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  1. 0:00Go ahead and do a brief introduction of
  2. 0:01Dr. Haifaa Younis. Uh she is the founder
  3. 0:03and chairman of Jannah Institute. She
  4. 0:05teaches seminars on the thematic
  5. 0:07commentary of the various chapters of
  6. 0:09the Holy Quran and their practical
  7. 0:11relevance in our day-to-day living. She
  8. 0:13is passionate about spreading the word
  9. 0:15of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala and igniting
  10. 0:17the love of Islam and the Quran through
  11. 0:19her teachings. Today, Dr. Haifaa will be
  12. 0:21discussing discussing crucial topics of
  13. 0:24navigating life as a confident Muslim.
  14. 0:27Welcome Dr. Haifaa Younis, VICS visiting
  15. 0:29scholar.
  16. 0:31Jazak Allahu Khair. Assalamualaikum.
  17. 0:34Masha Allah tabarak Allah. Is that
  18. 0:36normal every Friday?
  19. 0:39Masha Allah. And then Allah Subhana Wa
  20. 0:41Ta'ala said "Lildhakari mithlu hadhil
  21. 0:42unthayayn."
  22. 0:44The man usually inherit double the
  23. 0:46woman, right?
  24. 0:48Looks like in lectures it's the
  25. 0:49opposite.
  26. 0:51So alhamdulillah rabbil alameen.
  27. 0:52Bismillah walhamdulillah wassalatu
  28. 0:54wassalamu ala rasulillah
  29. 0:56wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa man walalah.
  30. 0:58Allahumma allimna ma yanfa'una wanfa'na
  31. 1:00bima allamtana. Innaka sami'un mujibud
  32. 1:02du'a. Allahumma inni a'udhu bika min
  33. 1:04ilmin la yanfa' wa qalbin la yakhsha' wa
  34. 1:06nafsin la tashba' wa du'ain la yusma'.
  35. 1:09Rabbana la tuzigh qulubana ba'da idh
  36. 1:11hadaytana wa hablana min ladunka rahmah.
  37. 1:14Innaka antal wahhab. Rabbi ishrah li
  38. 1:16sadri wa yassir li amri wahulul uqdatan
  39. 1:18min lisani yafqahu qawli. Alhamdulillah
  40. 1:21rabbil alameen. This is my first program
  41. 1:23as your visiting scholar. May Allah
  42. 1:25Subhana Wa Ta'ala make me worthy of
  43. 1:27these titles and may Allah Subhana Wa
  44. 1:28Ta'ala give you more and give you more.
  45. 1:31Uh
  46. 1:32knowledge and more important than
  47. 1:34knowledge as most of you, if not all of
  48. 1:36you know, is that we walk the talk as I
  49. 1:39always say. One of the first statements
  50. 1:42I learned from my teachers is walk the
  51. 1:45talk. Because we attend a lot of
  52. 1:47lectures, a lot of programs. You live in
  53. 1:50a city you don't know because you live
  54. 1:52in Dallas, but I live in California.
  55. 1:54It's called the Mecca of knowledge
  56. 1:56of the states.
  57. 1:58That's how it is. Everybody talks about
  58. 2:00Dallas. When there was a debate whether
  59. 2:03I'm moving to Dallas or staying in back
  60. 2:05in Irvine and Irvine won at the end.
  61. 2:08The question was why do you want to move
  62. 2:10to Dallas? They have everybody there.
  63. 2:13Which is true.
  64. 2:16But that's also bring with it a lot of
  65. 2:17responsibility.
  66. 2:19Because what are you doing with all this
  67. 2:21knowledge you have?
  68. 2:23With all these institutes, with with all
  69. 2:25these visiting scholars, let alone your
  70. 2:27resident scholars. So let's first all of
  71. 2:30us put this
  72. 2:32as my daily theme.
  73. 2:34As a person who lives in Dallas, a man,
  74. 2:37young man, young woman or woman,
  75. 2:41know the ne'er that Allah gave you.
  76. 2:44If you don't know what Allah gave you
  77. 2:46and you take it granted for granted,
  78. 2:49sooner or later, you know what will
  79. 2:51happen.
  80. 2:53What will happen? Anybody can answer me.
  81. 2:55Both sides. Allah will take it away.
  82. 2:58Because he will say, "You know what?
  83. 3:00They don't know the value.
  84. 3:01Fine. I'll take it away and I'll give it
  85. 3:03to somebody else."
  86. 3:05So when I come to this masjid and I
  87. 3:06travel almost every weekend to
  88. 3:08everywhere including in the world, my
  89. 3:10expectation here is way higher.
  90. 3:14So I've definitely I'm raising the bar
  91. 3:16in this especially in VRIC.
  92. 3:18The bar has to be much higher. Not only
  93. 3:21in knowledge, which mean when I ask you
  94. 3:23will answer me, but in practice.
  95. 3:27So exactly when we enter the masjid,
  96. 3:29again brothers and sisters, we enter the
  97. 3:31masjid, what do we feel? What is this
  98. 3:34place? How do I behave? How do I sit?
  99. 3:37How do I talk? I don't need someone to
  100. 3:40remind me no food or drink. I'm not
  101. 3:42going to do it. It's the house of Allah.
  102. 3:44I have heard so many lectures. I have
  103. 3:47this and that. So the bar is already
  104. 3:50raised for you people of Dallas,
  105. 3:52specially VRI see.
  106. 3:55Be up to it.
  107. 3:57Be up to it. And again, when you travel
  108. 4:00somewhere else,
  109. 4:01more than welcome can come and visit us
  110. 4:04in Irvine.
  111. 4:05Then you will see where how much Allah
  112. 4:08gave you and how many people are trying
  113. 4:10to follow you. Everyone says, and I'm
  114. 4:13I'm again, it's very nice to have an
  115. 4:15outsider
  116. 4:16that is to masjid where it is the Mecca
  117. 4:19that all the masjids go and says, "Go
  118. 4:21and see what they are doing." One of
  119. 4:23them is you.
  120. 4:24My president, the president of the
  121. 4:26Islamic Center of Irvine, where I am now
  122. 4:28the resident is called texted me and
  123. 4:30says, "When are you coming next time? I
  124. 4:33want to come and see what is this VRI
  125. 4:34see."
  126. 4:36And it is not about the beauty. This is
  127. 4:38way more beautiful, but there is a lot
  128. 4:40of a beautiful masjid also.
  129. 4:42The beauty, the place doesn't make
  130. 4:44things a special.
  131. 4:46It's the people inside.
  132. 4:48The people of Mecca were Quraysh, but it
  133. 4:51is the believers who made Mecca special.
  134. 4:54So hopefully all of you, everybody, and
  135. 4:58especially the youth who are growing up
  136. 5:00in this near Mecca, you will be
  137. 5:01different and Allah will expect
  138. 5:03different from you. Did I raise the bar
  139. 5:05already?
  140. 5:06Yeah, Rabbi Amin. Alhamdulillah.
  141. 5:09So I love the topic. I didn't choose it,
  142. 5:11by the way. I'm a guest, so I have to
  143. 5:13honor the host. What is a confident
  144. 5:17Muslim? Now you Some of you may used to
  145. 5:19my style and I'm going to share it with
  146. 5:22the brothers, too. We're going to talk.
  147. 5:24If I will talk only at 5-10 minutes, you
  148. 5:27will be bored. And you say, "You know
  149. 5:28what? I'm going to go home and listen to
  150. 5:29her on YouTube." What is confident
  151. 5:33Muslim mean? One, and if you don't mind,
  152. 5:36raise your hands. I'll take one from the
  153. 5:37sister, one from the brother. What is a
  154. 5:39confident Muslim mean?
  155. 5:41I think it means that to live up your
  156. 5:44So to live up a confident Muslim to live
  157. 5:47up your Islamic value. Anyone from the
  158. 5:49brothers?
  159. 5:51Anybody want to define it?
  160. 5:53Have you ever thought of this? Am I a
  161. 5:56confident Muslim? Are you a confident
  162. 5:58Muslim? Are you?
  163. 6:01So, you need to look at what confident
  164. 6:03and what a Muslim. Muslim we all know
  165. 6:06externally.
  166. 6:08A Muslim, we all know what is Islam. The
  167. 6:11famous Hadith of Sayyidina Jibreel and
  168. 6:12to mean by Allah and
  169. 6:16the shadow and light of Allah and
  170. 6:17Muhammad and Rasulullah what to give us
  171. 6:19Allah what to give us a car to some of
  172. 6:22them what to have your bait in the stuff
  173. 6:23that is similar. You know the five
  174. 6:25pillars of Islam that everybody is
  175. 6:29know or everybody should know, which is
  176. 6:31basically
  177. 6:33bear witness Allah is one and then you
  178. 6:35perform salah, you do zakat if you are
  179. 6:37eligible and you fast Ramadan if you can
  180. 6:40and you go to Hajj. Is that what we mean
  181. 6:42by the confident Muslim?
  182. 6:45There's way more.
  183. 6:47And if I and you and we
  184. 6:51do number two
  185. 6:54So, I'm going to divide it in one and
  186. 6:55two. One is the confident.
  187. 6:57Two is the Muslim.
  188. 6:59If I am the true two
  189. 7:02the confident is is taken is is granted.
  190. 7:06Are you all with me?
  191. 7:08What the what what what does this mean?
  192. 7:11Who is the real Muslim?
  193. 7:13I'm not talking about the external.
  194. 7:16I'm not talking about the external. If
  195. 7:18all if it's only the external, then
  196. 7:20there is no need to discuss this topic
  197. 7:22because we are all the external or
  198. 7:23sitting in the masjid. There has to be
  199. 7:25more than that.
  200. 7:27The real Muslim is and I highly
  201. 7:29recommend everybody here. Again, I'm
  202. 7:31raising the bar for you.
  203. 7:33Is just just Google or go and read how
  204. 7:37did the Rasul Allah Wasallam in
  205. 7:39different
  206. 7:40Hadiths define the Muslim.
  207. 7:43For example, al Muslim
  208. 7:46that's Hadith man selling Muslim on men
  209. 7:50Yadi he will he say no the real Muslim
  210. 7:53is the Muslim who the Muslims feel safe
  211. 7:57from his or her tongue and hand meaning
  212. 8:01again as I always remind myself and
  213. 8:03everybody what does this mean for me
  214. 8:05living now?
  215. 8:07Meaning when I come to this Masjid
  216. 8:09whether I entered from that door or I
  217. 8:11entered from this door or from the back.
  218. 8:14When I see you and you are the true
  219. 8:16Muslim number two
  220. 8:18I am not worried that you will hurt me
  221. 8:21or he will hurt me or I am going to hear
  222. 8:24something
  223. 8:25that is hurtful whether directly to me
  224. 8:29or whether to another person.
  225. 8:31Whether by saying, whether by acting,
  226. 8:34whether by the way I pray, whether I'm
  227. 8:36bringing my children with me to the
  228. 8:37Masjid may Allah bless the children
  229. 8:41but I'm not going to hurt the other
  230. 8:42people.
  231. 8:44Whether my children cries
  232. 8:46and then I leave them whether I'm
  233. 8:48getting my phone with me and the phone
  234. 8:49is ringing and I leave it.
  235. 8:52So number one, am I the real Muslim that
  236. 8:56Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala want me when I
  237. 8:58am going to be standing in front of him
  238. 9:00and all of us will. Am I going to say ya
  239. 9:02Rabbi this is me, this is what you
  240. 9:04wanted and I worked on it and here I am.
  241. 9:08So here you go.
  242. 9:10Woman as a new dinner Allah describe the
  243. 9:13dinner here as Islam but it is not the
  244. 9:15way I and you know woman as a new dinner
  245. 9:18women as a new watch a whole dinner
  246. 9:21wah who Muslim
  247. 9:24who is better Muslim than who take Islam
  248. 9:27as his or her religion wah who Muslim
  249. 9:30two things.
  250. 9:32The real Islam my beautiful sisters and
  251. 9:34dear brothers
  252. 9:36is you submit to the will of Allah.
  253. 9:40You all know what this means, but it is
  254. 9:42not easy to understand and practice.
  255. 9:46Whatever Allah wants me to do,
  256. 9:50I My answer is Who can answer me?
  257. 9:54It's a verse in the Quran.
  258. 10:00Allah said, "You going to move to
  259. 10:01Dallas." Allah said, "You staying in
  260. 10:04California." Allah said, "You're not
  261. 10:06going to have children." Allah said,
  262. 10:08"You will not get married." Allah said
  263. 10:10this, Allah said that through his
  264. 10:12actions and qadar, my answer is samena
  265. 10:15wa atana.
  266. 10:18Majority of us, humanity, we are part of
  267. 10:22it, living in this day and age of
  268. 10:26technology and everything is under my
  269. 10:28control, I think,
  270. 10:31finding this very difficult.
  271. 10:35So, the confident before the confidence
  272. 10:38comes in,
  273. 10:39I need to to be the real Muslim first.
  274. 10:43And again, I'm going deeper. I'm not
  275. 10:45getting externally. Externally,
  276. 10:46alhamdulillah, we are all.
  277. 10:48That's There's no doubt about that. But
  278. 10:50the reality of a Muslim, because if I am
  279. 10:53the real Muslim, samena wa atana,
  280. 10:55confidence follow
  281. 10:57like your baby follows you.
  282. 11:00That's number one.
  283. 11:01Now, come to the confidence, and then
  284. 11:03I'm going to share with you some
  285. 11:04examples from the real confident
  286. 11:07Muslims.
  287. 11:09So, we can compare. Maybe we are, and
  288. 11:12maybe we need some improvement, or we
  289. 11:14need
  290. 11:15a lot of improvement.
  291. 11:18So, what is confidence? Who can define
  292. 11:19confidence for me? This is not Islamic.
  293. 11:21What is confidence?
  294. 11:23Anybody?
  295. 11:26Yes.
  296. 11:27It's a simple question, right?
  297. 11:29Yeah, this is what we need. We need
  298. 11:31simplicity.
  299. 11:33And just think of the word. What is
  300. 11:34simple? What is confidence?
  301. 11:38Being unapologetic.
  302. 11:41It's a very dangerous word, Hadi.
  303. 11:44I'm glad you said it. Yes, about what?
  304. 11:49So, unapologetic about being a Muslim.
  305. 11:53There's a fine line between
  306. 11:55confidence and
  307. 11:58arrogance.
  308. 12:00This is exactly what I wanted to get to
  309. 12:02and alhamdulillah you said it.
  310. 12:04Very fine line.
  311. 12:06When I stand up in let's say in an
  312. 12:09interfaith
  313. 12:10and I'm sure you have this here and I
  314. 12:12say Islam is the truth.
  315. 12:15I come out as
  316. 12:17arrogant.
  317. 12:19I'm confident.
  318. 12:21It's true inside me, but I came out as
  319. 12:23an arrogant.
  320. 12:24When I if I'm practicing externally the
  321. 12:27way we are as sisters alhamdulillah the
  322. 12:29brothers, you come five times to the
  323. 12:31masjid Fajr especially and then you look
  324. 12:33down at somebody
  325. 12:35for whatever the reason
  326. 12:37Allah not yet blessed them with this
  327. 12:41then I'm not confident, I'm arrogant.
  328. 12:44It's a very fine line.
  329. 12:47Very fine line.
  330. 12:49And this is sometimes us people of
  331. 12:51masajid
  332. 12:52May Allah make us truly people of
  333. 12:54masajid.
  334. 12:56That Allah will look at us on day of
  335. 12:57judgement and says innam
  336. 12:59masajid Allah. Truly the those people
  337. 13:02who will flourish and build the masjid
  338. 13:05of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. May Allah
  339. 13:06make us not build only by money money
  340. 13:09and donation, but by presence.
  341. 13:11So, be careful. Always ask yourself, am
  342. 13:14I confident or am I arrogant?
  343. 13:18I'm give you I'll give you practical
  344. 13:20example of a confident Muslim.
  345. 13:23How many of you and I know this is to
  346. 13:24the brothers. You travel
  347. 13:26frequently.
  348. 13:28How many brothers do you travel
  349. 13:29frequently for business or you live here
  350. 13:31and family lives somewhere else? Can I
  351. 13:33see hands?
  352. 13:35Not okay.
  353. 13:37And how many sisters?
  354. 13:40Right. Do you pray in in the in the
  355. 13:43airport?
  356. 13:45Right? Then you're confident.
  357. 13:49You're not worried about somebody is
  358. 13:50looking at you.
  359. 13:52A lot of people are.
  360. 13:54Or what they will say.
  361. 13:56That's confidence.
  362. 13:59Did you get my point? Confidence is
  363. 14:02I know
  364. 14:04two things. I know.
  365. 14:06I know what I am doing is right not
  366. 14:09because it's my opinion and I studied
  367. 14:12and I have this degree and that degree
  368. 14:14cuz he said so. And who's he?
  369. 14:17I want to hear it.
  370. 14:19With capital
  371. 14:20H.
  372. 14:23And number two, the most important.
  373. 14:25That's why I asked about the prayer in
  374. 14:27the in the airport or in public places.
  375. 14:31I am
  376. 14:32110%
  377. 14:34sure
  378. 14:36he will never let me down.
  379. 14:39Never let me down.
  380. 14:42That's confidence.
  381. 14:44Confidence has nothing to do with other
  382. 14:46people, what they are doing. It's
  383. 14:48absolutely related to me.
  384. 14:51To me.
  385. 14:52I'll give you one example from the Quran
  386. 14:54not about the Muslim. Of course, he's
  387. 14:56Muslim by the general name of Islam but
  388. 14:59he came way before
  389. 15:02and that's Sayyidna Sulayman.
  390. 15:04Right? Sayyidna Sulayman, what is the
  391. 15:07uniqueness about Sayyidna Sulayman? Who
  392. 15:10can tell me? He's a prophet, I know.
  393. 15:12He's a prophet. What is so special about
  394. 15:14him?
  395. 15:15As a prophet
  396. 15:17he was very
  397. 15:19he He very
  398. 15:21rich.
  399. 15:23He made a dua. Rabbi
  400. 15:31He made a dua for himself. Anybody wants
  401. 15:33to be rich,
  402. 15:36don't go right and left. What kind of a
  403. 15:38business I'm going to do? What's
  404. 15:39investment? Go to the source and make
  405. 15:42the dua of Sayyidna Sulaiman. Rabbi hab
  406. 15:44li mulkan. Ya Allah, give me
  407. 15:46uh sovereignty
  408. 15:49that nobody after me will have it.
  409. 15:52And then he didn't say, "Well, maybe
  410. 15:54maybe not." He said, "Innak
  411. 15:56antal Wahhab. You are the one who gives
  412. 16:00without asking and gives wahhab when you
  413. 16:04give without people asking and without
  414. 16:06expecting back."
  415. 16:08Immediately after he said that,
  416. 16:11what is the next immediately?
  417. 16:13Fasakhkharna lahu r-riha tajri bi amrihi
  418. 16:16rukha'an haythu asab. This is in Surat
  419. 16:19Sad. Immediately Allah used fa.
  420. 16:22Fa is a letter in the Arabic language
  421. 16:25meaning it is happening immediately.
  422. 16:29Thumma, you would read so those of you
  423. 16:31who know Arabic. Thumma meaning it
  424. 16:33happened but it's after a while. This
  425. 16:36one right away. What did What happened?
  426. 16:39Sakhkharna lahu r-rih. The wind
  427. 16:42follows him.
  428. 16:44Why?
  429. 16:45It's not hurricane, no destruction.
  430. 16:48On the contrary, or rukha'an haythu
  431. 16:51asab. Wherever he goes, the wind behind
  432. 16:54him and then there is a prosperity where
  433. 16:56he is.
  434. 16:58When he made the dua to Allah subhanahu
  435. 17:01wa ta'ala, was he confident?
  436. 17:04I want to hear it.
  437. 17:05In what?
  438. 17:08In Raise one one person. What was he
  439. 17:10confident about?
  440. 17:12Two things.
  441. 17:14Two things. Nothing about him.
  442. 17:17I did it. I deserve it.
  443. 17:20He knew Allah is hearing him.
  444. 17:25Make
  445. 17:29the dua and you are confident.
  446. 17:32Have certainty that Allah will respond.
  447. 17:35So, number one, he asked Allah something
  448. 17:38impossible.
  449. 17:41But he knew Allah is hearing him.
  450. 17:45And number two,
  451. 17:47he knows Allah will do it.
  452. 17:49And number three, it's a subtle meaning
  453. 17:52because he used the name of Allah
  454. 17:54al-Wahhab. He didn't put al-Razzaq. And
  455. 17:57this is something you all have to learn
  456. 17:59when you read the Quran. Why this name,
  457. 18:01ya Allah? Because when you say Wahhab,
  458. 18:04when Allah
  459. 18:05gives something and it's usually related
  460. 18:06to Allah, doesn't mean you deserve it.
  461. 18:11It could be you don't deserve it at all,
  462. 18:13but Allah can give it.
  463. 18:16The confident Muslim.
  464. 18:18Now back to this day and age. And I'm
  465. 18:20here to speaking to the youth.
  466. 18:23Anybody here, how many people are in
  467. 18:24college here?
  468. 18:26College students?
  469. 18:27Not many. How about high school?
  470. 18:30High school. How many in
  471. 18:34Yeah, okay. High school. You live in
  472. 18:36Texas, it's a it's a plus.
  473. 18:40Me coming from California.
  474. 18:42We have way more challenges than you
  475. 18:44have.
  476. 18:46The confident Muslim.
  477. 18:48They stand up wherever they are.
  478. 18:51Wherever Allah put them.
  479. 18:53And they know
  480. 18:55when they are in that choice
  481. 18:58between
  482. 18:59practicing Islam
  483. 19:01physically
  484. 19:03or saying things pleasing to Allah in
  485. 19:05the best way
  486. 19:07versus going with the flow.
  487. 19:12That is the confident Muslim.
  488. 19:15I I had this last weekend. I was in
  489. 19:17Minnesota.
  490. 19:19And a a first year college student came
  491. 19:22to me.
  492. 19:24And says, "Shaykha, the first day in in
  493. 19:27school, in class,
  494. 19:30her professor
  495. 19:31looked at all the students and said the
  496. 19:33following." And she said, "He was
  497. 19:35looking at me."
  498. 19:37She was the only Muslim in that class.
  499. 19:39That's why I asked who's in college.
  500. 19:41And he said the following, "I want every
  501. 19:45student in this class to use pronoun."
  502. 19:50And you know what's pronoun?
  503. 19:52Yes, everybody?
  504. 19:54He,
  505. 19:55his,
  506. 19:57her,
  507. 19:58she.
  508. 20:01And he was looking at her.
  509. 20:04And he said it three times looking at
  510. 20:06her.
  511. 20:08Now, the confident Muslim is under
  512. 20:11the radar.
  513. 20:13Under the test.
  514. 20:16And she came to me and she says, "What
  515. 20:18should I do?"
  516. 20:21This is your confidence, your yaqin,
  517. 20:24certainty in Allah has been tested.
  518. 20:28And I said, "The first thing you should
  519. 20:30turn to Allah al-Wahhab.
  520. 20:33The first thing the confident Muslim
  521. 20:36is not what you say and do. It's your
  522. 20:38relationship with him.
  523. 20:41You turn to him and says, "Ya Allah,
  524. 20:43I don't want to do or say anything
  525. 20:44that's not pleasing to you.
  526. 20:47Show me
  527. 20:48how I'm going to handle this."
  528. 20:50With the certainty, that's the certainty
  529. 20:52of Sayyidina Sulaiman. He's listening.
  530. 20:55He will do it. He'll show you. He'll
  531. 20:58guide you.
  532. 21:00So, that's number one. And number two,
  533. 21:02you go and explain it in a very nice,
  534. 21:05confident way
  535. 21:07that this is not something we as Muslims
  536. 21:11say simply because there is
  537. 21:14we don't need to do that. And I went
  538. 21:17into a lot of details, but that's not
  539. 21:18the the point. The point is confident
  540. 21:22Muslim is the Muslim who
  541. 21:24knows it's the truth, but don't say it,
  542. 21:28but act by it.
  543. 21:31Nothing nothing
  544. 21:35sway you right and left.
  545. 21:37So, if everybody doing this, and this is
  546. 21:39what Islam want me, alhamdulillah,
  547. 21:41that's great. But if everyone doing
  548. 21:44something and Islam says no, now I need
  549. 21:46to find excuses
  550. 21:48to do to be fitting.
  551. 21:52Confident Muslim. So, Sayyidna Sulaiman
  552. 21:55the second test to Sayyidna Sulaiman,
  553. 21:57and I brought Sayyidna Sulaiman because
  554. 21:59Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave him all
  555. 22:01what we all want in this dunya.
  556. 22:04When they wanted to lure him,
  557. 22:08the Queen of Saba, Sheba, she wanted to
  558. 22:12sway him.
  559. 22:14Right? Qalat ya ayyuhal mala'u aftuni fi
  560. 22:17amri. Ma kunti qati'atan amran hatta
  561. 22:20tashhadun. She did consultation with her
  562. 22:22people. Says, "Okay, people, my people,
  563. 22:25tell me what should I do? He sent me
  564. 22:26this letter.
  565. 22:28And he want us to be Muslims."
  566. 22:30And the people said, "You decide. You
  567. 22:32are You are the leader."
  568. 22:34Now, she used a trick that many of us
  569. 22:37get tested this day and age. She said,
  570. 22:40"Let me try this trick. I'm going to
  571. 22:42send him a gift."
  572. 22:44And what kind of a gift?
  573. 22:47She's the Queen of Sheba.
  574. 22:49How did he respond?
  575. 22:53You do this.
  576. 22:55That is not what Allah wants me to do,
  577. 22:58but I'm going to get this.
  578. 23:00So, it's okay, let's do it just one
  579. 23:02time.
  580. 23:03I'm not a confident Muslim. What did he
  581. 23:06respond?
  582. 23:10You're trying to lure me with money?
  583. 23:13This is exactly how you read it. What?
  584. 23:17Do you think I'm going to change my mind
  585. 23:20because you're going to give me money?
  586. 23:23Now, the confident Muslim in the unseen
  587. 23:26for my end of Allah what Allah has is
  588. 23:29way better than what you are giving me.
  589. 23:33The confident Muslim
  590. 23:35is the Muslim who knows or Muslima
  591. 23:38who knows I know you again.
  592. 23:42As you are seeing it, as you're seeing
  593. 23:44Jannah.
  594. 23:45Not hearing or imagining, seeing that
  595. 23:48Allah and I want everyone if you're
  596. 23:51writing write this statement.
  597. 23:53Will never
  598. 23:55ever let you down.
  599. 23:59As long as you are pleasing him and
  600. 24:03doing what he wants you to do.
  601. 24:06And that's what he did.
  602. 24:08Being confident doesn't mean I'm not
  603. 24:10going to take the means.
  604. 24:12That doesn't mean I'm not going to look
  605. 24:14and see how should I prove my point and
  606. 24:17that's what say the Suleiman did.
  607. 24:25I want to do something. That's what he
  608. 24:27was thinking. I want to do something to
  609. 24:29impress her and tell her I am better.
  610. 24:32Meaning we are better. And he looked at
  611. 24:34his people and start planning.
  612. 24:37Confident Muslim when you are in that
  613. 24:39school
  614. 24:40when you are in that job when you are in
  615. 24:43that company.
  616. 24:46Don't be shy
  617. 24:47to say who you are.
  618. 24:51Don't don't say
  619. 24:53and I actually had again that question
  620. 24:55last week.
  621. 24:57I just can't fast on Monday and
  622. 24:58Thursday. And I said, "Why?"
  623. 25:01They said, literally, this is a question
  624. 25:02came to me. And the questioner said,
  625. 25:05"Because every Monday we have a meeting
  626. 25:08in the company at lunchtime, and the
  627. 25:10managers bring lunch." And I said,
  628. 25:12"And?"
  629. 25:14She said, "I feel uncomfortable
  630. 25:16telling people I'm fasting." And I said,
  631. 25:18"Why?"
  632. 25:21Why?
  633. 25:23And I said, "I work Well, you know, I
  634. 25:24had I would be happy from the word I,
  635. 25:26but I had my office and finally I worked
  636. 25:29in a hospital. And then every Monday I'm
  637. 25:31fasting. So, this is usually very common
  638. 25:32on Monday meetings and things. So, you
  639. 25:35go to the manager, she brings the food.
  640. 25:37And I said, "Of course I want the food,
  641. 25:39but I'm not eating with you. I'll take
  642. 25:41it home and I'll eat after sunset."
  643. 25:45First time everybody looking at me. Why?
  644. 25:48That's your opportunity to teach people
  645. 25:50about Islam. I said, "I fast Monday and
  646. 25:52Thursday." "Why, Dr. Younus?"
  647. 25:55I said, "Because we are we Muslim
  648. 25:58believe
  649. 25:59that our deeds is presented to Allah
  650. 26:02weekly deed presented to Allah on Monday
  651. 26:05and Thursday. And the most beloved deed
  652. 26:07to Allah is fasting and he will be
  653. 26:11happier when I present my deed and I am
  654. 26:14fasting."
  655. 26:16Is that Does that makes anybody
  656. 26:18uncomfortable?
  657. 26:20Did you not explain it the right way in
  658. 26:22the nice way? And they accepted. Now
  659. 26:24every Monday
  660. 26:26the food is on the side.
  661. 26:29It says, "Dr. Younus, your food after
  662. 26:31sunset."
  663. 26:35Why?
  664. 26:36That's a question I'm throwing it to
  665. 26:38everybody.
  666. 26:39Especially the youth.
  667. 26:41Why do you want to be like everybody
  668. 26:43else?
  669. 26:45Why not everybody else like me?
  670. 26:49And this is what Sayyidna Omar asked the
  671. 26:50Rasul Sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
  672. 26:52all I'm sure know the story.
  673. 26:55When they went so they call Sulhul
  674. 26:57Hudaybiyyah the Hudaybiyyah treaty.
  675. 27:00So basically story short long short they
  676. 27:03decided they that they are going to
  677. 27:05Mecca for Umrah everybody was wearing
  678. 27:07the the Ihram and they're going Rasul
  679. 27:10alaihi salaam Sayyidna Abu Bakr Sayyidna
  680. 27:12Umar was with them.
  681. 27:13Right? And then then the negotiation and
  682. 27:15they prevented them from going to Umrah
  683. 27:18and they reached the treaty. If you read
  684. 27:20the treaty and I'm sure this was
  685. 27:22discussed in this masjid. When you read
  686. 27:24when you read the rules that the Rasul
  687. 27:28alaihi salaam
  688. 27:30signed
  689. 27:31externally
  690. 27:33why?
  691. 27:34This is putting us down. Nobody could
  692. 27:37say anything cuz that's a Rasul alaihi
  693. 27:38salaam
  694. 27:40who stood up and asked
  695. 27:42anybody knows?
  696. 27:44I want to hear it.
  697. 27:45Sayyidna Umar.
  698. 27:48And he said the following confident
  699. 27:50Muslim.
  700. 27:53Pay attention. He said ya Rasul Allah
  701. 27:55alast an nabi Allah aren't you the nabi?
  702. 27:59And he was upset not for himself was
  703. 28:02upset for the deen.
  704. 28:05Because if you read it externally it is
  705. 28:08an insult to them to the Muslims.
  706. 28:11And Rasul alaihi salaam
  707. 28:13said yes.
  708. 28:14Are alast na al haqq are we not on the
  709. 28:17right path? He said yes.
  710. 28:20Didn't you promised us that you're
  711. 28:22taking us to Mecca?
  712. 28:25And then I'll tell you what he said
  713. 28:27later on in his life and Rasul alaihi
  714. 28:29salaam wa salaam
  715. 28:31he didn't get upset.
  716. 28:32He didn't tell him how dare you ask me
  717. 28:34this question.
  718. 28:37He said did I say this year?
  719. 28:40A qultu hadhal aam?
  720. 28:43And Sayyidna Umar didn't say a word.
  721. 28:47Later on he used to make a lot of
  722. 28:50istighfar to Allah
  723. 28:52because of the way he asked the Rasul
  724. 28:54alayhi sal Allah wa sallam. Many lessons
  725. 28:56from this incident.
  726. 28:58You ask
  727. 29:00because you care about this deen.
  728. 29:03Not because you are un not confident and
  729. 29:06you're not sure and why everybody else
  730. 29:09is not doing it because you care about
  731. 29:11this deen. But when you are wrong, this
  732. 29:13is what I want to come now.
  733. 29:15When you are wrong
  734. 29:18then you need to admit you are wrong.
  735. 29:21Otherwise, I am arrogant.
  736. 29:24The confident Muslim
  737. 29:26believe or Muslima believe he or she are
  738. 29:29human beings
  739. 29:31and human beings makes
  740. 29:34mistakes. There's a famous
  741. 29:37statement or a quote from the 1800, "To
  742. 29:41err is a human."
  743. 29:43"To err is a human." Sign that you are
  744. 29:46human is you make mistakes. Even if I
  745. 29:48and you are the best Muslims, we make
  746. 29:50mistakes.
  747. 29:51Our Rasul alayhi sal Allah wa sallam,
  748. 29:52those of you who were in the second
  749. 29:54Jum'ah, may Allah reward the khatib,
  750. 29:56quoted "Abasa wa tawalla."
  751. 29:58Right? The verse in the Quran where the
  752. 30:00Rasul alayhi sal Allah wa sallam made a
  753. 30:02mistake.
  754. 30:03And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
  755. 30:05reprimanded him in the Quran that I and
  756. 30:08you reading it right now. There's
  757. 30:10nothing wrong with that. When you make a
  758. 30:12mistake you say, "I did it." and
  759. 30:15apologize.
  760. 30:16Apologize. Don't be defensive.
  761. 30:20Don't say this and that.
  762. 30:22Because otherwise, you are now moving to
  763. 30:25arrogance.
  764. 30:27So, if I am reading, let's say, the Imam
  765. 30:30is here
  766. 30:31and he made a mistake in the qira'ah,
  767. 30:33which is very common. Right? And someone
  768. 30:36corrected him.
  769. 30:38The sign the Imam is confident Muslim
  770. 30:42accepted
  771. 30:44corrected, finish the salah and look at
  772. 30:47the brothers says Jazakallah Khair.
  773. 30:50Then I'm confident.
  774. 30:52Because I know who I am and my ability.
  775. 30:56Did you all get me?
  776. 30:57The confident is not arrogant I'm always
  777. 30:59right.
  778. 31:01Who are you to teach me?
  779. 31:03Right?
  780. 31:04Sayyidna Umar ibn Abd al-Aziz
  781. 31:06Umar ibn Abd al-Aziz you all know.
  782. 31:09He the
  783. 31:10an entourage from Yemen came to visit
  784. 31:13him.
  785. 31:14The leader of the entourage was 10 years
  786. 31:17old.
  787. 31:20And Sayyidna Umar was surprised you know
  788. 31:23they didn't find older person.
  789. 31:26So he asked him.
  790. 31:28The 10-year-old he said you are their
  791. 31:30leader? There's a lot of men behind him.
  792. 31:33He said yes.
  793. 31:34The boy the confident Muslim
  794. 31:37Now he's in front of Sayyidna Umar ibn
  795. 31:39Abd al-Aziz.
  796. 31:41So he felt that Sayyidna Umar
  797. 31:44is asking him because he's too young.
  798. 31:47What is that?
  799. 31:48And he said and Sayyidna Umar was young
  800. 31:52also relatively as a leader. So he said
  801. 31:55to him
  802. 31:56is the leader I'm just paraphrasing. Is
  803. 31:58the leader by age
  804. 32:01or the leader 10-year-old
  805. 32:04is the leader by age
  806. 32:06or the leader by qualification?
  807. 32:10Is that confidence?
  808. 32:12I want to hear it.
  809. 32:15Is Sayyidna Umar ibn Abd al-Aziz
  810. 32:17confident or arrogant? Hasha.
  811. 32:20If a 10-year-old look at you
  812. 32:23or me
  813. 32:24and answer this way, how will I take it?
  814. 32:2810 years of age
  815. 32:31Sayyidna Umar said
  816. 32:34by the meaning again by qualification.
  817. 32:36You know what the 10-year-old answered?
  818. 32:39He said, "That's why you are
  819. 32:42the leader of the believers, and you're
  820. 32:44not the oldest one."
  821. 32:47Is that confidence?
  822. 32:53That's what we need.
  823. 32:55What we need, as Al-Hujjat al-Baligha,
  824. 32:58Allah said it, "Falillahil Hujjatul
  825. 33:00Baligha."
  826. 33:02We all
  827. 33:03all
  828. 33:04need to be proud without arrogance.
  829. 33:09Confident without arrogance. Believe in
  830. 33:13what we believe truly
  831. 33:16without being arrogant. And I'm fo-
  832. 33:18focusing on our arrogance cuz I see it.
  833. 33:22And may Allah protect me, number one,
  834. 33:24and all of us.
  835. 33:26Confident.
  836. 33:28You are strong.
  837. 33:30They come together.
  838. 33:32And you live by this Hadith. For Rasul
  839. 33:35Allah alayhi salatu was salam,
  840. 33:36"Al-Mu'minul Qawi
  841. 33:38khairun wa ahabbu ilallah minal Mu'minid
  842. 33:41Da'if."
  843. 33:43The strong believer more beloved
  844. 33:46and more preferred to Allah than the
  845. 33:50weak believer. Wa fi kullin khair, but
  846. 33:52both there is goodness in them.
  847. 33:54Sign of strength is not being loud.
  848. 34:00Sign of strength
  849. 34:02not being
  850. 34:04arrogant and dominant.
  851. 34:06Sign of strength is not you never
  852. 34:09apologize and you never make a mistake.
  853. 34:11It's on the contrary.
  854. 34:14As Rasul Allah alayhi salatu was salam,
  855. 34:16when they came to him and took his
  856. 34:17opinion about the tree in Medina, and
  857. 34:20some of you may know the story.
  858. 34:22And then another man came to him and
  859. 34:24says, "No, ya Rasul Allah." Then he
  860. 34:26said,
  861. 34:27"Ahlul The people of Medina they know
  862. 34:30better than me."
  863. 34:32Confident.
  864. 34:34Now the the the I call it the
  865. 34:36million-dollar question.
  866. 34:38Where does the confidence comes from?
  867. 34:41Who can answer me?
  868. 34:42Or basically, how do I become confident
  869. 34:44Muslim?
  870. 34:46Yes.
  871. 34:49Faith in Allah. Absolutely.
  872. 34:52Before and after the faith of Allah,
  873. 34:55what do I need?
  874. 34:58What do I need?
  875. 34:59Knowledge. Knowledge in what?
  876. 35:04Knowledge of Dean, that's a huge word.
  877. 35:07You know, only the scholars who are here
  878. 35:10are the confident Muslim?
  879. 35:12You know, after that it doesn't apply to
  880. 35:14us?
  881. 35:16Otherwise, why we are talking?
  882. 35:20What kind of knowledge that every Muslim
  883. 35:23and Muslima
  884. 35:25need to know? Number one.
  885. 35:28Before even salah and siam and
  886. 35:29everything. The brothers are too quiet.
  887. 35:35You need to know who is he.
  888. 35:39Who is Allah?
  889. 35:42Who is Allah? So when you turn to him
  890. 35:45and says, "Ya Allah, protect me. Ya
  891. 35:48Allah, give me. Ya Allah, make me
  892. 35:51stronger." You know he hears and give
  893. 35:55and able to do.
  894. 35:57The confident Muslim is not the Muslim
  895. 36:00or Muslima.
  896. 36:02That one day need something, they going
  897. 36:04to try everything they know.
  898. 36:07And then when nothing works, they turn
  899. 36:10to Allah and says, "Ya Allah, please do
  900. 36:11it."
  901. 36:13I tried everything.
  902. 36:15That's not
  903. 36:17You put him, may Allah forgive me, put
  904. 36:19him
  905. 36:21the last resort.
  906. 36:23That's not the confident Muslim.
  907. 36:25The confident Muslim is the better.
  908. 36:29That's why everybody
  909. 36:31referred to
  910. 36:33before and after better they say or the
  911. 36:35Sahabi Shahid better. That companion was
  912. 36:39in better. That he's a different. Why?
  913. 36:42There were 300 versus 1,000.
  914. 36:45But they were confident.
  915. 36:47With all the confidence still Rasul
  916. 36:49Allah was Salam the night of the battle.
  917. 36:52Tomorrow is the battle. What was he
  918. 36:54doing all night?
  919. 36:56Making dua. You all know this. And what
  920. 36:59kind of a dua?
  921. 37:01The dua that is described one of the
  922. 37:04ways we learned. What is the etiquette
  923. 37:06of dua? Where is your hand in dua? Is
  924. 37:09they referred to his dua it during the
  925. 37:12night of better. And what did he say?
  926. 37:16If you will not let this to Allah, if
  927. 37:19you will not give this small group
  928. 37:23victory, who will worship you on this
  929. 37:26earth?
  930. 37:29Look even at the dua.
  931. 37:31If you will not give If
  932. 37:37you are not going to give victory to
  933. 37:39this small group 300, who will worship
  934. 37:43you?
  935. 37:45So if every woman
  936. 37:47feels uncomfortable and
  937. 37:49not confident to show herself as the
  938. 37:52true Muslima outside, who's going to do
  939. 37:56And if every brother can't say I'm a
  940. 37:59Muslim, I can do this, I can do that
  941. 38:01because I'm a Muslim, who's going to do
  942. 38:02it?
  943. 38:05We need to become and move
  944. 38:09and work on us becoming a confident
  945. 38:11Muslim. How many of you were here in
  946. 38:14during September 11?
  947. 38:18Right. So majority you were not here.
  948. 38:21That's when the confident Muslim was
  949. 38:23tested.
  950. 38:25You were not here. I was actually going
  951. 38:28to the I was in labor and delivery that
  952. 38:29day. And I remember I looked at the
  953. 38:31screen
  954. 38:32and I was like and then the nurse looked
  955. 38:34at me and said, "Dr. Younis, do you know
  956. 38:35what happened?" And I was looking and
  957. 38:37the second plane hit the tower.
  958. 38:40Tell us and everybody remember this what
  959. 38:44we went through.
  960. 38:46And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
  961. 38:48tested us.
  962. 38:50Be confident.
  963. 38:53Be sure.
  964. 38:54And I will end up with this so I can
  965. 38:56leave some time for question and
  966. 38:57answers.
  967. 38:59Be like Sayeda Hajer.
  968. 39:01Woman and brothers and men.
  969. 39:05When Sayyidna Ibrahim left her alone
  970. 39:08in the middle of nowhere
  971. 39:10with a baby
  972. 39:11Ismail that they were waiting or Ishaq.
  973. 39:14No, Ismail is one. When they were
  974. 39:15waiting for him for years
  975. 39:18and he couldn't even look back
  976. 39:21cuz he couldn't. He was walking. He was
  977. 39:23moving cuz Allah told him leave.
  978. 39:25And and she said, "You're leaving us
  979. 39:27here? Are you leaving us here?"
  980. 39:31No answer. "Are you leaving us here?"
  981. 39:34Basically, death penalty.
  982. 39:36And he didn't answer. Three times.
  983. 39:38Finally, the confident Muslima
  984. 39:41she asked the famous question, "Allahu
  985. 39:44amarak? Did Allah
  986. 39:46ordered you?
  987. 39:47Did Allah ordered you?"
  988. 39:49And he said, "Yes, Allah."
  989. 39:51"By Allah is Allah?" He said, "Yes." She
  990. 39:54said, "Go.
  991. 39:56Allah will never let us down."
  992. 39:59That's the confident Muslima. That's the
  993. 40:02confident Muslim.
  994. 40:04I need this.
  995. 40:06The best way to get there
  996. 40:09one is dua. Ask Allah.
  997. 40:12We need to ask Allah for dunya, but
  998. 40:13let's make akhirah.
  999. 40:15And Islam is also part my dua. Ya Allah,
  1000. 40:18antal Qawi, Qawini. Ya Allah, you are
  1001. 40:21the strong.
  1002. 40:22Make me strong and keep me strong.
  1003. 40:26Ya Allah, teach me how to become strong.
  1004. 40:29When you go first day in college, as you
  1005. 40:31are entering, Ya Allah, teach me how to
  1006. 40:35say the right thing, do the right thing,
  1007. 40:37act the right thing. First day in your
  1008. 40:39work
  1009. 40:41and your name is Muhammad.
  1010. 40:43Don't change it and make it Mo.
  1011. 40:45No.
  1012. 40:47It's Muhammad. Alayhi salatu was salam.
  1013. 40:50And be confident and teach them who is
  1014. 40:53he
  1015. 40:54without being arrogant.
  1016. 40:56So, dua. And keep asking Allah to keep
  1017. 40:59you going.
  1018. 41:00And number two, learn about
  1019. 41:03the Qawi,
  1020. 41:05the Aziz, al-Jabbar,
  1021. 41:08the one who is going to give you
  1022. 41:09everything and anything you want
  1023. 41:12in the right time that he knows. Two,
  1024. 41:15three, don't give up. We all will fail.
  1025. 41:18We will have the these moments when we
  1026. 41:20will be afraid, will be weak. That's
  1027. 41:23fine.
  1028. 41:24But get up and keep going.
  1029. 41:27And help each other. That's the last
  1030. 41:29one.
  1031. 41:30Help each other. Each one.
  1032. 41:34Help each other to be the confident
  1033. 41:36Muslim. It's not impossible.
  1034. 41:39We have many examples before us
  1035. 41:41recently, even now
  1036. 41:44among us.
  1037. 41:45You will see this. I'll end up with this
  1038. 41:47story. It's a true story.
  1039. 41:49In San Diego, a 9-year-old. I think 9 or
  1040. 41:5311. I think 11 cuz she was in
  1041. 41:57middle school. And everybody was She
  1042. 41:59wears hijab and everybody was making fun
  1043. 42:01of her. You know how it is, right? She
  1044. 42:04was bullied right and left. And the last
  1045. 42:06trick they wanted, they said, "Okay, you
  1046. 42:09know why you're covering? Because you
  1047. 42:10don't have a hair.
  1048. 42:15If truly you have She said, "No, I do."
  1049. 42:17Said, "If you truly have hair, show us."
  1050. 42:2111 year of age.
  1051. 42:23You know what she did?
  1052. 42:24She took all the girls to the bathroom.
  1053. 42:28Took off her hijab and showed them the
  1054. 42:30hair.
  1055. 42:31That's the confident Muslim. May Allah
  1056. 42:34subhanahu wa ta'ala make us from those,
  1057. 42:35ya rabbi, amen. May Allah show us the
  1058. 42:37path. May Allah keep us going. May Allah
  1059. 42:40forgive our shortcomings. May Allah help
  1060. 42:42us to get up when we fail. And he knows
  1061. 42:45the struggles we go we through.
  1062. 42:48Subhanaka Allahumma wa bihamdika ashhadu
  1063. 42:50an la ilaha illa astaghfiruka wa atubu
  1064. 42:52ilayh. Sallallahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad
  1065. 42:54wa ala alihi wa ashabihi tasliman
  1066. 42:56kathira.
  1067. 42:57Any questions? Yes, please.
  1068. 43:01Wa'alaykumu assalam. Do we have another
  1069. 43:02mic?
  1070. 43:04Okay, I'll hear her and then I can. Yes.
  1071. 43:07Wa iyyakum.
  1072. 43:09Yes.
  1073. 43:13So, a fine line I'm repeating the
  1074. 43:15question so everybody can hear. A fine
  1075. 43:17line between the confidence and the
  1076. 43:20arrogance.
  1077. 43:23So, how do I know? Very good question.
  1078. 43:26How do I know I am not arrogant?
  1079. 43:30What is you said what is the litmus
  1080. 43:32paper?
  1081. 43:33The litmus paper, two things.
  1082. 43:36One, it is not you and your ability that
  1083. 43:39made you who you are.
  1084. 43:41It's Allah.
  1085. 43:42And when you make a mistake, you
  1086. 43:45acknowledge and apologize.
  1087. 43:48That's why the dua when Allah when
  1088. 43:51somebody praises you publicly, the
  1089. 43:54summary of it, ya Allah, make me better
  1090. 43:56than what people think of me and forgive
  1091. 43:58what they don't know about me.
  1092. 44:00When you say forgive what they don't
  1093. 44:02know about me, you're acknowledging that
  1094. 44:05you make mistakes.
  1095. 44:07And always, always ask Allah
  1096. 44:11to save you from being arrogant.
  1097. 44:15You know the Hadith and the dua and then
  1098. 44:17wa min al
  1099. 44:18su al-kibar. Su al-kibar either kibar
  1100. 44:21arrogance or su al-kibar being older.
  1101. 44:24And this is one of the adhkar we do in
  1102. 44:26the morning and in the evening.
  1103. 44:28Especially when Allah gives you things.
  1104. 44:31We live in a day and age of social media
  1105. 44:34and followers and influencers and all
  1106. 44:36this. Especially when Allah tests you
  1107. 44:39with this.
  1108. 44:41Don't forget you're a human being.
  1109. 44:43As the the famous poem in Arabic said,
  1110. 44:45"Wa fawqa Wa fawqa Wa kullu ma fawqa
  1111. 44:48turabi turabu." And everything above the
  1112. 44:51dust is a dust.
  1113. 44:55So, may Allah make it easy.
  1114. 44:57Any question from the brothers? Okay.
  1115. 44:59Any other question?
  1116. 45:02Yes, please.
  1117. 45:04Yes.
  1118. 45:11I can't hear you. I'm sorry.
  1119. 45:18My question is nowadays there is group
  1120. 45:20of people that can go to Umrah together.
  1121. 45:23Back in the days I knew that you have to
  1122. 45:24go with your brother, your husband.
  1123. 45:26Okay, I'm not going to take any fiqh
  1124. 45:27question. The most common question I get
  1125. 45:30is this one. As if we women have no
  1126. 45:32other issues
  1127. 45:34other than this. Honestly, put your
  1128. 45:36priorities, people.
  1129. 45:39We have our children leaving Islam.
  1130. 45:42We have our people struggling with with
  1131. 45:45practicing. We have the children going
  1132. 45:47to school and they are faced with right
  1133. 45:49and left. We have drugs pandemic in this
  1134. 45:52country. Fentanyl death.
  1135. 45:56Focus
  1136. 45:57on the most important things. I'm not
  1137. 46:00saying this is not important, but it's
  1138. 46:01not a priority.
  1139. 46:04This is not a priority. If you would sit
  1140. 46:06down with the youth, I never got this
  1141. 46:08question. I give class to the youth
  1142. 46:10every Thursday.
  1143. 46:11I never get this question. What do I
  1144. 46:14get? The commonest question from the
  1145. 46:16youth,
  1146. 46:18"How do I fit in?"
  1147. 46:21"How do I fit in?" "What do I do with
  1148. 46:24bullying?"
  1149. 46:25"How do I stay strong?"
  1150. 46:27Focus on this.
  1151. 46:29That's what we need.
  1152. 46:31Those the generation, 20 years from now,
  1153. 46:33most of us will not be here. Those will
  1154. 46:36be the leaders.
  1155. 46:37Are they going to be like you here?
  1156. 46:40Is she going to be like you here?
  1157. 46:43Or the dunya and the others pull them.
  1158. 46:46Focus on that.
  1159. 46:48Foc- I'm not saying it's not important,
  1160. 46:50but it's not a priority, especially in a
  1161. 46:52family night. It is not.
  1162. 46:54Any other question?
  1163. 46:56Sister Aisha.
  1164. 46:56Yes, please.
  1165. 46:58Um, can we
  1166. 47:00Actually,
  1167. 47:02I'm here.
  1168. 47:02Oh, can we take them from the brother?
  1169. 47:04Jazak Allahu Khair.
  1170. 47:06It's okay.
  1171. 47:08It's just okay, just to be fair.
  1172. 47:16Bismillah.
  1173. 47:17If our confidence we feel like is weak,
  1174. 47:20what is a healthy way to grow it
  1175. 47:22Islamically?
  1176. 47:23I loved it.
  1177. 47:25I acknowledge that I don't have the
  1178. 47:27confidence of the examples I shared with
  1179. 47:30you. What do I need to do?
  1180. 47:32Number one, as I said, is ask Allah to
  1181. 47:35make you strong in sujud.
  1182. 47:38Yeah, this is what I always say, "Ya
  1183. 47:40Qawiyyu, Qawwini." I call Allah by His
  1184. 47:43name, Al-Qawiyyu, the strong, and I
  1185. 47:45wanted this this character to be me. "Ya
  1186. 47:49Qawiyyu, Qawwini." One, there is no
  1187. 47:52strength
  1188. 47:53and now I'm taking practicality without
  1189. 47:55the following, without the five days
  1190. 47:58salah.
  1191. 47:59Without it, I'm struggling.
  1192. 48:02And now I am moving I want really to be
  1193. 48:05the examples without connection with the
  1194. 48:07book of his I wouldn't I don't call
  1195. 48:09Quran the book of Allah.
  1196. 48:11Of course is the book of Allah. I call
  1197. 48:13it his words.
  1198. 48:15It has different impact on me when I say
  1199. 48:17his words.
  1200. 48:19This is the three. There is no strength
  1201. 48:22without night salah alone.
  1202. 48:25You and him.
  1203. 48:27Fifth,
  1204. 48:28no strength without failure.
  1205. 48:31And acknowledging the failure
  1206. 48:33and getting up and moving on.
  1207. 48:35Sixth, the yaqeen, the certainty that
  1208. 48:38you can be.
  1209. 48:40You tell yourself you can be. If Allah
  1210. 48:42said so, it will happen.
  1211. 48:44But I just need to be patient and it
  1212. 48:46will happen be it in Allah. And may
  1213. 48:48Allah make it happen ya rabbi ameen.
  1214. 48:51Now back to you.
  1215. 48:54Thank you, sister
  1216. 48:55What time we have to stop? You're going
  1217. 48:56to tell me, right?
  1218. 48:57Yes, okay. Bismillah.
  1219. 48:59Sister Hafsah, I have two questions.
  1220. 49:00Yes. So, number one, if we have friends
  1221. 49:03and family members very close, if we are
  1222. 49:07together and somebody is indulged in
  1223. 49:10some activities displeasing to Allah,
  1224. 49:12how do we interact without sounding
  1225. 49:14arrogant? Number two, how do we persuade
  1226. 49:18our teenage children, our young boys and
  1227. 49:20girls to become confident Yes, to become
  1228. 49:23confident and a Muslim too. Like both
  1229. 49:25things together in this day and age.
  1230. 49:27This is a whole lecture.
  1231. 49:30Any tip?
  1232. 49:31Any tip? We will. So, let's start the
  1233. 49:33first one.
  1234. 49:34Um Some of you may know we
  1235. 49:37Every Tuesday I do the same but in
  1236. 49:40Irvine, which we call it Let's
  1237. 49:41understand the Quran. It's
  1238. 49:43It's live streamed usually. And now we
  1239. 49:45are covering Surat al-Ankabut. And there
  1240. 49:48is a reason why I chose this this surah,
  1241. 49:50right? Many surahs in the Quran
  1242. 49:52beautiful. But this one is the challenge
  1243. 49:54surah. They call it the surah of tests.
  1244. 49:57The surah of trials.
  1245. 49:59And among the priority
  1246. 50:02of tests is family.
  1247. 50:05Everybody in this room, young and old,
  1248. 50:09you know what I'm saying.
  1249. 50:11When you start practicing Islam, start
  1250. 50:13meaning I grew up as a Muslim, you know,
  1251. 50:15I know, but I didn't really know what it
  1252. 50:17is. And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
  1253. 50:19opened my heart and I start learning and
  1254. 50:21I start changing. The number one
  1255. 50:24challenge will be your immediate family.
  1256. 50:28And they can be as harsh as possible.
  1257. 50:33And it's very painful. You know why?
  1258. 50:36Because we love them.
  1259. 50:37And because they love us, they're harsh.
  1260. 50:40It's not because they are not No, but
  1261. 50:42they don't see what you and I are
  1262. 50:45seeing. So here you go.
  1263. 50:47And this is daily test. Friday night,
  1264. 50:50let's go out. Wedding, let's go.
  1265. 50:53This is where you
  1266. 50:55start putting who are you number one in
  1267. 50:58that family. What is your education?
  1268. 51:00What is your Islamic education?
  1269. 51:03Now, where is your red lines?
  1270. 51:06Because remember in this deen, there is
  1271. 51:08haram obvious.
  1272. 51:10There is halal obvious. And there's a
  1273. 51:12lot of the
  1274. 51:13doubtful.
  1275. 51:15Many of us don't know.
  1276. 51:16Don't make doubtful haram because it is
  1277. 51:18not. Don't make haram halal. It is not.
  1278. 51:22And don't make haram doubtful.
  1279. 51:25So what are they doing? Is it haram?
  1280. 51:28Then that's a red line
  1281. 51:30for me.
  1282. 51:32Is it doubtful? Where am I in my journey
  1283. 51:35with Allah and where they are in their
  1284. 51:37journey? If it is halal, you don't like
  1285. 51:39it, let them do it. Give you example.
  1286. 51:41This is the commonest question I get in
  1287. 51:44this matter. My grandmother lives with
  1288. 51:46me.
  1289. 51:47Or I go and visit my grandmother or my
  1290. 51:49mother, and the discussion is always
  1291. 51:52backbiting.
  1292. 51:54Does that sound familiar?
  1293. 51:57Talks about her daughter-in-law, the
  1294. 51:58grandchildren, all this. What do I do?
  1295. 52:02Right? And I know this is haram, there's
  1296. 52:05no question about that. And it applies
  1297. 52:06also to the brothers, by the way. Your
  1298. 52:08grandfather It's always
  1299. 52:11the grandfather talking about his
  1300. 52:13daughter-in-law or talking to the
  1301. 52:14brother about his other son, and on and
  1302. 52:17on and on, it's all haram. There's no
  1303. 52:20doubt.
  1304. 52:21Three options.
  1305. 52:24Number one, can I change the subject?
  1306. 52:28No, you change the subject, she comes
  1307. 52:30back and And let's continue.
  1308. 52:33Honestly.
  1309. 52:34Right? Failed. I call it tactic one
  1310. 52:37failed.
  1311. 52:38Right? Tactic two,
  1312. 52:40can you praise that person?
  1313. 52:43No, it's not exactly Oh, you didn't know
  1314. 52:45what they did with me. It was amazing.
  1315. 52:48And you start praising them.
  1316. 52:50Failed.
  1317. 52:53Honestly, it's challenging. This is
  1318. 52:55usually when you get family together, ya
  1319. 52:57Rahman.
  1320. 52:58You really need to have the confident
  1321. 53:00confidence actually put in your backpack
  1322. 53:04and move. Third one, and this is, as we
  1323. 53:07say in Arabic, akharu dawa'i al-kayy,
  1324. 53:09the last medicine is actually you leave.
  1325. 53:13Well, I can't leave the house.
  1326. 53:15So, you're going to go to the bathroom
  1327. 53:17and you're going to do the longest wudu'
  1328. 53:19of your life.
  1329. 53:22Honestly, cuz you can't Yani, you can't
  1330. 53:25look arrogant. You cannot tell your
  1331. 53:28mother this
  1332. 53:29Let let mother or grandmother or
  1333. 53:31grandfather or father, this is haram.
  1334. 53:33They will not listen. Oh, no, remember
  1335. 53:35when I raised you? This is what you're
  1336. 53:37going to hear.
  1337. 53:38So, be
  1338. 53:40I I like the word creative because Allah
  1339. 53:42is the only one who creates, but be
  1340. 53:44smart.
  1341. 53:46But there is red lines.
  1342. 53:47The red lines
  1343. 53:49I'm not going to eat with a family
  1344. 53:50member if they're drinking alcohol.
  1345. 53:53Even if this is my brother, if this is
  1346. 53:55my father, I'm going to move.
  1347. 53:58Yeah, you need to put your red lines.
  1348. 54:00You're going to get a lot of heat in the
  1349. 54:02beginning. But then keep confident
  1350. 54:05because that's obvious haram.
  1351. 54:08Did Did I Did I get Did I answer you?
  1352. 54:11And it is this is the one of the biggest
  1353. 54:13challenges. Coming to the teenagers,
  1354. 54:15this is I'm meeting the youth on Sunday.
  1355. 54:17It's part of the program. If you are not
  1356. 54:20confident
  1357. 54:21your children will not be confident.
  1358. 54:24Don't ask your children to be something
  1359. 54:27you are not.
  1360. 54:28It's not going to happen.
  1361. 54:30Because then
  1362. 54:33Why do you say what you don't do?
  1363. 54:36And the end as the poem said
  1364. 54:39Start
  1365. 54:44with yourself and control yourself and
  1366. 54:47prevent yourself from injustice. If you
  1367. 54:50can do it then you are wise.
  1368. 54:57At this point when you practice what you
  1369. 55:00preach, people will listen to you and
  1370. 55:03teaching will bring fruits. I can't
  1371. 55:06change my teenagers if I am not. That's
  1372. 55:09one.
  1373. 55:11Don't start
  1374. 55:12teaching them or practicing them at age
  1375. 55:1514 and 15. Where were you?
  1376. 55:18Where were you when they were two and
  1377. 55:20three and 10 and 12?
  1378. 55:23Once they become, and I say this to all
  1379. 55:25my friends, once they become These days
  1380. 55:2911 and 12.
  1381. 55:31I hate to say this, but it's too late.
  1382. 55:35You need to engrave in them, actually.
  1383. 55:38Raising righteous children starts before
  1384. 55:41marriage.
  1385. 55:43Who are you getting married to?
  1386. 55:47So, this is a long topic. When you reach
  1387. 55:50to the age of 16 and you have no control
  1388. 55:53over them, you still have one weapon,
  1389. 55:55huge one. And what is that? Dua.
  1390. 55:59And you are righteous.
  1391. 56:02Because today is Friday, I mean,
  1392. 56:05yesterday was Friday, right? And what
  1393. 56:07did Allah, how did Allah save the two
  1394. 56:10orphans?
  1395. 56:11Because wa kana abuhuma saliha. The
  1396. 56:14father was righteous. You become the
  1397. 56:17righteous couple, couple,
  1398. 56:20Allah-pleasing.
  1399. 56:22The children are not,
  1400. 56:24the end result is not in your hand.
  1401. 56:26Sayyidna Nuh, his son was kafir.
  1402. 56:28Sayyidna Ibrahim, his father was kafir.
  1403. 56:30But I don't give up on them.
  1404. 56:33I keep making dua. Allah change the
  1405. 56:35hearts.
  1406. 56:36And may Allah protect our youth.
  1407. 56:39Really. And I'm not going to say youth
  1408. 56:42only in this country, youth global.
  1409. 56:45Because what happens here is all over in
  1410. 56:48the internet and everybody is exposed
  1411. 56:50to. And may Allah make it easy for all
  1412. 56:52of us.
  1413. 56:53Amen. We're done. Alhamdulillah.
  1414. 57:04tasliman kathira.

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