Facts and fictions of the male midlife crisis — Transcript

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1. 0:04it can go 0 to 60 in about 3
2. 0:09seconds hit 200 M an
3. 0:13hour a Mean Machine and for some a time
4. 0:18machine most Corvette buyers are men in
5. 0:21their middle age feeding the notion that
6. 0:23they're somehow seeking their lost youth
7. 0:25what some call a midlife crisis you hear
8. 0:28the term I have to have one before I die
9. 0:31at ryell Chevrolet in Northridge
10. 0:33California sales manager Rick pedalo
11. 0:36says the guys who buy Corvettes know
12. 0:38exactly what they're getting are they
13. 0:41buying performance are they buying the
14. 0:43fantasy the fantasy a fantasy to ward
15. 0:47off a special evil the term midlife
16. 0:50crisis was coined in 1965 by the late
17. 0:53Canadian psychoanalyst Elliot jocks and
18. 0:56it started with fear they were afraid of
19. 1:00Aging they felt that their life was over
20. 1:02Margie lochman is a psychologist at
21. 1:04brandise University in Massachusetts and
22. 1:07a lead researcher in an ongoing study on
23. 1:10midlife the most in-depth ever in the
24. 1:13United States they realized they had not
25. 1:16accomplished all their goals and had not
26. 1:18been able to realize their dreams and
27. 1:20they thought it was too late that there
28. 1:21was really no more time to do this I'm
29. 1:23here today to again
30. 1:25apologize the concept is so widely
31. 1:27accepted it's often blamed for Men
32. 1:30Behaving Badly from weer to
33. 1:33Schwarzenegger to Clinton actually my
34. 1:36wife and I are separated oh well what I
35. 1:40mean is separated in the sense that she
36. 1:42went away for the summer and from the
37. 1:43sevene rich to Moon struck it's one of
38. 1:47Hollywood's go-to themes why do men
39. 1:50chase
40. 1:52women
41. 1:55nerves I think it's because they fear
42. 1:58death but as it turns out our
43. 2:01assumptions are wrong surprisingly
44. 2:04Margie lockman's research shows that
45. 2:06very few men perhaps only 10 to 12% have
46. 2:10anything approaching a crisis your
47. 2:13numbers would suggest that the vast
48. 2:15majority of people take this in stride I
49. 2:17would say they do uh 85 90% yeah we find
50. 2:22a lot of things going on in midlife that
51. 2:25are very positive the top really the top
52. 2:28of their game in a sense in the
53. 2:30workforce in their family so in some
54. 2:32ways I think midlife should be
55. 2:34Associated more with competence and
56. 2:36confidence um than a crisis those facts
57. 2:40aside it's the men who are suffering who
58. 2:42are driving the discussion Their Fear is
59. 2:45real and that's driving a booming
60. 2:48business promising to reverse midlife
61. 2:51aging how does this 70-year-old doctor
62. 2:54had the body of a 30-year-old people
63. 2:56look at me and they
64. 2:58say you you look amazing from the neck
65. 3:01down and I tell them that no one is more
66. 3:04amazed than I am Dr Jeffrey life runs a
67. 3:08clinic in Las Vegas and he thinks he has
68. 3:11the answer
69. 3:13testosterone this is what the the
70. 3:15patient would get this vial of
71. 3:16testosterone and then you draw that out
72. 3:18into a syringe and inject it into the
73. 3:21muscle of your leg once a week once a
74. 3:24week most men's testosterone level peaks
75. 3:28in their late 20s and declines steadily
76. 3:31about 1% a year after age 30 doctor life
77. 3:35says stop the decline and you regain
78. 3:38your youth well I mean I do things today
79. 3:41at age 72 that I would never have even
80. 3:44considered doing 10 years ago I'm
81. 3:46working on my black belt in Taekwondo I
82. 3:48lift weights five mornings a week with
83. 3:50Rod my trainer I wrote a book I mean
84. 3:53these are things that I could not have
85. 3:55done 10 15 years ago his body is his
86. 3:58proof what he was like in his 50s and
87. 4:01where he is today after 8 years taking
88. 4:05testosterone however we Define midlife
89. 4:08let's just throw out there's are
90. 4:1050ish um how many men at that age do you
91. 4:14think need the kind of therapy that you
92. 4:16offer which would include the correcting
93. 4:19testosterone deficiencies exercise
94. 4:21nutrition
95. 4:23supplementation 100% everybody everybody
96. 4:26and Dr life isn't alone testosterone has
97. 4:29gone mainstream jumping from ads in the
98. 4:32back of men's magazines to Slick
99. 4:35commercials on network television could
100. 4:37be an easily treatable condition called
101. 4:39Low tea the result sales of testosterone
102. 4:43products have shot up as if they're on
103. 4:46steroids from 550 million in 2006 to 1.3
104. 4:52billion in
105. 4:532010 the TV ad says your golf swing will
106. 4:56get better your sex life will get better
107. 4:59what do you
108. 5:00say this it wasn't testosterone even a
109. 5:03few years ago it was melatonin then it
110. 5:07was
111. 5:07DHEA back in the 1800s it was ground up
112. 5:10goat testicles and this is goes goes
113. 5:13back hundreds of years with the whole
114. 5:14notion of the Fountain of Youth Dr
115. 5:17Thomas pearls is an expert on Aging at
116. 5:19the Boston Medical Center he sees not
117. 5:22the benefits of testosterone but a
118. 5:24laundry list of dangerous side effects
119. 5:28there was a very high-profile New
120. 5:29England Journal of Medicine article that
121. 5:31found a very high rate four times
122. 5:34greater rate for cardiovascular events
123. 5:36things like arhythmia atrial
124. 5:38fibrillation heart attack his
125. 5:40prescription to reverse a midlife
126. 5:42slowdown do it the oldfashioned way go
127. 5:46to the gym and just work on the weights
128. 5:49look at all the people out there on the
129. 5:51weights I would wager that the vast
130. 5:52majority of them are not taking any
131. 5:54drugs and they're feeling great I know
132. 5:57so many people who don't call it a
133. 6:00midlife crisis they call it an
134. 6:02opportunity I have to keep
135. 6:04moving or I catch up with myself if that
136. 6:07makes any sense uh and I caught up with
137. 6:11myself at that point yeah and and I
138. 6:14didn't like me come on we're
139. 6:18normal comparatively
140. 6:21normal opportunity is exactly what
141. 6:24comedian Ray Romano was looking for at
142. 6:27age 47 when he found himself suddenly a
143. 6:31drift you know Raymond was 9 years and
144. 6:33before that I was stand up for 11 years
145. 6:35it was 20 years of of of this
146. 6:39creative uh outlet that I had and all of
147. 6:41a sudden there was nothing and I found
148. 6:45myself wondering what the hell am I
149. 6:47going to do with the rest of my life
150. 6:49what what have I done so Romano along
151. 6:52with his friend and producer Mike Roy
152. 6:54decided to explore their own changing
153. 6:57lives on television okay right here
154. 7:00right here it's not blurry anymore but
155. 7:01now it's too far away that I can't read
156. 7:03it I'm never going to know what it says
157. 7:05on a ketchup bottle it's ketchup what
158. 7:06are you going to know about it they call
159. 7:08their current show co-starring Scott
160. 7:10bachula and Andre Brower men of a
161. 7:13certain age and yes that means middle
162. 7:16age you're a 49y old man how many 16y
163. 7:19old friends you got she's not 16 yeah
164. 7:22she's closer to 16 to 49 I pay that age
165. 7:24is just a number my friends just a
166. 7:27number it's really very exciting time in
167. 7:30a way I I it's I kind of liken it to
168. 7:33it's like your second teenagerhood
169. 7:35uh your brain is go is processing a lot
170. 7:39of information they say the show has
171. 7:41helped all of them gain A New
172. 7:44Perspective when I went to get my
173. 7:47checkup at age 55 my doctor said well
174. 7:50you're just getting welcome to the
175. 7:52second half of your life and I'm I you
176. 7:54know I'm thinking
177. 7:55110 wow you know that's kind of maybe a
178. 7:58real solid reality I'm thinking well
179. 8:00that's a lot of time bacula is on to
180. 8:02something say researchers who suggest
181. 8:05contentment not crisis is the true
182. 8:08reality of midlife for most men it it
183. 8:11takes a while before you accept that
184. 8:14you're not going to be able to do this
185. 8:15anymore you're not as young as this you
186. 8:17you know you're women aren't going to be
187. 8:20as attracted to you anymore you know
188. 8:22that's just the way life is and and
189. 8:24there is you know contentment to be had
190. 8:27at that age you just got to it takes
191. 8:29adjustment and what's ahead can look
192. 8:32pretty good says psychologist Margie
193. 8:35lochman we don't have to assume that um
194. 8:38you are stuck and that it's just all
195. 8:40downhill from here and in many ways we
196. 8:43can say that um those who are in the
197. 8:45middle are really they're in the
198. 8:46driver's seat um and I don't necessarily
199. 8:49mean in a sports car just remember
200. 8:52whatever you do it always helps to
201. 8:55sprinkle in a little bit of humor
202. 8:59midlife doesn't own the crisis mod of
203. 9:02life I was having a crisis in my 20s
204. 9:04it's only a midlife crisis because I'm
205. 9:06midlife now that's all yes I had a 20
206. 9:08crisis a 30s crisis there you
207. 9:19go