Debunking Misandry: Women Don't Hate Us, But They Should — Transcript

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1. 0:00So, recently, I did an intro video
2. 0:02discussing misogyny. I made the point
3. 0:05that America was built on patriarchy,
4. 0:07which produces misogyny, and that the
5. 0:10three major religions in the West are
6. 0:12primary drivers of that misogyny. We
7. 0:15focused on the Christian Bible because
8. 0:17that's what I'm most familiar with, but
9. 0:19some of y'all produced examples from
10. 0:21Islam and Judaism, too. I also used my
11. 0:24own journey to help connect with men by
12. 0:26identifying some of the ways I've been
13. 0:28misogynistic, even within the last year.
14. 0:31It was mostly love in the comments, but
15. 0:32some black men were not trying to hear
16. 0:35that noise. Some comments were brief and
17. 0:37angry. More than one person directly
18. 0:39called me homosexual. While one person
19. 0:42left a supportive novel. Welcome to my
20. 0:44job. To those who didn't like it, I'm
21. 0:46glad y'all spoke up cuz now I got a lot
22. 0:48of comments to go through and debunk one
23. 0:51by one. This is my favorite thing to do.
24. 0:53I'm a fact-checker at heart. Let's
25. 0:54explore all the negativity, the myth of
26. 0:57the man-hating feminists, and the
27. 0:59misconceptions around feminism itself.
28. 1:04In the intro of that prior video, I said
29. 1:06this, "For anybody who's tempted to
30. 1:08dismiss this as the rant of a male
31. 1:11feminist,
32. 1:12you're right. You know what's on my
33. 1:14side, though?
34. 1:15The facts.
35. 1:16And it didn't go over well with a couple
36. 1:18of y'all. Let's take a deeper look into
37. 1:20the reasons why. These first two
38. 1:22comments match, essentially saying that
39. 1:24I lost y'all by claiming I'm a feminist.
40. 1:28You must be new here. That isn't some
41. 1:29new revelation, but let's roll with it.
42. 1:31We got to define feminism based on what
43. 1:33it actually means, not how y'all warp
44. 1:36the word to fit your narrative.
45. 1:38Britannica defines it as follows, "The
46. 1:40belief in social, economic, and
47. 1:42political equality of the sexes." The
48. 1:45challenge I posit to every single person
49. 1:47who pushes back on men being feminists
50. 1:49is this, "Pick a part of that definition
51. 1:51to disagree with and defend your
52. 1:53position. Is it the social, economic, or
53. 1:56political equality that rubs you the
54. 1:58wrong way?
55. 1:59You can't attack this definition without
56. 2:01being sexist. And that's my entire
57. 2:03point. In order to actually score points
58. 2:06in a debate, you need to come up with
59. 2:07your own definition, like this bot did.
60. 2:11I'm not calling them a bot as a joke.
61. 2:13This is literally a bot. I'm only
62. 2:14engaging with this because the
63. 2:16point is similar to what some other
64. 2:18people said later.
65. 2:20Taking the edge off said, "Quote, male
66. 2:22feminists are just a patriarchy hiding
67. 2:24behind soft words, end quote." That
68. 2:27would imply that it's brave to stand
69. 2:29your ground and back the patriarchy
70. 2:31proudly, right? But that's the majority
71. 2:33position in America, and always has
72. 2:35been. So, who's really taking a risk?
73. 2:38You did this to yourself. Let's take a
74. 2:39look at your profile. Oh, oh, no.
75. 2:43Typical white alpha male cartoon avatar,
76. 2:46which means this is probably a foreign
77. 2:48incel. The same video twice with
78. 2:51different font on the thumbnails. Let's
79. 2:53watch a little bit of this bot video.
80. 2:55The subtle genius of this propaganda lay
81. 2:58in its ability to make women believe
82. 3:00that the art making was a place of
83. 3:01stifling oppression, positioning the
84. 3:03workplace as their real stage for
85. 3:05liberation. This was a calculated move
86. 3:08by capitalist forces that saw an
87. 3:10opportunity to harness women's labor in
88. 3:12the workforce to further fuel economic
89. 3:14growth. AI voiceover throughout, and the
90. 3:16central message is that feminism is
91. 3:18actually co-opted by corporations that
92. 3:21want more workers to exploit. So,
93. 3:23therefore, quote-unquote modern feminism
94. 3:26isn't as pure as the definition I gave
95. 3:28y'all earlier. The claim hinges on the
96. 3:30belief that feminists just want to be
97. 3:32the patriarchy, and they've been tricked
98. 3:34by corporations to fight for equal
99. 3:36rights. Thinking women are being tricked
100. 3:38into feminism by some kind of false flag
101. 3:40operation is actually more sexist.
102. 3:43Congratulations. I get the suspicion
103. 3:45that corporations are trying to co-opt
104. 3:47the movement. I understand that. They
105. 3:48try to co-opt every movement. That's
106. 3:50what capitalism does. There just isn't
107. 3:52any evidence that those attempts are
108. 3:54responsible for what you call modern
109. 3:56feminism. The Supreme Court, responsible
110. 3:59for removing their right to control
111. 4:00their own reproductive systems, is
112. 4:03mostly male and mostly conservative,
113. 4:05which means almost all of them uphold
114. 4:08the patriarchy at every opportunity.
115. 4:10You know what never happen? A court
116. 4:13telling me what to do with my dick. Oh,
117. 4:15but you think you own that baby inside a
118. 4:17woman because you helped with half the
119. 4:19DNA before her 9-month gestational
120. 4:22nightmare? And instead of talking these
121. 4:24differences out with your partner, you
122. 4:26want to create a legal environment where
123. 4:28nine states can ban abortions with no
124. 4:31exception for incest or
125. 4:33Interesting. This dude said women are up
126. 4:36on all fronts in 2026. White men make up
127. 4:39about 35% of the US population, while
128. 4:41black women make up about 7.4% of the US
129. 4:45population. Here's the percentage of VP
130. 4:48roles and C-suite positions each of them
131. 4:50fill.
132. 4:52Looking hella lopsided, right?
133. 4:54Yeah, I thought so, too.
134. 4:55And since I know you're going to ask,
135. 4:57this is the distribution between black
136. 4:59men and black women specifically in the
137. 5:01C-suite. Each block represents one unit
138. 5:04of representation or one percentage
139. 5:06point.
140. 5:07We got one more. I'm pointing this out
141. 5:09cuz one of y'all said, "Black men are
142. 5:11going through more than black women
143. 5:13right now."
144. 5:14Economically, that's highly unlikely.
145. 5:17We're promoted more often, disciplined
146. 5:19less harshly, and operate under fewer
147. 5:21societal restrictions since we live in a
148. 5:23patriarchy that's also becoming more
149. 5:25fascistic by the day. As another
150. 5:28approach, you could turn the word
151. 5:29feminist into a slur that refers to this
152. 5:32imaginary wave of man-haters. When in
153. 5:35reality, you're hyper-focused on a few
154. 5:37examples of women who legitimately hate
155. 5:39men. The internet is a big place. I'm
156. 5:41not denying that these women exist. I
157. 5:43want to break this one down line by
158. 5:45line. Quote, "Why is it only black men
159. 5:47are held to a higher standard?" This is
160. 5:50called whataboutism, and it's completely
161. 5:52untrue. I made one YouTube video, and
162. 5:54you use that to ignore the fact that
163. 5:56there's hundreds of white women on
164. 5:57YouTube who center their entire channels
165. 6:00around tearing down the patriarchy?
166. 6:02Next line. "Make a video regarding black
167. 6:05women disrespecting the black man and
168. 6:07women having modesty."
169. 6:09First off, I don't work for you, bro.
170. 6:12Make it yourself. I can't tell you how
171. 6:14many times men, because it's almost
172. 6:16always men, which is making my point for
173. 6:18me, come to my channel full of my videos
174. 6:21that I spent days, sometimes weeks,
175. 6:24creating, and then give me orders. SHUT
176. 6:27UP,
177. 6:28>> "Black women disrespecting black man" is
178. 6:30the next line. Look, there's literally
179. 6:33thousands of videos about that on
180. 6:35YouTube. You're only asking me to do it
181. 6:37because people actually watch my videos.
182. 6:40Let's go back to "Women having modesty."
183. 6:42Again, you're making my point for me.
184. 6:45Have you ever in your life heard anyone
185. 6:47[snorts] tell a man to be more modest,
186. 6:50specifically in the way you're referring
187. 6:51to here? No, you haven't. Just a half a
188. 6:55second of introspection before y'all hit
189. 6:57the keyboard, bro, please. Next line.
190. 6:59"Black men get beat up and picked on by
191. 7:01everybody these days, including by black
192. 7:04men."
193. 7:05Is that what I was doing?
194. 7:07I presented my own problems with
195. 7:09misogyny as an effort to connect with
196. 7:11your dumb ass, and you twist that into
197. 7:13me bashing black men? Presenting
198. 7:15critique is not the same as picking on
199. 7:17someone. For a group of people claiming
200. 7:19to define masculinity by going your own
201. 7:22way and being immune to emotion, y'all
202. 7:26are really thin-skinned. Last line.
203. 7:28"Stop the pandering, bro. We all have
204. 7:30things to work on as people, but stop
205. 7:32signaling out only black men." Actually,
206. 7:34I was talking to all men. You made it
207. 7:36racial. Claiming I'm pandering is an
208. 7:38effort to discredit my analysis. If I'm
209. 7:41just making this video to appeal to
210. 7:42black women and only black women, then
211. 7:44it's easier for you to deal with the
212. 7:46uncomfortable truths I rolled out.
213. 7:48Things that appeal to black women can't
214. 7:50possibly be valid, right?
215. 7:52It's also easier to ignore the story I
216. 7:55shared about my own struggles with
217. 7:56misogyny in my recent relationships.
218. 7:59What part of that vulnerability serves
219. 8:01me?
220. 8:02I could have kept it to myself and acted
221. 8:04like I already got it figured out and
222. 8:06preached to y'all from a pedestal. That
223. 8:07was for your dumb ass. Moving on. A core
224. 8:10issue with the implication that
225. 8:12misandry, or the hatred of men, is as
226. 8:15significant of an issue as misogyny, is
227. 8:18your ignorance of the power imbalance.
228. 8:20I've already covered this with the
229. 8:22Supreme Court example earlier, but the
230. 8:24best way I can put this metaphorically
231. 8:26is to compare it to the black-white
232. 8:28racial discrimination gap. Claiming
233. 8:31those are the same in both directions is
234. 8:34a wild take that would make sense if you
235. 8:36knew absolutely jack about history
236. 8:38or society at large. Black people could
237. 8:41not make a Jim Crow happen if we wanted
238. 8:43to. We don't have the numbers or the
239. 8:45institutional power to pull that off.
240. 8:48White people are actively trying to take
241. 8:50us back to Jim Crow right now, as I
242. 8:52broke down in my Project 2025 series. Do
243. 8:55you see what I mean? Y'all just don't
244. 8:57like being the problematic side of the
245. 8:59equation.
246. 9:00I didn't like it, either, and I made
247. 9:02that video to be honest about my
248. 9:03journey, not to pander. It's crazy how
249. 9:06every time a man deconstructs negative
250. 9:09aspects of masculinity, or the way
251. 9:11masculinity is shaped in this society,
252. 9:13we're accused of trying to appeal to
253. 9:15women. It's particularly ironic because
254. 9:17everything y'all lames do is about
255. 9:19attracting women, despite your internal
256. 9:21hatred of everything they represent. But
257. 9:23back to that prior comment, some black
258. 9:25women call us the white people of black
259. 9:27people. And comments like this make it
260. 9:30evident that they're right. This is some
261. 9:32Karen Why are African-Americans
262. 9:35still dying at the hands of law
263. 9:36enforcement in this country? And so are
264. 9:38white people. Did I just spend all this
265. 9:40time replying to comments? Yes. Did it
266. 9:43feel good to get that out? Yes, it did.
267. 9:46Every now and then I got to set the
268. 9:48record straight. Using your comments to
269. 9:50get precise about my arguments is an
270. 9:52excellent method in my eyes. This is a
271. 9:54lesson to people dropping on my
272. 9:56videos. You might get got. In
273. 9:58conclusion, let's talk about the myth of
274. 10:01misandry. It's the real issue bubbling
275. 10:03below the surface of a lot of these
276. 10:04criticisms, and it deserves its own
277. 10:07breakdown. I read articles on this and
278. 10:09did research into why it's a thing, why
279. 10:12the philosophy doesn't really stand up,
280. 10:14all that. I'm going to restrict that to
281. 10:16facts because y'all love to parrot
282. 10:18sayings like facts over feelings and
283. 10:21facts don't care about your feelings.
284. 10:23This is an academic study, not an blog.
285. 10:26I got it linked in the description, so
286. 10:28you can see it for yourselves. It's
287. 10:30pretty compelling. In six studies, they
288. 10:32quote examine the accuracy and
289. 10:34underpinnings of the damaging stereotype
290. 10:36that feminists harbor negative attitudes
291. 10:39towards men. In study one with 1664
292. 10:42people, feminist and non-feminist women
293. 10:45displayed similarly positive attitudes
294. 10:47towards men. Study two replicated those
295. 10:50results among almost 3900 male
296. 10:53participants.
297. 10:54The only study here that comes close to
298. 10:57anything near what all these commenters
299. 10:58were implying is the conclusion they
300. 11:01drew from studies four and five, where
301. 11:03feminists were shown to see men as more
302. 11:05threatening,
303. 11:06but also more similar to women.
304. 11:09I don't know if it's news to y'all, but
305. 11:11men are more threatening. We've been
306. 11:13collectively murdering men and women on
307. 11:16a daily basis for centuries now.
308. 11:18This article from the women's aid
309. 11:20organization, again, rigorously sourced,
310. 11:23says, quote, "Whilst both men and women
311. 11:26may experience incidents of
312. 11:28interpersonal violence and abuse, there
313. 11:30are important differences between male
314. 11:32violence against women and female
315. 11:34violence against men, namely the amount,
316. 11:37severity, and impact."
317. 11:40I'm sure even some of the men who
318. 11:42commented on that last video would agree
319. 11:43with that. But here's the really crucial
320. 11:46part.
321. 11:47Quote, "Women are more likely to
322. 11:49experience higher levels of fear and are
323. 11:51more likely to be subjected to coercive
324. 11:54and controlling behaviors. Men do not
325. 11:56experience domestic abuse as part of
326. 11:58embedded structural inequalities against
327. 12:01their sex. For women, however, domestic
328. 12:04abuse is deeply rooted in inequalities
329. 12:06between women and men." End quote.
330. 12:08That's the whole point I've been
331. 12:09stressing.
332. 12:11Not only are we more violent and more
333. 12:13deadly,
334. 12:14we aren't dealing with a system designed
335. 12:16to suppress our rights or the level of
336. 12:18coercion we exert on women.
337. 12:21That's the whole thing. That's what you
338. 12:22need to take away from this video. I can
339. 12:24guarantee that some of y'all wouldn't
340. 12:26even have left a comment if it wasn't a
341. 12:28man talking to you in the first place.
342. 12:30You don't even respect women enough to
343. 12:32listen to their complaints and leave
344. 12:34hate on their videos in the first place.
345. 12:36So, you came to me instead. You know
346. 12:38why, right? You think I'm cool.
347. 12:40And people listen to me. Therefore, I
348. 12:42struck a nerve. Calling me gay has
349. 12:44happened before, and I've noticed a
350. 12:46pattern. It happens every time I
351. 12:48challenge something black men believe or
352. 12:50something they enjoy.
353. 12:52They see homosexuality as the worst
354. 12:54possible thing someone can be.
355. 12:56And calling me that when you know it
356. 12:58isn't true says so much more about you
357. 13:01than it could ever say about me. My skin
358. 13:03isn't clear enough to be a gay man.
359. 13:05Don't insult them like that. I got a new
360. 13:06skin routine recently. I'm trying to get
361. 13:08on their level one day. I'm going to
362. 13:10close this out by recommending some
363. 13:12black feminist authors and activists you
364. 13:14should read or listen to.
365. 13:16I'll give you specific titles, but just
366. 13:18start by Googling them and go from
367. 13:20there. It's an amazing rabbit hole that
368. 13:22will absolutely wake your ass up. We Are
369. 13:25the Ones We've Been Waiting For by Alice
370. 13:27Walker. Women, Race, and Class and
371. 13:29Women, Culture, and Politics, two
372. 13:31separate books by Angela Davis. Need: A
373. 13:33Choral for Black Women's Voices by Audre
374. 13:35Lorde. Anything Toni Morrison has ever
375. 13:38written. Anything by bell hooks, but
376. 13:40especially Ain't I a Woman? Beverly
377. 13:42Guy-Sheftall, who founded the Spelman
378. 13:44College Women's Research and Resource
379. 13:46Center, edits the SAGE academic journal
380. 13:48and led the criticism of Nelly's Tip
381. 13:51Drill video. That's probably the only
382. 13:52one that caught y'all's attention.
383. 13:54>> [music]
384. 13:54>> The Generates. That's enough for the
385. 13:56next year of your life, honestly, but
386. 13:57there's so many more. Here's a starter
387. 13:59article that lists the ones I just
388. 14:02named.
389. 14:02>> [music]
390. 14:03>> This goes beyond black women, of course,
391. 14:05but they're always going to be my
392. 14:06priority. I've been pretty open about
393. 14:08that. That's all I got until I revisit
394. 14:10the red pill next month.
395. 14:11We'll be talking about specific
396. 14:13manosphere creators, including women in
397. 14:15the manosphere, cuz it did not die.
398. 14:17Catch y'all in the next one. It's a huge
399. 14:19interview. Power to the people.