Find Your Life's Purpose By Doing This ONE Thing — Transcript

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1. 0:00you've all been told two lies growing up
2. 0:03the first you never amount to anything
3. 0:07maybe you heard it from a parent a
4. 0:09teacher someone you hoped would believe
5. 0:11in you and the second lie is you can be
6. 0:14anything you want maybe you heard it
7. 0:17from a speaker or from someone in your
8. 0:19life but the truth is you can't be
9. 0:22anything you want but you can be
10. 0:24everything you are many of us get
11. 0:26paralyzed by the pursuit of passion and
12. 0:29purpose but by the end of this video
13. 0:31you'll know how to find yours one of the
14. 0:34main reasons you struggle to find your
15. 0:37passion and purpose is because you
16. 0:39believe you have to have found it by a
17. 0:41certain age I meet so many people who
18. 0:43say Jay I'm 20 years old should I know
19. 0:46my purpose J I'm 30 years old how is it
20. 0:48that I don't know my passion I'm 40 I'm
21. 0:51still figuring it out the truth is it's
22. 0:54something that we're constantly
23. 0:55collecting and connecting we're
24. 0:58collecting new experiences we're
25. 1:00connecting them with old ones and that's
26. 1:03what starts to build our passion and
27. 1:05purpose many of us feel pressure to find
28. 1:07our purpose in our 20s but many
29. 1:10successful people find their stride
30. 1:13later in his biography Andre Agy dropped
31. 1:16a bombshell on the world the former
32. 1:19world's number one tennis player
33. 1:20eight-time grand slam champion and Gold
34. 1:23Medal winner didn't like tennis Agassi
35. 1:27was pushed into playing by his father
36. 1:29and those though he was incredible at
37. 1:31the game he hated playing it the fact
38. 1:34that he was tremendously successful and
39. 1:36made loads of money didn't matter it
40. 1:39wasn't his purpose but Agassi
41. 1:41transitioned his uncaught success into
42. 1:44his true passion instead of serving Aces
43. 1:47he's now serving others the Andre agasse
44. 1:50Foundation runs a k through2 College
45. 1:53Prep School for atrisk
46. 1:56youth we often think that there's one
47. 1:59clear party to purpose we often think
48. 2:01that someone must have figured it out
49. 2:03can I not just use that same formula in
50. 2:06my life and the truth is there's no one
51. 2:08clear way but there are four paths that
52. 2:11you can consider here's what they
53. 2:13are the first is pain so many people who
54. 2:18now live purposeful lives found their
55. 2:21purpose through pain what do I mean by
56. 2:23this they experienced a pain early on in
57. 2:26life and they so badly wanted no one to
58. 2:29never experienced that pain again that
59. 2:32they started helping others get through
60. 2:34it maybe you've gone through a
61. 2:36particular life event and you'd never
62. 2:38wish it on your worst enemy maybe you
63. 2:41experienced something at a young age and
64. 2:43you hope no one ever has to go through
65. 2:46that maybe you overcame a pain a lot of
66. 2:49you may be survivors maybe you beat a
67. 2:51disease and now you want to give other
68. 2:53people the strength the Courage the
69. 2:55motivation to do the same that's when
70. 2:58you're turning your pain into to purpose
71. 3:01this is the second path to
72. 3:03purpose number two
73. 3:06potential a lot of us have skills we
74. 3:10have mindsets we have abilities that
75. 3:13we're not even sure about that we're not
76. 3:15even aware of you have got hidden
77. 3:18potential inside of you maybe you have a
78. 3:21particular way your mind works around
79. 3:22problem solving maybe you've got a
80. 3:24really cool skill that you never knew
81. 3:27until later on in life when you actually
82. 3:29experiment mented and explored so many
83. 3:31of us don't sample until later on in
84. 3:34life the process of sampling is saying
85. 3:37I'm going to try a new skill every
86. 3:40weekend for a whole year you're now
87. 3:42going to test yourself for 52 skills I
88. 3:45promise you you're going to see yourself
89. 3:48have an innate ability in one or two of
90. 3:50them a lot of us may test one a year for
91. 3:53the next 10 years a lot of us may test
92. 3:55one over the next 10 years the point is
93. 3:59it's all the game of odds the more
94. 4:01chances you take at testing your
95. 4:03experiences testing your skills the more
96. 4:06likely you're quickly going to discover
97. 4:08what you naturally have a talent
98. 4:10potential and skill for I remember when
99. 4:13I was 18 and I was doing so many
100. 4:16different things I was doing everything
101. 4:17from managing leading speaking
102. 4:20organizing and that's when I discovered
103. 4:22that I loved learning teaching and
104. 4:25sharing it became a part of my life ever
105. 4:27since 18 and all I did then I had to do
106. 4:30was hone that skill develop it build it
107. 4:33find new ways of challenging myself and
108. 4:35it continues to be something I pursue
109. 4:37today it's as simple as that find out
110. 4:39what your hidden potention is by
111. 4:41allowing yourself to fail allowing
112. 4:44yourself to make mistakes allowing
113. 4:45yourself to try as many things as you
114. 4:47possibly can over the next 12 months or
115. 4:51better than that over the next 30
116. 4:54days number three is a problem you see
117. 5:01in the planet maybe there's something
118. 5:04around you something you see it may not
119. 5:06even be something you've experienced but
120. 5:09it's a challenge you feel pull to solve
121. 5:12a cause that you feel called to help I
122. 5:15know many people who say I'm struggling
123. 5:18to see what's happening to our
124. 5:19environment I have to help I know other
125. 5:22people who say I'm really struggling to
126. 5:23see how animals are treated I have to
127. 5:25help there are so many things that we
128. 5:27feel called to now this this is often
129. 5:30what we think of as purpose and a lot of
130. 5:31us keep waiting for that calling we keep
131. 5:34wishing for that calling until we do
132. 5:36something and that's why often find that
133. 5:38the other parts are so useful it could
134. 5:40come from your own pain it could come
135. 5:42from your own potential and now it can
136. 5:45come from an outside problem or an
137. 5:47outside pain that like I said you may
138. 5:50not have experienced personally but you
139. 5:52feel like you want to help and the
140. 5:54fourth PA to purpose is platform as we
141. 5:58just discussed in the case of Andre
142. 6:00Agassi he was able to use the platform
143. 6:03that he'd built in order to have a
144. 6:05positive impact I meet and speak to so
145. 6:09many people who feel like they've wasted
146. 6:11the last 10 to 20 years of their life
147. 6:14chasing a career chasing a title chasing
148. 6:17a promotion and now they feel like it's
149. 6:19been worthless and the truth is it isn't
150. 6:23any experience you have anything that
151. 6:25you've achieved up until now can be used
152. 6:27it's a platform that you stand on that
153. 6:30can be used to have a positive impact in
154. 6:32the world don't downplay your experience
155. 6:34don't downplay the skills don't downplay
156. 6:36all the work you've done no matter what
157. 6:39age you are no matter where you are in
158. 6:41your life you can use everything you've
159. 6:43built everything you've learned in order
160. 6:45to serve and help other people now one
161. 6:48of the biggest questions I get is Jay
162. 6:50how do I actually discover my potential
163. 6:53how do I actually discover my skill how
164. 6:55do I actually discover my passion in
165. 6:58order to help others with it sometimes
166. 7:00you're just struggling to find that
167. 7:02direction I want to give you an exercise
168. 7:04that I want you to do with me right now
169. 7:06that will help you discover it in the
170. 7:08next few moments what I want you to do
171. 7:11is create four lists the first list is
172. 7:15what you have a skill in but no passion
173. 7:18there may be something that you're
174. 7:19pretty good at maybe you're naturally
175. 7:21good at numbers maybe you're a great
176. 7:22editor maybe you're really good at
177. 7:25understanding people's behavior but
178. 7:27maybe it's something you're not
179. 7:28passionate about this is likely what you
180. 7:31actually do for work a lot of our jobs
181. 7:33and a lot of our work is based on things
182. 7:35that we're actually good at but we may
183. 7:37not actually enjoy and I want you to
184. 7:39make a list of the three things that
185. 7:42exist in that category the second list I
186. 7:45want you to make is things that you have
187. 7:48no skill in but you do have a passion
188. 7:50for maybe there's something that you're
189. 7:52like oh I love photography but I'm a
190. 7:55terrible photographer right I absolutely
191. 7:58love art but I know nothing about buying
192. 8:01and selling art what is something that
193. 8:03you're curious about something that
194. 8:04you're passionate about but you don't
195. 8:06already have a skill in this is
196. 8:08something that becomes something you can
197. 8:10learn and build upon now the third list
198. 8:13I want you to make is something that you
199. 8:15have no skill and no passion in
200. 8:18whatsoever this is a list of things
201. 8:21where you're like I'm not good at it and
202. 8:22I don't like it I don't enjoy it I want
203. 8:25nothing to do with it hopefully this is
204. 8:27something in the future that you'll be
205. 8:28able to Outsource
206. 8:30sometimes in the beginning it's
207. 8:31something you have to just get on with
208. 8:34just make happen and you get it this is
209. 8:36not something you want to do forever but
210. 8:38it may be something that you need to
211. 8:39learn in the short term now what we want
212. 8:41to do with these three lists is that we
213. 8:44want to use them to populate the purpose
214. 8:46box which is skill and passion your
215. 8:49purpose is not just something that
216. 8:51you're passionate about it's not just
217. 8:52something that you're excited about it's
218. 8:54something that you're actually really
219. 8:56good at I think this is something that's
220. 8:58often missed in the the conversation
221. 9:00around finding passion and finding
222. 9:02purpose we think oh as long as I love it
223. 9:05and as long as I like it and as long as
224. 9:06it's meaningful then that's a purpose
225. 9:09well the truth is that unless we get
226. 9:11really strategic really diligent really
227. 9:13focused about it it will always remain a
228. 9:15hobby it will remain a nice thing that
229. 9:17we do there's an incredible quote that I
230. 9:20love from Martin Luther King that says
231. 9:23that people who love peace need to learn
232. 9:26to organize themselves as well as those
233. 9:28who love War this is one of my most
234. 9:31important and deep beliefs that
235. 9:34sometimes those of us that love goodness
236. 9:36and love positive frequencies can be
237. 9:38quite unorganized we can be kind of
238. 9:40wishy-washy and woo woo but actually
239. 9:42being strategic and focused allows us to
240. 9:45build something that is genuine impact
241. 9:48so with your first list which is skill
242. 9:50but no passion ask yourself how could
243. 9:53you become passionate about that skill
244. 9:55what is something that you could do to
245. 9:57make it more meaningful how could you
246. 10:00allow yourself to get excited about it
247. 10:02even if it's something you're not
248. 10:03currently excited about all of a sudden
249. 10:06you're pushing that into the main box
250. 10:09that we want to be in now I want you to
251. 10:10look at the next list no skill but
252. 10:12passionate about again like I said it
253. 10:15could be Photography book that
254. 10:16photography course get a friend who's a
255. 10:18wedding photographer or an events
256. 10:20photographer to show you around go and
257. 10:22Shadow someone for the day who's someone
258. 10:24in your life that could help you learn
259. 10:26that skill introduce you to a new trade
260. 10:28all of a sudden you're now pushing that
261. 10:30skill into this box as well you're
262. 10:33moving into the purpose space and
263. 10:35finally look at this list something you
264. 10:38have no skill and no passion for but
265. 10:40maybe you need it right now maybe you
266. 10:42just start your own business maybe you
267. 10:43got a little side hustle going on how
268. 10:45are you going to do the things you may
269. 10:47not even enjoy or love or be good at in
270. 10:50order to help you push in that direction
271. 10:54these three lists are a great place to
272. 10:56start when trying to discover your
273. 10:58hidden potential
274. 10:59I think one of our biggest challenges
275. 11:01around our conversations of purpose and
276. 11:03passion is that they're all about what
277. 11:05we do and not how we think about what we
278. 11:07do they're about what we're doing rather
279. 11:10than who we're being they're about how
280. 11:12we act rather than how we think and feel
281. 11:16about how we choose to act I want to
282. 11:18share a case study with you to explain
283. 11:19that Amy vusi and her team at the Yale
284. 11:23School of Management went out in search
285. 11:26for what they believed was the most
286. 11:28difficult job in in the world now the
287. 11:31most difficult job in the world that
288. 11:33they found in around 2019 was to be a
289. 11:36hospital cleaner they believe that was
290. 11:38the most difficult job the job included
291. 11:40cleaning floors toilets plates bathrooms
292. 11:44bed sheets everything else they had to
293. 11:47clean up after people used those things
294. 11:49and clean up after people even passed
295. 11:51away it was an extremely difficult job
296. 11:54so they went and interviewed these
297. 11:55cleaners now these cleaners in their own
298. 11:58words describe Des themselves as low
299. 12:00skilled labor they said we clean floors
300. 12:03toilets plates etc etc they then
301. 12:06continued to interview these cleaners
302. 12:08and they found a whole new group of
303. 12:10cleaners who described themselves as
304. 12:13healers and as carers these healers
305. 12:17worked the same hours as the cleaners
306. 12:19they worked in the same hospitals as the
307. 12:21cleaners they had the same shifts the
308. 12:23same pay the same bosses but some saw
309. 12:27themselves as cleaners and some saw
310. 12:29themselves as healers so they asked them
311. 12:31why the healers replied because we
312. 12:34believe cleaning is integral to the
313. 12:37healing journey of the patient if the
314. 12:39hospital room is cleaner people feel
315. 12:42better about what they're going through
316. 12:45if their space is cleaner their family
317. 12:47spends more time with them it is
318. 12:50integral and critical to how they
319. 12:53feel am Newan and her team coined the
320. 12:57term job crafting where job wasn't about
321. 12:59what you did every day but how you felt
322. 13:02about what you did every day there's an
323. 13:04incredible statement from one of my
324. 13:06favorite authors Wayne Dyer where he
325. 13:09said when we change the way we look at
326. 13:11things the things we look at change I
327. 13:15challenge you today to look at your work
328. 13:18differently to look up from your phone
329. 13:21to look up from your laptops your iPads
330. 13:23to look beyond your screen to look
331. 13:25beyond your spreadsheets your PowerPoint
332. 13:27presentations whatever it may maybe your
333. 13:29Keynotes and ask you who does your work
334. 13:33positively impact we get so caught up in
335. 13:37the dayto day that we forget that what
336. 13:38we create improves the life of someone
337. 13:41out there and when we reconnect with
338. 13:44that feeling we're changing the way we
339. 13:47look at things even if we can't change
340. 13:49the thing itself right now or this
341. 13:54year and remember your passion is for
342. 13:57you your purpose is for for others when
343. 14:00you use your passion in the service of
344. 14:02others it becomes a purpose hey everyone
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