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0:00if you have clicked on this video
0:01thinking that you have it so hard and
0:02everyone's being mean to you you're
0:04surrounded by toxic people I can't
0:05believe other people are hating on me I
0:06can't believe that person commented that
0:08on my social media post honestly get
0:10over yourself and that is what I am here
0:12to help you to do after you watch this
0:14video you're about to walk away from it
0:16as a completely different person because
0:18all of the facts I am about to tell you
0:21will reprogram your mind and we are
0:23about to leverage and boost your
0:25confidence like never before so brace
0:27yourself because we're about to get into
0:29it chapter one one the lifestyle of a
0:31person who doesn't give a we need to get
0:33your day-to-day routine down because
0:35there is a very significant difference
0:37from your average everyday person who
0:39gets so butt hurt about everybody else's
0:41opinions to the person who flows through
0:44life focused on themselves their success
0:47and honestly everybody else is just
0:48background noise the first thing about a
0:50person who lives and breathes that I
0:52don't give a [ __ ] mentality is that they
0:55have mastered Detachment and they will
0:57be the first to cut off anyone who was
1:00misaligned to their dream life a lot of
1:02the time your biggest haters are the
1:04people in your very own Circle because
1:06the people you grew up with are pained
1:09by the fact that you got further than
1:10them when you both started from the same
1:12place in life your success is like a
1:14massive neon sign spelling out their
1:16inferiority and laziness to them these
1:19people watched you on your journey to
1:21the top and cheered you on every step of
1:23the way assuming that you guys were the
1:25same but now your growth makes them feel
1:27insecure and yet you still keep these
1:29people in your life you are too busy
1:31prioritizing history over sincerity see
1:34a person with I don't give a mentality
1:36recognizes that they're leveling up
1:37they're moving up in the world and so
1:39the first sign they see of a Sly comment
1:42or a backhanded compliment you're out
1:44you're done because they're not about to
1:46sabotage their own vibrations for the
1:47purpose of just being nice when the only
1:50attachment you have is the one to
1:52yourself no one else can get to you it's
1:54this backwards mindset of thinking I
1:56need that person in my life I need that
1:57group of friends which allows you to get
1:59hurt by all of their opinions and bad
2:02words when you don't care and you can
2:04cut them off from the first sign of
2:05toxicity you're living your best life
2:07two this person's priority every single
2:10day from the second they wake up is how
2:13can I be 1% better than I was yesterday
2:15for myself and if they encounter anyone
2:18throughout their day who seems to have a
2:19problem with that they don't care
2:21they're in Phase why because they're too
2:23focused on pursuing that goal they set
2:25themselves that morning they have
2:27shifted their attention to
2:28self-actualization
2:30instead of external validation meaning
2:33when you go from I hope they like me to
2:36I hope I like me and who I'm becoming
2:39there is so much power in that and they
2:42live like that every single day three
2:43they live a life where they are their
2:45own best friend of course they have
2:47other loved ones and other friends that
2:49they can go to but they are their number
2:51one companion the people who are so
2:53concerned with trying to get a bigger
2:55group of friends trying to get anybody
2:56to like them to be popular to give off
2:59the right impression
3:00are at the mercy of strangers for the
3:02rest of their lives when you know you
3:04have all of the love connection and
3:06support you'll ever need all within
3:08yourself you'll never be powerless again
3:11trying to Wing your friends back or
3:12tolerate disrespect just to have someone
3:15in your life because you always got you
3:17four they think about how they can outdo
3:20the rest rather than fitting in the
3:22people who care about what everybody
3:24else has to say about them they just
3:26want to fit in they want to be normal
3:27they want to feel accepted in society
3:30the person who doesn't give a [ __ ] they
3:31are so thankful that they're not normal
3:33because they don't want a normal life so
3:36why should they fit in with 99% of
3:37people they know when you're on to a
3:39higher path in life when you're
3:40outgrowing everyone else when you're
3:42thinking outside of the majority so that
3:44you can get to a better place in life
3:4699% of people of course are not going to
3:49like you because they don't get it
3:50they're not living that same lifestyle
3:52they'll never understand why you do what
3:54you do and this person has made peace
3:56with that so they've fallen in love with
3:57the fact that they don't fit in and so
3:59then everying single day their lifestyle
4:00becomes how can I push myself further
4:02today how can I embrace the fact that
4:04I'm unique and I'm rare by going the
4:06extra mile which most other people
4:09wouldn't do just to aggravate my haters
4:11just a little bit more step four is that
4:13they are always busy this doesn't mean
4:15that overworking themselves this means
4:17that their days are full of fulfillment
4:20AKA you need to get a mother hobby
4:23because sitting Idol is the worst thing
4:25you can do when you have all of this
4:27free time on your hands of course your
4:29mind is going to going to wonder of
4:30course it's going to be like oh my god
4:32did that person actually like me at the
4:33event last night what if they thought
4:34about this what if they noticed that
4:36embarrassing thing they I
4:38did whereas when you fill your life with
4:41things that you love when you're working
4:42towards your purpose the kind of life
4:44that you want your brain doesn't even
4:46have the time to process those
4:47irrational thoughts to overthink about
4:49what everyone else thinks about you when
4:51you receive a negative comment online
4:53you're like whatever on to the next one
4:55I've actually got things to do let me
4:56put my phone down and this links into
4:58the last point you need a passion or a
5:00purpose I'm going to use myself as an
5:02example since I am an honorary member of
5:04the I don't give a community my passion
5:07and purpose is helping other people and
5:09creating YouTube videos I have a love
5:12for editing videos I have for the last
5:13decade I've tied that in with my purpose
5:16to help young women everywhere to become
5:19their best selves to get into
5:20self-development to set higher standards
5:22for themselves to show them the lessons
5:24that took me so many years to learn so
5:25that they can get further along in their
5:27Journey I'm always thinking what else
5:29can I do how can I improve what other
5:31resources can I put out there what
5:32advice can I give in my next video I'm
5:34constantly thinking I get a lot of hate
5:37on social media and you will never catch
5:38me talking about it because I don't care
5:40you know why because when you are so
5:42busy like I am thinking about your
5:44passion thinking about how you're going
5:45to improve what you're going to put
5:46towards your next project how excited
5:48you are for your next day what everybody
5:50else has to say is simply background
5:51noise it doesn't even have the capacity
5:54to take up 1% of your thinking power
5:56because all of it is so committed to the
5:59life you you have created that you are
6:01so in love with a person who doesn't
6:03give an f knows how to prioritize they
6:05know what they should be committing
6:06their time to so they're going to take
6:07the time to put in the work to create
6:09their dream life to start up a new hobby
6:11to spend more time with their loved ones
6:12to expand their Network whatever they
6:14need to do and I am so excited to
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6:19implement this into your life go onto
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6:24courses they have thousands of courses
6:26for every single need you could ever
6:29think of and then start it and the
6:31reason this works is when you do
6:32something like taking a course and you
6:34commit even 2 hours a week to doing it
6:37this basically improves your sense of
6:39accomplishment within yourself which
6:41will then increase your confidence and
6:43most importantly it adds to your
6:45portfolio of proof basically what this
6:47means is when you constantly go out and
6:49try new things pick up a hobby learn a
6:51new skill push yourself outside of your
6:54comfort zone you are building this
6:55portfolio within you of experience that
6:58means whenever somebody tries to
7:00discredit you or hate on you or you're
7:02too nervous to take a step to do
7:04something or you're suffering from
7:05imposter syndrome you're like hold up a
7:08minute actually I can recall several
7:11instances where I thought I couldn't do
7:14something and then I very well went and
7:16did it and skill share is going to help
7:17you do this from the comfort of your own
7:19home for me personally I always knew
7:21YouTube was my dream and so I
7:22prioritized that because I knew when I
7:24lived my dream life I wouldn't care
7:26about what anybody else had to say so I
7:27took the YouTube for beginners course by
7:29Ali abdal on skillshare and this boosted
7:31my confidence like crazy it got me so
7:34obsessed with this dream most
7:35importantly it made sure I always had
7:37something to do so I wasn't just sitting
7:39around idle reading through everybody's
7:41comments skillshare classes are so great
7:43because they're led by industry Pros who
7:45have already had that experience right
7:47they've walked the walk it's also led by
7:48an active community of members who are
7:50ready to cheer you on on your new
7:52journey and to help you on this journey
7:54I have a special treat for you the first
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8:02free chapter 2 mindset shifts the reason
8:05that you are so affected about the
8:06negativity that others are pouring onto
8:08you is because you are coming from a
8:10place of lack and I'm going to tell you
8:12a few facts right now in this chapter
8:14that you can replace those lacking
8:15Thoughts with so that you are never
8:17bothered by the hate ever again Fact one
8:20being hated on is a privilege all that
8:23being hated on actually means is that
8:25you are extremely relevant you are so
8:28relevant that that person is taking the
8:30time out of their day to think about you
8:32rather than themselves rather than
8:34focusing on trying to be the best
8:36version of them think about it you would
8:38not take out the time out of your day to
8:40think about what somebody else is doing
8:41whether what they're doing is right or
8:43wrong because we are high value women
8:45out here okay we are trying to fulfill
8:46our full potential we're trying to make
8:48ourselves proud only the most insecure
8:50people will choose you as their Target
8:52because you threaten them you represent
8:54everything that they could never be and
8:56that shows you that you are actually on
8:58the right path in life if everybody
9:00likes you and got along with you that
9:02means you're not doing enough every
9:03person on this planet with even an ounce
9:05of success has at least one hater and if
9:08you do too then you're doing something
9:10right it means that you're outdoing the
9:11majority like I said before and people
9:13are threatened of that because it
9:15reminds them of their own inferiority
9:17mindset shift number two why are they on
9:20the pedestal you have put all of your
9:22haters your enemies the toxic people in
9:24your life above you you think I'm wrong
9:26right but you have because why do these
9:28people's opions outweigh your own if you
9:31were on the pedestal if you valued
9:33yourself above your haters then you
9:35could just reassure yourself you you
9:37would read these hate comments and you
9:38be like well that's not true right and I
9:40I know my intention and I know I'm great
9:42and I know the value I bring and that's
9:44it end of story you move on you go about
9:46your day but all of these negative
9:48comments that these people are making to
9:49you they're staying in your mind because
9:51you're giving them that level of
9:53importance you are giving their words
9:55more value than your own three people
9:58will use
10:00one sentence they heard you say a few
10:02interactions they've had with you a 7c
10:05clip of you online and they will then
10:08generalize that to your entire
10:10personality is that not just the most
10:13inaccurate thing ever if I was watching
10:16my video in the body of another person
10:18and somebody told me those 7 Seconds
10:19represented my entire personality hell I
10:22would hate me too and when you think
10:23about it like that it takes all of the
10:25validity out of that argument like you
10:27have to take a step back and think
10:29bro what are you actually talking about
10:32it's like when you're in school and
10:33everyone's like oh my god did you see
10:35that she did this or like I heard that
10:36they said that okay and okay and but do
10:39you know all the facts do you know the
10:41journey they've been on in life that
10:42made them make that choice because if
10:43you did then maybe you would understand
10:45why they did it but you don't and you
10:47don't care about understanding it you
10:48want to take one controversial thing a
10:50person has said and make assumptions
10:51about the kind of person they are all
10:53about that one tiny minuscule thing four
10:56judgment is a game of the miserable
10:59trust me when I say these people's lives
11:02are so sad you couldn't even conjure up
11:06the image okay your reality is so far
11:08from that and that's why they're hating
11:10on you a lot of people love to argue
11:12with this fact by saying oh yeah but my
11:13bully is really pretty or she comes from
11:15a rich family or they have so doesn't
11:18matter does not matter what somebody has
11:21all that matters is how they feel about
11:22it so somebody could be the prettiest
11:25person on the planet but if they haven't
11:27worked on their self-perception and
11:28their selft talk and they actually
11:29deeply insecure all they'll ever see in
11:31the mirror is somebody who's ugly even
11:33though that's so far from what they
11:34actually are and if they feel ugly all
11:37the time that is their reality that
11:38person might have success they might
11:40have a lot of money but inside they feel
11:42worthless they feel like a loser they
11:43don't feel successful and this is why
11:46people say you will never meet a hater
11:48that's doing better than you even if you
11:50look at them and it seems like they have
11:51a lot these people are so consumed by
11:54their self-hatred that they are trying
11:56to shift the focus on you to try and
11:58feel bad better about themselves they
12:00will pick anyone that they think has the
12:02slightest flaw and then shed so much
12:05light on it to try and distract
12:06everybody else from their biggest flaws
12:08you need to make it an automatic thought
12:10that as soon as somebody says anything
12:12negative to you or is trying to bring
12:13you down automatic loser miserable
12:16you're sad happy people don't hate
12:18that's that's just a fact of life like
12:20there's no other way to explain it five
12:22normaly is overrated you're telling me
12:25you really want to fit in with all of
12:28these losers you really feel inadequate
12:31because that person over there
12:32disapproves of you thank God they
12:36disapprove of you because if you loved
12:38my every move and you completely aligned
12:40with all of the choices I make then I am
12:42clearly doing something wrong because I
12:43don't want to be anything like you stop
12:45trying to be normal you have so much
12:47more potential than that and you are
12:49doing yourself a massive disservice
12:51trying to appeal to the masses when you
12:53don't even want a life like them six as
12:56the great Blair Waldorf once said have
12:59fun playing with yourself aka the best
13:03response to a hater is no response
13:05because one thing we're not about to do
13:07is allow Our Haters to have access to
13:09our energy and that is what happens when
13:10you get angry you try to react you try
13:13to give them a comeback and defend
13:14yourself what is the point they are
13:17already such a shell of a human being
13:18that they are spewing all of this hatred
13:20at you rather than just communicating
13:21with you like a normal person and now
13:23you want to spend your precious time and
13:25energy lowering your vibration to meet
13:27them at their level for what please are
13:29they really going to understand there's
13:31no point seven people can only see the
13:34reality that they have experienced think
13:37about it this way when you hear somebody
13:39saying something negative about
13:40celebrity that of course they've never
13:41met they've never had any experience
13:43with they obviously have extremely
13:44little knowledge of because that person
13:47is inaccessible you have to take a step
13:49back and think I wonder why this person
13:51is making all of these assumptions about
13:53a person that they don't even know it
13:54makes no sense there's no knowledge or
13:56facts to back up that narrative and yet
13:58that's what they told themselves because
14:00that is their mindset that is the only
14:02possible explanation they could give to
14:04themselves as to why that person has
14:06done that and when you realize all of
14:07these assumptions and perceptions that
14:09these haters have of you is actually
14:11just a projection of the reality and the
14:13inner thoughts they have then you can
14:16remember that every judgment is actually
14:19a confession this links on to eight
14:21people only perceive you in a way that
14:23suits them that's it haters aren't out
14:25here concerned about doing you justice
14:27making sure they have the full facts
14:29they need you to fit the story that
14:32they've already told themselves about
14:33you so that they can protect that ego
14:36for example if you're attractive smart
14:38successful confident have good energy
14:40other people like you they then have to
14:42create a narrative to distract
14:43themselves from the jealousy that
14:44they're feeling towards you so then all
14:47of those traits you possess become yeah
14:49but she wears too much makeup but she's
14:51so full of herself but I bet she's so
14:53Too Faced and I feel like you can really
14:55see that when people try to call you
14:56cringe right you're starting a YouTube
14:58channel you're starting social media and
15:00you're so concerned about what other
15:01people are going to say about you so
15:02what if they call you cringe you do
15:04realize them calling you cringe is just
15:06the most clear illustration of their
15:08fear of being perceived so they can't
15:11begin to comprehend how you could step
15:13outside of your comfort zone put
15:14yourself out there to be vulnerable and
15:16to be perceived by everyone when they
15:18would never do that of course it's
15:19cringe to them they're too scared to do
15:21that whereas if you were looking at an
15:22actual successful accomplished happy
15:24person they wouldn't have anything to
15:25say a YouTuber with a million
15:27subscribers is never going to put you
15:28down for starting a YouTube channel or
15:30or having bad videos they know it's part
15:31of the journey they know you're going to
15:32get there in the end they know they did
15:34it once too and they overcame it it's
15:35always the people who are doing the
15:37least that have the most to say nine
15:40it's literally never personal stay with
15:44me here cuz this is about to get
15:45interesting everyone always says about
15:48haters right it's just cuz they're
15:50jealous of you it's just because um you
15:52make them feel badly about themselves
15:54because they're just so insecure right
15:55but I used to get to a point in my life
15:57where I thought what if they're not
15:58insecure why what if like what if they
16:00just don't like me and what if what I'm
16:01doing is actually really
16:03bad do you want proof of the fact that
16:07it really is never personal and they
16:09really just are insecure and intimidated
16:11by you let me let me prove this real
16:13real quick I'm going to go get the
16:15proof okay I'm back and you guys are
16:18going to love this right so I got my
16:19phone because today I posted a video it
16:22was just a cute little aesthetic video
16:24of me trying out this new pink lemonade
16:26drink and somebody commented under the
16:28video saying oh my God you're so
16:30inauthentic when you post these ads how
16:33are you drinking this lemonade when you
16:35normally always drink green tea lates
16:37true I am a match girl through and
16:39throughout but there was a new pink
16:41lemonade drink that I wanted to try so I
16:42tried it and I made a cute video for
16:44once I decide you know what let me just
16:45reply to the comment so I reply and I
16:47say this isn't an ad that's it okay
16:50after that response the person deletes
16:52the comment of course and then they DM
16:55me okay and this is the DM hey I don't
16:58know if this will get to you but I want
16:59to apologize I commented on YouTube
17:02saying your content was getting
17:03unauthentic for a drink your videos
17:06helped me so much to be honest and I
17:08followed you for quite some time but the
17:10hater in me came out seeing you excel at
17:13your life and doing so well while I am
17:16just taking baby
17:18steps of course it's for me to fix I am
17:21just sorry I poured my negative energy
17:22on you for no
17:24reason you see guys it's true they're
17:27just insecure and intim dated by you now
17:30that is what I like to call an advanced
17:32hater they have clearly been watching my
17:34videos because listen girl if you're
17:36watching this I applaud you for the
17:38self-awareness like what kind of hater
17:40then slides into your DM and apologizes
17:42and he's like actually maybe I need to
17:43work on myself a little bit honestly no
17:45hate to the person that even sent me
17:47that message like I'm glad that you
17:48recognize why you went wrong and now
17:50you're going to work on it and like
17:51become a more confident person kudos to
17:53you but I purely showed that message for
17:55proof that guys it really is just never
17:57about you 10 you are simply a moment in
18:01each other's lives stop making hating
18:03into this entire thing that defines you
18:06or is going to determine the trajectory
18:08of your life and therefore then you need
18:10to change the way you act or dress or
18:12post L on social media to avoid it that
18:14hate is a temporary Moment In Time
18:16whether it's for a minute a day or a
18:18year you both are meant to experience
18:20each other for that moment to share
18:23lessons you have been placed in their
18:25timeline so that they can come face to
18:26face with their own Darkness just like
18:28the example I just gave right and they
18:30have been placed in your timeline to
18:32teach you about effn Detachment guys
18:34like why do you care I feel so grateful
18:37for all the experiences I had with
18:39bullies and just mean girls at such an
18:41early age because that's what got me to
18:43my confidence level now every single
18:45time you experience an adversity it's
18:47actually a gift waiting to unlock a part
18:50of you that's just going to make you
18:51stronger it's no longer oh my God what
18:54did I do to deserve this this is so
18:56unfair it's this is trying to teach me
18:57something what is it why am I affected
18:59by this how can I become more confident
19:01in this 11 this links on to compassion
19:04and empathy you need to have compassion
19:06for your hater I know I know don't turn
19:08away okay I have a point you need to
19:09stop seeing this person as so mean and
19:12evil and toxic and blah blah blah blah
19:14blah when you let go of that narrative
19:16you're telling yourself about them and
19:18instead you think this is obviously
19:20someone who is hurt unhealed insecure
19:24and has had a difficult past that they
19:25clearly do not have the courage or
19:27strength to come back from right now
19:29yeah when you start thinking that
19:30instead then all of that anger sadness
19:33and pain that you used to feel from hate
19:35turns into pity you never know what
19:37another person is going through even if
19:38how they're treating you is unfairly you
19:41don't know how dark their life is behind
19:43closed doors you don't have to say
19:45anything to them you don't have to
19:46forgive them you don't even have to be
19:47nice to them I'm saying just remain
19:50silent so when you shift your energy
19:52from hurt and anger and sadness to man I
19:56really hope that they get through
19:57whatever their struggles that's causing
19:59them to act in this way you not only
20:01then protect your peace but you become
20:02unfazed because you finally start seeing
20:04people for who they are rather than
20:07believing all of the Warped opinions
20:09they're throwing at you and finally are
20:11you really going to let them disrupt
20:14your piece like that wow you're
20:17literally giving away your energy to
20:19your hater and allowing them to
20:22penetrate your life why because you let
20:25yourself get triggered you need to
20:26remember that other people need your
20:28permission to make you feel badly about
20:30yourself you sit there all day thinking
20:32about how hard your life is and how much
20:34you didn't deserve that and how much it
20:35hurts you're letting yourself get
20:37triggered and that is what is actually
20:39embarrassing and now you're going to
20:40feel badly about yourself because I said
20:42that's embarrassing and you haven't
20:43stopped caring about what other people
20:44say about you I don't even know you I'm
20:46talking to you through a screen right
20:47now and finally chapter number three
20:50master your confidence one why does that
20:53opinion even matter or hold any weight
20:56if you've stopped yourself from doing
20:57something in fear that your locals will
20:59find out or kids from your school like
21:01what if they say something what if they
21:02start laughing about it okay and a
21:04confident person doesn't give other
21:06people's opinions such value because
21:09since when did what a stranger has to
21:10say become more important than my own
21:12opinion think about it a confident
21:13person is so obsessed with themselves
21:15and hold themselves in such high regard
21:17I'm sorry like who even are you for me
21:19to care whether you're laughing at me or
21:21not two a confident person never feels
21:23the need to compete or be better than
21:26anybody else confident people are very
21:27at peace with them eles right and when
21:29you're at peace with yourself and
21:30confident with yourself you're not
21:31trying to compete in this race to get as
21:33much external validation as you can and
21:35to place yourself on pedestals above
21:37everybody else you like yourself it's
21:39cool you're chilling and that means when
21:40somebody comes into your life and
21:41they're trying to threaten your
21:42reputation or throw dirt on your name or
21:45your character it doesn't matter okay
21:47and okay so you don't think I'm that
21:48great that's cool like you're at peace
21:50with yourself you're not trying to
21:52impress others you're not trying to try
21:53and meet others at the same level they
21:55are you already know you're there three
21:57confidence and self love go hand in hand
21:59when you're so in love with yourself you
22:02wouldn't even spend a second trying to
22:04pick a floor out in another person you
22:06are so concerned with everything great
22:08in your life and everything you have to
22:10be grateful for and how much you love
22:12yourself and who you've become and who
22:14you're growing to be you can't even see
22:16flaws in other people because you have
22:17such a positive view of life so clearly
22:19all of these people with bad things to
22:21say already experienced a lot of that in
22:22their life because how is that all
22:24they're seeing four real confidence
22:27comes from within using your clothes
22:29locks money success belongings as a
22:33crutch to feel more confident when
22:35you're starting out is okay but if you
22:36get too attached to that and you start
22:39placing this feeling of confidence on
22:40all of these external things the second
22:42they get taken away all of your
22:44self-esteem goes with it meaning if a
22:45hater starts tearing apart your outfit
22:47or saying that you're ugly all of a
22:49sudden you're not confident anymore and
22:50you feel badly about yourself why why is
22:53your confidence going hand inand with
22:56something as silly as appearances
22:58instead when you base your confidence on
23:00who you are in here no one can get to
23:02that I'm confident because I know who I
23:05am at my core I understand myself to a
23:08level that no one else ever will you
23:09know why because I've held my hand
23:12through every single second of my life
23:14since I was born no one can come close
23:17to that experience of me not even my
23:20parents my siblings my childhood best
23:21friend no one so when someone says
23:23something badly about me I'm going to
23:24check in with myself and think hm is
23:26that actually like constructive
23:27criticism that I can work on no is that
23:29completely false yes how do I know that
23:31because I know who I am I know what my
23:33values are I know what I stand for so
23:35you can make fun of my outfit you can
23:37call me cringey for my videos you can
23:38say that I'm ugly doesn't matter I'm
23:41always going to be confident regardless
23:44and the final fact for this video I am
23:47not going to sit here and tell you all
23:49of your haters are really your fans I
23:51don't believe in that you are feeding
23:52yourself a big fat lie when you tell
23:54yourself everyone just simply adores you
23:56and is obsessed with you it's not true
23:58okay okay some people aren't going to
23:59get along with you some people are going
24:01to dislike you okay you're going to get
24:02on their nerves and guess what that is
24:04completely normal and a part of a
24:07healthy fully functioning life cuz
24:10here's the thing do you like everyone no
24:13should you like everyone absolutely the
24:17not none of us are supposed to align
24:19with every single person we come into
24:20contact with in this life the reason
24:22that we're only supposed to align with
24:24some people and only get along with a
24:26small handful of people is because
24:28those people are supposed to be in our
24:30lives so that we can follow the correct
24:32life path to get to where we need to be
24:34so when you don't get along with someone
24:36or you get a bad feeling about them
24:37there's just something you don't like
24:38about them it doesn't mean they're a bad
24:39person it doesn't mean they need to
24:41change themselves it's a sign from the
24:42universe they're not meant for you
24:44you're not meant to go down that path
24:45most importantly you two are not meant
24:47to be in each other's lives so truly
24:49it's a blessing to be disliked and to
24:51dislike others a lot of haters are
24:53actually so self- involved that when you
24:55don't align with their inner world and
24:57how they think things should be they
24:58feel entitled to rip you apart you
25:01become a direct trigger to people's
25:03trauma and that is a normal part of life
25:05you were just further along in your
25:06growth Journey that you know when you
25:07don't want to talk to a particular
25:09person is cool and you keep it moving
25:11you don't feel entitled to change
25:12someone's beliefs or make them fit into
25:14your life otherwise I'm going to tear
25:15them apart which is what a hater would
25:17do therefore when you normalize the
25:19concept of being disliked it's actually
25:22the most freeing feeling and you can go
25:24about every single day not worrying
25:26about the impression you give because
25:27the people that are are meant for you
25:28will always find you and the people that
25:30aren't will very clearly tell on
25:32themselves from the way they're speaking
25:33about you or treating you and that
25:35brings us to the end of this video I
25:36hope you guys loved it and injected all
25:38of this energy and confidence into you
25:40please comment down below let me know
25:42which chapter or fact was your favorite
25:43I would love to know don't forget that
25:45my podcast all of my socials and my
25:47second YouTube channel is linked in the
25:48description so I'd love that we could
25:50connect and get closer thank you so much
25:52for watching I appreciate you and I will
25:54see you in the next one peace
25:57[Music]
26:02me
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