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0:03In western psychology, you are the
0:05center of the universe. You are the most
0:07important character. In the Quran, Allah
0:10is the most important entity. So your
0:12healing is not coming from inside. It's
0:14coming from outside. It's coming from
0:16Allah.
0:17Is it possible that Allah is commanding
0:19you to do something and if you do it,
0:21you're going to be traumatized? We are
0:23now experiencing we're we're looking at
0:26these prophets and we're understanding
0:29that what they experience is not a small
0:31amount of trauma. It's extreme.
0:34It's an extreme form of trauma. And
0:36there's a lot of, you know, social media
0:39content about how traumatic, how toxic
0:42your mother is and what a narcissist
0:44your brother is. Allah did not call Fyun
0:47a narcissist who calls himself God.
0:50Allah said, "Go speak to Fyan softly.
0:52maybe he will change. But in this new
0:54modern psychology, once you're a
0:56narcissist or once you're toxic, you're
0:58radioactive. You can't change. You're
1:00done. Finished. The difference between
1:02us and the Christian creed is you're
1:04broken and you will always be broken.
1:07With us, you can break and then you can
1:09fix again. And then you can break and
1:11you can what? Fix again.
1:18The thing I wish to talk to you about
1:19today is a very heavy subject.
1:23And that is human emotions in the Quran.
1:37Everyone um I want to start by sharing
1:41some highlights of my Belgian and
1:44Netherlands experience
1:46this morning. Uh, I went to a school. My
1:50high, one of my highlights was I went to
1:51a school and of course I heard all these
1:52kids playing around at the school and
1:54everybody's speaking Dutch. I don't know
1:56any Dutch. And uh, we were going to
1:59leave, but we decided to stop by one of
2:01the classrooms. And so we're just
2:04outside the classroom and the teacher
2:05still teaching and say went in and got
2:08permission and the door was open. So the
2:11kids could hear me talking to my
2:12colleague in English. And the kid in the
2:15last row looked at me happy and he said,
2:18"You speak English?"
2:21I was the one supposed to be surprised
2:23that he speaks English. But he was
2:25surprised that I speak. You speak
2:26English? I was like, "You speak
2:27English?" He goes, "Yeah." So I sat down
2:30with him in the back of the class. We
2:32started talking. I was like, "How did
2:33you learn English?" He said, "YouTube."
2:36I said, "No. What do you watch on
2:37YouTube?" He said, "I don't want to tell
2:38you.
2:43So, we kept having a conversation and
2:45then just for fun, I said, "You know
2:46what? I think I'm on YouTube." He goes,
2:48"No."
2:50So, then I took out my phone and I
2:51looked myself up on YouTube. He goes,
2:53"That's you.
2:55Wait, my dad has seen you."
2:59And then he started doing a facial
3:01recognition like just to verify if
3:04that's me. And in the meantime, the rest
3:06of the kids were staring. And the
3:09teacher for some reason put me up on the
3:10screen uh on the on the class screen,
3:14but he put the one of the you know they
3:16have these videos of the cartoon
3:17animation voice over thing. So there's a
3:20cartoon me and one of the girls says
3:23it's that guy.
3:26So that was a really fun experience with
3:28those kids. Alhamdulillah, they were
3:29lots of lots and lots of fun. The second
3:30experience was afterba at the masid. A
3:34lot of people came up to me and said,
3:35"Saddam." And a young man came up to me
3:37and said, "It's good content. Are you on
3:40Tik Tok?"
3:41I said, "I I don't know." He goes, "I'll
3:43look you. I'll find your TikTok. It's
3:44good stuff. I like you." So, I felt very
3:49validated by the 14-year-old.
3:52Well, anyway, alhamdulillah. Um, it's
3:54it's good to be here. And I was actually
3:57very confused about what topic I should
3:59uh share with you. There are a number of
4:01subjects that I've been wanting to give
4:03a lecture about from the Quran and from
4:05my observations, but I I was holding
4:08back and I didn't decide. And the reason
4:11I didn't decide is I like to come to a
4:12community and kind of observe what's
4:15going on as much as I can before I
4:18choose what to talk about. So, this
4:21topic was chosen an hour ago. Uh, so
4:24it's going to be pretty bad, but that's
4:25that's your fault. Okay.
4:29Um, the thing I wish to talk to you
4:31about today is a very heavy subject.
4:33It's something that I I've been studying
4:35on and off for a few years, but
4:37inshallah, my team and I are going to be
4:39dedicated to studying this subject, I
4:42think probably for the next four or five
4:43months at least full-time in the Quran.
4:46And that is human emotions in the Quran.
4:49How to understand Allah's commentary on
4:51human emotion in the Quran. And I'm just
4:54picking one of those emotions today or
4:56one of those human experiences, not all
4:58of them. Because be before I get into
5:01the subject, I want to share just one
5:03basic foundation issue with you.
5:06A lot of people when they go through a
5:08difficult time today, they're told, "Go
5:11speak to a therapist. Go speak to a
5:14counselor. Go speak to some mental
5:16health professional. You're depressed.
5:18You have anxiety. You have a trauma. you
5:20have something and you need to speak to
5:22some kind of counselor, right? And I I
5:25don't disagree. I don't disagree.
5:27However,
5:29it's very important that we understand
5:30that western psychology meaning
5:33psychology in Europe, America, Canada,
5:36Australia, the western world and the
5:38universities that are producing the
5:41educa the people that are qualified in
5:43psychology. They are based on a
5:46foundation of you know there are
5:49documents the founders of western
5:52psychology and in western psychology
5:54there are a few things that we have to
5:56take note of and those few things are
6:00the most important thing for you is is
6:02you.
6:04The the center of the universe is you.
6:09Your world is yours
6:12and what whatever you're experiencing in
6:15order to understand it, we have to
6:17understand you better. So we have to go
6:20back in your past and we find out what
6:23happened in your childhood. What was
6:24your mother like? What was your father
6:26like? What was your experience like? Oh,
6:28that was a trauma you experienced when
6:29you were 5 years old. And this is a
6:31trauma that happened to you when you
6:32were 10 years old. And this is what
6:34happened to you when you were a
6:35teenager. and you had this trauma and
6:36this trauma and this trauma and this
6:38trauma and these traumas shaped you and
6:39that's why you are the way you are etc
6:41etc there's this so basically the
6:44therapist not every therapist but
6:46generally I'm generalizing here is
6:49exploring an entire universe that exists
6:51inside you
6:53and then from that they'll come up with
6:56because you have these these experiences
6:58this is what we can do and there's one
7:01you know there's many people that have
7:03pioneered in this field but one
7:04particular person that is the father of
7:06western psychology is Freud. I think
7:07everybody here knows that. And Freud has
7:11this is not a lecture about Freud. I
7:12promise you. But one thing you do need
7:15to know about Freud uh Freud is the
7:18secular version of Christianity.
7:22And I'll explain in a second what that
7:23means. Freud, according to me, Freud is
7:26the secular version of what?
7:28>> Christian creed. Christianity. Why? The
7:31Christians believe that Adam
7:35disobeyed God. He the image of God was
7:38broken. He was shattered. He was brought
7:40to the earth broken and in sin. So he
7:44was born in sin. And no matter what he
7:46does, he will always be broken. He can
7:48do all the good in the world. It will
7:50never be good enough. He will be broken.
7:52And all of his children are are born
7:54broken. That's why they're all born with
7:56original sin. And this can never be
7:58fixed. This kid doesn't matter how much
8:00charity they give, how much kindness
8:02they do, how good they are, how honest
8:04they are, how truthful they are. None of
8:06that matters. They are still drowned
8:08inside sin. They are all broken. And the
8:11only thing that can fix it is God
8:12himself. So he decided to slaughter his
8:14own son to fix this problem. So the
8:18problem started from Adam and the only
8:21thing that could solve this problem was
8:23the sacrifice of God's son. And finally
8:26the the humans are no longer broken if
8:28they accept Jesus as Lord and S. That's
8:30the Christian idea. But one thing that I
8:32want you to remember from this idea is
8:34all human beings start broken. The
8:37starting point is broken. In Freud
8:40psychology, all human beings start
8:43traumatized.
8:45All of them. We all have a complex. We
8:48all have issues. Nobody's normal. And
8:51you're spending your entire life undoing
8:53your own trauma.
8:55There's no such thing as normal. There's
8:57no such thing. Now, this is this is
9:00something in common between the two. All
9:02human beings are broken. One is saying
9:04spiritually broken. The other is saying
9:05psychologically broken but still broken.
9:09There's a hadith of the prophet
9:10sallallahu alaihi wasallam very famous.
9:11I think everybody here knows it.
9:15Every newborn is born on the
9:19Allah says
9:22the beautiful perfect nature of Allah
9:24and Allah used that nature to create
9:26human beings.
9:30We created the human being in the most
9:31beautiful upright form. In the Quran and
9:35in Islam human being the starting point
9:37of the human being is not that they are
9:38broken that they are actually perfectly
9:40fine.
9:42They're on the they're perfectly fine.
9:45And then the hadith goes on to describe
9:47that bad things happen later on happens
9:50bad
9:54the parents turned him into a Jew or
9:56Christian imagine whatever else right
9:57that's later on.
10:00So the starting point of understanding
10:03psychology the root the root is
10:06completely different for the believers
10:08of Islam and for the study of
10:12psychology. And what happens then is
10:14there are Muslims who are now studying
10:17psychology in western university.
10:20Yeah. And then they're trying to bring
10:22together Islam and psychology and we're
10:24trying to create something called
10:25Islamic psychology.
10:27If we don't understand where the roots
10:30separate and we're trying to connect the
10:32branches later on, it's never going to
10:34connect properly.
10:36They're not going to connect properly.
10:38So, this is something that's going to
10:39require deeper research. I'll be doing a
10:41lot of work on that and how we need to
10:42actually there's a need for Muslims to
10:45actually develop Quranic psychology
10:48entirely new, entirely fresh, not from
10:52the Western paradigm, but from the Quran
10:54paradigm. From the Quran paradigm. Okay.
10:56So when I I I wrote the I told him to
10:59write this title on top and I wrote the
11:01word trauma and the moment you see
11:04trauma western psychology comes to mind
11:07and in western psychology all of you
11:08have been traumatized and the other
11:10thing about interestingly about western
11:12psychology is most western psychological
11:14literature is based on uh middle class
11:19European or euroentric
11:21uh uh people and culture. It has nothing
11:26to do with Africa. It has nothing to do
11:28with Asia. It has nothing to do with the
11:30Far East. It does nothing to do with
11:31them. And in industrialized Europe, do
11:34families live together
11:37after the industrial revolution? Do
11:38mother, father, grandfather, uncle,
11:41cousins, do they live nearby each other?
11:43No. They don't have a concept of
11:45families living together? Do they have a
11:47concept of you have to be the best to
11:48your parents until they become very old?
11:51No, they don't have their concept. Do
11:53they have the concept of blood ties?
11:57You have to keep the blood ties. You
11:58have to connect people together. You
12:00have to get together with them. You have
12:01to share goodness with them. You have to
12:03give your the first charity good should
12:04go to your own family eternal
12:09freedom.
12:11Individual freedom. And in their in
12:13their society for well over a century,
12:16maybe even even more now, your family is
12:19actually a trauma.
12:21You get really depressed because it's
12:22going to be Christmas and you're going
12:23to have to see your mother and she's
12:25going to make comments and ah that's why
12:27I need to go to my therapist before I go
12:29to the family reunion.
12:31Okay? Because I can't I can't deal with
12:33my uncle. I can't deal with my brother.
12:35Oh my god, my brother's calling again.
12:37Oh my god, my father. So, every one of
12:39your family members is a problem in
12:41Western psychology.
12:43You understand? There there's some kind
12:45of trauma associated with them. And
12:48there's a lot of, you know, social media
12:52content from professionals,
12:54non-professionals, people that want to
12:56become, you know, Tik Tok therapists,
12:57whatever, about how traumatic how toxic
13:00your mother is and what a narcissist
13:03your brother is. And what a what if what
13:06do you what do you do if you have a
13:07toxic family and an abusive family and a
13:09narcissistic family? What did they say?
13:11They said, "Pray."
13:13What did they say? What are you wearing?
13:15Oh my god. You do you queen.
13:19Right? So you have this because they
13:22don't believe in the idea of family that
13:26existed for centuries and centuries and
13:28centuries in every other society. But in
13:30western society family is a prison and
13:33you have to free yourself from that
13:35prison. You have to free yourself from
13:36the trauma that was given to you by your
13:38mom and your dad. You have to free
13:40yourself from that. You have to find you
13:43find you know become yourself.
13:46So we really really need to understand
13:50this kind of therapy is also a dawa.
13:53This therapy is also a message and it's
13:56not just happening inside the office of
13:58a therapist when somebody pays for
14:00counseling sessions. This is happening
14:02now in media, in television, in music,
14:04in literature, in classrooms, in it's
14:07being we are being bombarded with this
14:09new psychology.
14:11This new psychology. So the the roots
14:13are different, but the branches and the
14:16fruits are also completely different.
14:18They're completely different. And so
14:20when we try to fix our problems as
14:23Muslims from a western psychological
14:26paradigm and go to them and they tell
14:29you, "Oh, so tell me about the
14:32relationship with your mother." Tell me
14:34about the relationship with your father.
14:36My father, you know, sometimes when I
14:38messed up, he uh he was pretty tough.
14:40Oh, yeah. How did that make you feel?
14:42Scared? Oh, so your father put fear in
14:45you. That's why that's why your marriage
14:48is failing right now.
14:51It's my dad's fault.
14:56This is the mind warp that's happening.
15:00And we're learning these new labels and
15:03everybody's become a psychologist.
15:06Everybody, every teenager here knows
15:08who's toxic and who's a narcissist and
15:09who's got you. You're throwing these
15:13words out just like that. Allah did not
15:15call Fyun a narcissist.
15:19Allah said go speak to Fyon softly.
15:21Maybe he will change.
15:24Okay. But today somebody will say is a
15:26narcissist.
15:28He's an egotistical maniac. There's no
15:30point talking to him. Just block him.
15:34Okay. Just you need to just avoid him.
15:37And if you run into him and you're
15:38traumatized, come back and talk to me
15:40because you know.
15:43But Allah is telling Musa Alam to go
15:45talk to who calls himself God. But even
15:48then, Allah says he can change. But in
15:50this new modern psychology, once you're
15:52a narcissist or once you're toxic,
15:55you're radioactive. You can't change.
15:57You're done. Finished. Now you're toxic
15:59for life. You're an abuser for life.
16:01You're a narcissist for life. These are
16:03labels. These are not behaviors. These
16:05are labels. They're permanent. Like your
16:07genetics. They're permanent. It's crazy.
16:10Anyway, now we're going to start. That
16:12was the foundation. Now I'm going to
16:14start the lecture. Okay. That was just
16:16Okay. I'm going to give you two words
16:18today. I could give you tons of
16:20vocabulary, but I'm going to give you
16:21two words. First word is garb. If you
16:25don't, if you're not taking notes, which
16:26means you're a brother, it's okay. Um,
16:31one brother
16:34two exceptions. Okay, Allah reward you.
16:36The exception proves the rule. Uh,
16:39sisters, the term is
16:42kaf.
16:44carb like carbs,
16:47right? Okay,
16:49let me tell you something about this
16:50word.
16:52When uh in Arabic,
16:56when they have palm trees and they grow
16:58leaves and they cut off all the leaves
17:00and they still have the edges left and
17:02the edges of a palm tree are strong, so
17:04you can step on them like a ladder, you
17:06can use them like ladders. That part of
17:08the palm tree that's strong, that's
17:10called a karab from the same word. uh
17:13when they have a rope that they tie on
17:16the well so they can lower the bucket
17:18and they keep knotting it and knotting
17:20and knotting it. Even if the rope
17:21breaks, the knot is still stuck. That
17:24part of the knot that never breaks,
17:25that's called a also. So it's the part
17:29of the tree that never breaks, it's part
17:30of the rope that never snaps. It's also
17:33used for when they tie an animal's legs
17:36together so it doesn't it's not able to
17:38move and it doesn't open. That's also
17:40called a It's also used for the wood
17:43that the baker uses to, you know, they
17:46have those those those bakeries where
17:48the bread is put inside the walls,
17:50right? And you have to have a very
17:52strong piece of wood to slap the the
17:55bread inside. It's it can't break. It
17:58can't get on fire. It can't bend. That
18:00kind of tough wood is actually also
18:02called a karib. Actually, it's called a
18:04karib. But anyway, there are other
18:06examples. You get the point. something
18:07very tough, something that doesn't
18:09break. Yeah.
18:11From this came this idea that a human
18:15being that experiences something that
18:18becomes very heavy and never breaks. The
18:20feeling that never goes away, a feeling,
18:23a weight, a burden that never goes away,
18:26a stress that never goes away. An
18:28anxiety that never goes away. A fear
18:31that never goes away. A sadness that
18:33never goes away. And it's heavy. and you
18:35try to break it but you can't break it.
18:37It's always there. It becomes a
18:38permanent part of your personality. That
18:40kind of a fear is called a or that kind
18:43of a depression or an anxiety or a
18:46sadness, right? That kind of emotional
18:48burden is called a
18:51it's very hard to break. It's fixed.
18:53Okay, that's the first word. The second
18:56word is
18:57ra
18:59the word is used for you know rama comes
19:03from it which is clouds when they come
19:05and you can't see the sun anymore so
19:07they cover the clouds they're called
19:10okay
19:16they used to have this uh this kind of
19:19mask they sometimes they put it on the
19:22mouth of the camel so it it doesn't make
19:24a
19:25They gag the camel and sometimes they
19:27have another they put it on the eyes of
19:30the camel so it doesn't look around.
19:31Then they have aam on the camel so it
19:33doesn't smell because they're going
19:34through an area. If it smells it's going
19:36to react and run away. So they put a a
19:40cover on the nose. So aam is something
19:43that covers up. It's a cover the clouds
19:46that cover the sky the mask that covers
19:48the eyes or the nose or the mouth of the
19:50camel. It's actually from it you get the
19:52word alum which is a kind of sickness
19:55like if you have a sinus blockage and
19:57you can't breathe from your nose because
19:59your nostrils are covered. That's
20:01actually called in Arabic. That's that's
20:04one of the words for it. Okay. Uh and
20:07from it you get this idea that someone
20:09who is experiencing
20:12such a painful experience
20:14that because of that even when they have
20:17a happy experience it's blocked.
20:20They can't experience joy. They can't
20:22experience a smile. Everybody else is
20:24laughing. They can't laugh. Everybody
20:26else is excited. They're not excited.
20:27There's They're sitting there watching a
20:29football final. Everybody's going,
20:30"Yeah." And they're going,
20:33"How was it?
20:36It was fun. This is amazing."
20:40Right?
20:42This person who's not able to they, you
20:44know, a lot of people describe feeling
20:45numb. Do you know what what I mean by
20:47that? I can't experience joy like I used
20:50to. I can't experience excitement. I
20:52can't experience happiness. Nothing, you
20:54know, gets my blood flowing. I'm
20:57experiencing something called
21:00Rum is a kind of numbing feeling. Rum is
21:03a kind of blockage, an emotional
21:04blockage. Now I'm not able to feel what
21:06I used to feel. In fact, can be so
21:08powerful that you don't even you don't
21:10even cry.
21:12Rum can happen at a at a funeral.
21:14Everybody's crying and you're not you're
21:17not feeling it. You're not feeling it.
21:19You're blocked. And people are looking
21:20at you like your your dad just passed
21:22away or your your brother just passed
21:24away. Why aren't you crying? I don't
21:25know. I can't feel anything.
21:28Am I I know I'm supposed to cry, but I
21:30can't. This feeling is called what? So,
21:34we've got two really heavy emotions and
21:38I could have given you like eight more
21:40cuz these are all negative emotions.
21:41There's lots of them in the Quran, but I
21:43wanted to just focus on two of them.
21:45Hold on to that in the in the back
21:46pocket. And now let's talk about some
21:48prophets.
21:50Okay,
21:52we're going to start what I'm going to
21:54give you. You will do your own homework.
21:56Uh this is from Ambia, surah number 21.
22:00And this is going to be from ayah number
22:0265 onwards. And we're not going to do
22:04all of the ayat. Just pick and choose
22:06some parts. We're starting with Ibraim.
22:10When Ibraimisam was a young man, and
22:12this is where you need to start making
22:14some noise. I will ask you questions and
22:15you will call out answers with no
22:17hesitation. I know you're Europeans, so
22:19you're very civilized, but today you act
22:21like you're an American at a baseball
22:23game. Come. Okay, you got to be loud.
22:26Okay, so I'll ask you questions. You
22:28just answer out loud. I want to hear
22:29your answers. Ibraimisam was when he was
22:32very young, did he experience any kind
22:36of trauma?
22:37Okay, let's talk about his trauma.
22:40>> Where did his trauma come from? Who was
22:42traumatizing him?
22:45>> His father. Very good. His father. Okay,
22:47so now there's a young man and his
22:50father is angry with him. His father is
22:52very angry with him. His father is
22:55telling him, if you imagine, we don't
22:57know, but just use your imagination. You
22:59have a webcam inside the house of
23:03Ibrahim. And the the webcam is pointing
23:06at the father, not at Ibrahimam because
23:08we don't film the prophets. So the
23:11camera is on his father and his father's
23:13yelling at him. What kind of things does
23:16he say? What do you think? What do you
23:18think he says to Ibrahimam?
23:21Use your imagination.
23:24>> Huh?
23:25>> You're weird. Why are you so weird?
23:30>> You're obnoxious.
23:32You're ungrateful.
23:35>> You're a bad son.
23:37What else? Come on. Come on. Some you
23:40Some of these things are not coming from
23:41imagination. They're coming from
23:42experience. Come on.
23:52>> Oh, you're a shame for this family.
23:56You're such a disappointment.
23:59>> You're a disgrace.
24:02How are you, my son?
24:06You're lazy. Because he wasn't building
24:08the idols. I guess
24:12that's a good one. That's a lot of
24:15stuff.
24:17Is it important for a child, a boy, that
24:20his dad is proud of him?
24:23Okay. So, when you when you you you're a
24:26kid, you're a kid and you do well on a
24:28test. you do or you're a kid and you're
24:32playing football and your dad is
24:33watching the match and you score a goal.
24:36A bunch of people are happy. Where do
24:39your eyes go first?
24:41>> Dad.
24:44Like, yeah.
24:46Dad is proud.
24:50If you did well, if you did well and
24:53your father came and gave you a hug and
24:55father said, "I am proud of you."
24:58If your friend said, "I'm proud of you."
25:01If your mom said, "I'm proud of you."
25:04Because mom's proud of you. Even when
25:06you got arrested for selling drugs, he's
25:08still proud of you. like your mom
25:09doesn't you know
25:14but your dad
25:16when your dad is proud of you
25:19when your dad says good job
25:22my I I'm from Pakistan and in Pakistan
25:26it is haram to encourage your children
25:30we don't it's it's we we have a
25:32different mudhab and
25:35okay and in our mudhab we don't we don't
25:38encourage encourage children. So my
25:40father is an except he tries. He tries.
25:42I love my dad. And I'll tell you
25:44something about my dad. Love him to
25:46death.
25:49The most my father will ever give me
25:52when he's really proud of me, really
25:54proud of me, he'll give me a hug and say
25:57satisfactory.
26:05And satisfactory is actually the
26:07highest. It's pretty high. There's one
26:10underneath that. It's acceptable.
26:15And then when my sister graduated from
26:17medical school, he said, "Good."
26:20And I said, "Hey,
26:23you had that one, too?
26:25She got the highest one. She got good."
26:29Encouraging words from a father mean
26:32everything.
26:33Everyone else can say whatever, but when
26:35your father validates you, it does
26:37something nobody else can do.
26:40But when a father puts you down,
26:44when a father puts you down, when a
26:45father says you're lazy, when a father
26:47says you're a disappointment, when a
26:49father says you're useless, when a
26:51father says I'm ashamed of you, when a
26:53father says, "Why can't you be like
26:55those other boys?" When a father looks
26:57at you and doesn't even say anything and
26:59all the disappointment is on his face,
27:03just on his face or you come in and
27:05sayamlaykum and he says
27:10that breaks a man. It breaks a child.
27:15You know what it tells a child?
27:17He doesn't care. I can never impress
27:20him. I can never make him happy. You
27:23know what? I don't care about making
27:26anyone happy.
27:28I can't make him happy. So, you know
27:29what? Why do I have to care about
27:32anyone's feelings? Because the one
27:34person you cared about their feelings so
27:36much that you want to see something from
27:38them, something positive from them, they
27:39didn't give it to you. So now you get
27:43traumatized
27:45and you don't care about what anybody
27:47else feels because you didn't get the
27:49validation from your dad. Let's go back
27:52to Ibrahimam. His father is telling him
27:54he's a disappointment. He's weird. He's
27:56not like everybody else. Why is he such
27:59a loser? Why is he so strange? Why is he
28:01crazy? He has such high hopes for him.
28:05He's giving he's giving the father a bad
28:07name. He's hearing all these things. Are
28:09these easy things for any child to hear?
28:12No. No. Go further in this young man's
28:16life and what do you experience? He's
28:19this young man Ibrahim.
28:21his entire society. At least when your
28:24dad doesn't like you, maybe you have
28:25friends who like you. Yeah. Because a
28:28lot of times you don't get along with
28:29your dad. So then you get along with
28:30your friends.
28:33Usually the friends that you get along
28:34with are doing other bad things,
28:36rebellious things. Ibrahimam doesn't
28:39even have a gang to hang out with.
28:43Not really. There's no bad crowd because
28:46he's the only good one in the society.
28:48He's a rebel by being good, not a rebel
28:50by being bad.
28:52Right? Eventually, not only his father,
28:56the entire societ, everyone is calling
28:59him weird. Everyone is saying, "We hate
29:02you." Everyone is now saying, "You know
29:04what? Let's throw him into a fire.
29:08Let's throw him into a fire." By the
29:10way, go step back. Who used to build the
29:12idols?
29:14His father. And who destroyed the idols?
29:18So the father built the idols and the
29:19son destroyed the idols. So now who is
29:23the most angry with him?
29:26His father. So when they're throwing him
29:27in throwing him in the fire, who's okay
29:30with it?
29:32Even his father's okay with it.
29:34Even his father's okay with it. And he's
29:37about to be thrown into a fire. Is that
29:39traumatic that you see your dad okay
29:41with you being burned alive? Is that
29:44traumatic?
29:47can very traumatic. You're right, young
29:49man.
29:50>> Very traumatic. Okay, so that's one
29:52that's just one prophet.
29:54>> We are called It is weird.
29:59We are now experiencing we're we're
30:01looking at these prophets and we're
30:04understanding that what they experience
30:06is not a small amount of trauma. It's
30:08extreme.
30:10It's an extreme form of trauma. as a
30:11young man, as a child. Let's go to
30:14Lutisam.
30:16Does he experience trauma?
30:19He's an old man in the story. He's not a
30:22young man. He's an old man. So, we saw
30:24the experience of a child in right after
30:26that we're seeing the experience of an
30:28old man.
30:30What kind of negative feelings is Lisam
30:34experiencing? Can you give me some idea?
30:38>> Disappointment or something more?
30:42loneliness. Nobody agrees with him. He
30:44feels alone. No support.
30:47Betrayal by his own people. Can't trust
30:49anybody.
30:51>> What else
30:53is he trying to help them understand
30:55something?
30:57>> You're you're a prophet. Allah chooses
30:59the prophets because they're very good
31:00at communication. One of the reasons he
31:03chooses prophets is they're very good at
31:04communicating. So, he's doing everything
31:06he can to communicate with these people.
31:09Are they understanding him?
31:12>> No.
31:14Imagine you're trying to communicate.
31:16You're being logical. You're being
31:17reasonable. You're doing everything you
31:19can properly. And the people in front of
31:21you, instead of them agreeing with you,
31:22they're disagreeing with you even more.
31:24And they're getting even more aggressive
31:26and more aggressive. Is that
31:27frustrating?
31:32The way that the the frustration of
31:35Lutisam is described. The way his
31:38frustration is and plus he's an old man.
31:40He can't even defend his guests. He
31:43can't defend his family. He's feeling
31:46helpless.
31:47So he's helpless. He's alone. He's
31:50frustrated. He has no support. Are these
31:55feelings? When somebody's sitting in a
31:56therapy somewhere, do you feel helpless?
31:59Do you feel you don't have any support?
32:02Do you feel alone? Do you feel like
32:04nobody understands you? Do you feel like
32:06you're trying to communicate, but the
32:07people on the other side keep getting
32:08angry and they don't understand what
32:10you're trying to say? No matter how
32:11clearly you say, you can't get across to
32:13them. Are these common experiences
32:16in people's lives? Yeah.
32:19Yeah. Lisam is experiencing it.
32:23You go a little further
32:26and actually
32:30Go to newam
32:33surah keeps going one trauma Ibraim
32:36another trauma the next trauma
32:41he's talking to one generation of people
32:43they don't listen to him the next
32:45generation comes he has hope they'll
32:47listen to him do they listen to him no
32:50and the next generation no
32:54he keeps trying and trying and trying
32:57with new people and new people and new
32:59people and they keep giving him the same
33:00results over and over and over and over
33:02again. His own son doesn't listen to
33:04him. His wife doesn't listen to him. The
33:06generations, new generations don't
33:08listen to him. The next generation
33:09doesn't listen to him. He's there for
33:11950 years and nobody practically
33:13nobody's listening to him. Is it
33:16possible that you keep trying something
33:17and trying something and trying
33:18something and trying something and you
33:20don't see results year after year, month
33:22after month, year after year, attempt
33:24after attempt? What feeling do you
33:26experience?
33:28You feel pain. You feel hopeless.
33:32You feel depressed. You start saying,
33:33"What's the point? Why am I doing this?
33:37Nothing's working. Nothing's changing.
33:39There's there's no reason for me to keep
33:40going. Even my own son doesn't listen to
33:42me. Even my own wife hates me." And then
33:47at the end of his story, at the very end
33:49of his story, he's trying to save his
33:51son. He still loves his son
33:53and his son refuses to be saved.
33:56Are there people who experience that
33:59they have a child, they're trying to
34:01save that child, and that child refuses
34:03to be saved? Does that happen today?
34:06Does that happen in families?
34:09They're trying everything. They're
34:11trying to bring him back. Doesn't want
34:13to listen. Doesn't want to listen. Wants
34:16to drown. Are there people also that
34:19tried to save their children, tried to
34:21save their young son, their teenage son,
34:23their 20-year-old, their 22-y old? They
34:24tried to save their daughter and they
34:26couldn't save them and they lost them.
34:28Did that happen? Yeah.
34:32Just like the story of who?
34:35He's experienced the trauma of trying
34:37and trying and trying and not even being
34:40able to get through to his own family,
34:42not to mention generations of people.
34:45And by the way, there's another part of
34:47this.
34:50Feels like Allah gave him a mission.
34:52Yes.
34:54The He's a messenger. What's his
34:56mission?
34:57What's his mission? He's supposed to do
34:59what?
35:01>> Give his message. Does he feel like he
35:03succeeded in giving his message?
35:05>> No.
35:06>> I don't think he feels like he succeeded
35:08in giving the message.
35:10If the entire population of believers
35:13can fit on one boat,
35:16that's not a big population.
35:19That's not a big So, it doesn't feel
35:21like a success for him.
35:23And on top of that, he lost his own
35:25family.
35:26Does he is there a possibility there's a
35:28feeling like I failed?
35:31So not only did I fail people, I failed
35:33my family, I who does he feel he failed?
35:36Possibly you fail Allahhana wa tala
35:40Allah is not happy with me. Is it
35:41possible a parent today actually I even
35:43met a parent today who said I'm trying
35:45to talk to my son. He doesn't pray. He
35:46doesn't listen. I'm afraid Allah is
35:49angry with me. I have failed Allah.
35:52And the moment she said that I
35:54remembered who
35:56knew your trauma is in the Quran.
36:00It was experienced by someone. It was
36:03experienced by nuisam.
36:05Maybe Allah is not happy with me because
36:06I wasn't able to save my son. Maybe
36:09Allah is not happy with me because I
36:10wasn't able to save my spouse or my
36:12nation.
36:14This is the same fear that
36:17Allah told him.
36:22Maybe you're going to kill yourself in
36:24depression because you keep thinking
36:26that these people aren't listening and
36:27the effect of them not listening is
36:29killing you.
36:32Don't be don't stop being sad over them.
36:34The prophet was told, now listen to
36:36these words. I gave you two words that
36:37were heavy emotions. What were the two
36:39words?
36:41And and what do you remember about let's
36:44see if you remember
36:47something solid something strong that
36:49doesn't leave listen Allah says about
36:57we rescued N
37:00and his family
37:02from
37:05a great KB.
37:07We rescued him from a great
37:11kar is a feeling that never leaves.
37:14Remember that is a feeling that stays.
37:16And Allah said, "I saved him from that
37:20feeling." He was suffering from that
37:22feeling and Allah eventually lifted that
37:25feeling from him.
37:27So, can trauma be removed?
37:30In the Quran, can long-term trauma,
37:33trauma that's been there for 950 years,
37:36can it be removed? Yeah. Yeah. Allah can
37:40and Allah did not say he rescued him
37:42from the he rescued him from the flood.
37:45He rescued him from the in this ayah. He
37:48says he rescued him from the
37:50because this is also a kind of adab.
37:53This is also a kind of punishment or not
37:56for torture. And this you need to be
37:58rescued from too. There's storms outside
38:00and there's storms inside. And Allah
38:01says he rescued him from the storm
38:03inside. Okay, let's keep going.
38:08Right after the story of Nisam, we see
38:10something very strange. We see Allah
38:13mentioning Dud and
38:16so let's see if you can remember the
38:18list who was mentioned so far in order
38:21Ibrahimam then
38:25Alam and now
38:31okay what Allah says about them Allah
38:34says says,
38:42"Allah gave
38:45power over mountains
38:47and he gave him power over birds."
38:52So, so and we made we taught him how to
38:55make armor meaning bend steel
38:59like Allah says. Okay.
39:02And was given power over the wind.
39:06Dud has power over mountains and birds.
39:09And he can bend metal. And has power
39:12over the winds.
39:15And he gave him power over
39:18who go diving for him. So they go
39:26every other situation before
39:29somebody was powerless. You notice that
39:32Ibraimisam is powerless with his dad.
39:36Nutam is powerless with his people. Nam
39:39is powerless with his family. All of a
39:41sudden two prophets who seem to have
39:43what?
39:45They have a lot of power.
39:47And not only do they have power over
39:49they had kingdom, they had they had
39:51armies and military. So they have power
39:53over people. People will do what they
39:55say whether they like it or not. Even
39:57are doing what they say whether they
39:59like it or not.
40:01Even
40:03so Allah mentioned people that were
40:05traumatized and helpless and powerless
40:07and all of a sudden he mentioned people
40:09that are extremely powerful. Extremely
40:12powerful right after that and then by
40:15the way just to show you right after
40:17them we'll come back to them in a
40:19second. Right after them, Allah says
40:24Allah mentions and Alisam didn't even
40:27have power over his own body.
40:31Not even over his own body. We saw
40:33prophets who don't have power over their
40:34dad. They don't have control over their
40:36wife or son. They don't have control
40:37over their society. They don't have
40:39control over no control. No control. And
40:41now you get to such an extreme. He
40:44doesn't even have control over what? His
40:46own body. his own body. His own body is
40:50rebelling against him. It's not people
40:52who are hurting him. The body's hurting
40:53him. The body is hurting him. So Allah
40:56mentions helplessness, helplessness,
40:57helplessness. And in the middle of that,
40:59he mentions two people that are
41:01extremely powerful that teach us
41:03something very powerful among many
41:05things. I'll just focus on one thing.
41:07There's a saying that a friend of mine
41:08told me. I really like it. The bigger
41:11your garden,
41:13the bigger the snakes.
41:17The bigger your garden, what did he say?
41:20The bigger the snakes. If you saw has
41:24kingdom and he has power and he has
41:25military and he has armies and he has
41:28all this empire. You know what? The more
41:31power you have, the more snakes you
41:34have. You don't know who's trying to
41:37stab you in the back. You don't because
41:39and by the way you don't have to have
41:41the kingdom of daud and you guys you
41:45started a business and it was you were
41:48just selling it on the street and then
41:50eventually you opened up a restaurant.
41:51Now you own five restaurants,
41:53right? And back then things were
41:56different. Nobody liked you. Then your
41:57cousins didn't like you. Nobody invited
41:59you. Now you own five restaurants. And
42:01so all of a sudden everybody wants you
42:03to come over to their house for aid
42:06and those cousins are really nice to you
42:08now.
42:10And they all have a great business idea
42:11for you.
42:17All of them.
42:19But is it possible that some of them are
42:20they they talk really nice in front of
42:22you and please come please come visit us
42:24for aid. Please come to see us in Raman
42:27because when you they know when you come
42:28with aid you're going to come with
42:29stuff,
42:30right? And the moment you leave, who
42:32does he think he is? He's got all this
42:34money. He thinks he's better than us.
42:35Oh, just cuz he moved to Belgium
42:39and we're still in Vabat,
42:45right?
42:48You when you become more successful,
42:49when you Allah gives you more, you have
42:52to deal with more hypocrisy.
42:54You have to deal with people that are
42:56not sincere with you.
42:58Allah even mentions in the army ofam or
43:02yes he has power over the but are the
43:06sincere to him or no is the question by
43:09definition what are they
43:12he has control over people that want to
43:14see him dead
43:16they want to destroy him it's a
43:19different kind of problem it's a
43:21different kind of stress it's a
43:23different kind of anxiety because you
43:24don't see your enemy with nam He sees
43:27his enemy. With Alam, he sees his
43:30problems. They see their problems.
43:32That's one kind of anxiety and stress.
43:34But when you're in a position of power,
43:36you could be shaking hands with your
43:37worst enemy.
43:40You could be sitting right next to your
43:41worst enemy. You don't even know. You
43:43don't even know. And that's not and
43:45they're not people in power. They're not
43:47blind. They know that they have these
43:50dangers. And these dangers are also a
43:52kind of stress and anxiety and concern,
43:56right? It's its own problem. That is its
43:58own problem. So even though Allah
43:59mentions all the power they had
44:01implicitly underneath that power is also
44:03a huge set of what? Problems. Huge set
44:06of problems.
44:08Okay.
44:11I already told you he has no power over
44:12what?
44:14His own body. His own body.
44:18And allahel says about him,
44:23harm has touched me.
44:26He's now turning to Allah and saying,
44:28I'm feeling the effects of the harm on
44:31me. And even though he was sick for a
44:33long time and hurting for a long time,
44:36the way that he's saying it, it's almost
44:37describing it's now starting to affect
44:39the way I feel also, the way I my my
44:42worship. I don't want it to affect my
44:44worship. I don't want it to affect my
44:46relationship with you, ya Allah. It's
44:48getting to a point where it's starting
44:49to the trauma is starting to get to me.
44:52Look, I'm reaching a point where I have
44:54to lodge a complaint. I have to say this
44:57is this is reaching a red critical
44:58state. It got to a point, you know,
45:01prophets can tolerate a lot. They can
45:03tolerate a lot. The fact that he even
45:05said this means it it got to a very
45:07extreme stage to the point where he had
45:10to say this. But he got to he had to
45:12even say this. And then of course after
45:15that there are prophets we don't know a
45:16lot about. We know some things about
45:18like isam is mentioned isam any trauma
45:22in his life possibly.
45:24>> What what was the trauma?
45:27>> Huh?
45:27>> Divorce is divor. No no no not in Quran.
45:30In Quran
45:32>> before the sacrifice
45:36>> he left.
45:38>> My dad left and I've been raised by a
45:40single mom.
45:43And then when I was a young kid, wasn't
45:45even a teenager yet, my dad came back. I
45:48was so happy. We used to go running
45:49together. And then one day, my dad says,
45:52"Come on, son. Let's go to the
45:53mountain." And you know what my dad did?
45:57My dad said he saw a dream.
46:00I don't have to fill in the blanks, do
46:01I?
46:04First of all, I was a lot safer when you
46:06were not here.
46:08You come back. I'm so happy my dad is
46:11back in my life. I feel safe again. You
46:14know my and he what does he want to do?
46:19>> I I keep seeing that I'm I'm uh
46:21slaughtering you.
46:24I keep seeing that I'm slaughtering you.
46:25By the way, I've given a lecture on why
46:27that's in the Quran.
46:29Because Christians and Jews have a big
46:31problem because people leave their
46:32religion because of the story. They say,
46:34"What kind of a God wants you to
46:36slaughter your own child?"
46:38And we have the same story, right?
46:41And we say, "No, this is just a test
46:42from Allahhana." And that's not enough
46:43of an answer, buddy.
46:45That's not enough of an answer. So, I've
46:47done a whole lecture on just the
46:48sacrifice, just that sacrifice and what
46:51it means in the Quran and how it's
46:52different from the Bible. Completely,
46:54completely different. But anyway, that's
46:56not today.
46:58Isam is traumatized also as a child. And
47:02not only is traumatized, Ibraim is
47:04traumatized all over again because when
47:06he was a child, his father tried to kill
47:08him.
47:09And when your father tried to kill you,
47:11you say, "One day I will have a child
47:12and I will never let my child get hurt
47:14like the way my dad tried to hurt me."
47:16And how did Allah test him? Go do what?
47:20Slaughter your child.
47:25That's got a that's a test on a test.
47:28That's That's some kind of test for the
47:30father and for the son. That's pretty
47:33traumatic.
47:34You keep going. And by the way, this
47:36test did not come from the people. Who
47:37did it come from?
47:39It c it comes from obeying Allah.
47:42This test is different from all the
47:44others.
47:45It came from what? Obeying Allah.
47:49The test of Ibrahimam came from someone
47:51who's disobedient to Allah.
47:54The test of l and you know
47:58came from people who are rebelling
47:59against Allah. Right? The test of even
48:04in power is coming from someone who want
48:06to rebel against Allah underneath their
48:09power. Okay. The test of now the test of
48:13aub now things are changing. The test of
48:15a yub is not coming from people. It's
48:16coming from Allah. His body is not
48:18responding. He's sick. Who controls the
48:21body? Allahel. There's no there's no
48:24other person involved. There's no person
48:26involved. This is a test from Allah
48:29directly. And this is more indirect
48:31because this is the creation of Allah.
48:33But by the time you get to isam, it's
48:35Allah's command
48:38to slaughter.
48:39Is it possible that Allah is commanding
48:41you to do something and if you do it,
48:43you're going to be traumatized?
48:46I'll give you an example. You're like,
48:47"No, no, no. If you obey Allah subhana
48:49wa ta'ala, you can never be
48:50traumatized." Yes, you can. Let me
48:52traumatize you.
48:56Allah says, "Be honest,
49:00right?
49:01Speak straight forward."
49:04You decide to be honest with your
49:06husband.
49:09You've been keeping something inside.
49:10And you decide just going to say it.
49:14You were thinking a million times I
49:16shouldn't say it because if I say it,
49:18he's going to be angry. If I say it,
49:19he's going to divorce me. If I say it,
49:21he's going to move back to Afghanistan.
49:23If I say it, he's going to hit me. If I
49:26say it, I'm going to be in trouble. If I
49:28say it, if I say it, if I say it, and
49:29you decide, you know what? I'm going to
49:30fear Allah. And I'm just going to what?
49:33I'm just going to say it. Could it be
49:36that speaking the truth will get you in
49:39a lot of trouble?
49:42Mhm.
49:44Speaking the truth will get you thrown
49:45in a fire. Speaking the truth will get
49:49you get slaughtered.
49:52It's it's much easier to hide the truth
49:54than to speak the truth. To speak the
49:57truth.
49:59There's a there's a family that I knew a
50:02long time ago. They were in the bar
50:06business. They owned a bunch of bars.
50:09One guy in the family decides he doesn't
50:11want to sell alcohol anymore.
50:14They make a lot of money from bars. A
50:16lot. He decides he doesn't want to sell
50:19alcohol anymore.
50:20He didn't tell anyone because if he told
50:22them they would beat him up, they go
50:24crazy. They don't just sell the alcohol.
50:27They also, you know,
50:31so he but he finally decides to tell
50:33them. They beat him up. They kidnap him.
50:36They try to take him to the another
50:37country. They try to scare him. They
50:39take his house. They his life became
50:42hell only because
50:44he decided what Allah has made haram I
50:46will not touch. Just because of that.
50:49And the people who hurt him were not
50:51some enemy from outside. It wasn't some
50:52government. It wasn't some foreign
50:54agency. Who was hurting him? His own
50:57family. His own family. Do you see that
51:00in many of these stories, the people who
51:01are causing the pain are their own
51:03family? Do you see the common thre
51:05trend? It's their own family that's
51:07causing the pain. Okay,
51:10we keep going. I I actually missed one.
51:15We skip one in the middle. This is unus
51:20like he's giving a message to his
51:22people. They're not listening.
51:25I keep trying to explain something to
51:26you. You're not listening. I keep
51:27explaining. You're not listening. I keep
51:28explaining. You're not listening.
51:31I had enough of this. I'm done. I'm
51:34done. Look, I'm giving you guys a
51:35lecture right now. You're li You're
51:36sitting like civilized human beings. But
51:39if you started all of you yelling,
51:40screaming, spitting, throwing shoes,
51:42whatever.
51:45I'll speak for 10 more seconds. Calm
51:47down, guys. Come on. I'm not that. But
51:48eventually, what will I do?
51:51I'm out of here. I'm not coming back to
51:54Jenk ever again. This place is
51:58Don't even bring that. I get traumatized
52:00when someone even mentions Belgium. I
52:02don't even I won't even have a Belgian
52:03waffle anymore.
52:05I'll be done.
52:08Give me every other kind of chocolate.
52:12Why? Because I'm traumatized by the
52:15experience.
52:16I don't want to deal with it.
52:19If you got insulted at your job and you
52:22quit, you're going to go walk back into
52:23the office again with a smile and say hi
52:27to those same people. Never again. It's
52:29human.
52:31Yunus Alam is being insulted by these
52:33people, rejected by these people day in
52:34day in day in day in and we just he
52:37walked away. He's like I can't take this
52:39anymore. He walks away. Is that a human
52:40thing to do? Is that a human emotion? Is
52:43it understandable?
52:45It's so dehumanizing when we think of
52:48this story and say he disobeyed
52:50Allahhana. It's not that easy.
52:52First of all, put yourself in that
52:54situation to understand what happened
52:55here.
52:57when he was so enraged, they keep making
53:00him angry. And actually is a response.
53:03It's so it's it's got in it. It reacts
53:07to something. It's
53:10so what what does this mean? It means
53:12that they kept doing things on purpose
53:15that they know make him angry until they
53:17would get that reaction out of him. And
53:19eventually they got that reaction out of
53:21him and he walked away. They knew what
53:23would work. There are people in your
53:25life, they know exactly how to
53:29get under your skin.
53:32They know exactly what to say. See, I
53:35knew it.
53:37You're always like that.
53:41H lazy like I always said.
53:45They know just the word that sets a fire
53:47inside you and they use it just and then
53:50and then when you get angry. Ah, so this
53:52is your subur, huh?
53:55This is your sabar. Yeah, I see.
53:58Want to give a next week about sabar.
54:02Okay.
54:06And they did this with witham.
54:10Now he gets angry in that moment. He
54:12walks away. And we know what happens
54:13with him. And when he's when he's in the
54:15whale, I want you to tell me if you had
54:18a camera on the emotions of Yunam. We're
54:20talking about his emotions. What is he
54:22feeling?
54:24Okay, the anger is gone. What's he
54:25feeling now?
54:28He's feeling regret.
54:31He's feeling like nothing will ever get
54:33better.
54:35He's feeling that he disappointed who?
54:38Allah subhana wa ta'ala. There's
54:41something in him that never goes away.
54:43It's going to overshadow everything he
54:45does.
54:47This is going to overshadow everything
54:49he does. is there's a mistake I made.
54:51This mistake will follow me everywhere
54:52in my life. It will never go away. And
54:55no matter what I experience, this
54:57mistake will always have its shadow on
54:59me.
55:00What's the kind of depression that has a
55:02shadow on you and it covers something?
55:04And
55:13we responded to him and we rescued him
55:15from
55:18We rescued him. Allah rescued you knowam
55:23from what
55:27and he he rescued in this case Yunus
55:30Alam from what
55:34the numbness was taken away. His joy
55:37could come back. His optimism could come
55:39back. He doesn't live in shame anymore.
55:41The shame is not following him
55:42everywhere. The guilt is not following
55:44him everywhere. The guilt is not
55:46overcasting and overshadowing everything
55:47he does. He's not constantly judging
55:50himself. He's not beating himself up
55:53anymore because the has he's been
55:55rescued from the Allah says.
55:59But Allah didn't stop there. Allah said,
56:01listen to this so beautiful.
56:05And that is also how we rescue
56:06believers.
56:09Allah did not just rescue ununice from
56:12Allah says and we also rescue who?
56:16All believers. So this was not just a
56:19story. This is something I offering to
56:21everyone. I can let you escape your
56:25there are people in your life that want
56:27to keep you in H. You know that there
56:30are people in your life they like to
56:31remind you what you did. They remind you
56:34of your mistake. They remind you of the
56:36time you got angry like Ununus got
56:38angry.
56:40They remind you of what you said. They
56:42remind you of what happened 5 years ago,
56:4410 years ago, 15. They remind you to you
56:48know what you did. You know what you
56:50did. You know what you did over and over
56:52again. And why? Because once you once
56:55they say that to you, you will feel the
56:56shame come back. You will feel the guilt
56:58come back. You will feel the burden come
57:00back. And you will be suppressed. So the
57:02next time you're about to speak the
57:04truth, they'll say, "Who are you to
57:05speak the truth?" Remember what you did
57:0610 years ago.
57:08Remember that? And you're just back in
57:13back in. If yall tries to give dawa and
57:16somebody says, "Oh, you're going to give
57:17dawa. What are you going to do if I
57:18don't listen? Get angry? You're going to
57:20walk away again?"
57:23But they can make those comments. They
57:26can say that. But he is not affected by
57:28those comments anymore because Allah has
57:30rescued him from what? From they're
57:33trying to put the on him. It's not
57:34working. It's not working. He's been
57:37he's been freed from it. He's been freed
57:39from it. Okay. Final one.
57:43By the way, there's one thing about he's
57:46in the whale. He's disappointed Allah.
57:50He's also sad about not just what
57:52happened in the past, but what's the
57:54future? He's thinking about the future.
57:57And speaking of the future, you get the
57:58final story. You get the story of Miam.
58:03Okay. The story of Miam, especially when
58:06she was giving birth to Isaam is
58:08mentioned in some detail in the Quran.
58:10Um, if if you're in the place of Miam,
58:14she's having the child.
58:18What is she experiencing? What kind of
58:19trauma is she experiencing?
58:23What do you think?
58:24Ladies, your turn.
58:27>> Come on. She's your rep.
58:30>> Shame,
58:33>> pain,
58:35loneliness,
58:37anxiety,
58:41>> terrified,
58:42terrified.
58:45What does she What does she want to do?
58:48If you were in a situation where you're
58:50about to be shamed by the world, you're
58:53in a situation where everybody's about
58:54to humiliate you, they're about to
58:56accuse you, they're about to say all
58:59kinds of comments to you, they're about
59:01to point the finger at you and nobody
59:03will defend you. Everybody will look at
59:04you and say
59:15if that was the case, if that was the
59:18case, what would you feel?
59:23You'd want to be dead.
59:26She wished she could be dead.
59:29I'd rather I'd rather run away. If I
59:30can't run away, I just want to run away
59:32from this life.
59:33The fear of humiliation is a huge fear.
59:38The fear not just of death. She just
59:40she's not afraid of death. What is she
59:42afraid of? Humiliation.
59:45The fear that I will be attacked
59:47verbally. I will be looked at with no
59:50dignity. I will lose my respect as a
59:52human being. That's not a small fear.
59:55It's extremely traumatic. extremely so
59:58extreme that that that embarrassment can
1:00:01make someone want to kill themselves
1:00:04in the western world. Are there people
1:00:07who get exposed in some kind of
1:00:09political scandal, media scandal,
1:00:11celebrities
1:00:13and they commit suicide? Does that
1:00:14happen? Yeah. These are people that are
1:00:18supposed to have no hay. They have
1:00:19they're supposed to have no shame,
1:00:21right? So they do whatever they want.
1:00:23It's okay. It's scandal. What's the big
1:00:24deal? But even these people when it
1:00:26comes to humiliation, they would prefer
1:00:28what over humiliation?
1:00:31Death.
1:00:32Death. That's how extreme it is. They
1:00:34got to the And it's almost as if Allah
1:00:36mentioned all these traumas and the most
1:00:37extreme trauma is at the end. And the
1:00:39most extreme trauma is the trauma of
1:00:40humiliation
1:00:42of humiliation.
1:00:45He put that at the end.
1:00:47And she says,
1:00:50"Subhan Allah,
1:00:52that's a lot of trauma.
1:00:54The Quran mentions quite a bit of heavy
1:00:58heavy heavy emotions that these prophets
1:01:01experience. So let's take some
1:01:03takeaways.
1:01:04What this lecture was all about. What
1:01:07was this?
1:01:10Very good.
1:01:12Look at this words. I bet you never
1:01:14heard these words like this before.
1:01:15You've heard this ayah, but not like
1:01:16this. Listen to this ayah.
1:01:24This all of this is your um
1:01:29a single um and I am your r so worship
1:01:33me.
1:01:35What is he referring to as this is your
1:01:38um who is the this
1:01:42all these prophets and everything they
1:01:44experienced is your um the word um
1:01:46doesn't just mean nation um means
1:01:48direction. This is the same direction
1:01:51your life will go in also.
1:01:53A is a people united by ethnicity and um
1:01:57is a people united by direction.
1:02:01That's why Allah says from the same word
1:02:06go in the direction of pure pure dirt.
1:02:08When you
1:02:09don't have water, it's from the same
1:02:11word.
1:02:13The im is someone who dictates your
1:02:14direction.
1:02:16I am in Arabic is something right in
1:02:17front of you that dictates your front
1:02:19direction.
1:02:20Um is a people that are united by what
1:02:24direction. And the implic implication
1:02:26here is these people their life was
1:02:28headed in these directions. And you
1:02:30people because you're from the same
1:02:31nation your lives will also go in the
1:02:34same direction and all of them there all
1:02:37of you altogether I'm your worship me.
1:02:44I started with something about Freud. Do
1:02:45you remember?
1:02:47And Freudian psychology mentions that
1:02:50the world is inside you and then you
1:02:52have to experience your emotions. You
1:02:54remember that your your your traumatic
1:02:57experiences dictate your life. In Islam,
1:03:02there's a relationship you have
1:03:05before
1:03:07the relationship you had with your body.
1:03:09You already had a relationship that
1:03:10existed.
1:03:13Because really psychology is about
1:03:14relationships. The relationship with you
1:03:16have in in western psychology it's about
1:03:18the relationship you have with yourself.
1:03:21Because the oldest relationship you have
1:03:23in western psychology is who?
1:03:26>> Yourself. That's the oldest relationship
1:03:28you have. In Islam before we came to
1:03:30this earth, we already had a
1:03:33relationship
1:03:34with who?
1:03:37With Allah.
1:03:39We already had a relationship before we
1:03:42even came to this earth with Allah.
1:03:43We've already had a conversation with
1:03:44Allah inn
1:03:50our souls already existed
1:03:52and the Quran is only reminding us of a
1:03:55relationship that has already existed.
1:03:58Now tell me about healthy relationships
1:03:59in western psychology. A healthy
1:04:01relationship nurtures you. A healthy
1:04:03father gives you confidence. A healthy
1:04:05mother gives you security, protection.
1:04:07You feel loved. You feel accepted. You
1:04:09feel uh safe, you feel secure. All of
1:04:12these positive attachments, right? Tell
1:04:15me a healthy relationship with Allah,
1:04:16what does it give you?
1:04:19Does it give you safety? Does it give
1:04:21you confidence? Does it ever let you
1:04:23feel alone?
1:04:25Does it build confidence in you? Does it
1:04:28build courage in you? Does it help you
1:04:30overcome fears? Does it make you feel
1:04:32loved? Does it make you feel protected?
1:04:34Does it give you everything you need to
1:04:35be a secure person? Yeah.
1:04:40Allah described prophets who had good
1:04:41relationships with their wife and bad
1:04:43relationships with their wife. Allah
1:04:44described prophets who have good
1:04:45relationship with their parents and bad
1:04:46relationship with their parents. Allah
1:04:48described prophets that have good
1:04:49relationship with their family and bad
1:04:50relationship with their family. Allah
1:04:51described prophets that are healthy.
1:04:53Allah described prophet with their sick.
1:04:54So they have good relationship with
1:04:55their body and a bad relationship with
1:04:56their body. All other relationships are
1:04:58unstable in the Quran.
1:05:01They can go in any direction.
1:05:04The only stable relationship in all of
1:05:07these stories
1:05:10is with who? Is Allah.
1:05:14And all of these stories are different
1:05:16kinds of trauma. And when you have
1:05:18trauma, you become unstable.
1:05:21When you have trauma, you become
1:05:22unstable. And yet all of these people
1:05:24are all remaining stable. Even though
1:05:26they're all traumatized in all very,
1:05:28very different ways. And at the end of
1:05:30all of those traumas, Allah says,
1:05:36Our relationship with Allah is actually
1:05:39something that protects us not just
1:05:40spiritually but it protects us against
1:05:43anxiety, depression, fear. It protects
1:05:46us against nervousness. It protects us
1:05:49against jealousy. It protects us against
1:05:51rage, anger. And we can have those
1:05:54emotions but we can come back to normal.
1:05:56We can come back to normal. We can come
1:05:57back to why? Because we have Allah.
1:06:01Because we have Allah. Allah does not
1:06:02give up on us. A mother can give up on a
1:06:04child. A father can give up on a child.
1:06:07A husband can give up on a wife. A wife
1:06:09can give up on a husband. A best friend
1:06:11can give up on a best friend. Every
1:06:13other relationship can stop some. And
1:06:16and even even if they don't give up,
1:06:17death can happen. Separation can happen.
1:06:21But there's one relationship that Allah
1:06:23Allah will never give up on you. Allah
1:06:25will never abandon you.
1:06:29Allah will never just leave you be.
1:06:32Allah will never just be angry with you
1:06:34and never be pleased with you again.
1:06:37And Allah is not Allah is better than
1:06:39every other relationship. You know why?
1:06:41Because you don't have to do much to
1:06:42make Allah happy.
1:06:45You can make Allah very angry. You can
1:06:46do that. You can disobey Allah. You can
1:06:48commit crimes against Allah. You can do
1:06:51all kinds of terrible things. And then
1:06:53what do you have to do to fix it? I
1:06:55think you have to sacrifice a few
1:06:57children and
1:06:59to get all the infinity stones you have
1:07:00to kill your daughter. I don't know what
1:07:02what you got to do
1:07:05>> toba. How much money do you have to pay
1:07:07before you make Toba? Like what's the
1:07:08deposit initial deposit before Toba?
1:07:11Because if the government is angry with
1:07:13you,
1:07:14you have to give some deposit before
1:07:16they say okay now you can have your
1:07:18driver license back.
1:07:20If the government, if you did sin
1:07:22against somebody, you have to do
1:07:25something. If your wife is angry with
1:07:27you,
1:07:31you can't just say sorry. She says
1:07:34that's it.
1:07:36But oh, so that sorry, sorry. You're
1:07:40sorry,
1:07:43huh? Okay.
1:07:45You can say sorry for the rest of your
1:07:47life. It doesn't mean anything. Keep
1:07:50your sorry to yourself.
1:07:55You got to do better. You You're gonna
1:07:56you're gonna have to do better than
1:07:57that.
1:07:59Everyone else who we disobey, we upset,
1:08:03we disappoint.
1:08:05We have to do something to make it up.
1:08:08We have to beg and
1:08:12give gifts and make amends and
1:08:16con and even after all of even after
1:08:17this. Okay. Okay. I forgive you. Okay, I
1:08:19forgive you. 2 months later, new fight.
1:08:21Remember what you did 2 months ago? I
1:08:23was like, "Hey, I already paid the fees
1:08:25for that one.
1:08:27We went on the trip. Oh, you think I
1:08:28could just forget?
1:08:31I can't win."
1:08:33But when you make TBA with Allah, when
1:08:36you make Toba with Allah, does Allah
1:08:37bring up what you
1:08:39It's gone.
1:08:42He lets it go.
1:08:44The difference between us and the
1:08:46Christian creed is you're broken and you
1:08:47will always be broken.
1:08:50With us, you can break and then you can
1:08:52fix again. And then you can break and
1:08:54you can what? Fix again. You keep fixing
1:08:57it. Can you get over your trauma? Yes.
1:09:00Can Allah remove the burden? Can he
1:09:03remove the Can he remove the Yeah. Did
1:09:07he only do that for prophets or is he
1:09:08offering it to everybody?
1:09:11Everybody. It's a very powerful message.
1:09:14It's a very powerful message. People
1:09:16don't forgive. Allah forgives.
1:09:19People don't forgive. And I say it a
1:09:22lot, but I'll say it again.
1:09:25People use Islam in very unislamic ways.
1:09:30A mother says, "I will never forgive you
1:09:32and if I don't forgive you, Allah won't
1:09:34forgive you."
1:09:37There are some super moms like that.
1:09:41Father will say you don't deserve my
1:09:44duas and if I don't bless you then how
1:09:48will Allah ever accept you?
1:09:51You know what that sounds like?
1:09:54Azar
1:09:56Ibrahim's father.
1:09:58That's what it sounds like. You're using
1:09:59your religion as a what? As a weapon.
1:10:02You think on judgment day when I I'm a
1:10:05father. I'm a father. on judgment day
1:10:08while I am answering Allah for my deeds
1:10:11my son is over there answering for his
1:10:12deeds and he's about to go to Jenna I
1:10:14say hold on ya Allah hold on hold before
1:10:16you continue I didn't forgive him for
1:10:18that one time
1:10:21so uh
1:10:23that way you go come on it does it work
1:10:26like that
1:10:29we have created this strange idea that
1:10:33some relationships have the power to
1:10:34decide what Allah will
1:10:37No one has power over Allah.
1:10:40Even the prophet sallallaihi wasallam
1:10:41was told
1:10:43you cannot guide whoever you love. If
1:10:45the prophet is told this wasam who are
1:10:47you who are who am I?
1:10:50Why do we have this weird these weird
1:10:52ideas?
1:10:53Look at what Allah says after opening
1:10:55this door of relief. Allah says
1:11:01and actually before that even
1:11:08This is a message for all people that
1:11:10worship and we have not sent you except
1:11:14for a loving mercy for all nations. This
1:11:16is relief from so much and so much for
1:11:20all nations. This message it's for every
1:11:23every nation deserves this.
1:11:25And so at the end of all of this,
1:11:29you know, messaging, I'm going to bring
1:11:30you back to what I really wanted to say.
1:11:33In western psychology, you are the
1:11:35center of the universe. You are the most
1:11:38important character.
1:11:40In the Quran,
1:11:42Allah is the most important entity.
1:11:45So your healing is not coming from
1:11:47inside. It's coming from outside. It's
1:11:50coming from Allah. It's coming from
1:11:52Allah. You're not seeking to find
1:11:54yourself at a Bali vacation.
1:11:59You're not going on a healing journey on
1:12:01a hike to undo your
1:12:05your jealousy with your sister
1:12:09or to get over a breakup. That's not
1:12:12where you're going to find it. or you're
1:12:13not you don't have to plug in a Ocean
1:12:15Sounds app and go to sleep so you can
1:12:18get over,
1:12:20you know, your criminal conviction.
1:12:24That might help a little bit. It might
1:12:25take your mind off. It might give you
1:12:27some calm. That's cool. But if you
1:12:29really want to move on without guilt,
1:12:31without shame, without anger, without
1:12:33resentment, without revenge,
1:12:36you don't want to live under the burden
1:12:37of hatred, you don't want to live under
1:12:39the burden of disappointing someone else
1:12:42or being disappointed by somebody else,
1:12:44you don't want to live under the burden
1:12:46of depending on others emotionally
1:12:47constantly, you don't want to live, you
1:12:49want to lift all of this and all of this
1:12:52from your life. Then you've got to
1:12:55develop one relationship really, really
1:12:57well. When that one relationship becomes
1:13:00healthy, all the other relationships can
1:13:02go everywhere. You will remain stable
1:13:06and and that's coming from the outside
1:13:07in. Western psychology will not let you
1:13:10go outside in because there's nothing
1:13:12greater than yourself.
1:13:14And of Quranic psychology, you first go
1:13:18you you first go outside, meaning you
1:13:19turn to Allah and you let that
1:13:22illuminate you and then you go inside
1:13:23out. It's actually a two-way street, not
1:13:26a one-way street. There are many
1:13:28positive things in western psychology
1:13:30but it's not it's not wrong. It's
1:13:32missing something. It's missing. And the
1:13:34piece that it's missing, believers have
1:13:37it. Believers have it. Quran has it. We
1:13:40need to come back to the Quran and
1:13:42develop this for ourselves because we
1:13:43need I need it. You need it. Our
1:13:45families need it. Our generations need
1:13:47it. And I'm telling you, in the in the
1:13:49world of so many messages out there that
1:13:52are trying to tell people how they
1:13:53should feel, how they should live, how
1:13:55they should heal, how they should deal
1:13:57with trauma, the only guided answer
1:14:00that's really there that's not missing
1:14:01any piece is the word of Allah. And I
1:14:03pray that we as a nation are able to
1:14:05come back to that. Make dua that this
1:14:06project that we're doing, we're
1:14:07basically we're doing something called
1:14:08Quranic psychology. And we're it's a
1:14:11it's a massive massive project. all the
1:14:13emotions in the Quran, all the ways that
1:14:15Allah is talking about them and then
1:14:17comparing to the different western
1:14:19psychological models and then putting
1:14:21them together in a way that even a
1:14:23teenager can read that and learn from
1:14:25it. Like I don't want to write something
1:14:26for PhDs. I want to write something for
1:14:29everybody's consumption so that
1:14:31practitioners, imams, you know,
1:14:34counselors, youth activists, and even
1:14:36just in families can benefit from that.
1:14:39And so I'm gonna wrap my lecture up, but
1:14:41I'll leave you with one last thing
1:14:42because I I said it to a mother today
1:14:44and I said it to one sister today, but I
1:14:46I think all of you need to hear it.
1:14:48Don't raise your hand. I know.
1:14:51Uh there are people in your life that
1:14:54are
1:14:57you're stuck to them and they're very
1:15:00difficult.
1:15:02Maybe it's your mom, maybe it's your
1:15:03dad, maybe it's your brother, maybe it's
1:15:04your sister, maybe it's your ex-husband,
1:15:06maybe it's your ex-wife because you
1:15:07share a child together.
1:15:09I don't know who it is, but there's some
1:15:10people in your life. You're stuck with
1:15:11them and they're very, very, very, very
1:15:14difficult
1:15:16and you cannot escape them. Allah
1:15:18designed your life with that chain.
1:15:23Like Ibrahimam and his father or Nuh and
1:15:25his wife, right? Or was and Abu Dahab,
1:15:30you're stuck with some people. You're
1:15:32stuck with them.
1:15:34I need you to understand
1:15:37that those relationships that are
1:15:38problematic in your life,
1:15:41they cannot control your emotions.
1:15:45You cannot allow those relationships to
1:15:47control your emotions. You have to
1:15:50create a level of toughness, a level of
1:15:57that you don't just listen to what they
1:15:59say, you can block what they say and you
1:16:02don't change your behavior
1:16:04because you allow them to affect you
1:16:06emotionally.
1:16:08There's a mother and a father. They're
1:16:10divorced and they have a child. Yeah,
1:16:13they have a child. The mother hates the
1:16:14father. The father hates the mother.
1:16:17The child is in the middle. When the
1:16:19child spend time with the mother, the
1:16:21father gets angry. When the child gets
1:16:24spends time with the father, the mother
1:16:25gets angry. When the child is with the
1:16:27mother, she's saying bad things about
1:16:28who? The father. When the child is with
1:16:31the father, he's saying bad things about
1:16:32who? The mother. Who are you destroying?
1:16:36Now, I'm not I can't tell a child
1:16:38because the child is innocent and the
1:16:39child's not even an adult. But if that
1:16:41child is 27, 35, 40, in the middle,
1:16:45they're in the middle. They need to
1:16:47become tough. They need to understand
1:16:49this person is a patient and this person
1:16:52is a patient. My mom is a patient and my
1:16:55dad is a patient and I'm the doctor.
1:16:58Unfortunately, I'm the doctor and the
1:17:01doctor sets the operating table. The
1:17:06doctor cannot start crying in the middle
1:17:08of an operation.
1:17:10If the doctor's performing heart surgery
1:17:12and he starts, "Oh my god, I opened his
1:17:13chest."
1:17:17You're going to kill the patient with
1:17:18your tears.
1:17:20You have to control your emotions when
1:17:22you're dealing with a patient. And you
1:17:24have to say, "Hey, mom, we can talk
1:17:25about anything. Anything. We're never
1:17:27going to talk about dad. I won't talk
1:17:30about him. You won't talk about him.
1:17:31Hey, dad, we can talk about anything you
1:17:33want. One thing we're never going to
1:17:35talk about is who?
1:17:36>> Mom. We can talk about anything else. No
1:17:39problem. Don't tell me how to control my
1:17:42relationship with my father or my mother
1:17:45because that's mine. That's not yours.
1:17:47That's mine. You have no right. Allah
1:17:50didn't give you that right. That kind of
1:17:52toughness has to be developed because
1:17:54Allah has given us principles that not
1:17:56just control our emotions, but it set
1:17:59they set the right kinds of boundaries
1:18:01in every relationship. The right kinds
1:18:03of borders, the right kinds of
1:18:05boundaries. We have to learn to live by
1:18:06those boundaries. And if we don't, then
1:18:09we will create oppression and injustice
1:18:12and cruelty inside the family. And if
1:18:14the Muslim family has cruelty, then the
1:18:17Muslim ummah will have cruelty and then
1:18:19the world will have cruelty. Because the
1:18:21smallest unit of humanity is the family.
1:18:24If you cannot remove cruelty from the
1:18:26family, then you will never remove
1:18:28cruelty from society and therefore you
1:18:30will never remove cruelty from the
1:18:31world. So it's easy to talk about what's
1:18:34happening politically here or there and
1:18:36there and speak against the president
1:18:37and speak against the military and speak
1:18:39against the foreign policy, but very
1:18:41hard to talk about what's happening in
1:18:42your own home.
1:18:44very hard to face the oppression in your
1:18:46own home and you want to escape the fact
1:18:49that you're not facing that by yelling
1:18:51and screaming about something else and
1:18:53saying I'm speaking the huck that's not
1:18:55huck that's escapism
1:18:57that's escapism don't escape I'm not
1:19:00saying you shouldn't speak about
1:19:01political injustice but I'm saying if
1:19:02you're going to be so brave to speak the
1:19:04truth on the outside you better become
1:19:06brave to stand by the truth inside what
1:19:09is this hypocrisy
1:19:11what is it. You're so ready to stand
1:19:14against but not your uncle.
1:19:19We have to set we have to set the right
1:19:20boundaries. We have to stand by them and
1:19:23we have to face the consequences of
1:19:24them. It will take bravery and the only
1:19:26people who will be able to do it are
1:19:28people who will say no matter how much I
1:19:30get thrown in a fire, I know Allah will
1:19:31make it cold.
1:19:33I know Allah will make it cold. Even if
1:19:35I get kicked out of my house, Allah will
1:19:36provide food. Even if I get sick, Allah
1:19:39will make me healthy. Ibrahim is going
1:19:41to be homeless. He's going to be
1:19:42sleeping under a tree in the freezing
1:19:44wind. He's going to be he's going to be
1:19:46wet in the rain with nowhere to go. And
1:19:47he's going to say
1:19:50when I get sick, he's going to heal me.
1:19:51It's okay. Allah got me. Allah got me.
1:19:53Which means he knows he's going to be
1:19:55homeless. He knows it. You know,
1:20:00I don't know where I'm going to get my
1:20:01food. I don't know where I'm going to
1:20:02drink. Where am I going to drink from?
1:20:04Am I going to drink from this puddle of
1:20:06mud? I don't have a home. Where am I
1:20:09going to get food from? Allah will give
1:20:12because I'm I'm obeying him. That's a
1:20:14level of bravery that only comes when
1:20:16you know you're not alone. When you know
1:20:18you're not alone. And the only way
1:20:19you'll know you're not alone is when you
1:20:21have iman in Allah. The biggest
1:20:23psychological crisis of our time is
1:20:25extreme loneliness. Extreme loneliness.
1:20:28Extreme loneliness. Teenagers are
1:20:30committing suicide because of extreme
1:20:31loneliness. People are spending million
1:20:34hund thousands of hours on social media
1:20:36because they experience extreme
1:20:37loneliness. They're attaching themselves
1:20:39to predators because of extreme
1:20:41loneliness. And the crisis of loneliness
1:20:43the real answer to the crisis of
1:20:45loneliness number one is the company of
1:20:46Allah number one. And when you have that
1:20:50Allah then creates you know
1:20:54when people believe and do good Allah
1:20:56gives them good company. He will remove
1:20:59not only will you get the company of
1:21:00Allah. Allah will create new
1:21:02environments for you with healthy
1:21:04relationships.
1:21:06Alaihi wasallam did not have a good
1:21:08relationship with his uncles.
1:21:10Not all not all of them but Allah gave
1:21:12him Abu Bakr. Allah gave him Allah gave
1:21:16him. Allah gave him Ali. Allah gave him
1:21:18Abdah Zub. Allah gave him the Sahabah.
1:21:20Allah gave him that. So whenever
1:21:22something is taken away, Allah will give
1:21:23something better. Allah will provide
1:21:25something better. And that's the that's
1:21:27the message that I want to leave you
1:21:28with. I know this was heavily
1:21:30unprepared.
1:21:32>> This was a glimpse of a few reflections,
1:21:34but I've actually done quite a deep dive
1:21:35into all of these ayat. And I'd really
1:21:37encourage you to study the full-blown
1:21:40study of these ayat along with me, which
1:21:42alhamdulillah by Allah's grace uh is
1:21:44available on the revealed app now. You
1:21:46can just select whichever ayah and look
1:21:49at all of my notes and listen to the
1:21:50concise commentary also. So I'd really
1:21:52like to encourage you to become part of
1:21:54the revealed app family. Uh it's a
1:21:56remarkable project of anyone who is
1:21:58engaged with the study of the Quran or
1:22:00is curious about the Quran, reading any
1:22:02part of the Quran and just wants to
1:22:03know, I wonder what this ayah is talking
1:22:05about. I wonder if you know Norman's
1:22:07done some work on this ayah or has some
1:22:09thoughts on it. You can just hold down
1:22:10the ayah and you'll get my notes and you
1:22:11might even get or you also get my
1:22:13concise commentary on it. You can also
1:22:15post questions on there which many of
1:22:17you are starting to post mashallah. So,
1:22:19I'd really encourage you to become part
1:22:21of this revolutionary study and this
1:22:22revolutionary resource that can really
1:22:24help develop a very good bond between
1:22:27you and the Quran and also a really
1:22:29great way for me to gain insights on
1:22:31what kinds of things are on your mind as
1:22:33you post your questions. Thanks so much
1:22:35and I hope to see you at the revealed
1:22:36app.

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