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- 0:00They say they've never been able to
- 0:01save money in their life. Their child
- 0:03wants extra tutoring, but they have no
- 0:05funds. How should they tell their child
- 0:06? Regarding spending, don't just teach
- 0:08kids to be "thrifty" because they don't
- 0:10know what level that means, but don't
- 0:11use the phrase "Mom and Dad have no
- 0:13money."
- 0:13>> Oh, what if we have 100 million in debt
- 0:15? Should we tell the kids?
- 0:16>> Mom, you stay out of it. The most
- 0:18frightening thing is that children
- 0:19aren't trained in financial
- 0:20decision-making. Children learn the
- 0:21most about money from their parents. In
- 0:23our house, we don't say money is hard
- 0:24to find, because money is easy to find.
- 0:26You should adjust your mindset, because
- 0:28eventually, all that debt will come
- 0:29back around to your kids. Hello. Today,
- 0:37we are back with the "Toh Ma Ngai" show
- 0:40again. A program that believes in the
- 0:42importance of childhood. Today is very
- 0:45special. We have a guest who is one of
- 0:50the top financial coaches in Thailand.
- 0:54As parents know, money matters are
- 0:56truly important. But in Thailand, very
- 0:59few schools actually teach financial
- 1:01literacy. Today, we have an expert in
- 1:03this field to share knowledge with all
- 1:05the parents. Welcome, Coach Num.
- 1:09>> Hello, hello.
- 1:11>> Hello.
- 1:12>> Yes, hello, hello.
- 1:13>> Coach Num, you've...
- 1:15>> Yes. ...
- 1:15>> been in the financial coaching industry
- 1:17for a very long time, ever since I was
- 1:19a kid, Coach Num.
- 1:20>> Oh, I'm done for.
- 1:22>> Just 21 years, just 21 years, since
- 1:262005.
- 1:27>> Yes.
- 1:28>> I've been doing this the whole time,
- 1:30and I might be lucky because I've met
- 1:32every generation and every age. Most of
- 1:36the students who come to learn with me
- 1:38are around 25 to 40 years old.
- 1:40>> Ah.
- 1:41>> And 20 years have passed, so now they
- 1:43have children, and they are all grown
- 1:45up, and they come to consult me too,
- 1:47saying......
- 1:48>> how should I teach my child, and things
- 1:50like that.
- 1:51>> So, it turns out I have more and more
- 1:53students from the younger generation
- 1:54now.
- 1:55>> Yes, indeed.
- 1:56>> And Coach Num, how do you teach young
- 1:58kids about money? Suppose that since
- 2:01Thai schools don't teach it, you teach
- 2:03them yourself. What do you think they
- 2:05need to know?
- 2:06>> Well, actually, we've created a course
- 2:08now called Money14.
- 2:11>> But we're starting with high school
- 2:12students first. There are two courses.
- 2:15Money14 for junior high. Money14 for
- 2:18senior high. It all started from
- 2:20talking to the Minister of Education.
- 2:24And they said that teachers couldn't
- 2:25teach it. It's not that the teachers
- 2:29aren't good at finance. But they
- 2:31already have too much on their plates.
- 2:33If they have to learn a new financial
- 2:34subject to teach kids, they wouldn't
- 2:36feel confident.
- 2:37>> So, we created instructional videos.
- 2:39>> We've released them, and they are now
- 2:41available for free nationwide.
- 2:43>> Uh-huh.
- 2:46>> At first, we thought teachers should be
- 2:48the ones teaching finance, but since I
- 2:50have children of my own, I looked at
- 2:52the reality—kids actually learn about
- 2:54money most from their parents.
- 2:58>> Mm.
- 2:59>> They are the most important teachers,
- 3:01not the ones in school. We found that a
- 3:04true fact is that a financial mindset
- 3:06is instilled through parents '
- 3:08conversations. Parents' financial
- 3:11perspectives are communicated directly.
- 3:13It's, well, we have to use this term.
- 3:15Parents are their children's heroes.
- 3:17>> So, how you act and how you talk about
- 3:19money matters.
- 3:19>> If parents argue every time they talk
- 3:21about money, the child will remember
- 3:23that money is a topic that shouldn't be
- 3:25discussed.
- 3:25>> Mm-hmm.
- 3:26>> Discussing it leads to fights, so when
- 3:28we built the curriculum, we had to sit
- 3:31down and talk to parents about how to
- 3:33make it easy for them to teach it;
- 3:35honestly, don't rush them, because if
- 3:37kids don't have fun, they won't learn.
- 3:39>> Right.
- 3:40>> Just don't force it on them. Go ask any
- 3:42kid if they like school. Not many will
- 3:44say they like school, right? If they
- 3:46like school, it's usually to see their
- 3:47friends. They might not like school
- 3:49because they think, "Oh, I'm so happy I
- 3:50get to sit and study." Therefore,
- 3:52absolutely do not force them.
- 3:55>> Maybe by late elementary school, when
- 3:56they start to understand the value of
- 3:58money.
- 4:00>> Mm.
- 4:02>> We can start teaching them about
- 4:03spending and saving, but don't teach
- 4:05them to just "be frugal" because they
- 4:07don't know what level qualifies as
- 4:09frugal.
- 4:11>> Mm.
- 4:12>> Right? For example, as adults, we know
- 4:15that eating noodles instead of shabu
- 4:17for the same meal is called being
- 4:19frugal, but they don't have that life
- 4:21experience yet.
- 4:23>> Instead of just saying "be frugal," we
- 4:26should teach them to "spend wisely." We
- 4:31talked about it.
- 4:32>> Yes.
- 4:32>> At this age, I always talk to and teach
- 4:34parents that you should talk to your
- 4:36children a lot. If you talk to your
- 4:37children a lot from when they are young
- 4:39, as they grow up, they will talk to
- 4:40you about everything.
- 4:41>> Mm.
- 4:42>> They will choose you as the first
- 4:43person to talk to.
- 4:44>> Yes.
- 4:45>> So, talk to your kids. For example, it
- 4:47was a new learning experience when my
- 4:50child was in the 4th grade. I remember,
- 4:53my child was in 4th grade, and suddenly
- 4:55, they asked to buy a phone.
- 4:57>> I asked, "What do you need a phone for?
- 4:59"
- 4:59>> Right? I pick them up every evening.
- 5:02And there has never been a day that I
- 5:03didn't show up. I thought maybe they
- 5:05wanted it for their grandmother, so
- 5:06what would they use it for? They said
- 5:08they wanted it to play games with
- 5:10friends. Nowadays, there are games that
- 5:12you can join and play together in
- 5:13groups, right?
- 5:14>> Um, they wanted to take photos. Okay,
- 5:16okay, what else? Take photos, what else
- 5:19? Play games, okay.
- 5:21>> You can probably guess what the coach
- 5:22would do.
- 5:23>> Then, I was surprised, doctor.
- 5:28>> I saw their friends holding iPhones and
- 5:30top-tier Galaxy phones, even in 4th
- 5:32grade. They probably had their heart
- 5:35set on getting something nice. We
- 5:38arrived and went into the shop. It was
- 5:41a mobile carrier shop. I said, "Look,
- 5:44here’s this one for 1,990." With a 12
- 5:47-month contract. A flat rate for the
- 5:50whole year for 1,990. This phone isn't
- 5:53junky at all, you know. But then we
- 5:55looked at the specs, oh, here, 4GB of
- 5:58RAM. I know enough to know that it can
- 6:00play games. The front camera, um...Rear
- 6:03camera is 48 megapixels. Their face
- 6:05fell and they said, "Hey, why is it
- 6:07like this?""Why is it not what I
- 6:09expected?""It doesn't look like my
- 6:11friends 'phones."
- 6:12>> The design didn't look as good as the
- 6:13others, so I told them... "
- 6:15>> What are you going to use it for?""If
- 6:16you want to play games, this one plays
- 6:18them just as fast as your friends'
- 6:19phones.""If you want to use it for
- 6:21photos?""This one might not take good
- 6:22photos at night.""But at night, you
- 6:24won't be meeting anyone anyway, not
- 6:25even your friends.""You only see them
- 6:26during the day.""Therefore, it takes
- 6:28clear photos during the day.""And do
- 6:29you know the best thing about this
- 6:31phone?""It's cheap.""If you're walking
- 6:33somewhere today and someone runs up and
- 6:34steals your phone...""Just let them
- 6:36have it, dear, don't run after them."
- 6:38It's dangerous, Dad is worried.
- 6:39>> Mm-hmm.
- 6:41>> Yeah, because if you carry expensive
- 6:43things, you'll feel regret if someone
- 6:45steals them or something happens. It's
- 6:47okay, kid, if it's lost, it's lost. Dad
- 6:49is worried about you, that's more
- 6:51important. So we can talk, we can talk
- 6:53about this, right?
- 6:54>> It’s fine. And he gets to see his
- 6:56friend's phone and how smooth it is,
- 6:58and this one is just as good, it plays
- 7:00just the same. So, we teach him to
- 7:03understand what to use and why.
- 7:05>> That's a very good example, wow, for...
- 7:08>> Yes.
- 7:09>> Real-life situations where the kids
- 7:11realize, "Oh, the features are the same
- 7:13."
- 7:13>> Yes.
- 7:14>> And it's cheaper.
- 7:15>> Yes, and it's the same with eating.
- 7:17I'll take my kids to eat street food,
- 7:19at night markets.
- 7:20>> Yes.
- 7:21>> Sometimes when we order pizza, I show
- 7:23them that for the four of us, it costs
- 7:26about 1,000.
- 7:27>> Yes.
- 7:28>> But when we eat street noodles, for the
- 7:30four of us, it's about 200.
- 7:32>> Mm.
- 7:32>> It's not that you can't be extravagant,
- 7:35kid, but it must not be beyond your
- 7:36means. If you have the purchasing power
- 7:38for pizza, you can buy it. There's
- 7:40nothing wrong with buying it because
- 7:42extravagance is happiness, but too much
- 7:44extravagance is beyond your means.
- 7:46>> Mm.
- 7:47>> So we teach them about spending like
- 7:48this since they are young. And I feel
- 7:50that parents should set an example. I
- 7:52notice I ask them, "Do you see what Dad
- 7:54eats the most in daily life?" Dad
- 7:56thinks it's probably stir-fried basil.
- 7:57So, are you eating stir-fried basil,
- 7:59kid? That's just how life is, right?
- 8:01There are delicious meals, and there
- 8:02are other kinds. As for the things you
- 8:04really want, just tell me. Sometimes,
- 8:06for some items...
- 8:07>> For a bag, buy a good one, because it
- 8:09lasts a long time, right? Things like
- 8:11that. As for books, whenever you want
- 8:12to buy them, tell Dad, no limit.
- 8:14>> Mm.
- 8:15>> If you want to read books.
- 8:16>> Yes.
- 8:16>> If you want to buy even comics or
- 8:18whatever, just tell Dad. Dad might be
- 8:21the one to filter things a bit. So, we
- 8:23teach spending based on function,
- 8:26necessity, and happiness.
- 8:27>> Which really, parents are the most
- 8:29important. Parents convey how we think
- 8:32when they buy something. Like you,
- 8:33breaking it down into features. We sit
- 8:35and talk every time. We sit and talk
- 8:37every time. Whatever you want to ask
- 8:39for...You come into the room. Buying
- 8:40headphones. Please, sit in the office.
- 8:43I have a chair for you.
- 8:44>> What is it, my child?
- 8:45>> But we don't need to get emotional;
- 8:47just listen to them directly. "
- 8:49>> Then let dad help you look," we search
- 8:51for things together when we're going to
- 8:53buy something. That’s how it is.
- 8:55Regarding saving money, many parents
- 8:57get really serious about it, but at
- 8:59home, I teach it simply.
- 9:00>> Hmm.
- 9:01>> I give you money; spend whatever you
- 9:03want, but don't spend it all—bring
- 9:04some back.
- 9:05>> Oh.
- 9:05>> There’s no rule that it must be 10%or
- 9:0720%; just make sure there’s some left
- 9:09over.
- 9:10>> Uh-huh.
- 9:10>> If they ask why they have to have some
- 9:12left over? I tell them it’s in case
- 9:14you want to save up one day to buy
- 9:15something that's a bit of a challenge
- 9:17for you. Like, if Dad won't buy it, you
- 9:19can buy it yourself. Don't teach kids
- 9:22to save money just because they might
- 9:23need it for emergencies in the future.
- 9:25Because their life experience isn't
- 9:27enough yet. They don't have enough to
- 9:29know what the dangers ahead might be.
- 9:31>> Uh.
- 9:31>> But let them save money to buy things
- 9:33for themselves.
- 9:33>> This really paints a clear picture.
- 9:35>> Yes, be proud.
- 9:36>> Wanting this or that.
- 9:38>> And when they buy something, absolutely
- 9:40do not interfere with them. I've taught
- 9:44this, but some parents still go and
- 9:46tell their kids to save up to buy
- 9:47things themselves. You could motivate
- 9:49them by saying if they save 5 baht,
- 9:51you'll put in 5 baht, for instance. But
- 9:53when they choose what to buy, don't
- 9:55interfere.
- 9:56>> It's their money.
- 9:57>> This mother got very upset when she
- 9:58found out what her child broke their
- 10:00piggy bank for. It turns out they
- 10:02bought a 7,000 baht Korean concert
- 10:03ticket. They sent a message saying it
- 10:05was super fun and amazing. What were
- 10:07they thinking? Something like that, you
- 10:09know? Tell the mother not to interfere.
- 10:12The most frightening thing is when a
- 10:13child isn't trained to make decisions
- 10:15about money. It's their money, not the
- 10:18mother's. And it didn't come out of the
- 10:20mother's pocket. It's their money, and
- 10:22they worked hard saving it up until
- 10:24they could achieve this goal. The
- 10:26mother must praise them.
- 10:27>> Your only duty is to prepare to drive
- 10:29them to the concert and wait to drop
- 10:31them off and pick them up, that's all.
- 10:33And just say, "Wow, you're so smart for
- 10:35saving up to buy this," and things like
- 10:37that. And we might need to tell them to
- 10:39enjoy the concert to the fullest and be
- 10:40happy. I went to the trouble of paying
- 10:42for this. Or if they finally save up
- 10:44enough and decide not to buy it,
- 10:46that’s their right to choose.
- 10:47>> Oh.
- 10:47>> I mean, if we don't train children—I
- 10:49have to put it this way. Money isn't
- 10:51about knowledge. Money is about
- 10:52decision-making. Whatever they do with
- 10:54their money, you have to give them that
- 10:56right. And keep it in moderation.
- 10:58Because some parents, when teaching
- 10:59about saving, are like—When they see
- 11:01their kid not saving, they get all
- 11:02stressed out. I say, no, no. They might
- 11:05have their own reasons. So, you have to
- 11:06make home a place where you can talk
- 11:08about money. Uh-huh.
- 11:09>> Once they reach the high school level,
- 11:11>> we start letting them practice managing
- 11:13money.
- 11:14>> By managing money, I mean giving them
- 11:16an allowance.
- 11:17>> It could be weekly or monthly. At my
- 11:20home, we have a rule of giving it
- 11:22weekly. But if it runs out before the
- 11:24week is up, we have to talk about it.
- 11:26There was one time my son went on a
- 11:28field trip to the Bank of Thailand.
- 11:31Then he bought some things he liked.
- 11:32And he bought them back. I asked, "Why
- 11:34did you buy so much?" He said he bought
- 11:37them as souvenirs. He was being very
- 11:39kind and thoughtful. He used his
- 11:40allowance for souvenirs and then the
- 11:42money was gone. So we sat and talked,
- 11:44and I said that thinking of others and
- 11:47buying gifts is okay, my child. But if
- 11:50it makes your own living money run out,
- 11:52then that’s not right. Also, when
- 11:55will you actually have time to see
- 11:57those people you bought gifts for? You
- 11:59have to think about that, too.
- 12:02>> It’s about opening the door so that
- 12:04whenever the money runs out, we can
- 12:05have a mature discussion.
- 12:07>> Uh-huh.
- 12:08>> At home, we joke with him, like, "Hey
- 12:10handsome, where did all your money go?"
- 12:12Then we talk, and I might say, "I
- 12:14understand, okay, I'll top it up," but
- 12:16there will be a lesson learned
- 12:18accordingly. And at the end of the week
- 12:20or month, you'll get the next allowance
- 12:22only when you submit your expense
- 12:23records, and Mom will be the one
- 12:25checking them. So on the 1st, they ask,
- 12:27"Why hasn't Mom transferred the money?"
- 12:29Well, she hasn't received the expense
- 12:31record yet; she doesn't know what you
- 12:33spent your money on. Actually, we don't
- 12:35really interfere with them much, but
- 12:36it's a way to train them to pay a
- 12:38little attention to money matters.
- 12:39>> This is for middle schoolers.
- 12:41>> In middle school, we already started
- 12:42training them by giving them a weekly
- 12:44allowance.
- 12:44>> Uh-huh.
- 12:45>> But once they get to high school or
- 12:47university, we switch to a monthly
- 12:49allowance. Now, as for investing, that
- 12:52depends on their interest. You don't
- 12:54need to rush them. If they're
- 12:57interested in investing, we can
- 12:58gradually teach them. Some people
- 13:01follow my sons who have been investing
- 13:03in stocks since they were 9 and 7 years
- 13:06old. The two of them are now 16 and 18,
- 13:08right? Back then, at 9 and 7, they were
- 13:10already investing. But I always say,
- 13:12don't rush them. The thing is, these
- 13:14two were "back-of-the-room" kids.
- 13:15>> Uh-huh.
- 13:16>> Wherever I went to give a talk, they'd
- 13:17just sit at the back, you know? So
- 13:19they'd be like... "
- 13:19>> Hey Dad, what is inflation?""Why does
- 13:21keeping money in the bank lose out to
- 13:22inflation?""Then why do we even deposit
- 13:24it?" things like that. They would ask
- 13:25questions like that. I'd tell them, "
- 13:26Well, you still need to keep a portion
- 13:27in the bank.""It needs to be there as
- 13:29an emergency fund.""But if you have a
- 13:30surplus, then you can think about
- 13:31investing." Therefore, I think it's
- 13:33really a matter of...The starting point
- 13:35of learning is conversation. Whenever
- 13:37your child asks something, are we going
- 13:39to brush them off?
- 13:40>> Or are we going to intentionally talk
- 13:42to them?
- 13:42>> Yes.
- 13:43>> Many times I'd say, "Dad is working,
- 13:45let's talk in a bit." Once I'm done,
- 13:47I'll go talk to them. It's a very
- 13:49formal invitation.
- 13:50>> We have an office at home. Everyone
- 13:54knows that if you're invited to Dad's
- 13:55office, it means there's something
- 13:57special that I've heard about. "Come
- 14:00sit down, son. What happened? I heard
- 14:02this and that..." but...
- 14:04>> We want them to feel like this is a
- 14:05safe space. Because my wife and I
- 14:08agreed from the start that from the
- 14:10time we grew up until today, we admit
- 14:12that during our teenage years, it's
- 14:14undeniable that we encountered certain
- 14:16things. Looking back, we're lucky that
- 14:21some of those things didn't turn into
- 14:23disasters. But the recklessness of
- 14:25youth, the recklessness of people the
- 14:27same age, making decisions by
- 14:29consulting only friends...with not much
- 14:31life experience at all, you know. It's
- 14:33something that when I look back, I feel
- 14:35that we were lucky that day.
- 14:37>> Yeah.
- 14:37>> We were lucky that day. We were lucky
- 14:39that day. So my wife and I set a goal
- 14:41that we would be the first people our
- 14:43child thinks of. To be the first person
- 14:46they think of to consult if there's
- 14:47anything. 2 They can talk to us about
- 14:49everything, right? I like to tease him.
- 14:51My eldest son is now living in a dorm.
- 14:52He went away to study and is living in
- 14:54a dorm. I like to tease him. Like, "Hey
- 14:55, call Dad if you need anything.""You
- 14:57remember Dad's number, right?"
- 14:58Something like that. Just teasing him,
- 15:00you know. So there will be things that
- 15:01...Uh, we...We won't look at his
- 15:03questions as childish or anything like
- 15:04that. Right. Now he's at the age of...
- 15:0718. It all comes up. Like about
- 15:09registering for classes. "Dad, if I
- 15:11study this, what will happen?""
- 15:13>> Oh, nobody knows, my son.""Dad studied
- 15:17engineering but ended up in finance.""
- 15:20So, choose what you feel is fun and
- 15:22worth studying." At...that time, once
- 15:27you've studied it, some things you just
- 15:29have to leave to timing. Maybe. We
- 15:31don't know if it will really work out
- 15:33like that. Then topics like love start
- 15:36popping up. It makes me so happy, you
- 15:38know. When he asks for advice about
- 15:40love or something like that. Seeing how
- 15:44he handles it, I'm like, "Oh, my son."
- 15:49>> It’s about having those talks, and I
- 15:51believe as parents, we feel happy when
- 15:52we feel we can talk about everything.
- 15:55>> Wow, I want to talk about this too,
- 15:57Coach. Let's pivot to this because I
- 15:59think the audience is interested too.
- 16:01How do you get your child to talk to
- 16:03you about everything?
- 16:04>> What do you think the secret is, Coach?
- 16:06>> I've talked to my child since he was
- 16:08small, intentionally answering whenever
- 16:10he asks.
- 16:12>> For example. Uh, we have work on the
- 16:15weekends. We have to go out. I tell
- 16:19myself. I won't tell my child that I'm
- 16:21going out to make money for his tuition
- 16:23. I won't say that. That line doesn't
- 16:25work, right? So, how is it about the
- 16:27money? I'm not sure if it's more
- 16:28important than them.
- 16:29>> It says that.
- 16:32>> Dad goes to work because I want to
- 16:33create value and do good for others,
- 16:35son. When we are capable enough, we
- 16:39must create value for others, right? So
- 16:42, on days you can come along, I will
- 16:44take you. But today you can't, and Dad
- 16:46will be back as soon as possible. All
- 16:48of this comes from the fact that we
- 16:50talk to them, you know. And why if we
- 16:52lose a Saturday, we compensate with
- 16:54what we've already planned. I am
- 16:56someone who plans vacations a year in
- 16:58advance.
- 17:00>> Coach.
- 17:01>> Suppose if a secretary organizes events
- 17:03like this, if we don't block anything
- 17:04for them. Coach, you would be lecturing
- 17:06for 7 days a week, right? But we lay it
- 17:08out and lock it in, boom, just like
- 17:10that. So, for my child's birthday, the
- 17:12area around the birthday is off-limits.
- 17:15We know that on their birthday, we'll
- 17:18take them on a trip, celebrate, or go
- 17:20abroad, so we lock the time. When the
- 17:23vacation time is locked in, it makes
- 17:26the secretary's job easier.
- 17:27>> Hmm.
- 17:28>> And then, bam.
- 17:30>> They can't dump work in.
- 17:32>> But if they dump work in first, it’ll
- 17:34be just one day, which might not be
- 17:36useful enough for us to.
- 17:38>> To do activities with the child enough,
- 17:40you know. So, every time we go out or
- 17:42anything like that. We have time to
- 17:45exchange and say, "Hey." If so, there
- 17:47will be weekdays where Dad will be
- 17:49there, at the school. Today I'll pick
- 17:51you up in the evening, let's go eat
- 17:53something, you know. So we try to
- 17:55arrange time to be like this always.
- 17:57Yeah. So, because we have time to talk.
- 18:00And every question they ask, we will be
- 18:02like.
- 18:02>> It means you must have time first.
- 18:04>> Yeah, having time is very important.
- 18:06And try to make that time quality time.
- 18:09We talk a lot. We play board games
- 18:11together. And sometimes there's what
- 18:14you call. On Sundays, Mom will take
- 18:17them out of the house to a cafe. And no
- 18:20mobile phones allowed. Everyone has one
- 18:22book each. Please sit and read while
- 18:24sipping your coffee, something like
- 18:26that. I feel that, uh, my child became
- 18:27a reader ever since then. Because how
- 18:29can we teach our children to read if we
- 18:31don't read ourselves?
- 18:32>> Yeah.
- 18:32>> When we're free, instead of scrolling,
- 18:34we say, "Hey, read a book," but we have
- 18:36to do it too, right? We read, so we can
- 18:39tell them to read.
- 18:40>> Yes, at home we have boxes—oh, that's
- 18:42cute, Mom—Mom will be the one
- 18:44enforcing, "Please place it right here.
- 18:46"
- 18:46>> Something like that, so, uh, as they
- 18:48grow up, they are trained that...
- 18:50>> It's not actually that important. We
- 18:53don't need to know everything so
- 18:54urgently, you know? There's a right
- 18:56time and place for things. Therefore,
- 18:58it's about living life and spending
- 19:00time together. Being able to talk about
- 19:03everything. I never view anything they
- 19:05say as trivial. Yeah, there are no
- 19:06small issues. Because everything is a
- 19:08big deal to them, right?
- 19:09>> For a child, everything is a big deal.
- 19:11>> Yes, exactly, like when they've chatted
- 19:13with a friend and they didn't reply.
- 19:15>> Yeah.
- 19:16>> Right? Oh. There are many factors, my
- 19:18dear. It's possible, kid. Whatever you
- 19:20do, you get upset. Think carefully.
- 19:22Okay? Right? Or sometimes, your friend
- 19:24might just be being unreasonable.
- 19:25Sometimes it might just be...It might
- 19:27not be our fault...100%. Maybe. Don't
- 19:29take it to heart. Don't let it get to
- 19:30you too much. If you assess it and
- 19:31think... "Huh?""I didn't do anything to
- 19:33make you angry.""What is your problem?"
- 19:34Uh. Or maybe...Staying silent might
- 19:36actually solve some issues, dear.
- 19:37Silence. Just try it and see. What
- 19:39happens? After that, the friend might
- 19:40chat back. Or something like that. And
- 19:42I say...Yeah. Maybe they were just
- 19:43caught up with something. Or something
- 19:45like that. We have to respect them, you
- 19:46know. Teaching them about differing
- 19:48opinions from the start. Our house is
- 19:50very democratic. Eat whatever you want
- 19:51to eat. Support different football
- 19:53teams, that's fine.
- 19:54>> Yeah.
- 19:54>> Like, I'm a Man U fan, does my child
- 19:56have to be? No, two of them are Chelsea
- 19:59and Arsenal fans.
- 20:00>> Whoever...
- 20:01>> It's a very democratic home, you can
- 20:03choose whatever you want, so I feel
- 20:05that it's their life, and talking is
- 20:07likely the most important starting
- 20:08point.
- 20:10>> That’s important. Yeah, it’s really
- 20:13great that your child, even at this age
- 20:15, still talks to you like this.
- 20:17>> Ah.
- 20:18>> The secret is giving them time and
- 20:20listening when they speak.
- 20:21>> Yes, that’s right, and doing
- 20:23activities together too.
- 20:24>> Well, I think it’s probably similar
- 20:26to many others. When we live our lives,
- 20:29there are bound to be good days and bad
- 20:31days. Uh, on the bad days, when we’re
- 20:33feeling down or whatever. Sometimes the
- 20:36feeling on the good days, you know. The
- 20:39family atmosphere. You feel like they
- 20:41...We feel that people should have a
- 20:42place to turn to when they need support
- 20:44, right? Like, if this person isn't
- 20:46there, or that person isn't there...Oh,
- 20:47when they’re having fun...Kids
- 20:48probably won't pay attention to us.
- 20:50They’re with their friends, having
- 20:52fun, posting on IG, see? And their mom
- 20:54might get a bit upset, like, "Why don't
- 20:56you ever call?" Uh...As long as they
- 20:58think of us when they have problems,
- 20:59that’s okay. They’re having fun,
- 21:01they’re just being their age, right?
- 21:03But the moment they think of us and
- 21:05give us a call, that’s it. That
- 21:07should be enough. So, people just need
- 21:09something to lean on when things go
- 21:10wrong. Uh, you don't have to be super
- 21:12talented. Because you don't necessarily
- 21:14have to be highly successful either. I
- 21:15tell them that, but you have to be
- 21:17happy. Hmm.
- 21:18>> That’s the secret to having your
- 21:19child talk to you all the time. Now,
- 21:21let’s go back to the topic of money,
- 21:23Coach. I just heard...
- 21:25>> Khun Noom say that when we want to
- 21:27instill a good money mindset in
- 21:28children, talking about money is
- 21:30important too.
- 21:31>> And I heard Khun Noom say that we
- 21:32shouldn't say things like "I'm going
- 21:34out to earn money for your tuition." So
- 21:36, what should we avoid saying or what
- 21:37should we say instead?
- 21:39>> Actually, I have to say that parents
- 21:40don't need to be too tense. It's okay
- 21:43to make mistakes.
- 21:44>> Yeah.
- 21:44>> Even if you're wrong, you can apologize
- 21:46. I'm not made of stone either.
- 21:49Sometimes I have 108 things on my mind,
- 21:52and I might react at the wrong time or
- 21:54snap at them, but as soon as I realize
- 21:56it, I go back and apologize.
- 21:58>> Hmm.
- 21:59>> I want them to feel that adults can
- 22:01apologize too. Like, "I'm sorry for
- 22:03earlier, son," and then I'll hug them
- 22:06and say, "Earlier, Dad..."
- 22:10>> I'm confused, I'm confused about
- 22:11everything, and then I apologize, and
- 22:13they understand that, you know, people
- 22:15have their moments of confusion, so
- 22:17don't be afraid of being right or wrong
- 22:19, but just try to communicate
- 22:21positively.
- 22:23>> Mm-hmm.
- 22:24>> In our house, we don't say—I’ve
- 22:26taught this since they were kids—we
- 22:27don't say that money is hard to earn,
- 22:29because money is easy to earn, son.
- 22:31>> Mm, money is easy to earn.
- 22:32>> Money is easy to earn. It only becomes
- 22:35easy once you develop yourself,
- 22:37becoming a person with the knowledge,
- 22:39skills, and abilities. And those skills
- 22:42and abilities aren't just about
- 22:43learning anything, but things that can
- 22:45help other people.
- 22:46>> Mm-hmm.
- 22:48>> You're a doctor, right?
- 22:50>> You can save people's lives, and that
- 22:52is something of extremely high value.
- 22:54So it's no surprise that doctors should
- 22:56have a high income. You're an artist or
- 22:59an actor, and people watch you and feel
- 23:01happy. Whatever suffering they had,
- 23:03they see you and feel better. Some
- 23:05people aren't musicians who play
- 23:07incredibly difficult chords, but their
- 23:09music is beautiful, right? Yeah,
- 23:11listening to them makes people happy.
- 23:13Develop yourself into that kind of
- 23:15person, and the money will flow in on
- 23:17its own. Money is not the goal of life.
- 23:20It is simply a tool for living. There
- 23:23are some things in life that might not
- 23:25involve money at all. You don't have to
- 23:26think that everything you do must
- 23:28result in money, right?
- 23:29>> Money isn't hard to get; it's easy. The
- 23:31important question is...
- 23:32>> Money is easy to get. ...
- 23:33>> how much can you help others with the
- 23:35skills and knowledge you have?
- 23:36>> Mm-hmm.
- 23:37>> In our house, we don't use the word "
- 23:39hard" because......
- 23:40>> for everything.
- 23:40>> Yes, because the word "hard" actually
- 23:42means it can still be done. Honestly, "
- 23:43hard" means it's still doable, right?
- 23:45Right? It just needs you to put in the
- 23:46energy and the effort. That's why I
- 23:48always say, "Hey, Dad really doesn't
- 23:50like the word 'hard'." Dad doesn't
- 23:51really like it, you know? Yeah, that's
- 23:53what we teach. And another important
- 23:56thing we teach is that for people......
- 23:57the hardest part of living life is
- 23:59making decisions.
- 24:00>> Mm-hmm.
- 24:03>> And the key to making decisions is
- 24:04understanding what the consequences
- 24:06will be, right? So I tell them that I
- 24:10don't mind anything at all. It's okay
- 24:12if you aren't good at school. It’s
- 24:14okay if you don’t become the most
- 24:16successful person. But I ask for two
- 24:18things. There are only two things that,
- 24:21if you cross the line, are very hard to
- 24:23fix. That is the law and morality.
- 24:26>> Yeah.
- 24:27>> If you break the law, how would you fix
- 24:29it? It’s beyond my ability to help.
- 24:33If you fail an exam, we can study
- 24:35together, or talk to the teacher.
- 24:37That’s just a mistake.
- 24:39>> It’s a mistake, but those two things,
- 24:41I ask of you. So whenever you think
- 24:45about doing things, like going to a
- 24:47music competition and fearing you might
- 24:49mess up, so what?
- 24:51>> It’s okay to mess up. If you mess up
- 24:53and people don’t cheer for you. It
- 24:55just means you aren’t good enough yet
- 24:56. You just need a little more. It’s
- 24:58good to know the truth. You will be
- 24:59able to improve yourself. Yeah. If you
- 25:01compete and lose, or get teased and
- 25:03embarrassed. It’s still better than
- 25:04someone who has never done anything.
- 25:06And it’s like, yeah. Therefore.
- 25:08>> Uh.
- 25:08>> How far can it go? Yeah. If you can
- 25:10understand that, then there is nothing
- 25:12to fear. This world, I don’t think
- 25:14there is anything scary. But those two
- 25:15things are very scary. Once you break
- 25:17moral codes or the law, you can’t fix
- 25:19it, my child. It’s already done. So
- 25:21I’d say anything else is fine. I want
- 25:23our home to not need warnings about
- 25:25drugs. About gambling. About things
- 25:27like that. We know we don’t need to
- 25:29teach it because it’s the law, yeah.
- 25:31And every time there’s a case on TV
- 25:33like that. We sit and talk to them,
- 25:35saying, "Hmm, a case like this is
- 25:37actually easy to fix." Which is just
- 25:39not doing it from the start.
- 25:40>> Yeah.
- 25:41>> It’s the simplest thing, my child. So
- 25:43we pick up things around us to talk
- 25:45about. Or sometimes people come to us
- 25:46for advice. Sometimes he sits and
- 25:48listens. But he will sit and listen
- 25:50quietly. Yes. When listening to the
- 25:52person tell their story. But once
- 25:53it’s over, he will ask. Hmm. "Why did
- 25:55you decide to do that?" Or even ask
- 25:57questions like. "Why do people get into
- 26:00debt?""When they already know that debt
- 26:02makes life difficult." And I will tell
- 26:04him, "Because you don’t understand
- 26:06yet." You're not yet at an age where
- 26:07you have to bear burdens.
- 26:09>> Mm.
- 26:09>> When you have to bear burdens, you'll
- 26:11know that everyone has reasons, even
- 26:13for doing bad things. I mean, they
- 26:14still have their reasons. It's just
- 26:16that some reasons might not be enough.
- 26:18If we say we did something, like
- 26:20getting into debt, that’s
- 26:21understandable. But if we talk about
- 26:23doing something serious, even with a
- 26:25reason, it might not be enough. But
- 26:27they have their own reasons. Yeah, it's
- 26:28better to try to understand people.
- 26:30I'll try to talk like this.
- 26:32>> Mm.
- 26:32>> So, don't be afraid of teaching them
- 26:34wrong, just adjust as you go; the heart
- 26:37of it is that 80%of children learn
- 26:39about money from their parents.
- 26:41>> Mm.
- 26:42>> If you ask what's the best way to teach
- 26:44kids about money. Be a role model,
- 26:47that's number one. But I've also found
- 26:50that some parents are role models
- 26:52already. But they don't dare to talk to
- 26:54their kids. Don't dare to warn them.
- 26:56Afraid the child will be upset, things
- 26:58like that. Recently, there was a case
- 27:00sent in asking about a child who wants
- 27:02tutoring but there’s no money.
- 27:05Telling me how to handle it. Yeah,
- 27:06saying they're afraid the child will be
- 27:08sad. No. To be born human, you must
- 27:11know sadness, right? It’s part of
- 27:12being human. If you don't understand
- 27:14sadness, you can't survive, right? So,
- 27:17tell them.
- 27:17>> But don't use the phrase "Mom and Dad
- 27:19have no money."
- 27:20>> They will feel like this is a problem.
- 27:23Tell them, "How much is the tuition,
- 27:25dear?" Let them list everything they
- 27:27want to study. One. Two. Three. Four.
- 27:30How much is each course? If you really
- 27:32have to study. Suppose I let you choose
- 27:34one. One. First. What do you think is
- 27:37most important? And what do you need to
- 27:38study? What do you think you're weakest
- 27:40in, or want to supplement the most?
- 27:41Letting you choose just. One. Subject.
- 27:43Explain it like this, dear. We have
- 27:45enough money. But our family has a
- 27:48financial plan. Try to imprint this in
- 27:51their mind: using money requires a plan
- 27:53. Uh-huh.
- 27:56>> Our family has necessary expenses. One.
- 27:58Two. Three. Which mom and dad have
- 28:01reviewed and can spare for you. But
- 28:03maybe not for all. Four. Subjects at
- 28:05once. Try choosing just one subject.
- 28:07And the other. Three. Parents are aware
- 28:10of this subject. And we will try to
- 28:12plan our finances for our child's
- 28:14education. 3 of those.
- 28:16>> Mm.
- 28:18>> I don't think it's hard to teach.
- 28:20>> What if a family can't manage all four
- 28:22financial plans, P'Num? What should
- 28:24they do?
- 28:26>> Well, I think if that’s the case,
- 28:27they might not even be asking me in the
- 28:29first place. Because they’re not even
- 28:32taking care of themselves, right? But,
- 28:35if your own finances aren't great, and
- 28:37you really want to support your child,
- 28:39you can discuss which one is the most
- 28:41important. Then, we start saving for
- 28:43the child's education.
- 28:46>> Because I see it a lot, P'Num, people
- 28:48who aren't in a great financial
- 28:49position, but once they have a child,
- 28:53>> they spend everything on them until
- 28:55their own situation gets even worse.
- 28:56>> Mm.
- 28:58>> How should these parents adjust their
- 29:00mindset, or how should they communicate
- 29:02with their child in such cases?
- 29:04>> They must adjust their mindset, because
- 29:06all that debt will eventually come back
- 29:07to the child.
- 29:08>> Mm.
- 29:08>> When they graduate, you won't be able
- 29:10to pay. They won't be able to stand
- 29:11seeing you suffer. Everything will end
- 29:13up circling back to them. So, regarding
- 29:14what you say about loving them, you
- 29:16know. Let me share a case study with
- 29:18you. I went to run a debt resolution
- 29:19project at Rayong Hospital. There was a
- 29:22staff member there. Who came to consult
- 29:23about the debt resolution project. I
- 29:25told them that if you want to enter the
- 29:27debt resolution project, I have one
- 29:29condition. Anyone who joins my debt
- 29:31resolution project, before we resolve
- 29:32the debt, you must set up an account by
- 29:34deducting from your salary, 500. Every
- 29:36month. They said, "I don't even have
- 29:38enough money to spend, how can I deduct
- 29:39it?""Why deduct it?" I said, "Well,
- 29:41then I can't help you.""If that's the
- 29:43case, I won't help." Because I said as
- 29:45soon as the salary comes in, 500.
- 29:46Deduct it. If you're already struggling
- 29:48today, 500 won't change your life that
- 29:50much. But we deduct it to save first,
- 29:52so you save before you spend. In this
- 29:54project, I went there 6 times in total.
- 29:57After that, there was a follow-up for
- 29:58another 6 months. So, it's 1 year. This
- 30:01person took about 6 months to resolve
- 30:02their debt. They’re not debt-free yet
- 30:04, but their cash flow is no longer
- 30:06negative. What’s heartwarming is that
- 30:08after one year, we closed the project
- 30:10and returned the accounts to everyone.
- 30:13The account linked to their salary—
- 30:15every time they got paid, it would
- 30:17deposit 6,000 into their savings
- 30:18account. They said in their entire life
- 30:21, they had never been able to save
- 30:23money before. I said, "Congratulations!
- 30:25That is exactly how saving money works.
- 30:27" Sometimes it’s simple: money you
- 30:29don't see is money you don't spend.
- 30:30>> So, deduct it first, and then we can
- 30:32figure out how to manage the rest.
- 30:34>> When people don't save, they lose their
- 30:36motivation. A month later, they sent me
- 30:38a message. They said whenever they were
- 30:41out selling goods, their child would
- 30:42come to help. And every so often, the
- 30:44child would just slip away. They would
- 30:46go follow and look for their child. It
- 30:48turned out the child was standing in
- 30:50front of a tutoring center.
- 30:51>> Yeah.
- 30:51>> The child wanted to study architecture
- 30:53and was already in 11th grade. But they
- 30:55had never been able to afford classes.
- 30:57And they did the same thing every time,
- 30:59which was hugging their child. And
- 31:01saying, "Mom has money now, I'll let
- 31:03you take the class." It turned out that
- 31:05the 6,000 they had saved
- 31:07unintentionally...They said, "I used
- 31:09all 6,000 at once, Coach, I hope you're
- 31:11not mad." I told them, "It's your money
- 31:13, not mine, why would I be mad?""And
- 31:15what did you use it for?" They said, "
- 31:17For my child's tuition.""Okay."
- 31:19That’s exactly why we save money. To
- 31:22fulfill the things that we really need
- 31:24to address. And, uh...
- 31:27>> Uh, the child got to study, I think it
- 31:29was a drawing class, because
- 31:30architecture requires a drawing exam.
- 31:33One year later, they sent me a message
- 31:35saying their child got in. Life is just
- 31:37like this. If we stay stuck in the
- 31:41habit of saying, "This is all Mom can
- 31:43do, kid," it might sound harsh. We
- 31:47brought them into this world, you know?
- 31:49If we are going to do something for
- 31:51them, especially for something truly
- 31:53necessary. I think it’s worth
- 31:54fighting for. Being patient and
- 31:56struggling a little bit for it. Truth
- 31:57is, if they hadn't been able to study,
- 31:59the child wouldn't have been mad either
- 32:00. Your child might ask themselves why
- 32:02they can't study like others. But that
- 32:04little bit of extra effort from you is
- 32:05worth more than 500 baht. For many
- 32:07people, 500 baht might not seem like a
- 32:10huge amount. It’s gone in a flash in
- 32:12just one day, right? But this is where
- 32:14the change happens. Are you ready to be
- 32:16that kind of parent? I believe everyone
- 32:17can do it.
- 32:18>> Yeah.
- 32:19>> Right? And let them learn how to wait
- 32:21sometimes. But don't just make them
- 32:23wait without you working to solve the
- 32:25problem. If you tell them to wait and
- 32:29then eventually meet their needs,
- 32:31you're a superhero. You keep your word,
- 32:35right? You are a very heroic parent.
- 32:37Your word is your bond. We should all
- 32:40be like that. At home, we say if we
- 32:41can't give something to our child yet,
- 32:43we don't promise it.
- 32:45>> But if we do promise, we have to keep
- 32:47it because we know how important
- 32:48promises are to them.
- 32:51>> Exactly, you just need to level up your
- 32:53mental strength a bit more.
- 32:55>> We were just talking about expenses
- 32:57earlier.
- 32:57>> Uh-huh.
- 32:58>> Talking about kids saving money.
- 33:01>> And I just heard the coach mention
- 33:03investing for kids too.
- 33:05>> Yes.
- 33:07>> What's a good way to start? Suppose our
- 33:10child knows how to save and manage
- 33:11their own budget.
- 33:13>> Uh.
- 33:15>> How should we instill the idea of
- 33:17investing, or what steps should we
- 33:18start with when talking to them?
- 33:21>> Well, if they've started saving, we can
- 33:23gradually take a step forward. For kids
- 33:25, I’d suggest moving into government
- 33:27savings bonds first to give them a
- 33:29chance at winning prizes.
- 33:31>> Oh, that's very exciting.
- 33:32>> Yes, tell them that maybe they'll win a
- 33:35prize. Tell them this is better than
- 33:36the lottery, dear. If you don't win the
- 33:38lottery, the money is gone, but this
- 33:40way you still keep your savings. Or
- 33:42these days, there's gold savings plans,
- 33:44you know, with a minimum of just 100
- 33:46baht. We can teach them to store their
- 33:49wealth in valuable assets. But you
- 33:51might need to open the account in a
- 33:53parent's name first, since kids can't
- 33:55open accounts until they are 18 or 20.
- 33:57If they aren't of age yet, just use our
- 33:59account. And gradually teach them, well
- 34:01, we ourselves also have to study to a
- 34:03certain extent. Because just sending
- 34:05them to learn from others, you know.
- 34:06When you send them to learn from others
- 34:07for like two days. What, what are they
- 34:09going to get? They come back the same
- 34:10as before. But if they are with parents
- 34:12who know how to invest, like with our
- 34:14son, we teach him to save money anyway.
- 34:16>> Yes.
- 34:17>> Right, once we teach him to save money,
- 34:19at that point, we give him actual cash;
- 34:22we don't do any transfers. Once he gets
- 34:24about 1,000, we take him to deposit the
- 34:27money, take him to deposit the money. I
- 34:29mean, we have to feel that we aren't
- 34:31wasting time with these activities. Let
- 34:32him deposit the money, let him try
- 34:34writing it himself because at seven, he
- 34:36can write, so let him fill out the
- 34:37deposit slip himself. When he updates
- 34:39his passbook, that's when we start
- 34:41teaching, saying, "Look, there's more
- 34:43money added, do you see, from when you
- 34:45deposited?" Right? August, do you see,
- 34:47son? He says he sees it. Because we
- 34:49tell him, what is it? It's interest.
- 34:51How is interest calculated? If you
- 34:53deposit money with Dad, imagine Dad is
- 34:55a bank, you deposit 100 with Dad, and
- 34:57after one year, Dad will give you 50
- 35:00satang.
- 35:00>> Mmh. "
- 35:03>> Why is it so little?" Well, interest is
- 35:06set this way because they keep the
- 35:08money safe for us, right? So they give
- 35:12a small return. Then he asks, "Is there
- 35:15a way to get more than this?"
- 35:17>> Uh-huh.
- 35:18>> You have to remember, son, that if you
- 35:19want more than this, the risk becomes
- 35:21higher.
- 35:21>> Mmh.
- 35:22>> Well, he won't understand it;
- 35:23explaining risk to a nine-year-old,
- 35:24they wouldn't know anything, right? But
- 35:26let him understand, let this word be
- 35:27imprinted in his mind first. "So what
- 35:29can we do?" I then say, "Look over at
- 35:31the bank.""This bank, son, if we are
- 35:35the owners, we will also get dividends.
- 35:37""And when the bank's price goes up, we
- 35:41gain, too.""So how do we invest?" I
- 35:45tell him this bank is 3 baht. This bank
- 35:48is 3 baht. But we call it, we tell him
- 35:50that the bank price is 3 baht. But they
- 35:52won't let us buy just 3 baht. They
- 35:53require a minimum purchase of 100
- 35:55shares. 3 times 100 is 300. "If we have
- 35:58300 baht, August, if you have 300, you
- 36:00can be an owner."
- 36:01>> Mmh.
- 36:03>> Wow, there are thousands, so we can be
- 36:06owners. Anything else? Oh, there's a
- 36:09hospital for 20 baht. Yes, 20 baht for
- 36:12a hospital, and a real estate company
- 36:15for 13 baht. Wow, not expensive!
- 36:17>> Yeah.
- 36:18>> He wanted to own everything.
- 36:19>> He wanted to own everything. And as we
- 36:21were talking, I asked, "If August owns
- 36:23the bank, what does that make the
- 36:24people sitting inside?" They're your
- 36:26subordinates.
- 36:28>> Because we are the owners, right? They
- 36:30work there, right? Many people use
- 36:32their services. You need to know where
- 36:34people go to get services.
- 36:35>> Yeah.
- 36:36>> Right? From then on, he started
- 36:37training. I didn't care at all if he
- 36:39invested right or wrong. I just wanted
- 36:40him to start having fun. When he goes
- 36:42to the mall. He started looking. "Dad,
- 36:44we use vegetable oil all the time.""
- 36:47Which one sells well?""Let's go look at
- 36:50the shelves." Go look at the shelves.
- 36:52Check which ones are running low. The
- 36:54ones that are full, you know? Maybe try
- 36:56interviewing the staff, can we ask them
- 36:58? "Hey, excuse me..." The staff who
- 37:00stocks the shelves. Just ask them, "Is
- 37:02it full because it hasn't sold, or
- 37:03because you just restocked it?"
- 37:05>> Yeah.
- 37:06>> They said they restock non-stop. They
- 37:08restock twice a day, so grab that one.
- 37:11And how do we buy this brand? Look at
- 37:12the back to see what the name is. Write
- 37:14it down and put it into Google. Type in
- 37:16"what is the ticker symbol for this
- 37:18stock." Some things you have to teach
- 37:20them to memorize. Once you find it, if
- 37:22it's there, buy it. Then place the
- 37:24order.
- 37:25>> Yeah, just take it slow, adjust, and
- 37:27invest like that. But I don't add money
- 37:30for him; he has to use his own money.
- 37:32>> Use his own money.
- 37:34>> When it's time for dividends, they send
- 37:36a report. He's still using my portfolio
- 37:38, but I opened a separate one for him,
- 37:40and when I showed him the dividends, he
- 37:42said, "Wow!""
- 37:43>> That's way more!" Currently, the annual
- 37:45dividends aren't much, maybe close to
- 37:4720,000.
- 37:48>> Wow, oh!
- 37:49>> Yeah, the portfolio has about 200,000
- 37:51plus. So I tell him, "See son, this is
- 37:53how investing works." He's starting to
- 37:55understand.
- 37:56>> Uh-huh.
- 37:57>> He's not at a very risky age yet
- 37:58because his other life needs are
- 38:00supported by his parents, right? But
- 38:03once he understands this, he will start
- 38:05saving money; he'll have money left
- 38:06over to save.
- 38:07>> Yes, because they see the money growing
- 38:09, something like that.
- 38:11>> Then one day, he said, "Dad, my son is
- 38:1318 now, August wants to go watch
- 38:15football in England." I said no, I
- 38:19won't pay, I won't pay. I told him to
- 38:22build his own portfolio, adjust it, and
- 38:24fight to make it grow. If the portfolio
- 38:28is a million, 7%is 70,000.
- 38:30>> What does P'Num pay for, and what does
- 38:32he not pay for?
- 38:33>> Well, for daily life like eating,
- 38:35nowadays if he has an allowance, he
- 38:37picks up his phone and what does he do?
- 38:39Bubble tea. Hmm, if I don't want it, he
- 38:41has to pay for it himself because I
- 38:43didn't want to eat it. Why? Because it
- 38:45would cost us money, right? He's grown
- 38:47up now and has his own money, so he
- 38:48needs to learn to spend it himself.
- 38:50Sometimes, when he sees me about to
- 38:51order, he tries to sneak in. But if he
- 38:53wants to order it himself and I don't
- 38:54want to eat it, he has to pay. So, for
- 38:56education and accommodation, we still
- 38:59take care of him, right? And for his
- 39:02monthly allowance, there's actually a
- 39:04funny story about that. Being the son
- 39:07of "Coach Num," he listens and
- 39:09understands that we should manage our
- 39:11money. 50 30
- 39:12>> Hmm.
- 39:13>> 50-30-20. If you earn 100, you have to
- 39:17spend 50 on necessities, 30 on wants,
- 39:19and save 20.
- 39:22>> Hmm.
- 39:23>> When he started his freshman year and
- 39:25had to move into a dorm, he calculated
- 39:27everything and asked his mom for a
- 39:2910,000 baht monthly allowance. His mom
- 39:32asked, "Where did you get that number
- 39:34from? 10,000?" He only stays there from
- 39:37Monday to Friday and comes home on
- 39:39weekends. August wanted to save 2,000 a
- 39:43month, so he applied the 50-30-20 rule.
- 39:46He'd spend 5,000 on necessities, 3,000
- 39:49on wants, and save 2,000.
- 39:52>> Hmm.
- 39:53>> His mom told him his equation was wrong
- 39:55because she was only giving him 6,000,
- 39:57and he had to manage that himself. So,
- 40:0020%of 6,000 is 1,200; that's all he
- 40:03could save. That's how it is.
- 40:05>> That's all it could be. He set a target
- 40:08to save 2,000, so he tried to adjust
- 40:10his income figures. But Mom only gave
- 40:12him 6,000. That's the origin story of
- 40:15how we have to teach him to manage his
- 40:17own finances.
- 40:18>> Coach, what if the parents are in a
- 40:20situation where we have 100 million in
- 40:22debt?
- 40:23>> Hmm.
- 40:24>> Should we tell the kids?
- 40:26>> Actually, whether you have money or
- 40:28don't, you can talk to your children
- 40:30about it.
- 40:31>> Oh.
- 40:32>> You just don't have to tell them
- 40:33exactly how much there is; my kids
- 40:35right now don't know either.
- 40:37>> And we just use the method of talking
- 40:39to each other. Don't give the
- 40:41impression that because we have money,
- 40:42they can just spend it however they
- 40:44want. It’s a lesson that whether you
- 40:48have a lot or a little, you always have
- 40:50to plan before you spend. We tell them
- 40:54like this.
- 40:55>> The keyword is that money must be
- 40:56planned.
- 40:56>> Yes, money is a matter that always
- 40:58requires planning. It's not about
- 41:00spending on whatever you want or being
- 41:02extravagant. I actually feel that it
- 41:05affects other aspects of life as well.
- 41:08They might end up not thinking things
- 41:09through. Therefore, we can talk to them
- 41:11about it. Families with debt have
- 41:13consulted me, asking if they can tell
- 41:14their children. You don't need to tell
- 41:16them exactly how much debt you have.
- 41:18But you can say that our family
- 41:19finances are a bit tight right now. And
- 41:22ask how they can help out instead. We
- 41:24can communicate that, if possible. Mom
- 41:27might not be able to increase your
- 41:29allowance right now, sorry about that.
- 41:32Something like that. I don't feel like
- 41:33that’s a failure at all. And you want
- 41:35to ask for their help. If possible, try
- 41:38to save up a little bit too. If there
- 41:40are things they can handle on their own
- 41:42. I would really appreciate that. You
- 41:44can talk about everything.
- 41:45>> Mmhmm.
- 41:46>> Yeah.
- 41:46>> I can really see that picture now.
- 41:48>> Having a lot of money doesn't mean you
- 41:50can buy whatever you want. These days,
- 41:53even for things worth a few hundred,
- 41:55they still come and ask. Even though
- 41:57they have their own money. We talk
- 41:59about it because they aren't really
- 42:00asking for permission, but rather
- 42:02wanting to consult me.
- 42:03>> Is this worth buying?
- 42:06>> We talk about whether it will last a
- 42:08long time, or if it's okay to spend a
- 42:10bit more because it's better quality,
- 42:12not disposable, or worth trying out.
- 42:16>> It’s not just about being cheap or
- 42:17expensive, it’s about whether it’s
- 42:18worth it.
- 42:19>> Oh, right, right.
- 42:20>> Some things might be a bit pricey, but
- 42:22they last longer.
- 42:23>> Uh-huh.
- 42:24>> And they have more features.
- 42:25>> Oh, this was so useful today, Coach.
- 42:28These mindset methods.
- 42:30>> Thinking about money for children,
- 42:32including how to spend, how to invest,
- 42:34and how to manage their finances.
- 42:37>> Finances require planning.
- 42:39>> Yes, you have to think before you spend
- 42:42, and I also got some useful tips on
- 42:44how to keep your 18-year-old child
- 42:46still talking to you about everything.
- 42:49>> That's wonderful.
- 42:50>> Yes, my pleasure.
- 42:52>> Well, thank you so much, Coach, for
- 42:54honoring our show today. Please tell us
- 42:58a bit about what you are currently
- 43:00working on and where parents can follow
- 43:02you.
- 43:03>> Yes, you can follow me on The Money
- 43:05Coach YouTube channel. For parents who
- 43:08have children in high school. I'd like
- 43:10to suggest the Money 14 course. I
- 43:13designed the curriculum to teach
- 43:15personal finance to high school
- 43:17students. And there is a big event
- 43:19coming up. It is on October 10th, the
- 43:22Money Freedom Forum 2026. It will be
- 43:24held at ICONSIAM. However, tickets for
- 43:27the venue are sold out. But there is
- 43:29another type of ticket called a live
- 43:30stream. You can purchase tickets to
- 43:32watch the event live from home. I hope
- 43:35you'll check it out.
- 43:37>> Thank you so much again, Coach. Goodbye
- 43:39.
- 43:41>> And thank you all for following the "To
- 43:43Ma Ngai" show. If you liked this
- 43:47episode, please follow us, subscribe,
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