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1. 0:00I don't think many people actually have
2. 0:01any idea where the motivation comes from
3. 0:03because like
4. 0:04answering why is very difficult.
5. 0:06>> Mhm.
6. 0:07>> Uh and so we know that we have
7. 0:09a lot of independent variables
8. 0:12that created a behavior set that
9. 0:13increased the odds of achievement.
10. 0:15>> Mhm.
11. 0:17>> Can we have a you know double blind
12. 0:19placebo control study to say like was it
13. 0:20because you know your dad didn't hug you
14. 0:22too much or he hugged you too hard?
15. 0:23>> Mhm.
16. 0:24>> Or it was for this period of time or it
17. 0:25was because somebody at school said a
18. 0:26certain thing or a teacher treated you a
19. 0:28certain way. It's like yes and all of it
20. 0:29and none of it. Um
21. 0:32I think that from a
22. 0:34drive perspective um I see motivation as
23. 0:37the equal opposite of deprivation. So
24. 0:39like what are the things that we feel
25. 0:40like we lack?
26. 0:42Um and so like if you're super hungry uh
27. 0:44it's because you lack food. If you're
28. 0:46you're very driven to sleep you may
29. 0:48you're sleep deprived.
30. 0:49>> Mhm.
31. 0:49>> And so having some sort of desire is a
32. 0:52like I think key to having drive. Like
33. 0:54you have you feel like there's some lack
34. 0:56that you want to fill or achieve. Um
35. 1:01but for me I think uh I do think it
36. 1:04shifts and so I think that like the
37. 1:06nature of the motivation can change. Um
38. 1:09and I'll give you a a really dark
39. 1:10example but I think it really drives the
40. 1:12point home. So Albert Camus who's one of
41. 1:13my favorite philosophers says the
42. 1:15meaning of your life is the reason you
43. 1:17don't kill yourself which people at face
44. 1:18value because you say the word you know
45. 1:19kill yourself people get really
46. 1:21triggered by that but it's more so I
47. 1:22think it has a very positive slant to it
48. 1:24which is that if someone truthfully
49. 1:25answers the question they're like well I
50. 1:26couldn't because like my family my
51. 1:28friends my my team my the the the you
52. 1:30know the company. And so I think the
53. 1:32meaning for a lot of people's life isn't
54. 1:33just one thing it could be many things.
55. 1:34>> Mhm.
56. 1:35>> Um and said differently instead of like
57. 1:37what is the meaning of your life if you
58. 1:39say what is your life mean to you?
59. 1:41>> Mhm.
60. 1:42>> It kind of uh brings on different
61. 1:44different thoughts around the topic and
62. 1:45so
63. 1:46why are you so driven? Um I feel like
64. 1:49has similar kind of undertones to like
65. 1:51what is the meaning of your life or what
66. 1:53is your life mean to you?
67. 1:54Uh what does your work mean to you?
68. 1:56>> Mhm.
69. 1:56>> Um I think answering that question can
70. 1:59get a little bit closer at something
71. 2:00that's more tangible.
72. 2:01>> Mhm.
73. 2:01>> Um, and so for me, I
74. 2:04do things I like with people I like, and
75. 2:06that's what I try to maximize.
76. 2:07>> Mhm.
77. 2:07>> And I
78. 2:09A lot of people say this, but like
79. 2:13I really believe that
80. 2:16the middle path has been my like is my
81. 2:18current flow right now, which is that
82. 2:22uh I made enough that I I really didn't
83. 2:24need to work
84. 2:25for, you know, when I was about 31. At
85. 2:27that point I was like, I don't I really
86. 2:28don't need to do anything.
87. 2:30And so I took about a year, and in that
88. 2:32period of time
89. 2:34my conclusion was cuz I just, you know,
90. 2:36I come off of a big work season, and
91. 2:38then I took basically that year off, and
92. 2:39I knew that taking the year off was not
93. 2:41for me.
94. 2:41>> Mhm.
95. 2:42>> Um, I needed to do stuff, and so then I
96. 2:43came up with like hard work is the goal.
97. 2:45That became my like operating um M O.
98. 2:49And I've done that for probably 5 years
99. 2:51now since then.
100. 2:53And I would say that I'm now in another
101. 2:55kind of like post-launch cycle,
102. 2:58um where I have a little bit like
103. 2:59obviously I didn't sell the company or
104. 3:00anything like that, but like I have a
105. 3:02little bit of a period of kind of
106. 3:03reflection. And so for me, I think that
107. 3:07the beauty of entrepreneurship or at
108. 3:08least life exists in the contrast. And
109. 3:10so like when you were when you were
110. 3:12single, you want to be married. When
111. 3:14you're married, you want to be single.
112. 3:16Obviously I'm taking that in, you know,
113. 3:17just extremes. There's desires on both
114. 3:18sides, right? Um
115. 3:20and in the same degree like when you're
116. 3:22working a ton, you're like, I just want
117. 3:23a day off.
118. 3:24>> Yeah.
119. 3:24>> But when you take a lot of days off, you
120. 3:25feel like I just can't wait to get back
121. 3:27to work. And so it's like like we are
122. 3:28the problem,
123. 3:29>> Totally.
124. 3:30>> and so if we are never satisfied, even
125. 3:32when we get what we want, we want
126. 3:33something different. It's really just
127. 3:34the desire for novelty. And so then it's
128. 3:36like, okay, how can I engineer novelty
129. 3:39into my day-to-day existence? And so
130. 3:41contrast is the word that I would think
131. 3:43a lot about, which then comes down to
132. 3:44like, you know, Buddhism middle path.
133. 3:46Like it's And I think that balancing the
134. 3:48middle is actually significantly harder
135. 3:50than doing the extremes. Like in the
136. 3:51beginning you don't you can't do
137. 3:52anything cuz you're not motivated. You
138. 3:53can't you have to you have to figure out
139. 3:54like the basics, right? Once you start
140. 3:57working you get rewarded for working and
141. 3:58you just basically most people go all
142. 4:00the way to the other side and just work
143. 4:01all the time.
144. 4:03And that's a I mean and I don't I have
145. 4:04no judgment of should and should not.
146. 4:05Just kind of like observation.
147. 4:07Um but for me coming back
148. 4:10to like how much skill is required. I
149. 4:12think there's more skill that's required
150. 4:15to basically design um
151. 4:18a cadence around
152. 4:20ideal or optimal living.
153. 4:23And for some people that will be less
154. 4:24work than others. For me it's probably
155. 4:26more work than most people do in their
156. 4:27maxed out state.
157. 4:28But I know that if I if I have a handful
158. 4:32of things that occur on a weekly basis
159. 4:34or monthly basis
160. 4:35I kind of maintain that contrast so that
161. 4:38gives me the longevity to pursue
162. 4:40significantly longer goals
163. 4:42that are more meaningful to me. So it's
164. 4:44a long-winded answer for you.
165. 4:46>> Um