HP Virtual Orientation Mod 2: Consent & Sexual Safety 🧠🚦🌈 — Transcript

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1. 0:06Hi, I'm Amber Smith. I go by she her
2. 0:08pronouns and I'm a former Harvard
3. 0:09Promise scholar. I'm here today to talk
4. 0:11to you a bit about consent. Now, before
5. 0:14we get started, I understand that this
6. 0:16topic can be triggering for some people.
7. 0:19So, please do what you need to do to
8. 0:21take care of yourself and center that
9. 0:23first and foremost. Sometimes our bodies
10. 0:26feel before we can express it at times.
11. 0:28So please listen to your body as we are
12. 0:31discussing the topic of consent today.
13. 0:33It can look like different symptoms for
14. 0:35different people such as a racing
15. 0:36heartbeat, feeling nauseous, sweaty
16. 0:38palms, a dry mouth. You could feel
17. 0:40differences in your body and everybody
18. 0:42reacts differently.
19. 0:44So like I said, as we're talking about
20. 0:46consent today, do what you need to to
21. 0:48center and take care of yourself.
22. 0:51So we are talking about consent. What is
23. 0:54consent? What does it mean? Having a
24. 0:57common understanding about what consent
25. 0:58is um is really helpful to having a
26. 1:01respectful and safer community. So,
27. 1:04we're going to be going over two
28. 1:05different acronyms to more specifically
29. 1:08hone in on what exactly is consensual
30. 1:10behavior and what is not consensual. So,
31. 1:13as a broad overview, consent means
32. 1:15getting permission to touch somebody's
33. 1:17body or do something with them, such as
34. 1:20a sexual act. Getting consent is
35. 1:22important when it comes to relationships
36. 1:24because you need permission to kiss, to
37. 1:26touch in any way, or to have sex with
38. 1:29your partner. It is never okay to have
39. 1:31sex with someone without their consent.
40. 1:33In fact, sex without consent is not sex.
41. 1:36It's sexual assault.
42. 1:39Consent is also important regardless of
43. 1:41who that person is, whether they are
44. 1:42staff, family, friends. You have a right
45. 1:44to say no to hugs or anything else. Um,
46. 1:48even if they are from family.
47. 1:50So, now that we kind of covered a broad
48. 1:52overview of consent, let's go over our
49. 1:54two acronyms for today. The FRISE
50. 1:56acronym model comes from Planned
51. 1:58Parenthood of Southern New England. F
52. 2:00stands for freely given, meaning doing
53. 2:03something sexual with someone is a
54. 2:04decision that should be made without
55. 2:06pressure, force, manipulation, or while
56. 2:10drunk or high. R stands for reversible,
57. 2:13meaning that anyone can change their
58. 2:15mind about what they want to do at any
59. 2:17time, even if you've done it before or
60. 2:20are in the middle of having sex.
61. 2:23I stands for informed. Be honest. For
62. 2:27example, if someone says that they're
63. 2:29going to use a condom and then they
64. 2:30don't, that is not consensual. You're
65. 2:33misleading somebody and therefore that
66. 2:35is not consensual. Same thing with STI
67. 2:38status and testing. If somebody is being
68. 2:41purposely misleading with their
69. 2:42information, then that is not consensual
70. 2:44because it's not informed.
71. 2:47E stands for enthusiastic. If someone
72. 2:50isn't excited or really into it, it is
73. 2:53not consent. You can tell this through
74. 2:55body language or checking in with a
75. 2:57partner. S stands for specific. Saying
76. 3:00yes to one thing like going to
77. 3:03somebody's bedroom does not mean they've
78. 3:05said yes to other things like specific
79. 3:07sexual acts such as oral sex.
80. 3:10Now that we've gone over the fry acronym
81. 3:12from PPSNE, we are now going to go over
82. 3:15the STARS acronym from make time
83. 3:18forthetalk.com.
84. 3:20The S in this acronym stands for
85. 3:22sexually transmitted infection status.
86. 3:26Now, this might sound familiar from the
87. 3:27I informed um acronym from the FRISE
88. 3:31model, which we just went over.
89. 3:34When were you last tested for what and
90. 3:36what are your results are questions that
91. 3:38should be covered when we're talking
92. 3:39about consensual acts? The T stands for
93. 3:42turnons. What are things that somebody
94. 3:45likes sexually or might like to explore
95. 3:47with this other person? A stands for
96. 3:50voids. What does somebody not like
97. 3:52sexually? What are their emotional
98. 3:54triggers? and do they have any history
99. 3:56of sexual abuse?
100. 3:58R stands for relationship intentions.
101. 4:01Being transparent about sexual and
102. 4:03gender orientation, discussing
103. 4:05relationship status, agreements with
104. 4:07others, and communication preferences
105. 4:09are all under relationship intentions.
106. 4:12And then finally, S stands for safe sex
107. 4:16etiquette. Use of condoms, gloves, or
108. 4:19barriers, discussing plans for birth
109. 4:21control and feelings around pregnancy
110. 4:23are all important conversations to have
111. 4:25when we're talking about consensual
112. 4:27acts. I hope that this was helpful. Feel
113. 4:30free to look at these resources further
114. 4:32online in order to understand consent
115. 4:34further. And thank you very much for
116. 4:36taking the time to understand consent
117. 4:38better with me