How to emotionally detach from a woman who no longer values you — Transcript

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1. 0:00[Music]
2. 0:00how to emotionally detach from a woman
3. 0:02who no longer values you so women rarely
4. 0:05pull back for no reason whether it's
5. 0:07borom resentment or simply lack of
6. 0:09interest there are always signs and
7. 0:11sometimes you'll see them other times
8. 0:13you'll dismiss them but the writing is
9. 0:14always on the wall how many sleepless
10. 0:17nights have you spent wondering why
11. 0:18you're not enough for her why her love
12. 0:21feels cold and more importantly why
13. 0:23you're still holding on guys let me tell
14. 0:25you this if she no longer treats you
15. 0:27right it's time to wake up and reclaim
16. 0:29your emotional freedom
17. 0:30in this video I'm giving you the
18. 0:31step-by-step guide to emotionally detach
19. 0:33from a woman who doesn't value you
20. 0:35anymore let's get into
21. 0:40it Jessica o here welcome to the channel
22. 0:43so let's be real for a moment when a
23. 0:45woman starts treating you differently
24. 0:47her behavior tells the story one you'll
25. 0:50come to understand only if you know
26. 0:52where to look let me quickly highlight
27. 0:54the signs you should be looking out for
28. 0:55in a woman who has checked out from the
29. 0:57relationship you both have
30. 1:02number one she stops caring about your
31. 1:03needs and it's a no-brainer I mean
32. 1:06remember when she used to genuinely ask
33. 1:08about your day listen attentively and
34. 1:10maybe even try to solve problems with
35. 1:11you now she barely glances up from her
36. 1:13phone and makes a half-hearted when you
37. 1:16speak it's like she's physically there
38. 1:19but mentally checked out you see when
39. 1:21someone stops caring about your needs
40. 1:23they're essentially telling you that
41. 1:25you're no longer my priority you used to
42. 1:28be her hero right now no matter matter
43. 1:30what you do it's wrong the way you dress
44. 1:32the way you chew even the way you
45. 1:34breathe is all Up For Debate that
46. 1:37constant nitpicking isn't random and I
47. 1:39need you to know this criticism can
48. 1:41often be a subtle or not so subtle way
49. 1:43of creating emotional space it's like
50. 1:46she's building a wall between you two
51. 1:48one brick of disapproval at a time and
52. 1:51if she's not willing to take
53. 1:52responsibility for her part in the
54. 1:53relationship you'll end up feeling like
55. 1:55you're the problem you text her and she
56. 1:57takes hours sometimes days to reply
57. 2:00but you see her posting on IG Snapchat
58. 2:03like she's got all the time in the world
59. 2:05or she suddenly has work emergencies or
60. 2:08girls nights out right every time you
61. 2:11try to plan something if it sounds
62. 2:14familiar well you know this when someone
63. 2:17is invested in you they make time period
64. 2:20you used to share everything with her
65. 2:21your dreams your fears your excitement
66. 2:23about the future and now it feels like
67. 2:25talking to a stranger her responses are
68. 2:27Curt her tone is icy and any attempt to
69. 2:30connect emotionally is met with
70. 2:32indifference this happens when she no
71. 2:34longer feels connected or she's avoiding
72. 2:36the connection altogether either way
73. 2:38it's a clear indicator that her heart
74. 2:41isn't in it anymore has the intimacy
75. 2:44dwindled to almost nothing maybe she
76. 2:47used to hug you for no reason hold your
77. 2:49hand or give you those affectionate
78. 2:50kisses that felt meaningful now even a
79. 2:53quick Peck feels like an obligation or
80. 2:56worse she avoids physical touch
81. 2:58altogether here's what you need to
82. 3:01understand okay these signs aren't about
83. 3:04you imagining things or being paranoid
84. 3:06they're actually for you to recognize
85. 3:08reality and once you see these behaviors
86. 3:11what they are you can make an informed
87. 3:12decision about what's best for
88. 3:16you all right guys so Detachment is your
89. 3:20power move to Take Back Control when
90. 3:23you're emotionally attached to someone
91. 3:24who no longer treats you right you're
92. 3:26stuck in this cycle of hoping for Change
93. 3:29and feeling disappointed when change
94. 3:31doesn't happen Detachment however will
95. 3:34break that cycle think about it how much
96. 3:36self-respect can you have if you're
97. 3:39constantly tolerating disrespect by
98. 3:41detaching you're making a bold statement
99. 3:43you're saying I value myself enough to
100. 3:45walk away from anything that doesn't
101. 3:47serve me also two you free yourself from
102. 3:50unmet expectations you've been holding
103. 3:52on to Hope hoping that she'll wake up
104. 3:54one day and start treating you right but
105. 3:56let's be real has that day come no and
106. 3:59waiting for will only keep you trapped
107. 4:01Detachment means freeing yourself from
108. 4:03the exhausting emotional tug of war of
109. 4:05unmet expectations when you start to
110. 4:08detach you stop expecting her to change
111. 4:11you let go of the what ifs that keep you
112. 4:14tied to the past and you start focusing
113. 4:17on what you need to thrive the beautiful
114. 4:19part is when you detach you make room
115. 4:20for something better whether it's a
116. 4:22healthier relationship a personal goal
117. 4:24adjust your peace of mind emotional
118. 4:27Detachment clears the Clutter and lets
119. 4:29you focus on what truly matters when
120. 4:32you're stuck on someone who doesn't
121. 4:33value you you're unavailable for the
122. 4:35right person remember that okay there's
123. 4:37someone out there who will love and
124. 4:39respect you the way you deserve but they
125. 4:41can't find you if you're too busy
126. 4:43chasing some other person who isn't
127. 4:45worth your time remember that you gain
128. 4:48emotional Independence okay when you're
129. 4:52emotionally attached to someone who Mis
130. 4:53treats you your happiness will become
131. 4:55dependent on their behavior you don't
132. 4:58need me to tell you this if if she's
133. 5:00kind you feel good if she's distant
134. 5:02you'll feel worthless Detachment will
135. 5:04break this cycle and put your happiness
136. 5:06back in your hands and that's why
137. 5:08detaching is so important you see it's
138. 5:10not about shutting down your emotions
139. 5:11when you detach you redirect your
140. 5:13emotions to what truly matters and in
141. 5:16this case it's you when you detach you
142. 5:18start being a victim of her actions and
143. 5:20start being an architect of your own
144. 5:25happiness right so now that we've
145. 5:28highlighted the signs and and understand
146. 5:30why Detachment is actually the ultimate
147. 5:33power move let's get into the how this
148. 5:36is where the real work begins breaking
149. 5:39the emotional chains that keep you stuck
150. 5:41and starting your own Journey towards
151. 5:43freedom is what I'm talking about think
152. 5:45of this as an emotional detox a reset
153. 5:47button for your heart and mind how do
154. 5:50you do this let's go step one
155. 5:53acknowledge the pain but don't dwell on
156. 5:55it so Detachment hurts especially when
157. 5:57you've invested so much into the
158. 5:59relationship pretending you're okay or
159. 6:01suppressing your feelings though won't
160. 6:03help you heal the first step is to
161. 6:06acknowledge the pain and make sure that
162. 6:08it doesn't consume you okay you can do
163. 6:10this by journaling your emotions write
164. 6:13down how you feel what went wrong why
165. 6:15the Detachment is necessary it'll help
166. 6:17you process the situation without
167. 6:18spiraling into negativity give yourself
168. 6:20permission to grieve it's okay to feel
169. 6:22sad or disappointed just don't let those
170. 6:25emotions Define you or dictate your
171. 6:27actions you're allowed to feel but don't
172. 6:30build a permanent home in pain step two
173. 6:34set boundaries and stick to them
174. 6:36boundaries are your armor in this
175. 6:38process without them you'll keep falling
176. 6:40into Old patterns of answering her late
177. 6:43night texts or saying yes to things that
178. 6:46will drain you emotionally Now's the
179. 6:48Time to prioritize you so what you want
180. 6:52to do is limit contact if she's still
181. 6:54reaching out consider reducing or
182. 6:56cutting off communication entirely you
183. 6:58need to protect your peace you need to
184. 7:01also say no without guilt if she tries
185. 7:04to guilt trip you into doing something
186. 7:05stand firm remember your well-being
187. 7:08comes first also unfollow a mutter on
188. 7:11social media out of sight out of mind
189. 7:14seeing her posts is only going to take
190. 7:16you down an emotional roller coaster
191. 7:18every time you enforce a boundary you're
192. 7:20telling yourself I deserve better and
193. 7:23trust me that message will start to
194. 7:25stick step three replace her with a new
195. 7:28priority you need to fill that empty
196. 7:31space with something meaningful so focus
197. 7:33on Fitness uh pursue a passion reconnect
198. 7:37with friends and family when you start
199. 7:39investing in yourself you'll realize how
200. 7:42much you've been missing while chasing
201. 7:43someone who wasn't chasing you step four
202. 7:46cut ties when
203. 7:49necessary now let me tell you of
204. 7:51something hard but true sometimes the
205. 7:54only way to heal is to let go completely
206. 7:56if she's still in your life as a friend
207. 7:59or or lingering in the background she's
208. 8:01keeping you stuck in this cycle of false
209. 8:04hope so let it go this is how you do it
210. 8:07have an honest conversation if necessary
211. 8:09let her know why you're stepping away
212. 8:11not to hurt her but to protect yourself
213. 8:14two delete old photos and texts you know
214. 8:16because keeping these will only reopen
215. 8:19Old Wounds let them go three block on
216. 8:23friend if needed this isn't about being
217. 8:25petty you just need to create a space to
218. 8:28move forward it's not easy but cutting
219. 8:30ties is liberating remember you can't
220. 8:32start a new chapter while reading an old
221. 8:35one step five find your support system
222. 8:39no one said you have to do this alone
223. 8:41surrounding yourself with a support
224. 8:42system can make all the difference
225. 8:44whether it's friends or family or even a
226. 8:47therapist having people in your corner
227. 8:49will help you stay grounded and focused
228. 8:51remember asking for help isn't a sign of
229. 8:53weakness it's a sign of strength you're
230. 8:55showing that you care enough about
231. 8:57yourself to heal the right way this
232. 9:00emotional detox process is your road map
233. 9:03to freedom and also hey I don't just
234. 9:05give relationship tips I actually help
235. 9:08men work through their relationship
236. 9:10problems I'll leave a link to how you
237. 9:11can have a private conversation with me
238. 9:13in the video description below this
239. 9:15emotional detox process is your road map
240. 9:18to
241. 9:19Freedom the key is it only works if you
242. 9:22commit to it are you ready to reclaim
243. 9:24your peace and start living for you
244. 9:25again I could end this video here but
245. 9:27I'll be doing a disservice if I don't
246. 9:29arm with these next few steps chances
247. 9:32are she's going to start drawing closer
248. 9:34to you when she notices that y were
249. 9:36drawing what should you do then hear me
250. 9:39out watch out for emotional
251. 9:42sabotage Detachment is not an easy Road
252. 9:45once she senses that you're pulling away
253. 9:47there's a good chance that she's going
254. 9:48to try to reel you back in right and
255. 9:52this isn't necessarily because she wants
256. 9:54to treat you better it's because she's
257. 9:56losing control you know the control that
258. 9:58she had over you this my friends is what
259. 10:01I call emotional sabotage this is what
260. 10:03it looks like you know the sweet text
261. 10:05that come out of nowhere I mean you
262. 10:07haven't heard from her in days and
263. 10:09suddenly there's another text from her
264. 10:11it says something like hey just thinking
265. 10:13about you or worse she throws in a miss
266. 10:16you right for good measure if it sounds
267. 10:18familiar What's Happening Here is
268. 10:20classic breadcrumbing she doesn't want
269. 10:23to fully commit to you but she also
270. 10:24doesn't want to lose the comfort of
271. 10:27knowing that you're still there waiting
272. 10:28for her don't fall for that trap
273. 10:30responding will only put you back on the
274. 10:33emotional roller coaster and if you
275. 10:35absolutely have to reply keep it short
276. 10:37keep it polite and indifferent something
277. 10:40like glad to hear from you hope you're
278. 10:41doing well and leave it at that right
279. 10:45another thing that will happen there'll
280. 10:47be sudden promises from her to change
281. 10:49out of nowhere she's talking about how
282. 10:51she realized the mistakes she made and
283. 10:53how she's ready to be better maybe she's
284. 10:55even saying all the things that you've
285. 10:57been waiting to hear for months the
286. 10:59problem problem is though that is this
287. 11:00genuine or is it just a reaction to
288. 11:03losing her grip on you this is how
289. 11:04you'll spot a fake promise if she starts
290. 11:07making these promises but not backing
291. 11:08them up with actions it's a red flag cuz
292. 11:10words are cheap so you want to pay
293. 11:12attention to consistency over time also
294. 11:15you want to ask yourself is she suddenly
295. 11:16interested in you because she truly
296. 11:18values you or because she feels like
297. 11:19she's losing control change is a process
298. 11:23and not an overnight
299. 11:25Epiphany okay so keep that in mind
300. 11:27another thing she will use is some
301. 11:29something called the jealousy tactic she
302. 11:31might start posting pictures with other
303. 11:33guys on social media or casually mention
304. 11:35how much fun she had with someone new
305. 11:38this is an intentional move to get under
306. 11:39your skin and make you question whether
307. 11:41you've truly moved on what should you do
308. 11:43ignore it she wants a reaction so the
309. 11:46best thing you can do is stay unbothered
310. 11:48also remind yourself that jealousy is
311. 11:50just another manipulation tactic to keep
312. 11:51you emotionally hooked she's not your
313. 11:53competition you don't need to prove
314. 11:56anything to her or anyone else another
315. 11:59thing you could fall into is what we
316. 12:01call the let's be friends trap right one
317. 12:03of the most dangerous forms of emotional
318. 12:06sabotage is this let's be friends thing
319. 12:10right she might frame it as wanting to
320. 12:12keep you in her life but let's be honest
321. 12:15this isn't about friendship it's about
322. 12:17keeping you close enough to use as an
323. 12:20emotional safety net while she explores
324. 12:22her other options it's dangerous to
325. 12:25accept this kind of friendship because
326. 12:26it keeps you emotionally invested even
327. 12:28if you're not in a relationship anymore
328. 12:30and it creates false hope making it
329. 12:33harder for you to fully detach so
330. 12:35instead what you want to do is to
331. 12:36politely but firmly decline say
332. 12:38something like hey I appreciate the
333. 12:40offer but I think it's best we both move
334. 12:42on remember being her friend only
335. 12:44benefits her and not you another thing
336. 12:48she will pull is this whole sudden burst
337. 12:50of attention right suddenly she's
338. 12:53calling you texting you wanting to spend
339. 12:55time together it might feel like she's
340. 12:57finally prioritizing you but ask
341. 12:59yourself why now is it because she
342. 13:02realizes your worth or because she's
343. 13:04panicking about losing her emotional
344. 13:06backup plan look out for these is her
345. 13:08attention consistent or does it fade the
346. 13:10moment you start showing interest again
347. 13:12is she making an effort to improve the
348. 13:14relationship or is it just temporary
349. 13:16love bombing you to pull you back in
350. 13:20don't confuse attention with genuine
351. 13:22care true love isn't a light switch she
352. 13:25can turn on and off when it suits her
353. 13:27here's what you need to remember
354. 13:29emotional sabotage only works if you let
355. 13:31it she's banking on your insecurities
356. 13:33your lingering feelings and your fear of
357. 13:36letting go but you're stronger than that
358. 13:39every time you resist these tactics
359. 13:41you're reclaiming your power so stay
360. 13:43focused on your goals stick to your
361. 13:44boundaries remind yourself why
362. 13:46Detachment is the best thing for your
363. 13:48peace right now you're not just walking
364. 13:50away from her you're walking towards a
365. 13:53better version of yourself and that
366. 13:55should be your top priority I hope you
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