Detachment Is Power | How I Transformed Crippling Insecurity Into Gleaming Confidence — Transcript

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1. 0:00Hey everyone, welcome back to my
2. 0:02channel. Today I want to talk about
3. 0:04something that completely transformed my
4. 0:06life. That is detachment and how it can
5. 0:09transform yours as well and unlock your
6. 0:12highest power. I want to talk about
7. 0:14detachment not in the cold emotionist
8. 0:17way that people like to imagine, but
9. 0:20rather in the powerful liberating way
10. 0:23that helped me find peace within myself.
11. 0:26So, let's dive deep into what detachment
12. 0:29really means, why it's misunderstood,
13. 0:32and why embracing it gave me strength I
14. 0:34knew I never had. So, part one of this
15. 0:37video was all about what is detachment
16. 0:40really. Detachment isn't about caring.
17. 0:44It's about caring without clinging.
18. 0:48Like, if you can think of, let's say for
19. 0:51instance, a material possession you
20. 0:53might have, maybe it's your car. You
21. 0:55care about your car because it gets you
22. 0:57from point A to point B. However, if you
23. 1:02cling to that car, then you protect it
24. 1:05with like every ounce of your life and
25. 1:07you may even go to the extent by not
26. 1:10taking it out on the road and allowing
27. 1:12it to get you to where you need to go.
28. 1:15However, if you are detached from the
29. 1:17car, still caring, without clinging, you
30. 1:20can still take care of that car without
31. 1:23fearing that it's going to be scratched
32. 1:25or that you're going to get into a crash
33. 1:27on the road because you trust that the
34. 1:30car is going to get you to where you
35. 1:32want. And even if something bad does
36. 1:35happen to that vehicle, you still know
37. 1:38within that everything is going to be
38. 1:40okay. And you show gratitude for the
39. 1:42moments that that vehicle served you.
40. 1:44And you can also think about it like
41. 1:46this. Hold sand tightly in your fist. It
42. 1:50slips away, but when you open your palm,
43. 1:54it's gently there. That's what
44. 1:56detachment is in an analogy. The second
45. 2:00part of this that I want to emphasize is
46. 2:02why detachment is power. You stop
47. 2:06reacting and you start responding when
48. 2:09you become detached from whatever it
49. 2:12might be in your life.
50. 2:14When you are detached, you are no longer
51. 2:17triggered by every little thing. You
52. 2:20gain emotional clarity with detachment.
53. 2:22You also begin to reclaim your energy.
54. 2:26Instead of pouring your soul into things
55. 2:28you can't control, you invest in what
56. 2:30truly matters. It kind of coincides with
57. 2:34the analogy that you cannot pour from an
58. 2:38empty cup. You care for yourself before
59. 2:41you care for others. And I know this
60. 2:43might sound selfish to a lot of people,
61. 2:46but that is just the natural law of how
62. 2:48things work. If you are trying to get to
63. 2:53point A to point B in, let's say, a
64. 2:56broken down vehicle, you have to work on
65. 2:59repairing that vehicle first before
66. 3:02getting yourself to the destination that
67. 3:04you want to get to. This also works in
68. 3:07the sense that if you want to go
69. 3:09extraordinary lengths in your life to
70. 3:11help others or achieve audacious
71. 3:14ambitious goals, you have to focus on
72. 3:17healing yourself too if you have any
73. 3:20subconscious negative thoughts about
74. 3:22yourself. If you have trauma or anything
75. 3:24that might be causing some inner
76. 3:26turbulence and when detachment comes
77. 3:29into the game, you become unshakable.
78. 3:32Whether that's somebody praising you or
79. 3:35criticizing you, you really don't care
80. 3:37anymore because you become so confident
81. 3:40and so secure in yourself that you carry
82. 3:43yourself with your chest high everywhere
83. 3:46you walk. Walking like you own the air.
84. 3:49It really doesn't matter anymore how
85. 3:52anybody responds to you. The only person
86. 3:55whose opinions matter to you are your
87. 3:58own opinions. I will include the example
88. 4:01of my own. When I was a teenager, I was
89. 4:05constantly worried about what others
90. 4:08were thinking of me. And this didn't
91. 4:11come naturally because I was bullied as
92. 4:14a child. And that led me to become
93. 4:16highly insecure. And being that I grew
94. 4:20up in isolation, I constantly ruminated
95. 4:23about this. And I was insecure and
96. 4:27attached to so many things. Whether it
97. 4:29be my physical appearance, my weight, my
98. 4:32personality, the way that I talked, or
99. 4:35the way that I simply expressed myself.
100. 4:38I cared how other people reacted to
101. 4:40that. And I actually came to the point
102. 4:43where I was delusional, where I thought
103. 4:46other people were trying to plot against
104. 4:48me and constantly had negative thoughts
105. 4:50about myself because I was so attached
106. 4:52to what other people were thinking that
107. 4:55I was almost hallucinating. I was living
108. 4:57in this delusional world where everybody
109. 4:59was against me and I kept feeding onto
110. 5:02the idea that I was not good enough to
111. 5:05be liked by others. But I had to take
112. 5:08that brave step outside of my comfort
113. 5:11zone and start distancing myself from
114. 5:14the things that were holding me back.
115. 5:16That's when detachment came naturally to
116. 5:18me as it did when I was younger. I began
117. 5:21to feel super confident and I started
118. 5:23crushing every little goal that I have
119. 5:25always wanted to achieve. I begin to
120. 5:28feel so confident that nowadays I just
121. 5:31walk in the streets with not a care in
122. 5:33the world, wearing whatever I want,
123. 5:35saying whatever I want without obviously
124. 5:38maybe not saying whatever I want, but
125. 5:41expressing myself without the concern
126. 5:44for what others were thinking about me.
127. 5:47I can speak publicly without stuttering
128. 5:49anymore. I can have a face tof face
129. 5:52conversation with somebody, be looking
130. 5:54them straight into the eye, and not be
131. 5:56worried about whether they're thinking
132. 5:58she's too extra. You know what I mean?
133. 6:01When you become detached from whether
134. 6:03it's material possessions or what other
135. 6:06people think, that's when your power
136. 6:08really starts to shine. Another thing
137. 6:10that I want to talk about here is
138. 6:13detachment in relationships. A lot of
139. 6:16people think that detachment can be
140. 6:19toxic when it comes to relationships.
141. 6:21That can be partially true. However,
142. 6:24detachment is very healthy when it comes
143. 6:26to relationships. Here's an example I
144. 6:29want to provide. I used to be deeply
145. 6:31attached to people's approval. Like I
146. 6:33had previously insinuated, if somebody
147. 6:36pulled away, I would spiral. I would
148. 6:38overthink. I would analyze. And I would
149. 6:41actually lose sleep at night. But once I
150. 6:43learned to detach from that by whether
151. 6:46it was working or pursuing something I
152. 6:48was really passionate about, I realized
153. 6:50that I can love somebody deeply and
154. 6:53still let them go. Their presence
155. 6:55doesn't define my worth anymore. That
156. 6:57shift completely changed everything and
157. 7:00I stopped chasing and started attracting
158. 7:02everything that I ever wanted in my
159. 7:04life. Again, I previously insinuated
160. 7:06this. I just want to structure it a
161. 7:09little bit more. I had this dream that I
162. 7:11was obsessed with and part of it
163. 7:13revolved around being a content creator
164. 7:16that I am now. But I thought achieving
165. 7:19it would finally make me happy. But the
166. 7:22more I clung to this idea, the more
167. 7:24anxious I become. And out of fear of not
168. 7:27being perfect on my first video, I
169. 7:30actually avoided uploading content
170. 7:33altogether. Then I detached from this
171. 7:37anxiety that I had of not being perfect
172. 7:41in my first video. And my first video
173. 7:44wasn't great, but I really had to set my
174. 7:47ego aside and tell myself that you are
175. 7:51going to miss 100% of the shots that you
176. 7:55don't take. Another example is inner
177. 7:58peace. And I think this is probably the
178. 8:00most important one because this comes
179. 8:03from healing within. I realized that I
180. 8:07was attached to my own thoughts and my
181. 8:10doubts, especially the negative ones. I
182. 8:14believed every fear that I had, every
183. 8:16doubt. But then I started simply
184. 8:19observing them instead of identifying
185. 8:21them. Here's what I would do. I would
186. 8:23just sit with my thoughts. I wouldn't
187. 8:25ruminate on them. I would just watch
188. 8:28them almost like in a meditative kind of
189. 8:31way, but I wouldn't let I would not
190. 8:34suppress my emotions while I was doing
191. 8:37this. I just simply let my emotions pass
192. 8:40through my body and observe them until
193. 8:43it was gone. This is the number one
194. 8:46technique that allowed me to detach from
195. 8:49almost anything. Like, it's crazy. It
196. 8:54works like magic. If you guys try this
197. 8:56too, I promise it works. You just got to
198. 8:58put the reps in and you got to stay
199. 8:59consistent if you want to actually feel
200. 9:01the results of detachment. And yes, I
201. 9:04would also like to include that
202. 9:05meditation helped as well. Um, I would
203. 9:08say journaling also helped, but most of
204. 9:11all, self-compassion
205. 9:13helped the most, especially considering
206. 9:16that I was very critical of myself and
207. 9:20was more of a pessimist back then. I
208. 9:24stopped fighting my emotions and
209. 9:26suppressing them and instead I decided
210. 9:29to start listening to them and observing
211. 9:31them. That is how I found peace within
212. 9:35myself. My goal of being a content
213. 9:38creator on YouTube is to help you guys
214. 9:40overcome these fears and help you become
215. 9:42your best selves because I was in the
216. 9:46same spot once. I was in a very dark
217. 9:49place that I never thought I would be
218. 9:52able to get out of. However, I had to
219. 9:54set my ego aside and step out of my
220. 9:57comfort zone to get to where I am now.
221. 9:59Living a happy life, being grateful for
222. 10:02everything that I have manifested and
223. 10:04accomplished. My final thoughts on
224. 10:07today's topic is that I want to say that
225. 10:10detachment isn't completely about being
226. 10:12indifferent. Rather, I think it's about
227. 10:15being free. I think it's about being
228. 10:17free to love without fear. I think it's
229. 10:21about being free to dream without
230. 10:24desperation and being free to live
231. 10:26without being chained to outcomes. If
232. 10:29you're struggling with attachment,
233. 10:32whether to people, goals, or even your
234. 10:34own identity, know this that peace is
235. 10:38possible for you. Thank you guys so much
236. 10:40for coming back to my channel and
237. 10:42watching today's video. If this
238. 10:43resonated with you, drop a comment below
239. 10:46or share your own journey even. I love
240. 10:48to hear your own story and point of
241. 10:51view. Stay grounded and stay free.