Dondre Whitfield Avoids EVERY Direct Question — Transcript

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1. 0:00Straight black men are the cancer of the
2. 0:03black community. Ladies, your issue is
3. 0:05not a trans woman.
4. 0:07>> Men are men and women are women, okay?
5. 0:09>> And what's that mean? Your issue is not
6. 0:11a punk or not a Your issue is all
7. 0:15of our issue, straight black men.
8. 0:23Straight black men are the enemy to the
9. 0:25gays. Straight black men are the enemy
10. 0:27to the trans. Straight black men are who
11. 0:30are causing harm to the girls and the
12. 0:32women. But, Tasha K, I want you to know
13. 0:34this, and you can put this on record.
14. 0:37The next time I publicly see you, I am
15. 0:40going to walk up to you, and I'm going
16. 0:42to slap the out of you. But, you'll
17. 0:44never see a situation where girls and
18. 0:47women walking around saying they're
19. 0:48scared of the gay boys. And then, I'mma
20. 0:50already just throw my set up and be
21. 0:52ready to fight your husband. How is it
22. 0:54we are raising boys with these
23. 0:57fragile-ass egos that feel it is okay to
24. 1:02slam girls on the head Black men are the
25. 1:05cancer of the black community. The
26. 1:07comment that I dropped was that I agree
27. 1:11and reporting for duty. Are you going to
28. 1:14be as emphatic in your condemnation of
29. 1:16those particular hurtful cancerous
30. 1:18comments as you were when you were
31. 1:20reporting for duty? That's not even the
32. 1:23crux of the conversation, but I want to
33. 1:24get that out of the way so we can have
34. 1:25the real conversation. Let let's also
35. 1:28take into account for
36. 1:30God's internet.
37. 1:34Timing.
38. 1:37These comments made by him
39. 1:41are quite fresh.
40. 1:44I didn't make my post with regard to
41. 1:48what was said
42. 1:50on the same day that he made his post.
43. 1:53I often don't. There are often
44. 1:56one or two days when something breaks
45. 1:59before I actually post
46. 2:02a response, a retort, a reaction.
47. 2:06Um
48. 2:09So, I want everyone to be quite clear
49. 2:11about what timing is. Mhm.
50. 2:15And again, I think it also speaks to
51. 2:18what men do.
52. 2:20A lot of people who lack manhood simply
53. 2:24react
54. 2:25Certainly. before they think
55. 2:28Certainly.
56. 2:28>> clear about creating a response.
57. 2:33And so, when you hear a response from me
58. 2:35A few moments later. there are things
59. 2:39that
60. 2:41my
61. 2:42wife is incredibly capable of doing
62. 2:46within the confines of our marriage and
63. 2:48in our family.
64. 2:502 hours later. Because black women are
65. 2:53not black women are now the most
66. 2:55educated demographic in the country. So,
67. 2:57it stands to reason that some of us may
68. 3:00find ourselves in a position where our
69. 3:02woman is out earning us.
70. 3:04So, wait a minute. Wait Wait a minute.
71. 3:09How Wait, first of all, you're not going
72. 3:10to speed past that like you didn't just
73. 3:12say what you just said.
74. 3:14Black women by and large are not the
75. 3:15most educated group in America. They're
76. 3:17the most enrolled group in America.
77. 3:19They're also the group with the highest
78. 3:20amount of student loan debt. But beside
79. 3:22all of that Finish him. Words have
80. 3:26impact. Every religious
81. 3:28book talks about what you say has power.
82. 3:33Regardless of meaning
83. 3:35the words you speak mean absolutely
84. 3:38everything. So, let's be grown.
85. 3:41Do I think black men need to do better
86. 3:43by and large? Absolutely. Some of us
87. 3:45need therapy. Some of us need discipline
88. 3:47as we talked about. Uh some of us need
89. 3:50uh to take some accountability for the
90. 3:52fact that we are out here like Nick
91. 3:54Cannon with a bag of Viagra.
92. 3:56Uh we got to take accountability for the
93. 3:57promises we don't keep and the excuses
94. 3:59that nobody asked for. I have always
95. 4:02been an equal opportunity bold caller
96. 4:05out.
97. 4:06But what we don't get to do is take the
98. 4:09failures of a very small group of black
99. 4:11men and diagnose all black men as a
100. 4:13disease in the words we choose to
101. 4:15exercise. That's just intellectual um
102. 4:20dishonesty. And that's the problem with
103. 4:22keeping podcast mics at such a cheap
104. 4:25rate. Hold up.
105. 4:28Let him
106. 4:30Uh
107. 4:31black men
108. 4:33are not anywhere near
109. 4:36the cancer of our community. We did not
110. 4:38create slavery, we did not create
111. 4:39redlining, we didn't create mass
112. 4:41incarceration, underfunded schools, the
113. 4:43wage gap, bank deserts, food deserts. We
114. 4:46did not create this media machine that
115. 4:48uh keeps people like Andy Cohen and Lyor
116. 4:51Cohen and Jimmy Iovine in the billions.
117. 4:55Uh we did not create this narrative of
118. 4:58us being monsters. So absolutely, I
119. 5:00think we are not above accountability.
120. 5:03But let's not make us the emotional
121. 5:04landfill that everybody decides to build
122. 5:07on even though we are the backbone of
123. 5:09what built this country. And loving
124. 5:11black women does not require hating
125. 5:14black men or throwing black men under
126. 5:16the bus because
127. 5:18public humiliation of us is not a way
128. 5:21that we heal our community.
129. 5:23That's dysfunctional. There's too many
130. 5:25of us who are broken, who need therapy.
131. 5:27There are some of us who need
132. 5:28correction. But what I don't want to get
133. 5:32lost in this conversation is that there
134. 5:35are a bunch of us who are dads. Good
135. 5:37dads.
136. 5:38Husbands, good husbands, workers,
137. 5:40builders, protectors, mentors, coaches,
138. 5:42pastors, professors, entrepreneurs,
139. 5:45um people who get up every day with no
140. 5:48credit, no applause, and they're
141. 5:50literally holding their lives and the
142. 5:52lives of the people in their charge with
143. 5:54duct tape and overdraft protection. We
144. 5:58ain't the cancer. A lot of us are the
145. 5:59immune system. A lot of us are the scar
146. 6:01tissue. A lot of us are the unpaid
147. 6:02security, the unpaid Uber. A lot of us
148. 6:04are the therapist. A lot of us are the
149. 6:06last beam of the house holding it up
150. 6:09while we're being criticized for why the
151. 6:11house is leaning in the first place.
152. 6:13So, I'm not going to report for duty
153. 6:15respectfully under a lie. I'll report
154. 6:17for duty to build. I'll report for duty
155. 6:19to lead. I'll report for duty to correct
156. 6:22men who are wrong. I will report for
157. 6:23duty to protect women and children. I'll
158. 6:25report to duty to rebuild families and
159. 6:27confront broken systems. When we have
160. 6:29people like David, when we have people
161. 6:31like R Kelly, when we have people like
162. 6:33Diddy, I condemn that situation
163. 6:36immediately. But, I also condemn Clive
164. 6:38Davis. I also condemn Lyor Cohen. I also
165. 6:41condemn Andy Cohen, Scooter Braun, and
166. 6:43everybody who is in charge of
167. 6:44perpetuating this thug, gangster,
168. 6:47nonsensical mythos of black men that
169. 6:50becomes the standard as opposed to the
170. 6:54exception while also elevating a soft,
171. 6:58beta male, simp, mangina mentality that
172. 7:00does not serve us when it comes to our
173. 7:02communities and would not be tolerated
174. 7:04in anybody else's community. I will not
175. 7:06report for duty to slander black men for
176. 7:08applause, clicks, clout, or likes. Not
177. 7:11talking about Don Jr. cuz he's not doing
178. 7:13that. But, for the general record, I
179. 7:15want to make it abundantly clear. Yes,
180. 7:17we're flawed. Yes, we're wounded. But,
181. 7:19above all,
182. 7:21whether you like it or not, whether you
183. 7:23think we need to do better or not, we
184. 7:25are necessary.
185. 7:27We are not the cancer of the black
186. 7:30community. By and large, we are a huge
187. 7:33part of the cure. And I think it's time
188. 7:35that everybody got themselves a dose.
189. 7:38Got them.
190. 7:39We got them.