How to Become the Best Version of Yourself This Year (Without Burning Out) — Transcript
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- 0:00Today we have eight mindset shifts that
- 0:02you need to adopt if you want to become
- 0:04the best version of yourself. And these
- 0:07are not tactical strategies because what
- 0:09the best version of you looks like might
- 0:12be a different road map than for someone
- 0:13else.
- 0:14>> But what we're going to talk about
- 0:15instead is the mindset that you need to
- 0:18have and the way that you need to think
- 0:21differently. So these are things that
- 0:22will apply pretty much to anyone. If
- 0:24you're trying to become more successful,
- 0:25you're trying to become the best version
- 0:27of yourself, maybe a year from now, you
- 0:29want to look back and you want to become
- 0:31unrecognizable,
- 0:32starting with radical ownership. It may
- 0:34not be your fault, but it absolutely is
- 0:37your responsibility for everything in
- 0:39life. And that's a really hard thing for
- 0:41a lot of people to do because you kind
- 0:43of want to protect your ego where
- 0:44obviously it's much easier to point the
- 0:47blame at everything and everyone but
- 0:49your own set of actions. But when you
- 0:51get really honest with yourself and you
- 0:53say, "Okay, this thing happened to me.
- 0:55This really hard thing happened. I went
- 0:58through a hard season of life. I can't
- 1:01necessarily control that, but I can
- 1:03control how I respond to it."
- 1:05>> Yeah. Cuz it's in a sense it's like
- 1:06dropping that like that victim, you
- 1:10know, mentality around that stuff and
- 1:11just being like, "Okay, cool. This
- 1:13happened." Like Audrey said, regardless
- 1:15if it is or isn't your fault, it's your
- 1:17responsibility to take action to get a
- 1:20different outcome.
- 1:21>> Yeah.
- 1:21>> And if you always look at those
- 1:23circumstances like, oh, these things are
- 1:25happening to me. Ah, crap, this happened
- 1:27to me again. Versus like just shifting
- 1:29that lens and be like, okay, cool. That
- 1:31happened. It's my responsibility. What
- 1:33can I learn from it? Regardless if like
- 1:35I directly
- 1:37like had something in this that that
- 1:39happened. I can still take ownership
- 1:40over the next decision I make to create
- 1:43a different outcome around that.
- 1:44>> Yeah. I think there's like this common
- 1:46notion for some people that they believe
- 1:50people who are successful are successful
- 1:51because they've had less bad things
- 1:53happen to them or maybe they've had it
- 1:55significantly easier. But the thing is
- 1:58first one, what does believing that
- 2:00actually do for you? Does it actually
- 2:01help you? I don't think so. But if
- 2:03instead you look at people that are
- 2:05successful and you say, you know what,
- 2:07they've probably had some pretty bad
- 2:09things happen to them as well and
- 2:10they've experienced hard seasons, but
- 2:13maybe instead they just chose to do good
- 2:15with it. And so successful people aren't
- 2:17successful because they've had less bad
- 2:19things happen to them. They're
- 2:20successful in spite of that. They're
- 2:21successful because what they choose to
- 2:23do with the bad things that have
- 2:25happened and they turn it into learning
- 2:26lessons. They let it u they let it be
- 2:29something that they can grow from and
- 2:31evolve from. Absolutely.
- 2:32>> The next thing is accept that what you
- 2:34are not changing you are choosing.
- 2:37>> This is so difficult for a lot of people
- 2:40to sit with. And again you can go into
- 2:41the victim mindset and you can say well
- 2:44>> again this thing happened to me and I
- 2:47didn't I didn't choose that. Okay sure
- 2:49but you are still choosing how you
- 2:51respond to it.
- 2:52>> Y
- 2:52>> so it kind of goes handinhand with
- 2:55taking radical ownership. But if you
- 2:58currently don't like the outcomes in
- 2:59your life, then look back at your
- 3:02choices and say, you know what, maybe
- 3:03I'm here because of my actions,
- 3:06>> right? It's like being [clears throat]
- 3:08in a in a in a relationship that isn't
- 3:10just good for you. Right? It's like, oh
- 3:12my god, my boyfriend did this again. He
- 3:15keeps forgetting this. He, you know,
- 3:17doesn't treat me the right way. And it's
- 3:19like if you're not choosing to like
- 3:22either correct that behavior or stand up
- 3:24and say something about it or get out of
- 3:27that relationship, you are choosing to
- 3:29just live inside of those circumstances.
- 3:31So very easy example to look at there.
- 3:33It's like
- 3:34>> and then you look at how where am I
- 3:35doing that in other areas of my life or
- 3:37maybe I'm just like complaining about
- 3:38something that's happening that I don't
- 3:39like.
- 3:40>> Yeah. but I'm not actually putting in
- 3:41the work or, you know, having the hard
- 3:43conversation or doing the hard thing to
- 3:46actually start to shift that narrative
- 3:47and get the outcome that I want.
- 3:49>> Yeah. And and look, there's nothing
- 3:51wrong with venting from time to time, of
- 3:53course,
- 3:53>> but you never want to be around someone
- 3:54who is constantly complaining about the
- 3:56same things over and over, but they're
- 3:58doing nothing different to change their
- 4:00circumstances.
- 4:01>> Mhm.
- 4:02>> The third thing is daily deposits. I
- 4:04know in the self-improvement world,
- 4:06everyone talks about look at where you
- 4:08want to be a year from now. look at
- 4:10where you want to be five years from
- 4:11now. And yes, I think it's great to have
- 4:12a general idea of what those big goals
- 4:15are and who you want to become because
- 4:16then you can reverse engineer it. But
- 4:18the problem is sometimes I think that it
- 4:20feels like such a big mountain to climb
- 4:21that people avoid taking the first step
- 4:24because there's a million steps that you
- 4:26need to take between now and where you
- 4:28want to be a year from now. But just
- 4:29focus on the only thing that you can
- 4:31control which is the day in front of
- 4:33you. And so at the end of every day if
- 4:35you can say today I got better. Today I
- 4:38got even 1% better. And even if it was a
- 4:41day that didn't go my way, did I show up
- 4:43in a way that was in alignment with who
- 4:45I want to become? Right.
- 4:46>> If you can say that at the end of the
- 4:48day, then you can look back a year from
- 4:49now and know that you got better and
- 4:51that you did everything in your power to
- 4:53become unrecognizable and reach your
- 4:55goals.
- 4:55>> Exactly. And those daily daily deposits
- 4:58just from like a simple fitness sense,
- 4:59like did you, you know, get your step
- 5:01goal in today? Right. Did you eat the
- 5:03quality meals you said you were going to
- 5:04eat? Did you get the training session in
- 5:07today? If you had it on your on your
- 5:08schedule and on your calendar, it's
- 5:10like, did you do those little things?
- 5:11Because it's good to have the the
- 5:13year-long goal of having this lean,
- 5:15toned, amazing body, but did you just
- 5:17take that one step today? The simple
- 5:20step. It's the little thing. And if you
- 5:21can make those deposits, it just
- 5:22compounds.
- 5:23>> They Yeah, they compound over time. And
- 5:25I think the biggest thing, too, is if
- 5:28you didn't do it that day, don't shame
- 5:30yourself. Don't spiral. Don't allow that
- 5:32to be the thing that completely sets you
- 5:34back and gets you off track. Let it be a
- 5:37learning lesson. Again, at the end of
- 5:38the day, okay, I didn't hit my macros
- 5:42today. Why didn't you hit your macros?
- 5:43How can I show up differently tomorrow
- 5:45to make sure that I actually do?
- 5:47>> Find the big pawns. If you right now
- 5:51have a vision that is larger than anyone
- 5:54that you know in your life, sometimes
- 5:56that vision, you might question if it's
- 5:58too big, if it's unrealistic. But if you
- 6:02get into the big ponds where you are the
- 6:04small fish where your vision is step one
- 6:07in their vision, it's like this is so
- 6:10achievable, right? You need to be around
- 6:12people who make your goals almost feel
- 6:15small. Not in a way that like belittles
- 6:17your goals, but in a way that makes it
- 6:19seem like, oh, of course I can
- 6:21accomplish that. Because if they did,
- 6:23and you realize this is something that
- 6:24we talk about all the time. You know,
- 6:26sometimes you see people that have done
- 6:28really big things in life and you assume
- 6:31that like maybe they have something that
- 6:32I don't have, right? And it feels not
- 6:36achievable, but then once you get around
- 6:39those people, you realize that
- 6:41>> they're not all that different. And like
- 6:43in the best way possible, they're not
- 6:45necessarily special.
- 6:47>> Exactly.
- 6:47>> You know what I mean? And so every time
- 6:49we've gotten into a bigger room where we
- 6:51once looked up to those people, maybe we
- 6:53still do, right? Respect the hell out of
- 6:55them.
- 6:56um you really start to see that it's
- 6:58just a a few different set of actions
- 7:00that they took maybe differently that
- 7:02you can also take to get to where they
- 7:04are as well in your own way
- 7:06>> because it pulls you forward and it
- 7:08lights a fire underneath you because the
- 7:10inverse effect happens when you're
- 7:13around those ponds or in those ponds
- 7:15where people aren't as ambitious or
- 7:18maybe your ambition matches the same
- 7:21ambition of everybody else but it's not
- 7:24ideally where you want to But you're
- 7:25still not being called or pushed to do
- 7:27more cuz like you feel like, you know,
- 7:28I'm kind of capped out. Everyone arounds
- 7:30me, we're all doing the same. It's kind
- 7:31of okay here. But in the back of your
- 7:33mind, you're like, but I do want that.
- 7:36And soon as you enter into these bigger
- 7:38ponds, bigger rooms, better environments
- 7:40of individuals that are 1 2 3 10 steps
- 7:43ahead, it just immediately like calls
- 7:46you to be like, "Okay, cool. Now it's
- 7:49like now you can feel the pull." Because
- 7:51every time you get into those bigger
- 7:52ponds, you feel like kind of the pull up
- 7:54towards the top of the room, right? The
- 7:57top of the environment. And you want to
- 7:59have that because, you know, not to say
- 8:01that it's like a motivating factor, but
- 8:03like it kind of plays into it a little
- 8:04bit where it's like I want to actually
- 8:07step it up because I'm seeing other
- 8:08people that are doing better. And like
- 8:10if there's a little bit of
- 8:10competitiveness in you and all that
- 8:12stuff, that's good. That's good stuff to
- 8:14actually, you know, propel you forward
- 8:16because it's easy to get complacent.
- 8:18when you're in the room that is all
- 8:20acting complacent.
- 8:21>> Yeah, I think there's a good level of
- 8:24healthy competition that you want and a
- 8:25good level of pressure that will help to
- 8:29to drive you forward. But again, it
- 8:31makes me think of how
- 8:32>> when there is one moldy piece of fruit
- 8:35in the little container, then the rest
- 8:38of the fruit starts to mold.
- 8:40>> It's about who you are around. And so if
- 8:42right now you're really like questioning
- 8:45things or especially if things feel
- 8:48really really hard
- 8:50>> and you're not around people that are
- 8:52also doing the really really hard thing,
- 8:54it can feel very lonely as well. And
- 8:56maybe you start to think like oh it's
- 8:58just too hard or like you know oh maybe
- 9:00I shouldn't be doing this thing and and
- 9:02you want to just like kind of coast and
- 9:04be okay with good enough because
- 9:06everyone else is okay with good enough.
- 9:07But you want to be around people that
- 9:09are constantly pushing the boundaries of
- 9:10what's possible.
- 9:11>> Yeah. Because both things are
- 9:12contagious. It'll be contagious for that
- 9:14like um you know the moldy fruit
- 9:17example. It's contagious for the rest of
- 9:19the the pack to spoil, right? Same thing
- 9:21if you're around people that aren't as
- 9:23ambitious as contagious in that
- 9:25direction as is contagious in the other
- 9:27direction.
- 9:27>> Yeah. And you'll have different groups
- 9:29in your life like not there's never
- 9:31going to be one friend group that is
- 9:33going to fulfill all of your needs. I
- 9:35found or one let's say like um coaching
- 9:38cohort or mastermind that is going to
- 9:40fulfill all of your needs. That's why we
- 9:42have different mentorships. That's why
- 9:43we have different you know uh groups of
- 9:46friends like some friends they've known
- 9:48you from the start and like you guys
- 9:49have grown in different directions and
- 9:51you still love and value their
- 9:53friendship but maybe they're not
- 9:54necessarily there to push and and really
- 9:58help you evolve and that's okay. Like
- 10:00you need those people in your life. But
- 10:01if you don't have the people in your
- 10:03life that do challenge you and do push
- 10:06you to grow, then you need to find that
- 10:07big pond.
- 10:10>> Doing the hard things consistently.
- 10:12Nothing will boost your confidence more
- 10:14than this. When you do something that
- 10:16you said you would, the thing that is
- 10:19inconvenient, the thing that is just
- 10:21like so grueling and daunting, when you
- 10:24consistently do those things, you start
- 10:27taking your own [snorts] word more
- 10:28seriously. And one thing that I always
- 10:30say is like if you want to be taken more
- 10:32seriously, you have to start taking
- 10:34yourself more seriously because people
- 10:35will start to respect you only to the
- 10:37level that you really respect yourself
- 10:39and the way that you show up for
- 10:40yourself. So the more that you
- 10:43consistently do those things, the more
- 10:44that you will build more selfrust
- 10:47because you have stacked the evidence
- 10:49that your word actually means something.
- 10:51>> Mhm.
- 10:52>> Completing a big goal that [snorts] 2 to
- 10:553 years ago seemed very steep or near
- 11:00impossible. There's something called the
- 11:02misogi.
- 11:03>> Misogi. Yes. It's a uh it's a Japanese
- 11:05term of of essentially completing
- 11:08something that is
- 11:10>> like it's a it's a year goal, right? So,
- 11:12but it's it's ambitious like a misogi
- 11:15would be a marathon for some people. For
- 11:17others, it's an iron man. For others,
- 11:19it's it's like jumping into the piano
- 11:22and then learning some very um melodic
- 11:26song by the end of the year.
- 11:27>> And it's like it's something that you're
- 11:29training for, you're putting in time for
- 11:30each and every single day. Like that's a
- 11:32really big goal. Um, and I think what
- 11:35that does for you doing something of
- 11:37that stature is it really just expands
- 11:40your self-belief around a lot of stuff.
- 11:42Cuz
- 11:42>> for Audrey and I, I'd look back, you
- 11:44know,
- 11:44>> two, three, six years ago,
- 11:47>> it's it's hard to imagine, you know,
- 11:50being in the position we are now, like
- 11:52at that point in time, right? You can
- 11:54think about it, you can set the goal,
- 11:55but until you actually start to put
- 11:58forth the efforts, the daily deposits
- 12:00and then you get there and then boom, it
- 12:02opens the door,
- 12:03>> opens a new world of possibility.
- 12:05>> Yeah. And I think people always say you
- 12:07need to have
- 12:08>> uh delusional self-belief like you need
- 12:10to believe in yourself so much, but if
- 12:12your track record is that you never
- 12:14follow through with things, it's really
- 12:16hard to believe in yourself and no
- 12:18amount of affirmations is going to fix
- 12:19that. So, you really have to start and
- 12:21sometimes it's just a matter of starting
- 12:23small, right? Like you said that you
- 12:24were going to go to the gym today and
- 12:26you go to the gym today and then you
- 12:27stack that and you stack it and then you
- 12:29keep setting larger goals. But once you
- 12:32accomplish one big goal, like for me,
- 12:34what really opened up the door was
- 12:36competing. And that's one of the reasons
- 12:38why I still have such a a love for
- 12:41bodybuilding because I was forced to
- 12:45evolve so much and there it required so
- 12:48much of me for nine months that I was
- 12:50competing or prepping, sorry. For the
- 12:52nine months of my competition prep,
- 12:55there was no slacking off. There was no
- 12:57halfassing it. At the end of the day, I
- 12:59was going to be stepping on stage. And
- 13:01the package that I brought to the stage
- 13:04was the compound effect of the way that
- 13:07I showed up every single day. And
- 13:09[snorts] so accomplishing that goal of I
- 13:11said I was going to compete and I
- 13:13competed and it took a lot out of me
- 13:15created a level of self-belief that
- 13:17opened up the door of possibilities of
- 13:19what else can I accomplish in my life
- 13:21>> and I believed that I could because I
- 13:23did something really really hard that
- 13:26maybe at the beginning I questioned
- 13:29whether I could do it. And there were
- 13:30absolutely times that I wanted to give
- 13:31up, but I didn't. Right? And so when you
- 13:33go into another big goal that you set
- 13:35after accomplishing another one, you
- 13:37know that there's going to be
- 13:38challenges. You expect the unexpected.
- 13:41And because of that, you're prepared.
- 13:43Your mindset is prepared. And so if you
- 13:45just set the big goal and then you start
- 13:48setting other big goals, next thing you
- 13:49know, the goals that you're setting two
- 13:51years from now isn't even something that
- 13:53you could have comprehended or wrapped
- 13:54your mind around a few years ago. So you
- 13:58have to follow through with at least one
- 14:00big goal even if it's a misogi even if
- 14:02it's just one a year because the doors
- 14:05will start opening the possibilities
- 14:07will start opening and you'll have this
- 14:09mindset of everything is figure outable
- 14:12like I may not trust that it's going to
- 14:14work out in my favor but I do trust that
- 14:16I am going to do everything in my power
- 14:19to make it work like sometimes you don't
- 14:22know whether it's going to work or not
- 14:23but you know that you're going to do the
- 14:24work and if you at least have the faith
- 14:27in that and you have the confidence in
- 14:29yourself, then you can kind of trust
- 14:30that like it's going to work out.
- 14:32>> I love it.
- 14:33>> But you need the evidence.
- 14:34>> I love it. And into our next one is
- 14:37saying no more often and decreasing your
- 14:40tolerance with yourself.
- 14:43So, you know, we've experienced a lot of
- 14:46this, you know, more recently in the
- 14:47last year, two years as like things
- 14:50begin to expand. You have to you have to
- 14:53be able to
- 14:55discern between what things I might have
- 14:58been able to get away with a couple
- 15:00years ago when I had less
- 15:01responsibilities or I was less ambitious
- 15:03or I didn't have as much going on as
- 15:06comparative to now. And that's been
- 15:08something we've been kind of stepping
- 15:09through, but we realize it's such an
- 15:10important aspect, right? Um, not to say
- 15:13that like you need to cut everything out
- 15:15and eliminate all the stuff, but you
- 15:16really have to wind down on things that
- 15:19are deterring you from getting where you
- 15:22want to get to. And also at the same
- 15:24time is like you know do I have a
- 15:26tolerance for you know having just I
- 15:29don't know maybe mediocre people around
- 15:31me that aren't super ambitious or don't
- 15:34really respect my work or like that I
- 15:36work really want to work really hard or
- 15:38that I want to do all these things and
- 15:39that I want to put in more effort.
- 15:40>> So it's really kind of navigating and
- 15:42understanding that and I think everyone
- 15:44has to go through that on their own but
- 15:46I think it's important to know early on
- 15:48so you can kind of get the feeling when
- 15:51it comes around.
- 15:52>> Yeah. Cuz it's almost like if you're not
- 15:54doing it at certain stages, you can feel
- 15:57that like that disappointment in
- 15:59yourself that you'll get the the guilt
- 16:01that you feel like should have like not
- 16:04done that thing or why have I been
- 16:06dragging this out for 3 months. I should
- 16:07have, you know, made this decision
- 16:09months ago to like um put myself in a
- 16:11better position because I've been like
- 16:13dealing with this one thing that could
- 16:14have been avoided. So, it's it's really
- 16:17those things and it's hard to, you know,
- 16:18put it on one thing because everybody's
- 16:20everybody's going to have different
- 16:22circumstances for what they're
- 16:23experiencing, but just knowing that like
- 16:25having to say no, decreasing your
- 16:28tolerance for the BS going on around you
- 16:30is what you really have to start to
- 16:33figure out because if you don't, that's
- 16:36kind of one of the bigger things that
- 16:37could keep you spinning your wheels for
- 16:38a heck of a lot longer than you probably
- 16:40would want to.
- 16:41>> And I would say it's probably one of the
- 16:42hardest ones. Like this is still
- 16:44something that we struggle with these
- 16:46other things. As I'm reading them out
- 16:47loud, I'm like, "Yeah, we kind of have a
- 16:49down path." But it's also one of those
- 16:50things that you don't just check the box
- 16:52and now you're done. It's a constant
- 16:53evolution because every there there's a
- 16:56new devil at every level, right? And so
- 16:58when you get to that next version of
- 17:00yourself with larger goals and bigger
- 17:02ambitions, you'll realize that there's a
- 17:04new set of sacrifices that exist there.
- 17:07And there was a time where we could get
- 17:09away with going to a three-day music
- 17:11festival, stepping away from our team
- 17:14and messages and all the things. And it
- 17:16was okay. We would just get back on
- 17:18Monday and we get back right to it.
- 17:20>> Now, us going to a 3-day music festival
- 17:23where we're staying up until the sun
- 17:25comes up and, you know, we're not
- 17:27feeling our best coming back. We almost
- 17:29can't really sacrifice that these days.
- 17:31And that's okay, right? Y
- 17:33>> that's okay because the outcome that we
- 17:35want is more important to us and more of
- 17:38a priority than that three-day music
- 17:40festival. Now obviously we still
- 17:42prioritize fun and travel but it just
- 17:44looks different these days. Like there's
- 17:46not necessarily travel without work,
- 17:48right? Or again if like you're working
- 17:50towards improving your body composition,
- 17:52you might have to have a season where
- 17:55you are stricter with yourself. And
- 17:57that's kind of all of what this one
- 17:59comes back to is like you have to be
- 18:01strict with yourself, right? And if you
- 18:04are not only tolerating mediocrity from
- 18:07yourself, but also from your
- 18:09environment, the people around you, if
- 18:11you manage a team, the people on your
- 18:13team, then like nothing changes if
- 18:15nothing changes. And so you kind of have
- 18:18to like one of one of the ways to put
- 18:20this actually if you were if an audience
- 18:24was watching a movie of your life, what
- 18:26would they be screaming at you? And
- 18:28whatever first comes to mind is probably
- 18:30the thing that needs your attention the
- 18:32most and the thing that needs to be
- 18:33changed, right? Maybe for you it's like
- 18:35get off your damn phone. Maybe you're
- 18:37spending too much time doom scrolling
- 18:39and you could be spending that time
- 18:40working towards something that you want
- 18:42to accomplish. Right? So there's things
- 18:45in your life that immediately you can
- 18:48probably think of. Like even for us,
- 18:49there's things in my life where
- 18:50immediately I'm like, you know, we're
- 18:53getting to a point where I do think that
- 18:55that thing is potentially holding me
- 18:57back. For example, I'll be vulnerable.
- 18:59There's times where like we go out to a
- 19:01dinner and I had maybe like two
- 19:04cocktails and then I wake up the next
- 19:05morning and I don't feel so great and
- 19:07I'm like that wasn't even worth it. But
- 19:09I sometimes still consistently do it,
- 19:11right? And then at some point you just
- 19:13get to a point where like you have to
- 19:14stop tolerating that from yourself and
- 19:16you have to get stricter with yourself
- 19:18or otherwise again nothing is going to
- 19:19change.
- 19:20>> Mhm.
- 19:20>> And that goes handinhand with having
- 19:23seasons of going allin
- 19:26like you have seasons where you're kind
- 19:28of maintaining and I think those seasons
- 19:30are also important. Those are seasons
- 19:32where maybe your focus is shifted like
- 19:36you know maybe you you are a new mom
- 19:38right and so that season is you are
- 19:41giving your all to like postpartum and
- 19:43navigating the challenges that come with
- 19:45that but also you know being as present
- 19:47as possible with your newborn like
- 19:49that's a different season than maybe
- 19:50what it was two years ago. Yeah. But
- 19:52when you know you are working towards
- 19:55something really big, you can't just dip
- 19:57a toe in, right? Like you do have to go
- 20:00allin and there's going to be a form of
- 20:02restriction that comes with that. I
- 20:05think that restriction gets a really bad
- 20:06rep.
- 20:07>> It does. Yeah. Because I mean if you
- 20:09don't have these, it's it's like if if
- 20:12your results up until this point haven't
- 20:13been to the point that you want, right?
- 20:15If you're really trying to get this
- 20:16outcome, you have to think like you've
- 20:18probably been half in, half out. and you
- 20:20know that got you to a certain point
- 20:22where maybe you have a little bit of
- 20:23some balance on both sides of the
- 20:25spectrum and you're able to do some of
- 20:27this and do some of that. But like most
- 20:30the time if you're really wanting to be
- 20:32ambitious about getting to certain
- 20:35heights and certain places where only a
- 20:38select few of people really get to from
- 20:40a percentage standpoint. It's going to
- 20:42require you to do more that's required
- 20:46and cut out some of that excess in order
- 20:49to become that elite version of
- 20:51yourself.
- 20:51>> Yeah.
- 20:52>> And it it kind of takes going through
- 20:54that too to kind of see it. And then
- 20:56once you once it's really
- 20:57[clears throat] clear, it's like, okay,
- 20:59you're going to be at a crossroads
- 21:00crossroads and you're going to have a
- 21:01choice of, you know, do I really, you
- 21:05know, commit to the Indian here and, you
- 21:08know,
- 21:09really dig in, sink my teeth all the way
- 21:12in and just freaking go for it.
- 21:13>> Yeah.
- 21:14>> Or do I continue to to live in the La La
- 21:17Land of like good enough?
- 21:19>> Yeah.
- 21:19>> Right. So, it's like if you really want
- 21:21to, you know, have the really ambitious
- 21:24goal and and do it to the to the max, do
- 21:27it to the the 10th degree, you have to
- 21:30be willing to say, "Okay, let's freaking
- 21:33lock in here. Let's really go all the
- 21:35way and let's push all this stuff to the
- 21:37wayside because this is more important
- 21:40to me than kind of having some of that."
- 21:42>> Yeah. And we've talked about this
- 21:43before, but like if you want what most
- 21:45people don't have, you have to be
- 21:47willing to do what most people aren't
- 21:49willing to do. You want an above average
- 21:51lifestyle doing average right?
- 21:53That's that's it at the end of the day.
- 21:55That's all that we're saying here is
- 21:57like,
- 21:58>> you know, above average things or having
- 22:02outcomes in your life that a lot of
- 22:03people maybe don't have because it's
- 22:05it's at the top of the mountain. There's
- 22:07restriction that comes with that and
- 22:09that is not a bad thing because the
- 22:11opposite of not having restriction kind
- 22:13of just means that you are coasting and
- 22:16it's comfortable but you you have to get
- 22:17uncomfortable and you have to have those
- 22:19those uh strategic restrictions. And the
- 22:22thing is like you know if you have
- 22:24something that you really desire in your
- 22:26life if you're not willing to do what it
- 22:27takes to get to that thing that you're
- 22:29desiring then simply release yourself
- 22:31from the desire. That's it. So these are
- 22:34things that if you apply to your life
- 22:37and you start thinking in these ways and
- 22:39you accept that this is what has to
- 22:43happen, right? Like things have to
- 22:45change. Again, you can look back a year
- 22:47from now and realize that you are an
- 22:50entirely different person with a new set
- 22:52of beliefs. It's not easy. It's not
- 22:54comfortable, but it is absolutely
- 22:57necessary.
- 22:58>> Love it.
- 22:59>> Thank you guys for tuning in. We'll see
- 23:01you guys in the next episode.
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