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How to Become the Best Version of Yourself This Year (Without Burning Out) — Transcript

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  1. 0:00Today we have eight mindset shifts that
  2. 0:02you need to adopt if you want to become
  3. 0:04the best version of yourself. And these
  4. 0:07are not tactical strategies because what
  5. 0:09the best version of you looks like might
  6. 0:12be a different road map than for someone
  7. 0:13else.
  8. 0:14>> But what we're going to talk about
  9. 0:15instead is the mindset that you need to
  10. 0:18have and the way that you need to think
  11. 0:21differently. So these are things that
  12. 0:22will apply pretty much to anyone. If
  13. 0:24you're trying to become more successful,
  14. 0:25you're trying to become the best version
  15. 0:27of yourself, maybe a year from now, you
  16. 0:29want to look back and you want to become
  17. 0:31unrecognizable,
  18. 0:32starting with radical ownership. It may
  19. 0:34not be your fault, but it absolutely is
  20. 0:37your responsibility for everything in
  21. 0:39life. And that's a really hard thing for
  22. 0:41a lot of people to do because you kind
  23. 0:43of want to protect your ego where
  24. 0:44obviously it's much easier to point the
  25. 0:47blame at everything and everyone but
  26. 0:49your own set of actions. But when you
  27. 0:51get really honest with yourself and you
  28. 0:53say, "Okay, this thing happened to me.
  29. 0:55This really hard thing happened. I went
  30. 0:58through a hard season of life. I can't
  31. 1:01necessarily control that, but I can
  32. 1:03control how I respond to it."
  33. 1:05>> Yeah. Cuz it's in a sense it's like
  34. 1:06dropping that like that victim, you
  35. 1:10know, mentality around that stuff and
  36. 1:11just being like, "Okay, cool. This
  37. 1:13happened." Like Audrey said, regardless
  38. 1:15if it is or isn't your fault, it's your
  39. 1:17responsibility to take action to get a
  40. 1:20different outcome.
  41. 1:21>> Yeah.
  42. 1:21>> And if you always look at those
  43. 1:23circumstances like, oh, these things are
  44. 1:25happening to me. Ah, crap, this happened
  45. 1:27to me again. Versus like just shifting
  46. 1:29that lens and be like, okay, cool. That
  47. 1:31happened. It's my responsibility. What
  48. 1:33can I learn from it? Regardless if like
  49. 1:35I directly
  50. 1:37like had something in this that that
  51. 1:39happened. I can still take ownership
  52. 1:40over the next decision I make to create
  53. 1:43a different outcome around that.
  54. 1:44>> Yeah. I think there's like this common
  55. 1:46notion for some people that they believe
  56. 1:50people who are successful are successful
  57. 1:51because they've had less bad things
  58. 1:53happen to them or maybe they've had it
  59. 1:55significantly easier. But the thing is
  60. 1:58first one, what does believing that
  61. 2:00actually do for you? Does it actually
  62. 2:01help you? I don't think so. But if
  63. 2:03instead you look at people that are
  64. 2:05successful and you say, you know what,
  65. 2:07they've probably had some pretty bad
  66. 2:09things happen to them as well and
  67. 2:10they've experienced hard seasons, but
  68. 2:13maybe instead they just chose to do good
  69. 2:15with it. And so successful people aren't
  70. 2:17successful because they've had less bad
  71. 2:19things happen to them. They're
  72. 2:20successful in spite of that. They're
  73. 2:21successful because what they choose to
  74. 2:23do with the bad things that have
  75. 2:25happened and they turn it into learning
  76. 2:26lessons. They let it u they let it be
  77. 2:29something that they can grow from and
  78. 2:31evolve from. Absolutely.
  79. 2:32>> The next thing is accept that what you
  80. 2:34are not changing you are choosing.
  81. 2:37>> This is so difficult for a lot of people
  82. 2:40to sit with. And again you can go into
  83. 2:41the victim mindset and you can say well
  84. 2:44>> again this thing happened to me and I
  85. 2:47didn't I didn't choose that. Okay sure
  86. 2:49but you are still choosing how you
  87. 2:51respond to it.
  88. 2:52>> Y
  89. 2:52>> so it kind of goes handinhand with
  90. 2:55taking radical ownership. But if you
  91. 2:58currently don't like the outcomes in
  92. 2:59your life, then look back at your
  93. 3:02choices and say, you know what, maybe
  94. 3:03I'm here because of my actions,
  95. 3:06>> right? It's like being [clears throat]
  96. 3:08in a in a in a relationship that isn't
  97. 3:10just good for you. Right? It's like, oh
  98. 3:12my god, my boyfriend did this again. He
  99. 3:15keeps forgetting this. He, you know,
  100. 3:17doesn't treat me the right way. And it's
  101. 3:19like if you're not choosing to like
  102. 3:22either correct that behavior or stand up
  103. 3:24and say something about it or get out of
  104. 3:27that relationship, you are choosing to
  105. 3:29just live inside of those circumstances.
  106. 3:31So very easy example to look at there.
  107. 3:33It's like
  108. 3:34>> and then you look at how where am I
  109. 3:35doing that in other areas of my life or
  110. 3:37maybe I'm just like complaining about
  111. 3:38something that's happening that I don't
  112. 3:39like.
  113. 3:40>> Yeah. but I'm not actually putting in
  114. 3:41the work or, you know, having the hard
  115. 3:43conversation or doing the hard thing to
  116. 3:46actually start to shift that narrative
  117. 3:47and get the outcome that I want.
  118. 3:49>> Yeah. And and look, there's nothing
  119. 3:51wrong with venting from time to time, of
  120. 3:53course,
  121. 3:53>> but you never want to be around someone
  122. 3:54who is constantly complaining about the
  123. 3:56same things over and over, but they're
  124. 3:58doing nothing different to change their
  125. 4:00circumstances.
  126. 4:01>> Mhm.
  127. 4:02>> The third thing is daily deposits. I
  128. 4:04know in the self-improvement world,
  129. 4:06everyone talks about look at where you
  130. 4:08want to be a year from now. look at
  131. 4:10where you want to be five years from
  132. 4:11now. And yes, I think it's great to have
  133. 4:12a general idea of what those big goals
  134. 4:15are and who you want to become because
  135. 4:16then you can reverse engineer it. But
  136. 4:18the problem is sometimes I think that it
  137. 4:20feels like such a big mountain to climb
  138. 4:21that people avoid taking the first step
  139. 4:24because there's a million steps that you
  140. 4:26need to take between now and where you
  141. 4:28want to be a year from now. But just
  142. 4:29focus on the only thing that you can
  143. 4:31control which is the day in front of
  144. 4:33you. And so at the end of every day if
  145. 4:35you can say today I got better. Today I
  146. 4:38got even 1% better. And even if it was a
  147. 4:41day that didn't go my way, did I show up
  148. 4:43in a way that was in alignment with who
  149. 4:45I want to become? Right.
  150. 4:46>> If you can say that at the end of the
  151. 4:48day, then you can look back a year from
  152. 4:49now and know that you got better and
  153. 4:51that you did everything in your power to
  154. 4:53become unrecognizable and reach your
  155. 4:55goals.
  156. 4:55>> Exactly. And those daily daily deposits
  157. 4:58just from like a simple fitness sense,
  158. 4:59like did you, you know, get your step
  159. 5:01goal in today? Right. Did you eat the
  160. 5:03quality meals you said you were going to
  161. 5:04eat? Did you get the training session in
  162. 5:07today? If you had it on your on your
  163. 5:08schedule and on your calendar, it's
  164. 5:10like, did you do those little things?
  165. 5:11Because it's good to have the the
  166. 5:13year-long goal of having this lean,
  167. 5:15toned, amazing body, but did you just
  168. 5:17take that one step today? The simple
  169. 5:20step. It's the little thing. And if you
  170. 5:21can make those deposits, it just
  171. 5:22compounds.
  172. 5:23>> They Yeah, they compound over time. And
  173. 5:25I think the biggest thing, too, is if
  174. 5:28you didn't do it that day, don't shame
  175. 5:30yourself. Don't spiral. Don't allow that
  176. 5:32to be the thing that completely sets you
  177. 5:34back and gets you off track. Let it be a
  178. 5:37learning lesson. Again, at the end of
  179. 5:38the day, okay, I didn't hit my macros
  180. 5:42today. Why didn't you hit your macros?
  181. 5:43How can I show up differently tomorrow
  182. 5:45to make sure that I actually do?
  183. 5:47>> Find the big pawns. If you right now
  184. 5:51have a vision that is larger than anyone
  185. 5:54that you know in your life, sometimes
  186. 5:56that vision, you might question if it's
  187. 5:58too big, if it's unrealistic. But if you
  188. 6:02get into the big ponds where you are the
  189. 6:04small fish where your vision is step one
  190. 6:07in their vision, it's like this is so
  191. 6:10achievable, right? You need to be around
  192. 6:12people who make your goals almost feel
  193. 6:15small. Not in a way that like belittles
  194. 6:17your goals, but in a way that makes it
  195. 6:19seem like, oh, of course I can
  196. 6:21accomplish that. Because if they did,
  197. 6:23and you realize this is something that
  198. 6:24we talk about all the time. You know,
  199. 6:26sometimes you see people that have done
  200. 6:28really big things in life and you assume
  201. 6:31that like maybe they have something that
  202. 6:32I don't have, right? And it feels not
  203. 6:36achievable, but then once you get around
  204. 6:39those people, you realize that
  205. 6:41>> they're not all that different. And like
  206. 6:43in the best way possible, they're not
  207. 6:45necessarily special.
  208. 6:47>> Exactly.
  209. 6:47>> You know what I mean? And so every time
  210. 6:49we've gotten into a bigger room where we
  211. 6:51once looked up to those people, maybe we
  212. 6:53still do, right? Respect the hell out of
  213. 6:55them.
  214. 6:56um you really start to see that it's
  215. 6:58just a a few different set of actions
  216. 7:00that they took maybe differently that
  217. 7:02you can also take to get to where they
  218. 7:04are as well in your own way
  219. 7:06>> because it pulls you forward and it
  220. 7:08lights a fire underneath you because the
  221. 7:10inverse effect happens when you're
  222. 7:13around those ponds or in those ponds
  223. 7:15where people aren't as ambitious or
  224. 7:18maybe your ambition matches the same
  225. 7:21ambition of everybody else but it's not
  226. 7:24ideally where you want to But you're
  227. 7:25still not being called or pushed to do
  228. 7:27more cuz like you feel like, you know,
  229. 7:28I'm kind of capped out. Everyone arounds
  230. 7:30me, we're all doing the same. It's kind
  231. 7:31of okay here. But in the back of your
  232. 7:33mind, you're like, but I do want that.
  233. 7:36And soon as you enter into these bigger
  234. 7:38ponds, bigger rooms, better environments
  235. 7:40of individuals that are 1 2 3 10 steps
  236. 7:43ahead, it just immediately like calls
  237. 7:46you to be like, "Okay, cool. Now it's
  238. 7:49like now you can feel the pull." Because
  239. 7:51every time you get into those bigger
  240. 7:52ponds, you feel like kind of the pull up
  241. 7:54towards the top of the room, right? The
  242. 7:57top of the environment. And you want to
  243. 7:59have that because, you know, not to say
  244. 8:01that it's like a motivating factor, but
  245. 8:03like it kind of plays into it a little
  246. 8:04bit where it's like I want to actually
  247. 8:07step it up because I'm seeing other
  248. 8:08people that are doing better. And like
  249. 8:10if there's a little bit of
  250. 8:10competitiveness in you and all that
  251. 8:12stuff, that's good. That's good stuff to
  252. 8:14actually, you know, propel you forward
  253. 8:16because it's easy to get complacent.
  254. 8:18when you're in the room that is all
  255. 8:20acting complacent.
  256. 8:21>> Yeah, I think there's a good level of
  257. 8:24healthy competition that you want and a
  258. 8:25good level of pressure that will help to
  259. 8:29to drive you forward. But again, it
  260. 8:31makes me think of how
  261. 8:32>> when there is one moldy piece of fruit
  262. 8:35in the little container, then the rest
  263. 8:38of the fruit starts to mold.
  264. 8:40>> It's about who you are around. And so if
  265. 8:42right now you're really like questioning
  266. 8:45things or especially if things feel
  267. 8:48really really hard
  268. 8:50>> and you're not around people that are
  269. 8:52also doing the really really hard thing,
  270. 8:54it can feel very lonely as well. And
  271. 8:56maybe you start to think like oh it's
  272. 8:58just too hard or like you know oh maybe
  273. 9:00I shouldn't be doing this thing and and
  274. 9:02you want to just like kind of coast and
  275. 9:04be okay with good enough because
  276. 9:06everyone else is okay with good enough.
  277. 9:07But you want to be around people that
  278. 9:09are constantly pushing the boundaries of
  279. 9:10what's possible.
  280. 9:11>> Yeah. Because both things are
  281. 9:12contagious. It'll be contagious for that
  282. 9:14like um you know the moldy fruit
  283. 9:17example. It's contagious for the rest of
  284. 9:19the the pack to spoil, right? Same thing
  285. 9:21if you're around people that aren't as
  286. 9:23ambitious as contagious in that
  287. 9:25direction as is contagious in the other
  288. 9:27direction.
  289. 9:27>> Yeah. And you'll have different groups
  290. 9:29in your life like not there's never
  291. 9:31going to be one friend group that is
  292. 9:33going to fulfill all of your needs. I
  293. 9:35found or one let's say like um coaching
  294. 9:38cohort or mastermind that is going to
  295. 9:40fulfill all of your needs. That's why we
  296. 9:42have different mentorships. That's why
  297. 9:43we have different you know uh groups of
  298. 9:46friends like some friends they've known
  299. 9:48you from the start and like you guys
  300. 9:49have grown in different directions and
  301. 9:51you still love and value their
  302. 9:53friendship but maybe they're not
  303. 9:54necessarily there to push and and really
  304. 9:58help you evolve and that's okay. Like
  305. 10:00you need those people in your life. But
  306. 10:01if you don't have the people in your
  307. 10:03life that do challenge you and do push
  308. 10:06you to grow, then you need to find that
  309. 10:07big pond.
  310. 10:10>> Doing the hard things consistently.
  311. 10:12Nothing will boost your confidence more
  312. 10:14than this. When you do something that
  313. 10:16you said you would, the thing that is
  314. 10:19inconvenient, the thing that is just
  315. 10:21like so grueling and daunting, when you
  316. 10:24consistently do those things, you start
  317. 10:27taking your own [snorts] word more
  318. 10:28seriously. And one thing that I always
  319. 10:30say is like if you want to be taken more
  320. 10:32seriously, you have to start taking
  321. 10:34yourself more seriously because people
  322. 10:35will start to respect you only to the
  323. 10:37level that you really respect yourself
  324. 10:39and the way that you show up for
  325. 10:40yourself. So the more that you
  326. 10:43consistently do those things, the more
  327. 10:44that you will build more selfrust
  328. 10:47because you have stacked the evidence
  329. 10:49that your word actually means something.
  330. 10:51>> Mhm.
  331. 10:52>> Completing a big goal that [snorts] 2 to
  332. 10:553 years ago seemed very steep or near
  333. 11:00impossible. There's something called the
  334. 11:02misogi.
  335. 11:03>> Misogi. Yes. It's a uh it's a Japanese
  336. 11:05term of of essentially completing
  337. 11:08something that is
  338. 11:10>> like it's a it's a year goal, right? So,
  339. 11:12but it's it's ambitious like a misogi
  340. 11:15would be a marathon for some people. For
  341. 11:17others, it's an iron man. For others,
  342. 11:19it's it's like jumping into the piano
  343. 11:22and then learning some very um melodic
  344. 11:26song by the end of the year.
  345. 11:27>> And it's like it's something that you're
  346. 11:29training for, you're putting in time for
  347. 11:30each and every single day. Like that's a
  348. 11:32really big goal. Um, and I think what
  349. 11:35that does for you doing something of
  350. 11:37that stature is it really just expands
  351. 11:40your self-belief around a lot of stuff.
  352. 11:42Cuz
  353. 11:42>> for Audrey and I, I'd look back, you
  354. 11:44know,
  355. 11:44>> two, three, six years ago,
  356. 11:47>> it's it's hard to imagine, you know,
  357. 11:50being in the position we are now, like
  358. 11:52at that point in time, right? You can
  359. 11:54think about it, you can set the goal,
  360. 11:55but until you actually start to put
  361. 11:58forth the efforts, the daily deposits
  362. 12:00and then you get there and then boom, it
  363. 12:02opens the door,
  364. 12:03>> opens a new world of possibility.
  365. 12:05>> Yeah. And I think people always say you
  366. 12:07need to have
  367. 12:08>> uh delusional self-belief like you need
  368. 12:10to believe in yourself so much, but if
  369. 12:12your track record is that you never
  370. 12:14follow through with things, it's really
  371. 12:16hard to believe in yourself and no
  372. 12:18amount of affirmations is going to fix
  373. 12:19that. So, you really have to start and
  374. 12:21sometimes it's just a matter of starting
  375. 12:23small, right? Like you said that you
  376. 12:24were going to go to the gym today and
  377. 12:26you go to the gym today and then you
  378. 12:27stack that and you stack it and then you
  379. 12:29keep setting larger goals. But once you
  380. 12:32accomplish one big goal, like for me,
  381. 12:34what really opened up the door was
  382. 12:36competing. And that's one of the reasons
  383. 12:38why I still have such a a love for
  384. 12:41bodybuilding because I was forced to
  385. 12:45evolve so much and there it required so
  386. 12:48much of me for nine months that I was
  387. 12:50competing or prepping, sorry. For the
  388. 12:52nine months of my competition prep,
  389. 12:55there was no slacking off. There was no
  390. 12:57halfassing it. At the end of the day, I
  391. 12:59was going to be stepping on stage. And
  392. 13:01the package that I brought to the stage
  393. 13:04was the compound effect of the way that
  394. 13:07I showed up every single day. And
  395. 13:09[snorts] so accomplishing that goal of I
  396. 13:11said I was going to compete and I
  397. 13:13competed and it took a lot out of me
  398. 13:15created a level of self-belief that
  399. 13:17opened up the door of possibilities of
  400. 13:19what else can I accomplish in my life
  401. 13:21>> and I believed that I could because I
  402. 13:23did something really really hard that
  403. 13:26maybe at the beginning I questioned
  404. 13:29whether I could do it. And there were
  405. 13:30absolutely times that I wanted to give
  406. 13:31up, but I didn't. Right? And so when you
  407. 13:33go into another big goal that you set
  408. 13:35after accomplishing another one, you
  409. 13:37know that there's going to be
  410. 13:38challenges. You expect the unexpected.
  411. 13:41And because of that, you're prepared.
  412. 13:43Your mindset is prepared. And so if you
  413. 13:45just set the big goal and then you start
  414. 13:48setting other big goals, next thing you
  415. 13:49know, the goals that you're setting two
  416. 13:51years from now isn't even something that
  417. 13:53you could have comprehended or wrapped
  418. 13:54your mind around a few years ago. So you
  419. 13:58have to follow through with at least one
  420. 14:00big goal even if it's a misogi even if
  421. 14:02it's just one a year because the doors
  422. 14:05will start opening the possibilities
  423. 14:07will start opening and you'll have this
  424. 14:09mindset of everything is figure outable
  425. 14:12like I may not trust that it's going to
  426. 14:14work out in my favor but I do trust that
  427. 14:16I am going to do everything in my power
  428. 14:19to make it work like sometimes you don't
  429. 14:22know whether it's going to work or not
  430. 14:23but you know that you're going to do the
  431. 14:24work and if you at least have the faith
  432. 14:27in that and you have the confidence in
  433. 14:29yourself, then you can kind of trust
  434. 14:30that like it's going to work out.
  435. 14:32>> I love it.
  436. 14:33>> But you need the evidence.
  437. 14:34>> I love it. And into our next one is
  438. 14:37saying no more often and decreasing your
  439. 14:40tolerance with yourself.
  440. 14:43So, you know, we've experienced a lot of
  441. 14:46this, you know, more recently in the
  442. 14:47last year, two years as like things
  443. 14:50begin to expand. You have to you have to
  444. 14:53be able to
  445. 14:55discern between what things I might have
  446. 14:58been able to get away with a couple
  447. 15:00years ago when I had less
  448. 15:01responsibilities or I was less ambitious
  449. 15:03or I didn't have as much going on as
  450. 15:06comparative to now. And that's been
  451. 15:08something we've been kind of stepping
  452. 15:09through, but we realize it's such an
  453. 15:10important aspect, right? Um, not to say
  454. 15:13that like you need to cut everything out
  455. 15:15and eliminate all the stuff, but you
  456. 15:16really have to wind down on things that
  457. 15:19are deterring you from getting where you
  458. 15:22want to get to. And also at the same
  459. 15:24time is like you know do I have a
  460. 15:26tolerance for you know having just I
  461. 15:29don't know maybe mediocre people around
  462. 15:31me that aren't super ambitious or don't
  463. 15:34really respect my work or like that I
  464. 15:36work really want to work really hard or
  465. 15:38that I want to do all these things and
  466. 15:39that I want to put in more effort.
  467. 15:40>> So it's really kind of navigating and
  468. 15:42understanding that and I think everyone
  469. 15:44has to go through that on their own but
  470. 15:46I think it's important to know early on
  471. 15:48so you can kind of get the feeling when
  472. 15:51it comes around.
  473. 15:52>> Yeah. Cuz it's almost like if you're not
  474. 15:54doing it at certain stages, you can feel
  475. 15:57that like that disappointment in
  476. 15:59yourself that you'll get the the guilt
  477. 16:01that you feel like should have like not
  478. 16:04done that thing or why have I been
  479. 16:06dragging this out for 3 months. I should
  480. 16:07have, you know, made this decision
  481. 16:09months ago to like um put myself in a
  482. 16:11better position because I've been like
  483. 16:13dealing with this one thing that could
  484. 16:14have been avoided. So, it's it's really
  485. 16:17those things and it's hard to, you know,
  486. 16:18put it on one thing because everybody's
  487. 16:20everybody's going to have different
  488. 16:22circumstances for what they're
  489. 16:23experiencing, but just knowing that like
  490. 16:25having to say no, decreasing your
  491. 16:28tolerance for the BS going on around you
  492. 16:30is what you really have to start to
  493. 16:33figure out because if you don't, that's
  494. 16:36kind of one of the bigger things that
  495. 16:37could keep you spinning your wheels for
  496. 16:38a heck of a lot longer than you probably
  497. 16:40would want to.
  498. 16:41>> And I would say it's probably one of the
  499. 16:42hardest ones. Like this is still
  500. 16:44something that we struggle with these
  501. 16:46other things. As I'm reading them out
  502. 16:47loud, I'm like, "Yeah, we kind of have a
  503. 16:49down path." But it's also one of those
  504. 16:50things that you don't just check the box
  505. 16:52and now you're done. It's a constant
  506. 16:53evolution because every there there's a
  507. 16:56new devil at every level, right? And so
  508. 16:58when you get to that next version of
  509. 17:00yourself with larger goals and bigger
  510. 17:02ambitions, you'll realize that there's a
  511. 17:04new set of sacrifices that exist there.
  512. 17:07And there was a time where we could get
  513. 17:09away with going to a three-day music
  514. 17:11festival, stepping away from our team
  515. 17:14and messages and all the things. And it
  516. 17:16was okay. We would just get back on
  517. 17:18Monday and we get back right to it.
  518. 17:20>> Now, us going to a 3-day music festival
  519. 17:23where we're staying up until the sun
  520. 17:25comes up and, you know, we're not
  521. 17:27feeling our best coming back. We almost
  522. 17:29can't really sacrifice that these days.
  523. 17:31And that's okay, right? Y
  524. 17:33>> that's okay because the outcome that we
  525. 17:35want is more important to us and more of
  526. 17:38a priority than that three-day music
  527. 17:40festival. Now obviously we still
  528. 17:42prioritize fun and travel but it just
  529. 17:44looks different these days. Like there's
  530. 17:46not necessarily travel without work,
  531. 17:48right? Or again if like you're working
  532. 17:50towards improving your body composition,
  533. 17:52you might have to have a season where
  534. 17:55you are stricter with yourself. And
  535. 17:57that's kind of all of what this one
  536. 17:59comes back to is like you have to be
  537. 18:01strict with yourself, right? And if you
  538. 18:04are not only tolerating mediocrity from
  539. 18:07yourself, but also from your
  540. 18:09environment, the people around you, if
  541. 18:11you manage a team, the people on your
  542. 18:13team, then like nothing changes if
  543. 18:15nothing changes. And so you kind of have
  544. 18:18to like one of one of the ways to put
  545. 18:20this actually if you were if an audience
  546. 18:24was watching a movie of your life, what
  547. 18:26would they be screaming at you? And
  548. 18:28whatever first comes to mind is probably
  549. 18:30the thing that needs your attention the
  550. 18:32most and the thing that needs to be
  551. 18:33changed, right? Maybe for you it's like
  552. 18:35get off your damn phone. Maybe you're
  553. 18:37spending too much time doom scrolling
  554. 18:39and you could be spending that time
  555. 18:40working towards something that you want
  556. 18:42to accomplish. Right? So there's things
  557. 18:45in your life that immediately you can
  558. 18:48probably think of. Like even for us,
  559. 18:49there's things in my life where
  560. 18:50immediately I'm like, you know, we're
  561. 18:53getting to a point where I do think that
  562. 18:55that thing is potentially holding me
  563. 18:57back. For example, I'll be vulnerable.
  564. 18:59There's times where like we go out to a
  565. 19:01dinner and I had maybe like two
  566. 19:04cocktails and then I wake up the next
  567. 19:05morning and I don't feel so great and
  568. 19:07I'm like that wasn't even worth it. But
  569. 19:09I sometimes still consistently do it,
  570. 19:11right? And then at some point you just
  571. 19:13get to a point where like you have to
  572. 19:14stop tolerating that from yourself and
  573. 19:16you have to get stricter with yourself
  574. 19:18or otherwise again nothing is going to
  575. 19:19change.
  576. 19:20>> Mhm.
  577. 19:20>> And that goes handinhand with having
  578. 19:23seasons of going allin
  579. 19:26like you have seasons where you're kind
  580. 19:28of maintaining and I think those seasons
  581. 19:30are also important. Those are seasons
  582. 19:32where maybe your focus is shifted like
  583. 19:36you know maybe you you are a new mom
  584. 19:38right and so that season is you are
  585. 19:41giving your all to like postpartum and
  586. 19:43navigating the challenges that come with
  587. 19:45that but also you know being as present
  588. 19:47as possible with your newborn like
  589. 19:49that's a different season than maybe
  590. 19:50what it was two years ago. Yeah. But
  591. 19:52when you know you are working towards
  592. 19:55something really big, you can't just dip
  593. 19:57a toe in, right? Like you do have to go
  594. 20:00allin and there's going to be a form of
  595. 20:02restriction that comes with that. I
  596. 20:05think that restriction gets a really bad
  597. 20:06rep.
  598. 20:07>> It does. Yeah. Because I mean if you
  599. 20:09don't have these, it's it's like if if
  600. 20:12your results up until this point haven't
  601. 20:13been to the point that you want, right?
  602. 20:15If you're really trying to get this
  603. 20:16outcome, you have to think like you've
  604. 20:18probably been half in, half out. and you
  605. 20:20know that got you to a certain point
  606. 20:22where maybe you have a little bit of
  607. 20:23some balance on both sides of the
  608. 20:25spectrum and you're able to do some of
  609. 20:27this and do some of that. But like most
  610. 20:30the time if you're really wanting to be
  611. 20:32ambitious about getting to certain
  612. 20:35heights and certain places where only a
  613. 20:38select few of people really get to from
  614. 20:40a percentage standpoint. It's going to
  615. 20:42require you to do more that's required
  616. 20:46and cut out some of that excess in order
  617. 20:49to become that elite version of
  618. 20:51yourself.
  619. 20:51>> Yeah.
  620. 20:52>> And it it kind of takes going through
  621. 20:54that too to kind of see it. And then
  622. 20:56once you once it's really
  623. 20:57[clears throat] clear, it's like, okay,
  624. 20:59you're going to be at a crossroads
  625. 21:00crossroads and you're going to have a
  626. 21:01choice of, you know, do I really, you
  627. 21:05know, commit to the Indian here and, you
  628. 21:08know,
  629. 21:09really dig in, sink my teeth all the way
  630. 21:12in and just freaking go for it.
  631. 21:13>> Yeah.
  632. 21:14>> Or do I continue to to live in the La La
  633. 21:17Land of like good enough?
  634. 21:19>> Yeah.
  635. 21:19>> Right. So, it's like if you really want
  636. 21:21to, you know, have the really ambitious
  637. 21:24goal and and do it to the to the max, do
  638. 21:27it to the the 10th degree, you have to
  639. 21:30be willing to say, "Okay, let's freaking
  640. 21:33lock in here. Let's really go all the
  641. 21:35way and let's push all this stuff to the
  642. 21:37wayside because this is more important
  643. 21:40to me than kind of having some of that."
  644. 21:42>> Yeah. And we've talked about this
  645. 21:43before, but like if you want what most
  646. 21:45people don't have, you have to be
  647. 21:47willing to do what most people aren't
  648. 21:49willing to do. You want an above average
  649. 21:51lifestyle doing average right?
  650. 21:53That's that's it at the end of the day.
  651. 21:55That's all that we're saying here is
  652. 21:57like,
  653. 21:58>> you know, above average things or having
  654. 22:02outcomes in your life that a lot of
  655. 22:03people maybe don't have because it's
  656. 22:05it's at the top of the mountain. There's
  657. 22:07restriction that comes with that and
  658. 22:09that is not a bad thing because the
  659. 22:11opposite of not having restriction kind
  660. 22:13of just means that you are coasting and
  661. 22:16it's comfortable but you you have to get
  662. 22:17uncomfortable and you have to have those
  663. 22:19those uh strategic restrictions. And the
  664. 22:22thing is like you know if you have
  665. 22:24something that you really desire in your
  666. 22:26life if you're not willing to do what it
  667. 22:27takes to get to that thing that you're
  668. 22:29desiring then simply release yourself
  669. 22:31from the desire. That's it. So these are
  670. 22:34things that if you apply to your life
  671. 22:37and you start thinking in these ways and
  672. 22:39you accept that this is what has to
  673. 22:43happen, right? Like things have to
  674. 22:45change. Again, you can look back a year
  675. 22:47from now and realize that you are an
  676. 22:50entirely different person with a new set
  677. 22:52of beliefs. It's not easy. It's not
  678. 22:54comfortable, but it is absolutely
  679. 22:57necessary.
  680. 22:58>> Love it.
  681. 22:59>> Thank you guys for tuning in. We'll see
  682. 23:01you guys in the next episode.

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