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1. 0:00English Leap Podcast from Speak English
2. 0:03with Class. [music]
3. 0:05Hey, Jake. Have you ever wanted to
4. 0:08explain what you feel, but the words
5. 0:10just disappeared? Mhm. Like your heart
6. 0:13knows the full story, but your English
7. 0:15only gives you three basic words? Yes.
8. 0:19Sad, angry, tired. And sometimes even
9. 0:22tired is doing too much work. It has to
10. 0:25carry stress, disappointment, confusion,
11. 0:28silence, and two unread messages.
12. 0:31Poor tired. It is exhausted. But
13. 0:34seriously, this is a real problem. You
14. 0:37can feel something deeply, but when you
15. 0:39try to say it out loud, it comes out too
16. 0:41simple or too sharp or not clear at all.
17. 0:44And then people misunderstand you. They
18. 0:46think you're being dramatic, cold, rude,
19. 0:50or weak. But maybe you're not any of
20. 0:52those things. Maybe you just need better
21. 0:55words. So today, we are going to help
22. 0:57you talk about your feelings with
23. 0:59confidence. Not with perfect English,
24. 1:02with honest English, clear English, the
25. 1:05kind of English that sounds like the
26. 1:07real you. And by the end of this
27. 1:09episode, you will have calm, confident
28. 1:11sentences for feelings that usually feel
29. 1:14too messy to explain. Okay, before we go
30. 1:17further, hey English learners, welcome
31. 1:19back to the English Leap Podcast, your
32. 1:22cozy little place to learn daily life
33. 1:24English through real everyday
34. 1:25conversations. I'm Anna. And I'm Jake.
35. 1:28So glad you're here with us today. Yes,
36. 1:30truly. We love having you here with us.
37. 1:33And today, Anna, we have a really useful
38. 1:35one. We do, and I think today's topic is
39. 1:38going to help so many people, because
40. 1:41sometimes the hardest part is not
41. 1:43feeling something, it is explaining it.
42. 1:46Ah, that is so true. So, today's episode
43. 1:50is called Talk About Your Feelings with
44. 1:52Confidence. And honestly, this topic
45. 1:55sounds simple until someone asks, "What
46. 1:57are you feeling?" And suddenly your
47. 1:59brain becomes a locked door.
48. 2:02Yes, you know something is there, but
49. 2:04you cannot find the right words to open
50. 2:06it.
51. 2:06>> Exactly. And this is a B2 to C1 level
52. 2:10episode, so we're going a little deeper
53. 2:12than basic English. But do not worry, we
54. 2:15will keep it slow, natural, and easy to
55. 2:17follow. Today is not about memorizing a
56. 2:19big list of emotion words. No, it is
57. 2:22about learning how to sound clear,
58. 2:25honest, and confident when your feelings
59. 2:27are not easy to explain. And later we
60. 2:29will also have a word tour with some
61. 2:32powerful words and phrases that can make
62. 2:34your emotional English sound more mature
63. 2:36and natural. So, take a breath, relax
64. 2:39your shoulders, and stay with us.
65. 2:41Because sometimes the right sentence can
66. 2:44make a difficult feeling much easier to
67. 2:46share. All right, let's jump in. Anna,
68. 2:50when people say, "I don't know how I
69. 2:52feel." Do you think they really don't
70. 2:54know? Sometimes, yes, but often I think
71. 2:58they feel too many things at once, so it
72. 3:01becomes hard to separate them. Ah, so it
73. 3:04is not empty, it is crowded. Yes,
74. 3:07feelings can be crowded. You may think
75. 3:10you are angry, but underneath that anger
76. 3:13there is hurt or fear or disappointment.
77. 3:16Like opening one drawer and finding
78. 3:18every charger you have owned since 2014.
79. 3:22>> [laughter]
80. 3:22>> Emotional cable drawer, very messy. But
81. 3:26that makes sense. A person might say,
82. 3:28"I'm angry." when they actually mean, "I
83. 3:30felt ignored." Right, or they might say,
84. 3:33"I'm tired." when they actually mean, "I
85. 3:36feel emotionally drained." Emotionally
86. 3:39drained is a good phrase. It means your
87. 3:42energy is not just physically low, your
88. 3:44heart and mind feel tired, too. Yes, you
89. 3:47can say, "I feel emotionally drained
90. 3:50after that conversation." or "I have
91. 3:53been trying to stay strong for everyone
92. 3:55and now I feel drained. That is much
93. 3:57more honest than only saying I'm tired.
94. 4:00And if you feel like people did not
95. 4:02notice you, you can say, I felt
96. 4:04overlooked. Like I felt overlooked when
97. 4:07nobody asked for my opinion. Yes, or I
98. 4:10felt disconnected from everyone today.
99. 4:13When you're around people, but you do
100. 4:15not feel close to them. That one is so
101. 4:17real. You can be in a room full of
102. 4:20people and still feel far away. Very
103. 4:23true. And another useful one is I felt
104. 4:26misunderstood. Oof, that one is painful.
105. 4:29It is. You try to explain yourself, but
106. 4:32the meaning doesn't land. Ah, the
107. 4:35classic. You say one sentence and
108. 4:37somehow everyone receives a different
109. 4:39movie.
110. 4:40Yes, and in that movie, you're suddenly
111. 4:43the villain. So before we try to explain
112. 4:46everything, we can slow down and ask,
113. 4:49what is the real feeling here? Yes, and
114. 4:52if you're not sure, you can say, I'm not
115. 4:54sure how to explain this, but I want to
116. 4:56try. That sentence is gentle. It gives
117. 4:59you space. And it helps you articulate
118. 5:02the feeling. Articulate means to express
119. 5:04something clearly, right? Yes, to
120. 5:07articulate a feeling it means to give it
121. 5:09clear words, even if those words are not
122. 5:11perfect.
123. 5:12>> So the first step is not perfect
124. 5:14English, it's honest noticing. Exactly.
125. 5:18First, notice the feeling, then give it
126. 5:21words. Right, and once the feeling has
127. 5:23words, the next challenge is how to say
128. 5:26it without turning the conversation into
129. 5:28a fight. Mhm, saying it without making
130. 5:31the other person feel attacked. Yes,
131. 5:33because when we are hurt, our first
132. 5:36sentence is not always our wisest
133. 5:38sentence. The first sentence sometimes
134. 5:40arrives with messy hair and no plan.
135. 5:44Very emotional, very unprepared. So
136. 5:46instead of saying, "You never listen to
137. 5:49me," we can say "I felt ignored when I
138. 5:52tried to explain myself." That is
139. 5:53calmer, but it still tells the truth.
140. 5:56Yes, it focuses on your experience, not
141. 5:59the other person's whole personality.
142. 6:01Another example, instead of saying "You
143. 6:03embarrassed me," you can say "I felt
144. 6:06embarrassed when that was said in front
145. 6:08of everyone." Or "I felt anxious when I
146. 6:11did not hear back." Or "I felt pressured
147. 6:14when I had to answer immediately." These
148. 6:16sentences do not sound weak, they sound
149. 6:18controlled. And they avoid opening the
150. 6:21emotional courtroom.
151. 6:23Yes, no need to say "Your honor, I have
152. 6:26screenshots from 2021."
153. 6:29The emotional courtroom is always
154. 6:31dramatic. Mhm, and when you speak from
155. 6:33experience, the other person has a
156. 6:35better chance to listen. Because you're
157. 6:37not saying "You are terrible," you're
158. 6:39saying "This is how it felt to me." And
159. 6:42that small change can save a difficult
160. 6:45conversation. But of course, some people
161. 6:47do not blame, they do the opposite. They
162. 6:49say nothing. They keep everything
163. 6:52inside. Yes, they smile, stay polite,
164. 6:55act normal, and say "No problem" when
165. 6:58there is definitely a problem. That "No
166. 7:00problem" has thunder behind it.
167. 7:03Yes, a tiny sentence with a dramatic
168. 7:06weather. That is what happens when
169. 7:08feelings are bottled up. Yes, bottled up
170. 7:11means feelings are kept inside for too
171. 7:13long. They do not disappear, they just
172. 7:16build pressure. Like a soda bottle
173. 7:18someone keeps shaking. And then one tiny
174. 7:21thing happens. Someone forgets to buy
175. 7:24bread.
176. 7:25And suddenly, it is not about bread. It
177. 7:27is about 3 weeks of feeling ignored,
178. 7:30tired, and unappreciated. Exactly. Small
179. 7:33things start carrying old feelings. So,
180. 7:36what can we say before it reaches that
181. 7:38point? You can say "I don't want this to
182. 7:41build up, so I want to mention it now.
183. 7:44That sounds calm and mature. Or, this
184. 7:46may sound small, but it stayed with me.
185. 7:49I like that. It respects the fact that
186. 7:51small moments can still hurt. Another
187. 7:53useful sentence is, I know this may not
188. 7:56have been your intention, but it
189. 7:57affected me. That is strong because it
190. 7:59doesn't accuse the person of being
191. 8:01cruel. Yes, it leaves room for
192. 8:03misunderstanding, but it still protects
193. 8:06your feeling. So, the idea is simple.
194. 8:08Speak while the feeling is still small
195. 8:10enough to hold gently. Because a small
196. 8:13honest sentence today can prevent a big
197. 8:16emotional reaction later. Mm. Anna, can
198. 8:20we talk about anger? Because anger is
199. 8:23one of the hardest feelings to express
200. 8:25well. It is. Anger is loud, so people
201. 8:28notice it first, but often anger is
202. 8:30protecting something softer underneath.
203. 8:33Like hurt? Yes, hurt, fear, shame,
204. 8:37rejection, disappointment, or feeling
205. 8:39taken for granted. Taken for granted.
206. 8:42That means someone benefits from your
207. 8:43effort, but doesn't really appreciate
208. 8:45it. Yes, you can say, I felt taken for
209. 8:48granted, or I felt like my effort didn't
210. 8:50matter. Like when you do all the work
211. 8:52and someone says, great team effort.
212. 8:55>> [laughter]
213. 8:55>> Ah, yes, corporate emotional damage. So,
214. 8:58sometimes I am angry really means I
215. 9:01wanted to feel valued. Yes, or I wanted
216. 9:05to feel respected, or I wanted my effort
217. 9:08to be seen. But when anger comes out too
218. 9:10fast, we can lash out. Lash out means
219. 9:14react suddenly and angrily, often by
220. 9:16saying something hurtful. Right. You
221. 9:19might say, you never care, when the real
222. 9:21feeling is, I felt hurt when I did not
223. 9:24get a response. That is why I like this
224. 9:27line. Lower the accusation, raise the
225. 9:30clarity. Nice. Lower the accusation,
226. 9:33raise the clarity. Instead of, you never
227. 9:36respect me, say, "I felt disrespected
228. 9:39when I was interrupted." That already
229. 9:41sounds less like an attack. Yes, or
230. 9:44instead of you made me angry, say, "I
231. 9:48felt frustrated because I needed more
232. 9:50support." That gives the anger a real
233. 9:53reason. Right. And instead of you do not
234. 9:56care, say, "I felt hurt when I did not
235. 9:59get a response." Wow, those small
236. 10:02changes really do shift the whole
237. 10:04feeling of the sentence. And if your
238. 10:06words come out too sharply, you can
239. 10:08repair them. Say, "I'm sorry, that came
240. 10:11out harsher than I meant." Or, "Let me
241. 10:13try again. What I really mean is" Mhm.
242. 10:17That sentence can save a conversation.
243. 10:19Because it shows maturity. You're not
244. 10:21deleting your feeling, you're expressing
245. 10:23it better. Anger may be the loud
246. 10:25emotion, but confident English helps you
247. 10:28reach the honest one. Now, even if you
248. 10:31explain yourself clearly, the other
249. 10:33person may not respond well. They might
250. 10:35become dismissive. Yes, dismissive means
251. 10:38someone acts like your feeling is not
252. 10:40important. Like, "You're too sensitive"
253. 10:43or "It's not a big deal." Right. And
254. 10:46sometimes that hurts more than the
255. 10:48original situation. Because now your
256. 10:51feeling is not only painful, it is being
257. 10:53pushed away. Exactly. And in that
258. 10:56moment, many people start doubting
259. 10:58themselves. They think, "Maybe I should
260. 11:00not have said anything." But your
261. 11:02feeling was real, and it still deserves
262. 11:05words. Mhm, that is important. You do
263. 11:08not have to become louder to protect
264. 11:10your feeling, you can become clearer.
265. 11:13So, what can we say? I understand you
266. 11:15may see it differently, but this is how
267. 11:17it felt to me. That is calm, but firm.
268. 11:21Or, "I'm not asking you to agree
269. 11:23immediately, I'm asking you to listen."
270. 11:26That one has weight. You can also say,
271. 11:28"Please do not minimize this." Minimize
272. 11:31means make something seem smaller or
273. 11:33less important. Yes, if someone
274. 11:36minimizes your feeling, they treat it
275. 11:38like it doesn't matter. A learner could
276. 11:40say, "I feel like my concern is being
277. 11:43minimized." Or, "I'm trying to explain
278. 11:46how it affected me, not start an
279. 11:48argument." That is very mature. Another
280. 11:51strong one is, "You may not have meant
281. 11:53to hurt me, but the impact was still
282. 11:55real." Much better than saying, "Fine,
283. 11:58forget it." while clearly preparing
284. 12:00emotional weather for later. Yes, the
285. 12:03sky is calm, but the forecast is
286. 12:05dangerous. So, when someone is
287. 12:07dismissive, don't rush to defend your
288. 12:09whole personality. Just bring the
289. 12:11conversation back to the feeling and the
290. 12:13impact. But, here's the other side of
291. 12:15this. What about when it's our turn to
292. 12:18listen? That is just as important. Yes,
293. 12:21and that is where validation comes in.
294. 12:24Validate is such an important word here.
295. 12:27To validate someone's feeling means to
296. 12:30show that their feeling makes sense,
297. 12:32even if you do not fully agree with
298. 12:34every detail. So, it does not mean you
299. 12:37were right about everything. No, it
300. 12:39means I can understand why you feel that
301. 12:42way. Simple phrases can be powerful.
302. 12:45That sounds really hard. I can see why
303. 12:48that upset you. I am sorry you're
304. 12:50dealing with that. Thank you for telling
305. 12:52me. That one is beautiful, because it
306. 12:54makes the person feel safe for sharing.
307. 12:57And here's a very useful question. Do
308. 12:59you want advice, or do you just want me
309. 13:02to listen? Very important question,
310. 13:05especially for people who turn into life
311. 13:07coaches after one sentence.
312. 13:09>> [laughter]
313. 13:10>> I was just opening my seven-step
314. 13:12emotional improvement slideshow. Not
315. 13:15while someone is crying, please. Fair.
316. 13:17Sometimes people do not need a solution
317. 13:20first, they need a soft place to put the
318. 13:22feeling. That is lovely. If your friend
319. 13:25says, "I felt embarrassed today." You
320. 13:27can say, "Oh, no. That sounds
321. 13:30uncomfortable. What happened?" If
322. 13:32someone says, "I feel overwhelmed." You
323. 13:35can say, "That sounds like a lot to
324. 13:37carry." If someone says, "I'm
325. 13:39disappointed." You can say, "I can
326. 13:41understand why that would hurt." And
327. 13:43see, that doesn't sound complicated. It
328. 13:46just sounds kind. Right. Kind English is
329. 13:49sometimes very simple. So, validate
330. 13:52first.
331. 13:53>> And advise later if they want it. Now,
332. 13:56talking about feelings does not mean
333. 13:58telling everyone everything. Very
334. 14:00important. Emotional confidence also
335. 14:03means knowing who to open up to, when to
336. 14:06share, and how much to say. Open up
337. 14:09means share your honest thoughts or
338. 14:11feelings, right? Yes. When you open up,
339. 14:13you let someone see something real. But
340. 14:16not everyone should receive the full
341. 14:18emotional documentary.
342. 14:20The full emotional documentary? Yes.
343. 14:23Season 1, episode 1 with background
344. 14:26music.
345. 14:28True. Some people only asked, "How was
346. 14:31your weekend?" And suddenly they are
347. 14:33watching the whole thing.
348. 14:35>> [laughter]
349. 14:35>> With some titles. But in all
350. 14:37seriousness, knowing when to share and
351. 14:39when to hold back is a real skill.
352. 14:42Right. Opening up is honest and
353. 14:45thoughtful. Oversharing is giving too
354. 14:47much too soon to the wrong person. So,
355. 14:50if you are not ready, you can say, "I
356. 14:53appreciate you asking, but I'm not ready
357. 14:55to talk about it yet." Or I need some
358. 14:57time before I can explain this properly.
359. 15:00Or I want to talk about this, but not
360. 15:02right now. And if someone keeps pushing,
361. 15:04you may need to draw the line. Draw the
362. 15:07line means set a clear limit, right?
363. 15:09Yes. It means you decide what is
364. 15:12acceptable and what is not. You can say,
365. 15:14"I'm not comfortable discussing this
366. 15:16right now." Or I care about you, but I
367. 15:19need this conversation to stay
368. 15:21respectful. That's firm, but not cruel.
369. 15:24Another strong sentence is, "I'm willing
370. 15:26to listen, but I will not continue if
371. 15:29you speak to me like that." Boundaries
372. 15:31are not angry walls with warning signs.
373. 15:34No, [laughter] they're polite fences
374. 15:36with emotional intelligence. Very
375. 15:38elegant fences. But they matter because
376. 15:41without boundaries, emotional
377. 15:42conversations can become unsafe. So,
378. 15:45open up with the right people and draw
379. 15:47the line when the conversation stops
380. 15:49feeling respectful. So, Anna, after all
381. 15:51this, I think the final skill is
382. 15:53composure. Composure, that is a strong
383. 15:57word. Composure means calm control,
384. 15:59especially when you feel emotional
385. 16:01inside. So, it does not mean hiding your
386. 16:04feelings. No, it means holding them
387. 16:06carefully. I like that image, like
388. 16:09holding a warm cup. The cup is full, it
389. 16:12is hot, and you have to move slowly so
390. 16:14you don't spill it everywhere. Yes, that
391. 16:17is composure. The feeling is real, but
392. 16:19you you're carrying it with care. And in
393. 16:22difficult conversations, composure gives
394. 16:24you time. You can say, "I need a moment
395. 16:27before I respond." Or, "I want to answer
396. 16:30carefully, so give me a second." Or,
397. 16:33"I'm emotional right now and I don't
398. 16:35want to say this badly." That sentence
399. 16:37is very honest. It doesn't pretend
400. 16:39you're calm when you're not. It simply
401. 16:42protects the conversation. At work, you
402. 16:44might say, "I need a moment to process
403. 16:47that." Or, "Can I ask a question so I
404. 16:49understand clearly?" Professional, calm,
405. 16:52and confident. In a personal
406. 16:54conversation, you can say, "I care about
407. 16:57this conversation, so I don't want to
408. 16:58rush my response." That is beautiful
409. 17:01because it shows the conversation
410. 17:03matters. Sometimes confidence is not
411. 17:06speaking quickly. Sometimes confidence
412. 17:08is slowing down enough to choose the
413. 17:10right words. And maybe that's the heart
414. 17:13of this whole topic. Yes, talking about
415. 17:16feelings with confidence doesn't mean
416. 17:18having perfect English. It means enough
417. 17:20calm, enough honesty, and enough
418. 17:23language to say, "This is what I feel,
419. 17:25and I want to express it well." Yes,
420. 17:28honest, clear, and steady. English that
421. 17:31does not hide the feeling, but also
422. 17:33doesn't let the feeling take over. That
423. 17:36is a powerful kind of English. And
424. 17:38speaking of clear words, we have 10
425. 17:41important ones waiting for us. So,
426. 17:43before we close, let's slow them down,
427. 17:45explain them simply, and make them
428. 17:48easier to remember. Welcome to the word
429. 17:50tour. All right, let's begin.
430. 17:54Our first word is perfect for the moment
431. 17:56when your feeling is there, but the
432. 17:58sentence is still trying to arrive.
433. 18:01Articulate. Yes, to articulate means to
434. 18:05express something clearly, especially
435. 18:07when the idea or feeling is difficult to
436. 18:09explain. You can say, "I'm trying to
437. 18:12articulate what I feel, but it is not
438. 18:15easy." Or, "She articulated her feelings
439. 18:18calmly instead of getting angry." So,
440. 18:21articulate is not about using perfect
441. 18:23English. It is about giving clear words
442. 18:26to your feeling. Nice. Let's say it
443. 18:28slowly. Articulate. Articulate. And once
444. 18:33you articulate something honest, you may
445. 18:35feel a little exposed. That brings us to
446. 18:38our next word. Vulnerable. Yes,
447. 18:41vulnerable means emotionally open or
448. 18:44exposed. You are showing something real
449. 18:47about yourself. You can say, "I felt
450. 18:49vulnerable when I told him how much it
451. 18:51hurt me." Or, "It is not easy to be
452. 18:54vulnerable in a serious conversation."
453. 18:57So, vulnerable does not mean weak. It
454. 19:00means honest in a brave way. Good. One
455. 19:03more time. Vulnerable. Vulnerable. Hm,
456. 19:07now, vulnerable is about feeling
457. 19:09emotionally open. But sometimes the
458. 19:12feeling is not just open, it is too
459. 19:14much. Overwhelmed. Yes. Overwhelmed
460. 19:19means you feel that something is too
461. 19:21much to handle emotionally, mentally, or
462. 19:24physically. You can say, "I feel
463. 19:26overwhelmed right now and I need a
464. 19:28moment." Or, she felt overwhelmed by
465. 19:32work, family pressure, and too many
466. 19:34decisions. So, overwhelmed is stronger
467. 19:38than busy or stressed. It means your
468. 19:40mind or heart feels full. Nice. Repeat
469. 19:44it with us. Overwhelmed.
470. 19:46Overwhelmed. And when someone feels
471. 19:49overwhelmed but says nothing for too
472. 19:51long, another phrase becomes useful.
473. 19:54Bottled up. Yes. If feelings are bottled
474. 19:58up, they are kept inside instead of
475. 20:00being expressed. You can say, "I think I
476. 20:03have been bottling things up for too
477. 20:05long." Or, when emotions are bottled up,
478. 20:08small problems can suddenly feel huge.
479. 20:12So, bottled up feelings are like
480. 20:14pressure inside a bottle. If you never
481. 20:16open it gently, it may explode later.
482. 20:19Good. Let's say it again. Bottled up.
483. 20:22Bottled up. And bottled up feelings do
484. 20:26not stay quiet forever. Sometimes they
485. 20:28come out too fast and too sharply. Lash
486. 20:32out. Yes. To lash out means to react
487. 20:35suddenly and angrily, often by saying
488. 20:37something hurtful. You can say, "I did
489. 20:40not mean to lash out. I was feeling
490. 20:42overwhelmed." Or, he lashed out because
491. 20:44he felt ignored, but later he
492. 20:46apologized. So, lash out is what happens
493. 20:49when the feeling comes out before the
494. 20:51words are ready. Nice. One more time.
495. 20:54Lash out. Lash out. And when someone
496. 20:57finally shares a feeling, the worst
497. 20:59response is to make it seem unimportant.
498. 21:02Dismissive. Yes. Dismissive means acting
499. 21:05like someone's feeling, opinion, or
500. 21:07concern is not important. You can say,
501. 21:10"I felt hurt because his response was
502. 21:12dismissive." Or, "Try not to be
503. 21:14dismissive when someone opens up to
504. 21:16you." So, dismissive is the opposite of
505. 21:19listening with care. It pushes the
506. 21:21feeling away. Good. Repeat it with us.
507. 21:24Dismissive. Dismissive. Hmm, so what is
508. 21:28the opposite of being dismissive? It is
509. 21:30helping someone feel heard. Validate.
510. 21:33Yes, to validate someone's feeling means
511. 21:35to show that their feeling makes sense,
512. 21:38even if you do not fully agree with
513. 21:39everything. You can say, "I tried to
514. 21:41validate her feelings before giving
515. 21:43advice." Or, "Sometimes people just need
516. 21:46someone to validate what they are
517. 21:48feeling." So, validate does not mean
518. 21:50saying, "You're right about everything."
519. 21:52It means saying, "I understand why you
520. 21:54feel that way." Nice. Let's say it
521. 21:56slowly. Validate. Validate. And when
522. 22:00someone feels safe enough to share
523. 22:02something more honest, Open up. Yes. To
524. 22:05open up means to share your real
525. 22:07thoughts or feelings with someone. You
526. 22:09can say, "It takes time for me to open
527. 22:11up." Or, "She opened up about how lonely
528. 22:14she had been feeling." So, open up does
529. 22:17not mean telling everyone everything. It
530. 22:19means sharing honestly with someone you
531. 22:21trust. Good. One more time. Open up.
532. 22:25Open up. But opening up does not mean
533. 22:27allowing every conversation to go too
534. 22:30far. Draw the line. Yes, to draw the
535. 22:33line means to set a limit and decide
536. 22:35what is acceptable and what is not. You
537. 22:38can say, "I care about you, but I need
538. 22:40to draw the line when the conversation
539. 22:42becomes disrespectful." Or, "She finally
540. 22:46drew the line and said she needed
541. 22:47space." So, draw the line is useful when
542. 22:51you want to protect your peace without
543. 22:53sounding cruel. Nice. Repeat it with us.
544. 22:56Draw the line. Draw the line. And
545. 22:59finally, when feelings are strong, we
546. 23:01need one last word to help us stay
547. 23:03steady. Composure. Yes. Composure means
548. 23:07calm control, especially when you feel
549. 23:10emotional inside. You can say, "She kept
550. 23:13her composure during a difficult
551. 23:15conversation." Or, "I needed a moment to
552. 23:17regain my composure before I replied."
553. 23:20So, composure does not mean you have no
554. 23:22feelings. It means your feelings are
555. 23:24there, but they are not controlling your
556. 23:26words. Good. And one final time,
557. 23:29composure. Composure. Beautiful. These
558. 23:33words and phrases can really help you
559. 23:35talk about your feelings in a clearer,
560. 23:37calmer, more confident way. Yes. And
561. 23:41remember, you do not need to use all of
562. 23:43them at once. Choose one or two,
563. 23:45practice them, make them yours. Little
564. 23:47by little, your English starts to sound
565. 23:49more honest, more natural, and more like
566. 23:52you. And that is a wonderful kind of
567. 23:55progress. So, today, remember this. Your
568. 23:58feelings do not need perfect English.
569. 24:01They need patient English, clear
570. 24:03English, human English. Try this in the
571. 24:06comments. Write one sentence that starts
572. 24:08with "I felt". For example, "I felt
573. 24:11overwhelmed when I had too much work."
574. 24:14Or, "I felt proud when I finished
575. 24:16something difficult." Simple is perfect.
576. 24:19Honest is even better. If this episode
577. 24:22helped you, share it with another
578. 24:23English learner who wants to express
579. 24:25feelings more naturally. And if you are
580. 24:28new here, subscribe to the English Leap
581. 24:30podcast for more daily life English
582. 24:32through real conversations. Keep
583. 24:34listening, keep practicing, and keep
584. 24:36giving your real feelings better words.
585. 24:39Take care of your English. And take care
586. 24:41of your heart. This is Anna. And this is
587. 24:44Jake. And you have been listening to the
588. 24:46English Leap podcast. Bye.
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