How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone — Transcript

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1. 0:00have you ever found yourself trapped in
2. 0:01a cycle of Relentless thoughts about
3. 0:04someone maybe it's an ex who broke your
4. 0:06heart or a crush who doesn't reciprocate
5. 0:08your feelings whatever the case
6. 0:10obsessing over someone can be mentally
7. 0:13exhausting and emotionally draining but
8. 0:16fear not because there are ways to
9. 0:18untangle yourself from this mental web
10. 0:20and regain your peace of mind here are
11. 0:23some psychology bag strategies on how to
12. 0:25stop obsessing over
13. 0:27someone recognize the illusion
14. 0:31Obsession happens when we project our
15. 0:34desires onto someone who's unavailable
16. 0:36and over idealize them realistically you
17. 0:40probably know only about 10% of who that
18. 0:42person truly is and then you fill in the
19. 0:45rest and it's that 90% that you're
20. 0:48actually obsessed with you long for
21. 0:51someone that doesn't exist the idea
22. 0:55potential and the fantasy of what could
23. 0:57be and perhaps you don't even really
24. 1:00want them perhaps you simply want them
25. 1:03to want you to break free from this
26. 1:06illusion reflect on what underlying
27. 1:09needs or insecurities might be driving
28. 1:11your obsession are you seeking
29. 1:14validation acceptance or a sense of
30. 1:18belonging through your fixation on this
31. 1:20person by gaining insight into the
32. 1:22deeper motivations behind your behavior
33. 1:26you can address these needs in healthier
34. 1:28ways like through self validation
35. 1:31building strong relationships with
36. 1:32friends and family or seeking
37. 1:34Professional
38. 1:36Therapy Embrace reality ever caught
39. 1:39yourself lost in a whirlwind of thoughts
40. 1:41about that special someone replaying
41. 1:44conversations or imagining future
42. 1:46scenarios mindfulness can be a powerful
43. 1:50antidote to obsessive thinking take some
44. 1:53time each day to practice mindfulness
45. 1:56meditation or activities that can help
46. 1:58you focus on being present
47. 2:00in the moment like painting journaling
48. 2:03running dancing or playing music when
49. 2:06intrusive thoughts about the person pop
50. 2:08up acknowledge them without judgment and
51. 2:12gently guide your attention back to the
52. 2:15present by grounding yourself in the
53. 2:18here and now you can disentangle from
54. 2:21obsessive thoughts and find peace within
55. 2:24yourself do an emotional detox when
56. 2:27you're obsessed with someone you
57. 2:30probably have compulsive behaviors that
58. 2:31reinforce and intensify the cycle of
59. 2:34obsession for example stalking them on
60. 2:38social media rereading your
61. 2:40conversations and replaying imagined
62. 2:43scenarios in your head just as you
63. 2:45cleanse your body with a detox it's
64. 2:48essential to detoxify your mind from
65. 2:50thoughts and emotions that no longer
66. 2:52serve you start by setting boundaries
67. 2:55for yourself unfollow them on social
68. 2:58media stop bringing them up in
69. 3:00conversations and limit your
70. 3:02interactions with them create some
71. 3:04distance to help you heal and find
72. 3:06better things to fill your life with
73. 3:08like learning a new skill focusing on
74. 3:10your friends and family or pursuing
75. 3:12something you're passionate about
76. 3:15cultivate radical
77. 3:17self-love when we Harbor doubts about
78. 3:20our worthiness or desirability we may
79. 3:23seek validation and fulfillment
80. 3:26externally fixating on others to fill
81. 3:28the void within our elves but once we
82. 3:31cultivate more love acceptance and
83. 3:34compassion towards ourselves we begin to
84. 3:36recognize that our worthiness does not
85. 3:38hinge on the approval or affection of
86. 3:41others radical self-love is a powerful
87. 3:45antidote to Obsession as it shifts our
88. 3:47Focus inward towards nurturing our own
89. 3:51happiness and
90. 3:52well-being so create a self-care routine
91. 3:55to practice daily practice positive
92. 3:57affirmations or self-love and self worth
93. 4:00and engage in more activities that bring
94. 4:02you Joy and
95. 4:04fulfillment let go of
96. 4:07attachment obsessive thoughts often
97. 4:09arise from a resistance to accepting
98. 4:11reality as it is practice the art of
99. 4:15Detachment by letting go of the need to
100. 4:17control outcomes or Force closure with
101. 4:21the person you're obsessing over except
102. 4:23that you may never get all the answers
103. 4:26or closure you desire and focus instead
104. 4:29on finding peace within yourself Embrace
105. 4:32uncertainty as a natural part of life
106. 4:34and trust that you have the strength to
107. 4:37navigate whatever comes your way seek
108. 4:41support don't hesitate to lean on your
109. 4:43support system during this time whether
110. 4:45it's friends family or a therapist
111. 4:48having someone to talk to can provide
112. 4:49valuable insight and perspective their
113. 4:52support or even just their presence can
114. 4:56remind you that you don't have to
115. 4:57overcome this struggle alone and they
116. 4:59can be a safe space for you to explore
117. 5:01your feelings and discover healthier
118. 5:03ways of relating to
119. 5:05others so did you learn anything
120. 5:08valuable from this video do you have any
121. 5:10tips of your own on how to overcome an
122. 5:13obsession share your insights in the
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