How the Top 0.1% Manifest Their Dreams — Transcript

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1. 0:00Check this out. DBE. [music] This, it
2. 0:02turns out, is one of the most effective
3. 0:04ways to hit your goals. And this
4. 0:07methodology comes from the 1960s when a
5. 0:11radio repair man in Laredo, Texas,
6. 0:14[music] asked himself the following
7. 0:16question. If more electricity flows
8. 0:17through a wire, when you drop the
9. 0:19[music] resistance, how do you drop the
10. 0:21resistance in the human mind? This is
11. 0:24what we're going to be talking about
12. 0:26today. But we're not just going to speak
13. 0:28about this 1960s radio repair man. We're
14. 0:31going to speak [music] about Matthew
15. 0:32McConna whom I recently had the
16. 0:34privilege of interviewing. [music] And
17. 0:36he shared something with me that is a
18. 0:38related principle. And it goes like
19. 0:40this. The target attracts [music] the
20. 0:43arrow.
21. 0:47So this is kind of insane. Matthew
22. 0:49McConna writes this list while he's
23. 0:52still in college. He's 2 weeks into
24. 0:54filming. Dazed and confused. It's his
25. 0:56first movie. He's just an extra. At this
26. 0:58point, he doesn't even know if acting is
27. 1:00going to be his career. But somehow, as
28. 1:03he's sleeping in his bunk bed in
29. 1:05college, he writes this on a list of 10
30. 1:08goals he sets for himself. Here's the
31. 1:10list. Notice that one. Win an Oscar for
32. 1:14best actor. That's a pretty bold dream
33. 1:16for a guy who was an extra in a single
34. 1:20movie, wasn't serious about acting, and
35. 1:23had no plan to get to that Oscar. Yet,
36. 1:2520 years later, this happens.
37. 1:28>> And the Oscar goes to Matthew McConna.
38. 1:33[music]
39. 1:36>> Now, that's not the weird part. The
40. 1:38weird part is he completely forgot he
41. 1:40had written the list. Listen to what he
42. 1:43told me. Uh, number eight, win an Oscar
43. 1:46for best actor.
44. 1:49Yeah, I found this when I was writing
45. 1:53the book. I found it in my diaries. I
46. 1:56forgot I wrote it. Here's the truth
47. 1:57about that time. Two weeks into filming
48. 1:59days confused. I'm still thinking, hey,
49. 2:02this may be a one-off acting hobby that
50. 2:04I'll look back for the rest of my life,
51. 2:06go, "Oh, remember that little job you
52. 2:07had in the summer of '92 in college?
53. 2:10That that one acting job? I I'm I'm
54. 2:12still in school. I've got another year
55. 2:14of school coming up. I don't even I'm
56. 2:17not even admitting to me to my parents
57. 2:21or friends that I may want to pursue
58. 2:22acting. But then I see that and I go,
59. 2:24"Well, you damn sure admitted it to
60. 2:26yourself." You damn sure admitted it to
61. 2:29yourself. Now, that is the line that's
62. 2:30important because it explains the first
63. 2:32of three things that have to be present
64. 2:34for any goal to work. And if you have a
65. 2:37goal that has been sitting there for
66. 2:39months or years and nothing seems to be
67. 2:41happening, I can almost guarantee one of
68. 2:44these three things is missing. We're
69. 2:46going to start with the D. All the
70. 2:48visualization, all the intuition, all
71. 2:50the altered state access, all the
72. 2:52meditation doesn't work if you don't
73. 2:55have these three ingredients. If one is
74. 2:58missing, the whole thing leaks. So I
75. 3:00want you to play with me for a second. I
76. 3:03want you to take one goal. the biggest
77. 3:05thing you are trying to create in your
78. 3:07life right now. Keep it in your mind as
79. 3:09we go through this because by the end
80. 3:12you're going to know exactly where the
81. 3:14leak is. And by the way, if it is a
82. 3:17crazy goal like Matthew's crazy goal,
83. 3:20win an Oscar, that's okay, too. Now, the
84. 3:23D stands for this desire. Now, most
85. 3:27people think desire means yes, of
86. 3:30course, I want it. But do you? Because a
87. 3:32huge number of goals we chase are not
88. 3:35actually our goals. They are goals we
89. 3:37inherited. You want to build a big
90. 3:39company because everyone in your founder
91. 3:41group is building a big company. You
92. 3:43want the perfect body, the impressive
93. 3:45house, the blue check mark, whatever it
94. 3:47is, because somewhere along the way
95. 3:49someone told you that this is how you
96. 3:52say I'm there. But that's not desire.
97. 3:55That's programming. And I'm not saying a
98. 3:58promotion or the company or the house is
99. 4:00bad. I'm saying you have to know who
100. 4:04chose it. Now, Matthew's goal was almost
101. 4:06too ridiculous to admit. He couldn't
102. 4:08tell his parents. He couldn't tell his
103. 4:10friends. He wasn't even calling himself
104. 4:13an actor yet. But sitting alone on that
105. 4:16top bunk, something in him knew. That's
106. 4:19real desire. The author Joe Vital once
107. 4:22said, "A goodal should scare you a
108. 4:24little and excite you a lot." I think
109. 4:26that ratio is important. about 90%
110. 4:29excitement, 10% fear. If there is no
111. 4:32fear, the goal might be too small. It
112. 4:35doesn't demand that you become anyone
113. 4:37new. But if it's all fear and no
114. 4:40excitement, maybe it's not your goal.
115. 4:43Maybe you're trying to win a race you
116. 4:45never wanted to enter. So here's the
117. 4:47test. And actually do this with me.
118. 4:50Don't just listen to me and go, "Oh,
119. 4:52that's interesting." Bring the goal into
120. 4:54your mind. That first goal that you
121. 4:56picked. If nobody could applaud you for
122. 4:59it, would you still want it? If nobody
123. 5:01could see it on social media, would you
124. 5:03still want it? If you could have the
125. 5:04experience of it, but none of the
126. 5:06status, would you still want it? If the
127. 5:08answer is yes, good. That's probably
128. 5:10true desire. But if the answer is no,
129. 5:13also good. You may have just saved
130. 5:15yourself 3 years of climbing the wrong
131. 5:18mountain. Here's why desire is
132. 5:20important. Matthew said it in this line.
133. 5:24So I I say here, the arrow does not seek
134. 5:27the target. The target draws the arrow.
135. 5:30Matthew's a really spiritual guy and if
136. 5:32you've read his book Greenlights, it's
137. 5:33an amazing book. One of the things that
138. 5:36he was suggesting as we went deep into
139. 5:38the interview and I'm going to put that
140. 5:40interview up on my channel. So hit
141. 5:41subscribe and follow because the entire
142. 5:44conversation with Matthew was coming
143. 5:45soon. He said when you set the goal and
144. 5:48it's a true goal that's really coming
145. 5:49from inside you, you start noticing the
146. 5:53synchronicities, the coincidences, the
147. 5:55patterns that move you towards the goal.
148. 5:57Your brain starts figuring out how to
149. 5:59overcome every roadblock. Roadblocks
150. 6:01will come. You start figuring out how to
151. 6:04jump over them. Desire activates the
152. 6:07engine. But you got to make sure that it
153. 6:10is true desire. It is desire that's
154. 6:13coming from inside you, not from outside
155. 6:16you. But that's just step one. Jose
156. 6:18Silva as he trained millions of people
157. 6:19said that there's a second ingredient we
158. 6:22need and that is belief. And this is
159. 6:25where many goal setting teachers
160. 6:27completely screw up because they say you
161. 6:30just have to believe. Okay, but how? You
162. 6:33cannot take a belief that you've had for
163. 6:36decades and just erase it out of your
164. 6:38mind. You see, beliefs have three
165. 6:41levels. The first level is is this
166. 6:43possible for everyone? For anyone? Has
167. 6:47anyone in the world done the thing you
168. 6:48want to do? If yes, great. Your mind has
169. 6:51evidence that the category exists. The
170. 6:54second level is harder. Is it possible
171. 6:56for someone like me in the time frame I
172. 6:59have to do it? Notice the time frame. P.
173. 7:02Sometimes you believe in the goal, but
174. 7:04you don't believe in the deadline. You
175. 7:06decide you're going to build a business,
176. 7:08meet the love of your life, write the
177. 7:10book, and get a six-pack by December.
178. 7:12It's October. Calm down. Give important
179. 7:16goals. Rude. I like 3 years. In 3 years,
180. 7:19your skills can change. Your network can
181. 7:21evolve. Your body can adapt. Your entire
182. 7:24identity can shift. And then there's the
183. 7:27third level. This is the one almost
184. 7:29nobody talks about. Is it safe for me to
185. 7:33have this? Because you may believe you
186. 7:36can become successful, but some part of
187. 7:38you believes success will destroy your
188. 7:41marriage. You may believe you can become
189. 7:43famous, but there's a part of you that
190. 7:45believes visibility means attack, means
191. 7:48loss of privacy. You may believe you can
192. 7:51find love, but there's some part of you
193. 7:53that believes that love means losing
194. 7:54your freedom. And if your subconscious
195. 7:56believes the goal is dangerous in any
196. 7:59way, it is going to protect you from it.
197. 8:01You will procrastinate. You will choose
198. 8:03the wrong person. you will miss the
199. 8:05opportunity. You'll call it bad luck.
200. 8:07It's not always sabotage. Sometimes it's
201. 8:11protection. Now, I learned this idea by
202. 8:14failing at it. See, when I first
203. 8:17discovered the silver method, I was a
204. 8:19teenager and my first goal was to heal
205. 8:21my shortsightness because I hated
206. 8:23wearing glasses. I suffered from myopia
207. 8:26and I had an eyesight of -700. Now,
208. 8:30that's pretty bad. But it means I
209. 8:31couldn't recognize someone this far
210. 8:33ahead of me. Now I read in Jose Silva's
211. 8:36book about this nun and I still remember
212. 8:38her name sister Barbara Bergs and in the
213. 8:40Silva system she trained herself to go
214. 8:42into a deep altered state of mind and
215. 8:44it's in this level of mind that you can
216. 8:46actually program belief and she repeated
217. 8:49to herself every time I blink my eyes my
218. 8:51vision gets better better and better.
219. 8:53Loved it. I imitated the same thing. I
220. 8:56was 14 but in my mind I didn't believe
221. 8:59it. I wore glasses for 9 years. My
222. 9:0114-year-old mind could not accept that.
223. 9:03I tried adapting, seeing visualization,
224. 9:07seeing myself with my eyesight healed.
225. 9:09Nothing happened. Still thick coke
226. 9:12bottle glasses. And I nearly gave up on
227. 9:14the entire Silva methodology. But one
228. 9:16day out of frustration, I decided to
229. 9:18reread the book. And then I found this
230. 9:20line from Silva. I'd missed it the first
231. 9:22time, but there it was. It was in the
232. 9:23book. And Joseé Silva wrote, "Don't jump
233. 9:26the gun." In other words, don't begin
234. 9:28with things your mind considers
235. 9:29impossible. Begin with something that
236. 9:31feels easier. Don't try to heal a broken
237. 9:35bone before you can heal dandruff. So, I
238. 9:37picked something smaller. Now, I also
239. 9:39suffered from acne. Basically, I was a
240. 9:41teenager with no dates. Big Coke bottle
241. 9:43glasses and acne. But I read that the
242. 9:46skin is the organ that is easiest to
243. 9:48heal with the mind. Jose Silva mentioned
244. 9:50that in his book. So, now I decided to
245. 9:53try on something easier than healing my
246. 9:55eyesight. healing my skin. I applied the
247. 9:58technique in his system called the three
248. 10:00scenes technique. And by the way, a
249. 10:02quick pause here. I know many of you are
250. 10:04wondering how do I learn the technique?
251. 10:06Well, I created a video on it. You see,
252. 10:08Jose Silva passed away in 1999. My
253. 10:10company, Mind Valley bought the rights
254. 10:12to his work. We released it as a program
255. 10:14on Mind Valley. But this particular skin
256. 10:17healing technique, I prepared a video
257. 10:19for those of you on YouTube who follow
258. 10:20my channel cuz I know so many of you
259. 10:22could really really uh benefit from
260. 10:25something like that. It's completely
261. 10:26free. If you enjoy that, you can check
262. 10:28out the full program, all links below.
263. 10:31So, I started applying this technique
264. 10:32and seeing my skin healed. Now, this is
265. 10:35super personal. I'm not telling you to
266. 10:38fire your dermatologist and stare
267. 10:40lovingly at your forehead, okay? The
268. 10:42point is in five weeks meditating and
269. 10:46using this technique three times a day
270. 10:48for three minutes each I healed five
271. 10:51years of skin problems. There's a whole
272. 10:54science for it now. It's called
273. 10:55psychodermatology. You can look it up.
274. 10:57But here's what happened. That gave me
275. 11:00faith. That gave me belief. I could now
276. 11:02jump on to bigger and bigger things. My
277. 11:04next goal qualifying for the US Open
278. 11:08taekwondo championships. It was 1993
279. 11:11and I made it. I got to represent my
280. 11:14country in the US Open. That was my
281. 11:17first trip to America. Fell in love with
282. 11:19the US and that's how I ended up
283. 11:21studying there and studying Mind Valley
284. 11:23there. This is how belief works. You
285. 11:25start with the smallest piece of
286. 11:28evidence that moves it from fantasy to
287. 11:31possibility. And every time you hit the
288. 11:33goal, your reservoir of belief gets
289. 11:37deeper and deeper. Think of belief as a
290. 11:39glass. Every time you hit a goal, you
291. 11:42fill that glass with more belief. And
292. 11:45the bigger the glass, the more your
293. 11:46belief, the bigger the goals you can
294. 11:48pursue. If you want to write a book, ask
295. 11:50yourself, do I believe I can write one
296. 11:52page in one week? If you want an
297. 11:54extraordinary body, ask yourself, do I
298. 11:57believe I can go to the gym three times
299. 12:00a week? If you want to build a
300. 12:01million-doll company, ask yourself, do I
301. 12:03believe I can make my first $100 online?
302. 12:06And as soon as you hit that, your belief
303. 12:08system starts growing. Your belief
304. 12:11system, you see, is like a muscle. You
305. 12:12don't go to the gym on day one and try
306. 12:14to bench press 100 kg. You start small
307. 12:18and build up. What is the smallest
308. 12:22result that would make the largest
309. 12:24result feel more real? Start there. Now
310. 12:27you have belief, Donna, and you've got
311. 12:29to tap into the third ingredient,
312. 12:31expectancy. Now, a lot of people confuse
313. 12:34expectancy with hope. Hope says, "I
314. 12:36really, really want this to happen."
315. 12:38Faith says, "I believe this could
316. 12:40happen." Expectancy says, "Oh, it's on
317. 12:43its way." Let me explain the difference.
318. 12:45Now, it's important that you understand
319. 12:48the feeling of expectancy. And I'm going
320. 12:50to tell you a story to help you
321. 12:51illustrate that feeling because many
322. 12:52people get this wrong. You might
323. 12:54visualize yourself with that ideal body,
324. 12:56visualize yourself with that check,
325. 12:58while in meditation, while journaling
326. 13:01your goals. But as soon as you get off
327. 13:02your cushion and you step into the
328. 13:05world, you feel a doubt. That doubt is
329. 13:08the opposite of expectancy. And I got to
330. 13:11tell you something. Why does creative
331. 13:13visualization work? It's not just mental
332. 13:15rehearsal. It's that creative
333. 13:17visualization tricks your brain into
334. 13:20expecting that reality to emerge. When
335. 13:23you get off the cushion, if you've done
336. 13:25this right, expectancy has risen. And
337. 13:28the more you do it, the more you expect
338. 13:30it. And the more you expect it, the more
339. 13:32likely it is to come. So, here's a quick
340. 13:35example to help you understand the
341. 13:37feeling of expectancy.
342. 13:39Imagine you have a friend and the friend
343. 13:41asks you to lend them $1,000. And you
344. 13:44do. And your friend says, "Listen, this
345. 13:45is just for a week and I'm going to pay
346. 13:46you back." But a week goes by, nothing.
347. 13:493 weeks, nothing. 3 months later,
348. 13:52they're not answering your calls.
349. 13:53They've disappeared from WhatsApp. And
350. 13:55somehow they're still posting from MKOS.
351. 13:58So now you're angry. Then you get a
352. 14:00message. Your friend says, "I apologize.
353. 14:03I was irresponsible. I was an absolute
354. 14:05jerk. Here's a photograph of the check
355. 14:09and here's a photograph of the FedEx
356. 14:10receipt and the tracking number. I've
357. 14:13sent this check to you." Now, the money
358. 14:17is not in your account. Nothing in
359. 14:20physical reality has changed. But you
360. 14:23relax.
361. 14:24Why? Because you expect the money to
362. 14:27come.
363. 14:28Your shift has happened. The money isn't
364. 14:30in the account yet, but the anger is
365. 14:32gone. The frustration is gone. You might
366. 14:34even have forgiven your friend. You
367. 14:36trust the check is in the mail.
368. 14:39Expectancy feels like that. And it's
369. 14:42actually a little boring because you
370. 14:43don't have emotional ups and downs. You
371. 14:46just know it's on its way. And the
372. 14:49easiest way to know if you have
373. 14:51expectancy is to look at your behavior.
374. 14:54If you knew the thing was on its way,
375. 14:56what would you be doing differently this
376. 14:59week? If you knew the book was going to
377. 15:01be published, would you be writing it
378. 15:03today? If you knew the relationship was
379. 15:05coming, would you be making space in
380. 15:07your life for another person? If you
381. 15:10knew the opportunity was coming, would
382. 15:12you be preparing? Would you still be
383. 15:14complaining that nobody has discovered
384. 15:16you? I remember when I was in college, I
385. 15:19really wanted a car, except that I was a
386. 15:22broke college student in Michigan. Now,
387. 15:24I saw a car I really liked, a Mercury
388. 15:26Sable 1989. It cost 2 grand. I didn't
389. 15:31have two grand. I needed to save up for
390. 15:33it. But I had read the Silva books and I
391. 15:37know how to create expectancy. So, I
392. 15:40went to Meyers, the Walmart of Michigan,
393. 15:42and I bought a windscreen snow scraper.
394. 15:46Now, that windscreen snow scraper was
395. 15:48about 30 bucks. Still a lot for a
396. 15:50college kid, but I bought it because I
397. 15:52knew when I get this car, I'm going to
398. 15:54have to scrape ice off the windscreen on
399. 15:57those cold Michigan winters. That snow
400. 16:01scraper helped me with my expectancy.
401. 16:05Pretty soon, I got a side gig. I saved
402. 16:08up enough. I was able to get the car.
403. 16:10This is expectancy. Your behavior
404. 16:13changes before the result arrives. So,
405. 16:16what is an action you can take this week
406. 16:18if you are no longer trying to convince
407. 16:19yourself? Now, do that. Now, this brings
408. 16:23us back to Matthew. Because after he
409. 16:25told me about the list, I asked him
410. 16:27about another idea from his book, The
411. 16:30Arrow and the Target. Listen to how he
412. 16:33explains it. The spider waits in his web
413. 16:35for dinner to come. Yes, we must chase
414. 16:38what we want, seek it out, cast our
415. 16:40lines in the water, but sometimes we
416. 16:42don't need to make things happen. Now, I
417. 16:44love that line, but I want to be really
418. 16:46clear about what it does not mean. It
419. 16:49does not mean Matthew wrote down an
420. 16:51Oscar, went back to sleep, and 20 years
421. 16:54later, the academy came knocking on his
422. 16:55door. That man developed the skill. He
423. 16:59took the roles. He made difficult
424. 17:01decisions. He did the work. He staffed
425. 17:04himself and changed his body for the
426. 17:06Dallas Bias Club. Manifesting isn't
427. 17:08sitting on your ass and expecting the
428. 17:10universe to be your Amazon Prime. The
429. 17:12target draws the arrow, but you still
430. 17:15have to be the arrow worth drawing. And
431. 17:18this is why three keys work together.
432. 17:21Desire chooses the target. Belief allows
433. 17:24you to move towards it. Expectancy
434. 17:27changes how you behave while it's
435. 17:29coming. Desire without belief becomes
436. 17:31frustration. Belief without expectancy
437. 17:34becomes endless hoping. An expectancy
438. 17:37without true desire is perhaps the most
439. 17:39dangerous one because you can become
440. 17:42very successful at building a life you
441. 17:44never ever wanted. So let's go back to
442. 17:47your goal. Which one is missing? Is it
443. 17:50desire? If no one could see you achieve
444. 17:52it, would you still want it? Is it
445. 17:55belief? Do you believe it's possible for
446. 17:57someone like you and safe for you to
447. 17:59receive it? Or is it expectancy? Are you
448. 18:01behaving like it's on its way or are you
449. 18:04behaving like a person who is still
450. 18:06waiting for permission because the
451. 18:08target may already be drawing the arrow
452. 18:10to you? Now the question is are you
453. 18:12letting yourself move? Now if you want
454. 18:14to help with your training in this and
455. 18:15your understanding of it, there's a link
456. 18:17below this to mind meditations. We have
457. 18:19more than a thousand practices from over
458. 18:21a 100 teachers to help you visualize,
459. 18:24change your state, work with the beliefs
460. 18:26underneath your goals. This is my new
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462. 18:32of Jose Silva is on this app. But if you
463. 18:35want to go deeper into Silva's work,
464. 18:38check out the Silva Ultramind system. It
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466. 18:42courses in the world in a peak year
467. 18:45doing close to 20 30 million in sales
468. 18:48and last year it was awarded the number
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470. 18:55options. You can get the Mind Valley
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475. 19:07this video. And if you love this
476. 19:09episode, please go ahead and hit
477. 19:11subscribe because in upcoming episodes,
478. 19:14I'm going to share the direct interview
479. 19:17with Matthew McConey. Probably one of
480. 19:18the best interviews I've ever done. And
481. 19:21you'll also find the exact video for the
482. 19:24three seams technique to teach you how I
483. 19:27healed my skin. Thank you for being a
484. 19:29subscriber. I'll see you in a future