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  1. 0:05Welcome to the Catholic Theology Show,
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  9. 0:18for more information. I'm your host,
  10. 0:20Michael Doffany, and today I am so
  11. 0:23pleased uh and happy to have Emac Elie
  12. 0:26Giza again on our show. Oh, welcome to
  13. 0:29the show.
  14. 0:29>> Thank you so much.
  15. 0:31>> Really happy to be here on a big day.
  16. 0:33>> That's right. That's right. This is one
  17. 0:34of the times where we're going to uh
  18. 0:36open up the kind of veil and I'll let
  19. 0:39you know the day we're recording this
  20. 0:40because we're recording this on the
  21. 0:42feast of the Immaculate Conception,
  22. 0:44December 8th.
  23. 0:45>> Yes. This is really one of my the
  24. 0:47happiest day of the year for me.
  25. 0:49>> Yeah. And your father named you Immacula
  26. 0:52right after the immaculate conception.
  27. 0:54>> Yes. Exactly. So in school people used
  28. 0:57to think my birthday was December 8th
  29. 0:59because it was just like a day like is I
  30. 1:02mean like every feast but especially the
  31. 1:04feast of our lady I think she just throw
  32. 1:06flowers to her children. A that's
  33. 1:08beautiful.
  34. 1:09>> So I think today people who remember her
  35. 1:11she really gives a lot good.
  36. 1:13>> That's great. And uh we do have anyone
  37. 1:15who's interested we have a earlier
  38. 1:17episode
  39. 1:19>> um and on with immaculiza
  40. 1:22on the especially telling your story of
  41. 1:24surviving the Rwanda genocide in 1994
  42. 1:29>> uh and really the miracles of grace and
  43. 1:32healing and forgiveness
  44. 1:34>> amidst the uh really just horrific
  45. 1:37suffering undergone um in Rwanda. um you
  46. 1:41know so so much what like 85% of the
  47. 1:45Tootszie tribe
  48. 1:46>> were killed
  49. 1:47>> that were killed and murdered in the
  50. 1:49genocide. So um it's just an amazing uh
  51. 1:53story and I would definitely encourage
  52. 1:54anyone who's uh interested to go back
  53. 1:57and listen to that episode.
  54. 1:59>> Uh I think it was I don't know if it was
  55. 2:00I can't remember the name of it. It was
  56. 2:02something about like finding you know
  57. 2:03maybe finding purpose and suffering.
  58. 2:06I'll let you your words are the um are
  59. 2:08the ones we really need need on that.
  60. 2:10But it's really just a powerful story.
  61. 2:12>> Um so humbling and uh yet inspiring.
  62. 2:16>> Thank you.
  63. 2:16>> Thank you. end up
  64. 2:18>> and it is all I really wanted to share
  65. 2:20writing left to tell and there's always
  66. 2:23something in behind like
  67. 2:24>> I want to tell people how good God was
  68. 2:27so real in that story and you just feel
  69. 2:30like how you know you never I never
  70. 2:33thought nobody told me that when you are
  71. 2:35suffering that God was so much closer
  72. 2:37even if we know from our church you know
  73. 2:40the teaching of the church you know
  74. 2:42suffering our lord gave himself to us
  75. 2:44saved us through suffering through the
  76. 2:47Our lady suffered in her sorrows in
  77. 2:50order for us to be saved today. So, but
  78. 2:54going through it during the genocide and
  79. 2:55still see the hand of God even much more
  80. 2:58purpable was like, "Wow, I want to tell
  81. 3:01people."
  82. 3:01>> Wow. So,
  83. 3:02>> yeah, God is real. God is real in in our
  84. 3:05sufferings and God is real in all
  85. 3:06sufferings. I remember especially and
  86. 3:09ever since we've I think that was almost
  87. 3:11two years ago that we did that recording
  88. 3:14>> and I've always remembered just that
  89. 3:17sense of you're I remember after you s
  90. 3:19after you got through and you you came
  91. 3:21back to your home and you were
  92. 3:22devastated and
  93. 3:24>> um you didn't know exactly what to do
  94. 3:26and I think I remember you describing
  95. 3:28how you threw your rosary down and just
  96. 3:30got on the ground. Your house is burned,
  97. 3:32you know, like everything was destroyed
  98. 3:33and most of your family had been killed.
  99. 3:36M
  100. 3:36>> uh and uh and you um but it was just
  101. 3:39that sense of somehow like that you
  102. 3:41heard God's voice saying their journey
  103. 3:44is over
  104. 3:45>> your journey is not and life is short
  105. 3:48eternity is long
  106. 3:50>> and life is short eternity is long is my
  107. 3:51had been my beautiful prayer.
  108. 3:53>> Yeah. And it can end your journey can
  109. 3:55end any moment. So take advantage on
  110. 3:58moment by moment just to love to do your
  111. 4:00best. It wasn't like do big things just
  112. 4:03love who you are with care for people
  113. 4:06around you so you realize that I don't
  114. 4:08have time to lose even crying and
  115. 4:10screaming like give it to God but now
  116. 4:13what can I do around maybe somebody's
  117. 4:15hungry maybe somebody want to greet you
  118. 4:17but you busy crying so like no take care
  119. 4:21of now and that what will be asked for
  120. 4:24and um and then we don't know how long
  121. 4:27life will be for I mean every day we
  122. 4:29have people who drop down and die.
  123. 4:31>> Yes.
  124. 4:32>> So, which is not a fear for me. It's
  125. 4:34more that I need to be alerted like to
  126. 4:36use my time wisely but more carefully
  127. 4:41but lovingly. Take care of your family
  128. 4:43when you can you know cuz we the
  129. 4:46temptation of today especially the
  130. 4:48social media you know we can stay and
  131. 4:50now we're just scrolling through
  132. 4:52Instagram and Facebook this and that. So
  133. 4:56there's a lot of reminder that you have
  134. 4:58now you can do something good
  135. 5:01constructive more than just like being
  136. 5:03numb you know.
  137. 5:05>> Amen. So this uh we wanted to talk today
  138. 5:08about uh your book um on a blessing in
  139. 5:11describe uh sorry a blessing in disguise
  140. 5:14uh that describes the miracles of the
  141. 5:17seven rosaries seven sorrows rosary.
  142. 5:20Yes. Um, and this was something that I
  143. 5:22think you know we talked about before
  144. 5:24our lady's apparitions
  145. 5:26>> uh to uh the some young people in
  146. 5:29Rwanda, southern Rwanda in Kabo, Our
  147. 5:31Lady of Cavejo that was approved by the
  148. 5:33church in 2001.
  149. 5:35>> Yes.
  150. 5:35>> Uh those apparitions were from the early
  151. 5:38uh 80s.
  152. 5:39>> Yes. Uh and that one of the key things
  153. 5:42was that right she told one of the uh
  154. 5:45one of the key women right Marie Claire
  155. 5:47uh to uh if I have it here was to like
  156. 5:50help the whole world come to know
  157. 5:53>> the um help teach the whole world the
  158. 5:56seven sorrows rosary.
  159. 5:58>> Yes. A kid in high school.
  160. 6:00>> A kid in high school in southern Rwanda
  161. 6:02in a poor village.
  162. 6:03>> Yes. And she told our lady to that
  163. 6:06question. She said, "Mother, I don't
  164. 6:08even have money to take a taxi to go to
  165. 6:10the next city. How can I teach the
  166. 6:12world?"
  167. 6:13>> And our lady said, "My grace can do all
  168. 6:15things. You just do your part."
  169. 6:17>> So, she must ask, "Do your part."
  170. 6:20>> The grace will take it,
  171. 6:21>> but who you teach today maybe might be
  172. 6:24the one to teach the world.
  173. 6:25>> Yeah.
  174. 6:25>> With reach people, who knows?
  175. 6:27>> And and there's a prayer that's
  176. 6:28associated with the um the seven sorrows
  177. 6:32rosary, right? Or the rosary of our lady
  178. 6:35of sorrows. Mhm.
  179. 6:36>> the seven sorrows. And it's uh but it's
  180. 6:39this. It says, "Most merciful mother,
  181. 6:42>> yes.
  182. 6:42>> Remind us always about the sorrows of
  183. 6:46your son Jesus."
  184. 6:47>> Yeah.
  185. 6:48>> And I think that's so powerful because I
  186. 6:50do think, you know, certainly in the
  187. 6:51United States, uh there are many uh
  188. 6:53sometimes uh you know, Protestants who
  189. 6:55are nervous when Catholics talk about
  190. 6:57devotion to our lady
  191. 6:59>> as if it's kind of somehow taking away
  192. 7:01attention from Jesus or that it's
  193. 7:03idolatrous or something. And yet right
  194. 7:06at the heart of this is just Mary like
  195. 7:09none of Mary's sufferings were on her
  196. 7:11own.
  197. 7:12>> All of her sufferings were oriented to
  198. 7:16Jesus
  199. 7:17>> completely
  200. 7:18>> and to the ex to the sufferings of
  201. 7:20Jesus. And so this sense of most
  202. 7:22merciful mother remind us always about
  203. 7:25the sorrows of your son Jesus. Uh so
  204. 7:28could you say a word about how this
  205. 7:31devotion to our ladies seven sorrows uh
  206. 7:34helps us to or helps you to understand
  207. 7:38Jesus's sorrows.
  208. 7:40>> Oh yes very much so. And like you said
  209. 7:42beautifully that prayer was our lady who
  210. 7:44taught us to pray it. It's like the
  211. 7:47glory be right before every mystery,
  212. 7:50every sorrow. So pray this way. So, oh
  213. 7:53my, now that you said that, my mind goes
  214. 7:56to one time I remember when I was
  215. 7:58teaching my children the seven sorrows
  216. 8:00rosary. They were little, they were
  217. 8:02four, five. I'm like, okay, it's time.
  218. 8:04You know, even kids in Fatima, you know,
  219. 8:07our lady appeared to them and they were
  220. 8:08praying the rosary. So, when I started,
  221. 8:10I said, "So, what do you think our
  222. 8:12lady's sorrows are?" And very smartly,
  223. 8:15one by one was like, "Mom, was she sick?
  224. 8:19That's a sorrow." And my daughter was a
  225. 8:22little bit older than my son. I was
  226. 8:23like, "Mom, when her husband died, when
  227. 8:25her mom died,
  228. 8:27>> which is all true." Yes.
  229. 8:28>> When her father died, I mean, that's a
  230. 8:31sorrow.
  231. 8:31>> And that it really occurred to me that
  232. 8:34wait, our lady never spoke about this
  233. 8:37and those were suffering to lose your
  234. 8:39husband, lose your mom, to lose your
  235. 8:40dad, and now your only child. But it was
  236. 8:43about our Lord that she spoke. Every
  237. 8:46soul is about him. And because she knows
  238. 8:49this is the life, the truth, the way is
  239. 8:52the root is the is who we need. So as a
  240. 8:55good mother, she's guiding us to Jesus.
  241. 8:58Not again to say like, oh, you better
  242. 9:00love my son. No, for your own good.
  243. 9:02Jesus doesn't need us to be happy, but
  244. 9:05we need him. So as a good mother, she's
  245. 9:08saying that is the sun. That is where
  246. 9:10the light come from. That's where your
  247. 9:12peace is. This is where your joy is. So
  248. 9:14think about him. So really we were also
  249. 9:17shocked just like every sorrow again of
  250. 9:20Mary as the seven sorrows is about our
  251. 9:23lord. So that prayer alone remind us
  252. 9:26always it have touched me in many ways.
  253. 9:29First is it's easy to lose hope when you
  254. 9:32think that it's all bad. Why me? I went
  255. 9:36through that during the genocide hiding
  256. 9:38in 3x4 ft with seven women in this tiny
  257. 9:42bathroom for 3 months. I remember
  258. 9:44thinking I don't even deserve a cell and
  259. 9:47like a a criminal yet I have done
  260. 9:50nothing wrong. This is so bad. But what
  261. 9:54took me out of that desperation was to
  262. 9:57realize that but what about my God who
  263. 10:02is God and who is pure who was put on
  264. 10:04the cross with nails? What about that
  265. 10:07beautiful mother was conceived without
  266. 10:09sin who had to stand there and hear her
  267. 10:13son dying saying her his last words. So
  268. 10:17you think you better than them. So that
  269. 10:19word will bring me back from getting
  270. 10:21into deeper desperation. So when our
  271. 10:23lady says always it's almost like that's
  272. 10:28why I call this book a blessing in
  273. 10:30disguise. It gives you hope like you are
  274. 10:33falling in this deep darkness and
  275. 10:35somebody grab you like hey remind me
  276. 10:38what my God went through. Remind me what
  277. 10:41the purest soul have endured so that I
  278. 10:44don't lose hope. I don't think it's too
  279. 10:46bad for me. And if that comes hold on to
  280. 10:50him he was way deeper than where you are
  281. 10:54and today he's a king. He can do all
  282. 10:56things. So hold on to him. Wow. So it
  283. 10:59touches me in both ways. Remind us
  284. 11:01always to remember that don't lose hope.
  285. 11:04Don't fall into desperation. And then
  286. 11:06second people really hurt many people
  287. 11:10from the stories many times I hear about
  288. 11:13suicide. I mean beside people get sick
  289. 11:15truly genuinely but many people commit
  290. 11:19suicide because they feel like nobody
  291. 11:20cares, nobody loves them. But anytime I
  292. 11:24hear those words which I say this rosary
  293. 11:26every day remind us it's almost like
  294. 11:29remember how he loves you remember how
  295. 11:32worthy you are remember how important
  296. 11:34you are that the king of kings will die
  297. 11:37for you like what then I'm suffering for
  298. 11:40somebody maybe who doesn't look at me
  299. 11:43when somebody the most important person
  300. 11:45literally die for me so that was really
  301. 11:49what also helped me during the genocide
  302. 11:51every rosary especially the sorrows was
  303. 11:54he loves me this much. He was born on
  304. 11:57Christmas the third joyful mystery. He
  305. 12:00came from paradise. Who does that? Who
  306. 12:04leaves a good place to go to a bad one?
  307. 12:06Because he loves me. Am I that important
  308. 12:09even when they trying to kill me? So you
  309. 12:12go to every mystery was in mind but
  310. 12:15especially the sorrows. He went through
  311. 12:17that. I'm one of those people where God
  312. 12:20can I can say God knows the number of my
  313. 12:23hair. He does. He's the one who placed
  314. 12:26me in the womb of my mother. So those
  315. 12:28are the things we need to think about
  316. 12:30every day. Thankfully through the rosary
  317. 12:33she gives us and gives her the
  318. 12:35instruction do this and the sorrows
  319. 12:37remember what I went through what he was
  320. 12:39going through. And as a mother just ask
  321. 12:42me to help you because that what we do
  322. 12:44today when we have a friend who have
  323. 12:46gone through something we want to hear
  324. 12:48from that when a parent is telling a
  325. 12:50child oh you don't know how hard it was
  326. 12:52for me really good parents what they
  327. 12:55mean is be strong you know don't worry I
  328. 12:59was there and here I am I'm still
  329. 13:01standing so I think that's how to me our
  330. 13:04ladies giving us hope through her
  331. 13:06sorrows her tears and again because
  332. 13:09today she's a queen of heaven heaven on
  333. 13:11earth. She's not suffering. I mean, she
  334. 13:13does like any good person suffer for the
  335. 13:15one going astray. They love, but she's
  336. 13:18not now standing under that cross. She's
  337. 13:20in heaven. She have been rewarded.
  338. 13:23>> So, I love the sorrows for me selfishly.
  339. 13:26>> Yeah, that's beautiful. I love in your
  340. 13:28in your introduction, you talk a little
  341. 13:30bit about how um accepting suffering is
  342. 13:33not the same as approving the evil that
  343. 13:36causes it.
  344. 13:37>> Yes.
  345. 13:38>> Uh and I think some people have a
  346. 13:39resistance. says, "I don't want to
  347. 13:40accept that. I don't want to accept that
  348. 13:42my child died. I don't want to accept
  349. 13:44that that this happened. I don't want to
  350. 13:46accept that God could allow this."
  351. 13:48>> Uh, and it seems to be like uh a way to
  352. 13:52honor their pain and their suffering.
  353. 13:54>> Um, but it is
  354. 13:56>> true that the evil is not good. That's
  355. 14:00it's it's it is evil. the fact that
  356. 14:02people, you know, that that that
  357. 14:04innocent die, that uh people murder, the
  358. 14:07fact that just
  359. 14:08>> um I don't so many different things that
  360. 14:10that we suffer. The evil is bad. So,
  361. 14:12we're not condoning the evil. We're not
  362. 14:14approving the evil. No,
  363. 14:16>> but but we are but but it is a choice to
  364. 14:19accept
  365. 14:20>> yes
  366. 14:20>> that this has happened. So could you say
  367. 14:22a little bit more about what is what's
  368. 14:24like h how do how do you walk someone
  369. 14:27through this journey of acceptance which
  370. 14:31>> you know I'm you've you've done so many
  371. 14:33times. How how do you help someone in
  372. 14:35that journey to accept
  373. 14:37>> suffering?
  374. 14:38>> Yes. I think is maybe by examples and by
  375. 14:42cuz it's really it makes you feel like
  376. 14:44you honoring the person by holding on to
  377. 14:47that pain. I remember being angry during
  378. 14:50the genocide towards the people who were
  379. 14:51killing my family who were looking for
  380. 14:53me too and I felt I was a hero. So it
  381. 14:56gives you this sense of force, sense of
  382. 14:59justice that here I am, I'm tight, I'm
  383. 15:02not sleeping, look because I'm in pain,
  384. 15:04because I love. But that's not it
  385. 15:07really. You are suffering. Your nerves
  386. 15:09are suffering. Your body is suffering.
  387. 15:12And when it came to accepting it was or
  388. 15:15forgiving, it was more like I can see it
  389. 15:18and not be competing with evil, not be
  390. 15:21drawn into that evil and holding on to
  391. 15:24it. I realized that I was thinking about
  392. 15:27people who even hated me more than
  393. 15:29people who loved me. So when you were
  394. 15:31out of that darkness, that's when you
  395. 15:33see like oh this is not really condoning
  396. 15:37and this is actually I can see much more
  397. 15:39clearer than being obsessed with this
  398. 15:42and keep thinking about it. The worst
  399. 15:44thing about anger or like pain like that
  400. 15:46when you are holding on to ill you
  401. 15:48thinking about it again thinking I'm
  402. 15:50honoring it becomes like a sickness you
  403. 15:53mind you go on over and over and over I
  404. 15:56always say with the story of left to
  405. 15:58tell I feel like God push me in the
  406. 16:00corner and give me a chance to be more
  407. 16:02angry okay honor them as much as you
  408. 16:05want and be angry as much as you want to
  409. 16:08the maximum because I thought I have a
  410. 16:10good reason don't you see the whole
  411. 16:12world with a with agree with me but then
  412. 16:15what I have a headache even that I
  413. 16:17justified where I know what is going on
  414. 16:20that's why I have a headache then the
  415. 16:22headache became worse and worse I
  416. 16:24couldn't remember how to smile I was
  417. 16:26twisted I was just angry person I
  418. 16:29remember even thinking God I just wish I
  419. 16:31can smile again and then I remember what
  420. 16:34our lady taught us in KBJo her whole
  421. 16:36teaching one of the main message was
  422. 16:38offer your suffering accept it and work
  423. 16:42through it give it to God so that you
  424. 16:44can see clear what you can do in a
  425. 16:46situation like when I was able to let go
  426. 16:48the anger I had towards the killers when
  427. 16:50before I was I would kill them I would
  428. 16:52do this I really realized that I was
  429. 16:55even thinking about things I can't do in
  430. 16:57real life in my anger that was becoming
  431. 17:00more and more oh I could have killed the
  432. 17:03whole country or I thought about flying
  433. 17:05planes and throwing grenades and bombs
  434. 17:08over the country just like kill them too
  435. 17:10as they were killing us but can you
  436. 17:12really do
  437. 17:14How many people am I going to kill
  438. 17:15before they catch me? So, but in my head
  439. 17:17I was doing it and the worst thing I
  440. 17:19will go back again and again. I'm like
  441. 17:22my heart is tired. Can I just be done
  442. 17:24with this obsession? So, when you are
  443. 17:27holding on to that pain thinking you are
  444. 17:29honoring the person, you are really
  445. 17:31holding yourself a prisoner. But you
  446. 17:34offer it to God all of a sudden you say
  447. 17:36like, "Oh, I can do this. I can do
  448. 17:38that." When I was able to let go the
  449. 17:40anger I had towards the killers which
  450. 17:41became like a healing tool of my mind of
  451. 17:44thinking about them in this horrible way
  452. 17:47how bad how bad they are. The first
  453. 17:49thing that happened was the healing of
  454. 17:51my mind. Then I had freedom to think of
  455. 17:54me to think what I can do in my life. Oh
  456. 17:57I started to think I better learn
  457. 17:59English because what if I meet people
  458. 18:01who speak English? So what is it going
  459. 18:04to happen? So I have to keep quiet
  460. 18:06because I have to hide from these
  461. 18:07people. They're still crazy. But I
  462. 18:10wasn't crazy anymore like them because I
  463. 18:12would have maybe gone to throw myself in
  464. 18:14their hands to fight them with my anger
  465. 18:17thinking I can defeat them and then they
  466. 18:20kill you or maybe hurt one person. So
  467. 18:22accepting pain. I remember one time I
  468. 18:24heard I made a man just again some
  469. 18:26examples shows you what that is and he
  470. 18:29told me his son was killed in accident
  471. 18:33and he really was angry but not only
  472. 18:36angry but sad towards God how can you
  473. 18:40how can you make this happen and he said
  474. 18:42one time he literally raised his fist to
  475. 18:45the cross and he have refused to go to
  476. 18:47mass I don't want to go to pray to you
  477. 18:50after all your love happened he raised a
  478. 18:52fist to the cross. He said, "You could
  479. 18:54have prevented it. You could have spared
  480. 18:57my son, but you just let him die." And
  481. 19:00he said he heard audible voice, "I did
  482. 19:03not spare mine either."
  483. 19:06God was watching when Jesus was dying,
  484. 19:10when he was being tortured. But that
  485. 19:13what evil does that what our sins do.
  486. 19:17Sometimes we think our sins are
  487. 19:18something, oh, to flirt with easy. and
  488. 19:21not only our sins but the sins of our
  489. 19:24neighbors. That's why we cannot just
  490. 19:26pretend our neighbor don't concern us,
  491. 19:29the next country don't concern us. We
  492. 19:31have to pray for one another. Not just
  493. 19:33to pray for me and my kids, but for
  494. 19:35other families too. Because when the
  495. 19:38devil, somebody told me this, when um
  496. 19:42the devil can't get you as a wife, he
  497. 19:45try your husband. When he can't get the
  498. 19:47husband, he tries the kids. when he
  499. 19:50can't get her the kids, he try family
  500. 19:52member, your mother, your father, a
  501. 19:54sibling or even a a coworker. So he is
  502. 19:59unleashed to hurt, to destroy. So when
  503. 20:03you realize that we're in this battle,
  504. 20:05this is the world we live in, foreign
  505. 20:07world, then you know what is going on,
  506. 20:10you do the best to fight, but to fight
  507. 20:14smartly, to fight wisely.
  508. 20:17You want to look at the devil who is
  509. 20:19actually stronger than you and just like
  510. 20:21watch him with bad eyes and refuse to
  511. 20:24follow Jesus. You're going to remain
  512. 20:26there on that side of bitter. You hurt
  513. 20:29me, I hurt you back. You hurt me, I get
  514. 20:31hurt, I reject God. And the devil makes
  515. 20:34you feel like, oh, it's all good. You
  516. 20:36see here, I understand you. But he
  517. 20:38really doesn't. But the moment you
  518. 20:40opened the door to God in forgiving in
  519. 20:43offering to him like that man he said
  520. 20:46after I heard the voice I said you're
  521. 20:49right you did not spare yours and for me
  522. 20:53and then he started to go to church and
  523. 20:55with that come came crying feeling
  524. 20:59relieved and that what I felt when I was
  525. 21:02able to let go the anger of my the
  526. 21:04killers of my family who were looking
  527. 21:06for me. Finally, I can cry. Finally, my
  528. 21:10heart can have a break from this
  529. 21:13tightness I had in. You hurt me, I hurt
  530. 21:16you more. And then I can breathe. That
  531. 21:18the nature of who we are. Tears have a
  532. 21:20chance and know have a tears. Our tears
  533. 21:24have a way of actually communicating
  534. 21:27love and healing and that comes again
  535. 21:30that the nature of man comes by
  536. 21:32accepting. There's something also that
  537. 21:34really helped me to accept that like
  538. 21:37because of course everyone is like
  539. 21:38really how do I accept it's okay to
  540. 21:40suffer offer suffering again I don't
  541. 21:43know what it is but anytime I fast I
  542. 21:47feel stronger spiritually
  543. 21:50when I am able to make a sacrifice in
  544. 21:53the name of God prevent myself from
  545. 21:56doing again whatever I want and even
  546. 21:58eating a big meal like let me just eat
  547. 22:01enough let me make this little sacrifice
  548. 22:03is somehow I am I feel better. We have
  549. 22:07um a proverb in French that says
  550. 22:12when the body is to is too satisfied
  551. 22:15this the spirit
  552. 22:17is paralyzed
  553. 22:20>> paralyzed.
  554. 22:20>> Paralyzed feels paralyzed.
  555. 22:22>> Wow.
  556. 22:23>> And that is the truth.
  557. 22:25>> I studied you know electrical
  558. 22:27engineering. I remember in school when I
  559. 22:29had an exam of math, if I ate much, I
  560. 22:32wouldn't think right.
  561. 22:33>> But if I didn't eat and I fasted, I did
  562. 22:36real good. So how do you explain that?
  563. 22:39So suffering has a way if you suffer
  564. 22:42with God willingly, not willingly you
  565. 22:45want to put yourself to suffer, but when
  566. 22:47you prevent this bad from having
  567. 22:50or accept, you know, there's something
  568. 22:53good that comes out of that. But that
  569. 22:55the journey Jesus showed us. We have to
  570. 22:57carry our crosses. Our lady told us
  571. 22:59something that really helped me in a
  572. 23:01funny way too. She said in Rwanda, she
  573. 23:04said in KBJo, she said every single
  574. 23:07person carries a cross. Every single
  575. 23:10person.
  576. 23:10>> And she said when you see somebody
  577. 23:13crying, be with them. Support them
  578. 23:16because you don't know their moment of
  579. 23:18joy will come of course. But if you see
  580. 23:20somebody smiling, cheer for them. you
  581. 23:22don't know what they are carrying the
  582. 23:24cross to. And she also even used to
  583. 23:26teach us don't show your crosses to
  584. 23:28everybody. Make sure that wisely you
  585. 23:31know who you communicate your crosses.
  586. 23:33Maybe because you want them to help you
  587. 23:35to pray for you but be joyful. Be happy
  588. 23:39even when you're carrying a cross. Give
  589. 23:41it to our Lord. But that the way we life
  590. 23:45is I guess
  591. 23:46>> that's amazing. And I um just beautiful
  592. 23:48to have you walk us through that journey
  593. 23:50of healing. I remember listening to a
  594. 23:51talk once on suffering and forgiveness
  595. 23:53and the woman I remember always just
  596. 23:55said uh she went through the whole story
  597. 23:58but the the the kind of punchline was
  598. 24:01just that hate is heavy and love is
  599. 24:04light.
  600. 24:04>> So
  601. 24:05>> hate is heavy and just that sense of
  602. 24:06falling into resentment and hatred that
  603. 24:08is that is a huge burden that kind of
  604. 24:11closes our soul and love
  605. 24:14>> and turning to God is enlightened. I
  606. 24:15also remember father Jacques Phipe uh
  607. 24:17writes in a book I think interior
  608. 24:19freedom where he says that sometimes we
  609. 24:22use our free will in choosing things. He
  610. 24:24says most often though we use our free
  611. 24:26will in consenting to what we did not
  612. 24:29choose right and we really say what our
  613. 24:30lady said in Luke 1 to the to to the uh
  614. 24:34angel archangel Gabriel who appeared to
  615. 24:37her right let it be done to me according
  616. 24:39to your word. Now, uh, one of the
  617. 24:41stories you include here because I think
  618. 24:43it is amazing. So, this poor woman,
  619. 24:46>> Yes.
  620. 24:46>> young 18-year-old girl, Marie Claire,
  621. 24:49>> Mhm.
  622. 24:49>> receives this message from our lady to
  623. 24:52uh spread the seven sorrows rosary
  624. 24:54around, teach the whole world.
  625. 24:56>> Yes.
  626. 24:56>> And she's like, "How can I do this? I
  627. 24:58have no money." All this sort of stuff,
  628. 24:59right? And yet here we are and you are
  629. 25:01helping, you didn't even know, you
  630. 25:03didn't even know English at the time,
  631. 25:04right? Now you know English. You are
  632. 25:05helping to communicate this. Yes. And uh
  633. 25:08but I love one of the stories you told
  634. 25:10uh of the pumpkin seeds. So would you
  635. 25:12tell me a little bit about the pumpkin
  636. 25:13seed story and how this uh how this
  637. 25:17relates to what you're doing today?
  638. 25:18>> I know right. God really have a way of
  639. 25:20sending
  640. 25:22a hint almost about your life about what
  641. 25:26will come even as simple as I still
  642. 25:29remember when I was young I used to sit
  643. 25:31somewhere across the the highway because
  644. 25:34Rwanda is very hilly and I will see
  645. 25:36buses going back and forth and I'm like
  646. 25:38I just wish I was able to see like a
  647. 25:40city every day somewhere you know like
  648. 25:43the driver of the buses like how blessed
  649. 25:46they are to be able to see new cities
  650. 25:49which I really don't like to travel much
  651. 25:51but that's what I'm doing you know I see
  652. 25:54a city every two days somewhere
  653. 25:56somewhere and feel is like yeah I guess
  654. 25:58that what he was saying so when I was
  655. 26:00young I happened just we used to I mean
  656. 26:04we start teaching kids how to plant a
  657. 26:06little seed here and there so when it
  658. 26:08comes to the pumpkin I remember my
  659. 26:11parents made us plant a seed which was
  660. 26:13amazing this is a very simple place you
  661. 26:16know where you plant a on and every day
  662. 26:19you go to look it grew and like you see
  663. 26:21the ground started to to swell a little
  664. 26:23bit. The next day, next two days you see
  665. 26:26like wow look at me. I put a a grain. So
  666. 26:29for the pumpkin we planted a seed with
  667. 26:31my brothers and we make a little place
  668. 26:33for us. My pumpkin I put it took over
  669. 26:37the whole field. It was just like people
  670. 26:40like who planted that like yeah that's
  671. 26:43her. It looks like her hand is you know
  672. 26:45Emma is like four years old I think. So
  673. 26:47it became so big. My mom would be giving
  674. 26:49pumpkin to the whole village every day.
  675. 26:52But that became a cross because now the
  676. 26:54whole village wanted me to be the one to
  677. 26:56go to plant their pumpkin. Like
  678. 26:59literally my mom will take me out of bed
  679. 27:02in the morning like 4 in the morning
  680. 27:04because it looks like there is I don't
  681. 27:06know it is tradition or I don't know but
  682. 27:09they said it's good to to plant pumpkin
  683. 27:12seeds before the sun comes out. So they
  684. 27:15will wrap me in clothes like 4 in the
  685. 27:17morning, 5 before the sun come up to go
  686. 27:20to plant for neighbors. I'm like I don't
  687. 27:22like this. I'm like well the neighbors
  688. 27:24are asking they're hungry. But with that
  689. 27:27of course I loved it when I grew up that
  690. 27:29everyone was like your hand is good. So
  691. 27:32later here I am now really planting a
  692. 27:35seed around the world. [clears throat]
  693. 27:38Yeah, I have gone to every continent and
  694. 27:41everywhere I go to Catholics,
  695. 27:43non-atholics, I still tell them about
  696. 27:45the seven sorrows. This is the story
  697. 27:47that happened and I tell people I'm not
  698. 27:49trying to convert you but this is really
  699. 27:50what have helped me and this is what
  700. 27:52have I can smile because I pray the
  701. 27:55rosary because I can understand even my
  702. 27:58God have gone through suffering. Who am
  703. 28:00I to be a prisoner of that pain? When
  704. 28:04he's asking me, smile, teach others,
  705. 28:06learn from whatever you suffer. Don't
  706. 28:09let it take over you. Don't harm
  707. 28:11yourself. So people go like, "Oh, okay.
  708. 28:14Teach us, where do we get those seeds?
  709. 28:15What is that exactly?" Recently, I had a
  710. 28:18lady who came to me cuz I again I have
  711. 28:21the privilege to be invited in many
  712. 28:23different places, not necessarily
  713. 28:25Catholic. She came to me. She said like,
  714. 28:27"You reminded me of my grandmother."
  715. 28:30I'm like, "What is it?" She said, "She
  716. 28:32used to have these beads all the time,
  717. 28:34the beast of the rosary." I don't know
  718. 28:36if it was the seven sorrows, but even if
  719. 28:38some people like this weekend somewhere
  720. 28:40was in Witchita, some nuns told me like
  721. 28:43showed me the beast of the seven
  722. 28:44sorrows, really old beasts. They're
  723. 28:46like, "Yeah, we we have been praying
  724. 28:48this for the past years." Anyway, this
  725. 28:50girl told me like you my grandma used to
  726. 28:52and I said tell me what your grandma was
  727. 28:56in the family because obviously she has
  728. 28:57passed away. What do you remember of
  729. 29:00her? She started crying. She said she
  730. 29:03was the glue of the family. I said and
  731. 29:07what's going on now? Who is the glue?
  732. 29:09She said after she died we fell apart.
  733. 29:12Nobody want to see another. We are
  734. 29:14fighting. And I told her do you know
  735. 29:17your grandma had pain just like
  736. 29:19everybody but our lady have taught her
  737. 29:22to see even love into the suffering and
  738. 29:26love beyond the suffering and appreciate
  739. 29:29even suffering because through suffering
  740. 29:32God gives us blessings
  741. 29:34if you accept when I mean accept no
  742. 29:37anger rebelling why this or fight to God
  743. 29:40and if you need explanation of why you
  744. 29:42are suffering ask God I don't understand
  745. 29:45God will find a way to give you peace in
  746. 29:47your heart. But she had her own
  747. 29:50suffering, but love was much more
  748. 29:52stronger. She saw the blessing in every
  749. 29:55situation to love her family. She did
  750. 29:58her part, but she had her own suffering.
  751. 30:01And then she said, "So what should I
  752. 30:04do?" He said, "Pray the rosary. Pray the
  753. 30:06seven sorrows rosary. Offer God your
  754. 30:09suffering. Because through the seven
  755. 30:11sorrows we are given a chance to even be
  756. 30:14able to open that pain when people not
  757. 30:16understanding how how you go through the
  758. 30:19first the prophecy of Simeon a spear
  759. 30:22will pierce your heart. This was the
  760. 30:25most beautiful woman who was born
  761. 30:27without sin and yet imagine what that is
  762. 30:30and the more you love the more you
  763. 30:32suffer. The flight into Egypt want to
  764. 30:35kill your baby and you are innocent.
  765. 30:38What did she do? Did she stay behind
  766. 30:40throw stones or or curse or gossip? How
  767. 30:44dare angry? No. She had to follow the
  768. 30:47what God said to her husband St. Joseph
  769. 30:51run to Egypt. They left with all the
  770. 30:53suffering of the coldness, the suffering
  771. 30:55of the hunger in Kib. She told us to
  772. 30:58hear my child crying, shivering and I
  773. 31:01have no clothes to give him. And we know
  774. 31:04we are going somewhere. We don't have
  775. 31:05anyone to greet us. They just had say go
  776. 31:08to Egypt. God will be with you. So with
  777. 31:11that you learn hm I think I've gone
  778. 31:13through that maybe in my life especially
  779. 31:16you know remember when my dad said go go
  780. 31:19to the neighbor but but what what about
  781. 31:21you go now God will take care of the
  782. 31:23rest just go and they went and never saw
  783. 31:26them again. So that pain I said it's
  784. 31:29unfair. How can this be through the
  785. 31:31sorrows? You remember the mother went
  786. 31:33through the losing [clears throat] her
  787. 31:35child for three days with the third
  788. 31:37sorrow just today it every single day
  789. 31:40when I pray the seven sorrows I'm
  790. 31:42reminded to pray for people who have
  791. 31:44their kids who are kidnapped you know
  792. 31:46trafficked because you can't really go
  793. 31:48there unless you have a chance to think
  794. 31:50about it your own pain maybe a friend
  795. 31:53you lost a brother I lost you know
  796. 31:57meeting your son her son on the way to
  797. 31:59the cross the fourth sorrow imagine to
  798. 32:02see somebody you love being tortured and
  799. 32:04you know he's innocent. So that's we
  800. 32:07suffer a lot because we think it's
  801. 32:09unfair. Why my son was an accident like
  802. 32:12that man? Why did you not protect him?
  803. 32:15But when you go through that like oh
  804. 32:18okay he was innocent and this existed
  805. 32:22because you have to come from a place of
  806. 32:24belief. I always remind people please if
  807. 32:27you don't believe fully in God and and
  808. 32:30doesn't mean that to believe that you
  809. 32:32have seen everything but this is the
  810. 32:34decision you have to make if you don't
  811. 32:36believe then you won't make the next
  812. 32:37step and if you don't understand at
  813. 32:40least you know who to ask because you
  814. 32:42already have said I believe in you and
  815. 32:44with that you have to believe this is
  816. 32:46real and if you don't believe it's okay
  817. 32:48ask people read about it then you can be
  818. 32:51sure I mean this is the most important
  819. 32:54thing our faith
  820. 32:56that our heaven you know you don't have
  821. 32:59I mean I pity a taste because
  822. 33:02what is alternative really you you you
  823. 33:05losing something there's the possibility
  824. 33:07of a paradise you're going to just like
  825. 33:09oh I don't want to believe I don't care
  826. 33:11and if you don't believe genuinely I
  827. 33:13believe God knows how to work with us
  828. 33:15obviously he's going to ask us from what
  829. 33:18we have been given sometimes people
  830. 33:20don't believe truly genuinely because
  831. 33:22nobody explained to them And that's why
  832. 33:25we have a big job to share you know to
  833. 33:28do something like what you're doing to
  834. 33:30have a podcast you know share because
  835. 33:32that people kindly truly genuine kind
  836. 33:35people who don't know anything about
  837. 33:37Jesus I come from Rwanda I know some
  838. 33:39bushes where people are just like
  839. 33:42surviving every day behind the mountains
  840. 33:44never going to school never going to
  841. 33:46church like one of the visionary I wrote
  842. 33:48about the boy who made Jesus so the
  843. 33:51fifth our lady uh standing under the
  844. 33:55You cannot think about this every day
  845. 33:58and still and we believe that these
  846. 34:00people existed are real and meditate on
  847. 34:04what they went through in their
  848. 34:05innocence and still feel like oh how
  849. 34:08pity me too bad for me look what
  850. 34:10happened to me every day there's like
  851. 34:12your pain is accepted the grace is given
  852. 34:16the grace is given but you have to make
  853. 34:17that step start praying and one of the
  854. 34:21best thing I love about our lady she
  855. 34:23have shared with us. I can't tell you
  856. 34:26how I almost want to dance of joy saying
  857. 34:29like, "Yes, thank you for giving me the
  858. 34:31secret. Pray, pray, pray." Those are the
  859. 34:35words she always say three times. Pray,
  860. 34:38pray, pray. My children, I want you to
  861. 34:41have peace, but you really can't have
  862. 34:43peace unless you pray, pray, pray.
  863. 34:46Unless you're connected to my son who is
  864. 34:48life, who is the way, who is everything,
  865. 34:50the breath we take. So if you can't
  866. 34:53communicate with him and open your heart
  867. 34:55to him, you won't have him. She even
  868. 34:59told us the most pious person, this
  869. 35:01really scared me cuz I used to think
  870. 35:03like you know you are there everything
  871. 35:05is good now but she said the most pious
  872. 35:08person can lose their faith if they stop
  873. 35:10praying. What I thought it was a
  874. 35:13knowledge like you are supposed to have
  875. 35:15and you're done. Nope. It's a
  876. 35:17relationship just like husband and wife
  877. 35:19you stop you know talking communicating
  878. 35:22listening to the other person you are
  879. 35:25driven apart and you forget even how to
  880. 35:28love each other like a friend you don't
  881. 35:30communicate with yes maybe somebody
  882. 35:32knows you you can still communicate but
  883. 35:34when it comes to a connection it comes
  884. 35:37from prayer for that communication and
  885. 35:39if we are supposed to love Jesus above
  886. 35:42everyone which is a commandment not a
  887. 35:45suggestion
  888. 35:46We supposed to talk to him more than we
  889. 35:48talk with any other human being. We're
  890. 35:51supposed to stay with him more. We're
  891. 35:53supposed to adore him, read more about
  892. 35:56him. Because how do we tell people we
  893. 35:58love most? We want to be around them.
  894. 36:01And many times it comes naturally. But
  895. 36:04again, we know in the family, our kids,
  896. 36:06we love them. But we make an effort to
  897. 36:08hear them, to want to be around them, so
  898. 36:11we can know what is going on. Not
  899. 36:12because we're attracted to them, we
  900. 36:14can't help it. But we make an effort
  901. 36:16because the love is real. So if Jesus is
  902. 36:19prayer also that open that heart that
  903. 36:22really comes with the grace even to help
  904. 36:24people open the heart to heal. Yeah. The
  905. 36:28question you asking me earlier about how
  906. 36:29do you even help somebody to accept
  907. 36:31their suffering? When you can't find
  908. 36:33words, you're like just start praying.
  909. 36:35Start talking to Jesus. Make more time.
  910. 36:39Believe. If you can't believe search,
  911. 36:42find doctors like you. You know, ask
  912. 36:45theological questions. This is
  913. 36:47important. Number one question anyone
  914. 36:49should be asking about about faith. And
  915. 36:52don't pretend like, oh, it's all good. I
  916. 36:53do believe. But ask if you don't. And
  917. 36:57sometimes all you need is a sign. I
  918. 36:59remember in the bathroom asking God, are
  919. 37:02you there? Just give me one sign that
  920. 37:04you are real. And I remember what I
  921. 37:06asked. I cuz of course you won't ask
  922. 37:08forever. I said the killers were there
  923. 37:11in the house searching
  924. 37:13a house of four bedroomedroom and the
  925. 37:16three to 400 people outside in my
  926. 37:18humanic capacity to think. I knew there
  927. 37:21is no way they will not find us. They
  928. 37:23have every right they were in the
  929. 37:25ceiling with flashlights on the roof of
  930. 37:27the house. The man of the house they
  931. 37:29threw him out. So obviously they are now
  932. 37:32the owners of that house. Four bedroom
  933. 37:34and there's two bathrooms in the house.
  934. 37:36They won't open one door. It's
  935. 37:38impossible
  936. 37:40until of course I start to hear the
  937. 37:42voice in my heart that is always there
  938. 37:44of God asking you to trust him because
  939. 37:47with him all things are possible and I
  940. 37:50remember asking him so you mean there's
  941. 37:52a possibility they might not find me but
  942. 37:55I'm not even sure if you exist and then
  943. 37:57I ask him if you exist
  944. 38:00then don't let them find the door if
  945. 38:03they don't open this door I will know
  946. 38:06for sure you are here and I will not
  947. 38:08question you again unless I am
  948. 38:10disappointed by something but I will
  949. 38:13throw myself in you. And that day they
  950. 38:15came and searched and stopped at the
  951. 38:17door and turned around. So I couldn't
  952. 38:20ask. So show me another thing because
  953. 38:22sometimes we're not really sincere in
  954. 38:24our asking God show me. No, it was like
  955. 38:27okay
  956. 38:28>> until now here I am. I believe in you.
  957. 38:31And that was the best thing ever to act
  958. 38:34like you believe 100%. And if I fall,
  959. 38:38which I do,
  960. 38:40especially to love, to love better, to
  961. 38:42love more, to do what I'm supposed to
  962. 38:44do, I have to go to confession because I
  963. 38:46know the one I believe in who is all
  964. 38:49love, I failed. So yeah, so through this
  965. 38:52suffering of our lord the under the
  966. 38:54cross receiving the body of our lord you
  967. 38:57know one of the genius thing I think our
  968. 38:59lady does through these sorrows every
  969. 39:01sorrow you think about she always said
  970. 39:05ask yourself what if it was me so with
  971. 39:08that comes h let me think about
  972. 39:10somewhere maybe I have felt the same
  973. 39:13like receiving the body of a lord I
  974. 39:15didn't receive the body of a loved one
  975. 39:18but I remember going to find the bodies
  976. 39:20of my parents where they killed them and
  977. 39:23my friends refused me to see them to see
  978. 39:26my mom but I saw my brother his bones
  979. 39:29and that pain you don't even know how to
  980. 39:32explain it to see the bones the ribs of
  981. 39:34somebody you love naturally we suppose
  982. 39:37somebody dies you bury them you never
  983. 39:39see their bones unless you are a saint
  984. 39:42but to see the feet of your brother it
  985. 39:45was a pain like just like you you shake
  986. 39:48inside your blood but Every sorrow our
  987. 39:51lady through the body of our lord on the
  988. 39:54sixth sorrow I always cried thinking
  989. 39:58yeah my brother like that's where my
  990. 40:00mind goes and slowly when before I
  991. 40:04couldn't even think about it without
  992. 40:06shaking slowly it's like the wound was
  993. 40:09being healed the more I prayed the more
  994. 40:11the wound is healed the seven sorrow the
  995. 40:14placing of the body of our lord to bury
  996. 40:17against somebody you love sometimes the
  997. 40:19suffering you can't explain to people. I
  998. 40:21know somebody recently who who lost a
  999. 40:24friend and he wouldn't go to the finer
  1000. 40:26to after the church. She say I don't
  1001. 40:28want to see him under the ground because
  1002. 40:30it's a new suffering a human being have
  1003. 40:33to to struggle with. You don't just make
  1004. 40:36sense is really suffering to see your
  1005. 40:38friend somebody you love underground but
  1006. 40:41our lady went through it. So she's
  1007. 40:43giving you a chance almost like a
  1008. 40:45therapy. That's again the reason why I
  1009. 40:48call this a blessing in disguise. It's a
  1010. 40:50healing is a spiritual therapy. You get
  1011. 40:54to know things you don't know until
  1012. 40:57after you start to pray, pray more, read
  1013. 41:00the word of God more, question more,
  1014. 41:03make friends, you can talk about it.
  1015. 41:05Sometimes I have invited people in my
  1016. 41:08home and really I did few times which of
  1017. 41:10course people look at you crazy until I
  1018. 41:13made good friends who love God. We're
  1019. 41:16talking you know for fun you know this
  1020. 41:19going on the game this after like can we
  1021. 41:22talk about Jesus it just he like you
  1022. 41:25miss it we spend two hours there's
  1023. 41:27nothing about him we're just talking
  1024. 41:29about who what happened the school this
  1025. 41:32can we talk about Jesus it feels so good
  1026. 41:35you know what do you think about this
  1027. 41:36miracle he did you know and then you
  1028. 41:39just feel like life come comes to to the
  1029. 41:42bones when you are
  1030. 41:44>> yeah that is Um, wow. That was just a
  1031. 41:47beautiful way of right planting those
  1032. 41:50seeds, planting those pumpkin seeds in
  1033. 41:52our hearts and walking through those
  1034. 41:53seven
  1035. 41:55>> sorrows of our lady. Uh, we're going to
  1036. 41:57take a a break in in a minute and uh
  1037. 41:59just I want to say thank you to a
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  1040. 42:05>> Uh it's great for traveling around the
  1041. 42:07world, right? whenever wherever you are,
  1042. 42:08you can find a a local Catholic church
  1043. 42:11where our lady our our Lord is present
  1044. 42:14in the blessed sacrament.
  1045. 42:16>> Amen.
  1046. 42:16>> And uh you know where where our lady is
  1047. 42:19honored and we can ask our lady to help
  1048. 42:20us uh remember right the sorrows
  1049. 42:23>> of of her son. So we we'll be back in a
  1050. 42:26moment.
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  1064. 42:55Mlay is the author of Left to Tell, uh,
  1065. 42:59Discovering God Amidst the Rwanda
  1066. 43:01Holocaust. Uh, they came out with that
  1067. 43:03was 2006, I believe. Uh and then uh this
  1068. 43:07most recent book, A Blessing in
  1069. 43:09Disguise, Miracles of the Seven Sorrows
  1070. 43:12Rosary, um published by Hay House and uh
  1071. 43:15thank you so much for walking us through
  1072. 43:18um right this aspect. I have a family
  1073. 43:19member who has started praying uh with
  1074. 43:21his wife
  1075. 43:22>> the seven sorrows rosary and he said in
  1076. 43:25a way he said it helps to
  1077. 43:26anthropomorphize Mary.
  1078. 43:28>> Yeah.
  1079. 43:29>> Right. But it makes Mary seem more
  1080. 43:31human.
  1081. 43:32>> So we can see her as a like an older
  1082. 43:34sister, a mother who can help us.
  1083. 43:38>> And you mentioned two uh prayers or two
  1084. 43:41quote quotes from sayings from Mary
  1085. 43:44>> in her apparitions to in our Lady
  1086. 43:47>> Cabo
  1087. 43:48>> and these were the two that struck me.
  1088. 43:50One was like, do you want me to bring
  1089. 43:53God's healing into your life?
  1090. 43:55>> Right? This idea that we we're we're
  1091. 43:57children. We really have to give up the
  1092. 44:00illusion that we can stand on our own
  1093. 44:02two feet. Uh we are fundamentally
  1094. 44:04children of God adopted by the free gift
  1095. 44:06of grace. Uh one by Jesus on the cross
  1096. 44:09given in the Holy Spirit, right?
  1097. 44:11Communicated through faith and baptism.
  1098. 44:13Right. Absolutely. But God doesn't just
  1099. 44:16like adopt us as individuals. He adopts
  1100. 44:18us into his family.
  1101. 44:20>> Yes.
  1102. 44:20>> And so we have of course, right, Mary is
  1103. 44:23a mother. We have all these siblings,
  1104. 44:24right? We have cousins. We have all the
  1105. 44:26saints, right? And but this idea that do
  1106. 44:29we really want can we do we want Mary to
  1107. 44:32help us bring God's healing into our
  1108. 44:34life?
  1109. 44:35>> And the second one was this one. I
  1110. 44:36wanted you to to look at this is she
  1111. 44:38said pray the rosary not as Catholics
  1112. 44:42but as my children
  1113. 44:44>> and you will experience my help and
  1114. 44:46heavenly peace in your lives. Yes.
  1115. 44:48Right. Pray the rosary not as Catholics
  1116. 44:50but as my children. Yes. And you will
  1117. 44:53experience my help and heavenly peace
  1118. 44:56>> in your lives.
  1119. 44:57So true. She said that and with that I
  1120. 45:00have convinced many of my Protestant
  1121. 45:03friends to pray it and sometime they
  1122. 45:06resist until they're going through a
  1123. 45:07hard time and then they start praying it
  1124. 45:10and they really experience her help.
  1125. 45:13She's really a mother. This is what
  1126. 45:15again the best thing I ever experienced
  1127. 45:17in Nik who I love is to come to
  1128. 45:20understand that God, our Lord, our lady
  1129. 45:23are so intertwined with us. They live
  1130. 45:26with us. we just can't see them. I
  1131. 45:28remember one time the visionary she told
  1132. 45:30our lady was telling her they are
  1133. 45:32recording you. So the professor of
  1134. 45:35French that time put took brought like
  1135. 45:38the tape recorder during the apparition.
  1136. 45:40So for her she can see her alone. She
  1137. 45:43said but mother nobody is here. Nobody
  1138. 45:46would even know where we are. We are so
  1139. 45:48far away in this amazing place. And our
  1140. 45:51lady will smile and she would say like
  1141. 45:53why do you keep smiling? I'm telling
  1142. 45:55you, I know there's no one here. And
  1143. 45:58[snorts] then our lady said, "Child, the
  1144. 46:00same way you can see me and they can't
  1145. 46:04see me and yet they can see you. The
  1146. 46:07same way you can't see them and yet you
  1147. 46:11can see me." So she said, "What do you
  1148. 46:14mean? You mean like somebody's around
  1149. 46:15us? I can smell the grass. I can see the
  1150. 46:18light. I can see you. I can hug you. And
  1151. 46:20there's somebody we cannot see." Again,
  1152. 46:23our little smile. Yes, that how the
  1153. 46:25spiritual world is. That's how God is
  1154. 46:28powerful. So all of a sudden I'm like,
  1155. 46:29"Oh my, you know, what is here we can't
  1156. 46:32see because God can see our thoughts,
  1157. 46:34our actions, but he works with us. Our
  1158. 46:37guardian angels are here with us and
  1159. 46:41that reality we know it but somehow we
  1160. 46:43think we are alone. So our mother, her
  1161. 46:46role is to guide us to Jesus. She's
  1162. 46:49given to us as a mother to help us. I
  1163. 46:52mean look at us human being we help each
  1164. 46:54other like we help each other I can come
  1165. 46:57to ask you for help and I'm praying to
  1166. 47:00Jesus but I can come to you and I'm sure
  1167. 47:01he would use you to help me something
  1168. 47:03I'm asking but mother Mary is his mother
  1169. 47:07just like Arana you know what she did do
  1170. 47:11whatever he tells you she knows him more
  1171. 47:13than we can ever know but the reality to
  1172. 47:16to grab the reality that they are with
  1173. 47:19us and they're real so one time So the
  1174. 47:23in investigators of the church they
  1175. 47:26asked the visionary Mary Cla the same
  1176. 47:28one who spread the seven sorrows. So
  1177. 47:30they they told her why you act like you
  1178. 47:32are talking to Mary your mother. Yes she
  1179. 47:35is your mother. Fine. Yeah we know that
  1180. 47:37theologically you know but she's a queen
  1181. 47:40of heaven and earth. So you have to be
  1182. 47:42respectful because they got used to her.
  1183. 47:45They will say darling mom. And then the
  1184. 47:49lady said, "I don't think we're talking
  1185. 47:51about the same woman." But the one I
  1186. 47:54see, she's a queen of heaven and earth.
  1187. 47:56You can't even stand in front of her
  1188. 47:59without going to knees. That how
  1189. 48:02glorious and how beautiful and too good.
  1190. 48:05But her sweetness, her gentleness, her
  1191. 48:08humility is like having the most
  1192. 48:10beautiful queen asking you, "Come
  1193. 48:12closer. Don't be fearful." She would
  1194. 48:15even ask them take a deep breath because
  1195. 48:18she knew they were scared to come closer
  1196. 48:20to her. Take a deep breath cuz their
  1197. 48:22heart would be beating. So to this day
  1198. 48:25it had been 40 years 45 almost now since
  1199. 48:28our lady appeared in
  1200. 48:30>> I don't think there is two days goes by
  1201. 48:32without having to say okay let me wake
  1202. 48:35up early in the morning close my eyes
  1203. 48:37and try to feel how that feels like
  1204. 48:39because I want it to be real. I want to
  1205. 48:42feel that love, that person that I can
  1206. 48:46put my hands up. I'm like, "Mom, can you
  1207. 48:47touch my hand?" You know, like don't
  1208. 48:49take it too much just like, "Okay, let
  1209. 48:51me read what Jesus said 2,000 years
  1210. 48:54ago." And it's true what he said, but
  1211. 48:58it's today that he's speaking to us.
  1212. 49:01It's today that his mother is there and
  1213. 49:03I think he's there watching you, you
  1214. 49:05know, saying like, "I love you." with
  1215. 49:07the new challenges we have 2,000 years
  1216. 49:10ago they didn't have but the same words
  1217. 49:13the same principles are the same
  1218. 49:15>> so our sweet mother really when she say
  1219. 49:18pray the rosary every day pray the
  1220. 49:19rosary not as Catholics she's inviting
  1221. 49:22the whole world to pray it at least
  1222. 49:24those who believe in Jesus
  1223. 49:26>> I was one time recently praying I told
  1224. 49:29my friend she's a Mormon so she helps in
  1225. 49:32Rwanda and charities so we went together
  1226. 49:35and then I'm like oh we're going to take
  1227. 49:374hour drive I usually pray the rosary so
  1228. 49:40she's like anyway tell me about it maybe
  1229. 49:42we do together so I start to explain to
  1230. 49:44her I started from the beginning joyful
  1231. 49:47mysteries sorrowful glorious and then I
  1232. 49:50said let's start I'm not kidding we did
  1233. 49:53two hours we were on a second joyful
  1234. 49:56mystery because I explained a lot on
  1235. 49:59wrong road and the second we started the
  1236. 50:03second joyful mystery our lady goes to
  1237. 50:05visit her cousin Elizabeth. All of a
  1238. 50:07sudden on the street we have just
  1239. 50:10arrived on a church of the visitation
  1240. 50:14and outside of near the street there is
  1241. 50:17Mary and Elizabeth hugging each other
  1242. 50:19big statues lifesize. So the moment I
  1243. 50:23said I got like oh wait that's them. And
  1244. 50:26then she said did you think about it?
  1245. 50:29Okay did you did you know we were going
  1246. 50:31to reach there? I'm like how in the
  1247. 50:33world will I know? Do you know rosary
  1248. 50:35takes 15 minutes 20? But because I
  1249. 50:37explained it took this long. We just
  1250. 50:39arrived here. Oh, she was right. She's
  1251. 50:42like, "Okay, who who is around us?" I'm
  1252. 50:45like, "I'm kid. I'm not kidding. Our
  1253. 50:46lady told us she's listening to us and
  1254. 50:49they have that capacity to be in every
  1255. 50:51place to be able to see everyone." So in
  1256. 50:54the end she said I just wish in our
  1257. 50:57region we have some scriptures we can
  1258. 51:00meditate on every day that kind of like
  1259. 51:03close the story not just like about his
  1260. 51:06birth that's the day that we can go
  1261. 51:09through his death can go through his
  1262. 51:11resurrection he's like this is really a
  1263. 51:13gift so anytime we are together she's
  1264. 51:15like well I don't mind if you pray we
  1265. 51:18can pray the rosary and oh I I've seen
  1266. 51:21healing I've seen prayer I answered one
  1267. 51:24of my protest and friend we prayed the
  1268. 51:26rosary her brother was about to be
  1269. 51:28deported from the country she was so
  1270. 51:30scared she said do you really think she
  1271. 51:33you really mean it our lady said it's
  1272. 51:35okay for us too and those promises
  1273. 51:37concern us before she was like you crazy
  1274. 51:40Catholics I said yes she does I told her
  1275. 51:43the rosary on the phone and all night
  1276. 51:46she prayed the rosary non-stop they were
  1277. 51:48going to see the judge the next day and
  1278. 51:50she called me laughing the next day
  1279. 51:52she's You won't believe what happened.
  1280. 51:54The church accepted and gave permission
  1281. 51:57to my brother to stay in the country and
  1282. 51:59actually gave him proper papers and
  1283. 52:01whatever permission. So she was like I
  1284. 52:03don't promise you to be Catholic but I
  1285. 52:05will pray the rosary all my life.
  1286. 52:07>> So when our lady says you shadow of 10 I
  1287. 52:12always tell people just don't give up.
  1288. 52:14And when you pray it pray the rosary of
  1289. 52:17the heart when you say forgive us which
  1290. 52:19is a part of the rosary. Our Lord is
  1291. 52:21prayer. Make sure you forgive when you
  1292. 52:24say our father. He's a father of
  1293. 52:26everybody. So whatever sin have tented
  1294. 52:29in our mind like when I was praying
  1295. 52:31during the genocide I'm our father but
  1296. 52:34you are just the father of our tribe and
  1297. 52:36the fooliness not the bad guys. No he is
  1298. 52:39the father of everybody. So like a good
  1299. 52:42rosary first transforms you. And with
  1300. 52:46you transforming, listening to those
  1301. 52:48words, there's no way God doesn't come
  1302. 52:51to help you. Either he comes to give you
  1303. 52:53what you want or to give you better or
  1304. 52:55to change your mind. There are many
  1305. 52:58things I prayed for. And after time of
  1306. 53:01praying and fasting and going to
  1307. 53:03confession every week, every twice a
  1308. 53:05week, just to make sure my heart is
  1309. 53:06clean and I am in good terms with God,
  1310. 53:09my daily rosary. All of a sudden, I'm
  1311. 53:11like, why didn't I care so much about
  1312. 53:13that? You see, God is good. He can
  1313. 53:16change even our mind. Yeah.
  1314. 53:18>> Yeah. That's a beautiful and I love that
  1315. 53:21aspect too, just of um like our our
  1316. 53:24Catholic identity is is really just to
  1317. 53:28be a child.
  1318. 53:29>> And so it's um it it is also it is
  1319. 53:31definitely also right a formal
  1320. 53:33institutional right you know that the
  1321. 53:35church can't exist and not exist as an
  1322. 53:38institution right there there's we're
  1323. 53:40we're human beings we're political.
  1324. 53:42We're historical. If Jesus founds a
  1325. 53:45church, it's going to have to exist and
  1326. 53:46it's going to be visible and
  1327. 53:48identifiable. But just like my family is
  1328. 53:50visible and identifiable and even has a
  1329. 53:53legal thing, right? The the reality of
  1330. 53:56my family is just is is that legal
  1331. 53:59structure, but as it's experienced in my
  1332. 54:02heart,
  1333. 54:02>> it's the connection that I feel towards
  1334. 54:05my wife, my parents, you know, siblings,
  1335. 54:08children, grandchildren, right? You
  1336. 54:09know, that's the and and and it's like
  1337. 54:12that's that sense that you know, in some
  1338. 54:13ways, you know, that that that word
  1339. 54:15Catholic really just means whole,
  1340. 54:17universal. And so it means right God is
  1341. 54:19right
  1342. 54:20>> the my my God is my father, right? That
  1343. 54:23is that beautiful thing. And that God
  1344. 54:24who is my father is also our father.
  1345. 54:26>> Yes.
  1346. 54:27>> Uh and that's really the be beautiful
  1347. 54:29message of of Jesus. You know, one thing
  1348. 54:31I wanted to uh just say for people who
  1349. 54:34you go through this a little bit in the
  1350. 54:35book. I've done some um research on it
  1351. 54:37as well. So the uh the devotion to our
  1352. 54:40lady of sorrows right you as you point
  1353. 54:42out goes back to scripture itself that
  1354. 54:44talks a lot about Mary and her sorrows
  1355. 54:46and her sorrows related to Jesus
  1356. 54:48>> uh right you know all the seven sorrows
  1357. 54:50are just ones that are in the gospels
  1358. 54:53especially this uh the gospel I think
  1359. 54:55it's Luke and two the um after you know
  1360. 54:59a sword you're will also pierce your
  1361. 55:02soul Luke 2:34
  1362. 55:04>> um
  1363. 55:05>> but then it's in the uh 13th century I
  1364. 55:07think like 12:38
  1365. 55:10that the seven uh seven uh kind of
  1366. 55:13wealthy men devote themselves to prayer
  1367. 55:15>> and our lady appears to them and asks
  1368. 55:18them to begin praying uh and making
  1369. 55:20known the seven sorrows of our lady.
  1370. 55:23Yeah.
  1371. 55:23>> Uh they become the servants of our lady
  1372. 55:25or the servites and then in the 14th
  1373. 55:28century
  1374. 55:29>> St. Bridget of Swed Sweden also, right,
  1375. 55:32has this um our lady appears to her and
  1376. 55:35asks her to make known the seven sorrows
  1377. 55:39of our lady and the seven sorrows
  1378. 55:41rosary. And then that's present in the
  1379. 55:44church for 800 years, right? And then
  1380. 55:47our le of cabjo, right, is kind of the
  1381. 55:50current um time when our lady really
  1382. 55:52says pray the seven sorrows of of uh
  1383. 55:54rosary. Yes. Uh, and so how would you
  1384. 55:58kind of just for people who might be,
  1385. 55:59you know, uh, I don't know, who just
  1386. 56:01want to kind of like begin learning how
  1387. 56:02to do this? Now, you of course had a
  1388. 56:04little bit of a shortcut. You'd heard
  1389. 56:05about this as a child. You were 12, I
  1390. 56:06think, when you heard about the
  1391. 56:08apparitions,
  1392. 56:09>> uh, and when you heard about the, uh,
  1393. 56:11Seven Sorrows rosary. You also, um,
  1394. 56:15according to your book, you were, uh,
  1395. 56:17you couldn't figure out how to memorize
  1396. 56:19the the, um, the rosary, the Seven
  1397. 56:22Sorrows rosary. So you were going to bed
  1398. 56:24one night and you said that you were uh
  1399. 56:26taught in a dream and when you woke up
  1400. 56:27you had it memorized.
  1401. 56:29>> Yes. You know I thought about it. I I
  1402. 56:31used to teach people about the seven
  1403. 56:33sorrows. I will speak about it but I
  1404. 56:35would always have a book. So I think God
  1405. 56:38was like enough is enough. Now you have
  1406. 56:40to be able to memorize it. I truly this
  1407. 56:42is what happened. I woke up in the
  1408. 56:44morning my mouth was literally somebody
  1409. 56:46almost like touching it like making me
  1410. 56:48repeat
  1411. 56:50every prayer. every prayer and then I
  1412. 56:52realized it was a story. It was our Lord
  1413. 56:56the first sorrow the prophecy of Simeon
  1414. 56:59our Lord was 40 days. So with that comes
  1415. 57:03the beginning of the sorrows of Mary. Of
  1416. 57:05course she had many other suffering but
  1417. 57:07now that is really when Simeon said
  1418. 57:10espir will pierce your heart and then
  1419. 57:12you go his 40 days. Then the second
  1420. 57:14sorrow he's 12 years old when he went to
  1421. 57:16the temple to preach and um he stayed.
  1422. 57:19He's excited. A friend of mine we pray
  1423. 57:21together. I have a prayer group of the
  1424. 57:23seven sorrows. She told me Immaculate
  1425. 57:26our Lord was not lost. our lady just
  1426. 57:29couldn't find him. I'm like, you're
  1427. 57:31right. Yeah, because he was excited
  1428. 57:33about his work and but this is the
  1429. 57:36perspective of his mother again teaching
  1430. 57:38us too what was he doing then you
  1431. 57:41meditate why was he what was he talking
  1432. 57:44to them and uh how she dealt with her
  1433. 57:46pain because that's life we live in the
  1434. 57:48third now so 40 days 12 years old and
  1435. 57:53the third is when he no the loss the
  1436. 57:55loss when he was 12
  1437. 57:57>> that's the third the second is the
  1438. 57:58flight to Egypt
  1439. 57:59>> the flight to Egypt when he's under
  1440. 58:00three years remember when Herod said,
  1441. 58:02"Okay, kill every child under one." No,
  1442. 58:05under two years.
  1443. 58:06>> So then we know for sure he won't
  1444. 58:08escape. So he was in that range there.
  1445. 58:11So 40 days consecration to the father in
  1446. 58:14a temple under two years old and now 12
  1447. 58:17years old and um now he's the last
  1448. 58:21sorrows are all in one day the good
  1449. 58:23Friday meeting Jesus on the way to the
  1450. 58:26cross standing under the cross receiving
  1451. 58:29him after he died and placing him in the
  1452. 58:32tomb. So the four sorrows are all in one
  1453. 58:34day which by the way one day the
  1454. 58:38visionary woke up with red eyes and
  1455. 58:41swollen like she said it was like a
  1456. 58:44wounded was like a cut inside so she
  1457. 58:46went to the nursery she said I don't
  1458. 58:48know what happened my whole eyes my
  1459. 58:49whole face is swollen and our lady
  1460. 58:51appeared to her that day she said today
  1461. 58:54I gave you a gift of my eyes when my son
  1462. 58:58was placed in the tomb that's how my
  1463. 59:01eyes were So she was giving her all her
  1464. 59:04sorrows to connect more to her and
  1465. 59:07that's again how we are you know when we
  1466. 59:09love people we want to understand them
  1467. 59:11what happened how did it happen what did
  1468. 59:13you do you know that's a sign of love so
  1469. 59:16I already gave her that sorrow so she
  1470. 59:18understand what she went through so for
  1471. 59:21anyone who is really trying to know the
  1472. 59:23rosary the seven sorrows it is a it is
  1473. 59:26in chronological order you start when
  1474. 59:29Jesus is little again this is the
  1475. 59:31perspective of his mother and you think
  1476. 59:34what if it was me? What do you think she
  1477. 59:36felt? So that's where she want us to go.
  1478. 59:38The six when she received the body the
  1479. 59:41same day again and the seventh when they
  1480. 59:43place him in a tomb. So you can
  1481. 59:44literally tell somebody like your friend
  1482. 59:47somebody happened. I can tell you the
  1483. 59:48story of my my dad what happened the
  1484. 59:51night before and my brother came home
  1485. 59:53and when he gave me a rosary he asked me
  1486. 59:55to run and the eyes I saw in his face
  1487. 59:58and the fear about polishness and the
  1488. 1:00:01pain. So like people you love you can go
  1489. 1:00:03through the story even talking about it
  1490. 1:00:05except that our lady said between every
  1491. 1:00:08sorrow after you think about what you
  1492. 1:00:10think I went through say seven
  1493. 1:00:12headmaries and our father and then the
  1494. 1:00:14beginning prayer most merciful mother
  1495. 1:00:17remind us always never let us lose hope
  1496. 1:00:21remind us how I am loved remind us who
  1497. 1:00:24saved me remind us who he is and what he
  1498. 1:00:27did for me it is all about the sacrifice
  1499. 1:00:30the love in that sacrifice ice and we
  1500. 1:00:33have to love him just like we love
  1501. 1:00:35anyone who is kind to us. Remember what
  1502. 1:00:38Jesus did, gave his life willingly. We
  1503. 1:00:41can all suffer. Oh, I remember during
  1504. 1:00:43the genocide telling Jesus, I can't lie
  1505. 1:00:45to you. If you gave me power for one
  1506. 1:00:47second, I would kill 8 million people
  1507. 1:00:50from the other tribe. How did you do it?
  1508. 1:00:53You had power and you held it and you
  1509. 1:00:56still used it willing. I mean like
  1510. 1:00:59wisely not hurting a person and I'm
  1511. 1:01:02crying. You have nails in your body. Too
  1512. 1:01:05bad I I don't know if I would do that.
  1513. 1:01:07No, I won't. You know, I would just tell
  1514. 1:01:09him and that really made me love him and
  1515. 1:01:12respect him too. Jesus had to come real
  1516. 1:01:14for us. A friend we walk with otherwise
  1517. 1:01:18we never connect to him and we not
  1518. 1:01:20benefit from the true what he did for
  1519. 1:01:24us. So I would tell somebody learn how
  1520. 1:01:27to do it. Go on Google, get my book left
  1521. 1:01:30to hell. I mean, our lady of Kho, I have
  1522. 1:01:32the rosary there or to my website
  1523. 1:01:34makra.com. I mean, you can go to Google
  1524. 1:01:37just find out how to pray the seven
  1525. 1:01:38souls rosary. But do it and please teach
  1526. 1:01:42somebody please because our lady used to
  1527. 1:01:45tell us my children help me help me and
  1528. 1:01:48I really thank you for what you're
  1529. 1:01:49doing.
  1530. 1:01:50>> Absolutely. Last last thing I want to
  1531. 1:01:52just address is some of the miracles
  1532. 1:01:53that you've associated. Obviously, I
  1533. 1:01:55think the greatest miracle and uh Dr.
  1534. 1:01:57Robert Redfield who was on the show
  1535. 1:01:59about the power of redemptive suffering.
  1536. 1:02:01>> Uh he was the head of the CDC but he
  1537. 1:02:03spoke about that really what he began to
  1538. 1:02:04see the real miracle at was at Lords was
  1539. 1:02:07not um was not the healings
  1540. 1:02:10>> but it was the acceptance of suffering
  1541. 1:02:12and finding joy in it. Um
  1542. 1:02:15and there also sometimes are heal our
  1543. 1:02:18our external healings as well. Yes.
  1544. 1:02:20>> Uh so but we need to pray for the
  1545. 1:02:22acceptance. I think sometimes people
  1546. 1:02:23think I can't accept and of course you
  1547. 1:02:25can't. Mhm.
  1548. 1:02:26>> Of course, you can't accept suffering on
  1549. 1:02:28your own. Of course, you're filled with
  1550. 1:02:30resentment and anger. You need, it's a
  1551. 1:02:31miracle. You have to ask our lady
  1552. 1:02:34>> to intercede as she did at, you know,
  1553. 1:02:36we're water and we're drying out, right?
  1554. 1:02:39You know, we're we're empty jars,
  1555. 1:02:42>> right? You know, and we need to ask her,
  1556. 1:02:43as she did at Kaa, to Jesus,
  1557. 1:02:46>> like they're they're running out.
  1558. 1:02:49>> Jesus, you need to give them wine. You
  1559. 1:02:51need to give them the the wine of the
  1560. 1:02:52Holy Spirit, this gift. And uh but you
  1561. 1:02:56mentioned three three things. I just
  1562. 1:02:57wanted to share this because uh one is
  1563. 1:02:59uh recovery from addiction.
  1564. 1:03:01>> Yes.
  1565. 1:03:01>> A second thing is uh um infertility.
  1566. 1:03:04>> Yes.
  1567. 1:03:04>> Uh and also incurable illnesses. Would
  1568. 1:03:07you just say a word about the some of
  1569. 1:03:09the blessings that our lady has
  1570. 1:03:12>> uh done or some of these things that we
  1571. 1:03:14can people might go to? Obviously one
  1572. 1:03:16praying for acceptance and that miracle
  1573. 1:03:18and gift and yet also other things and
  1574. 1:03:20just trusting that
  1575. 1:03:22>> God has the best plan. Right. I always
  1576. 1:03:23think it's sometimes that idea is like
  1577. 1:03:24God's plans are the best plans. So
  1578. 1:03:26>> I don't understand it but I do believe
  1579. 1:03:28that God has a plan and that he will
  1580. 1:03:30bring it about in this life or in the
  1581. 1:03:32next
  1582. 1:03:33>> completely and also acceptance really
  1583. 1:03:35again just to come back to that it
  1584. 1:03:37doesn't mean that okay fine I guess I'm
  1585. 1:03:40I'm doomed to fail you know let's say
  1586. 1:03:42you are a student like oh it looks like
  1587. 1:03:44math is really hard for me so
  1588. 1:03:46>> let me just accept it not that way you
  1589. 1:03:49accept that this is hard for me some
  1590. 1:03:51people are blessed by math
  1591. 1:03:53[clears throat] becoming so easy for
  1592. 1:03:54them but for you is hard. So this means
  1593. 1:03:57maybe I'm going to work harder. So in
  1594. 1:03:59acceptance there is also wisdom that
  1595. 1:04:01comes. Accepting that I'm sick. I'm
  1596. 1:04:04accepting that I don't have that skill.
  1597. 1:04:07Acceptance that I don't have that gift
  1598. 1:04:09another person have. And if that comes I
  1599. 1:04:12will work harder and I even have to see
  1600. 1:04:14do I need that. So that is really good.
  1601. 1:04:16So miracles that happen, I love them
  1602. 1:04:20because again as people I mean if my
  1603. 1:04:23friend comes to me and say I'm hungry
  1604. 1:04:25I'm not going to say like yeah pray
  1605. 1:04:27about it. I'm going to try so hard to
  1606. 1:04:29give them food. And sometimes hey
  1607. 1:04:32there's no way we can find the
  1608. 1:04:34restaurant no food. Just pray. Don't
  1609. 1:04:36worry be patient or maybe it's good for
  1610. 1:04:39you because sometimes somebody can get
  1611. 1:04:41sick and the doctor said don't give them
  1612. 1:04:43food. If you do it will be bad for them
  1613. 1:04:46or this is better you know a kid want to
  1614. 1:04:48go to party I'm like you have an exam
  1615. 1:04:50tomorrow make that sacrifice you better
  1616. 1:04:53study so again what is suffering is not
  1617. 1:04:56always for a bad outcome sometimes it's
  1618. 1:04:59better to suffer so that's why when we
  1619. 1:05:01ask our lady for healing we have open
  1620. 1:05:04heart by I'm rich I'm bad I I would
  1621. 1:05:07guess when I mean this I always tell our
  1622. 1:05:09lady so if you don't like it change my
  1623. 1:05:11desire don't don't let I keep hungering
  1624. 1:05:15for something and for anything I want
  1625. 1:05:17I'm praying for and I think I'll tell
  1626. 1:05:19anyone please make sure it's not sinful.
  1627. 1:05:22I'm not praying for another person to
  1628. 1:05:24get hurt. That's not a prayer you
  1629. 1:05:25address to God or I can just take that.
  1630. 1:05:28No, it's not a prayer. You wish good God
  1631. 1:05:30is love. So if it is somewhere love and
  1632. 1:05:33even if I don't understand well I ask
  1633. 1:05:35God to to help me. But if I'm really
  1634. 1:05:38wanting that job so badly, I'm going to
  1635. 1:05:42ask God to help me. And if he doesn't
  1636. 1:05:45like it, give me better maybe. I
  1637. 1:05:47remember one time looking for a job. And
  1638. 1:05:50I was praying. I was fasting. I really
  1639. 1:05:52wanted that job. And then after time, we
  1640. 1:05:55were only two who had to compete for the
  1641. 1:05:57job. So how do you pray for the other
  1642. 1:05:59person not to get it when God is love?
  1643. 1:06:02So I'm like, hm, let me see how I can
  1644. 1:06:03pray for this. So I start to pray for
  1645. 1:06:05that girl to find a better job somewhere
  1646. 1:06:07else because you have to love that
  1647. 1:06:10person is a child of God too. So you
  1648. 1:06:13can't say like I hope she fails so then
  1649. 1:06:15I can get it. That's not from God.
  1650. 1:06:17That's not a nor good prayer. So it's
  1651. 1:06:20like when is love how can I wish the
  1652. 1:06:22other person have even more better you
  1653. 1:06:25know but it's okay to tell God cuz he's
  1654. 1:06:28author of all good things. If that what
  1655. 1:06:31he want you for, he want you to pray
  1656. 1:06:33more. He will plant that desire too. So
  1657. 1:06:36I met people who are sick and who ask me
  1658. 1:06:38pray for me that I die soon. I never
  1659. 1:06:41thought I will meet people like that.
  1660. 1:06:42One man recently a few years ago. He
  1661. 1:06:45called me in his room. His wife have
  1662. 1:06:48died and his children were in the living
  1663. 1:06:50room or married. You know I was speaking
  1664. 1:06:52that area. He said so I just wanted to
  1665. 1:06:55ask you pray for me that I die soon. I'm
  1666. 1:06:58like are you depressed? Are you sad? No,
  1667. 1:07:01I did everything. I pray my daily
  1668. 1:07:03rosary. I go to mass every day. I'm good
  1669. 1:07:05with the church. I just miss my wife and
  1670. 1:07:08I just want to see our lady. I'm like,
  1671. 1:07:10I'm don't think I'm going to pray for
  1672. 1:07:11that. And then he said, if things go
  1673. 1:07:14well, I have asked her to take me next
  1674. 1:07:16week. I'm not a part of this. So anyway,
  1675. 1:07:20not everybody's praying for the same
  1676. 1:07:22thing, you know. And that when the devil
  1677. 1:07:25tells you like, oh, you are selfish for
  1678. 1:07:26praying for that job. you see how many
  1679. 1:07:28people who want it no wish them good but
  1680. 1:07:31if there in your heart pray for it
  1681. 1:07:34>> so one of the thing people again I have
  1682. 1:07:36seen people who don't want to get
  1683. 1:07:38pregnant and who are married and I've
  1684. 1:07:40seen people dying suffering so badly
  1685. 1:07:44pray that God gives you that kid so one
  1686. 1:07:46of the thing our lady promised in Ko
  1687. 1:07:48through the seven sorrows she said I
  1688. 1:07:50will hear the tears of mothers
  1689. 1:07:54>> for their children for the prayers
  1690. 1:07:55concerning their
  1691. 1:07:57I will heal the tears of parents for
  1692. 1:07:59their children. For whatever pain
  1693. 1:08:01they're going through, I will hear them
  1694. 1:08:04more than any through any other prayer.
  1695. 1:08:06So again, this is what I have seen. I
  1696. 1:08:10have about 150 emails or people who
  1697. 1:08:13write to me sometimes end up calling
  1698. 1:08:15their children my name because of course
  1699. 1:08:17they remember that I may become you know
  1700. 1:08:20introduced them to that rosary. But
  1701. 1:08:23that's one prayer our lady never refuse.
  1702. 1:08:25I truly only one couple told me they
  1703. 1:08:28were praying for a child and within six
  1704. 1:08:31months they told me actually they
  1705. 1:08:33realized they don't need so God changed
  1706. 1:08:35their hearts too but children oh I have
  1707. 1:08:39a couple who tried for four years seven
  1708. 1:08:41years from all over the world and who
  1709. 1:08:44pray who tried 10 years one girl from um
  1710. 1:08:47from Rwanda she actually not Catholic so
  1711. 1:08:50this she's so cute she she's a born
  1712. 1:08:53again a very good Christian and Then she
  1713. 1:08:55came to me she said so I've been trying
  1714. 1:08:58for 10 years and somebody told me that
  1715. 1:09:00there is some prayer you teach people
  1716. 1:09:03maybe I just said I I'm going to ask you
  1717. 1:09:05I will do anything I spend all the money
  1718. 1:09:08we have now I just want to do naturally
  1719. 1:09:10in prayer I'm like okay you are born
  1720. 1:09:12again so it concerns Mary and I know
  1721. 1:09:15maybe you guys don't like her much which
  1722. 1:09:18is so sad but it concern her she's like
  1723. 1:09:20I will do anything and then we pray the
  1724. 1:09:22whole rosary and then this The word I
  1725. 1:09:25find so cute. She said, "You know, I've
  1726. 1:09:27been telling Jesus, my Lord, I've been
  1727. 1:09:29asking for a child for 10 years. You're
  1728. 1:09:32not giving it to me. Now I am way to
  1729. 1:09:34turn to your mother. What do you know
  1730. 1:09:36about having children anyway?"
  1731. 1:09:38[laughter]
  1732. 1:09:39She's literally joking, talking to her
  1733. 1:09:41like that and within a month she was
  1734. 1:09:45pregnant. I was so worried she won't get
  1735. 1:09:48pregnant. I mean, she won't get the
  1736. 1:09:50gift. Maybe thinking, "Okay, not even
  1737. 1:09:52traditional rosary. This is seven
  1738. 1:09:54sorrows to meditate on a pain of a lady.
  1739. 1:09:57I hope she takes it. She's got to do
  1740. 1:09:59this every day. It's not magic. It's a
  1741. 1:10:01prayer that comes from the heart. You're
  1742. 1:10:03supposed to connect to her, love her
  1743. 1:10:05through what she went through and her
  1744. 1:10:07son, of course, what he was going
  1745. 1:10:08through. Remember what he did for
  1746. 1:10:10people. So that's what I was trying to
  1747. 1:10:12direct her. So I met her five years
  1748. 1:10:15later. Obviously, I was I was not even
  1749. 1:10:17asking anything. What happened? I hope
  1750. 1:10:19she's still praying. So 5 years later
  1751. 1:10:22she broke into this house where I was I
  1752. 1:10:24was visiting. She's like I have been
  1753. 1:10:26looking for you for 5 years. I'm like
  1754. 1:10:28tell me what happened. I remember who
  1755. 1:10:30you are. She said I have a child of five
  1756. 1:10:32years.
  1757. 1:10:33>> So it's so good. It gives me the
  1758. 1:10:35greatest joy. And obviously we we the
  1759. 1:10:39gift of God is to reconnect to us to his
  1760. 1:10:41love to remind us that I'm still here. I
  1761. 1:10:45mean when our Lord said ask shall be
  1762. 1:10:46given knock the door will be open. He
  1763. 1:10:50meant it. He just want us not to give
  1764. 1:10:52up. We have the parable of the rich man
  1765. 1:10:55and the poor neighbor who have received
  1766. 1:10:57the guests at night didn't have bread.
  1767. 1:11:00And when our Lord said the when the poor
  1768. 1:11:03neighbor went to knock the door of the
  1769. 1:11:04rich man to ask for bread to feed his
  1770. 1:11:06guest, if the rich man doesn't get up
  1771. 1:11:09out of love, he would wake up out of
  1772. 1:11:12being annoyed and give it to him. And
  1773. 1:11:15that is right after that passage he said
  1774. 1:11:17ask. Don't give up. If I'm not giving it
  1775. 1:11:21to you because I think you even deserve,
  1776. 1:11:24I'm a father. My heart will melt because
  1777. 1:11:26of your insistence. You're begging.
  1778. 1:11:29>> So, and also when I say that, I don't
  1779. 1:11:31want to push people to say, "Oh, don't
  1780. 1:11:33worry. Just pray for God's will." It's
  1781. 1:11:36good to pray for God's will when you
  1782. 1:11:37understand it because God's will is
  1783. 1:11:40always good for us. But also maybe I
  1784. 1:11:42have done it in my life where I said
  1785. 1:11:44God's will be done because I didn't want
  1786. 1:11:47to want anything so I won't get
  1787. 1:11:50disappointed. So then I'm like okay
  1788. 1:11:52we'll just pray you know as I'm praying
  1789. 1:11:54God's will be done but there's a time
  1790. 1:11:56when people are trying to kill you at at
  1791. 1:11:58the door and you just don't want to be
  1792. 1:12:01chopped by machetes and you are begging
  1793. 1:12:04God. You're not going to tell that
  1794. 1:12:06person or just pray for God's will to be
  1795. 1:12:08done. And again, I know people doing the
  1796. 1:12:10genocide, including my brother who wrote
  1797. 1:12:13me a letter. He put I put in left to
  1798. 1:12:15tell the night before they killed him
  1799. 1:12:18and said, "If they kill me, don't worry.
  1800. 1:12:20I will go to heaven because I'm
  1801. 1:12:23prepared." Not once have I tell God,
  1802. 1:12:26"Okay, it's fine. Take me." Why did he
  1803. 1:12:29put that desire to live on him knows? So
  1804. 1:12:32if you have a desire to for your child
  1805. 1:12:35to believe from that addiction,
  1806. 1:12:38don't wipe it off like, "Oh, that's
  1807. 1:12:40him." You know, I tried. I'm tired. Pray
  1808. 1:12:44for him. You know, when you're praying,
  1809. 1:12:46you're also invited to love and to a
  1810. 1:12:49long suffering. You don't know when it
  1811. 1:12:51will happen, but you keep praying. In
  1812. 1:12:54meantime, you're opening the heart to
  1813. 1:12:56Jesus on the cross, to the tears of Mary
  1814. 1:12:59under the cross. In the meantime, we're
  1815. 1:13:01loving Jesus more. And then in due time,
  1816. 1:13:05he's going to give you an answer. And he
  1817. 1:13:07will not fail to give you a satisfying
  1818. 1:13:10answer if you keep praying.
  1819. 1:13:13>> People heal, in the end they die. All
  1820. 1:13:16God want is to grab our love, our hearts
  1821. 1:13:18to love him, to fall in love with him.
  1822. 1:13:21>> And with that comes every gift. But the
  1823. 1:13:24end result is not the gift, is the
  1824. 1:13:26giver. is that love that he showed you
  1825. 1:13:28that
  1826. 1:13:29>> wow he loves me. He's there.
  1827. 1:13:31>> Yeah. When we come to that recognition
  1828. 1:13:33that God is real and that God is real
  1829. 1:13:35and God is really our father that Jesus
  1830. 1:13:37is really king and lord and friend. Yes.
  1831. 1:13:41>> Right. You know um and that and that he
  1832. 1:13:43has given us the Holy Spirit to make us
  1833. 1:13:45children of God. He has given us the
  1834. 1:13:48family, the church, right? Mary as a
  1835. 1:13:51mother. so many wonderful other
  1836. 1:13:53Christians who have right um who who
  1837. 1:13:55have who have assisted us in who are
  1838. 1:13:58alive today.
  1839. 1:13:59>> Yeah.
  1840. 1:13:59>> And those who are alive today in heaven,
  1841. 1:14:01right? And that we we we are not alone.
  1842. 1:14:03>> Yes.
  1843. 1:14:03>> Uh so again, thank you so much, Emac,
  1844. 1:14:06for walking us through just this
  1845. 1:14:08beautiful vision of just this confident
  1846. 1:14:11reality, right? that God is good, that
  1847. 1:14:13God will hear our prayer, that he will
  1848. 1:14:16bring us home,
  1849. 1:14:17>> and uh the the journey may not be the
  1850. 1:14:19one um we we expect.
  1851. 1:14:22>> It's almost guaranteed not to be the one
  1852. 1:14:23we expect. It may not be the one we
  1853. 1:14:25want,
  1854. 1:14:26>> but it will be the journey in a way that
  1855. 1:14:29we need to come home to him. And in a
  1856. 1:14:32way, we will eventually want it. We will
  1857. 1:14:34eventually say that somehow, right? If
  1858. 1:14:37this if this pain brought me to
  1859. 1:14:41face-toface intimate communion with my
  1860. 1:14:44God and maker and father,
  1861. 1:14:47>> then in a way I can may I be able to say
  1862. 1:14:50along with Mary, right? Let it be done
  1863. 1:14:52to me according to thy word. Yes.
  1864. 1:14:53>> Uh so I remembered our your f our first
  1865. 1:14:56episode uh one of our um uh workers
  1866. 1:14:58helped us uh it was called it was
  1867. 1:15:00episode 92 uh the power of faith and
  1868. 1:15:03suffering. Uh so I encourage any uh
  1869. 1:15:06listeners or viewers to go back and look
  1870. 1:15:08at that uh Catholic theology show
  1871. 1:15:10episode 92. Uh and then also this book
  1872. 1:15:13that you have a blessing in disguise
  1873. 1:15:15miracles of the seven ro sorrows rosary.
  1874. 1:15:19>> And you mentioned that people can go to
  1875. 1:15:20immac.com
  1876. 1:15:23>> yes
  1877. 1:15:23>> to find more things.
  1878. 1:15:25>> Yes. And I do take pilgrimages to kjo.
  1879. 1:15:28>> That's right. Yeah. Three times a year.
  1880. 1:15:29About times a year. It's not easy. But I
  1881. 1:15:32always remember a lady telling us, "My
  1882. 1:15:34children help me. Bring my children
  1883. 1:15:36here." I'm like, "You know what? I've
  1884. 1:15:38seen how life is short. Even if I take
  1885. 1:15:41five people, I take them."
  1886. 1:15:43>> Beautiful.
  1887. 1:15:43>> As long as you feel you have done her
  1888. 1:15:45will, you have put a smile on her face.
  1889. 1:15:48>> What more?
  1890. 1:15:49>> Yeah,
  1891. 1:15:50>> that's beautiful. And uh what's that
  1892. 1:15:52last line? Um Mary um what was the
  1893. 1:15:56prayer from the
  1894. 1:15:58um the prayer from uh the rosary?
  1895. 1:16:01>> Oh most merciful mother remind us always
  1896. 1:16:05about the sorrows of your son Jesus.
  1897. 1:16:07Thank you for for thinking of that
  1898. 1:16:10because I love it and sometimes it's
  1899. 1:16:12like glory be we can go quickly yeah
  1900. 1:16:15>> without thinking about it
  1901. 1:16:17>> but that reminder helps me to accept
  1902. 1:16:20every suffering. Yeah, that reminder
  1903. 1:16:23>> of his sorrows reminds me how I'm loved
  1904. 1:16:26and I'm a child of God and so is
  1905. 1:16:29everybody and help me to love people.
  1906. 1:16:32>> Amen. Amen. Most merciful mother, remind
  1907. 1:16:34us always about the sorrows of your son,
  1908. 1:16:37Jesus.
  1909. 1:16:37>> Amen.
  1910. 1:16:38>> So, thank you so much for being on the
  1911. 1:16:40show today.
  1912. 1:16:41>> Thank you. We made it happen.
  1913. 1:16:43>> That's right. Yes. And and happy uh I
  1914. 1:16:45know this will be released later, but
  1915. 1:16:46happy feast of
  1916. 1:16:48>> uh the immaculate conception.
  1917. 1:16:50What? And and happy feast day to you.
  1918. 1:16:52>> Oh yeah. Thank you. One time I remember
  1919. 1:16:55we were looking for a house as a family.
  1920. 1:16:56We couldn't find a home. We would liked
  1921. 1:16:59and I am no kidding. I woke up in the
  1922. 1:17:01morning. It was December 8. And I told
  1923. 1:17:03our lady, "It's our day is your feast. I
  1924. 1:17:07really need a house for the family." All
  1925. 1:17:10of a sudden we saw a house came up on
  1926. 1:17:11the market was exactly everything we
  1927. 1:17:14wanted. The price range. I'm like, "Oh."
  1928. 1:17:17Because somebody dropped it off
  1929. 1:17:19something. and then go through. So,
  1930. 1:17:21she's good.
  1931. 1:17:22>> That's good.
  1932. 1:17:22>> She helps. Yeah.
  1933. 1:17:24>> Amen. Amen. Thank you so much for being
  1934. 1:17:26on the show today.
  1935. 1:17:27>> Yeah. Truly.
  1936. 1:17:28>> Thank you so much for watching. If you
  1937. 1:17:30enjoyed today's episode, please hit the
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  1939. 1:17:34Catholic Theology Show. Thanks and God
  1940. 1:17:37bless.

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