Give Me 9 Minutes, And I'll Show You How To Clear Your Negative Thoughts — Transcript

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1. 0:00I'm going to say it. There's nothing
2. 0:03more excruciating than feeling like you
3. 0:05aren't worthy of all your desires.
4. 0:08Doubts are extremely [music] painful and
5. 0:11sometimes it just feels like there's
6. 0:13nothing we can do about it. I want you
7. 0:17to know that whatever you're going
8. 0:19through, you have the potential
9. 0:23to achieve your greatest desires. You
10. 0:26are not alone with this. and I am here
11. 0:29to walk [music] you through how to
12. 0:31recover from negative thoughts. So the
13. 0:35first thing I want you to ask yourself
14. 0:37is why do I believe these negative
15. 0:40thoughts? And the first thing that might
16. 0:42come to mind is [music] something
17. 0:44external, like something that's outside
18. 0:49of your control. Something that [music]
19. 0:51you don't really think of internally,
20. 0:52like I have negative thoughts because
21. 0:55I'm ugly, for example, or I don't have a
22. 0:58good job, or I don't have the partner of
23. 1:00[music] my life. Honey, I want you to
24. 1:05pause for a moment [music] and think
25. 1:07about this.
26. 1:09Is your appearance
27. 1:11is your job? Is the lack of a partner
28. 1:15[music] the cause of those negative
29. 1:17thoughts? No. The thing inside of your
30. 1:21skull is your mind has been plagued
31. 1:25[music] by some sort of trauma that went
32. 1:28unresolved and it had it has spiraled
33. 1:31out of control into [music] these
34. 1:33negative thoughts. Your mind has created
35. 1:36these gaps within that it does not want
36. 1:40to close [music] and it tears the gaps
37. 1:43open even further by adding more and
38. 1:46more negative thoughts. Therefore, it
39. 1:48keeps you in the cycle and [music] the
40. 1:50cycle will keep on going until you
41. 1:53directly confront it. So the first thing
42. 1:56I want to talk about is filling the gaps
43. 1:59within. How I define the gaps within is
44. 2:03basically an unresolved [music]
45. 2:06trauma, insecurity or doubt.
46. 2:10And it can be anything really. [music]
47. 2:12It could be like some sort of childhood
48. 2:14trauma whether somebody bullied you,
49. 2:17harmed you [music]
50. 2:18or did something that put you in
51. 2:21survival mode and kept you in this cycle
52. 2:24[music] of keeping these thoughts on
53. 2:26loop. When I say confronting these
54. 2:28thoughts, [music]
55. 2:29I want you to do the following. I want
56. 2:33you to consider therapy. I want you to
57. 2:36consider shadow work. I want you to
58. 2:38consider journaling. [music]
59. 2:40I want you to even talk to somebody that
60. 2:43you trust on a regular basis to get
61. 2:45[music] these thoughts out of your mind.
62. 2:47When we get these thoughts out of our
63. 2:50mind, not only do we get a [music]
64. 2:53deeper insight of the psychology behind
65. 2:56our thoughts, but we also are
66. 2:58energetically getting it [music] outside
67. 3:00of our body. When we speak, we are
68. 3:03releasing energy. And when we speak
69. 3:07about our negative thoughts, our doubts
70. 3:10[music] and our insecurities, we are
71. 3:12energetically purging that. So whether
72. 3:16you have access to therapy or not, you
73. 3:20have [music] so many resources that you
74. 3:22can do like and shadow journaling
75. 3:25doesn't have to be some type of fancy
76. 3:26ritual. It could [music] just look like
77. 3:28you grabbing a pen and a paper and start
78. 3:31writing down everything that has
79. 3:33traumatized you or that you're insecure
80. 3:36about. The second thing that I want to
81. 3:39emphasize here is taking it slow.
82. 3:43Self-discovery is not something that you
83. 3:45want to dive into because for many
84. 3:47people it has sent them into a [music]
85. 3:50long spiral of depression. Some people
86. 3:54can handle this, but for people who are
87. 3:56deeply traumatized and wounded from
88. 3:59within, [music] I really want you to
89. 4:01take caution around this. And if you're
90. 4:03somebody who has considered therapy, it
91. 4:06is best that you get a therapist and
92. 4:11go [music] to a therapist who is
93. 4:16receptive to your input on when you're
94. 4:19ready to reveal things to your
95. 4:20therapist. [music]
96. 4:21For example, when I was 17 years old, I
97. 4:24went to therapy because I was suffering
98. 4:26from a lot of shame that was directed
99. 4:29[music] at me from others regarding a
100. 4:33relationship that I was in. It was a
101. 4:34very abusive, unfair relationship.
102. 4:38And [music]
103. 4:39there were rumors, very negative rumors
104. 4:42spread about me [music]
105. 4:43regarding this relationship. Thus, I did
106. 4:45break it off with the partner that I
107. 4:47had. And my therapist told me that she
108. 4:52would never try [music] to open me up to
109. 4:55talking about this and that I could
110. 4:57approach her with the topic when I was
111. 4:59ready. And [music]
112. 5:01I was terrified of speaking of this
113. 5:04topic in front of my therapist because
114. 5:06of all the shame that I carried
115. 5:08regarding the relationship.
116. 5:11And 2 years later after I enrolled in
117. 5:14therapy was when I [music] finally
118. 5:17opened up to my therapist about the
119. 5:20relationship. [music] And I kid you not,
120. 5:23it literally took me like 30 minutes to
121. 5:25unravel the [music] entire psychological
122. 5:28attachment I had to the relationship.
123. 5:31Please remember that if you are going to
124. 5:33get a therapist, your therapist should
125. 5:35not entice [music] you to open up about
126. 5:38something that you are not comfortable
127. 5:40with sharing. [music] Now, I say therapy
128. 5:43is great, but sometimes there are things
129. 5:46that therapy cannot address because they
130. 5:48are merely too personal. Thus, why I am
131. 5:51adding journaling and shadowing work
132. 5:53[music] into my emphasis on self
133. 5:57rituals. When it comes to journaling and
134. 6:00shadow work, they are more private and
135. 6:02you do not have any limits to what you
136. 6:04can [music]
137. 6:05inquire about yourself or anything that
138. 6:08you can probe deeper into. [music] Like
139. 6:12it can be it can be really anything any
140. 6:15aspect about yourself. Like maybe you
141. 6:16want to ask yourself
142. 6:19why do I care so much about what people
143. 6:22think of me? And you might trace that
144. 6:24back to, well, my brother bullied me
145. 6:28when I was 13 years old and I fell into
146. 6:31a deep depression because I was scared
147. 6:33to leave the house and [music]
148. 6:36I was scared that other people were
149. 6:37going to bully me for my appearance.
150. 6:39[music] When you find the root cause of
151. 6:41that trauma, you're able to identify
152. 6:45what [music]
153. 6:46exactly you can do to reverse that. And
154. 6:49it's very hard at first to pull the
155. 6:53roots of this trauma because it goes
156. 6:57back so far. So you do have the choice
157. 7:01to work by yourself with this, but you
158. 7:04also have the choice to reach out to
159. 7:06somebody, whether that be a therapist
160. 7:08[music] or a family member or a loved
161. 7:11one that you trust deeply. It is up to
162. 7:13you. And what matters is that you do it
163. 7:16effectively and you do it discreetly.
164. 7:19Now the final thing that I want to
165. 7:20emphasize here is that even when you
166. 7:23have completed the shadow work, you have
167. 7:26completed your self inquiries and you've
168. 7:29worked successfully with yourself,
169. 7:31others or a therapist to resolve this
170. 7:33trauma.
171. 7:35Self-discovery and selfmastery [music]
172. 7:38is never ending. It never stops. And the
173. 7:43moment you stop [music] inquiring about
174. 7:46yourself, your psyche, and yourself as a
175. 7:49human being, [music] you almost
176. 7:53forget how to live. Because not only is
177. 7:56life about discovering what's outside of
178. 7:59us, [music]
179. 8:00but it's also about discovering what's
180. 8:03within. Interpersonal relationships are
181. 8:06just as important as the relationship
182. 8:08that you have with yourself. Believe it
183. 8:11or not, people who understand themselves
184. 8:13better are actually more socially adept
185. 8:16[music]
186. 8:17and they carry longer relationships.
187. 8:19They carry more meaningful relationships
188. 8:22and they are happier. So once you've
189. 8:25done all the work, [music] just make
190. 8:27sure to do self-maintenance with your
191. 8:30self-discovery. Ask yourself, is there
192. 8:33anything that I feel I have left behind?
193. 8:36Do I have any more [music] gaps that I
194. 8:39need to address? How can I better show
195. 8:41up in my relationships?
196. 8:43And most importantly, how do I keep
197. 8:47these negative thoughts at a [music]
198. 8:48distance in order to live the life of my
199. 8:51dreams? Thanks for tuning in to this
200. 8:53video, guys. I love you so much. Please
201. 8:57[music] make sure to like, comment, and
202. 8:58subscribe if this video resonated with
203. 9:00you. And until next time, I will see you
204. 9:02guys. Bye.