How to end an argument in Persian — Transcript

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1. 0:00I was just in the middle of an argument
2. 0:01with someone I love, my cousin, about
3. 0:04politics when all of a sudden I
4. 0:06remembered this Persian phrase that my
5. 0:08late grandfather taught me. And even
6. 0:10though I was about to dig in, it kind of
7. 0:12stopped me cold. And this phrase was
8. 0:15perfect for a moment like this when
9. 0:17you're about to burn a bridge over an
10. 0:19opinion. And I thought that in this age
11. 0:21when everything is so polarized, it
12. 0:23seems like every disagreement blows up,
13. 0:26this would be a useful phrase for you to
14. 0:27know as well. And this is
15. 0:34Literally this means that's your belief,
16. 0:36then I have nothing to submit. But the
17. 0:38more I think about it, there's so much
18. 0:40more to it than that. It's not I give
19. 0:42up, or it's not you win, it's I respect
20. 0:46you too much to keep fighting. And I
21. 0:49respect myself too much to pretend
22. 0:52you've changed my mind. You keep your
23. 0:53view, I keep mine. So whether in real
24. 0:56life with people or online with
25. 0:59disagreements that we have, we're often
26. 1:00arguing with people to the point where
27. 1:02we can't move on. And sometimes the
28. 1:04wisest thing to do is say, this is your
29. 1:06belief, I'll leave it there. In other
30. 1:08words, I will gracefully let this go. So
31. 1:11next time you feel yourself digging in
32. 1:13with someone you love or even someone
33. 1:16you see online, just remember these
34. 1:18words.
35. 1:23I have a ton more phrases like this that
36. 1:25I've learned from my grandparents and
37. 1:27others around me, more humble Persian
38. 1:29phrases. Follow along.