How to use your mind to boost your self-esteem and manifest your goals |@MarisaPeer — Transcript
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- 0:00your mind does what it thinks you want
- 0:03it to do and it bases it on one thing
- 0:05what you tell yourself our mind loves
- 0:10loves loves what is familiar and really
- 0:13hates what is unfamiliar if you want to
- 0:14change your life on a dime make self
- 0:17praise familiar and make criticizing
- 0:20yourself unfamiliar
- 0:24[Music]
- 0:29who knows how to dialogue with their
- 0:31mind for maximum success if you know put
- 0:34your hand up
- 0:37who knows how to properly manifest to
- 0:41get whatever you want anyone know
- 0:44this is good because I love an audience
- 0:46that I can teach from scratch who knows
- 0:48how to powerfully build their
- 0:50self-esteem
- 0:52good I'm glad you know who knows the job
- 0:55of your parents
- 0:57what is it
- 0:58[Music]
- 1:01ah right
- 1:03what is the job of your parents for you
- 1:05what does your parents job when they
- 1:07raise you anyone know
- 1:10yeah a parent's job is to massively
- 1:13raise their kids selfish but they don't
- 1:15know that no one teaches them hey this
- 1:18is how to raise a kid it doesn't matter
- 1:20how much organic broccoli you give them
- 1:22how many languages if you don't raise
- 1:24children with high self-esteem you
- 1:26haven't really done your job now I would
- 1:28never say I was the most amazing parent
- 1:30I learned as I went along and I made a
- 1:33lot of mistakes but I know now what I
- 1:35didn't know then my job was to raise a
- 1:37kid with phenomenally High self-esteem
- 1:40luckily it's never too late to do that
- 1:42so I want to teach you three things
- 1:44today how to massively raise your own
- 1:48self because the truth is if you are
- 1:50looking for yourself as you're in a
- 1:51place outside of you you're never going
- 1:53to find it we'll go I'm gonna wear great
- 1:56Nike trainers I'm going to be an a
- 1:58student I'm going to get a really hot
- 2:00boyfriend I'll go over and then I'll
- 2:02have high self-esteem no
- 2:05unless you're looking in here for it
- 2:07you're not going to find it you cannot
- 2:09find high self as I'm looking for a
- 2:12place outside of yourself so we're going
- 2:14to work on how do you raise your
- 2:16self-esteem
- 2:18we're going to work on how do you
- 2:20dialogue with your own mind how do you
- 2:22become the CEO of your own brain and
- 2:24we're going to put it all together and
- 2:26I'm going to teach you something it's
- 2:28what I call a nicer meditation how to be
- 2:30a powerful manifester so first of all
- 2:33let's talk about your mind you know I
- 2:36trained with very eminent psychologists
- 2:38all over the world and they all told me
- 2:40a lie they didn't know it was like they
- 2:41all said oh you know the mind is very
- 2:43very very complicated if you want to be
- 2:46a therapist well you've got to learn the
- 2:48workings of the mind and by the way it
- 2:51takes a lifetime to understand how your
- 2:54mind works and a second lifetime to
- 2:57apply that well how does that work then
- 2:59that doesn't even make sense
- 3:01the mind would go hey here's a brilliant
- 3:03brain and when you're 85 with a bit of
- 3:05light you might crack it but unless you
- 3:07believe in reincarnation how you can
- 3:09even apply that stuff that just never
- 3:11made sense to me and I've always thought
- 3:13outside the box and challenged
- 3:15everything
- 3:17so then I began to study well what how
- 3:19does the Mind work is it really complex
- 3:21does it really take a lifetime to
- 3:24understand no it doesn't you can
- 3:26actually understand the workings of your
- 3:28mind probably in five minutes and I'll
- 3:31tell you what they are in five minutes
- 3:33and the most important one to understand
- 3:35is the first one your mind does
- 3:38what it thinks you want it to do and it
- 3:41bases it on one thing what you tell
- 3:45yourself
- 3:46I don't want to fail my exams I don't
- 3:49want to mess up in front of this hot
- 3:50person that I'm attracted to I don't
- 3:53want to speak and go oh I look like an
- 3:56idiot
- 3:57and what you're telling your mind is I
- 3:59don't want to do that and your mind's
- 4:02job
- 4:03which is a really interesting job is to
- 4:06make your thoughts real if you know from
- 4:08the time you were two
- 4:10and I'm working a lot now I've got my
- 4:12rtt in schools because I want people to
- 4:14understand your mind's job is to make
- 4:18your thoughts real your thoughts aren't
- 4:20even thoughts they are blueprints every
- 4:24thought you think your mind your body
- 4:27and your psyche work to make real so
- 4:31here's a question
- 4:32if your mind's job is to make your
- 4:36thoughts real what's your job what do
- 4:38you think your job is great job by the
- 4:40way what is it
- 4:41think better thoughts I mean imagine if
- 4:44we talk kids that at five your mind's
- 4:46job is making your thoughts real and
- 4:49your job is think better thoughts
- 4:50because every day your mind makes your
- 4:53thoughts real
- 4:55so when you understand the workings of
- 4:57your mind point one is your mind does
- 4:59what it thinks you want and if you go I
- 5:01don't want to be rejected I want to be
- 5:02dumped I don't want to fail I don't want
- 5:04to get it wrong I didn't want to go to
- 5:06school on Wednesday and take that exam
- 5:08your mind goes okay I'm tuning in don't
- 5:10want to go to school on Wednesday why
- 5:12don't I give you a raging headache
- 5:14chronic diarrhea I don't really care I
- 5:17just understand to give you what you
- 5:19want
- 5:20and you've got to be very careful this
- 5:23is the genie your wish is its command be
- 5:27careful what you wish for
- 5:29if you start saying things like oh I'm
- 5:31not good at attention or I want
- 5:33attention I want lots and lots of
- 5:35attention that sounds like a good
- 5:36thought doesn't it let's imagine I wake
- 5:38up and I'm thinking I want attention I
- 5:40want attention I want so much attention
- 5:42the genie
- 5:43is tuning into what I want attention but
- 5:46I could have explosive gas gonna get
- 5:49lots of attention for that I could go
- 5:50out and start shoplifting I could start
- 5:53acting in a really weird way because I
- 5:54didn't tell my mind I want positive
- 5:57attention for being smart or kind or
- 6:01interesting so the mind is not logical
- 6:05it just tunes into what you think and
- 6:07when you think better thoughts you
- 6:08change your life but in a minute I show
- 6:10you how to do it but understand you only
- 6:14need to know three things about your
- 6:16mind to have it always on your side
- 6:19does what it thinks you want
- 6:22and it bases it on what you tell
- 6:24yourself who's ever done this and
- 6:25thought oh God I'm so stressed I've got
- 6:28so much work and studies I would love
- 6:31a few days off just lying on the sofa
- 6:33anyone ever wished for that anyone
- 6:35notice that they get the flu
- 6:37or they get sick because the mindset
- 6:39well you said you wanted some days off
- 6:41lying on the sofa I've given it to you
- 6:43who's ever thought I'm dreading dreading
- 6:46dreading this exam one of my clients
- 6:49told me that when she was a kid she had
- 6:52to take an exam and she was so anxious
- 6:54she actually went and put her hands on
- 6:56her mother's hair tongs and burnt her
- 7:00hand so she wouldn't have to take the
- 7:01exam another of my client said she put
- 7:04her hand through a plate glass window
- 7:05because she was so anxious about taking
- 7:08an exam but what their dialogue and what
- 7:10they're saying is I don't want to do it
- 7:12I can't do it I go to get out of it if I
- 7:15burn my hand lacerate my hand that's
- 7:18really horrifying when all you have to
- 7:20say to your mind is hey mind
- 7:22I got a great memory I'm going to ace
- 7:25that exam it's going to be amazing I'm
- 7:28smart
- 7:29I remember everything my mind is like
- 7:31Google
- 7:33it takes in everything because the truth
- 7:35is every book you've ever read every
- 7:37lesson you've set so you do remember
- 7:40everything if you tell your mind that
- 7:42so point one is your mind is always
- 7:45doing what it thinks you want if you
- 7:46haven't got what you want
- 7:49but if you've got a lot of stuff you
- 7:50don't want you haven't learned how to
- 7:52expertly dialogue with your mind but I'm
- 7:55going to teach you today point two is
- 7:57the way you feel about everything it's
- 7:59pretty simple
- 8:00it all comes back to two things the
- 8:03pictures you make in your head and the
- 8:06words you say to yourself which you are
- 8:08free to change the way you feel about
- 8:10everything everything everything
- 8:12is down to the pictures you make in your
- 8:15head and the words you say I don't want
- 8:17to get on that plane it's going to crash
- 8:19I love getting on a plane I've got three
- 8:21hours to read a book eat some food do
- 8:23what I like I I don't like being the
- 8:25focus of attention I love being the
- 8:28focus of attention I don't want to go on
- 8:30this date in case I get rejected I'm
- 8:32going to go on a date I'm going to meet
- 8:34someone amazing it's all going to work
- 8:36out so if the way you feel about
- 8:39everything comes down to the pictures
- 8:41you make and the words you say that
- 8:44means that your job
- 8:45is to make better pictures
- 8:48and say better words all the time and it
- 8:51becomes really really easy and the third
- 8:54thing
- 8:55which is very vexing for therapists like
- 8:57me is that our mind
- 8:59loves loves loves what is familiar and
- 9:02really hates what is unfamiliar if our
- 9:04mind could choose it would always run
- 9:06back over here towards familiar
- 9:08and run away from what's over there
- 9:10which is unfamiliar so something
- 9:12unfamiliar I've got to learn a new
- 9:14language go to a new school meet new
- 9:16people I got to do something new and
- 9:18mine goes no no let's go over here you
- 9:21see familiar kept you alive once if you
- 9:23lived in a four you wouldn't go hey a
- 9:25bit bored with life in a four there's
- 9:27some Native Indians I think I'll go and
- 9:29hang out with them because they might
- 9:30kill you so we learned long time ago
- 9:32Familia keeps us safe
- 9:35an unfamiliar might kill us but here's
- 9:37the thing
- 9:38if your mind loves what is familiar
- 9:41all you've got to do is make good stuff
- 9:43familiar and one of the things you can
- 9:45do to make family that will change your
- 9:47entire life is to make self praise
- 9:51familiar I'm good I'm smart I'm kind I'm
- 9:54nice I'm interesting you can say
- 9:57whatever I'm compelling I'm fascinating
- 10:00you have to start to make good words
- 10:03familiar if you want to change your life
- 10:06on a dime I cannot recommend enough make
- 10:09self praise familiar even more familiar
- 10:12go over here to self praise make it so
- 10:15familiar and make criticizing yourself
- 10:17unfamily move away from that I'm an
- 10:19idiot I got rocks for brains I mess
- 10:22everything up you can change your life
- 10:25so quickly
- 10:26by making praise and self-bully familiar
- 10:30by constantly doing it
- 10:33and meanwhile make criticism unfamily
- 10:35see your mind can't go in two lanes here
- 10:37we are This Is A Highway there's that
- 10:39lane and there's that lane and this Lane
- 10:43I'm confident I'm making praise familiar
- 10:46I believe I've got something to offer
- 10:48the world I'm nice I'm smart and this
- 10:51Lane is oh God I'm really anxious and I
- 10:54get things wrong and I'm not very good
- 10:56but you can't be in both lanes there's
- 10:58no way you can drive in both those Lanes
- 11:00simultaneously to decide which lane
- 11:03you're going in which is always that one
- 11:05and stay in it the Mind cannot hold
- 11:09conflict and beliefs I'm good I'm
- 11:10nervous I'm smart I'm anxious I'm a good
- 11:13student I've got a terrible memory
- 11:14people like me but I'm scared of
- 11:16rejection that really messes up your
- 11:19mind because it wants to go into one
- 11:21lane or the other but it can't go into
- 11:23both
- 11:24so you've got to make good stuff Emily
- 11:26who here wears contact lenses whatever
- 11:28worn lenses put your hand up
- 11:31who here put a bit of silicone on their
- 11:33fingers shoved it in there and thought
- 11:35oh I've got to go through these lenses
- 11:36straight away I put it in and I can do
- 11:38it anyone put a lens in and found they
- 11:41got the hang of that immediately
- 11:43because I put one in once I couldn't
- 11:45even get it out I was like I had to keep
- 11:47it in all night because I couldn't get
- 11:49it out you have to kind of
- 11:50squeeze your eyeball with nails and get
- 11:54that thing off and I went to an optician
- 11:55they said we can't touch our eyes in
- 11:57America we get sued and I couldn't get
- 11:59it and then I went to bed I work at the
- 12:01morning it was there and I thought I'm
- 12:02not actually going to do these again but
- 12:04I could have done I could have made
- 12:05lenses familiar but I frankly I couldn't
- 12:07be bothered I thought no it's not worth
- 12:09it but if you put some silicone on your
- 12:13finger and shove it in your eye every
- 12:14day it becomes simple you can do it in
- 12:15the dark you can take your lenses out
- 12:17without a mirror because you make it
- 12:19familiar Once Upon a Time
- 12:22wasn't even familiar going to the
- 12:24bathroom eating a banana wasn't familiar
- 12:26got it in your hair and your eye and
- 12:28your ears eating yogurt you would have
- 12:29got that everywhere so you've got to
- 12:31make stuff familiar
- 12:33and the way to massively boost your
- 12:36self-esteem is to make praise familiar
- 12:39people think praising yourself is
- 12:42arrogant but if we had a scale actually
- 12:45is there a pen let me get a pen
- 12:48if this was a scale
- 12:51and that was arrogance
- 12:56and that was feeling insecure
- 12:59they're kind of the same they're just an
- 13:00opposite thing in the middle is
- 13:02confidence I like myself
- 13:05self-esteem I believe in who I am you
- 13:09see self-esteem
- 13:11doesn't mean what I think of you it
- 13:12means what you think of you if I said I
- 13:15hold you in the highest esteem
- 13:18that's what I think of you but self-ism
- 13:20is what you think of you and when you
- 13:22have self-esteem you're not arrogant but
- 13:24you're also not insecure because you
- 13:26understand that it comes from in here
- 13:29and you have the power to change in here
- 13:33massively
- 13:35when you learn how to dialogue with
- 13:37yourself so we want to be the CEO of our
- 13:40own mind how do we do that well it
- 13:44really is very easy don't complicate it
- 13:46it all comes back to how do you talk to
- 13:49you I've been working with teenagers
- 13:53oh my adult life and I never cease to be
- 13:56horrified by how they don't describes
- 13:58I'm an idiot
- 14:00I'm a piece of you know what I have
- 14:02rocks for brains I'm not very good my
- 14:06dad never sees me so I guess I'm
- 14:07worthless
- 14:09and I always teach them look the most
- 14:12important word you will ever hear to
- 14:14yourself in your whole life and not for
- 14:15some hot girl or some hot guy or even a
- 14:18teacher saying gosh you're smart you are
- 14:21the best kid I've ever had in my course
- 14:23even a parent saying wow
- 14:25parenting you is the joy of my life no
- 14:28the most important word you will ever
- 14:31hear in your whole life
- 14:34come from you because if I said to you
- 14:36oh you're so smart I love what you're
- 14:38wearing I love your hair love your shoes
- 14:40you're amazing could you stay behind
- 14:43today and help me empty out my stuff
- 14:45I've totally manipulated you with praise
- 14:47and the mind understands that if someone
- 14:50is mean we go wow my dad was really mean
- 14:53today but he's got some issues he's
- 14:54fighting with my mum he's got some
- 14:56problems at work he's just having a bad
- 14:58day we can actually work out where
- 15:01someone is mean or nice but our mind
- 15:04believes whatever we tell if you're mean
- 15:06to yourself it's true
- 15:08and if you're good to yourself it's true
- 15:10so let me show you how your mind tunes
- 15:14into whatever you say and makes it real
- 15:17put your hand in front of your mouth
- 15:20so if you're about to eat something put
- 15:21it right up here
- 15:23close your eyes and I want you to
- 15:26imagine you're holding in your hand half
- 15:29of a big fat juicy lemon a gorgeous ripe
- 15:32juicy lemon it's in your hand and I want
- 15:36you to squish that lemon and breathe in
- 15:39that amazing lemon smell I feel like
- 15:42kind of waxy surface of the lemon
- 15:45I want you to squeeze that lemon more so
- 15:48lemon drops come to the surface I want
- 15:51you to stick out your tongue literally
- 15:53stick out your tongue and lick off those
- 15:56lemon drops
- 15:57and now open your mouth and shove that
- 16:01entire half of lemon in your mouth and
- 16:04eat it with your eyes closed bite into
- 16:07the flesh start chewing it
- 16:10sucking it swirling it around your mouth
- 16:14bite into every lemon segment chew it
- 16:17suck it pump it around your mouth eat
- 16:21that entire half a lemon eat all the
- 16:24flesh chew it suck it swirl it around
- 16:27and notice
- 16:29your taste buds are puckering your taste
- 16:32buds are swelling you are pumping out
- 16:35saliva to a thought
- 16:37you're thinking about eating a lemon
- 16:40and already you're making it real open
- 16:42your eyes and here's a question and you
- 16:45cannot get this question because I don't
- 16:47want my hand up in case I'm wrong and I
- 16:48look like an idiot you can't get this
- 16:50question wrong because a bit of a trick
- 16:52whatever you say is right
- 16:54put your hand up if there was no lemon
- 16:56by the way you can't get it wrong put
- 16:58your hand if there's no lemon
- 17:00it's okay put your hand up if there was
- 17:02a lemon it's also okay
- 17:04and put your hand with you never put
- 17:06your hand at whatever the question is
- 17:08put your hand up okay so here's the
- 17:11answer you're both right there wasn't a
- 17:13lemon at all there was no lemon
- 17:15but there was a lemon where was it where
- 17:18was the lemon
- 17:19in your mind your mind didn't go oh come
- 17:22on there's no lemon this is silly even
- 17:24though it knew there was no lemon your
- 17:26mind began to pump out saliva to I
- 17:29thought why did it do that well
- 17:31you know 500 years ago you needed your
- 17:33teeth if you couldn't bite there was no
- 17:35pureed stuff there was no
- 17:37um shakes and bulletproof coffees and
- 17:39smoothies you had to bite stuff them
- 17:41with lemons eroding tooth enamel that
- 17:46was a problem so when you eat anything
- 17:47acidic your mind starts to pump out
- 17:51saliva to protect your teeth you might
- 17:53know something you feel a bit sick the
- 17:55first thing you notice is lots of saliva
- 17:57in your mouth who's noticed that you're
- 17:59going to be sick your mind pumps out
- 18:00saliva to protect your teeth because
- 18:02your mind is working all the time to
- 18:04keep you alive
- 18:05so that's a kind of neutral thing but if
- 18:09you can tell your mind you're eating a
- 18:10lemon and make that real
- 18:12then you can do anything I have a
- 18:14phenomenal memory i ace my exams when I
- 18:18read that question my brilliant mind
- 18:21is like Google it gives me the answer
- 18:23somebody wrote it and my kid was lying
- 18:25on the floor freaking out because she
- 18:27couldn't pass Spanish I don't know what
- 18:29happened but I bought one of your audios
- 18:31passing your exams with these within
- 18:33three days you're at mum I know all the
- 18:35Spanish and her chin was up and she went
- 18:38to school and she got an A in Spanish
- 18:39because I don't know what you did I said
- 18:42well what I did was I put different
- 18:43words in it had different words
- 18:44different pictures that's all it is you
- 18:47remember everything you've got a
- 18:49phenomenal mind as you read those
- 18:51Spanish questions your Genius mind comes
- 18:54up with the answer
- 18:56let's do another one everybody stand up
- 19:00and I want everyone to
- 19:03Point their left arm towards me just
- 19:06like that that's all and let's all use
- 19:07the same arm left I'm using the opposite
- 19:09because it's the mirror opposite left
- 19:11arm left arm to face me and all we're
- 19:15going to do don't do it yet is that
- 19:16please don't poke someone in the eye or
- 19:18touch any part of their body so make
- 19:21sure you've got a bit of space and let's
- 19:23practice it first take your left arm
- 19:26and keeping your feet facing forwards
- 19:28just swing your arm as far behind you as
- 19:31you can get it to go push it to its
- 19:33absolute limit push your arm as far as
- 19:36it will go and then take a look at where
- 19:38it is look behind you at how far you've
- 19:40moved your left arm bring it back
- 19:44and I want you to talk to your arm I
- 19:46think that's kind of weird but we it's a
- 19:48great thing to talk to your body
- 19:50say to your left arm you're super
- 19:51flexible you're like a bendy rubber doll
- 19:54and you are going to go a third further
- 19:57I need you to say it look at your arm
- 19:59and say you are so flexible
- 20:01repeat after me you're so flexible
- 20:04you're going a third further
- 20:06you're like a bendy rubber toy
- 20:10go a third further because I'm telling
- 20:12you to
- 20:14and now swing your arm back and watch as
- 20:16it goes a whole third further
- 20:18because you told it to
- 20:21let's do the other one and we can speed
- 20:24it up now because you know you can do it
- 20:26put your right arm out swing it behind
- 20:29you
- 20:30mark it'll go further because you can
- 20:32Mark how far it's gone
- 20:35bring it back
- 20:37look at your arm and say to your arm you
- 20:40are going way further
- 20:43way way way further
- 20:46more than a third further
- 20:49because you're so flexible
- 20:52and because I'm telling you to
- 20:54and even see in your mind your arm going
- 20:57so far it almost does a 360 degree move
- 21:00close your eyes and see it just for a
- 21:02minute wow my arm is going so if I can
- 21:05see it and I'm telling it go further and
- 21:08I know it will and now swing your arm
- 21:11back and watch as it goes way way way
- 21:13further
- 21:14because you told it to
- 21:17and bring it back
- 21:18so what happened then what happened is
- 21:21you put different pictures and words in
- 21:23your mind you know I work with a lot of
- 21:24athletes
- 21:26and the Olympic Committee is stated many
- 21:28times only athletes you can visualize
- 21:30will ever make it to the Olympics
- 21:32because they have
- 21:33such an advantage over those that can't
- 21:36and many times you'll see a bodybuilder
- 21:38lift away and then they close their eyes
- 21:40and they see themselves lifting a bigger
- 21:42weight
- 21:43someone doing yoga will stretch their
- 21:45leg out like that and hold it and then
- 21:48close their eyes and find wow I can do
- 21:50it so much better the second time
- 21:51because I'm seeing it you'll believe it
- 21:54when you see it seeing as believing so
- 21:56let's just do one more I want you to put
- 21:59your feet together
- 22:00and just put your hands by your side
- 22:02these are completely safe they're not
- 22:04harmful they're totally neutral they
- 22:06just to show you the power of your
- 22:09incredible genius mind because if you
- 22:12have a mind you have a genius mind your
- 22:14mind is brilliant and you've got to
- 22:16learn to tap into its Brilliance and
- 22:18help it with better words better
- 22:20thoughts because I promise you it will
- 22:23change your entire life so put your
- 22:25hands by your side close your eyes just
- 22:29for a minute and I want you to imagine
- 22:31you've got a little magnet implanted in
- 22:33your chin and in front of your chin is
- 22:36the biggest magnet ever one of those
- 22:38huge red magnets and it is pulling you
- 22:42forwards from the chin there is a
- 22:44massive magnet in front of your chin
- 22:46your little magnetic chip in your chin
- 22:49and that magnet is pulling you forwards
- 22:52forwards forwards your chin is moving
- 22:55forwards your head is leaning forward
- 22:58your body is tilting forwards your
- 23:01shoulders are being pulled forwards
- 23:03forwards forward you really want to bend
- 23:07at the waste As you move forwards
- 23:11forwards and you actually notice that
- 23:13you really want to come up onto your
- 23:15tiptoes as that magnet pulls you even
- 23:17more forwards even more forward your
- 23:20knees are locking you're coming up onto
- 23:23your tiptoes you're bracing your legs as
- 23:25that magnet pulls you more forwards even
- 23:28more forwards even more forward you are
- 23:31moving forwards bending forwards leaning
- 23:33forwards because that magnet is so
- 23:36powerful it's pulling you forwards
- 23:38forwards forwards
- 23:41only now that magnetic chip has actually
- 23:44gone to the back of the back of your
- 23:46head and the magnets gone behind your
- 23:49head and this time the magnet is pulling
- 23:51you backwards you are bending backwards
- 23:54your head is going backwards your chin
- 23:57is coming up into the air you are
- 24:00locking your knees your toes are coming
- 24:03forward you're arching like a bow as
- 24:06that magnet pulls you backwards
- 24:09backwards even more backwards your
- 24:12shoulders your head your ears are
- 24:14pulling backwards backwards backwards
- 24:18only now the magnets move to the left if
- 24:22you're left here that little magnetic
- 24:23chip is in your left ear and that magnet
- 24:26is pulling you to the left
- 24:28you're like a tree in a gale you are
- 24:31being pulled over to the left your head
- 24:34is moving to the left your shoulders are
- 24:37moving to the left you desperately want
- 24:39to come right onto the side of your left
- 24:43foot as you lean and move and Sway and
- 24:47get pulled like the Leaning Tower of
- 24:49Pisa all the way over to the left
- 24:52only now the chips move to your right
- 24:55ear and immediately you are being pulled
- 24:57to the right a magnetic force a powerful
- 25:02irresistible magnetic force is pulling
- 25:04you over to the right your head is
- 25:07moving to the right your ear is moving
- 25:10to the right your shoulders are moving
- 25:12to the right you are leaning over to the
- 25:15right like a tree in the wind you are
- 25:17moving to the right wanting desperately
- 25:20to go onto the side of your right foot
- 25:22leaning moving pulling to the right
- 25:27and just be aware of what your body is
- 25:30doing
- 25:31and open your eyes and straighten
- 25:33yourself up
- 25:35and of course here's a question again
- 25:37there was no Magna but your mind doesn't
- 25:39know and I promise you it doesn't care
- 25:41take a seat this is what is so important
- 25:44about your mind it doesn't know and it
- 25:46doesn't care
- 25:48if what you tell it is good or bad
- 25:50useful or pointless beneficial or not
- 25:54your mind doesn't know and it doesn't
- 25:57care
- 25:58and you just proved it with a lemon you
- 26:01proved it with your arm you proved it
- 26:03when you started to do that and that and
- 26:06that and that to a thought because your
- 26:09mind makes your thoughts real every
- 26:11minute of every day
- 26:13your mind makes your thoughts real and
- 26:17if your mind makes your thoughts real
- 26:19you better learn to make better thoughts
- 26:21you know Eminem was talking
- 26:24about what it was like to be a rabbit so
- 26:26when I first wanted a rap everyone said
- 26:27you can't be a rapper he said you know I
- 26:28had a horrible life my mum lived in a
- 26:31trailer she gave me Valium as a kid my
- 26:33mom was very unhappy kids used to spit
- 26:36on me in school and lock me in lockers I
- 26:40don't have a great life and I was so
- 26:41angry I thought well hey I'll be a
- 26:43rapper so I put my anger into rap and
- 26:46they said
- 26:47come on Eminem you're a blonde haired
- 26:49blue-eyed guy you can't be a rapist that
- 26:51made me even more angry
- 26:52and I told myself I'm going to be the
- 26:54best rapper in the world and I love that
- 26:56he didn't go oh yeah you're right look I
- 26:59got blonde hair and blue eyes and
- 27:01wrapping as a black guy's thing and I
- 27:04can't do it because his mind would have
- 27:07made that release I'm going to be the
- 27:08best rapper and I'm going to use my
- 27:11anger and he went to a rap concert and
- 27:13he really wanted to win
- 27:14and he didn't win actually but it became
- 27:16second but Jay-Z was in the audience and
- 27:19saw him and saw something in him and
- 27:20made him amazingly famous and we don't
- 27:23even know who the guy that one was
- 27:24because that's another belief Winner
- 27:26Takes It All no it doesn't winner does
- 27:28not take it all
- 27:31often people who become sick and do
- 27:33better they have a drive I'll show you
- 27:35you know my my father
- 27:37sent my brother to private school but
- 27:39not me because my brother was smart and
- 27:42I had that I'll show you middle children
- 27:44often have I'll show you they often
- 27:45become very successful I'll show you
- 27:48I'll show you and I'm glad I didn't go
- 27:51to private school I'm glad that my
- 27:53father paid for my brother's education
- 27:55not mine my brother's birthday I am way
- 27:58way way way way more money than he will
- 28:00because I had that I'll show you I'm
- 28:03going to prove it to you and Ed Sheeran
- 28:07they said Ed come on you're a lily white
- 28:10skin and red hair and glasses isn't like
- 28:12a rock star but Eminem was the one who
- 28:14said get angry Ed Sheeran slept in bus
- 28:17stops he was busking on the street when
- 28:19he wasn't even 16. he was sleeping in
- 28:22bus shelter sleeping in parks
- 28:25and Eminem said get angry and keep going
- 28:28focus on which lane you want to be in
- 28:31you're going to make it Ed is probably
- 28:33one of the richest music stars in the
- 28:36world
- 28:37so you have to look at your beliefs
- 28:40whatever you believe you're going to
- 28:42make it real
- 28:43and when you believe you're going to do
- 28:44something amazing
- 28:46whatever you believe you'll make it real
- 28:49so you've got to think about your
- 28:50beliefs because first you make your
- 28:52beliefs
- 28:54and then your beliefs turn right around
- 28:56him at you and then there's something
- 28:58called confirmation by us I believe I'm
- 29:01not smart
- 29:02I believe I'm my mind isn't very quick I
- 29:05believe people don't really like me and
- 29:08I've made their belief and it's
- 29:09definitely making me because now I'm
- 29:11kind of shy I'm insecure
- 29:14and now I'm looking for proof of what I
- 29:17believe is true so let's do one thing
- 29:19very quickly before we move on to our
- 29:21manifesting
- 29:25this is a ladder is what I call a ladder
- 29:29of looping thoughts
- 29:32so thoughts always come first you might
- 29:34think feelings come first they do not
- 29:37you might think well I'm feeling scared
- 29:39of a dog but you've got to think that
- 29:40you're scared of a dog apart from the
- 29:42fear of falling backwards thoughts come
- 29:45first so here's a thought
- 29:46and my thought is
- 29:48I'm not enough
- 29:50I think that thought
- 29:52and after the thought comes a feeling
- 29:54and after the feeling comes a behavior
- 29:57or an action
- 29:59and then I justify all by going back to
- 30:02the same thoughts and let's imagine I
- 30:03wake up and every day I think I'm not
- 30:05enough if I wake up and I think I'm not
- 30:08enough
- 30:09what kind of feelings would I feel I
- 30:12give you a clue there isn't a single
- 30:13good one in there shout outs and
- 30:16feelings you would feel if you woke up
- 30:18and you thought well I'm not enough I'm
- 30:19not smart enough
- 30:21not interesting enough not all enough
- 30:24give me some feelings you would feel if
- 30:26you woke up and thought that thought
- 30:28sad
- 30:30more feelings there's lots of feelings
- 30:32sad what else
- 30:34say that say that
- 30:37lonely yeah definitely lonely what else
- 30:40angry good what else
- 30:43anxious sure
- 30:46there's so many hopeless defeated
- 30:50paralyzed with fear unable to
- 30:53communicate so I think a thought I'm not
- 30:55enough I feel feelings are all negative
- 30:58sad anxious lonely angry defeated
- 31:01what kind of behaviors or actions might
- 31:05I or you take if you think that thought
- 31:08and you feel that feeling
- 31:10listen behaviors I wake up and think I'm
- 31:12not enough I feel sad or I feel angry
- 31:16how am I going to behave pick anything
- 31:18again here's a clue none of them are
- 31:21good
- 31:23closed up
- 31:25yeah I I don't take any risk I'm risk
- 31:28averse I stay at home maybe I cry maybe
- 31:31I act out maybe I stop bullying people
- 31:33give me just a couple more behaviors
- 31:36that you might imagine if you think a
- 31:38sad thought feel a sad feeling
- 31:41just pick two more behaviors
- 31:45overeating yeah I'm trying to comfort
- 31:47myself you know the the your the
- 31:50loneliness you The Emptiness you feel
- 31:53inside is always because of the needs
- 31:55that weren't met
- 31:56and one of your needs is to believe in
- 31:58yourself and if you don't have that you
- 32:00feel this emptiness here not enough if
- 32:03I'm not enough guess what I need more
- 32:06more food more praise more followers on
- 32:09my feed more alcohol or something
- 32:14so yeah our our behaviors are I don't
- 32:18take risks I cry I lose my temper I
- 32:23bully people or I just sit in the house
- 32:26so imagine we took out the word not we
- 32:28get rid of that because that's not true
- 32:30we wake up and go I am enough I don't
- 32:32believe it but hey I did a lemon I felt
- 32:34a magnet I did that so might as well say
- 32:37I'm enough
- 32:38and if I said it every day because my
- 32:41mind doesn't know or care if it's true
- 32:44or false if I said I'm enough every day
- 32:48what kind of feelings am I I feel waking
- 32:50up going I'm enough I'm enough I'm going
- 32:52to say it say it say what what kind of
- 32:54feelings would I feel so
- 32:56here's another clue this time they're
- 32:58all good you can't say them enough and
- 33:00feel terrible so give me some feelings
- 33:02you would feel if you started your day
- 33:04with I'm enough you might notice I wear
- 33:07all these I'm enough braces if you go to
- 33:09I'm enough.com we'll give you lots of
- 33:11them have it on my mirror because I want
- 33:14to let that in see words are like balm
- 33:16if my skin was very dry and I put lotion
- 33:19on my mind doesn't goes that From Prada
- 33:20or did you get it free on an airplane
- 33:22doesn't care balm soothes dry skin and
- 33:27word soothe something as words are
- 33:30nourishing so if you use the nourishing
- 33:32words I am enough shout outs and
- 33:35feelings you would feel
- 33:36happy confident
- 33:40would you say over there happy yeah
- 33:42happy is a great feeling what else
- 33:45energized accepted
- 33:48say that again
- 33:50powerful so now we've got great feelings
- 33:53happy I'm not gonna run energized
- 33:56powerful so what kind of behaviors would
- 33:59we do what kind of actions would we take
- 34:02if we think we're enough and we feel
- 34:04happy powerful loved secure
- 34:06self-trusting what kind of things would
- 34:08you do how would you behave if you
- 34:10thought that thought and felt the good
- 34:12feelings how would you behave
- 34:17yeah you'd work on your goals of the
- 34:19belief I can achieve my goals because
- 34:20I'm enough
- 34:22what else
- 34:25say that again
- 34:27I'd commute I talked to people they
- 34:29can't reject me nobody can reject me
- 34:31except me and I'm never going to do that
- 34:33because I'm enough
- 34:34I would take some risks
- 34:36let's have one more behavior that you
- 34:38would
- 34:39Act and where you'd behave if you know
- 34:42you're enough and you feel pretty good
- 34:43about yourself how would you another one
- 34:46more Behavior
- 34:48I tell you yeah I'd go on a great day
- 34:50how can anybody reject me I'm fine I'm
- 34:53kind I'm magnetically sick so you can
- 34:56tell yourself whatever you like you know
- 34:58Muhammad Ali said I told myself I was
- 35:00the greatest
- 35:01before I was you know what happened in
- 35:03everyone's eyes I became the greatest
- 35:05what a concept tell yourself you're the
- 35:09greatest
- 35:10Arnold Schwarzenegger said modesty is
- 35:12not a word that applies to me in any way
- 35:14shape or form and I sincerely hope it
- 35:18never ever does is there arrogance maybe
- 35:20but it's better than saying I'm so
- 35:22self-conscious
- 35:24I can't look at people so oh we're
- 35:27almost running out of time let's go
- 35:29straight into something called niacin
- 35:30meditation I want to show you how to
- 35:32manifest there are three ways to
- 35:34manifest
- 35:35one is just sitting there thinking I'm
- 35:37going to manifest everything but you
- 35:39have to manifest in three ways the first
- 35:41is you must believe you are worth it
- 35:44whether you want love
- 35:46or a great career or promotion or money
- 35:49or your own business if you don't do
- 35:51step one which is believe you are worth
- 35:54it you won't be good at manifesting the
- 35:57second
- 35:58is you're going to really know what that
- 36:00looks like and the third is put into
- 36:02practice so my daughter my daughter is a
- 36:04really cool artist she's very successful
- 36:06and she was little I said darling if you
- 36:08want to be an artist what does that look
- 36:10like because well mommy it looks like
- 36:12having or my art in galleries but what
- 36:15else does it look like and you shouldn't
- 36:17really understand said no look imagine
- 36:19you're looking on a screen you're an
- 36:21artist what does that look like
- 36:23because what it looks like is taking
- 36:25your art into galleries taking a
- 36:27portfolio taking your iPad going hey
- 36:30this is my work and I know you don't
- 36:31want to do that I know you don't want to
- 36:33do it but if you want to be a successful
- 36:35artist you must do what you do not want
- 36:38to do to get to where you want to be you
- 36:40have to talk about your work you know
- 36:43I'm a successful writer I've written
- 36:44seven best-selling books but I have to
- 36:46bring people and go hey do you want to
- 36:47feature my book I go into stores and go
- 36:49oh there's my book let me sign it
- 36:50because they can't send back copies that
- 36:52are signed
- 36:53and so you've got to know you're worth
- 36:56it that's the most important step eighty
- 37:00percent of your success is down to
- 37:02having a success mindset if you believe
- 37:06you're worthy that will take you further
- 37:08belief without Talent takes you further
- 37:11than Talent without belief we'll watch
- 37:13reality TV we all see people with no
- 37:16talent but they have amazing self-belief
- 37:18if you have belief and no Talent you
- 37:20probably will do better than some with
- 37:22huge Talent
- 37:23and no belief if you have both you can
- 37:26go anywhere so believe you're worth it
- 37:28really take a look at what it looks like
- 37:31look at it look at it again look at it
- 37:34again and then
- 37:35you've got to do the work we'll say Oh I
- 37:37thought I could just manifest no you
- 37:39still got to study still got to write
- 37:42your program open your business
- 37:44work because I want to manifest love you
- 37:47I'm sitting on the couch no you've got
- 37:49to go out unless you want to hook up
- 37:51with the app guys and I'm using
- 37:52delivering your Amazon packages
- 37:54I want to be successful what are you
- 37:56going to do
- 37:57so let's do it all together I'm going to
- 37:59teach you this thing called a nicer
- 38:01meditation
- 38:03and the first thing we're going to do is
- 38:04you're going to take these two fingers
- 38:06you're going to touch this area in
- 38:08between your eyebrows you're going to
- 38:10impress
- 38:11upon yourself what you want and part of
- 38:14being a CEO is don't even use the word
- 38:17want I want it I'm wishing I'm Dreaming
- 38:20forget about that you have to say I
- 38:22require it I insist on it and I'm giving
- 38:26it to myself you see if you think of
- 38:29those I'm wishing hoping dreaming
- 38:31because we'll keep wishing and hoping a
- 38:33dream because you probably never pull it
- 38:34off you go no I'm doing it I'm doing it
- 38:36I'm getting it
- 38:38so the first step is to impress upon
- 38:41yourself what you really really want the
- 38:43second step is to code it in by thinking
- 38:47but what does this look like what does
- 38:50it look like and what am I prepared to
- 38:52do to go and get it and the final step
- 38:55which is really easy is you're going to
- 38:56just rock from side to side just like
- 38:58that because you're going to erase and
- 39:01eradicate limiting beliefs and blocking
- 39:04thoughts so let me show you very quickly
- 39:05because do all you're going to do all
- 39:06this with your eyeshadow you're going to
- 39:08touch your two fingers impress upon you
- 39:11some big little indentation impress
- 39:14instruct install into you what you
- 39:17require and you're going to say in a
- 39:20powerful voice I insist on this I
- 39:25require this I'm giving this to myself
- 39:28then you're going to open out your hands
- 39:30and you're going to code it in by really
- 39:32focusing on what does it look like feel
- 39:34like sound like a little voice that goes
- 39:37oh you know you're not going to do that
- 39:39then you're going to move from side to
- 39:40side just a little movement and I'm
- 39:42going to help you erase and erad okay
- 39:45let go of those blocking thoughts so
- 39:47let's go
- 39:48take your two fingers uncross your legs
- 39:51uncross your arms these are very
- 39:52blocking behaviors when you want
- 39:54something being an open receiving
- 39:56position so hands and feet apart don't
- 40:01even cross your ankles just because it's
- 40:03it's a it's a closing we want an open so
- 40:06when you've got your feet and hands
- 40:08apart take these two fingers and close
- 40:11your eyes
- 40:12touch the area right in between your
- 40:15eyebrows
- 40:16and I want you to repeat these words
- 40:19what do you think of what you really
- 40:20want
- 40:21and think about what you really really
- 40:24really desire what do you require for
- 40:27yourself
- 40:28what do you want what do you require
- 40:30what do you need what are you prepared
- 40:32to give yourself and I want you to say
- 40:35with unshakable confidence well I
- 40:38require for myself is
- 40:41say it I need to hear it one eye
- 40:43repeatedly what I
- 40:46require for myself
- 40:49is
- 40:50finish that sentence I need to hear your
- 40:52voice no one's listening to you but
- 40:54we're all doing this say it
- 40:58what I require for myself is confidence
- 41:02what I insist on for myself is knowing
- 41:06radiating that I'm enough
- 41:08repeat that that's a good one let repeat
- 41:10after me what I require for myself
- 41:14is confidence
- 41:16would I insist on for myself
- 41:20is knowing I'm enough
- 41:23what I give to myself every day
- 41:27is the certainty
- 41:30that I'm enough
- 41:32make a little indentation and think of
- 41:35that what do you require what do you
- 41:39insist and what are you going to give
- 41:40yourself let's do it one more time
- 41:44what I require for myself
- 41:48is phenomenal confidence
- 41:51what I insist on for myself is knowing
- 41:54I'm worth it
- 41:57what I'm giving myself every day is the
- 42:00mindset of phenomenal success
- 42:07open out your hands
- 42:09and I want you to notice what does that
- 42:12look like what does phenomenal success
- 42:16and know and you're enough look like I
- 42:19want you to feel it feel that feeling of
- 42:22knowing that you radiate Confidence from
- 42:25your very Paws and by the way confidence
- 42:28is very sexy it's very reassuring
- 42:31everybody loves it so feel the feeling
- 42:34feel what it's like to wake up full of
- 42:38confidence
- 42:39notice what that looks like so see how
- 42:43would you move how would you talk if you
- 42:47had unshakable confidence and enoughness
- 42:50what would that look like
- 42:53what would it feel like
- 42:55and I want you to notice also what would
- 42:58that sound like
- 43:00what does your voice sound like when you
- 43:02speak with confidence when you make eye
- 43:06contact when you tell people hey I'm
- 43:08really good at IIT that's my unique gift
- 43:10oh I T Is My Jam that's what I do and I
- 43:15do it really well
- 43:17feel the feeling of radiating unshakable
- 43:20confidence
- 43:21see what it looks like
- 43:24notice what it sounds like how do you
- 43:27dialogue with you
- 43:29how do you dialogue with others
- 43:32and how do they dialogue back
- 43:35see one of the marks of self-love is how
- 43:38do you talk to yourself
- 43:40because if you love yourself and I've
- 43:41got I'm an idiot I got that wrong you go
- 43:44I did something it wasn't quite right
- 43:46but I learned
- 43:48so I want you to notice what it sounds
- 43:51like when you dialogue with you in a
- 43:54powerful way what does it feel like when
- 43:57you have that confidence in your body
- 44:01what does it look like to you
- 44:03what does it look like to others
- 44:07feel it hear it see it you can taste it
- 44:10smell it you can use all your senses
- 44:12feel that feeling of having the I am
- 44:17worth it mindset
- 44:19feel it hear it sense it smell it taste
- 44:25it
- 44:25that feeling in your body when you say
- 44:28I've got that mindset of success I know
- 44:33how to dial I only use positive words
- 44:36I am responsible for the images and
- 44:39words I put in my head and upgrading
- 44:42them every day after all when you get a
- 44:43bug in your computer someone comes and
- 44:45upgrades your software but you've got to
- 44:48upgrade your own software get rid of the
- 44:50bugs
- 44:51I want you to all say these sentences
- 44:55repeat after me I am worth it
- 44:59I'm enough
- 45:01I'm lovable
- 45:03I matter
- 45:05I'm significant
- 45:08and just one more thing it's only going
- 45:10to take a couple of seconds we often
- 45:12have the voice going no I want you to
- 45:14just move from side to side and just
- 45:17erase
- 45:19eradicate
- 45:21eliminate that critical voice I want you
- 45:24to smash to shatter to end the limiting
- 45:27beliefs and the blocking thoughts move
- 45:29from side to side
- 45:33I'm going to just take 30 seconds to put
- 45:35this all together so I want you to again
- 45:38touch the area in between your eyebrows
- 45:41impress upon yourself how you want to be
- 45:44impressed instruct install into your
- 45:47mind how you want to be
- 45:50impress instruct install use powerful
- 45:54language positive images open out your
- 45:58hands code in and wire in and fire in
- 46:02what that feels like what that looks
- 46:04like
- 46:05what it sounds like and any limiting
- 46:09belief to sway from side to side arrays
- 46:14eradicate eliminate blocking thoughts
- 46:17let those limiting beliefs go
- 46:21and just open your eyes and finally
- 46:23don't be one of those people that says I
- 46:25went to this talk it was good
- 46:27don't just hear it do it this technique
- 46:30won't self-implode every day before your
- 46:33lessons you can go I've got a phenomenal
- 46:35memory I'm awesome what does that feel
- 46:38like well I got a phenomenal memory i
- 46:39ace my exams and if it always goes well
- 46:42last time you messed it up I'm just
- 46:43going to sway from side to side and let
- 46:45that go you have the power to impress
- 46:49upon yourself to install and instruct
- 46:52your mind with how you want to be
- 46:55call it in code it in notice what it
- 46:58looks like feels like in that little
- 47:00voice that goes
- 47:01just erase it
- 47:03stay in the right lane use powerful
- 47:06words powerful languages make your mind
- 47:08your best friend
- 47:09and grow your self-esteem yourself
- 47:11because no one can do that better than
- 47:13you thank you so much you've been
- 47:16amazing
- 47:17thank you thank you thank you very much
- 47:20thank you thank you thank you
- 47:27thank you
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