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  1. 0:00They say they've never been able to
  2. 0:01save money in their life. Their child
  3. 0:03wants extra tutoring, but they have no
  4. 0:05funds. How should they tell their child
  5. 0:06? Regarding spending, don't just teach
  6. 0:08kids to be "thrifty" because they don't
  7. 0:10know what level that means, but don't
  8. 0:11use the phrase "Mom and Dad have no
  9. 0:13money."
  10. 0:13>> Oh, what if we have 100 million in debt
  11. 0:15? Should we tell the kids?
  12. 0:16>> Mom, you stay out of it. The most
  13. 0:18frightening thing is that children
  14. 0:19aren't trained in financial
  15. 0:20decision-making. Children learn the
  16. 0:21most about money from their parents. In
  17. 0:23our house, we don't say money is hard
  18. 0:24to find, because money is easy to find.
  19. 0:26You should adjust your mindset, because
  20. 0:28eventually, all that debt will come
  21. 0:29back around to your kids. Hello. Today,
  22. 0:37we are back with the "Toh Ma Ngai" show
  23. 0:40again. A program that believes in the
  24. 0:42importance of childhood. Today is very
  25. 0:45special. We have a guest who is one of
  26. 0:50the top financial coaches in Thailand.
  27. 0:54As parents know, money matters are
  28. 0:56truly important. But in Thailand, very
  29. 0:59few schools actually teach financial
  30. 1:01literacy. Today, we have an expert in
  31. 1:03this field to share knowledge with all
  32. 1:05the parents. Welcome, Coach Num.
  33. 1:09>> Hello, hello.
  34. 1:11>> Hello.
  35. 1:12>> Yes, hello, hello.
  36. 1:13>> Coach Num, you've...
  37. 1:15>> Yes. ...
  38. 1:15>> been in the financial coaching industry
  39. 1:17for a very long time, ever since I was
  40. 1:19a kid, Coach Num.
  41. 1:20>> Oh, I'm done for.
  42. 1:22>> Just 21 years, just 21 years, since
  43. 1:262005.
  44. 1:27>> Yes.
  45. 1:28>> I've been doing this the whole time,
  46. 1:30and I might be lucky because I've met
  47. 1:32every generation and every age. Most of
  48. 1:36the students who come to learn with me
  49. 1:38are around 25 to 40 years old.
  50. 1:40>> Ah.
  51. 1:41>> And 20 years have passed, so now they
  52. 1:43have children, and they are all grown
  53. 1:45up, and they come to consult me too,
  54. 1:47saying......
  55. 1:48>> how should I teach my child, and things
  56. 1:50like that.
  57. 1:51>> So, it turns out I have more and more
  58. 1:53students from the younger generation
  59. 1:54now.
  60. 1:55>> Yes, indeed.
  61. 1:56>> And Coach Num, how do you teach young
  62. 1:58kids about money? Suppose that since
  63. 2:01Thai schools don't teach it, you teach
  64. 2:03them yourself. What do you think they
  65. 2:05need to know?
  66. 2:06>> Well, actually, we've created a course
  67. 2:08now called Money14.
  68. 2:11>> But we're starting with high school
  69. 2:12students first. There are two courses.
  70. 2:15Money14 for junior high. Money14 for
  71. 2:18senior high. It all started from
  72. 2:20talking to the Minister of Education.
  73. 2:24And they said that teachers couldn't
  74. 2:25teach it. It's not that the teachers
  75. 2:29aren't good at finance. But they
  76. 2:31already have too much on their plates.
  77. 2:33If they have to learn a new financial
  78. 2:34subject to teach kids, they wouldn't
  79. 2:36feel confident.
  80. 2:37>> So, we created instructional videos.
  81. 2:39>> We've released them, and they are now
  82. 2:41available for free nationwide.
  83. 2:43>> Uh-huh.
  84. 2:46>> At first, we thought teachers should be
  85. 2:48the ones teaching finance, but since I
  86. 2:50have children of my own, I looked at
  87. 2:52the reality—kids actually learn about
  88. 2:54money most from their parents.
  89. 2:58>> Mm.
  90. 2:59>> They are the most important teachers,
  91. 3:01not the ones in school. We found that a
  92. 3:04true fact is that a financial mindset
  93. 3:06is instilled through parents '
  94. 3:08conversations. Parents' financial
  95. 3:11perspectives are communicated directly.
  96. 3:13It's, well, we have to use this term.
  97. 3:15Parents are their children's heroes.
  98. 3:17>> So, how you act and how you talk about
  99. 3:19money matters.
  100. 3:19>> If parents argue every time they talk
  101. 3:21about money, the child will remember
  102. 3:23that money is a topic that shouldn't be
  103. 3:25discussed.
  104. 3:25>> Mm-hmm.
  105. 3:26>> Discussing it leads to fights, so when
  106. 3:28we built the curriculum, we had to sit
  107. 3:31down and talk to parents about how to
  108. 3:33make it easy for them to teach it;
  109. 3:35honestly, don't rush them, because if
  110. 3:37kids don't have fun, they won't learn.
  111. 3:39>> Right.
  112. 3:40>> Just don't force it on them. Go ask any
  113. 3:42kid if they like school. Not many will
  114. 3:44say they like school, right? If they
  115. 3:46like school, it's usually to see their
  116. 3:47friends. They might not like school
  117. 3:49because they think, "Oh, I'm so happy I
  118. 3:50get to sit and study." Therefore,
  119. 3:52absolutely do not force them.
  120. 3:55>> Maybe by late elementary school, when
  121. 3:56they start to understand the value of
  122. 3:58money.
  123. 4:00>> Mm.
  124. 4:02>> We can start teaching them about
  125. 4:03spending and saving, but don't teach
  126. 4:05them to just "be frugal" because they
  127. 4:07don't know what level qualifies as
  128. 4:09frugal.
  129. 4:11>> Mm.
  130. 4:12>> Right? For example, as adults, we know
  131. 4:15that eating noodles instead of shabu
  132. 4:17for the same meal is called being
  133. 4:19frugal, but they don't have that life
  134. 4:21experience yet.
  135. 4:23>> Instead of just saying "be frugal," we
  136. 4:26should teach them to "spend wisely." We
  137. 4:31talked about it.
  138. 4:32>> Yes.
  139. 4:32>> At this age, I always talk to and teach
  140. 4:34parents that you should talk to your
  141. 4:36children a lot. If you talk to your
  142. 4:37children a lot from when they are young
  143. 4:39, as they grow up, they will talk to
  144. 4:40you about everything.
  145. 4:41>> Mm.
  146. 4:42>> They will choose you as the first
  147. 4:43person to talk to.
  148. 4:44>> Yes.
  149. 4:45>> So, talk to your kids. For example, it
  150. 4:47was a new learning experience when my
  151. 4:50child was in the 4th grade. I remember,
  152. 4:53my child was in 4th grade, and suddenly
  153. 4:55, they asked to buy a phone.
  154. 4:57>> I asked, "What do you need a phone for?
  155. 4:59"
  156. 4:59>> Right? I pick them up every evening.
  157. 5:02And there has never been a day that I
  158. 5:03didn't show up. I thought maybe they
  159. 5:05wanted it for their grandmother, so
  160. 5:06what would they use it for? They said
  161. 5:08they wanted it to play games with
  162. 5:10friends. Nowadays, there are games that
  163. 5:12you can join and play together in
  164. 5:13groups, right?
  165. 5:14>> Um, they wanted to take photos. Okay,
  166. 5:16okay, what else? Take photos, what else
  167. 5:19? Play games, okay.
  168. 5:21>> You can probably guess what the coach
  169. 5:22would do.
  170. 5:23>> Then, I was surprised, doctor.
  171. 5:28>> I saw their friends holding iPhones and
  172. 5:30top-tier Galaxy phones, even in 4th
  173. 5:32grade. They probably had their heart
  174. 5:35set on getting something nice. We
  175. 5:38arrived and went into the shop. It was
  176. 5:41a mobile carrier shop. I said, "Look,
  177. 5:44here’s this one for 1,990." With a 12
  178. 5:47-month contract. A flat rate for the
  179. 5:50whole year for 1,990. This phone isn't
  180. 5:53junky at all, you know. But then we
  181. 5:55looked at the specs, oh, here, 4GB of
  182. 5:58RAM. I know enough to know that it can
  183. 6:00play games. The front camera, um...Rear
  184. 6:03camera is 48 megapixels. Their face
  185. 6:05fell and they said, "Hey, why is it
  186. 6:07like this?""Why is it not what I
  187. 6:09expected?""It doesn't look like my
  188. 6:11friends 'phones."
  189. 6:12>> The design didn't look as good as the
  190. 6:13others, so I told them... "
  191. 6:15>> What are you going to use it for?""If
  192. 6:16you want to play games, this one plays
  193. 6:18them just as fast as your friends'
  194. 6:19phones.""If you want to use it for
  195. 6:21photos?""This one might not take good
  196. 6:22photos at night.""But at night, you
  197. 6:24won't be meeting anyone anyway, not
  198. 6:25even your friends.""You only see them
  199. 6:26during the day.""Therefore, it takes
  200. 6:28clear photos during the day.""And do
  201. 6:29you know the best thing about this
  202. 6:31phone?""It's cheap.""If you're walking
  203. 6:33somewhere today and someone runs up and
  204. 6:34steals your phone...""Just let them
  205. 6:36have it, dear, don't run after them."
  206. 6:38It's dangerous, Dad is worried.
  207. 6:39>> Mm-hmm.
  208. 6:41>> Yeah, because if you carry expensive
  209. 6:43things, you'll feel regret if someone
  210. 6:45steals them or something happens. It's
  211. 6:47okay, kid, if it's lost, it's lost. Dad
  212. 6:49is worried about you, that's more
  213. 6:51important. So we can talk, we can talk
  214. 6:53about this, right?
  215. 6:54>> It’s fine. And he gets to see his
  216. 6:56friend's phone and how smooth it is,
  217. 6:58and this one is just as good, it plays
  218. 7:00just the same. So, we teach him to
  219. 7:03understand what to use and why.
  220. 7:05>> That's a very good example, wow, for...
  221. 7:08>> Yes.
  222. 7:09>> Real-life situations where the kids
  223. 7:11realize, "Oh, the features are the same
  224. 7:13."
  225. 7:13>> Yes.
  226. 7:14>> And it's cheaper.
  227. 7:15>> Yes, and it's the same with eating.
  228. 7:17I'll take my kids to eat street food,
  229. 7:19at night markets.
  230. 7:20>> Yes.
  231. 7:21>> Sometimes when we order pizza, I show
  232. 7:23them that for the four of us, it costs
  233. 7:26about 1,000.
  234. 7:27>> Yes.
  235. 7:28>> But when we eat street noodles, for the
  236. 7:30four of us, it's about 200.
  237. 7:32>> Mm.
  238. 7:32>> It's not that you can't be extravagant,
  239. 7:35kid, but it must not be beyond your
  240. 7:36means. If you have the purchasing power
  241. 7:38for pizza, you can buy it. There's
  242. 7:40nothing wrong with buying it because
  243. 7:42extravagance is happiness, but too much
  244. 7:44extravagance is beyond your means.
  245. 7:46>> Mm.
  246. 7:47>> So we teach them about spending like
  247. 7:48this since they are young. And I feel
  248. 7:50that parents should set an example. I
  249. 7:52notice I ask them, "Do you see what Dad
  250. 7:54eats the most in daily life?" Dad
  251. 7:56thinks it's probably stir-fried basil.
  252. 7:57So, are you eating stir-fried basil,
  253. 7:59kid? That's just how life is, right?
  254. 8:01There are delicious meals, and there
  255. 8:02are other kinds. As for the things you
  256. 8:04really want, just tell me. Sometimes,
  257. 8:06for some items...
  258. 8:07>> For a bag, buy a good one, because it
  259. 8:09lasts a long time, right? Things like
  260. 8:11that. As for books, whenever you want
  261. 8:12to buy them, tell Dad, no limit.
  262. 8:14>> Mm.
  263. 8:15>> If you want to read books.
  264. 8:16>> Yes.
  265. 8:16>> If you want to buy even comics or
  266. 8:18whatever, just tell Dad. Dad might be
  267. 8:21the one to filter things a bit. So, we
  268. 8:23teach spending based on function,
  269. 8:26necessity, and happiness.
  270. 8:27>> Which really, parents are the most
  271. 8:29important. Parents convey how we think
  272. 8:32when they buy something. Like you,
  273. 8:33breaking it down into features. We sit
  274. 8:35and talk every time. We sit and talk
  275. 8:37every time. Whatever you want to ask
  276. 8:39for...You come into the room. Buying
  277. 8:40headphones. Please, sit in the office.
  278. 8:43I have a chair for you.
  279. 8:44>> What is it, my child?
  280. 8:45>> But we don't need to get emotional;
  281. 8:47just listen to them directly. "
  282. 8:49>> Then let dad help you look," we search
  283. 8:51for things together when we're going to
  284. 8:53buy something. That’s how it is.
  285. 8:55Regarding saving money, many parents
  286. 8:57get really serious about it, but at
  287. 8:59home, I teach it simply.
  288. 9:00>> Hmm.
  289. 9:01>> I give you money; spend whatever you
  290. 9:03want, but don't spend it all—bring
  291. 9:04some back.
  292. 9:05>> Oh.
  293. 9:05>> There’s no rule that it must be 10%or
  294. 9:0720%; just make sure there’s some left
  295. 9:09over.
  296. 9:10>> Uh-huh.
  297. 9:10>> If they ask why they have to have some
  298. 9:12left over? I tell them it’s in case
  299. 9:14you want to save up one day to buy
  300. 9:15something that's a bit of a challenge
  301. 9:17for you. Like, if Dad won't buy it, you
  302. 9:19can buy it yourself. Don't teach kids
  303. 9:22to save money just because they might
  304. 9:23need it for emergencies in the future.
  305. 9:25Because their life experience isn't
  306. 9:27enough yet. They don't have enough to
  307. 9:29know what the dangers ahead might be.
  308. 9:31>> Uh.
  309. 9:31>> But let them save money to buy things
  310. 9:33for themselves.
  311. 9:33>> This really paints a clear picture.
  312. 9:35>> Yes, be proud.
  313. 9:36>> Wanting this or that.
  314. 9:38>> And when they buy something, absolutely
  315. 9:40do not interfere with them. I've taught
  316. 9:44this, but some parents still go and
  317. 9:46tell their kids to save up to buy
  318. 9:47things themselves. You could motivate
  319. 9:49them by saying if they save 5 baht,
  320. 9:51you'll put in 5 baht, for instance. But
  321. 9:53when they choose what to buy, don't
  322. 9:55interfere.
  323. 9:56>> It's their money.
  324. 9:57>> This mother got very upset when she
  325. 9:58found out what her child broke their
  326. 10:00piggy bank for. It turns out they
  327. 10:02bought a 7,000 baht Korean concert
  328. 10:03ticket. They sent a message saying it
  329. 10:05was super fun and amazing. What were
  330. 10:07they thinking? Something like that, you
  331. 10:09know? Tell the mother not to interfere.
  332. 10:12The most frightening thing is when a
  333. 10:13child isn't trained to make decisions
  334. 10:15about money. It's their money, not the
  335. 10:18mother's. And it didn't come out of the
  336. 10:20mother's pocket. It's their money, and
  337. 10:22they worked hard saving it up until
  338. 10:24they could achieve this goal. The
  339. 10:26mother must praise them.
  340. 10:27>> Your only duty is to prepare to drive
  341. 10:29them to the concert and wait to drop
  342. 10:31them off and pick them up, that's all.
  343. 10:33And just say, "Wow, you're so smart for
  344. 10:35saving up to buy this," and things like
  345. 10:37that. And we might need to tell them to
  346. 10:39enjoy the concert to the fullest and be
  347. 10:40happy. I went to the trouble of paying
  348. 10:42for this. Or if they finally save up
  349. 10:44enough and decide not to buy it,
  350. 10:46that’s their right to choose.
  351. 10:47>> Oh.
  352. 10:47>> I mean, if we don't train children—I
  353. 10:49have to put it this way. Money isn't
  354. 10:51about knowledge. Money is about
  355. 10:52decision-making. Whatever they do with
  356. 10:54their money, you have to give them that
  357. 10:56right. And keep it in moderation.
  358. 10:58Because some parents, when teaching
  359. 10:59about saving, are like—When they see
  360. 11:01their kid not saving, they get all
  361. 11:02stressed out. I say, no, no. They might
  362. 11:05have their own reasons. So, you have to
  363. 11:06make home a place where you can talk
  364. 11:08about money. Uh-huh.
  365. 11:09>> Once they reach the high school level,
  366. 11:11>> we start letting them practice managing
  367. 11:13money.
  368. 11:14>> By managing money, I mean giving them
  369. 11:16an allowance.
  370. 11:17>> It could be weekly or monthly. At my
  371. 11:20home, we have a rule of giving it
  372. 11:22weekly. But if it runs out before the
  373. 11:24week is up, we have to talk about it.
  374. 11:26There was one time my son went on a
  375. 11:28field trip to the Bank of Thailand.
  376. 11:31Then he bought some things he liked.
  377. 11:32And he bought them back. I asked, "Why
  378. 11:34did you buy so much?" He said he bought
  379. 11:37them as souvenirs. He was being very
  380. 11:39kind and thoughtful. He used his
  381. 11:40allowance for souvenirs and then the
  382. 11:42money was gone. So we sat and talked,
  383. 11:44and I said that thinking of others and
  384. 11:47buying gifts is okay, my child. But if
  385. 11:50it makes your own living money run out,
  386. 11:52then that’s not right. Also, when
  387. 11:55will you actually have time to see
  388. 11:57those people you bought gifts for? You
  389. 11:59have to think about that, too.
  390. 12:02>> It’s about opening the door so that
  391. 12:04whenever the money runs out, we can
  392. 12:05have a mature discussion.
  393. 12:07>> Uh-huh.
  394. 12:08>> At home, we joke with him, like, "Hey
  395. 12:10handsome, where did all your money go?"
  396. 12:12Then we talk, and I might say, "I
  397. 12:14understand, okay, I'll top it up," but
  398. 12:16there will be a lesson learned
  399. 12:18accordingly. And at the end of the week
  400. 12:20or month, you'll get the next allowance
  401. 12:22only when you submit your expense
  402. 12:23records, and Mom will be the one
  403. 12:25checking them. So on the 1st, they ask,
  404. 12:27"Why hasn't Mom transferred the money?"
  405. 12:29Well, she hasn't received the expense
  406. 12:31record yet; she doesn't know what you
  407. 12:33spent your money on. Actually, we don't
  408. 12:35really interfere with them much, but
  409. 12:36it's a way to train them to pay a
  410. 12:38little attention to money matters.
  411. 12:39>> This is for middle schoolers.
  412. 12:41>> In middle school, we already started
  413. 12:42training them by giving them a weekly
  414. 12:44allowance.
  415. 12:44>> Uh-huh.
  416. 12:45>> But once they get to high school or
  417. 12:47university, we switch to a monthly
  418. 12:49allowance. Now, as for investing, that
  419. 12:52depends on their interest. You don't
  420. 12:54need to rush them. If they're
  421. 12:57interested in investing, we can
  422. 12:58gradually teach them. Some people
  423. 13:01follow my sons who have been investing
  424. 13:03in stocks since they were 9 and 7 years
  425. 13:06old. The two of them are now 16 and 18,
  426. 13:08right? Back then, at 9 and 7, they were
  427. 13:10already investing. But I always say,
  428. 13:12don't rush them. The thing is, these
  429. 13:14two were "back-of-the-room" kids.
  430. 13:15>> Uh-huh.
  431. 13:16>> Wherever I went to give a talk, they'd
  432. 13:17just sit at the back, you know? So
  433. 13:19they'd be like... "
  434. 13:19>> Hey Dad, what is inflation?""Why does
  435. 13:21keeping money in the bank lose out to
  436. 13:22inflation?""Then why do we even deposit
  437. 13:24it?" things like that. They would ask
  438. 13:25questions like that. I'd tell them, "
  439. 13:26Well, you still need to keep a portion
  440. 13:27in the bank.""It needs to be there as
  441. 13:29an emergency fund.""But if you have a
  442. 13:30surplus, then you can think about
  443. 13:31investing." Therefore, I think it's
  444. 13:33really a matter of...The starting point
  445. 13:35of learning is conversation. Whenever
  446. 13:37your child asks something, are we going
  447. 13:39to brush them off?
  448. 13:40>> Or are we going to intentionally talk
  449. 13:42to them?
  450. 13:42>> Yes.
  451. 13:43>> Many times I'd say, "Dad is working,
  452. 13:45let's talk in a bit." Once I'm done,
  453. 13:47I'll go talk to them. It's a very
  454. 13:49formal invitation.
  455. 13:50>> We have an office at home. Everyone
  456. 13:54knows that if you're invited to Dad's
  457. 13:55office, it means there's something
  458. 13:57special that I've heard about. "Come
  459. 14:00sit down, son. What happened? I heard
  460. 14:02this and that..." but...
  461. 14:04>> We want them to feel like this is a
  462. 14:05safe space. Because my wife and I
  463. 14:08agreed from the start that from the
  464. 14:10time we grew up until today, we admit
  465. 14:12that during our teenage years, it's
  466. 14:14undeniable that we encountered certain
  467. 14:16things. Looking back, we're lucky that
  468. 14:21some of those things didn't turn into
  469. 14:23disasters. But the recklessness of
  470. 14:25youth, the recklessness of people the
  471. 14:27same age, making decisions by
  472. 14:29consulting only friends...with not much
  473. 14:31life experience at all, you know. It's
  474. 14:33something that when I look back, I feel
  475. 14:35that we were lucky that day.
  476. 14:37>> Yeah.
  477. 14:37>> We were lucky that day. We were lucky
  478. 14:39that day. So my wife and I set a goal
  479. 14:41that we would be the first people our
  480. 14:43child thinks of. To be the first person
  481. 14:46they think of to consult if there's
  482. 14:47anything. 2 They can talk to us about
  483. 14:49everything, right? I like to tease him.
  484. 14:51My eldest son is now living in a dorm.
  485. 14:52He went away to study and is living in
  486. 14:54a dorm. I like to tease him. Like, "Hey
  487. 14:55, call Dad if you need anything.""You
  488. 14:57remember Dad's number, right?"
  489. 14:58Something like that. Just teasing him,
  490. 15:00you know. So there will be things that
  491. 15:01...Uh, we...We won't look at his
  492. 15:03questions as childish or anything like
  493. 15:04that. Right. Now he's at the age of...
  494. 15:0718. It all comes up. Like about
  495. 15:09registering for classes. "Dad, if I
  496. 15:11study this, what will happen?""
  497. 15:13>> Oh, nobody knows, my son.""Dad studied
  498. 15:17engineering but ended up in finance.""
  499. 15:20So, choose what you feel is fun and
  500. 15:22worth studying." At...that time, once
  501. 15:27you've studied it, some things you just
  502. 15:29have to leave to timing. Maybe. We
  503. 15:31don't know if it will really work out
  504. 15:33like that. Then topics like love start
  505. 15:36popping up. It makes me so happy, you
  506. 15:38know. When he asks for advice about
  507. 15:40love or something like that. Seeing how
  508. 15:44he handles it, I'm like, "Oh, my son."
  509. 15:49>> It’s about having those talks, and I
  510. 15:51believe as parents, we feel happy when
  511. 15:52we feel we can talk about everything.
  512. 15:55>> Wow, I want to talk about this too,
  513. 15:57Coach. Let's pivot to this because I
  514. 15:59think the audience is interested too.
  515. 16:01How do you get your child to talk to
  516. 16:03you about everything?
  517. 16:04>> What do you think the secret is, Coach?
  518. 16:06>> I've talked to my child since he was
  519. 16:08small, intentionally answering whenever
  520. 16:10he asks.
  521. 16:12>> For example. Uh, we have work on the
  522. 16:15weekends. We have to go out. I tell
  523. 16:19myself. I won't tell my child that I'm
  524. 16:21going out to make money for his tuition
  525. 16:23. I won't say that. That line doesn't
  526. 16:25work, right? So, how is it about the
  527. 16:27money? I'm not sure if it's more
  528. 16:28important than them.
  529. 16:29>> It says that.
  530. 16:32>> Dad goes to work because I want to
  531. 16:33create value and do good for others,
  532. 16:35son. When we are capable enough, we
  533. 16:39must create value for others, right? So
  534. 16:42, on days you can come along, I will
  535. 16:44take you. But today you can't, and Dad
  536. 16:46will be back as soon as possible. All
  537. 16:48of this comes from the fact that we
  538. 16:50talk to them, you know. And why if we
  539. 16:52lose a Saturday, we compensate with
  540. 16:54what we've already planned. I am
  541. 16:56someone who plans vacations a year in
  542. 16:58advance.
  543. 17:00>> Coach.
  544. 17:01>> Suppose if a secretary organizes events
  545. 17:03like this, if we don't block anything
  546. 17:04for them. Coach, you would be lecturing
  547. 17:06for 7 days a week, right? But we lay it
  548. 17:08out and lock it in, boom, just like
  549. 17:10that. So, for my child's birthday, the
  550. 17:12area around the birthday is off-limits.
  551. 17:15We know that on their birthday, we'll
  552. 17:18take them on a trip, celebrate, or go
  553. 17:20abroad, so we lock the time. When the
  554. 17:23vacation time is locked in, it makes
  555. 17:26the secretary's job easier.
  556. 17:27>> Hmm.
  557. 17:28>> And then, bam.
  558. 17:30>> They can't dump work in.
  559. 17:32>> But if they dump work in first, it’ll
  560. 17:34be just one day, which might not be
  561. 17:36useful enough for us to.
  562. 17:38>> To do activities with the child enough,
  563. 17:40you know. So, every time we go out or
  564. 17:42anything like that. We have time to
  565. 17:45exchange and say, "Hey." If so, there
  566. 17:47will be weekdays where Dad will be
  567. 17:49there, at the school. Today I'll pick
  568. 17:51you up in the evening, let's go eat
  569. 17:53something, you know. So we try to
  570. 17:55arrange time to be like this always.
  571. 17:57Yeah. So, because we have time to talk.
  572. 18:00And every question they ask, we will be
  573. 18:02like.
  574. 18:02>> It means you must have time first.
  575. 18:04>> Yeah, having time is very important.
  576. 18:06And try to make that time quality time.
  577. 18:09We talk a lot. We play board games
  578. 18:11together. And sometimes there's what
  579. 18:14you call. On Sundays, Mom will take
  580. 18:17them out of the house to a cafe. And no
  581. 18:20mobile phones allowed. Everyone has one
  582. 18:22book each. Please sit and read while
  583. 18:24sipping your coffee, something like
  584. 18:26that. I feel that, uh, my child became
  585. 18:27a reader ever since then. Because how
  586. 18:29can we teach our children to read if we
  587. 18:31don't read ourselves?
  588. 18:32>> Yeah.
  589. 18:32>> When we're free, instead of scrolling,
  590. 18:34we say, "Hey, read a book," but we have
  591. 18:36to do it too, right? We read, so we can
  592. 18:39tell them to read.
  593. 18:40>> Yes, at home we have boxes—oh, that's
  594. 18:42cute, Mom—Mom will be the one
  595. 18:44enforcing, "Please place it right here.
  596. 18:46"
  597. 18:46>> Something like that, so, uh, as they
  598. 18:48grow up, they are trained that...
  599. 18:50>> It's not actually that important. We
  600. 18:53don't need to know everything so
  601. 18:54urgently, you know? There's a right
  602. 18:56time and place for things. Therefore,
  603. 18:58it's about living life and spending
  604. 19:00time together. Being able to talk about
  605. 19:03everything. I never view anything they
  606. 19:05say as trivial. Yeah, there are no
  607. 19:06small issues. Because everything is a
  608. 19:08big deal to them, right?
  609. 19:09>> For a child, everything is a big deal.
  610. 19:11>> Yes, exactly, like when they've chatted
  611. 19:13with a friend and they didn't reply.
  612. 19:15>> Yeah.
  613. 19:16>> Right? Oh. There are many factors, my
  614. 19:18dear. It's possible, kid. Whatever you
  615. 19:20do, you get upset. Think carefully.
  616. 19:22Okay? Right? Or sometimes, your friend
  617. 19:24might just be being unreasonable.
  618. 19:25Sometimes it might just be...It might
  619. 19:27not be our fault...100%. Maybe. Don't
  620. 19:29take it to heart. Don't let it get to
  621. 19:30you too much. If you assess it and
  622. 19:31think... "Huh?""I didn't do anything to
  623. 19:33make you angry.""What is your problem?"
  624. 19:34Uh. Or maybe...Staying silent might
  625. 19:36actually solve some issues, dear.
  626. 19:37Silence. Just try it and see. What
  627. 19:39happens? After that, the friend might
  628. 19:40chat back. Or something like that. And
  629. 19:42I say...Yeah. Maybe they were just
  630. 19:43caught up with something. Or something
  631. 19:45like that. We have to respect them, you
  632. 19:46know. Teaching them about differing
  633. 19:48opinions from the start. Our house is
  634. 19:50very democratic. Eat whatever you want
  635. 19:51to eat. Support different football
  636. 19:53teams, that's fine.
  637. 19:54>> Yeah.
  638. 19:54>> Like, I'm a Man U fan, does my child
  639. 19:56have to be? No, two of them are Chelsea
  640. 19:59and Arsenal fans.
  641. 20:00>> Whoever...
  642. 20:01>> It's a very democratic home, you can
  643. 20:03choose whatever you want, so I feel
  644. 20:05that it's their life, and talking is
  645. 20:07likely the most important starting
  646. 20:08point.
  647. 20:10>> That’s important. Yeah, it’s really
  648. 20:13great that your child, even at this age
  649. 20:15, still talks to you like this.
  650. 20:17>> Ah.
  651. 20:18>> The secret is giving them time and
  652. 20:20listening when they speak.
  653. 20:21>> Yes, that’s right, and doing
  654. 20:23activities together too.
  655. 20:24>> Well, I think it’s probably similar
  656. 20:26to many others. When we live our lives,
  657. 20:29there are bound to be good days and bad
  658. 20:31days. Uh, on the bad days, when we’re
  659. 20:33feeling down or whatever. Sometimes the
  660. 20:36feeling on the good days, you know. The
  661. 20:39family atmosphere. You feel like they
  662. 20:41...We feel that people should have a
  663. 20:42place to turn to when they need support
  664. 20:44, right? Like, if this person isn't
  665. 20:46there, or that person isn't there...Oh,
  666. 20:47when they’re having fun...Kids
  667. 20:48probably won't pay attention to us.
  668. 20:50They’re with their friends, having
  669. 20:52fun, posting on IG, see? And their mom
  670. 20:54might get a bit upset, like, "Why don't
  671. 20:56you ever call?" Uh...As long as they
  672. 20:58think of us when they have problems,
  673. 20:59that’s okay. They’re having fun,
  674. 21:01they’re just being their age, right?
  675. 21:03But the moment they think of us and
  676. 21:05give us a call, that’s it. That
  677. 21:07should be enough. So, people just need
  678. 21:09something to lean on when things go
  679. 21:10wrong. Uh, you don't have to be super
  680. 21:12talented. Because you don't necessarily
  681. 21:14have to be highly successful either. I
  682. 21:15tell them that, but you have to be
  683. 21:17happy. Hmm.
  684. 21:18>> That’s the secret to having your
  685. 21:19child talk to you all the time. Now,
  686. 21:21let’s go back to the topic of money,
  687. 21:23Coach. I just heard...
  688. 21:25>> Khun Noom say that when we want to
  689. 21:27instill a good money mindset in
  690. 21:28children, talking about money is
  691. 21:30important too.
  692. 21:31>> And I heard Khun Noom say that we
  693. 21:32shouldn't say things like "I'm going
  694. 21:34out to earn money for your tuition." So
  695. 21:36, what should we avoid saying or what
  696. 21:37should we say instead?
  697. 21:39>> Actually, I have to say that parents
  698. 21:40don't need to be too tense. It's okay
  699. 21:43to make mistakes.
  700. 21:44>> Yeah.
  701. 21:44>> Even if you're wrong, you can apologize
  702. 21:46. I'm not made of stone either.
  703. 21:49Sometimes I have 108 things on my mind,
  704. 21:52and I might react at the wrong time or
  705. 21:54snap at them, but as soon as I realize
  706. 21:56it, I go back and apologize.
  707. 21:58>> Hmm.
  708. 21:59>> I want them to feel that adults can
  709. 22:01apologize too. Like, "I'm sorry for
  710. 22:03earlier, son," and then I'll hug them
  711. 22:06and say, "Earlier, Dad..."
  712. 22:10>> I'm confused, I'm confused about
  713. 22:11everything, and then I apologize, and
  714. 22:13they understand that, you know, people
  715. 22:15have their moments of confusion, so
  716. 22:17don't be afraid of being right or wrong
  717. 22:19, but just try to communicate
  718. 22:21positively.
  719. 22:23>> Mm-hmm.
  720. 22:24>> In our house, we don't say—I’ve
  721. 22:26taught this since they were kids—we
  722. 22:27don't say that money is hard to earn,
  723. 22:29because money is easy to earn, son.
  724. 22:31>> Mm, money is easy to earn.
  725. 22:32>> Money is easy to earn. It only becomes
  726. 22:35easy once you develop yourself,
  727. 22:37becoming a person with the knowledge,
  728. 22:39skills, and abilities. And those skills
  729. 22:42and abilities aren't just about
  730. 22:43learning anything, but things that can
  731. 22:45help other people.
  732. 22:46>> Mm-hmm.
  733. 22:48>> You're a doctor, right?
  734. 22:50>> You can save people's lives, and that
  735. 22:52is something of extremely high value.
  736. 22:54So it's no surprise that doctors should
  737. 22:56have a high income. You're an artist or
  738. 22:59an actor, and people watch you and feel
  739. 23:01happy. Whatever suffering they had,
  740. 23:03they see you and feel better. Some
  741. 23:05people aren't musicians who play
  742. 23:07incredibly difficult chords, but their
  743. 23:09music is beautiful, right? Yeah,
  744. 23:11listening to them makes people happy.
  745. 23:13Develop yourself into that kind of
  746. 23:15person, and the money will flow in on
  747. 23:17its own. Money is not the goal of life.
  748. 23:20It is simply a tool for living. There
  749. 23:23are some things in life that might not
  750. 23:25involve money at all. You don't have to
  751. 23:26think that everything you do must
  752. 23:28result in money, right?
  753. 23:29>> Money isn't hard to get; it's easy. The
  754. 23:31important question is...
  755. 23:32>> Money is easy to get. ...
  756. 23:33>> how much can you help others with the
  757. 23:35skills and knowledge you have?
  758. 23:36>> Mm-hmm.
  759. 23:37>> In our house, we don't use the word "
  760. 23:39hard" because......
  761. 23:40>> for everything.
  762. 23:40>> Yes, because the word "hard" actually
  763. 23:42means it can still be done. Honestly, "
  764. 23:43hard" means it's still doable, right?
  765. 23:45Right? It just needs you to put in the
  766. 23:46energy and the effort. That's why I
  767. 23:48always say, "Hey, Dad really doesn't
  768. 23:50like the word 'hard'." Dad doesn't
  769. 23:51really like it, you know? Yeah, that's
  770. 23:53what we teach. And another important
  771. 23:56thing we teach is that for people......
  772. 23:57the hardest part of living life is
  773. 23:59making decisions.
  774. 24:00>> Mm-hmm.
  775. 24:03>> And the key to making decisions is
  776. 24:04understanding what the consequences
  777. 24:06will be, right? So I tell them that I
  778. 24:10don't mind anything at all. It's okay
  779. 24:12if you aren't good at school. It’s
  780. 24:14okay if you don’t become the most
  781. 24:16successful person. But I ask for two
  782. 24:18things. There are only two things that,
  783. 24:21if you cross the line, are very hard to
  784. 24:23fix. That is the law and morality.
  785. 24:26>> Yeah.
  786. 24:27>> If you break the law, how would you fix
  787. 24:29it? It’s beyond my ability to help.
  788. 24:33If you fail an exam, we can study
  789. 24:35together, or talk to the teacher.
  790. 24:37That’s just a mistake.
  791. 24:39>> It’s a mistake, but those two things,
  792. 24:41I ask of you. So whenever you think
  793. 24:45about doing things, like going to a
  794. 24:47music competition and fearing you might
  795. 24:49mess up, so what?
  796. 24:51>> It’s okay to mess up. If you mess up
  797. 24:53and people don’t cheer for you. It
  798. 24:55just means you aren’t good enough yet
  799. 24:56. You just need a little more. It’s
  800. 24:58good to know the truth. You will be
  801. 24:59able to improve yourself. Yeah. If you
  802. 25:01compete and lose, or get teased and
  803. 25:03embarrassed. It’s still better than
  804. 25:04someone who has never done anything.
  805. 25:06And it’s like, yeah. Therefore.
  806. 25:08>> Uh.
  807. 25:08>> How far can it go? Yeah. If you can
  808. 25:10understand that, then there is nothing
  809. 25:12to fear. This world, I don’t think
  810. 25:14there is anything scary. But those two
  811. 25:15things are very scary. Once you break
  812. 25:17moral codes or the law, you can’t fix
  813. 25:19it, my child. It’s already done. So
  814. 25:21I’d say anything else is fine. I want
  815. 25:23our home to not need warnings about
  816. 25:25drugs. About gambling. About things
  817. 25:27like that. We know we don’t need to
  818. 25:29teach it because it’s the law, yeah.
  819. 25:31And every time there’s a case on TV
  820. 25:33like that. We sit and talk to them,
  821. 25:35saying, "Hmm, a case like this is
  822. 25:37actually easy to fix." Which is just
  823. 25:39not doing it from the start.
  824. 25:40>> Yeah.
  825. 25:41>> It’s the simplest thing, my child. So
  826. 25:43we pick up things around us to talk
  827. 25:45about. Or sometimes people come to us
  828. 25:46for advice. Sometimes he sits and
  829. 25:48listens. But he will sit and listen
  830. 25:50quietly. Yes. When listening to the
  831. 25:52person tell their story. But once
  832. 25:53it’s over, he will ask. Hmm. "Why did
  833. 25:55you decide to do that?" Or even ask
  834. 25:57questions like. "Why do people get into
  835. 26:00debt?""When they already know that debt
  836. 26:02makes life difficult." And I will tell
  837. 26:04him, "Because you don’t understand
  838. 26:06yet." You're not yet at an age where
  839. 26:07you have to bear burdens.
  840. 26:09>> Mm.
  841. 26:09>> When you have to bear burdens, you'll
  842. 26:11know that everyone has reasons, even
  843. 26:13for doing bad things. I mean, they
  844. 26:14still have their reasons. It's just
  845. 26:16that some reasons might not be enough.
  846. 26:18If we say we did something, like
  847. 26:20getting into debt, that’s
  848. 26:21understandable. But if we talk about
  849. 26:23doing something serious, even with a
  850. 26:25reason, it might not be enough. But
  851. 26:27they have their own reasons. Yeah, it's
  852. 26:28better to try to understand people.
  853. 26:30I'll try to talk like this.
  854. 26:32>> Mm.
  855. 26:32>> So, don't be afraid of teaching them
  856. 26:34wrong, just adjust as you go; the heart
  857. 26:37of it is that 80%of children learn
  858. 26:39about money from their parents.
  859. 26:41>> Mm.
  860. 26:42>> If you ask what's the best way to teach
  861. 26:44kids about money. Be a role model,
  862. 26:47that's number one. But I've also found
  863. 26:50that some parents are role models
  864. 26:52already. But they don't dare to talk to
  865. 26:54their kids. Don't dare to warn them.
  866. 26:56Afraid the child will be upset, things
  867. 26:58like that. Recently, there was a case
  868. 27:00sent in asking about a child who wants
  869. 27:02tutoring but there’s no money.
  870. 27:05Telling me how to handle it. Yeah,
  871. 27:06saying they're afraid the child will be
  872. 27:08sad. No. To be born human, you must
  873. 27:11know sadness, right? It’s part of
  874. 27:12being human. If you don't understand
  875. 27:14sadness, you can't survive, right? So,
  876. 27:17tell them.
  877. 27:17>> But don't use the phrase "Mom and Dad
  878. 27:19have no money."
  879. 27:20>> They will feel like this is a problem.
  880. 27:23Tell them, "How much is the tuition,
  881. 27:25dear?" Let them list everything they
  882. 27:27want to study. One. Two. Three. Four.
  883. 27:30How much is each course? If you really
  884. 27:32have to study. Suppose I let you choose
  885. 27:34one. One. First. What do you think is
  886. 27:37most important? And what do you need to
  887. 27:38study? What do you think you're weakest
  888. 27:40in, or want to supplement the most?
  889. 27:41Letting you choose just. One. Subject.
  890. 27:43Explain it like this, dear. We have
  891. 27:45enough money. But our family has a
  892. 27:48financial plan. Try to imprint this in
  893. 27:51their mind: using money requires a plan
  894. 27:53. Uh-huh.
  895. 27:56>> Our family has necessary expenses. One.
  896. 27:58Two. Three. Which mom and dad have
  897. 28:01reviewed and can spare for you. But
  898. 28:03maybe not for all. Four. Subjects at
  899. 28:05once. Try choosing just one subject.
  900. 28:07And the other. Three. Parents are aware
  901. 28:10of this subject. And we will try to
  902. 28:12plan our finances for our child's
  903. 28:14education. 3 of those.
  904. 28:16>> Mm.
  905. 28:18>> I don't think it's hard to teach.
  906. 28:20>> What if a family can't manage all four
  907. 28:22financial plans, P'Num? What should
  908. 28:24they do?
  909. 28:26>> Well, I think if that’s the case,
  910. 28:27they might not even be asking me in the
  911. 28:29first place. Because they’re not even
  912. 28:32taking care of themselves, right? But,
  913. 28:35if your own finances aren't great, and
  914. 28:37you really want to support your child,
  915. 28:39you can discuss which one is the most
  916. 28:41important. Then, we start saving for
  917. 28:43the child's education.
  918. 28:46>> Because I see it a lot, P'Num, people
  919. 28:48who aren't in a great financial
  920. 28:49position, but once they have a child,
  921. 28:53>> they spend everything on them until
  922. 28:55their own situation gets even worse.
  923. 28:56>> Mm.
  924. 28:58>> How should these parents adjust their
  925. 29:00mindset, or how should they communicate
  926. 29:02with their child in such cases?
  927. 29:04>> They must adjust their mindset, because
  928. 29:06all that debt will eventually come back
  929. 29:07to the child.
  930. 29:08>> Mm.
  931. 29:08>> When they graduate, you won't be able
  932. 29:10to pay. They won't be able to stand
  933. 29:11seeing you suffer. Everything will end
  934. 29:13up circling back to them. So, regarding
  935. 29:14what you say about loving them, you
  936. 29:16know. Let me share a case study with
  937. 29:18you. I went to run a debt resolution
  938. 29:19project at Rayong Hospital. There was a
  939. 29:22staff member there. Who came to consult
  940. 29:23about the debt resolution project. I
  941. 29:25told them that if you want to enter the
  942. 29:27debt resolution project, I have one
  943. 29:29condition. Anyone who joins my debt
  944. 29:31resolution project, before we resolve
  945. 29:32the debt, you must set up an account by
  946. 29:34deducting from your salary, 500. Every
  947. 29:36month. They said, "I don't even have
  948. 29:38enough money to spend, how can I deduct
  949. 29:39it?""Why deduct it?" I said, "Well,
  950. 29:41then I can't help you.""If that's the
  951. 29:43case, I won't help." Because I said as
  952. 29:45soon as the salary comes in, 500.
  953. 29:46Deduct it. If you're already struggling
  954. 29:48today, 500 won't change your life that
  955. 29:50much. But we deduct it to save first,
  956. 29:52so you save before you spend. In this
  957. 29:54project, I went there 6 times in total.
  958. 29:57After that, there was a follow-up for
  959. 29:58another 6 months. So, it's 1 year. This
  960. 30:01person took about 6 months to resolve
  961. 30:02their debt. They’re not debt-free yet
  962. 30:04, but their cash flow is no longer
  963. 30:06negative. What’s heartwarming is that
  964. 30:08after one year, we closed the project
  965. 30:10and returned the accounts to everyone.
  966. 30:13The account linked to their salary—
  967. 30:15every time they got paid, it would
  968. 30:17deposit 6,000 into their savings
  969. 30:18account. They said in their entire life
  970. 30:21, they had never been able to save
  971. 30:23money before. I said, "Congratulations!
  972. 30:25That is exactly how saving money works.
  973. 30:27" Sometimes it’s simple: money you
  974. 30:29don't see is money you don't spend.
  975. 30:30>> So, deduct it first, and then we can
  976. 30:32figure out how to manage the rest.
  977. 30:34>> When people don't save, they lose their
  978. 30:36motivation. A month later, they sent me
  979. 30:38a message. They said whenever they were
  980. 30:41out selling goods, their child would
  981. 30:42come to help. And every so often, the
  982. 30:44child would just slip away. They would
  983. 30:46go follow and look for their child. It
  984. 30:48turned out the child was standing in
  985. 30:50front of a tutoring center.
  986. 30:51>> Yeah.
  987. 30:51>> The child wanted to study architecture
  988. 30:53and was already in 11th grade. But they
  989. 30:55had never been able to afford classes.
  990. 30:57And they did the same thing every time,
  991. 30:59which was hugging their child. And
  992. 31:01saying, "Mom has money now, I'll let
  993. 31:03you take the class." It turned out that
  994. 31:05the 6,000 they had saved
  995. 31:07unintentionally...They said, "I used
  996. 31:09all 6,000 at once, Coach, I hope you're
  997. 31:11not mad." I told them, "It's your money
  998. 31:13, not mine, why would I be mad?""And
  999. 31:15what did you use it for?" They said, "
  1000. 31:17For my child's tuition.""Okay."
  1001. 31:19That’s exactly why we save money. To
  1002. 31:22fulfill the things that we really need
  1003. 31:24to address. And, uh...
  1004. 31:27>> Uh, the child got to study, I think it
  1005. 31:29was a drawing class, because
  1006. 31:30architecture requires a drawing exam.
  1007. 31:33One year later, they sent me a message
  1008. 31:35saying their child got in. Life is just
  1009. 31:37like this. If we stay stuck in the
  1010. 31:41habit of saying, "This is all Mom can
  1011. 31:43do, kid," it might sound harsh. We
  1012. 31:47brought them into this world, you know?
  1013. 31:49If we are going to do something for
  1014. 31:51them, especially for something truly
  1015. 31:53necessary. I think it’s worth
  1016. 31:54fighting for. Being patient and
  1017. 31:56struggling a little bit for it. Truth
  1018. 31:57is, if they hadn't been able to study,
  1019. 31:59the child wouldn't have been mad either
  1020. 32:00. Your child might ask themselves why
  1021. 32:02they can't study like others. But that
  1022. 32:04little bit of extra effort from you is
  1023. 32:05worth more than 500 baht. For many
  1024. 32:07people, 500 baht might not seem like a
  1025. 32:10huge amount. It’s gone in a flash in
  1026. 32:12just one day, right? But this is where
  1027. 32:14the change happens. Are you ready to be
  1028. 32:16that kind of parent? I believe everyone
  1029. 32:17can do it.
  1030. 32:18>> Yeah.
  1031. 32:19>> Right? And let them learn how to wait
  1032. 32:21sometimes. But don't just make them
  1033. 32:23wait without you working to solve the
  1034. 32:25problem. If you tell them to wait and
  1035. 32:29then eventually meet their needs,
  1036. 32:31you're a superhero. You keep your word,
  1037. 32:35right? You are a very heroic parent.
  1038. 32:37Your word is your bond. We should all
  1039. 32:40be like that. At home, we say if we
  1040. 32:41can't give something to our child yet,
  1041. 32:43we don't promise it.
  1042. 32:45>> But if we do promise, we have to keep
  1043. 32:47it because we know how important
  1044. 32:48promises are to them.
  1045. 32:51>> Exactly, you just need to level up your
  1046. 32:53mental strength a bit more.
  1047. 32:55>> We were just talking about expenses
  1048. 32:57earlier.
  1049. 32:57>> Uh-huh.
  1050. 32:58>> Talking about kids saving money.
  1051. 33:01>> And I just heard the coach mention
  1052. 33:03investing for kids too.
  1053. 33:05>> Yes.
  1054. 33:07>> What's a good way to start? Suppose our
  1055. 33:10child knows how to save and manage
  1056. 33:11their own budget.
  1057. 33:13>> Uh.
  1058. 33:15>> How should we instill the idea of
  1059. 33:17investing, or what steps should we
  1060. 33:18start with when talking to them?
  1061. 33:21>> Well, if they've started saving, we can
  1062. 33:23gradually take a step forward. For kids
  1063. 33:25, I’d suggest moving into government
  1064. 33:27savings bonds first to give them a
  1065. 33:29chance at winning prizes.
  1066. 33:31>> Oh, that's very exciting.
  1067. 33:32>> Yes, tell them that maybe they'll win a
  1068. 33:35prize. Tell them this is better than
  1069. 33:36the lottery, dear. If you don't win the
  1070. 33:38lottery, the money is gone, but this
  1071. 33:40way you still keep your savings. Or
  1072. 33:42these days, there's gold savings plans,
  1073. 33:44you know, with a minimum of just 100
  1074. 33:46baht. We can teach them to store their
  1075. 33:49wealth in valuable assets. But you
  1076. 33:51might need to open the account in a
  1077. 33:53parent's name first, since kids can't
  1078. 33:55open accounts until they are 18 or 20.
  1079. 33:57If they aren't of age yet, just use our
  1080. 33:59account. And gradually teach them, well
  1081. 34:01, we ourselves also have to study to a
  1082. 34:03certain extent. Because just sending
  1083. 34:05them to learn from others, you know.
  1084. 34:06When you send them to learn from others
  1085. 34:07for like two days. What, what are they
  1086. 34:09going to get? They come back the same
  1087. 34:10as before. But if they are with parents
  1088. 34:12who know how to invest, like with our
  1089. 34:14son, we teach him to save money anyway.
  1090. 34:16>> Yes.
  1091. 34:17>> Right, once we teach him to save money,
  1092. 34:19at that point, we give him actual cash;
  1093. 34:22we don't do any transfers. Once he gets
  1094. 34:24about 1,000, we take him to deposit the
  1095. 34:27money, take him to deposit the money. I
  1096. 34:29mean, we have to feel that we aren't
  1097. 34:31wasting time with these activities. Let
  1098. 34:32him deposit the money, let him try
  1099. 34:34writing it himself because at seven, he
  1100. 34:36can write, so let him fill out the
  1101. 34:37deposit slip himself. When he updates
  1102. 34:39his passbook, that's when we start
  1103. 34:41teaching, saying, "Look, there's more
  1104. 34:43money added, do you see, from when you
  1105. 34:45deposited?" Right? August, do you see,
  1106. 34:47son? He says he sees it. Because we
  1107. 34:49tell him, what is it? It's interest.
  1108. 34:51How is interest calculated? If you
  1109. 34:53deposit money with Dad, imagine Dad is
  1110. 34:55a bank, you deposit 100 with Dad, and
  1111. 34:57after one year, Dad will give you 50
  1112. 35:00satang.
  1113. 35:00>> Mmh. "
  1114. 35:03>> Why is it so little?" Well, interest is
  1115. 35:06set this way because they keep the
  1116. 35:08money safe for us, right? So they give
  1117. 35:12a small return. Then he asks, "Is there
  1118. 35:15a way to get more than this?"
  1119. 35:17>> Uh-huh.
  1120. 35:18>> You have to remember, son, that if you
  1121. 35:19want more than this, the risk becomes
  1122. 35:21higher.
  1123. 35:21>> Mmh.
  1124. 35:22>> Well, he won't understand it;
  1125. 35:23explaining risk to a nine-year-old,
  1126. 35:24they wouldn't know anything, right? But
  1127. 35:26let him understand, let this word be
  1128. 35:27imprinted in his mind first. "So what
  1129. 35:29can we do?" I then say, "Look over at
  1130. 35:31the bank.""This bank, son, if we are
  1131. 35:35the owners, we will also get dividends.
  1132. 35:37""And when the bank's price goes up, we
  1133. 35:41gain, too.""So how do we invest?" I
  1134. 35:45tell him this bank is 3 baht. This bank
  1135. 35:48is 3 baht. But we call it, we tell him
  1136. 35:50that the bank price is 3 baht. But they
  1137. 35:52won't let us buy just 3 baht. They
  1138. 35:53require a minimum purchase of 100
  1139. 35:55shares. 3 times 100 is 300. "If we have
  1140. 35:58300 baht, August, if you have 300, you
  1141. 36:00can be an owner."
  1142. 36:01>> Mmh.
  1143. 36:03>> Wow, there are thousands, so we can be
  1144. 36:06owners. Anything else? Oh, there's a
  1145. 36:09hospital for 20 baht. Yes, 20 baht for
  1146. 36:12a hospital, and a real estate company
  1147. 36:15for 13 baht. Wow, not expensive!
  1148. 36:17>> Yeah.
  1149. 36:18>> He wanted to own everything.
  1150. 36:19>> He wanted to own everything. And as we
  1151. 36:21were talking, I asked, "If August owns
  1152. 36:23the bank, what does that make the
  1153. 36:24people sitting inside?" They're your
  1154. 36:26subordinates.
  1155. 36:28>> Because we are the owners, right? They
  1156. 36:30work there, right? Many people use
  1157. 36:32their services. You need to know where
  1158. 36:34people go to get services.
  1159. 36:35>> Yeah.
  1160. 36:36>> Right? From then on, he started
  1161. 36:37training. I didn't care at all if he
  1162. 36:39invested right or wrong. I just wanted
  1163. 36:40him to start having fun. When he goes
  1164. 36:42to the mall. He started looking. "Dad,
  1165. 36:44we use vegetable oil all the time.""
  1166. 36:47Which one sells well?""Let's go look at
  1167. 36:50the shelves." Go look at the shelves.
  1168. 36:52Check which ones are running low. The
  1169. 36:54ones that are full, you know? Maybe try
  1170. 36:56interviewing the staff, can we ask them
  1171. 36:58? "Hey, excuse me..." The staff who
  1172. 37:00stocks the shelves. Just ask them, "Is
  1173. 37:02it full because it hasn't sold, or
  1174. 37:03because you just restocked it?"
  1175. 37:05>> Yeah.
  1176. 37:06>> They said they restock non-stop. They
  1177. 37:08restock twice a day, so grab that one.
  1178. 37:11And how do we buy this brand? Look at
  1179. 37:12the back to see what the name is. Write
  1180. 37:14it down and put it into Google. Type in
  1181. 37:16"what is the ticker symbol for this
  1182. 37:18stock." Some things you have to teach
  1183. 37:20them to memorize. Once you find it, if
  1184. 37:22it's there, buy it. Then place the
  1185. 37:24order.
  1186. 37:25>> Yeah, just take it slow, adjust, and
  1187. 37:27invest like that. But I don't add money
  1188. 37:30for him; he has to use his own money.
  1189. 37:32>> Use his own money.
  1190. 37:34>> When it's time for dividends, they send
  1191. 37:36a report. He's still using my portfolio
  1192. 37:38, but I opened a separate one for him,
  1193. 37:40and when I showed him the dividends, he
  1194. 37:42said, "Wow!""
  1195. 37:43>> That's way more!" Currently, the annual
  1196. 37:45dividends aren't much, maybe close to
  1197. 37:4720,000.
  1198. 37:48>> Wow, oh!
  1199. 37:49>> Yeah, the portfolio has about 200,000
  1200. 37:51plus. So I tell him, "See son, this is
  1201. 37:53how investing works." He's starting to
  1202. 37:55understand.
  1203. 37:56>> Uh-huh.
  1204. 37:57>> He's not at a very risky age yet
  1205. 37:58because his other life needs are
  1206. 38:00supported by his parents, right? But
  1207. 38:03once he understands this, he will start
  1208. 38:05saving money; he'll have money left
  1209. 38:06over to save.
  1210. 38:07>> Yes, because they see the money growing
  1211. 38:09, something like that.
  1212. 38:11>> Then one day, he said, "Dad, my son is
  1213. 38:1318 now, August wants to go watch
  1214. 38:15football in England." I said no, I
  1215. 38:19won't pay, I won't pay. I told him to
  1216. 38:22build his own portfolio, adjust it, and
  1217. 38:24fight to make it grow. If the portfolio
  1218. 38:28is a million, 7%is 70,000.
  1219. 38:30>> What does P'Num pay for, and what does
  1220. 38:32he not pay for?
  1221. 38:33>> Well, for daily life like eating,
  1222. 38:35nowadays if he has an allowance, he
  1223. 38:37picks up his phone and what does he do?
  1224. 38:39Bubble tea. Hmm, if I don't want it, he
  1225. 38:41has to pay for it himself because I
  1226. 38:43didn't want to eat it. Why? Because it
  1227. 38:45would cost us money, right? He's grown
  1228. 38:47up now and has his own money, so he
  1229. 38:48needs to learn to spend it himself.
  1230. 38:50Sometimes, when he sees me about to
  1231. 38:51order, he tries to sneak in. But if he
  1232. 38:53wants to order it himself and I don't
  1233. 38:54want to eat it, he has to pay. So, for
  1234. 38:56education and accommodation, we still
  1235. 38:59take care of him, right? And for his
  1236. 39:02monthly allowance, there's actually a
  1237. 39:04funny story about that. Being the son
  1238. 39:07of "Coach Num," he listens and
  1239. 39:09understands that we should manage our
  1240. 39:11money. 50 30
  1241. 39:12>> Hmm.
  1242. 39:13>> 50-30-20. If you earn 100, you have to
  1243. 39:17spend 50 on necessities, 30 on wants,
  1244. 39:19and save 20.
  1245. 39:22>> Hmm.
  1246. 39:23>> When he started his freshman year and
  1247. 39:25had to move into a dorm, he calculated
  1248. 39:27everything and asked his mom for a
  1249. 39:2910,000 baht monthly allowance. His mom
  1250. 39:32asked, "Where did you get that number
  1251. 39:34from? 10,000?" He only stays there from
  1252. 39:37Monday to Friday and comes home on
  1253. 39:39weekends. August wanted to save 2,000 a
  1254. 39:43month, so he applied the 50-30-20 rule.
  1255. 39:46He'd spend 5,000 on necessities, 3,000
  1256. 39:49on wants, and save 2,000.
  1257. 39:52>> Hmm.
  1258. 39:53>> His mom told him his equation was wrong
  1259. 39:55because she was only giving him 6,000,
  1260. 39:57and he had to manage that himself. So,
  1261. 40:0020%of 6,000 is 1,200; that's all he
  1262. 40:03could save. That's how it is.
  1263. 40:05>> That's all it could be. He set a target
  1264. 40:08to save 2,000, so he tried to adjust
  1265. 40:10his income figures. But Mom only gave
  1266. 40:12him 6,000. That's the origin story of
  1267. 40:15how we have to teach him to manage his
  1268. 40:17own finances.
  1269. 40:18>> Coach, what if the parents are in a
  1270. 40:20situation where we have 100 million in
  1271. 40:22debt?
  1272. 40:23>> Hmm.
  1273. 40:24>> Should we tell the kids?
  1274. 40:26>> Actually, whether you have money or
  1275. 40:28don't, you can talk to your children
  1276. 40:30about it.
  1277. 40:31>> Oh.
  1278. 40:32>> You just don't have to tell them
  1279. 40:33exactly how much there is; my kids
  1280. 40:35right now don't know either.
  1281. 40:37>> And we just use the method of talking
  1282. 40:39to each other. Don't give the
  1283. 40:41impression that because we have money,
  1284. 40:42they can just spend it however they
  1285. 40:44want. It’s a lesson that whether you
  1286. 40:48have a lot or a little, you always have
  1287. 40:50to plan before you spend. We tell them
  1288. 40:54like this.
  1289. 40:55>> The keyword is that money must be
  1290. 40:56planned.
  1291. 40:56>> Yes, money is a matter that always
  1292. 40:58requires planning. It's not about
  1293. 41:00spending on whatever you want or being
  1294. 41:02extravagant. I actually feel that it
  1295. 41:05affects other aspects of life as well.
  1296. 41:08They might end up not thinking things
  1297. 41:09through. Therefore, we can talk to them
  1298. 41:11about it. Families with debt have
  1299. 41:13consulted me, asking if they can tell
  1300. 41:14their children. You don't need to tell
  1301. 41:16them exactly how much debt you have.
  1302. 41:18But you can say that our family
  1303. 41:19finances are a bit tight right now. And
  1304. 41:22ask how they can help out instead. We
  1305. 41:24can communicate that, if possible. Mom
  1306. 41:27might not be able to increase your
  1307. 41:29allowance right now, sorry about that.
  1308. 41:32Something like that. I don't feel like
  1309. 41:33that’s a failure at all. And you want
  1310. 41:35to ask for their help. If possible, try
  1311. 41:38to save up a little bit too. If there
  1312. 41:40are things they can handle on their own
  1313. 41:42. I would really appreciate that. You
  1314. 41:44can talk about everything.
  1315. 41:45>> Mmhmm.
  1316. 41:46>> Yeah.
  1317. 41:46>> I can really see that picture now.
  1318. 41:48>> Having a lot of money doesn't mean you
  1319. 41:50can buy whatever you want. These days,
  1320. 41:53even for things worth a few hundred,
  1321. 41:55they still come and ask. Even though
  1322. 41:57they have their own money. We talk
  1323. 41:59about it because they aren't really
  1324. 42:00asking for permission, but rather
  1325. 42:02wanting to consult me.
  1326. 42:03>> Is this worth buying?
  1327. 42:06>> We talk about whether it will last a
  1328. 42:08long time, or if it's okay to spend a
  1329. 42:10bit more because it's better quality,
  1330. 42:12not disposable, or worth trying out.
  1331. 42:16>> It’s not just about being cheap or
  1332. 42:17expensive, it’s about whether it’s
  1333. 42:18worth it.
  1334. 42:19>> Oh, right, right.
  1335. 42:20>> Some things might be a bit pricey, but
  1336. 42:22they last longer.
  1337. 42:23>> Uh-huh.
  1338. 42:24>> And they have more features.
  1339. 42:25>> Oh, this was so useful today, Coach.
  1340. 42:28These mindset methods.
  1341. 42:30>> Thinking about money for children,
  1342. 42:32including how to spend, how to invest,
  1343. 42:34and how to manage their finances.
  1344. 42:37>> Finances require planning.
  1345. 42:39>> Yes, you have to think before you spend
  1346. 42:42, and I also got some useful tips on
  1347. 42:44how to keep your 18-year-old child
  1348. 42:46still talking to you about everything.
  1349. 42:49>> That's wonderful.
  1350. 42:50>> Yes, my pleasure.
  1351. 42:52>> Well, thank you so much, Coach, for
  1352. 42:54honoring our show today. Please tell us
  1353. 42:58a bit about what you are currently
  1354. 43:00working on and where parents can follow
  1355. 43:02you.
  1356. 43:03>> Yes, you can follow me on The Money
  1357. 43:05Coach YouTube channel. For parents who
  1358. 43:08have children in high school. I'd like
  1359. 43:10to suggest the Money 14 course. I
  1360. 43:13designed the curriculum to teach
  1361. 43:15personal finance to high school
  1362. 43:17students. And there is a big event
  1363. 43:19coming up. It is on October 10th, the
  1364. 43:22Money Freedom Forum 2026. It will be
  1365. 43:24held at ICONSIAM. However, tickets for
  1366. 43:27the venue are sold out. But there is
  1367. 43:29another type of ticket called a live
  1368. 43:30stream. You can purchase tickets to
  1369. 43:32watch the event live from home. I hope
  1370. 43:35you'll check it out.
  1371. 43:37>> Thank you so much again, Coach. Goodbye
  1372. 43:39.
  1373. 43:41>> And thank you all for following the "To
  1374. 43:43Ma Ngai" show. If you liked this
  1375. 43:47episode, please follow us, subscribe,
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