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0:00I know T is not an easy topic and for a
0:03lot of us it's a triggering word and I
0:06want you to know that this is a safe
0:07space this is coming from another fellow
0:10women and it's going to be considerate
0:12mindful but also life-changing I'm
0:15inshah going to change your perspective
0:18because the type of lectures and the
0:19type of advice that I see on the
0:21internet regarding these matters always
0:23feel very passive to me and it's and
0:25it's always in the same tone where it's
0:26like try your best and you know just is
0:28it worth it and do it for the sake a and
0:30it's like it doesn't ever feel tangible
0:33to me it doesn't feel sincere and a lot
0:36of times what happens is people do it
0:38like right like I'm using logic like yes
0:39I should be doing this for Allah but
0:41they always do it half-heartedly because
0:43they don't truly embody and understand
0:44the mindset of it they don't understand
0:46the wisdom of why we do things and I
0:48always felt this way with even things
0:50that I tried to implement it always felt
0:51like you know a place out of pity like I
0:53have to do this I don't really have a
0:54choice like I'm forced to do this and
0:56this is not going to be one of those you
0:57are going to have things to implement
0:59and it's going to to be not only fun but
1:01it's going to be inshallah easy for you
1:03and it's going to be realistic now that
1:05I understand why Allah has made Haram
1:07even if it was Hal tomorrow I still
1:09wouldn't go into it and is one of those
1:12things let's talk about beauty standards
1:14but even outside of us and I want you to
1:15think of this as society and societal
1:17norms and society and beauty standards
1:20in society right as women we're told
1:23that our value drives from how much
1:25we're able to entertain the male gays so
1:28it's not something that we're born with
1:29think about that it's not even something
1:31that is internal and inherent in US you
1:33have to earn it you have to earn value
1:36and even in the Muslim Community
1:37unfortunately we have these standards
1:39where likewise people feel the need to
1:41wear makeup to make up for the fact that
1:42they wear a hijab because they don't
1:43feel like PR they don't feel like
1:45they're pretty enough when they wear the
1:46hijab without makeup even though it's a
1:48clear contradiction right it's no
1:50different than if a women were to not
1:51wear the hijab but no makeup and then
1:54you have a woman who's wearing hijab but
1:55wearing makeup right is unfortunately
1:57extremely integrated and intertwined and
1:59one way or another you're going to
2:00struggle with it most likely but most
2:03interesting I think where does makeup
2:05where do these products even find its
2:07way to us right let's take a look at
2:10these makeup
2:11companies they have created insecurities
2:13in women to then sell us their product
2:16sell us their solution they create the
2:18problem and then they offer a solution
2:20come buy it if we didn't have
2:22insecurities and and we thought of
2:23ourselves as valuable and we determined
2:25what value was they wouldn't have
2:28something to sell us they couldn't make
2:29a profit off women isn't it quite
2:31interesting even on a social level when
2:33a woman gets cheed on right she always
2:35thinks well was that women prettier than
2:37me meaning to keep a man you would have
2:40to constantly perform you would have to
2:41constantly beautify yourself which is
2:43ultimately what catering to the male
2:46gaze how much you're able to entertain
2:48and cater to the male gaze why is there
2:50so much emphasis on the way a woman
2:52looks because whether you do it
2:54consciously or unconsciously you
2:55contribute to it which is why this is
2:57such an important and necessary topic to
2:59talk about and I want you to think about
3:00this do men wear makeup no right that
3:04kind of pressure that kind of you know
3:06self-consciousness is not even put on
3:07them they don't even care I saw this
3:08great quote when someone said Being a
3:10woman means to perform and I think a lot
3:12of you can relate when we all think
3:14about it like you'll see the prettiest
3:15women with men that aren't even
3:18considered conventionally attractive and
3:19you're like why is this woman even with
3:20him right like she's so pretty I mean
3:22what does he offer right but that's the
3:24way we've been conditioned to think
3:25because beauty is all you can offer what
3:28do you gain out of beautifying yourself
3:30for people maybe validation maybe ego
3:32maybe feeling better about yourself or
3:33feeling put together right but as a
3:35Muslim do you ever think we beautify
3:38ourselves forah no right it doesn't even
3:40pass your mind do you wake up and think
3:43let me honor God today let me present
3:45myself in a way that God is proud of and
3:47that is mindful of God or do you think
3:49no like I need to you know I have work
3:50in 10 minutes like I need to you know
3:52look presentable and I need to CI my
3:53face otherwise I can't leave my house
3:55and I'm not going to feel confident and
3:56I'm not going to feel worthy and I'm not
3:57going to feel good about myself so I
3:58might as not I might as will just not
4:00leave the house if I can't wear makeup
4:03unconsciously or maybe you're conscious
4:05but you have an addiction to
4:06makeup and this goes for anything else
4:08as well right whether it be alcohol
4:10whether it be music if you're hooked on
4:12to something and you and you say it's my
4:14choice I'm doing it by choice right and
4:15it's so subtle because we don't ever
4:17think music is an addiction yet if I
4:18told you to not listen to music for the
4:20next week you would have a very
4:22difficult time and then you would come
4:23to realize okay like this is something
4:25that I do on a daily basis and I've
4:27created it into an habit but going back
4:29to to make up here for a second it's
4:31this endless rat race between women but
4:34it's a race that you're never going to
4:35win because there's always going to be a
4:37women prettier than you you will compete
4:40your entire life for something that you
4:42cannot win in what are you trying to
4:44prove why are you in the game but
4:47they're trying to elude delude and
4:48distract you of your actual purpose of
4:51you finding meaning in anything outside
4:53of their products something outside of
4:55you I want you to think about that
4:57you're putting all your effort energy
4:59time and value onto someone's
5:01products value and beauty is then
5:05something outside of you so it's not
5:06even inherent it's not even tangible
5:08your dependent isn't that concerning
5:10that they're telling you you're not even
5:11actually beautiful you weren't born with
5:12beauty right like you have nothing to
5:14own up for unless and until you use my
5:17products and you prove yourself that
5:19you're competing and you're racing and
5:21you're willing to put yourself on this
5:23pedestal and I know this sounds corny
5:25because people always say this right
5:26like put attention and put care into
5:28like beautifying yourself internally and
5:29your personality and characteristics and
5:31like right like Beauty should be
5:33prioritized internally before it is
5:35externally but you do have to admit that
5:37it's true right because then you're
5:39beautifying yourself for people and as
5:41much as we want to say oh we're doing it
5:43for ourselves and oh I just want to you
5:44know have fun and I it is ultimately
5:46gaining you bad deeds and you've
5:48beautified yourself for something that's
5:50not even for Allah that's for other
5:51people so they've convinced you to
5:53people please and live for the sake of
5:55other people and I don't think we
5:57realize a lot but Allah is even going to
5:58ask us what we did on Earth with the
6:00time that we even spent on a daily basis
6:03right if makeup took you I don't know
6:05anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes to do
6:07every day think about all the time that
6:09adds up and Allah is going to say you
6:11did that for what right and it ended up
6:13earning you Haram it ended up you know
6:17attracting lustful people or attracting
6:20or causing not just you bad Deeds but
6:22also other people and the non-ms if
6:24they're looking at you and I saw this
6:26great quote on Pinterest and it was you
6:28obsess over your identity in relation
6:30with others while your soul rots inside
6:32of you and that made me really
6:34uncomfortable to first read but when you
6:37think about it that's the unfortunate
6:38reality and our value is going to be
6:40measured by what we did and not how we
6:42were born and how we you know how Allah
6:44created us isn't it beautiful that we
6:46have a choice going back to the verse in
6:48the Quran right world is only an
6:49illusion they have fully convinced and
6:52distracted women into putting all their
6:55energy into something that's not even
6:56going to last them in this lifetime in
6:5820 years in 30 years you're going to
7:01have wrinkles you might have stretch
7:03marks you might you might have other
7:05health problems right your health and
7:08your beauty are going to deteriorate so
7:10what are you going to have left right
7:12and I want you to think of the highest
7:13version of yourself for a second and
7:16think with this person looking back at
7:19what I'm doing now and looking back at
7:21my life right assuming that you're going
7:23to beautify yourself and wear makeup and
7:25worry about nails and all these things
7:27for the rest of your life right or until
7:29up to that point point where your beauty
7:30then
7:32deteriorates would they be proud of the
7:34fact that you
7:35spent minutes out of your day doing
7:39something that ultimately brought
7:41nothing to you we prioritize looks that
7:44are going to deteriorate while our soul
7:45is going to be immortal and I always
7:47think about this like it's so crazy how
7:49the very conscious that I have now is
7:51the very conscious I'm going to have
7:53trillion years later because we don't
7:54believe in our soul rotting or our soul
7:56ever dying or passing away it's passing
7:58on to different realm so when you think
8:01about all these things and you're
8:01thinking about esoteric knowledge and
8:04how much there is to life you're going
8:06to realize how insignificant it is for
8:08you to spend time on things that will
8:10never benefit you everything is
8:11intentional when you even look at the
8:13makeup brands right who are those owners
8:16who are the owners of those Brands it's
8:17always zos right because it's a form of
8:19psychological manipulation and a form of
8:22psychological profit where they will
8:24spread these degenerate and and sinful
8:26products ultimately into society similar
8:29into do other things like let's even
8:31talk about like explicit content right
8:33it doesn't benefit you but they
8:34understand that it's going
8:35to create a form of dopamine in you
8:38where you feel addicted and you feel the
8:40need to constantly buy into it there's a
8:42reason why the people who own majority
8:45of these beauty Beauty companies or zos
8:48because they understand that it's a form
8:49of manipulation and they know that
8:50they're going to have young women and
8:51women overall hooked on to
8:53this oh look other women are buying
8:56these products other women have
8:57beautiful lashes they have beautiful
8:59legs lip they have lumous lips they have
9:01a beautiful small nose come get our
9:02surgery you're going to sit there and
9:04think I'm falling behind and that's when
9:06you get into the rat race you're going
9:08to endlessly compete endlessly spend
9:09your money constantly refilling and
9:11trying this brand and trying that
9:12product and trying this and trying that
9:14and creating such a self-conscious and
9:16insecure self is that what you
9:18want and you just think about it and
9:22that's one way that shaon gets you by
9:24distracting you into putting such
9:25significance into things that are never
9:27going to benefit you you're never going
9:29to think about and you're going to think
9:31that was so
9:32unnecessary there are genuinely women
9:34who don't even feel pretty without
9:37wearing makeup right they wear the job
9:39but they're thinking okay to make up for
9:40my job I have to now wear the makeup
9:42right I can't even leave my house
9:43without wearing makeup when you think
9:45about how much repetition and how how
9:46constant this is right you're constant
9:48about and your conscious of this thought
9:50like oh I need to beautify myself I need
9:51to apply this I need to do this to my
9:52face this and that they've successfully
9:54distracted you regardless of how
9:56inconvenient it is for you the fact that
9:58you know if we pray five times a day
9:59you're going to have to wipe that off
10:01multiple times during the day but just
10:03for the sake of beautifying yourself and
10:05feeling pretty you will do it I know
10:07women who do it and it is incredibly
10:09exhausting when you think about it and
10:10you think right but it's something that
10:12I'm doing for myself and I see it as a
10:13form of therapy or a form of art but do
10:16you realize that it's intentional right
10:19why do you wear red instead of blue lip
10:22liner or lipstick why do you not put
10:24eyeliner on your cheeks right like start
10:25drawing lines on your cheeks because
10:27it's all intentional and it's all
10:29designed and created in a way to appeal
10:31or attract all right that might not even
10:34be your intention right but you wear
10:36makeup because it makes you look prer in
10:38a way that's going to make you look prer
10:40you don't do it as a form of art right
10:41and a lot of this happened and people
10:43always say like the first stage is
10:44always denial this is where Shon comes
10:45in all right convince and lie to
10:47yourself delude and distract yourself
10:50because you don't want to admit the
10:52truth you don't want to come come to the
10:54realization that yeah you are people
10:56pleasing you are constantly working and
10:59trying to maintain this image this
11:01appearance this idea of yourself I
11:03always say this life is not a face and I
11:05have this mindset and this Outlook to
11:07life if it doesn't earn me either money
11:09or if it doesn't earn me Good Deeds then
11:11it's not worth it right like it's it's
11:13just a waste of time then your look
11:15should be the last thing you resort to
11:17for game what do I mean everything else
11:20about you should be so beautiful and so
11:22top tier and so exceptional that people
11:24don't settle for your looks let me say
11:27that again people don't SLE for your
11:30looks your looks should be the last
11:33thing you use to gain to seek for
11:36validation because of how beautiful and
11:38how much your soul your personality your
11:41characteristics and the person you are
11:42overthrows even your looks someone who
11:45talks about manifestation let's get into
11:46it right people will interact with what
11:48you put energy into I always say this
11:51where attention goes energy flows the
11:54same people that are putting attention
11:55into their looks and the way they look
11:57and the way they present themselves
11:58let's say in a lustful right in an in
11:59attractive manner you're going to
12:02attract lustful eyes if you put energy
12:05and effort into your character and
12:07fostering this luminous and Beautiful
12:09Soul the same people who have those
12:11Souls the same people who share the same
12:12characteristics and mindsets as you are
12:14going to recognize you are going to
12:16recognize that and be familiar they're
12:18going to sense the familiarity out of
12:20you going to prioritize that for you
12:22prioritize that right people attract
12:24what they are so L's to say your looks
12:27are replaceable you can change your hair
12:29you you can change your you know the way
12:30your eyes look you can change your brows
12:31you can change you know we have plastic
12:33surgery now but your soul isn't
12:35replaceable and you only live once so
12:38what does that mean your soul is more
12:40valuable and you're dismissing it and
12:42you're not even putting that much care
12:43and that much thought into it you're
12:45Define yourself for anything outside of
12:47Allah Fosters is nothing but arrogance
12:49ego sin and envy and competition with
12:52other women you think about this and
12:54think about how disappointing this is
12:56you as a woman a woman means nothing
12:59more than her looks that is what Society
13:01has reduced you to so much so that now
13:04you have men who think they can
13:06transition into being a women and who
13:07think they can be women by how much they
13:10pass and how much weave they wear and
13:12how much makeup they wear and clothes
13:14they wear that's and and then they pass
13:16as a women they feel like they're women
13:17when they wear makeup so being a women
13:20so being a woman means nothing but to
13:24perform why you contribute to A system
13:27that does not benefit you if you guys
13:28are familiar with the psychologist if
13:30I'm not wrong I think he's a
13:31psychologist Sigman
13:33fraud back then when it was taboo for
13:35women to
13:36smoke these owners that own these you
13:39know cigarette companies came to Sigman
13:41fraud and said look we know you're a
13:43psychologist we know you can alter
13:45people's perspectives and people's
13:46perception of things we want to sell our
13:48cigarettes to women because it's going
13:50to profit us right we can't have only
13:51half of the nation smoking we need more
13:53money we need to profit more to convince
13:55women that they should start smoking as
13:58a form of rebellion and as a form of
14:01owning up to your power as women why
14:04would men be allowed to smoke and you
14:06can't right they're trying to get you
14:07like that and so they said this to
14:10Sigman fraud and he said okay he took
14:11the deal right cuz he's going to get
14:12paid he's going to get paid they're
14:13going to get paid it's going to be a
14:14profit it doesn't matter if it's immoral
14:16doesn't matter if it's degenerate to to
14:18perpetuate those ideas and ruin
14:20everyone's lungs as long as they make a
14:23prophet right so he starts telling women
14:26you know Rebel own up to your sexuality
14:28right you women are equal to a man start
14:30smoking so they started making all these
14:32movies where the main characters start
14:34smoking these women bosses and these
14:35like you know older women in these
14:37movies are smoking or even young girls
14:40who were smoking cuz I think it's cool
14:41and rebellious Right started
14:44smoking to this day people smoke right
14:48and now they're inventing new things
14:49like vape and all these other things but
14:51the point is it's all psychological and
14:53it's all a form of distraction and
14:55manipulation I need you especially as a
14:57Muslim to staywoke you are a Muslim your
15:01value is determined by God not what you
15:03consume not what you buy your value
15:05should not be something outside of you
15:07do you understand when I think of a
15:09Muslim woman you know what I think of
15:11when I think about who are the best
15:13women right is described as the best of
15:15all women let's think about the women
15:17you know the wives of the prophets and
15:18when I think about those women and I
15:19think about a Muslim woman who's Reacher
15:22full potential if I could just sense and
15:24look at her Aura do you know what I
15:26think of I think of a woman who is
15:29who dresses in a minimalistic manner
15:32dresses in a minimalistic and modest
15:33manner you know holy and clean right who
15:37has such a luminous radiant and a face
15:41that has so much no and it's bare right
15:43it's it's cleanly it's Flawless she
15:45doesn't use makeup she doesn't have
15:46nails right bare minimalistic and
15:50cleanly luminous and and full of nude
15:52that's what I think same Radiance and
15:54mood sees through her pores because
15:57believe it or not right we talk about
15:59spirituality and all this esoteric you
16:01know energy and frequency out in in the
16:03world and all this esoteric knowledge
16:05but if someone has worked enough on
16:07their internal I believe that it's going
16:09to radiate on the outside as within as
16:12without right what's inside reflects
16:14outside and I can only imagine and and
16:17this is very factual even if we look at
16:19the prophet pce right people used to
16:20describe him as someone who has so much
16:22Radiance just reflecting and and as well
16:24as the sahabas right like they used to
16:25have so much n reflecting from their
16:27face like it would blind people
16:29I want you to think about how beautiful
16:30that is compared to all all the Creasy
16:34and and
16:36distracting things that people wear and
16:38the way that people do their makeup it's
16:40not really beautiful is it when you
16:41think about such beauty like that
16:43something that is so inherent in and
16:45deep deeply tied and inherent to your
16:48soul and attached to you reflects from
16:51it reflects straight from her soul and
16:53you're able to see it you're able to see
16:55and it's able to beam like the sun right
16:57like if it if it were to reflect like
16:58your able to see it and I truly feel
17:02more
17:04inspired by even imagining and
17:06visualizing that than I were to if I
17:08were to do a full face of makeup and put
17:09on eyeliner and put you know do my brows
17:11and all these things could I could I see
17:13more attractive sure but you know what
17:15really appeals to me that same aura that
17:18same you know even being able to
17:20visualize it right if we as Muslims are
17:23told not to imitate non-believers and we
17:25have our own dress codes we have our own
17:27understanding of
17:29of what we should do with our external
17:32looks why would you then take
17:34influence from the non-muslims that
17:36you're exposed to right I want you to
17:39start being not just unique and original
17:41but intentional with what you do I want
17:43you to be woke okay I want you to be
17:45woke I want you to be conscious of these
17:47things and think what kind of Aura do I
17:49want to illuminate like what kind of
17:52Aura do I want to get
17:54across I want you to stand out so much
17:56from the
17:57crowd that that you now become beautiful
18:00in your own way without contributing to
18:02without contributing to harmful harmful
18:05ideas too I'm going to now tell you how
18:08to implement and how to start changing
18:10and also creating this Aura and I'm
18:11going to tell you something this is
18:12going to be absolutely fun okay you're
18:14going to romanticize this I want you to
18:17start having a Clear Vision of what that
18:20higher version of you and the best
18:22version of you looks like the best women
18:24think about the best and take
18:25inspiration from the best women of AR
18:28right the best women of of our faith and
18:30our religion if you think makeup's fun
18:32wait till you get on pinterist and start
18:34being intentional about the way you look
18:36you're going to create an aura that is
18:37going to be just as powerful as what I
18:39described and it's going to be seen
18:41through your face your face is going to
18:42radiate nude okay what is the aura of
18:45the swimming look like how does she
18:47think how does she you know is it
18:48minimalistic is it luminous is it
18:50radiant does she have this mold beaming
18:52off her
18:53face is she cleanly is
18:56she is she feminine what kind of colors
18:58you wear right white I think of like
19:01whites or maybe like a light pink
19:03there's two ways to get over this one
19:05exchange and two romanticize you're
19:09thinking girl what do you mean let's
19:11actually focus on two right now do you
19:13know what I want you to do I want you to
19:15get on Pinterest and search things like
19:17I don't know no makeup look or face with
19:19no makeup right and like I even have my
19:21own board and I'll put it up here for
19:22inso but it's women with no makeup but
19:25they look gorgeous right they have
19:26flowless skin they probably take care of
19:27their skin they probably do skin skin
19:28care and I want you to start thinking
19:30the real Flex is when you don't have
19:32anything to wipe off and your face
19:34naturally and bare looks that beautiful
19:37right even if it's not Peak Beauty right
19:39if you were to prioritize your skin
19:41enough if you were to prioritize
19:42clinginess and maybe maybe trimming your
19:44brows in a nice
19:46way you would feel put together and you
19:48would feel just as beautiful without it
19:50and it's going to take some time but
19:51you're going to get it number two is
19:53exchange what do I mean by this whenever
19:56you think about spending money on beauty
19:58products or getting fake nails or
19:59whatever it may be right like any of
20:01these things whatever you consider to B
20:04I want you to start using that and
20:06putting it into skincare so you're not
20:08even just not beautifying or not you
20:09know investing in your looks it's not
20:12even you just not investing in your
20:13looks you are investing in your looks
20:14but in a way that's going to be
20:16permanent and it's going to benefit you
20:17more right if you took care of your skin
20:19if you took care of your skin enough
20:20you're going to think I don't need
20:21Foundation my skin looks flowless like
20:22this I got rid of you know maybe
20:24hyperpigmentation I got rid of this and
20:26that if you take care of your brows
20:27right like for example
20:29I use henna on my
20:30brows right just to lighten them up or
20:32just to change the way they look from
20:34time to time but henna is What organic
20:36or if you want to you know if I'm not
20:38wrong I think bleaching is permissible
20:39you can bleach you know the hairs around
20:41your face or maybe the hairs on your
20:42side it just looks a bit more cleaner
20:44and give more definition start putting
20:46the money you would spend into those
20:47products and put them into skincare put
20:49them into supplements think about your
20:51health and if you don't have anything to
20:53then spend on I want you to start giving
20:55that money to charity literally I I
20:57think about it like this if I took
20:59something that I was going to spend on
21:00something on that was not going to
21:01benefit me and I put it into something
21:03like charity something that is an
21:04investment something that is permanent
21:06something that is actually going to gain
21:07me
21:08something God would do me a favor I
21:10don't know what that favor looks like if
21:13you even put that thing put that money
21:14into charity and say for the sake of
21:16putting this into charity alone like if
21:17you're proud of the fact that I just
21:19switched that out I just exchanged that
21:20for something had done and something
21:21benefit me and other people for that
21:24sake I want you to make it easier on me
21:26every time I feel the need to beautify
21:27myself according to a study that was
21:29done whenever you want to build habits
21:31and you want to stop sinning right or
21:32you want to stop doing things that are
21:34harmful a study they found was never go
21:36to one or or the other extreme so you
21:39wouldn't go from day one doing all of
21:40that to day two not wearing anything
21:43because that's a huge and drastic change
21:44so then you're not used to it and you're
21:46going to feel like oh like I maybe I
21:48can't maintain this the next time you
21:49have an urge right cuz you're used to
21:52the first option you're not going to
21:53feel comfortable with a second what I
21:55want you to do is set a realistic date
21:57for yourself I want you to set yourself
21:59a date this could be this could be a few
22:03days this could be a week this could be
22:04two weeks this could be a month let's
22:06say one week right each day you're going
22:08to remove something from your routine
22:10each day you're going to remove
22:11something let's say it's let's say it's
22:12a full face of makeup right first day
22:15you're going to remove I don't know
22:17maybe your eyeliner day two your
22:18highlighter day three your foundation
22:20day four your brows whatever it is that
22:22way you're going to get more used to it
22:24by the day right it's going to be
22:25minimal it's going to feel minimal so
22:26you're not like you know so it doesn't
22:28feel like this drastic change and so and
22:30then by the end of that you're going to
22:31feel more and more and more and more
22:32used to it and it's going to feel more
22:34sustainable so that's one thing I want
22:36you to do and that's one way you can
22:37actually and you can apply this with
22:39other things right anything else that
22:40you want to get rid
22:41of determine a date determine right have
22:44goals be intentional I can do this
22:47unfollow people that influence you in a
22:49harmful way if it's women who if it's
22:52women who constantly promote makeup
22:54products if it's women who have a full
22:55face of makeup right even on a even on
22:58conscious level you're going to think I
23:00want to look like them or I want to you
23:01know I take influence from I want you to
23:02start romanticizing and thinking about
23:06like it's truly a flex to have to look
23:08naturally beautiful so I want you to
23:10find women that naturally look beautiful
23:12and don't think oh but you know I'm an
23:14acception I don't look that way
23:17naturally you're going to build that
23:19you're going to build that aura you're
23:21going to Allah is going to inspire you
23:22with ideas I honestly I have so much fun
23:24with this like I I work for Pinterest at
23:26this point I'm always on Pinterest just
23:29looking at these like women even if like
23:30I used to even think about this right
23:31like I don't I don't ever think about
23:33wearing the cab and honestly I don't
23:35have any intent to at the moment and I
23:37don't think I'm going to ever in the
23:38future right like I might improve in my
23:39modesty but maybe not any c but I always
23:42still expose myself to women like that
23:44on my feed just to admire like these
23:45women look beautiful just to get myself
23:47used to and comfortable with with women
23:48who look this way three you get used to
23:50it and you feel comfortable with the
23:52idea of trying that to include I'm going
23:54to make this video very soon and I'm
23:55going to post it even sooner because
23:56it's only going to be like Clips so I
23:57don't have to sit and talk for a long
23:59time but I'm going to include a very
24:00beautiful routine cuz some of you have
24:02asked about like a skincare routine but
24:04I'm going to include a routine that not
24:05only
24:07benefits that not only contributes to
24:09your appearance in a h way hygiene but
24:12also Health like these are permanent
24:13effects just a reminder I do have if you
24:16guys have any questions regarding my
24:17past videos or even now rate any
24:18questions regarding manifestation
24:20anything spiritual anything is Islamic
24:21right you can always have those
24:22conversations with me I have my
24:23one-on-one calls below or if you have
24:25any questions that you just want to type
24:27out instead there's also a folder for
24:29that if you're a male you have the
24:30response option but if you're a women
24:33and a women only you can talk to me on
24:35my calls and look forward to it you can
24:36find me on my stand store

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