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1. 0:02Okay, now recording.
2. 0:06Um
3. 0:07Okay.
4. 0:10All right.
5. 0:11Hi River, it's good to see you again.
6. 0:13How have um things been since we last
7. 0:16met?
8. 0:17>> Hi, yeah. I'm so happy to be here again.
9. 0:20Just kind of um feeling the same
10. 0:22symptoms. So, I've been really looking
11. 0:23forward to seeing you. Um
12. 0:25just still, you know, my mind is racing.
13. 0:29Um
14. 0:30kind of still doing stuff, you know,
15. 0:32busy with work and hiking and all the
16. 0:35things, but I just can't seem to turn my
17. 0:37mind off at night. Like I'm not sleeping
18. 0:39good and just kind of my uneasy stomach
19. 0:43problems that I've still been having and
20. 0:46not really sure why.
21. 0:49>> Okay, yeah. I can
22. 0:52um understand that this is probably
23. 0:55starting to feel frustrating
24. 0:57for you that not understanding why it
25. 1:00keeps happening.
26. 1:02>> Yeah. Do you have any advice or do you
27. 1:05think
28. 1:07something's wrong or
29. 1:09>> Um well, I know this has been coming up
30. 1:12um a few times in our sessions now. So,
31. 1:16um and then as I hear you talk about
32. 1:19about it, I can feel that frustration,
33. 1:21too. And um I really want to help you
34. 1:24make sense of all of it. So, yeah, if it
35. 1:28would be okay um for me to share what I
36. 1:30think might be happening?
37. 1:32>> Yeah, definitely. I love that.
38. 1:34>> Okay. So, um what you've been describing
39. 1:38so far with like the racing thoughts and
40. 1:41um feeling sick to your stomach, um
41. 1:44unable to sleep at night, feeling wired,
42. 1:47uh that can all happen when we're
43. 1:49experiencing
44. 1:50anxiety or stress. And um
45. 1:55you know, you've mentioned that you've
46. 1:56had a lot of change happen recently in a
47. 1:59short period of time. And some of that
48. 2:02change has been great. Some of that has
49. 2:05been harder. And even if some of the
50. 2:07change is um
51. 2:10has been fun or exciting, it's still
52. 2:13uh
53. 2:14something that the mind and body has to
54. 2:15adjust to.
55. 2:17And so, um you can totally love being
56. 2:20here and still be experiencing some
57. 2:23stress with all that you have to adjust
58. 2:26to. Um
59. 2:27they don't necessarily cancel each other
60. 2:29out. So,
61. 2:31yeah, when we're dealing with stress and
62. 2:33change, um we could start to notice it
63. 2:35in both our mind and our body. And that
64. 2:38could be why you're feeling both those
65. 2:40mental and physical symptoms.
66. 2:44>> Yeah, that makes sense. I've definitely
67. 2:46gone through so many changes and
68. 2:50um
69. 2:51it's just been such a big adjustment, um
70. 2:53but exciting. And like just
71. 2:57I don't know. It's just like all the
72. 2:58things and it kind of makes sense that
73. 3:00that would, you know, affect
74. 3:02my stomach or like just these racing
75. 3:04thoughts. Um
76. 3:06I'm just I'm like, "How can I change
77. 3:09this? Or like, what kind of
78. 3:11what can I do to make this lessen? Cuz
79. 3:14it's kind of on an intensity scale, it's
80. 3:16probably close to a nine, you know? So,
81. 3:19I just want to bring it down a notch.
82. 3:22>> Okay.
83. 3:23Um well, are you still um
84. 3:26experiencing them
85. 3:29pretty much at night?
86. 3:31>> Yeah, it's mostly at night. Like during
87. 3:33the day, I think my mind is just so
88. 3:35preoccupied with
89. 3:36planning the next hike or, you know,
90. 3:38going to work and meeting up with
91. 3:40friends, that doesn't really affect me
92. 3:42until
93. 3:43at the end of the night I'm at home and
94. 3:45I'm just
95. 3:46maybe it's just being in my small place
96. 3:48where I live where it's just like, you
97. 3:50know, in like a a small apartment
98. 3:54that makes me feel like that, but I
99. 3:58think it's just everything from the day,
100. 4:00you know, hitting me at once.
101. 4:02>> Yeah, definitely. Um and like you said,
102. 4:04you know, during the day you're you're
103. 4:06pretty busy, so your mind's preoccupied.
104. 4:09And um
105. 4:11yeah, it's focusing on whatever you're
106. 4:13doing. So, when it comes to the evening
107. 4:16and less is going on and everything
108. 4:18starts to slow down, then like your mind
109. 4:20has that that space to start to think
110. 4:24about all that you're dealing with.
111. 4:26Um so yeah, once those thoughts start
112. 4:30start going, then the body can get
113. 4:32worked up, too, and that could explain
114. 4:35why you're experiencing both those um
115. 4:38mind and body symptoms specifically at
116. 4:41night and not so much in the day.
117. 4:43Um
118. 4:44and I know we talked about this before,
119. 4:46but I just want to I'm just curious if
120. 4:48anything has changed since then, but
121. 4:50what um when your mind is racing at
122. 4:53night, what are some of the things you
123. 4:56find yourself thinking about?
124. 4:59>> Yeah,
125. 5:00um
126. 5:02I think just, you know, like where I fit
127. 5:04in here, like, you know, meeting all
128. 5:06these new people.
129. 5:08Um you know, I'm trying to like
130. 5:10possibly, you know, some guys I've been
131. 5:13thinking about dating a little bit. Um
132. 5:15so, some, you know, people that are
133. 5:17showing interest to date me.
134. 5:19Thinking about that and, you know, kind
135. 5:21of what the next chapter is like as far
136. 5:24as
137. 5:25as I'm getting into my, you know, later
138. 5:2720s and
139. 5:29my purpose in life, where, you know, if
140. 5:32I'm going to stay here long term or
141. 5:33like, you know, just a long term picture
142. 5:36in a way. Um I think I've just been so
143. 5:38caught up, you know, all the excitement.
144. 5:40A lot of people my age are just having
145. 5:43fun and um but I definitely have that in
146. 5:46the back of my mind where, you know, I
147. 5:48do want to be more serious down the
148. 5:51road, you know, um
149. 5:53So, I think just
150. 5:55thinking of
151. 5:56um
152. 5:57you know, long-term goals as well as
153. 6:01this current, you know, fun stage I'm
154. 6:03in.
155. 6:06If that makes sense.
156. 6:07>> [laughter]
157. 6:08>> Yeah, and um you know, hearing you
158. 6:12hearing you mention all of that and then
159. 6:13that's a lot of the things that you've
160. 6:15mentioned before, too. So, I can tell
161. 6:17that that's all still
162. 6:19um on your mind.
163. 6:21Um but yeah, those are all
164. 6:24things that do kind of make you feel
165. 6:26some pressure in in your life and
166. 6:29uncertainty and sometimes that can feel
167. 6:32heavy and um
168. 6:36be frustrating at times, too, especially
169. 6:38if you're you're expecting some of that
170. 6:40to
171. 6:41kind of start happening right now and
172. 6:44maybe they're not. Um so, I can
173. 6:46understand why you're feeling uneasy at
174. 6:48night and
175. 6:50um
176. 6:52especially when you're thinking about
177. 6:54that.
178. 6:54Oh, I'm sorry.
179. 6:56>> Sorry. Yeah, I was just like wanting to
180. 6:57add on. I think it's a lot of pressure
181. 6:59maybe from my parents back home and like
182. 7:01people, you know,
183. 7:02the older generation is kind of like I
184. 7:05don't want to say judging me, but
185. 7:07you know, I'm the pressure to fit in
186. 7:09here and like meet all these new friends
187. 7:11and people and like the local culture,
188. 7:14but also um
189. 7:16you know, my traditional like small town
190. 7:19roots where I'm from.
191. 7:21I think maybe that's like a pressure
192. 7:23point as well. Like they just want me to
193. 7:27have this long-term plan and you know,
194. 7:29it's just kind of the stage of life I'm
195. 7:31in and
196. 7:32I don't know. I just want to find
197. 7:33solutions for like my stomach and the
198. 7:35sleep and
199. 7:37just things to work on to help that go
200. 7:40down a notch.
201. 7:42>> Yeah. Yeah. Well, I can definitely feel
202. 7:45how heavy that load is for you. Um that
203. 7:47is a lot of pressure.
204. 7:49Um
205. 7:50and uh especially when you're thinking
206. 7:52about it and carrying that load every
207. 7:54day uh
208. 7:55day after day without
209. 7:57maybe even knowing why. But,
210. 8:00um
211. 8:02yeah, so I can tell that this is
212. 8:04frustrating for you and that you're
213. 8:06wanting to find some relief from those
214. 8:08symptoms. Um so, if you're interested, I
215. 8:11can recommend a really simple breathing
216. 8:14technique that might help you at least
217. 8:16settle your body
218. 8:21>> Yeah, that'd be great.
219. 8:22>> Yeah, okay.
220. 8:24Um it's very simple. You just need to
221. 8:26remember four and six. Um you could take
222. 8:30a slow inhale for 4 seconds and then a
223. 8:36longer exhale for 6 seconds. And you
224. 8:40just repeat that a couple times. Um I'd
225. 8:42suggest maybe three times. And um since
226. 8:48you know, you're you're Are you still
227. 8:49journaling?
228. 8:51>> A little bit. Yeah, I'm not really
229. 8:54into journaling too much, but I've been
230. 8:56trying to.
231. 8:58>> Okay. Well, maybe
232. 9:00um
233. 9:01you could try adding in the the
234. 9:03breathing and maybe do like a couple of
235. 9:06those breaths before
236. 9:08um trying to journal and maybe that
237. 9:10might get you in you know, a different
238. 9:12state of mind to like get some thoughts
239. 9:14out um
240. 9:16and then
241. 9:17some couple couple more breaths after
242. 9:20um to settle and just see what you
243. 9:23notice.
244. 9:25>> Okay, great. Yeah, I really I am a
245. 9:27pretty active person, so I think
246. 9:29um I'd like that better than journaling.
247. 9:32>> Okay. Okay, great. All right. Well, so
248. 9:34we'll give that a try and
249. 9:36um are coming to the uh end of our time
250. 9:40together. So, um
251. 9:43well,
252. 9:45try that out and check in on that next
253. 9:48time and I appreciate you being open
254. 9:50with me.
255. 9:52And I'll see you next week.
256. 9:54>> Thank you so much for the suggestion and
257. 9:56we'll see you next week.
258. 9:57>> Okay. Bye.