Choosing a Spiritual Practice- Day 12 - Thoughts — Transcript

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1. 0:00[Music]
2. 0:05hello and welcome to day 12 of lifebooks
3. 0:0830 day challenge it's great to have you
4. 0:10here with me today
5. 0:11i think it's going to be an amazing day
6. 0:12as we explore the category we started
7. 0:14yesterday
8. 0:15which is your spiritual life this is a
9. 0:17super deep
10. 0:18powerful category and today i think
11. 0:21we've got a moving exercise that's
12. 0:23really going to light you up as a human
13. 0:25being
14. 0:25and help you make some serious progress
15. 0:28in this category
16. 0:29i'd like to begin today's exploration by
17. 0:31sharing a really important life book
18. 0:33principle with you that we discovered
19. 0:35years ago
20. 0:36that's going to shed some light on this
21. 0:38personal development work that you've
22. 0:39been doing
23. 0:40and you'll continue to do over this
24. 0:4230-day challenge
25. 0:44we call it the principle of lifestyle
26. 0:47integration it's really interesting
27. 0:50the principle of lifestyle integration
28. 0:52says that personal development
29. 0:55principles
30. 0:56only work when you integrate them
31. 0:59and make them a part of your lifestyle
32. 1:02in other words
33. 1:03if the principles you're learning don't
34. 1:05change your behavior
35. 1:07they simply don't work most personal
36. 1:10development stuff
37. 1:11most seminars and books and programs
38. 1:14fail to produce permanent positive
39. 1:17results in people's lives
40. 1:18they don't stick the vast majority of
41. 1:21the time
42. 1:21for the vast majority of the people and
43. 1:23everybody knows that everyone inside and
44. 1:25outside the industry
45. 1:26simply knows that you you can understand
46. 1:29the concepts that you're learning
47. 1:30intellectually
48. 1:31when you go to the seminars and go to
49. 1:33the programs and read the books but
50. 1:34that's simply not
51. 1:36enough to get results in your life if
52. 1:38what you're learning doesn't
53. 1:40change something that you do daily it's
54. 1:43not going to show up in your life it's
55. 1:44simply not going to make any difference
56. 1:48look this is this is the deal in the
57. 1:5021st century
58. 1:51all the wisdom we need is out there
59. 1:53there is simply no
60. 1:54shortage of cutting-edge information
61. 1:56business strategies
62. 1:58life-changing advice out there right
63. 2:00everything we need to get in perfect
64. 2:02physical shape
65. 2:03to build a financial empire to become a
66. 2:06stellar human being
67. 2:07in just about any area of our lives it's
68. 2:10right
69. 2:10at our fingertips all we got to do is
70. 2:12get on the internet and access it
71. 2:15so the big question is why isn't
72. 2:17everybody
73. 2:18already living the life of their dreams
74. 2:22because as jacob sokol puts it
75. 2:24epiphanies
76. 2:25are thrilling but they're cheap they're
77. 2:28a dime a dozen
78. 2:30if you want one all you got to do is
79. 2:31type in the right keywords and you can
80. 2:33get one in about five minutes
81. 2:35yes those epiphanies are exciting you
82. 2:38know it's awesome when you have one of
83. 2:39those aha moments it always seems
84. 2:42life-altering at the time but if you
85. 2:44take a look at your life a week later
86. 2:46you take a look at your life a month
87. 2:48later did anything really happen
88. 2:51usually not because it's not about what
89. 2:54you learn
90. 2:55it's about what you do epiphanies
91. 2:58fade in order to leverage those
92. 3:01aha moments that you have when you're
93. 3:03doing this personal development work
94. 3:04you've got to make changes in your life
95. 3:07they're going to allow you to sustain
96. 3:09whatever insight you're getting if you
97. 3:12want to really change something about
98. 3:14your life
99. 3:14you've got to change your behavior or
100. 3:17that change
101. 3:18just won't last now this principle also
102. 3:22applies to the goals that you set
103. 3:24goal setting is only effective if your
104. 3:26goals
105. 3:27move you to do something different in
106. 3:30your life
107. 3:31all the aspirations you have are going
108. 3:34to stay exactly that
109. 3:35aspirations daydreams unless you change
110. 3:39your behavior
111. 3:40in a way that supports them every single
112. 3:42one of your goals
113. 3:44all the epiphanies that you have all the
114. 3:45paradigm shifts all those aha moments
115. 3:48they will produce positive change
116. 3:51precisely
117. 3:52to the extent that you change your daily
118. 3:55behavior
119. 3:56and integrate them into your lifestyle
120. 4:00and if life book is about anything it's
121. 4:02about
122. 4:03lifestyle integration that's our
123. 4:05singular mission that's where we put all
124. 4:07of our intention
125. 4:08our core purpose is to help you create a
126. 4:11life vision for yourself
127. 4:13clear compelling amazing life vision
128. 4:16and then integrate that life vision into
129. 4:19your everyday life
130. 4:20that's what all of our content is
131. 4:22designed to do all of our challenges
132. 4:24accountability all of our support all
133. 4:27the connection with the community
134. 4:29everything we do is designed to driving
135. 4:32you
136. 4:33to integrate the life vision that you
137. 4:36create
138. 4:37into your daily behavior because that's
139. 4:39what's going to produce results
140. 4:40that's what's going to lead you to the
141. 4:42extraordinary life
142. 4:44that you really want to be living and
143. 4:46today
144. 4:47we're going to explore applying the
145. 4:49principle of lifestyle integration into
146. 4:51your spiritual life
147. 4:52so you can start to understand exactly
148. 4:54how powerful this concept is
149. 4:56and we're going to do it with a simple
150. 4:58but powerful
151. 4:59spiritual exercise that's designed to
152. 5:03what to change your daily behavior
153. 5:06which is the whole focus of this 30-day
154. 5:08challenge better choices
155. 5:10higher quality behaviors so first
156. 5:14you'll define a specific spiritual goal
157. 5:17for the remainder of this 30-day
158. 5:18challenge
159. 5:19something that you feel would be really
160. 5:20valuable to you in this category and
161. 5:22move your life forward
162. 5:24and then once you've done that you're
163. 5:26going to choose a daily practice
164. 5:28to support that spiritual goal and then
165. 5:30you're going to practice it
166. 5:31every single day during the remainder of
167. 5:34this challenge
168. 5:35you're simply going to change one thing
169. 5:37that you do daily
170. 5:38and watch the results unfold in your
171. 5:41spiritual life
172. 5:42there's something interesting about this
173. 5:43category you know at the end of the day
174. 5:46most of us tend to elevate this category
175. 5:48in some way and think that it sort of
176. 5:50operates differently than the other
177. 5:52categories and in some respects it
178. 5:53really does
179. 5:54but in most respects it behaves just
180. 5:57like the other categories
181. 5:59it's all about cause and effect and the
182. 6:01truth of the matter is
183. 6:02if you want improvement in any area of
184. 6:04your life no matter what that area is
185. 6:06whether it's your health and fitness or
186. 6:08your love life or your financial life
187. 6:10you've got to do something that creates
188. 6:12that improvement
189. 6:13you've got to become the cause of the
190. 6:15effect that you want
191. 6:17and it's exactly the same with your
192. 6:19spiritual life you know you can
193. 6:20claim that you want to become a more
194. 6:23spiritual person
195. 6:24more enlightened more christ-like more
196. 6:27self-actualized
197. 6:29more peaceful or loving or giving
198. 6:30whatever it is that you you want to
199. 6:32achieve in your spiritual life
200. 6:34but the truth is if you're not willing
201. 6:36to change your behavior
202. 6:37it's really nothing but lip service
203. 6:39nothing's going to change nothing's
204. 6:40going to happen
205. 6:42so today what we want to do is we want
206. 6:43to invite you to experience the power
207. 6:46of the principle of lifestyle
208. 6:48integration and create some real results
209. 6:50in your spiritual life
210. 6:52so let's take a look at this spiritual
211. 6:53exercise now
212. 6:56step one define your spiritual goals
213. 7:00first question we want you to ask
214. 7:01yourself is what would be a great
215. 7:03goal for the remainder of this 30-day
216. 7:05challenge
217. 7:07so when you think about what your own
218. 7:09spirituality means to you
219. 7:11what could you aspire to that'll really
220. 7:14allow your spirituality to unfold over
221. 7:16the next few weeks
222. 7:18how can you recommit to your own
223. 7:20spiritual path
224. 7:22for example if my spirituality entails
225. 7:25the experience of inner peace
226. 7:27i could set a goal to just become more
227. 7:29peaceful over the remainder of this
228. 7:31challenge
229. 7:32a more content person over the next few
230. 7:34weeks
231. 7:35or a more grateful person who's more
232. 7:37appreciative for everything that i have
233. 7:38in my life
234. 7:39which would what it would lead me toward
235. 7:41more inner peace
236. 7:42if my view of spirituality entails a
237. 7:45focus on giving
238. 7:46on contributing to others and making the
239. 7:48world a better place
240. 7:49i could set a goal to give more in the
241. 7:51coming weeks to really
242. 7:53try to make a difference in people's
243. 7:54lives or to get involved in an
244. 7:57organization
245. 7:58that's doing something that i believe in
246. 8:00if my view of spirituality entails a
247. 8:03commitment to self-actualization
248. 8:05to becoming the best person i can
249. 8:06possibly be
250. 8:08i could set a personal development goal
251. 8:09for my spiritual life this actually
252. 8:11works great
253. 8:12i could identify some character traits
254. 8:14that i want to cultivate within myself
255. 8:16that would literally help me become a
256. 8:18better person
257. 8:19maybe i need more compassion in my life
258. 8:22maybe i need to forgive someone
259. 8:24and to heal a relationship or to forgive
260. 8:26myself
261. 8:28maybe i need to cultivate more
262. 8:29self-discipline as part of my spiritual
263. 8:31journey
264. 8:33so the question is what goal could i set
265. 8:36that would help me become a better more
266. 8:38self-actualized person
267. 8:40over the remainder of this challenge
268. 8:43try to identify your highest spiritual
269. 8:47leverage point here
270. 8:48what goal could you set that would just
271. 8:50really move your life
272. 8:51forward in this category so after you've
273. 8:54set your spiritual goal
274. 8:56the next thing that we want you to do is
275. 8:57we want you to choose a daily practice
276. 9:00that will support that goal and then
277. 9:02practice it every single day
278. 9:04during the remainder of this challenge
279. 9:06and that's where the power of this
280. 9:07exercise
281. 9:08really kicks in ask yourself what
282. 9:11behavior could i integrate into my life
283. 9:13to ensure that my spiritual aspiration
284. 9:16that i've identified
285. 9:17becomes a reality because if you want to
286. 9:20create changes that stick in the
287. 9:21spiritual category or any other category
288. 9:23for that matter
289. 9:24this is the way to do it you've got to
290. 9:27change something that you do
291. 9:29daily so what i'm going to do here is
292. 9:32i'm going to share a
293. 9:33powerful list of spiritual disciplines
294. 9:35and practices from the lifebook
295. 9:37community that we've collected over the
296. 9:38years
297. 9:39that are going to support just about any
298. 9:40goal that you could set in this category
299. 9:43and i'd like you to either choose a
300. 9:45practice from this list
301. 9:46or of course you can feel free to come
302. 9:49up with your own practice
303. 9:50so here are some great spiritual
304. 9:52practices submitted to us by life book
305. 9:54members over the years
306. 9:56you could choose the spiritual practice
307. 9:59of forgiveness
308. 10:00gandhi had a great quote about
309. 10:02forgiveness he said
310. 10:04the weak can never forgive forgiveness
311. 10:07is the attribute of the strong isn't
312. 10:10that the truth
313. 10:11it takes strength to let go
314. 10:14of the baggage that you've been carrying
315. 10:16around and truly forgive someone
316. 10:19and forgiveness is one of the most
317. 10:20powerful spiritual practices
318. 10:22of all of them whatever it is that we're
319. 10:24feeling you know whether it's
320. 10:26anger or resentment or hurt forgiveness
321. 10:29is the path
322. 10:30to a lighter heart it's the path to
323. 10:33increased happiness
324. 10:34and a greater sense of inner peace so
325. 10:37for the remainder of this challenge
326. 10:39you could commit to practicing
327. 10:40forgiveness every single day
328. 10:42just spend a small amount of time
329. 10:44quality time with yourself every morning
330. 10:47just a minute or two quiet your mind
331. 10:50scan your emotional state for pockets of
332. 10:53negativity
333. 10:55and when you find one of those pockets
334. 10:56just take a moment
335. 10:58and try to identify the root source of
336. 11:00that pain
337. 11:01are you feeling angry at someone are you
338. 11:04feeling
339. 11:04resentful at somebody else or maybe are
340. 11:07you feeling angry toward yourself or
341. 11:09something
342. 11:10and then once you've identified that
343. 11:12just take a moment and radiate
344. 11:14total forgiveness on the problem and
345. 11:17odds are
346. 11:18it's going to completely melt away or at
347. 11:21least start to melt away
348. 11:23the spiritual practice of forgiveness is
349. 11:25amazingly powerful it can totally change
350. 11:27your life
351. 11:29you could choose the spiritual practice
352. 11:31of meditation for the remainder of this
353. 11:3330-day challenge
354. 11:35the great poet rumi said the quieter you
355. 11:38become
356. 11:39the more you're able to hear see
357. 11:42our minds which are our primary tools of
358. 11:45survival
359. 11:46they're programmed to constantly be
360. 11:48active they're they're always looking
361. 11:50forward they're always questioning
362. 11:52always sort of
363. 11:53planning the next step or anticipating
364. 11:56this or that this is how we stay alive
365. 11:58very very valuable
366. 12:00but often times as buddha put it our
367. 12:03minds can be like
368. 12:04drunken monkeys jumping from tree to
369. 12:06tree
370. 12:07chattering incessantly and redundantly
371. 12:10and so that's why so many great
372. 12:13spiritual disciplines teach that there's
373. 12:14got to be a balance between
374. 12:16thinking and just quieting your mind of
375. 12:19silence
376. 12:20if you want to experience inner peace
377. 12:22harmony self-mastery or any of that
378. 12:25stuff
379. 12:26meditation is a great tool to use to
380. 12:29create that balance as deepak chopra
381. 12:32said
382. 12:33meditation is a way of entering into the
383. 12:35quiet that's already there
384. 12:37buried under the 50 000 thoughts that an
385. 12:41average person thinks
386. 12:42every day so during the remainder of
387. 12:44this challenge
388. 12:45you could commit to practicing
389. 12:47meditation every single day
390. 12:50you could choose the spiritual practice
391. 12:52of spending time in nature
392. 12:54now this is a little bit unexpected but
393. 12:56the fact of the matter is
394. 12:57americans spend 90 percent of their time
395. 13:00indoors
396. 13:0090 we spend so much time
397. 13:04confined in buildings of steel and
398. 13:06concrete and brick
399. 13:07that we forget where we came from we
400. 13:10belong in nature
401. 13:11our souls need to be outdoors and
402. 13:14breathe fresh air
403. 13:15listen to the beautiful sound of nature
404. 13:17be around trees
405. 13:19feel the warm sun on our skin feel the
406. 13:21grass underneath our feet
407. 13:23it feels so good to the entire human
408. 13:25organism to be outside
409. 13:27so over the next couple weeks you could
410. 13:29commit to spending time in nature
411. 13:31every single day and this is an amazing
412. 13:33thing to do i've done it
413. 13:35you know and you not only want to get
414. 13:36outside you want to make it a conscious
415. 13:38experience
416. 13:39you want to breathe the fresh air and
417. 13:41feel the sun on your skin
418. 13:43feel the earth under your feet listen to
419. 13:46the birds
420. 13:47maybe bring some of your activities
421. 13:49outside
422. 13:50instead of exercising at the gym maybe
423. 13:52go for a long run or for a bike ride
424. 13:54do your reading outside do you know your
425. 13:57work outside if you can
426. 13:59or plan a garden whatever it takes
427. 14:02get a dialogue going between yourself
428. 14:05and this beautiful world that we live in
429. 14:08it's a fantastic way
430. 14:09to connect with your spirituality to
431. 14:12connect with nature
432. 14:13another spiritual practice you could
433. 14:15choose for the remainder of this
434. 14:16challenge
435. 14:17is the practice of giving the practice
436. 14:19of contribution
437. 14:21giving of yourself to others it's it's
438. 14:23one of the fundamental
439. 14:24pillars of spirituality every great
440. 14:27religion teaches it
441. 14:29and it's every bit as beneficial to you
442. 14:31as the giver
443. 14:32as it is to the receiver there's just a
444. 14:35huge
445. 14:36payoff for caring about and forgiving to
446. 14:39others and we can often be a little bit
447. 14:42blind to that payoff if we're totally
448. 14:44consumed with ourselves
449. 14:46and our own lives giving to others
450. 14:48creates an internal sense of
451. 14:50goodness it creates an internal sense of
452. 14:53significance
453. 14:54and value which are foundational
454. 14:56qualities for self-esteem and for inner
455. 14:58peace
456. 14:59which is why it just ties back into
457. 15:00spirituality so well
458. 15:03every time you interact with someone you
459. 15:05have the opportunity to
460. 15:06give some kind of value to that person
461. 15:09whether it's
462. 15:10you're giving a thing you know money
463. 15:13a gesture a kind word you can give
464. 15:16generously and directly from your heart
465. 15:20and you can share a part of yourself
466. 15:21with someone else
467. 15:23and as the joy of giving flows out of
468. 15:25you new riches always flow in
469. 15:27new riches always fill your life saint
470. 15:31anthony said
471. 15:32the more you give the more you have the
472. 15:34more water you draw
473. 15:36the more abundant is its flow
474. 15:39so you can commit to giving to others
475. 15:41every single day
476. 15:43through the end of this challenge just
477. 15:44think about what that would do
478. 15:46for your life it would be amazing
479. 15:48another spiritual practice you could
480. 15:50choose for the remainder of this
481. 15:51challenge
482. 15:52is the practice of self-acceptance
483. 15:55one of the most powerful practices of
484. 15:58any kind
485. 15:59the single most important relationship
486. 16:02in your entire life
487. 16:03bar none is the relationship you have
488. 16:06with yourself
489. 16:07it's the core of your entire life
490. 16:08experience a place from which all other
491. 16:11relationships start
492. 16:13simply put in order to accept and love
493. 16:16others
494. 16:17we've first got to learn how to accept
495. 16:20and love ourselves
496. 16:22as ayn rand said to say i love you
497. 16:25one must first know how to say the i
498. 16:30we can learn to treat ourselves with the
499. 16:31same kind of love and respect that we
500. 16:33give to others which is very very hard
501. 16:35for some people has been hard for me in
502. 16:37my life
503. 16:38if we can learn how to judge ourselves
504. 16:40less harshly
505. 16:41and how to welcome our emotions more
506. 16:43freely into our lives
507. 16:45to find inner joy in being exactly who
508. 16:47we are even with all of our
509. 16:49imperfections
510. 16:50then and only then can we experience
511. 16:54true happiness and true spiritual
512. 16:57harmony
513. 16:59so you may just set a goal for this
514. 17:02month to just be kinder to yourself
515. 17:04just release a little bit of self-doubt
516. 17:06and self-criticism
517. 17:08every day be willing to embrace your own
518. 17:11faults instead of
519. 17:12pushing them down so you can learn from
520. 17:14them and so that you can grow past them
521. 17:16marcus aurelius said something
522. 17:18incredibly wise about this subject he
523. 17:20said
524. 17:21he who lives in harmony with himself
525. 17:23lives in harmony
526. 17:24with the whole universe so over the next
527. 17:27couple weeks
528. 17:28during the the course of this challenge
529. 17:30you could commit
530. 17:31to self-acceptance every single day
531. 17:35and that would be a game changer
532. 17:38so those are just a few of the spiritual
533. 17:40practices that you could choose from for
534. 17:41this challenge
535. 17:42or again feel free to pick your own like
536. 17:45committing to your morning affirmation
537. 17:47every morning which is one of my
538. 17:48favorites
539. 17:49or spending some time reading the bible
540. 17:51or practicing
541. 17:52gratitude or writing in your gratitude
542. 17:55journal or
543. 17:56simply focus on being happy every single
544. 17:58day consciously
545. 17:59as a discipline whatever you choose the
546. 18:02key
547. 18:03is do it take action
548. 18:06make a 100 commitment to practicing the
549. 18:09spiritual discipline that you've chosen
550. 18:10every single day
551. 18:12it's as simple as that that's how to get
552. 18:14this stuff to work
553. 18:16and you should expect change real
554. 18:19change to happen in your life your life
555. 18:21has to change
556. 18:22if you do something different that's the
557. 18:24way that it works in any category
558. 18:26when you change your daily behavior you
559. 18:28are going to be changing your life
560. 18:31so have fun with this exercise i think
561. 18:33it's going to be really really profound
562. 18:35for you
563. 18:35okay now before i leave you today i just
564. 18:38really want to congratulate you
565. 18:39because today's program wraps up your
566. 18:42first
567. 18:43five categories your personal life where
568. 18:46we
569. 18:46deeply explored you separate from the
570. 18:50rest of the world
571. 18:51and tomorrow we're going to be switching
572. 18:52gears we're going to be exploring the
573. 18:54relationship categories for the next few
574. 18:56days
575. 18:57and we're going to start by looking at
576. 18:58your love relationship
577. 19:00now it doesn't matter where you are in
578. 19:02this category of your life right now
579. 19:04whether you're in a great relationship
580. 19:05or a difficult relationship
581. 19:07or none at all the fact is you have the
582. 19:10potential
583. 19:11to have more in this category than
584. 19:13you've ever dreamed possible
585. 19:15and here's why because your personal
586. 19:18life
587. 19:19is the foundation of a great
588. 19:21relationship
589. 19:22it's literally half the game and that's
590. 19:25a game that you're already winning
591. 19:26you obviously have the courage to look
592. 19:28deeply at yourself
593. 19:30and your personal life and to work on
594. 19:31yourself or you wouldn't even be here
595. 19:33you've taken the initiative to improve
596. 19:35yourself and that means that you have
597. 19:38the potential for
598. 19:38great things in the next category
599. 19:40because any great relationship
600. 19:42including your love relationship starts
601. 19:45with
602. 19:45a great you so tomorrow's going to be
603. 19:49a fascinating exploration it's going to
604. 19:51be a totally exciting experience
605. 19:53until then keep up the good work do your
606. 19:56spiritual exercise
607. 19:58make that commitment to your spiritual
608. 20:00practice and i'll see you tomorrow
609. 20:02where we're going to explore the love
610. 20:04relationship category together
611. 20:06[Music]
612. 20:20you