How to love yourself SO MUCH that you don't feel nervous around anyone — Transcript

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1. 0:01So, in this video, I'm going to tell you
2. 0:02how to love yourself so much that you'll
3. 0:05never feel nervous around any single
4. 0:07person.
5. 0:08You're going to go from someone who is
6. 0:10hating themselves,
7. 0:12dealing with lots of self-doubt, you
8. 0:14hate your lifestyle, you hate the way
9. 0:15you look, you just hate bunch of
10. 0:17different things about your personality,
11. 0:18and you're going to go to someone who
12. 0:21actually loves themselves,
13. 0:23doesn't trigger any self-doubt, and most
14. 0:26importantly, you're going to be able to
15. 0:27do the things that you actually want to
16. 0:28do.
17. 0:29People are going to go up to you and see
18. 0:30you as a positive person. Your complete
19. 0:33mindset is going to change about
20. 0:34yourself with this thing that I'm going
21. 0:37to tell you in this video that has
22. 0:38completely changed my social life and
23. 0:40how I view myself.
24. 0:41>> [snorts]
25. 0:42>> Now,
26. 0:43you might be like, "Oh, how do I know
27. 0:45about this?
28. 0:46What's my saying this?"
29. 0:48The reason why I know about this is
30. 0:49because I remember when I was little,
31. 0:52I absolutely hated every single thing
32. 0:54about me.
33. 0:55I remember when I was in
34. 0:58young school, like middle school, high
35. 0:59school, I remember I would pray to God
36. 1:01himself that he would change every
37. 1:04single aspect about me and help me to be
38. 1:06someone else.
39. 1:07Because that's how much I despised I
40. 1:09despise myself. I remember I hated the
41. 1:12way I looked. I remember that I would
42. 1:14try to make conversations with people
43. 1:17and try to make friends, but no one
44. 1:19would want to talk to me. People would
45. 1:21talk to me for 5 seconds and then go
46. 1:23away.
47. 1:24I remember
48. 1:26just being completely embarrassed about
49. 1:28who I was, who my family was, and it
50. 1:32really sucks because
51. 1:33I remember that I looked around me and
52. 1:37most people around me seemed to have
53. 1:39like really good self-confidence, make
54. 1:41friends, be able to say things on their
55. 1:44mind. And I remember this one time when
56. 1:45I was in high school,
57. 1:47there's this guy, he was kind of like he
58. 1:49was really popular, and I remember he
59. 1:51was telling one of my classmates, he was
60. 1:53just like, "Yeah, bro, like I I'm
61. 1:56I'm just so in love with myself. Like
62. 1:59And I was just like
63. 2:01How do I get that self-confidence when I
64. 2:03don't have it? And so, throughout years
65. 2:06of experimentation, years of reading
66. 2:08self-development books, and watching
67. 2:10lots of videos, and doing lots of
68. 2:12research, I've got something that is
69. 2:14just like the catalyst for developing
70. 2:17that self-love.
71. 2:18And that thing is simply just doing a
72. 2:21bunch of hard things and going through a
73. 2:24bunch of hard experiences.
74. 2:26Now, you might be like, "Oh, what are
75. 2:27you talking about? Like, my life's
76. 2:29already hard. I don't want to go through
77. 2:30anything."
78. 2:31But, the fact of the matter is is that
79. 2:33hard experiences
80. 2:35build us, okay? Now, for example,
81. 2:38imagine you're some military guy.
82. 2:40Going through like the military is
83. 2:41extremely hard, you know? You're going
84. 2:43[snorts] away from your family. You are
85. 2:45You're fighting for your country. You're
86. 2:47doing lots of physical training. You're
87. 2:49learning lots of things. It's hard. It's
88. 2:50rigorous.
89. 2:52But, imagine you leave the military,
90. 2:55and you got a couple of
91. 2:58people in retail trying to like
92. 3:00mess with you, cut in line,
93. 3:02try to mess with you. You got people
94. 3:03messing with you in your life. It's just
95. 3:04like
96. 3:05you literally went through
97. 3:07a whole physical training in another
98. 3:09country. You fought for your country.
99. 3:10You had experience with guns,
100. 3:13with weapons. You
101. 3:16did so many physical tests in the rain.
102. 3:19You ran in the rain. You climbed You got
103. 3:22You climbed mountains. You were climbing
104. 3:24training. It's just like why would you
105. 3:25fear these people?
106. 3:28And so, you might be like, "Oh, but I
107. 3:30can't go through anything that hard."
108. 3:31But, the thing is
109. 3:33one simple hard task is enough to get
110. 3:36you going.
111. 3:37I remember
112. 3:38when I was in middle school, something I
113. 3:42hated about myself was that I was
114. 3:43Latino,
115. 3:44but I couldn't speak Spanish.
116. 3:46And so, I remember like all the Latino
117. 3:48kids would make fun of me because I was
118. 3:50brown hair brown skin
119. 3:52black hair, and I couldn't speak it. And
120. 3:54so, I was like, "You know what? Let me
121. 3:56go through the hard process of learning
122. 3:57it."
123. 3:59So, I spent the hours learning, the
124. 4:02hours listening to music, the hours
125. 4:03dealing with the outcast and me messing
126. 4:06up. And now that I speak it fluently,
127. 4:09it's given me the confidence to speak
128. 4:10with native people.
129. 4:12And so, that self-love just really comes
130. 4:15from developing a bunch new skills. And
131. 4:18it And it could be anything. Like it it
132. 4:20You don't have to go through like the
133. 4:21hardest task in the world.
134. 4:23You simply just want to develop
135. 4:24experiences
136. 4:26that make you proud of yourself.
137. 4:29It It can be a hard experience. Like you
138. 4:31can you can go to the military and you
139. 4:32come back
140. 4:33a plainly different. You can like go do
141. 4:36martial arts and like judo and boxing
142. 4:38and BJJ.
143. 4:40That's fine. That's definitely going to
144. 4:41give you confidence. But simply just
145. 4:43doing hard things,
146. 4:45going through experiences that make you
147. 4:46proud of yourself. So, for example, I
148. 4:48remember this year,
149. 4:50I was helping a roommate.
150. 4:52And he was like, "Hey, I don't really
151. 4:53know how to cook."
152. 4:55But I was like, "You know what? I got
153. 4:56you, bro. I'm going to show you how to
154. 4:57cook. I'm going to help you make some
155. 4:59I'm going to tell you how to marinate
156. 5:00chicken. You know, you get a rice
157. 5:02cooker, put some rice You got some easy,
158. 5:05high-protein, low-carb meal."
159. 5:08And that made me feel really proud of
160. 5:10myself because
161. 5:12I was teaching someone
162. 5:14something that I knew how to do that he
163. 5:15didn't.
164. 5:16And a task and an experience simply just
165. 5:19as cooking
166. 5:21helped me help him, which made him feel
167. 5:23a lot better. And so, it's simply just
168. 5:26doing things that make you feel good
169. 5:27about yourself. Don't like your
170. 5:28hairstyle?
171. 5:30How big forehead?
172. 5:31Get the experience of changing that
173. 5:33hairstyle.
174. 5:34You don't like your body?
175. 5:37Lose weight. It's It's a lot easier. And
176. 5:39so, these things that you don't like
177. 5:41about yourself,
178. 5:43you want to simply go through a bunch of
179. 5:44experiences that make you proud of
180. 5:46yourself. Doing new things, doing hard
181. 5:48things, and then once you establish
182. 5:50that,
183. 5:51once you establish multiple things, it's
184. 5:54like
185. 5:55you meet someone who intimidates you,
186. 5:58who maybe is a little more shy than you,
187. 6:00but it's just like you think to
188. 6:01yourself, I've been through so many
189. 6:04experiences of, you know, cooking,
190. 6:07going through martial arts, learning a
191. 6:09language. Like,
192. 6:10>> [snorts]
193. 6:10>> these are experiences that
194. 6:12people cannot take away from you.
195. 6:14And so that's what makes you proud of
196. 6:16yourselves. And once you do multiple
197. 6:18things,
198. 6:19it gives you that self-love, which is
199. 6:22how basically kind of got me my
200. 6:23confidence because it's just like I went
201. 6:26from this
202. 6:27really intimidated guy, this really shy
203. 6:30guy, hate everything about myself, but I
204. 6:32changed it.
205. 6:33Changed the way I looked to a
206. 6:35a way uh to an appearance that I do
207. 6:37like, you know, build muscle in gym to
208. 6:40be more intimidating, went through new
209. 6:41experiences, went into car sales,
210. 6:43started cooking, started
211. 6:46the learning about different things and
212. 6:48different philosophical ideas. It's just
213. 6:50like those are the things that you have
214. 6:52to build up in order to get that
215. 6:53self-love. So, like, share, subscribe,
216. 6:55and I'll see you in the next one. Peace.