How To Read People Using Science — Transcript

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1. 0:00Babies are way better at reading other
2. 0:01people's emotions than adults. That
3. 0:04means you had this ability once, but you
4. 0:06lost it over time. Luckily for you, I've
5. 0:08spent over 168 hours researching how to
6. 0:11read a person using science. Basically,
7. 0:14there's a thing called the Morabian
8. 0:15communication formula, which explains
9. 0:17how we communicate our emotions.
10. 0:19Compared to us adults, babies don't know
11. 0:21how to talk yet, so they pay more
12. 0:23attention to non-verbal and parverbal
13. 0:25communication. And that's exactly what
14. 0:27you have to do in order to find out if
15. 0:29someone likes you or not. Number one,
16. 0:32non-verbal communication. Here you have
17. 0:34to focus on three areas: legs, hands,
18. 0:37and face. When it comes to the legs, you
19. 0:40have to pay attention to the distance
20. 0:43between them. Usually, the bigger the
21. 0:45distance, the more comfortable the
22. 0:46person, up to a certain limit, of
23. 0:49course. The direction of their feet. We
24. 0:52tend to point our feet towards someone
25. 0:54or something we like. the position of
26. 0:57the heels. If someone's heel is slightly
27. 0:59lifted off the ground, it's a sign that
28. 1:01they're feeling nervous. And after that,
29. 1:04we have the hands. I'm not going to bore
30. 1:06you with the usual signs like crossed
31. 1:08arms, cracking knuckles, or clenched
32. 1:10fists. But there are a few aspects that
33. 1:13you have to keep in mind. A, check the
34. 1:16direction of the palms. In evolutionary
35. 1:18psychology, exposing the palms means
36. 1:21that the person in front of you is
37. 1:22comfortable and honest. B. Notice how
38. 1:25their hands are in rapport with you. In
39. 1:27poker, the players with the best cards
40. 1:29tend to keep their hands on them, while
41. 1:31the players with bad cards tend to keep
42. 1:33their hands away. Why? Because when we
43. 1:36like something, we move our hands
44. 1:38towards that thing. But when we don't,
45. 1:40we keep it away. See, notice what they
46. 1:43do with their hands during the
47. 1:44interaction. For example, if they touch
48. 1:46their forehead, it means that they feel
49. 1:48anxious. On the other hand, if they
50. 1:50touch their lips, it might mean they're
51. 1:52attracted to you. There's no point in
52. 1:54enumerating all the meanings behind some
53. 1:56gestures now, so I'll just put them on
54. 1:58screen. But the most important subject
55. 2:00is the face. The chin being further out
56. 2:03and a smooth forehead means that they
57. 2:05like you and that they're comfortable.
58. 2:07On the other hand, if they tuck their
59. 2:08chin down and have a furrowed forehead,
60. 2:10they feel uncomfortable or even
61. 2:12stressed. These are the most obvious
62. 2:15signs that you can spot. But there are
63. 2:17also the eyes. The most important part
64. 2:20of non-verbal communication. Also, they
65. 2:22are the hardest to read. Before I tell
66. 2:24you anything, I want you to look at a
67. 2:26pair of eyes right here. What emotion
68. 2:28are they giving
69. 2:31off? If you said decisive, you are
70. 2:34correct. What about
71. 2:39this? It's desire. And finally,
72. 2:44this it's concerned. If you didn't get
73. 2:47them right, don't worry. I'm going to
74. 2:49give you some specific details that will
75. 2:51help you read other people's eyes.
76. 2:52First, look at their shape. If someone
77. 2:54narrows their eyes similar to this, it
78. 2:57can mean they are either angry,
79. 2:59suspicious, or concerned. Yet, in
80. 3:01certain cases, it might just mean that a
81. 3:03person is concentrating. On the other
82. 3:05hand, if someone widens their eyes like
83. 3:07this, it can mean that they are either
84. 3:09surprised, alert, or even afraid. If the
85. 3:13person in front of you gets these
86. 3:14wrinkles around their eyes, it means
87. 3:16that they're truly happy to see you
88. 3:17around them. Now, there's also a special
89. 3:20eye shape called closed set eyes. You've
90. 3:23probably seen this type of eye shape in
91. 3:25a lot of celebrities, but the best
92. 3:27example is Marilyn Monroe. It happens
93. 3:30when a girl has her eyes half closed
94. 3:32while still maintaining eye contact.
95. 3:34It's usually a sign of desire and
96. 3:36interest. Most girls do this
97. 3:38unconsciously, yet some do it on purpose
98. 3:40due to the seductive effect it has on
99. 3:42men. But besides the shape, you can also
100. 3:45read someone's eyes by the direction
101. 3:47they're looking at. In 1970, Richard
102. 3:49Banlier and Jean Grinder called this
103. 3:51phenomenon neural linguistic
104. 3:53programming. This is actually more
105. 3:55helpful when you're trying to figure out
106. 3:57if someone is being honest with you. But
107. 4:00in 2021, a study that was highlighted in
108. 4:02The Atlantic found out that people can
109. 4:04detect lies better from audio alone than
110. 4:07from video or text. What does this tell
111. 4:10us? Although it represents a smaller
112. 4:12part of our overall communication, we
113. 4:14can't overlook. Number two, paravverbal
114. 4:17communication. Here you have to pay
115. 4:19attention to three things. A her pitch.
116. 4:22A study published in evolution and human
117. 4:24behavior found that women tend to raise
118. 4:26their voice pitch when they are
119. 4:28attracted to someone while men tend to
120. 4:30lower their voice pitch. B. Elongated
121. 4:33words. You see this especially in your
122. 4:35interaction with girls. If she says
123. 4:38something like really instead of really
124. 4:41or no way instead of no way, there are a
125. 4:45lot of chances that she's into you. You
126. 4:48probably spotted this kind of behavior
127. 4:49through text, and it's one of the
128. 4:51biggest signs that she's into you. C.
129. 4:54Micro pauses. When people pause
130. 4:56mid-sentence and suddenly change their
131. 4:58pacing, it means that they're either
132. 5:00thinking, lying, or emotionally
133. 5:02conflicted. This usually happens when
134. 5:04someone starts to open up about
135. 5:06something, but then pulls back because
136. 5:08they're afraid of being judged. If you
137. 5:10spot that, encourage them to continue.
138. 5:12This alone will build up a better
139. 5:14connection. Once you get good at the
140. 5:15basics of paravverbal communication, you
141. 5:18can start analyzing every emotion behind
142. 5:20someone's voice by searching for these
143. 5:22cues right here. Yet, sometimes the key
144. 5:24difference between really understanding
145. 5:26someone or completely missing the point
146. 5:29is number three, verbal communication.
147. 5:32What is your gender? My gender?
148. 5:37I'm a mechanic. A big sign that a person
149. 5:39likes you is that they use tag
150. 5:41questions. These are questions like
151. 5:43isn't it or right at the end of a
152. 5:46sentence why? If a person likes you,
153. 5:49they'll want to make sure that you two
154. 5:50share the same values. A similar sign is
155. 5:53the fight for airtime phenomenon.
156. 5:55Basically, they start finishing off your
157. 5:57sentences or jump in with stuff like,
158. 5:59"Yeah, exactly." But in order for them
159. 6:02to finish off your sentences, you have
160. 6:04to know how to avoid awkward silence
161. 6:06first. Fortunately for you, I know the
162. 6:08video that shows you how to talk to
163. 6:10anyone, anything, anywhere.
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