How to force your brain to shut up. (even if it never stops) — Transcript

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1. 0:00The moment you realize that you have the
2. 0:02power to turn off your thoughts, you're
3. 0:04well on your way to lasting peace of
4. 0:06mind, my friend. You see, a lot of
5. 0:08people say, "Well, you can't turn off
6. 0:10your thoughts. It's not possible. Don't
7. 0:12try it." But, they're wrong. They're all
8. 0:14wrong.
9. 0:15Because the truth is, you can turn off
10. 0:18your thoughts. The only problem is, you
11. 0:20can only do it for really short amount
12. 0:23of time.
13. 0:24And so, what we can do is we can build
14. 0:26the amount of time in which we can turn
15. 0:28off our thoughts, so it becomes easier
16. 0:30and easier and easier to just naturally
17. 0:33remain at peace. Because the truth is,
18. 0:36peace is the default state. Peace is
19. 0:38down here. And all of our thoughts and
20. 0:40all of this crazy stuff is going up
21. 0:42here.
22. 0:43And so, it's like you don't have to
23. 0:45actually get rid of your thoughts in
24. 0:47order to be at peace. But, it helps
25. 0:49because
26. 0:51we're too busy focusing on all of the
27. 0:53thoughts that we don't ever even
28. 0:55recognize the peace. See, what people
29. 0:57actually mean
30. 0:58when they say, "Don't try to force your
31. 1:00thoughts to stop." The reason that often
32. 1:03doesn't work for people is because their
33. 1:06mind is trying to stop the mind. And
34. 1:09that doesn't work because the mind
35. 1:11itself is the problem. The problem is,
36. 1:14the mind is dealing with the thoughts,
37. 1:16and you don't have to do that. You only
38. 1:18have to surrender the mind into the
39. 1:20peace that already exists. And then, the
40. 1:24thoughts turn off automatically. Because
41. 1:26without the mind, there are no thoughts.
42. 1:29So, you don't got to worry about the
43. 1:30thoughts at all. You only have to
44. 1:33recognize and return to and become
45. 1:35familiar with the underlying peace that
46. 1:37is always here. Like a storm, like in
47. 1:41the water, like in ocean or something
48. 1:42like that.
49. 1:43On the surface, it could be going all
50. 1:45kinds of crazy. But, underneath, as you
51. 1:48go deeper and deeper down, there's
52. 1:51stillness. And in that stillness, there
53. 1:54is peace. So, one of the main beliefs
54. 1:56that we have to destroy
55. 1:58is that in order for us to be peace, the
56. 2:01thoughts have to go away. And that's
57. 2:03just not true.
58. 2:04Because you can have moments of peace
59. 2:07and begin stacking those moments so you
60. 2:09build a more stable baseline of peace,
61. 2:13but that doesn't mean the thoughts have
62. 2:14to go away.
63. 2:16It's just your mind's recognition. How
64. 2:19able are you
65. 2:21to ground your mind, ground your
66. 2:24attention in that peace rather in the
67. 2:27thoughts.
68. 2:28So for example, what is likely happening
69. 2:30right now is that your mind is getting
70. 2:32pulled into your thoughts. Your
71. 2:34attention is getting pulled into your
72. 2:35thoughts and that's what creates the
73. 2:36suffering.
74. 2:37Because if you're having negative
75. 2:38thoughts, it's going to give you
76. 2:39negative feelings like fear, worry,
77. 2:41anxiety, all of that jazz.
78. 2:44And then you're not going to feel very
79. 2:45good now, are you?
80. 2:47But
81. 2:48the thoughts are like clouds passing
82. 2:51through the sky. We project meaning onto
83. 2:54them and because we project that meaning
84. 2:56onto them, that is why we suffer. And so
85. 2:58it's this game of like ping pong. You
86. 3:01like pong?
87. 3:02Basically
88. 3:03you go into the peace and then you get
89. 3:05pulled out of it, you get pulled into
90. 3:07your thoughts out of habit. And then you
91. 3:08return to the peace and then you get
92. 3:10pulled back into your thoughts out of
93. 3:11habit.
94. 3:12And you just go back and forth and all
95. 3:14you got to do is persist.
96. 3:15Because
97. 3:17well, we have to realize that we spent
98. 3:20our whole lives feeding the mind,
99. 3:23feeding our thoughts. So you think it's
100. 3:25just going to randomly one night just
101. 3:27oh, I'm not I'm no longer having to
102. 3:28think. Your attention through habit is
103. 3:32getting pulled into those thoughts. And
104. 3:34so by building a new habit of grounding
105. 3:37your attention in that peace, over time
106. 3:41that becomes your new normal, your new
107. 3:42default state. And so you see like the
108. 3:45the power that I've developed over the
109. 3:48however many years of doing certain
110. 3:50practices
111. 3:51when the thoughts come up and they come
112. 3:53up I can like dissolve them as soon as
113. 3:56they come up. It doesn't That doesn't
114. 3:58mean they don't keep coming up.
115. 4:00But
116. 4:02my ability to dissolve the thoughts
117. 4:05is more powerful than the thought
118. 4:07themselves.
119. 4:08And this is a power that you have, but
120. 4:10it has to be developed, trained, and and
121. 4:13built. It's a skill. And once you have
122. 4:16this power, your thoughts stop running
123. 4:19your life so much. I mean, think about
124. 4:21it. How often does some problem happen
125. 4:24in your life?
126. 4:25And then you can't stop ruminating on
127. 4:27it. You can't stop thinking about it.
128. 4:28And that sucks really bad. And it keeps
129. 4:30you stuck in the problem. And the reason
130. 4:33this happens is because the thoughts
131. 4:37create feelings. And the feelings are
132. 4:39really what grip your cheeks. They're
133. 4:41really what keep you feeling stuck.
134. 4:43Because the feelings are really strong.
135. 4:46And so, if you can't stop thinking about
136. 4:48the certain something, well, then you
137. 4:50also can't stop feeling about a certain
138. 4:52something.
139. 4:53And that creates a strong emotional
140. 4:55memory in the body that keeps you a
141. 4:58slave to these stories, to these
142. 5:01patterns, whatever it is. But, if you
143. 5:03continue to surrender the story, you
144. 5:06prevent those thoughts from spiraling
145. 5:08out of control.
146. 5:09Then now you feel less strongly about
147. 5:12them. So, they're less gripping, and you
148. 5:14can remain more free. And most people
149. 5:16don't even realize that they have this
150. 5:18power because they're so conditioned to
151. 5:21be thinking all the time that they
152. 5:23couldn't imagine that they don't have to
153. 5:26actually entertain all of these stories
154. 5:29and all of these thoughts. And so, one
155. 5:30of the methods that I show you in the
156. 5:32Monkey Mind Mastery Dojo, link is below,
157. 5:35is a safe space method. And this is
158. 5:37primarily what we can use
159. 5:40to turn off our mind. So, right now
160. 5:43within you, there is a sense of inner
161. 5:45spaciousness.
162. 5:47You may recognize it, you may not. Most
163. 5:49people don't. You can literally just
164. 5:51shift your awareness into your body and
165. 5:53recognize that sense of inner
166. 5:54spaciousness. And once you recognize it,
167. 5:57that's step one. So, you recognize, and
168. 6:00then you return. Imagine the safe space
169. 6:03like um like a sterile room or something
170. 6:06like that, where there's no bacteria,
171. 6:08there's no viruses, nothing. It's super
172. 6:09clean everywhere, like a doctor's
173. 6:12office. Negative thoughts cannot thrive
174. 6:16in a sterile environment. And so, what
175. 6:17you do is like you continue washing
176. 6:19yourself, washing your mind in this safe
177. 6:22space.
178. 6:23And over time, you become more and more
179. 6:25clean, and negative thoughts can't stick
180. 6:28to you as much. And so, we train our
181. 6:31minds to return here again and again and
182. 6:34again.
183. 6:36And the more familiar we become, the
184. 6:38more easy it is to remain here. But like
185. 6:41any new habit, it may be a little bit
186. 6:43difficult at first. But you just keep
187. 6:45returning, keep returning again, just
188. 6:47washing yourself here. And all of those
189. 6:50negative thoughts and all of their
190. 6:51filthiness,
191. 6:52they begin to wash away.
192. 6:54And to the degree in which you can
193. 6:56remain here in the safe space,
194. 6:59determines the
195. 7:02baseline of peace that you experience.
196. 7:04So, in the beginning, you may not be
197. 7:06able to be here for very long. You'll be
198. 7:08here, and then you get pulled back into
199. 7:09your thoughts, and then you'll be here,
200. 7:10and then you'll be pulled back into your
201. 7:12thoughts.
202. 7:13And as you do it, you can remain here
203. 7:15longer and longer and longer. But the
204. 7:17only way to do that is to actually
205. 7:18practice it. How else are you going to,
206. 7:20you know, get to that point? And you may
207. 7:23even notice it right now. You can take a
208. 7:25moment
209. 7:26and see your thoughts. If your thoughts
210. 7:28are going crazy, or even if not, just
211. 7:29any thoughts at all. And then you return
212. 7:32your attention into the present moment,
213. 7:33into your body.
214. 7:35If you can recognize the inner
215. 7:36spaciousness, you'll notice that
216. 7:39for at least a moment, there is a gap in
217. 7:42thoughts. And in that gap, there is
218. 7:45Well, there's peace, and there's
219. 7:47freedom, and there's space. That's what
220. 7:49a gap is. It's space. Like when you
221. 7:51breathe, there's a gap in between the
222. 7:54breaths, and that gap is recognizing
223. 7:57that sense of inner spaciousness. The
224. 7:58inner spaciousness is always there,
225. 8:01but like the silence all around you, you
226. 8:05don't really pay attention to it. You
227. 8:07pay attention to the noise because that
228. 8:09is what the mind
229. 8:11deems as valuable. The sounds,
230. 8:15the meaning of the sounds, the
231. 8:17interpretation of the sounds.
232. 8:19But the silence, what use does the mind
233. 8:22have for the silence? Not really much
234. 8:24use at all.
235. 8:26Because the mind and the silence
236. 8:29are not really compatible. The mind is
237. 8:30always noisy. It's always about noise
238. 8:33and stuff and things.
239. 8:36But silence is emptiness. It's
240. 8:38nothingness.
241. 8:39So the mind naturally ignores it. And
242. 8:42yet it's everywhere. Look around you.
243. 8:45There's literally space everywhere
244. 8:48across the entire universe. Infinite
245. 8:51eternal space.
246. 8:53And yet when was the last time you even
247. 8:55noticed the space? Probably never.
248. 8:57Because there's all kinds of stuff like
249. 9:00this fancy bee.
250. 9:01The bee is more interesting than the
251. 9:03space because the bee has some kind of
252. 9:05meaning.
253. 9:06A fried chicken, apparently. And so we
254. 9:09train our mind to recognize the silence
255. 9:12and the space.
256. 9:14And also the stillness. That's what
257. 9:16we're looking for, that inner sense of
258. 9:17stillness.
259. 9:19It doesn't have to be cultivated, it
260. 9:20doesn't have to be created, it just has
261. 9:22to be recognized and returned to. And so
262. 9:26if you do this, what you'll notice is
263. 9:28that you'll thought your thoughts will
264. 9:29turn off just for a moment.
265. 9:32And because we haven't grounded
266. 9:33ourselves here enough, they'll keep
267. 9:35going. But you want to just pay
268. 9:37attention to that lapse in thought.
269. 9:39And notice that you can expand it. You
270. 9:41can expand that space. And you keep
271. 9:44grounding your attention here more and
272. 9:46more and more
273. 9:48until you can remain here effortlessly.
274. 9:51And that's when you experience a stable
275. 9:53baseline of peace and freedom.
276. 9:56But
277. 9:57you don't have to spend years trying to
278. 9:59get rid of your thoughts. You can find
279. 10:00relief right now.
280. 10:02Because in this safe space,
281. 10:05that is the source of freedom. And with
282. 10:07freedom, obviously you're going to find
283. 10:08some relief. I am Ray, and if you're
284. 10:10tired of your thoughts running your
285. 10:12life, and you're ready to find relief,
286. 10:15>> stop feeling so stuck in your head.
287. 10:16>> Come join us in the Monkey Mind Mastery
288. 10:18Dojo, my friend. I'll show you
289. 10:20everything you need to know. Much peace
290. 10:22and many blessings, and remember, just
291. 10:25be.