibly complicated. Like the clear
20. 0:39advice you'd give someone else somehow
21. 0:41becomes harder to see in your own life.
22. 0:45This is called Solomon's paradox.
23. 0:47A psychological phenomenon where we
24. 0:49reason more wisely about other people's
25. 0:52problems
26. 0:53than our own.
27. 0:55And it's because your fear, your
28. 0:57history, your ego all get tangled up in
29. 1:00your problem. So, how do you gain
30. 1:01perspective and see your own life as
31. 1:03clearly as you see everyone else's?
32. 1:12Stop looking [music] at your life
33. 1:16from the inside.
34. 1:20Research on Solomon's paradox
35. 1:22>> [music]
36. 1:23>> found that when people took a more
37. 1:24distanced perspective of their own
38. 1:26lives,
39. 1:28>> [music]
40. 1:28>> they reasoned more wisely about them.
41. 1:31And one of the simplest ways to create
42. 1:33that distance [music]
43. 1:35is a simple writing exercise.
44. 1:37A writing exercise
45. 1:38>> [music]
46. 1:39>> where you stop referring to yourself as
47. 1:40I and instead refer to yourself in the
48. 1:44third-person perspective. [music]
49. 1:45Describe what this person wants, what
50. 1:48they're doing,
51. 1:49>> [music]
52. 1:49>> and what's stopping them.
53. 1:52Then ask, "If this person were my
54. 1:54friend,
55. 1:56what would I tell them to do?
56. 1:58It's a simple technique,
57. 2:00but it can change your life overnight.
58. 2:03Because sometimes
59. 2:05all you need to do is step outside of
60. 2:07yourself long enough
61. 2:09to see clearly what to do
62. 2:12when you step back in.