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How to live a happier and more fulfilling life // 30 life lessons I have learned at 30 — Transcript

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  1. 0:00it is official you guys this video
  2. 0:01should be going live on Monday is
  3. 0:03September 4th which means that tomorrow
  4. 0:05is my 30th birthday I cannot believe
  5. 0:09that I have finally hit this dirty 30 I
  6. 0:12am honestly just so grateful and blessed
  7. 0:14that I have lived a happy and healthy
  8. 0:16life thus far and to sort of commemorate
  9. 0:19and celebrate my birthday I thought it
  10. 0:20would be fun to share 30 things I've
  11. 0:22learned in my 30 years on this Earth
  12. 0:25that have helped me live my life to the
  13. 0:26fullest Chase my dreams be successful
  14. 0:29not only in my my career but also in my
  15. 0:31marriage having a beautiful home and
  16. 0:33more and before I get into it remember
  17. 0:35that these are things that I've learned
  18. 0:37not things that I've mastered so I'm
  19. 0:40still definitely working on some of
  20. 0:41these so with that grab a beverage and
  21. 0:44let's get cozy and have a little
  22. 0:45chitchat I poured a little Sparkling Ice
  23. 0:48I've been loving this grape raspberry
  24. 0:50flavor that they have so cheers and
  25. 0:53let's dive into it so first is to be
  26. 0:56super mindful about who you let into
  27. 0:58your life and into your inner circle the
  28. 1:00people closest to you can truly impact
  29. 1:02how you view yourself how successful you
  30. 1:04are in your career how driven you are
  31. 1:06they can also kind of tear you down
  32. 1:08sometimes and your inner circle can
  33. 1:09really have a huge impact on your mental
  34. 1:12health your happiness your success all
  35. 1:13of it so be super Mindful and particular
  36. 1:16about who you let Into Your Inner Circle
  37. 1:18two is that people can change if it is
  38. 1:21their decision to do so I feel like as
  39. 1:23I've grown learned matured I have
  40. 1:26changed I've changed since I was in high
  41. 1:28school I've changed since I was even in
  42. 1:29college even in the last year like
  43. 1:31having new job I've learned new things
  44. 1:33learned how to become a new person so I
  45. 1:34think people really can change but it
  46. 1:36definitely has to be their decision you
  47. 1:38can't force someone to change but if
  48. 1:40they decide to do so don't be afraid to
  49. 1:42give somebody a second chance if they
  50. 1:44have proven that they are a little bit
  51. 1:45different than they were a couple of
  52. 1:47years ago number three is that it is
  53. 1:49okay to not be okay sometimes honestly
  54. 1:52going through these ups and downs that
  55. 1:53I've experienced over this last year of
  56. 1:55getting laid off there's been times
  57. 1:56where I feel like I have to be super
  58. 1:58strong and I can't you know be
  59. 2:00vulnerable and show and share like how
  60. 2:02I'm actually feeling you know I want to
  61. 2:03be the best version of myself for my
  62. 2:05husband I want to be super bubbly and
  63. 2:07outgoing to meet new people in a new
  64. 2:09city but honestly sometimes life is
  65. 2:11really hard and it's okay to like feel
  66. 2:13those feelings do whatever you need to
  67. 2:15do to like work through them and just
  68. 2:17know that it's okay to not be 100% all
  69. 2:20the time number four I love this one and
  70. 2:22it is to talk to yourself the way that
  71. 2:24your like partner husband best friend
  72. 2:27mom whoever would talk to you pick the
  73. 2:30person that you think maybe like adors
  74. 2:31you the most in the world and think
  75. 2:34about how they would speak to you would
  76. 2:36they ever say things like wow you are
  77. 2:38such an idiot for forgetting your keys
  78. 2:40in the car hopefully not they also
  79. 2:43probably wouldn't be like picking your
  80. 2:45physical appearance apart like in the
  81. 2:47mirror and things like that so when I
  82. 2:49kind of learned this perspective as far
  83. 2:51as like self-affirmations and positive
  84. 2:54selft talk one way that I really liked
  85. 2:55to think about it was thinking about the
  86. 2:57way that like my husband would
  87. 2:59compliment me the way that he would say
  88. 3:01nice things about me and he would never
  89. 3:03say things that I might say to myself
  90. 3:05when I'm in like a negative state so
  91. 3:07when it comes to like positive
  92. 3:08affirmations I always try and think
  93. 3:09about you know like what my husband
  94. 3:11would say to me and how he would say it
  95. 3:13and think about that for the lens that I
  96. 3:14use to think about how I talk to myself
  97. 3:16if that makes sense number five this is
  98. 3:18one a big one that I've learned this
  99. 3:19year is that you are always going to be
  100. 3:22disposable to another company so take
  101. 3:24your finances into your own hands create
  102. 3:27multiple income streams so that you will
  103. 3:29never be 100% dependent on a company or
  104. 3:32for that matter even just like one
  105. 3:34source of income for me I'm really
  106. 3:36trying to diversify my income stream by
  107. 3:38having like YouTube income hopefully
  108. 3:41like can grow some of my other social
  109. 3:42media channels creating an online
  110. 3:44website which if you haven't checked
  111. 3:46that out make sure you go check it out
  112. 3:47it's down in my description box I really
  113. 3:49want to start a podcast with Chris we
  114. 3:51also have Investments that are paying us
  115. 3:53like dividends growing our income
  116. 3:54through that one day I want to own
  117. 3:56rental properties so I'm thinking about
  118. 3:58different kind of sources of income that
  119. 4:00I can create so that I'm never ever
  120. 4:02again dependent on one source of income
  121. 4:04learning number six I wish I knew this
  122. 4:06one when I was like 10 years old this is
  123. 4:08to invest your money as early as
  124. 4:10possible as young as possible and as
  125. 4:12much as possible I mean I could have a
  126. 4:14whole video talking about investing the
  127. 4:16pros and cons and like why you should be
  128. 4:17investing how it can generate you
  129. 4:19millions of dollars through the span of
  130. 4:20your life that is going to be too long
  131. 4:22for this video but investing your money
  132. 4:24as much as you can and as early as you
  133. 4:26can will ultimately set you up for such
  134. 4:28a more comfortable future in life and I
  135. 4:32wish that I had started investing in the
  136. 4:33stock market when I was like 10 years
  137. 4:35old even if it was only like 20 bucks a
  138. 4:37month for my allowance like I wish that
  139. 4:38I had done that but you know what there
  140. 4:40is no time like the present start now if
  141. 4:42you haven't started investing life
  142. 4:44lesson number seven is to live below
  143. 4:46your means I feel like you know I kind
  144. 4:49of had to figure this out as I went make
  145. 4:51decisions when it comes to buying a car
  146. 4:53buying a house buying clothes and
  147. 4:55expenses and stuff like what you
  148. 4:57actually can spend and how much
  149. 5:00flexibility you have in your spending
  150. 5:01money and make sure you are living below
  151. 5:03that saving and again investing every
  152. 5:05single month all right life lesson
  153. 5:07number eight is that keeping up with the
  154. 5:09Joneses as they say will never fulfill
  155. 5:11you think about the things that you
  156. 5:13actually want in your life if you want a
  157. 5:15really really nice car a super specific
  158. 5:17car then great get that car but don't
  159. 5:20always look at what other people have
  160. 5:21compare yourself to them and then think
  161. 5:24oh well they got a new car so now I want
  162. 5:25a new car or they got a boat so now I
  163. 5:27want a boat I don't know those are just
  164. 5:28examples it's totally okay to want nice
  165. 5:32things a new car a new house whatever I
  166. 5:35don't know but always be connected to
  167. 5:36like a deeper meaning to why you want
  168. 5:38that thing and never because you're
  169. 5:40comparing yourself to somebody else and
  170. 5:42what they have that will never make you
  171. 5:44happy cuz you'll always be kind of
  172. 5:45chasing something that doesn't actually
  173. 5:47fulfill you so think about the things
  174. 5:48that you genuinely really want in life
  175. 5:50rather than trying to find fulfillment
  176. 5:52from things that other people have life
  177. 5:54lesson number nine is to try your best
  178. 5:56to embrace the challenges in life I
  179. 5:57talked about this in my starting over
  180. 5:59video and I know that it's hard when
  181. 6:02life happens things suck losing your job
  182. 6:04sucks sickness in your family sucks all
  183. 6:06of it like all of these things happen to
  184. 6:08us and there's not much you can do to
  185. 6:11control them to change them or anything
  186. 6:13like that but if you learn how to kind
  187. 6:15of embrace these challenges in life
  188. 6:16you'll be able to learn you'll be able
  189. 6:18to grow you'll be able to adapt you'll
  190. 6:19be able to find peace in a new life that
  191. 6:22you maybe didn't think was even possible
  192. 6:24before I think that's definitely true
  193. 6:25for me with placing unemployment if I
  194. 6:28hadn't embraced this change this
  195. 6:30challenge I never would have started a
  196. 6:32YouTube channel things suck in the
  197. 6:33moment but you never know what like good
  198. 6:35might come of it life lesson number 10
  199. 6:37is to challenge your mind to learn new
  200. 6:40things one of the easiest ways that I
  201. 6:41like to do this is through like personal
  202. 6:43development style books I like to read a
  203. 6:45lot of those I like to learn about
  204. 6:46investing learn about business learn
  205. 6:48about different diets and ways that I
  206. 6:50can be eating I think it's interesting
  207. 6:52because we go through school for 18
  208. 6:54years or however long some people go for
  209. 6:56a lot longer than that and all of a
  210. 6:58sudden we stop learning we kind of get
  211. 6:59get stuck in just doing our job day over
  212. 7:01day we can sometimes forget like how
  213. 7:03powerful it is to learn new things and
  214. 7:05grow it doesn't have to be like through
  215. 7:07listening to books like I do but it
  216. 7:09could be through learning a new sport
  217. 7:11picking up a new hobby anything really
  218. 7:13you could teach yourself a a new
  219. 7:15language doesn't matter just challenge
  220. 7:16yourself to learn new things life lesson
  221. 7:18number 11 is to travel and experience
  222. 7:21new cultures this one is so so important
  223. 7:23to me because I feel like when I go and
  224. 7:26I travel and I experience new cultures
  225. 7:27I'm able to understand how other people
  226. 7:30live their life I'm able to gain
  227. 7:32perspective on my own life it really
  228. 7:34helps me kind of truly value all of the
  229. 7:36things that I do have in my life it
  230. 7:38makes me very grateful for my house my
  231. 7:41family my dog all sorts of things it can
  232. 7:44just be a very very eye openening it can
  233. 7:47help you have a better grasp on society
  234. 7:50it can help you form better opinions
  235. 7:52about your own life so yeah do your best
  236. 7:55to travel experience cultures experience
  237. 7:57the world there is just so so much out
  238. 7:59there that most of us don't know about
  239. 8:01and it's on the other end of a flight
  240. 8:04life lesson number 12 is that I'm
  241. 8:06finding that memories are worth more
  242. 8:08than possessions for me this kind of
  243. 8:10goes back to the last one with traveling
  244. 8:12I am at a point right now where I would
  245. 8:14rather spend my money on a trip to go
  246. 8:16experience a new culture see a new
  247. 8:19country try new foods and things like
  248. 8:21that over buying a new car or I don't
  249. 8:24know like things for the house or stuff
  250. 8:26like that I mean every person is
  251. 8:27different but think about the things
  252. 8:29that you really really want and for me
  253. 8:32that is memories experiences I want to
  254. 8:35experience things with my family I want
  255. 8:36to experience things with my husband and
  256. 8:38in 50 years from now will I care about a
  257. 8:40Louis Vuitton bag or will I care about
  258. 8:42remembering that amazing experience I
  259. 8:43had with my husband while we were in
  260. 8:46Africa or wherever that's the way that I
  261. 8:48think about it I know everyone is
  262. 8:49different but my point is that for me
  263. 8:51memories are worth so much more than
  264. 8:53possessions and I want to be spending my
  265. 8:55money on that life lesson number 13 is
  266. 8:58to do do the things that actually make
  267. 9:00you happy for me this is something that
  268. 9:03I felt very strongly about like a little
  269. 9:06bit over a year ago year and a half ago
  270. 9:07when Chris nyatt made the decision to
  271. 9:10move to Vegas originally it wasn't
  272. 9:11specifically Vegas but I wanted to move
  273. 9:14somewhere that was really sunny I was
  274. 9:15feeling very depressed by the weather in
  275. 9:18Seattle every single winter it was like
  276. 9:20at least 6 months long if not like 9
  277. 9:22months long and it was really really
  278. 9:24getting to me from a mental perspective
  279. 9:26I wanted to try out living somewhere
  280. 9:28really sunny and see if that like helped
  281. 9:30out my mental health and it has that was
  282. 9:31a really hard decision because we have
  283. 9:33family in Washington our close friends
  284. 9:35were in Washington like my niece is up
  285. 9:37there I didn't want to leave that but I
  286. 9:39also had to think about myself and what
  287. 9:40I needed to do to make me the happiest
  288. 9:43in this case it was to move to a sunnier
  289. 9:45location for some people it might be
  290. 9:47starting a new job or I don't know
  291. 9:49breaking up with somebody that they
  292. 9:51shouldn't be with or cutting a friend
  293. 9:53out of their lives I don't know whatever
  294. 9:54it is do the things that you need to do
  295. 9:57to be happy because ultim timately at
  296. 9:59the end of the day the only thing that
  297. 10:00matters is your happiness life tip
  298. 10:03number 14 is to drink water if you guys
  299. 10:05have been following my channel you know
  300. 10:07I drink a lot of water I have like I
  301. 10:10think like four analin a day which is
  302. 10:12like 4 L or about a gallon water is
  303. 10:14literally so important for every single
  304. 10:17bodily function if you're not drinking
  305. 10:18enough water you could be dehydrated and
  306. 10:20not even know it drinking enough water
  307. 10:22can help improve your joint pain it's
  308. 10:24good for skin elasticity as we age it
  309. 10:27physically helps your like blood move
  310. 10:29through your body as well as all of your
  311. 10:31organs functioning I think somebody once
  312. 10:33described it to me as like the oil in
  313. 10:35your car your car needs oil to keep all
  314. 10:38of the parts physically moving that's
  315. 10:40how our body needs water I have been
  316. 10:41drinking tons and tons of water since
  317. 10:44high school it started because I was on
  318. 10:46a cross country team and everyone had
  319. 10:48the had the N jeans and I wanted one too
  320. 10:50so I got a Nene and ever since then I've
  321. 10:52drank a lot of water life lesson number
  322. 10:5515 is to treat my body with the respect
  323. 10:57that it deserves for me the this means
  324. 10:59drinking water like I was just talking
  325. 11:01about eating high quality foods that
  326. 11:03make me feel good having a good skincare
  327. 11:05routine taking care of my face my body
  328. 11:08all of it we are given one body in this
  329. 11:10life so I think that we should treat it
  330. 11:12with respect and do everything that we
  331. 11:14can do to prolong its life and when I
  332. 11:17give my body like high quality tasty
  333. 11:20food I feel good and it's just this like
  334. 11:22feed back Loop so treat my body with
  335. 11:25respect and ultimately that will just
  336. 11:27like make you feel better feel happier
  337. 11:29and who doesn't want that life lesson
  338. 11:31number 16 is to move my body so
  339. 11:34obviously I have gotten really into
  340. 11:36lifting weights and that started in like
  341. 11:392017 I think like right around when
  342. 11:41Christmas started dating overall I have
  343. 11:43found that on days where I'm getting
  344. 11:45steps in I'm moving my body whether that
  345. 11:47be going for a run going to the gym
  346. 11:50whatever I just feel better inside I
  347. 11:53feel better mentally feel like I have a
  348. 11:55clearer mind I don't feel sluggish it
  349. 11:57like sometimes even helps to to wake me
  350. 11:59up and walking and moving your body can
  351. 12:01actually help prolong your life by
  352. 12:03reducing fat keeping your organs healthy
  353. 12:05and all of that so for me walking moving
  354. 12:08my body are just like crucial parts of
  355. 12:10my day that are non-negotiable and are
  356. 12:13truly so so important to me life lesson
  357. 12:15number 17 is that your time is your most
  358. 12:18precious resource this one has become so
  359. 12:21important to me over these last couple
  360. 12:23of months after I've been laid off after
  361. 12:25I'm thinking about going back to a new
  362. 12:27job as I'm applying to jobs I do not
  363. 12:29want to go back to a company where I
  364. 12:30feel miserable I was working different
  365. 12:32jobs prior to getting laid off and there
  366. 12:35were a few different jobs that I was in
  367. 12:36where I truly like did not want to go to
  368. 12:38work I was miserable every single
  369. 12:40workday I had the Sunday scaries every
  370. 12:42week and that is just like not a life
  371. 12:44that I want to live we are given one
  372. 12:47life our time is incredibly valuable and
  373. 12:50precious I don't want to waste that I
  374. 12:52think this is also true for the people
  375. 12:54that you're spending your time with or
  376. 12:56the things that you're going to the
  377. 12:57events that you're going to just all of
  378. 12:59those things like you have to realize
  379. 13:00how valuable your time is you will never
  380. 13:03get a day back you will never get a year
  381. 13:04back remember that your time is like one
  382. 13:06of your most valuable resources if not
  383. 13:09the most valuable resource that you have
  384. 13:10and use it wisely life lesson number 18
  385. 13:13is basically like quality over quantity
  386. 13:15and I feel like this is true in every
  387. 13:17aspect of my life this is something that
  388. 13:19I'm still very much working on too which
  389. 13:21is like food for example quality of food
  390. 13:24is more important to me than quantity I
  391. 13:26think about this with friendships I have
  392. 13:27a couple really really solid friends
  393. 13:29here in Vegas and to that point like it
  394. 13:31becomes so much more important to have
  395. 13:34high quality friendships over tons of
  396. 13:36friends like we did in high school same
  397. 13:37goes for the things that I buy Lulu
  398. 13:39Lemon is a great example of this because
  399. 13:42I have had like the same pair of black
  400. 13:44leggings for like 8 years and they're
  401. 13:46high quality yeah I spent $100 on them
  402. 13:49but I've only had to buy one pair so I'm
  403. 13:51thinking about this with not only the
  404. 13:53food I'm eating the people in my life
  405. 13:55but also like possessions I'm buying I
  406. 13:57want things to last and I want them to
  407. 13:59be high quality life lesson number 19 is
  408. 14:01that gratitude and staying present in
  409. 14:04the moment are like the most powerful
  410. 14:06tools I think for reducing anxiety
  411. 14:10reducing depression and living a happier
  412. 14:13life this is one that I'm working on
  413. 14:14every single day I struggle with anxiety
  414. 14:17it's something that is ever presentent
  415. 14:18for me so one way that I try to reduce
  416. 14:21it is I literally look at the things
  417. 14:23around me and I asked myself like is
  418. 14:24there anything actually wrong in this
  419. 14:26exact moment right now no I am healthy I
  420. 14:29have a beautiful house like I'm sitting
  421. 14:31outside in the sunshine you know I have
  422. 14:33a great husband I have the best dog all
  423. 14:35these little things add up and focusing
  424. 14:38on the things that you do have positive
  425. 14:40things in your life and physically being
  426. 14:41present in the moment instead of like
  427. 14:43letting your mind wander about what
  428. 14:45could happen what has happened in the
  429. 14:47past Etc like that is such a powerful
  430. 14:49tool if you can Master it to truly
  431. 14:52living a happier life life lesson number
  432. 14:5520 is that sleep is very important
  433. 14:59sleep impacts every single aspect of Our
  434. 15:01Lives whether it be decision-making
  435. 15:03abilities being able to have coherent
  436. 15:06thoughts being able to have productive
  437. 15:09strategic conversations being able to be
  438. 15:12creative being able to focus every
  439. 15:14single thing comes back to how well
  440. 15:17you're sleeping for some reason when it
  441. 15:18comes down to like working A busy life
  442. 15:21having a lot going on cutting out sleep
  443. 15:23is like the first thing that people do
  444. 15:25they're like oh I'll just like wake up
  445. 15:26early and work on this project it's no a
  446. 15:28big deal or it's fine I can stay up late
  447. 15:31and study or whatever but you actually
  448. 15:33need sleep in order to be more effective
  449. 15:35with your time to get more done at work
  450. 15:38to be able to remember things and study
  451. 15:39better I used to definitely like pull a
  452. 15:41lot of late nights in college even in my
  453. 15:44early 20s but now that I'm 30 years old
  454. 15:48I am realizing how important sleep is
  455. 15:51for my functionality for being a nice
  456. 15:54human being sleep is the most important
  457. 15:55thing do what you need to do in order to
  458. 15:58get a full night night sleep just give
  459. 15:59it a shot for like a couple weeks and
  460. 16:01see if anything changes life lesson
  461. 16:03number 21 I only have 10 more for you
  462. 16:05guys so this one is to connect with
  463. 16:08nature I know not everyone out there is
  464. 16:10like super into outdoorsy things like
  465. 16:13camping and hiking and that type of
  466. 16:15thing you don't have to go be super
  467. 16:16outdoorsy to connect with nature I
  468. 16:19personally think that connecting with
  469. 16:20nature and therefore like disconnecting
  470. 16:23from technology really helps to ground
  471. 16:25me sometimes this just means like going
  472. 16:27for a walk we have a little Trail by our
  473. 16:29house and it's so nice even though it's
  474. 16:31like in our neighborhood there's houses
  475. 16:32around and stuff when I'm on those walks
  476. 16:34I'm really like focusing on the trees
  477. 16:36and how pretty the trees look and the
  478. 16:38grass and the plants and the flowers and
  479. 16:41I'm looking up at the sky and I'm
  480. 16:42looking at the clouds and what I'm not
  481. 16:44doing is I'm not looking at my phone
  482. 16:46this is like one of my favorite things
  483. 16:48to do when I'm feeling anxious when I'm
  484. 16:50feeling stressed when I'm feeling down
  485. 16:52in general going for walks outside being
  486. 16:54in nature just looking at trees
  487. 16:57genuinely helps helps my mental health
  488. 17:00my mindset and makes me feel happier
  489. 17:02life lesson number 22 is self-care again
  490. 17:06this one something I feel like I've been
  491. 17:07learning over these last couple of
  492. 17:09months after getting laid off I feel
  493. 17:10like I have had more time to practice
  494. 17:12self-care and I've put more value on it
  495. 17:14by doing these little things whether it
  496. 17:16be like one big self-care day where I do
  497. 17:18like a face mask a hair mess a bubble
  498. 17:20bath paint my nails whatever like a
  499. 17:22whole big day like that can really help
  500. 17:25me reset and feel good about myself and
  501. 17:28by practice practicing self-care you're
  502. 17:29there like creating a better mindset for
  503. 17:32yourself to make decisions about things
  504. 17:33that are going on in your life whether
  505. 17:34it be like about a job career
  506. 17:37relationship whatever and also just
  507. 17:39self-care makes you just feel better
  508. 17:41that's why I like to get my nails done
  509. 17:43every couple of weeks is it just makes
  510. 17:44me feel more put together it makes me
  511. 17:47feel like I've got my life together even
  512. 17:48if I maybe don't so yeah just do the
  513. 17:51little things that help you feel like
  514. 17:53you're taking care of yourself and see
  515. 17:55how big of a difference that that could
  516. 17:56make life lesson number 23
  517. 17:58this one is maybe one of my favorite
  518. 18:00ones on this list which is to laugh I
  519. 18:03feel like laughter is the Cure All when
  520. 18:06I'm in a bad mood Chris makes me laugh
  521. 18:08and it really does help turn my mood
  522. 18:10around surr yourself with people that
  523. 18:12make you laugh that are funny that make
  524. 18:14you have fun you know all of those
  525. 18:15things are so important and I think
  526. 18:18laughter literally is the best remedy so
  527. 18:21find ways to make yourself laugh whether
  528. 18:22that be through shows books friends
  529. 18:25whatever but just remember how important
  530. 18:27it is to laugh life lesson number 24 is
  531. 18:30to set achievable goals for yourself I
  532. 18:33feel like this is something that I kind
  533. 18:34of have started doing with the creation
  534. 18:36of my YouTube channel because I started
  535. 18:38doing these like monthly reset videos
  536. 18:40where I'm setting monthly goals for
  537. 18:42myself and I'm actually like writing
  538. 18:44them down and thinking about them every
  539. 18:46single week and month by setting these
  540. 18:48little goals for myself then when I
  541. 18:50achieve them I'm like wow I actually
  542. 18:51like achieved something that I wanted to
  543. 18:54achieve this month whether it be reading
  544. 18:56a certain amount of books or getting to
  545. 18:58the gym gym a certain amount of times or
  546. 18:59whatever I'm setting achievable goals
  547. 19:01for myself and then I do achieve them it
  548. 19:03creates this positive feedback loop that
  549. 19:05is like almost like self- validating of
  550. 19:07I can accomplish these things that I set
  551. 19:09my mind to I am good at X Y and Z I can
  552. 19:12be productive I am effective with my
  553. 19:14time and It ultimately just like creates
  554. 19:16this like cycle of self-esteem boosting
  555. 19:19if that makes sense I set these goals
  556. 19:20for myself every single month that I
  557. 19:22pretty much know I'm going to achieve
  558. 19:23like I pretty much always think I can
  559. 19:26read a certain amount of books every
  560. 19:27month I pretty much know I'm going to go
  561. 19:28to the gym at least 3 days per week so I
  562. 19:30set those goals for myself and that way
  563. 19:33when I achieve them it's a little
  564. 19:34self-esteem boost life lesson number 25
  565. 19:37is to stop caring about what other
  566. 19:38people think this is a hard one and this
  567. 19:40is one that I'm still working on but the
  568. 19:41sooner you can let go and not give about
  569. 19:46what other people think the sooner
  570. 19:47you'll live a happier life whether that
  571. 19:49be how you do your hair how you do your
  572. 19:51makeup what car you drive whatever do I
  573. 19:53think people think I am crazy for having
  574. 19:55a YouTube channel yeah probably they're
  575. 19:57probably like that's not a real form of
  576. 19:59income but it doesn't matter it doesn't
  577. 20:01matter what other people think it
  578. 20:02matters what I think what makes me happy
  579. 20:04what I want to do and the sooner you can
  580. 20:06let go of what other people think and
  581. 20:08care about the sooner you will live a
  582. 20:10happier and more fulfilling life life
  583. 20:12lesson number 26 is to call your family
  584. 20:16or whatever people that you have deemed
  585. 20:17your family stay connected to those
  586. 20:19people at the end of the day at the end
  587. 20:21of your life your family is all you have
  588. 20:23really of course like like I said there
  589. 20:25are going to be friends in life that you
  590. 20:26consider like family and that's great
  591. 20:28and I'm talking about those people too
  592. 20:31but call them call your parents call
  593. 20:33your siblings call your nieces and
  594. 20:35nephews check in on them and make sure
  595. 20:37that you connect with those
  596. 20:39relationships because at the end of the
  597. 20:40day like those are the only people that
  598. 20:42truly matter life lesson number 27 is
  599. 20:45pets are the best especially dogs for me
  600. 20:48because I'm very much a dog person it is
  601. 20:50kind of crazy to me how much pets and
  602. 20:54again for me dogs specifically have
  603. 20:56impacted my life they are are just the
  604. 20:58best like if you don't have a pet you've
  605. 21:01never had a pet I can't recommend it
  606. 21:03enough but I will say as a caveat
  607. 21:05disclaimer before you get a pet make
  608. 21:06sure that you are physically you know
  609. 21:09capable of managing the responsibilities
  610. 21:11but having a dog has changed my life
  611. 21:13pets just teach you so many lessons in
  612. 21:15life like how to have unconditional love
  613. 21:17they give you a sense of companionship
  614. 21:19especially if you live alone they're
  615. 21:21just truly like the best thing ever I
  616. 21:22don't even know what to say I just I
  617. 21:24just love my dog so much she's the best
  618. 21:26she makes me happy having her wag her
  619. 21:29tail and jump on us when we get home
  620. 21:31from the gym or wherever like the level
  621. 21:33of excitement that she has just like if
  622. 21:36we're able to feed off of it and it
  623. 21:37makes us happier so they pets are just
  624. 21:40the best and you should get one life
  625. 21:42lesson number 28 is that you are on your
  626. 21:45own timeline in life I think it can be
  627. 21:48really easy to compare like where you're
  628. 21:51at in life to other people like feel
  629. 21:53like you're behind or something because
  630. 21:55other people are married other people
  631. 21:57have kids kids other people own a house
  632. 22:00other people have these crazy
  633. 22:02high-paying jobs and you're pretty much
  634. 22:03never on the same timeline as anyone
  635. 22:05else you're on your own timeline so just
  636. 22:08remember that you are on your correct
  637. 22:10path you're not behind you just haven't
  638. 22:12gotten to that point in your life yet
  639. 22:14life lesson number 29 this is especially
  640. 22:17true for marriage is that people cannot
  641. 22:20read your mind the sooner you can learn
  642. 22:24how to communicate your feelings what's
  643. 22:26stressing you out even if it's like I
  644. 22:28don't actually know why I'm stressed or
  645. 22:29I don't actually know why I'm upset or
  646. 22:32anxious right now I always do my best to
  647. 22:35tell Chris like I don't know why I'm in
  648. 22:36a bad mood but I am so just like maybe
  649. 22:38stay clear and on that note like also
  650. 22:41being able to communicate when things
  651. 22:43are frustrating you like especially in
  652. 22:45marriage and living with a partner
  653. 22:47communicating when like you really value
  654. 22:49things like them helping with the dishes
  655. 22:51or things like that people cannot read
  656. 22:53your mind people come from different
  657. 22:54backgrounds in life they were raised in
  658. 22:56different ways and and the only way that
  659. 22:59somebody will understand what's going on
  660. 23:00in your mind is if you tell them and my
  661. 23:03last life lesson for 30 things I've
  662. 23:05learned in my 30 years is to have fun
  663. 23:09don't take life too seriously I think
  664. 23:10this is one I personally again am still
  665. 23:12working on I think being married to a
  666. 23:14person who is so fun and likes to just
  667. 23:18like have fun all the time helps me to
  668. 23:20not take life too seriously and have fun
  669. 23:22so do your best to surround yourself
  670. 23:23with people that do that if this one
  671. 23:26doesn't come naturally to you ultimately
  672. 23:28like at the end of the day I want to
  673. 23:29look back on my life and say like yeah I
  674. 23:31had a good time not wow I was like
  675. 23:33really stressed the whole time don't
  676. 23:34take life too seriously and we're just
  677. 23:37we're just going to have a good time
  678. 23:38well you guys that was basically it I
  679. 23:40just wanted to celebrate me turning 30
  680. 23:44and share some like life tips that I've
  681. 23:46gained over my 30 years on this planet
  682. 23:48with you guys hopefully you found it
  683. 23:49helpful let me know if you resonate with
  684. 23:52any of those life lessons and if you
  685. 23:54feel like you've learned them as well or
  686. 23:55if you have any other ones that are
  687. 23:57super important to you that I didn't
  688. 23:58touch on I would love to hear any other
  689. 24:00life lessons life learnings out there
  690. 24:03from people but that is basically it you
  691. 24:04guys that was a fun little sit down
  692. 24:06chitchat shared a little bit of some
  693. 24:09life talks and I really hope that if you
  694. 24:11do start implementing some of these tips
  695. 24:13that they maybe help you out in life a
  696. 24:15little bit help you feel a little bit
  697. 24:16happier more fulfilled less anxious all
  698. 24:19of those things so let me know if you
  699. 24:20give any of them a shot and how they
  700. 24:22work out for you but that is it you guys
  701. 24:24I hope you enjoyed this video if you did
  702. 24:26make sure to give it a little thumbs up
  703. 24:28and I will check in with you guys next
  704. 24:31[Music]
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