How to Build a Distraction Free Life and Get Your Time Back — Transcript

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1. 0:00There was a time when I genuinely
2. 0:02believed I had a time problem. Too much
3. 0:04work, too many messages, too many things
4. 0:08to finish, too many people needing
5. 0:11something or the other from me all the
6. 0:13time. But slowly, I realized something
7. 0:15uncomfortable. I did not have a time
8. 0:17problem. I had an attention problem. My
9. 0:20day was actually what was happening was
10. 0:22leaking through tiny tracks.
11. 0:25And this is exactly what I'm going to
12. 0:27talk about with you today and I will
13. 0:29solve a massive problem for you. I know
14. 0:32a lot many of us are going through this
15. 0:34thing. We feel the day's too short,
16. 0:37there's too much to do, not much is
17. 0:38getting done every day. And almost every
18. 0:41single day ends up being a regret for
19. 0:44us. Believe me, I've been through those
20. 0:47days. I have overcome that problem and
21. 0:50today I can actually say that honest to
22. 0:53God, hand on my heart, I genuinely mean
23. 0:56it that most of the days I sleep with
24. 1:00great peace, relaxation in my mind that
25. 1:03I've done enough during the day and I
26. 1:05deserve a very good night's sleep. And
27. 1:08I'm sleeping 7 to 8 hours every single
28. 1:12night, which I really don't want to
29. 1:13jinx. It's such a blessing. There was
30. 1:16this small phase where I had sort of
31. 1:18disturbed my rhythm of sleep because I
32. 1:21was traveling and then there was some
33. 1:23time where there was a period of time
34. 1:25where I was getting up at 4:00 a.m. in
35. 1:27the morning. That went on for about a
36. 1:29month or so and because of which my
37. 1:31rhythm was completely off track. And
38. 1:34then I started to believe then I was
39. 1:36traveling after that. Again, I was
40. 1:37getting up about 4:00 a.m. of India for
41. 1:40many days. And I started when I got back
42. 1:42to India, I started to think that
43. 1:45something is really wrong with me and I
44. 1:46will never be able to sleep again
45. 1:48properly
46. 1:49all throughout the night. I've lost it.
47. 1:51That's what I was I was so tense. I made
48. 1:54so many changes in my day. I stopped
49. 1:57working for a few days. I said, "No, I
50. 1:59need to reclaim my sleep." I put some
51. 2:02new curtains. I bought them from IKEA.
52. 2:05Those dark What do you call it? Blackout
53. 2:06curtains. I put those on my doors and
54. 2:08windows. I covered everything up. I was
55. 2:11going crazy. The light in my washroom
56. 2:14that
57. 2:15is attached to the room where we sleep,
58. 2:17that light we changed that light. There
59. 2:20are so many massive steps I took just to
60. 2:22reclaim my sleep back. Eventually, I did
61. 2:25get it back. So, anything that you put
62. 2:28your mind and heart into, you can
63. 2:30actually get to it. You can actually
64. 2:33receive it, that blessing in your life.
65. 2:35So, this video is about me helping you
66. 2:38with you reclaiming your time.
67. 2:40Believe me, I am a good person to talk
68. 2:42about it because I accomplish a lot
69. 2:46during a day. Most of my days are
70. 2:48productive and not just
71. 2:51in a fancy way where you call
72. 2:52productivity to be 6 and 7 hours of deep
73. 2:56work. Impossible. 7 hours of deep work
74. 2:58cannot happen in a day is what I
75. 3:00believe, okay? Even if you are
76. 3:03extracting 2 to 3 hours of deep work and
77. 3:062 to 3 hours of not-so-deep work, your
78. 3:09day is really productive. A random
79. 3:11scroll here, an unnecessary call there,
80. 3:1410 minutes lost to deciding what to eat,
81. 3:1620 minutes lost to opening the phone for
82. 3:18just one thing, and suddenly the day was
83. 3:21over. But, the important work was still
84. 3:23sitting there looking at me quietly, and
85. 3:25this is how things were sometime ago.
86. 3:29And this is when I understood something.
87. 3:31Time is not only managed in hours. Time
88. 3:34is managed in choices that you make. So,
89. 3:37over the last few months, I've built a
90. 3:39few systems that help me reclaim my
91. 3:41time. Not in a harsh, robotic way. Not
92. 3:44by becoming someone who wakes up at 4:00
93. 3:47every every day, 4:00 a.m. in the
94. 3:48morning, and treats like life is a
95. 3:50military camp. No, not like that. But in
96. 3:53a calm, deliberate, graceful way.
97. 3:55Because discipline, when done right,
98. 3:58should not make your life feel smaller.
99. 4:00It should make your life feel more
100. 4:02spacious. As if you have more, you can
101. 4:05accomplish more, you feel more
102. 4:07satisfied. Okay, this is important. All
103. 4:09right, pay attention. The first thing
104. 4:11that I do every day is really simple. I
105. 4:13plan two things. What I will eat and
106. 4:16what I will accomplish. Now, they may
107. 4:19sound small, but they are not actually.
108. 4:21When I will get to the bits and pieces
109. 4:23of it, you will know how important these
110. 4:25two things are. And this is it, okay? I
111. 4:27know it sounds almost too basic, but
112. 4:29this is one habit that has saved me from
113. 4:32so much mental clutter. Every morning, I
114. 4:35mentally make notes of what food I will
115. 4:37intake during the day. Not because I
116. 4:39want to obsess over food, but because I
117. 4:42do not want to negotiate with myself
118. 4:45every two hours. I felt it in the days
119. 4:49when I fast. My thoughts are not
120. 4:51drifting towards food every two minutes,
121. 4:53okay? It's like I have a big chunk of 8
122. 4:56to 10 hours I have nothing to eat. It's
123. 4:59all relaxed, do whatever you want. Do
124. 5:01you want to rest? Rest. You want to
125. 5:03work? Work. You want to talk on the
126. 5:05phone? Talk on the phone. Everything can
127. 5:07be done without any distraction because
128. 5:09you don't have to eat. That is where I
129. 5:12feel that when you don't eat, it could
130. 5:14be a proper religious way of fasting or
131. 5:17any other way, but you have more control
132. 5:19over your time, you have more control
133. 5:21over your thoughts. You feel more in
134. 5:23control overall. I mean, very personal.
135. 5:26You may not agree with me, but this is
136. 5:28how I feel. So, what I do is I have my
137. 5:31snacks always ready, okay? What do I
138. 5:33mean by that?
139. 5:35It's really simple. I have a few things
140. 5:37that I eat every day. I'll name a few to
141. 5:40you. I have paneer every day. I have a
142. 5:42protein powder. I don't take a lot of
143. 5:44it, very small quantity, just 15 g, but
144. 5:47I do take it because I have to complete
145. 5:50my protein requirement for the day and
146. 5:51it's hard to get it, you know. Then I
147. 5:54have pumpkin seeds every day. Like a
148. 5:57snack, I take it as a snack. It really
149. 5:58fills my stomach and gives me 3 hours of
150. 6:01no distraction of hunger at all. And
151. 6:04then there are other few things, okay?
152. 6:06So, what should I eat? Should I order
153. 6:08something? Maybe I'll have this. No,
154. 6:11maybe I will have that. All these
155. 6:12thoughts. Before you know it, your brain
156. 6:15has spent premium energy on a very
157. 6:17ordinary decision. The second thing I
158. 6:19plan is my work. I choose one major task
159. 6:21and two minor tasks for the day. My
160. 6:23to-do list is a bunch of tasks that can
161. 6:25be done in several days, not just that
162. 6:29very day. Now, this is something I do
163. 6:31maybe slightly different from the rest
164. 6:33of the people because I feel most people
165. 6:36have their to-do list for the day, but
166. 6:38in my case, my to-do list is sort of
167. 6:40weekly, okay? Not really daily because I
168. 6:45list down everything that I have to
169. 6:46accomplish, every single thing. And
170. 6:49whatever is on my mind. And then I allow
171. 6:51myself space. I hate hurting myself with
172. 6:54little expectations of myself. I've come
173. 6:56to embrace my speed. So, my speed is not
174. 6:59too high, but it's decent and I've come
175. 7:01to embrace it. I might have 20 things on
176. 7:04the list, but I don't have to do all
177. 7:05those 20 in a day, okay? And most of the
178. 7:08times they're not 20 things. It's not a
179. 7:10glamorous, overambitious to-do list that
180. 7:13looks productive, but silently sets me
181. 7:16up for failure. It's not that kind of a
182. 7:18to-do list that I follow. And by the
183. 7:21way, I cannot function without to-do
184. 7:22list at all. It's like a mandatory for
185. 7:25me. It's a mandatory thing. One major
186. 7:27task and two minor tasks. That's what I
187. 7:29do. You may have your own way of dealing
188. 7:31with it. The major task is the thing
189. 7:32that truly moves my life or work
190. 7:35forward. Minor tasks are useful, but
191. 7:37they are lighter. This keeps my day
192. 7:39focused without making it suffocating.
193. 7:41I'll give you a little example. My major
194. 7:43task could be I publish about six to
195. 7:46seven long videos in a month and
196. 7:48scripting part takes me the longest.
197. 7:51Recording part is still smaller, but
198. 7:53scripting takes a lot of my time. So,
199. 7:56when I say one major task, it could be
200. 7:59writing one long video script. And yes,
201. 8:02I do proper planning, I do proper
202. 8:04research and everything before I put a
203. 8:06video out to you. Then a minor task
204. 8:08could be maybe, you know, making a
205. 8:10couple of phone calls that are work
206. 8:12related, maybe some follow-up that is
207. 8:14due. So, two minor task of that nature
208. 8:17and one major task of this nature which
209. 8:18moves my life forward, which moves my
210. 8:21work forward. And what I do is I write
211. 8:23all of this in a physical journal, not
212. 8:26digital notes. There is something deeply
213. 8:28grounding about paper. A notebook does
214. 8:30not seduce you with notifications. And
215. 8:33by the way, seduce does have one more
216. 8:34meaning, okay? Go check it up. It does
217. 8:37not suddenly show you a reel, an email,
218. 8:39a discount code, or someone's vacation
219. 8:42picture, none of that when you're
220. 8:44writing in paper. Paper is quiet and in
221. 8:47a world that is constantly shouting,
222. 8:49quiet things have become luxurious. When
223. 8:52I write by hand, my thoughts slow down,
224. 8:54my intentions become visible to me, my
225. 8:57day starts to feel less like a blur and
226. 8:59more like a design. Okay, yeah. A
227. 9:02digital note is convenient, of course it
228. 9:04is, but a journal feels more like a
229. 9:06commitment and that is why I love
230. 9:08journaling with hand and not just
231. 9:10typing. I want to end point one on this
232. 9:12thought that a planned day is not a
233. 9:15rigid day. It's just a more quiet day.
234. 9:18Okay, it's a quieter day. All right,
235. 9:20moving to point number two. The second
236. 9:22system that changed my relationship with
237. 9:24time is understanding my productivity
238. 9:26windows and this is such an important
239. 9:29point. It's so, so important. Studies on
240. 9:32chronotype show that peak performance
241. 9:35differs by person and time of day. Early
242. 9:38and late chronotypes perform best at
243. 9:41different hours. So, treating all hours
244. 9:43equally is biologically unrealistic. And
245. 9:46just in case you're wondering what a
246. 9:47chronotype is, a chronotype is your
247. 9:50body's natural, genetically programmed
248. 9:53inclination to sleep, wake, and perform
249. 9:56at specific times. Okay? How your body
250. 9:59functions. Earlier I treated all hours
251. 10:02as equal. I thought 10:00 a.m., 2:00
252. 10:05p.m., 7:00 p.m., they all carry the same
253. 10:08energy. But, that is not how humans
254. 10:11work. We are not machines. We have
255. 10:13rhythms. We have high focus windows and
256. 10:16low focus windows. This is where a very
257. 10:19important research lies. It's something
258. 10:21that we need to understand if we want to
259. 10:23reclaim our productivity. There are
260. 10:25hours when the mind is sharp like a
261. 10:27blade, and then there are hours when it
262. 10:29feels wrapped in a blanket. For me, the
263. 10:32time after lunch, for example, is
264. 10:34usually low productivity. I feel drowsy.
265. 10:37My body slows down. My mind does not
266. 10:39want to produce brilliant ideas. And
267. 10:41instead of fighting that feeling, I
268. 10:43don't want to fight it because it's
269. 10:45something that will happen every day. I
270. 10:47don't want to
271. 10:48I don't want to be in a war all the time
272. 10:50with my body. I want to relax. I like my
273. 10:53calm. I'm in my 30s. This is something
274. 10:55I've learned so late, and I don't want
275. 10:57to give it away for anything. I like my
276. 10:59calm. I like the way my body functions.
277. 11:02I like taking from it, and then giving
278. 11:05it back. And this is my way of giving
279. 11:07something back to my body, which is
280. 11:09relaxing and moving according to the
281. 11:11rhythm of my body. I now respect it.
282. 11:13Okay? This is a major shift for me.
283. 11:15Because sometimes productivity is not
284. 11:17about pushing harder. Sometimes
285. 11:19productivity is about placing the right
286. 11:21task in the right hour. My daytime until
287. 11:25around 4:00 p.m. is usually for Grow. I
288. 11:27don't know if you know that, but I make
289. 11:29videos for Grow. Okay? I
290. 11:32If you check the YouTube channel I'm
291. 11:34there Okay? all right and till 4 p.m. is
292. 11:37the time that I have committed to them
293. 11:40during the week not weekends weekdays.
294. 11:42So yes till 4 p.m. I'm committed to them
295. 11:46and I usually do not do anything for my
296. 11:48own work till then but my highest
297. 11:50productivity window is usually evening
298. 11:53around 5 to 8 p.m. That is when my mind
299. 11:55feels more alive. That is when I can
300. 11:58think create write refine and make
301. 12:02better decisions. So instead of wasting
302. 12:04that golden window on scattered work
303. 12:07what I do is I protect it. I do not give
304. 12:10my best mental hours to the world's
305. 12:12smallest demands. What I mean by
306. 12:13smallest demands is you know, maybe
307. 12:16somebody is expecting a call from me.
308. 12:18Maybe I had to do something publish or
309. 12:22send something to someone they're
310. 12:24waiting. Sounds selfish. I know.
311. 12:26But I've got to protect my peace and I'm
312. 12:29watchful of my productivity and that I
313. 12:32think is one of the most important
314. 12:33principles of time management. Do not
315. 12:35spend your finest energy on your least
316. 12:38meaningful work. The calls can wait.
317. 12:41Okay, somebody can wait but your
318. 12:43productivity window is going to run
319. 12:45away. A day has a personality. Once you
320. 12:47understand it you stop forcing it and
321. 12:50you start working with it. Do not spend
322. 12:52your sharpest mind on your smallest task
323. 12:55is what I want to say through this
324. 12:57point. Okay, moving on to point number
325. 12:59three. The third thing I take seriously
326. 13:01is my shut down time. This is something
327. 13:04people often ignore. We talk so much
328. 13:06about how to start the day, how to be
329. 13:08productive, how to wake up early, how to
330. 13:11focus but very few people talk about how
331. 13:14to end the day with dignity. I now care
332. 13:17about the time I shut down. I read it in
333. 13:20a book Atomic Habits. I think that's the
334. 13:22book but I read it in a book. I think it
335. 13:24was Atomic Habits and it talked about
336. 13:27completing your day gracefully, with
337. 13:30dignity. And this point is inspired from
338. 13:32there because I learned it from there.
339. 13:33Now I actually have a shutdown time,
340. 13:36after which, no matter what I've done
341. 13:38through the day, if something good has
342. 13:40come out of the day or not, I shut down
343. 13:42and I'm like I make peace with myself
344. 13:44that okay, I didn't do well today. Okay,
345. 13:46I couldn't do much today. All right, but
346. 13:48this is my shutdown time. I've got to be
347. 13:50loyal to it. I will relax, calm down,
348. 13:52talk to my people, my friends, maybe you
349. 13:56know, scroll through Instagram for some
350. 13:58time. I don't usually scroll a lot. Yes,
351. 14:02I've spoken about it earlier. I don't
352. 14:04hide it. Yes, I don't. Okay, I create
353. 14:06meaningful content and I watch
354. 14:08meaningful content, but there is a limit
355. 14:11to it. I don't go indefinite about it.
356. 14:14Okay, I'm sitting with my Instagram on
357. 14:16and I will go and watch it for 3 hours.
358. 14:17Never. Never done that. There comes a
359. 14:20point in the day when I stop trying to
360. 14:22extract more from myself. And that is
361. 14:25what I call my shutdown time. I do
362. 14:27whatever my heart tells me to do. See,
363. 14:29rest is not laziness. Rest is
364. 14:32maintenance. Downtime is not the
365. 14:34opposite of productivity is what you
366. 14:36need to understand. Downtime is equally
367. 14:39important. It is the foundation of
368. 14:41sustainable productivity. If you never
369. 14:44shut down, your mind never fully
370. 14:45recovers. And if your mind never fully
371. 14:48recovers, even your working hours become
372. 14:50weak. I have learned that I cannot keep
373. 14:52borrowing energy from tomorrow, okay?
374. 14:55The day is done, wrap it up with
375. 14:58dignity, let it go, sit down, relax, and
376. 15:01be with yourself for some time. So, my
377. 15:02downtime is important to me. It is not
378. 15:05leftover time. It is protected time. It
379. 15:08is when I come back to myself because a
380. 15:10life that is only optimized for output
381. 15:12eventually starts to feel empty. Always
382. 15:15hungry, always running. The race ends
383. 15:18the same way for everyone. Work without
384. 15:21fun becomes a task. How long and how
385. 15:24often can you do something you don't
386. 15:26enjoy? Tell me. We need spaces where we
387. 15:28are not performing, we're not proving,
388. 15:30producing something or the other,
389. 15:32replying, or achieving. We need hours
390. 15:35where we are simply just alive, doing
391. 15:37nothing. And believe me when I say this,
392. 15:39the time when I'm doing nothing is
393. 15:41actually my favorite time of the day.
394. 15:43Research on psychological detachment
395. 15:45from work found that poor mental
396. 15:48switching off during non-work time
397. 15:51predicted higher emotional exhaustion
398. 15:54and a stronger need for recovery. Rest
399. 15:56is not opposite of ambition. Rest is how
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447. 17:50back. The fourth thing I had to manage
448. 17:53was my phone.
449. 17:56And let's be honest, the phone is not
450. 17:57just a device anymore. It is a
451. 17:59marketplace, it's a theater, a gossip
452. 18:02room, shopping mall, a news channel, a
453. 18:05camera, a distraction machine, and
454. 18:08sometimes, unfortunately, a thief. It
455. 18:12steals in fragments. 30 seconds here, 2
456. 18:15minutes there, one notification, one
457. 18:17reply, one scroll, one forwarded
458. 18:20message, and
459. 18:22gone. The dangerous thing about phone
460. 18:24distraction is that it never feels
461. 18:26dramatic. It's small bits and pieces. It
462. 18:29feels harmless. But harmless
463. 18:31distractions, repeated daily, become a
464. 18:34lifestyle. So, I started managing my
465. 18:36phone more intentionally. Very
466. 18:38intentional of my phone, by the way,
467. 18:39believe me. I have hundreds of people
468. 18:42complaining to me every month that you
469. 18:44don't answer on time. You pick up the
470. 18:46phone. You reply to my Just today in the
471. 18:48morning, my sister told me. And you may
472. 18:50feel what a horrible sister I am. I'm
473. 18:52not. I'm a very good sister, okay. I'm a
474. 18:54great sibling. It's just that I don't
475. 18:57give WhatsApp much importance. We were
476. 18:59just laughing. We were on the call. She
477. 19:01told me, "Baji, you reply me after 4
478. 19:03days on WhatsApp, whenever I send you a
479. 19:05message." So, I was blaming her for
480. 19:08something, and this is her This was her
481. 19:09comeback. Okay, well, what are you
482. 19:11complaining about? You reply after 4
483. 19:13days. And you know what? She's right. I
484. 19:15forget. I'm in maintaining this habit,
485. 19:18it took a lot of energy initially, but
486. 19:21now that it has become a habit,
487. 19:22honestly, it just slips from my mind. I
488. 19:25am not habitual of checking my phone
489. 19:27every 5 minutes. I don't. It's just how
490. 19:29I function. And important people know
491. 19:32how to get to me. They call me and I
492. 19:34call them back. I have never ignored my
493. 19:36family. I've never ignored my friends. I
494. 19:38don't. I'm really good with them. It's
495. 19:40just that I ignore my phone a lot.
496. 19:43So, yes, I started managing my phone
497. 19:45more intentionally. One important thing
498. 19:47I do is plan my calls for the day. Very
499. 19:50important point. Instead of picking up
500. 19:52every call impulsively or letting calls
501. 19:54interrupt every deep work window, what I
502. 19:57do is I try to decide when calls will
503. 19:59happen. Okay? Some calls are important,
504. 20:02some are emotional, some are practical,
505. 20:05but some are completely avoidable. But
506. 20:06if I allow every call to enter my day
507. 20:09without permission, my day no longer
508. 20:11belongs to me. This does not mean I
509. 20:13become unavailable or become rude. No,
510. 20:16it simply means I stop treating my
511. 20:17attention like a public waiting room. I
512. 20:20want my phone to serve my life rather
513. 20:22than the other way around. And that
514. 20:23distinction matters to me because the
515. 20:26phone is a wonderful servant but a
516. 20:28terrible master. So, a study found that
517. 20:30phone notification alone can
518. 20:32significantly disrupt performance on
519. 20:35attention-heavy task, even when people
520. 20:37do not touch the phone. And finally, one
521. 20:41of the smartest choices I have made is
522. 20:43preferring books over the phone.
523. 20:47This may sound old-fashioned, but I
524. 20:49think this is one of the most modern
525. 20:52decisions you can make because the phone
526. 20:54trains the mind to jump.
527. 20:57Okay, WhatsApp. All right, Instagram.
528. 20:59Okay, this app, that app. Okay, this.
529. 21:02Okay, I was doing this. Oh my god, I
530. 21:04miss this. Oh, I have to to the bank
531. 21:05app. Oh my god, I have to download this
532. 21:07from the App Store. Oh my god, it's so
533. 21:09overwhelming. A book trains the mind to
534. 21:11stay. Phone gives you fragments. A book
535. 21:16gives you depth. The phone keeps asking,
536. 21:18"What next?" A book gently says, "Stay
537. 21:21here." And in a distracted world, the
538. 21:23ability to stay with one thought is a
539. 21:25superpower. Reading has helped to me
540. 21:28rebuild my attention span.
541. 21:30It has made my mind calmer, my language
542. 21:33richer, thoughts more layered. Yes,
543. 21:37honest, very honest. I think I speak
544. 21:39much better now, and not because I
545. 21:41learned it on the internet, but because
546. 21:43I read it from a book. I read and I have
547. 21:47my fixed window when I read. I usually
548. 21:49read before bed. It's a habit. Not just
549. 21:52me, my husband also reads every single
550. 21:54night we read before we go off to bed.
551. 21:56So, yes, we read. And there is this book
552. 21:58by Leo Tolstoy that I've been reading
553. 22:00for quite some time now because it's a
554. 22:02really fat book. It's very very thick.
555. 22:04And I'm trying to finish it. I'm more
556. 22:07than halfway through. It's a lovely
557. 22:08book. The phone throws a thousand voices
558. 22:11at you. A book gives you one voice and
559. 22:14asks you to listen properly. And that
560. 22:17act of listening deeply and patiently
561. 22:19and intentionally, it changes you. It
562. 22:22makes you less reactive. It makes you
563. 22:24less restless. Try it. I mean, I cannot
564. 22:27convince you. I think you will convince
565. 22:29yourself once you actually put your mind
566. 22:31into reading a book and sticking to it
567. 22:33and committing to the book. You'll be
568. 22:36less hungry for constant stimulation.
569. 22:38You will eventually be trained on less
570. 22:41stimulation and more control of your
571. 22:43brain. When I read, I'm not being chased
572. 22:45by algorithms. I'm not being measured by
573. 22:47likes. I'm not being pulled into someone
574. 22:49else's urgency. And thinking in today's
575. 22:52world is becoming rare. So, now when I
576. 22:55choose a book over my phone, I don't see
577. 22:57it as a small habit. I see it as an an
578. 23:00of self-respect because attention is the
579. 23:02most elegant form of self-respect. Where
580. 23:04you place it, your life quietly follows.
581. 23:07Of course, I still get distracted. Of
582. 23:09course, I still have imperfect days. I
583. 23:11still pick up my phone unnecessarily
584. 23:13sometimes. I still misjudge my energy
585. 23:16occasionally. But the difference is I
586. 23:18now return faster. Okay, I come back
587. 23:20faster. And that, my lovely friends, is
588. 23:23the real win.
589. 23:26I hope you learned something through
590. 23:28this video today. See, I want to tell
591. 23:30you that, a very personal feeling, I
592. 23:32really do feel this way. Not just saying
593. 23:34it for the sake of video or for you to
594. 23:36think I'm so fancy. I'm not fancy. In a
595. 23:39lot of ways, I'm so not fancy. But yes,
596. 23:41the thing is that when I'm reading, most
597. 23:43of the times I put my phone on silent
598. 23:45mode. I really don't respect my phone
599. 23:47anymore much, but yeah, I sometimes put
600. 23:49it on silent mode. Most of the times I
601. 23:51do put it on silent mode. But just in
602. 23:53case you know, the light pops up,
603. 23:55there's a notification or something. I
604. 23:56feel if I'm looking at the notification
605. 23:59while I'm reading, I'm disrespecting the
606. 24:00book. I don't know. I feel it this way.
607. 24:02So, I intentionally avoid my phone. And
608. 24:05I'm like, "No, if I'm reading, I'll
609. 24:07focus here." I feel it's a very big
610. 24:09disrespect to the author because
611. 24:11something as trivial as phone and
612. 24:12something as trivial as a notification
613. 24:15on the phone, this doesn't make sense
614. 24:17that you put years of a person's work
615. 24:20aside and read that notification. It
616. 24:23just doesn't feel fair. Not a perfect
617. 24:25routine. Um not a perfect flawless life
618. 24:28I live, but the ability to notice when
619. 24:31your time is slipping away and gently
620. 24:33bring it back, I think reclaiming your
621. 24:35time is not about controlling every
622. 24:37minute.
623. 24:38It's just about becoming less available
624. 24:40to what does not deserve you. It is
625. 24:42about deciding your food before cravings
626. 24:45decide it for you. It is about choosing
627. 24:47your work before urgency chooses it. It
628. 24:50is about protecting your best hours from
629. 24:53your smallest distractions, which are by
630. 24:56the way thousands in number these days.
631. 24:59It is about letting the phone remain a
632. 25:01tool and not a throne. It is about
633. 25:03shutting down without guilt. And it is
634. 25:05about choosing depth in a world addicted
635. 25:08to speed. Because ultimately, your life
636. 25:10is not built by the time you have. It is
637. 25:13built by the attention you protect. And
638. 25:15once you protect your attention, you do
639. 25:17not just get your time back, you get
640. 25:19yourself back. And that, my friends, is
641. 25:22the end of this video. Please share
642. 25:24something that you are trying to
643. 25:27accomplish at this time in your life.
644. 25:29Something, some flaw that you're
645. 25:31fighting right now in life. Your own
646. 25:34flaw, okay? Share with me in the
647. 25:36comments below. Share this video with
648. 25:38somebody you care about. I'll see you in
649. 25:40the next one.
650. 25:41Bye-bye.