How To Design Your Dream Life By Jon & Missy Butcher — Transcript

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1. 0:00the instant you choose to start living
2. 0:03your life on your own terms
3. 0:05that's when everything changes
4. 0:08it's been more than 30 years since we
5. 0:10made the decision to live a life that's
6. 0:12uniquely ours designed and directed by
7. 0:15us no one else and we've never looked
8. 0:18back since
9. 0:19[Music]
10. 0:23we're living in hawaii now in the
11. 0:25process of creating our new life vision
12. 0:27together
13. 0:28building our new home here while also
14. 0:30running our businesses remotely from
15. 0:32this beautiful place
16. 0:34we are happier than we have ever been in
17. 0:36our lives and that's saying a lot
18. 0:39but it wasn't always like this and this
19. 0:41didn't happen by luck or by accident
20. 0:44this was a choice
21. 0:45we made a conscious decision to design
22. 0:48our life this way
23. 0:49[Music]
24. 0:51and this is it
25. 0:52this is the story of how we made it
26. 0:54happen
27. 0:58in my early 30s i was focused mostly on
28. 1:00building my career in our financial life
29. 1:03we'd gone from rags to riches to really
30. 1:06big business almost overnight
31. 1:08i was running multiple companies pouring
32. 1:10my energy into my career and i was in
33. 1:13that work hard play hard mentality not
34. 1:16taking care of myself physically
35. 1:18partying like a rock star
36. 1:19burning the candle at both ends
37. 1:22ignoring the danger signals and then one
38. 1:24day just before heading into an
39. 1:27important board meeting i experienced a
40. 1:29severe anxiety attack that ended up
41. 1:32generalizing into an anxiety disorder
42. 1:35that had me housebound for two months
43. 1:38completely shut down
44. 1:40that was the most difficult thing we'd
45. 1:42ever been through truly a turning point
46. 1:45in our lives
47. 1:46it was the proverbial wake-up call for
48. 1:48us and we knew things would never be the
49. 1:50same as they were before we knew
50. 1:52something needed to change
51. 1:54i was about as low as a person could go
52. 1:57literally not able to function from day
53. 1:59to day couldn't go to work couldn't go
54. 2:00to a restaurant couldn't drive a car it
55. 2:03was horrible
56. 2:04well my dad was watching late night
57. 2:06infomercials on tv one night and he
58. 2:09bought me my first personal development
59. 2:11program because he thought it might help
60. 2:13me that was my very first experience
61. 2:15with personal development of any kind
62. 2:18and it felt like exactly what i needed
63. 2:20so i started diving deep and it was
64. 2:23really helping well i kept all my notes
65. 2:25from those programs that i was doing in
66. 2:27a little black notebook all my goals my
67. 2:30strategies the most important things
68. 2:32that i was learning and i took that
69. 2:33little notebook everywhere with me
70. 2:35everywhere i went
71. 2:36one page became 10
72. 2:38then 50 then 100 and i called that
73. 2:42little book my life book well that's
74. 2:45where
75. 2:46life book as we know it was first born
76. 2:49what started out as a simple tool to
77. 2:51lessen john's severe anxiety became one
78. 2:54of the biggest gifts we had ever been
79. 2:56given the catalyst for creating our
80. 2:58extraordinary life
81. 3:00we felt like we were starting from
82. 3:01ground zero so we looked at this as an
83. 3:03opportunity to build a conscious
84. 3:05foundation to our life from the ground
85. 3:08up it felt like we were standing in
86. 3:10front of a huge white canvas that we
87. 3:12could paint any way we wanted so it was
88. 3:15time to decide exactly what we did want
89. 3:18so we really thought about that and when
90. 3:20we looked around us at our community and
91. 3:22at the culture we were living in we
92. 3:24realized pretty quickly that most people
93. 3:27aren't happy they're overwhelmed and
94. 3:30exhausted and frustrated and stuck
95. 3:33we resolved that we weren't going to run
96. 3:35that program in our lives
97. 3:36for most couples the romance spark goes
98. 3:39out after just a few years of being in a
99. 3:41relationship together and that's not
100. 3:42going to happen to us
101. 3:46most parents really don't know their
102. 3:47kids that well most people put on a few
103. 3:50pounds every year over the course of
104. 3:51their entire adult lives and end up
105. 3:54overweight
106. 3:55most people are stuck in a job they
107. 3:57don't like what we decided early on none
108. 4:00of that is going to happen to us that's
109. 4:02not the way we're going to live our life
110. 4:04we realize that it was up to us to take
111. 4:06full responsibility to create our life
112. 4:09exactly the way we wanted it
113. 4:11and that would mean we need to look deep
114. 4:13inside and ask ourselves some very
115. 4:15important questions
116. 4:17we deeply thought through the vision for
117. 4:20our own extraordinary life our vision no
118. 4:23one else's
119. 4:25we wanted to create an epic love affair
120. 4:27that would last a lifetime a love
121. 4:30relationship that could serve as the
122. 4:31foundation for our entire lives
123. 4:34we wanted to be extraordinary parents we
124. 4:36wanted to be in excellent physical shape
125. 4:39we wanted a successful career that would
126. 4:41create financial abundance for us in
127. 4:43other words we wanted it all
128. 4:46and we clearly defined what that meant
129. 4:48to us
130. 4:51[Music]
131. 4:53and now here we are
132. 4:54living that life we imagined so many
133. 4:57years ago
134. 4:58our epic love our growing family
135. 5:00meaningful work
136. 5:02health wealth success and fulfillment
137. 5:04and all the categories we are living
138. 5:07proof that it is possible to achieve
139. 5:09your dream life if you're willing to do
140. 5:11what it takes to make it happen
141. 5:13so if you're interested in creating an
142. 5:15extraordinary life for yourself here are
143. 5:17some of the biggest nuggets of wisdom
144. 5:19that we've learned over the years
145. 5:21first of all you've got to create a life
146. 5:24vision for yourself one that's true to
147. 5:26you your very own north star
148. 5:30because believe me if you don't have
149. 5:32your own life vision
150. 5:34someone else is going to step in and
151. 5:36create one for you and take you down
152. 5:38their road
153. 5:40your path in life is either going to be
154. 5:42one that you consciously design and
155. 5:43create for yourself or it's going to be
156. 5:45a path that you unconsciously hand it
157. 5:48over to someone else to create for you
158. 5:52take responsibility for yourself and
159. 5:54question everything that doesn't serve
160. 5:56you or align with your life vision
161. 5:59you are in the driver's seat of your own
162. 6:01life you are the decision maker at the
163. 6:03center of your own existence no one else
164. 6:06is
165. 6:07no one else can do this for you
166. 6:09stand up and take control so you can
167. 6:11move from the passenger seat to the
168. 6:13driver's seat in your own life
169. 6:16another thing we realized is that it
170. 6:18makes absolutely no sense to sacrifice
171. 6:21one part of your life for another
172. 6:24your life is made up of way more than
173. 6:26just your financial life and your career
174. 6:28and those are the two categories most
175. 6:29people spend most of their time on but
176. 6:32they're only two of the 12 most
177. 6:34important areas of your life
178. 6:36in order to create a truly extraordinary
179. 6:39life for yourself you've got to take
180. 6:40your entire life into consideration not
181. 6:43just one or two parts of it
182. 6:45nothing can be left out or left behind
183. 6:48or left to chance
184. 6:50your life is yours it's unique to you
185. 6:54and the answers you need to create an
186. 6:56extraordinary life for yourself are
187. 6:58inside of you just waiting for you to
188. 7:00uncover them no one is going to hand
189. 7:03them to you because no one knows the
190. 7:05secret combination to your safe and
191. 7:07that's because we're all different we
192. 7:09all have different talents different
193. 7:11wants needs and desires and the road to
194. 7:14the fulfillment of those desires is
195. 7:15going to be unique to every single one
196. 7:18of us
197. 7:19the secret to your extraordinary life
198. 7:21will never come from a guru it's not
199. 7:23going to come from a teacher or a book
200. 7:26if you ever discover it it will come
201. 7:28from inside of you
202. 7:30you could actually begin doing that
203. 7:32today by writing your very own life book
204. 7:35because the life book system empowers
205. 7:37you to envision
206. 7:39plan
207. 7:40and then achieve the life that you truly
208. 7:42want to live just like we did
209. 7:45you can look at it kind of like a
210. 7:46business plan for your entire life
211. 7:49lifebook is a deeply personal journey
212. 7:51that helps you discover who you are now
213. 7:53the kind of person you want to become
214. 7:55and the kind of life you want to live it
215. 7:57helps you get clear on your own personal
216. 8:00values which is a really rare thing
217. 8:02these days
218. 8:03you'll examine your beliefs your desires
219. 8:05your dreams in 12 different areas of
220. 8:07your life and you'll capture and
221. 8:09organize everything that matters to you
222. 8:11in the pages of your very own life
223. 8:14and the thinking that you do during the
224. 8:16course of this program will change your
225. 8:18life forever just like it changed ours
226. 8:21so ask yourself
227. 8:22are you ready to become the author of
228. 8:25your very best life
229. 8:32[Music]
230. 8:43thanks so much for watching and if you
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232. 8:46and if you're at home right now with an
233. 8:48hour or so to spare be sure and check
234. 8:50out our master class the link is in the
235. 8:52description below we'll see you there