How To Quit Maladaptive Daydreaming Part 2 (Healthy Ways to Reclaim Your Focus & Mind) — Transcript

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1. 0:00I'm back a year later, [music] ready to
2. 0:02talk about this again. This video isn't
3. 0:05going to talk about the multiple
4. 0:06different strategies you can use to quit
5. 0:08maladaptive daydreaming, but rather
6. 0:10we're going to be focusing on one
7. 0:12specific method that I have been doing
8. 0:15to maintain my [music] state of being
9. 0:17clean from maladaptive daydreaming for
10. 0:19almost 2 years at this point. [music] If
11. 0:22you guys are new to my channel, welcome.
12. 0:24My name is Ailani. I post content based
13. 0:26on self- transformation, manifestation,
14. 0:28subliminal stimuli, and basically
15. 0:31everything that revolves around
16. 0:32self-improvement and being your best
17. 0:34self. [music] Also, before you guys
18. 0:36start commenting on why my eyebrows look
19. 0:38a little funky, I am growing them back
20. 0:40to their natural full size. So, [music]
21. 0:42please take that into consideration
22. 0:44before you tell me how weird I look.
23. 0:46Anyway, let's get right into the topic
24. 0:49of today's video. I want to discuss the
25. 0:53method [music] that I'll be talking
26. 0:55about in a way that's very raw and
27. 0:57straightforward because this method
28. 1:00itself is very simple but it can be
29. 1:03complex especially if you
30. 1:07have strong emotional attachments to
31. 1:09[music] the daydreams and the
32. 1:11maladaptive thoughts that you might have
33. 1:14specifically. The reason why this is
34. 1:16going to be emotionally challenging is
35. 1:17because we are going to be energetically
36. 1:19purging all these thoughts. [music]
37. 1:21We're basically going to be exercising
38. 1:23the demons that live within our mind.
39. 1:26And the first thing that we're going to
40. 1:28want to do is we're going to want to get
41. 1:31a journal. Maybe it looks like this one
42. 1:33that I have right here. And this is the
43. 1:34actual journal that I have used to purge
44. 1:37my maladaptive thoughts. You're going to
45. 1:39purchase a very, [music]
46. 1:41very nice journal. One that you can
47. 1:44probably put in like a purse or like a
48. 1:46bag. Something that's not going to be in
49. 1:48reach for others to see because this is
50. 1:50going to be a very personal journal that
51. 1:51you're not going to want others to see
52. 1:53because this is going to include all of
53. 1:55your deepest, darkest, most raw thoughts
54. 1:58that you could possibly have. Anyway,
55. 2:00[music]
56. 2:01just choose a journal that feels
57. 2:03characteristic to you. Choose one that
58. 2:05you feel like you resonate with.
59. 2:07Personally, I like any [music]
60. 2:08journal style that has a very spiritual
61. 2:11touch to it. You can also get something
62. 2:14that has like a more mystical theme.
63. 2:16Mystical/ spiritual tends to be my theme
64. 2:19for journals here. So, just find [music]
65. 2:20something that resonates with you. I
66. 2:23know there are a lot of bookstores that
67. 2:24carry paper blanks. Paper blanks
68. 2:26journals are personally my favorite.
69. 2:28[music] This right here is not a paper
70. 2:30blanks journal. It's by Peter Popper
71. 2:33Press. Find Gifts [music] since 1928. I
72. 2:35found this one at Barnes & Noble. And
73. 2:37Barnes & Noble basically carries a lot
74. 2:39of journals that you can choose from.
75. 2:41They're sturdy and they have a lot of
76. 2:43pages. So once we begin the thought
77. 2:47purging process, [music] ideally it's
78. 2:50best if you can get alone in a space
79. 2:53that is quiet and clear of other people.
80. 2:57I want you to make this space designated
81. 3:00to your writing, your [music] time. And
82. 3:03although it's going to be emotionally
83. 3:05challenging and you might feel some
84. 3:07resistance to it, the first thing you
85. 3:10want to do before you journal after
86. 3:11[music] you find your space is simply
87. 3:14sit alone with your thoughts for just a
88. 3:15moment. So just ground yourself, breathe
89. 3:19into your diaphragm, assure yourself
90. 3:21that you have permission to write out
91. 3:23all of these thoughts, no matter [music]
92. 3:25how evil, dark, and ashamed you might
93. 3:30feel to write them down. Give yourself
94. 3:32[music] permission. We want zero
95. 3:35resistance here. Because the more honest
96. 3:38we can be with ourselves about these
97. 3:40thoughts, [music]
98. 3:42the more lasting results we are going to
99. 3:44change because we are purging literally
100. 3:46every single last thought we have out of
101. 3:48our brain onto paper. Once you have
102. 3:51given yourself permission and you
103. 3:52energetically start to feel a little
104. 3:54more safe to journal, we're obviously
105. 3:58going to start the journaling [music]
106. 3:59process here. And journaling shouldn't
107. 4:02be structured because each person has
108. 4:05their own approach to to journaling.
109. 4:07Personally, [music] my journaling is
110. 4:10very sporadic and spontaneous. Even
111. 4:12though I am a very organized person,
112. 4:15especially if it's in this journal, I
113. 4:16keep two different journals. I keep a
114. 4:18self-improvement journal/manifestation
115. 4:20journal and my um transformative book of
116. 4:24thoughts journal. Basically, this is
117. 4:26what I've named my uh thought journal,
118. 4:29the transformative book of thoughts. But
119. 4:31anyway, um [music] just write until you
120. 4:35feel like
121. 4:37you energetically and somatically have
122. 4:39no remnants [music] left of the negative
123. 4:42thoughts. And this isn't meant to be a
124. 4:44one time thing. Your thoughts are
125. 4:46eventually going to come back and
126. 4:47they're going to keep coming back over
127. 4:49time. The whole point is when you start
128. 4:52[music] to feel these thoughts formulate
129. 4:54in your mind, you want to observe them
130. 4:57[music] for just a couple of minutes or
131. 4:59as long as you can unless you like
132. 5:01actually give into them. When you
133. 5:02actually like give emotional attachment
134. 5:05to these thoughts, that's when you have
135. 5:06to journal them out because we don't
136. 5:09want to make you rely on journaling. We
137. 5:12want to get you to a point where these
138. 5:14thoughts no longer
139. 5:16energetically resonate within your mind,
140. 5:18[music] your body, and your emotions.
141. 5:22So, if you do have the journal available
142. 5:25when you feel emotionally attached to
143. 5:28these thoughts, [music] journal them
144. 5:30out. Get the energy out of your body as
145. 5:32soon as possible because it is really,
146. 5:34really easy to spiral out of control
147. 5:36with thoughts [music] and ruminate on
148. 5:38them all night. It's going to keep you
149. 5:39up at night. And we know that staying up
150. 5:41late and not getting enough sleep at
151. 5:43night is very very bad for you [music]
152. 5:45in all areas of health. So we want to
153. 5:48make sure that you are purging these
154. 5:51thoughts energetically and somatically.
155. 5:53[music]
156. 5:53The reason why we want to practice
157. 5:56observing our thoughts without emotional
158. 5:58attachment is obviously to remove the
159. 6:00emotional attachment that we have to the
160. 6:02thoughts. [music] For example, I often
161. 6:06had a lot of negative thoughts regarding
162. 6:07family, especially when I was in my
163. 6:09later teens. When I was 19 years old,
164. 6:12I'd say about I had a lot of negative
165. 6:15thoughts about my upbringing. And when I
166. 6:17would think of them, I had like really
167. 6:19really bad grief. I constantly thought
168. 6:21about how I could get revenge on the
169. 6:23people who traumatized me and took my
170. 6:26life towards negative paths and caused
171. 6:30insecurities and people who bullied me.
172. 6:32I constantly thought about ways I could
173. 6:34get revenge [music] and the truth is
174. 6:36this wasn't making anything better. It
175. 6:37was feeding my ego and it was making me
176. 6:40blind to healing the relationship with
177. 6:42that person. So the first thing I
178. 6:44started to do was I think it was right
179. 6:46about this time when I was 19 years old
180. 6:48when I moved out. And this gave me more
181. 6:51free time to focus on journaling. And I
182. 6:54don't want to say moving out gave me
183. 6:55more time because I had more free time
184. 6:57before I moved out. But I just felt like
185. 7:00this time, you know, was a good time in
186. 7:01to invest in journaling and discovering
187. 7:04more about myself. So, I wrote down
188. 7:06every single last thought, every single
189. 7:10nasty [music]
190. 7:11thought that remained in my mind. I I
191. 7:14really don't care like how dark it was.
192. 7:16I had a lot of dark thoughts and [music]
193. 7:19by like naturally I'm a very very
194. 7:21cerebral person. I spend a lot of time
195. 7:23in my mind and I spend a lot of time
196. 7:25observing my thoughts. So once I was
197. 7:27finally able to get these thoughts onto
198. 7:30paper and energetically purge them for
199. 7:32my body, I would actually read back on
200. 7:35these journal entries [music] and I
201. 7:38would realize like not only like
202. 7:42how sad the thoughts I was having were,
203. 7:46but like [music]
204. 7:48realizing how broken I truly was inside
205. 7:52and that observing these thoughts was
206. 7:54the first step towards healing.
207. 7:56>> [music]
208. 7:56>> When I talk about reading your past
209. 7:59journal entries, this is almost as
210. 8:02important as writing the thoughts out
211. 8:06themselves. Because when you get the
212. 8:08perspective of reading your past [music]
213. 8:10entries from a week, maybe a month,
214. 8:11maybe even a year ago, you give yourself
215. 8:14insight into patterns on how you work
216. 8:18psychologically, [music] how you
217. 8:19function emotionally, and where your
218. 8:21trauma lies. When you look at old
219. 8:23entries, you are basically addressing
220. 8:25[music] the root of your trauma.
221. 8:28And I'm not saying this I'm not I'm not
222. 8:32using this as advice to replace therapy,
223. 8:34but there was a time where I did not
224. 8:36have access [music] to to therapy. And I
225. 8:39actually reversed a lot of my depression
226. 8:41just by journaling and reflecting on my
227. 8:43thoughts. The key to maintaining these
228. 8:46maladaptive thoughts away [music] from
229. 8:49your psyche is consistency and it's
230. 8:52honesty. We don't want to patch anything
231. 8:54up here. Journaling is extremely
232. 8:56personal. I don't recommend sharing this
233. 8:59with anybody else because this leaves
234. 9:01you at risk for of course somebody
235. 9:03opening up your journal and that can
236. 9:04lead to feelings of betrayal, [music]
237. 9:06distrust and it can really really hurt
238. 9:09your vulnerability. And when pe when
239. 9:12other people get to know you at this
240. 9:14deep of a level without your consent,
241. 9:16[music]
242. 9:16it can definitely damage your
243. 9:18relationship. So please please guard
244. 9:20your entries [music] with your life. It
245. 9:24would absolutely crush me to know that
246. 9:26somebody entered [music]
247. 9:27my journals without my consent. Believe
248. 9:30it or not, I actually share some of my
249. 9:32journal entries with [music] the people
250. 9:33that I feel safest with. And I think
251. 9:36this is also okay to do with people that
252. 9:38you feel safe with. So, let's draw back
253. 9:42from all of the like sadness and heavy
254. 9:44emotions regarding maladaptive
255. 9:46daydreaming. But I think there's
256. 9:47actually a very fun process to this
257. 9:49because over time when you become more
258. 9:52consistent, I mean, once you start
259. 9:55journaling out all these thoughts you
260. 9:56have, like it might happen pretty fast
261. 9:58for you to just purge all these
262. 10:00thoughts. But if you're somebody who's
263. 10:02like really really really into
264. 10:03self-discovery like I am, you will
265. 10:05actually like accumulate a lot of
266. 10:07journals over time. I have 20 journals
267. 10:10aides from these two right here sitting
268. 10:14in a bookcase in my room. Some of them
269. 10:16have have actually collected dust over
270. 10:18the almost 4 years of journaling that
271. 10:20I've been doing. And it's really fun to
272. 10:22go back in time and read your old
273. 10:24entries, but you because you can see how
274. 10:25you've developed as a person. And you
275. 10:27can also see like the giveaways and the
276. 10:29cues that you can follow to like kind of
277. 10:32tinker around with and use those as
278. 10:35tools to help you become into the person
279. 10:37that you want to [music] be. Thank you
280. 10:39guys for staying until the end of this
281. 10:40video today. This honestly is a very
282. 10:43heavy topic and I want you to approach
283. 10:46it carefully because it's emotionally
284. 10:48challenging for a lot of people,
285. 10:49especially if you have trauma [music] to
286. 10:52suddenly just jot down and confront all
287. 10:54these thoughts that you have in the back
288. 10:56of your mind. Again, [music] thank you
289. 10:58so much for staying here and until next
290. 11:00time, I will see you guys. Take care and
291. 11:02I love you so much. Bye.