chad counseling Ally — Transcript

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1. 0:00right now.
2. 0:05>> Hey Ally, how are you doing today?
3. 0:08>> I'm doing good. How are you?
4. 0:10>> Good, good. It's good to see you again.
5. 0:13How have things been going since our
6. 0:15last check-in?
7. 0:17>> Things have been going pretty well. I
8. 0:20did um drag one of my friends out to an
9. 0:25empty parking lot. She picked me up and
10. 0:27we went over there and just did like I
11. 0:30think it was like 20 maybe 30 minutes of
12. 0:32driving
13. 0:34>> and it went pretty well. It was a little
14. 0:36nerve-wracking like a little bit but I
15. 0:40think like it was a good step.
16. 0:43>> Yeah, that's good to hear. Um tell me a
17. 0:47bit about how you felt during that um
18. 0:49time when you were you were taking those
19. 0:52um new steps forward.
20. 0:55Um, it felt
21. 0:58it felt scary. Like I said, in the first
22. 1:01little bit, I was kind of like thinking,
23. 1:05should I even be doing this? Like kind
24. 1:08of those thoughts were definitely going
25. 1:10through my head. But I think having my
26. 1:12friend with me, she was like, you know,
27. 1:14we can just stop whenever if I want to
28. 1:17and even if we just did 5 minutes, then
29. 1:19at least I can say that I tried. So that
30. 1:22was like really helpful to hear. Um
31. 1:27and and I felt very accomplished after
32. 1:29doing it.
33. 1:30>> Nice. That's excellent.
34. 1:34And how about um your um other
35. 1:39responsibilities that you are concerned
36. 1:42a little bit about by going back to
37. 1:44work? Is everything else looking to be
38. 1:48getting more um put together and ready
39. 1:51for this uh transition of the return to
40. 1:55work?
41. 1:56>> Um I think in terms of going back to
42. 2:00work, I got some good news actually. One
43. 2:03of my friends is also going to be coming
44. 2:05back to work. I thought she was going to
45. 2:06leave, so that was kind of like a a good
46. 2:09thing to hear. So, I'm I'm excited to
47. 2:12like get back in and talk to people. Um,
48. 2:16the whole driving situation is kind of
49. 2:18still the same. I mean, I've made some
50. 2:21progress, but if you were to tell me
51. 2:23like tomorrow I need to go drive myself
52. 2:26to work, I don't think I'd be ready to
53. 2:28do it. So, but I feel like I could like
54. 2:32I feel like there's a light at the end
55. 2:33of the tunnel. Like, I feel like I can
56. 2:34kind of get there. Um,
57. 2:39I think that my slow track has been
58. 2:42good, but I think with my husband, he
59. 2:45still is kind of like
60. 2:48like just kind of pushing me a little
61. 2:51bit and he's kind of just like, "Okay,
62. 2:53you did it once now. Just go do it."
63. 2:57>> That's not That's not great, but at
64. 3:01least you still have your friend. Um, is
65. 3:04is this uh going to be a routine thing
66. 3:06you and your friend do um to to help um
67. 3:12continue to to practice and get ready
68. 3:14for this?
69. 3:15>> Um, we did schedule another time to go
70. 3:18out um later this week. So, I don't know
71. 3:22if it's like a scheduled thing like
72. 3:24weekly or anything, but I know we
73. 3:26definitely have another day. I'm trying
74. 3:28to get my husband to go with me. Mhm.
75. 3:31>> So, we're still working on that.
76. 3:34>> Yeah, I'm hearing that that is a little
77. 3:36bit um still bothering that that he's
78. 3:38not being supportive.
79. 3:40>> Yeah, he just he just doesn't understand
80. 3:43it.
81. 3:45>> Um
82. 3:48I feel you and hear you with that.
83. 3:52maybe with um your continued
84. 3:56progressive um you know steps towards
85. 3:59kind of handling this on your own.
86. 4:02He'll, you know, turn a new leaf or or
87. 4:06even kind of,
88. 4:08you know, his frustration might turn
89. 4:11into um excitement with you or um praise
90. 4:15to you or, you know, join you in the in
91. 4:18the achievement that you're making, you
92. 4:21know, since it seems like he minimized
93. 4:24your feelings a bit and and was a little
94. 4:26too pushy.
95. 4:28Wonder I wonder what you think about how
96. 4:30he might feel with you feeling good
97. 4:33about this and those things as you
98. 4:35continue.
99. 4:37Um,
100. 4:40I think he will be like happy for me
101. 4:43once I start being able to drive, but I
102. 4:46think it will be more like happy that he
103. 4:50like finally doesn't have to hear about
104. 4:51it anymore and drive me places more
105. 4:54instead of like being happy that I've
106. 4:57overcome something and I'm more
107. 4:59comfortable. I think he just like that
108. 5:01lack of understanding is like and then
109. 5:04that's why too I want to be able to
110. 5:06drive because I don't want to feel like
111. 5:07a burden.
112. 5:12>> Yeah.
113. 5:13Well, I I hear [clears throat] you
114. 5:15there. I think um I guess we'll just
115. 5:19have to wait and see a little bit how
116. 5:20there's doesn't seem like there's a way
117. 5:23to predict how he'll react as you
118. 5:26progress. But it is good that you're
119. 5:29taking your own feelings and and you're
120. 5:32talking about them in session and you're
121. 5:33also acting upon them um now which is a
122. 5:37huge step in um [clears throat]
123. 5:40in um this whole process of of you know
124. 5:44that that you seem to be on here is um
125. 5:46you know taking the action and and
126. 5:47[clears throat] that's great super great
127. 5:49to hear. So so so happy for you that
128. 5:52that you're here happy yourself.
129. 5:54>> Yeah. Thanks. I appreciate it. It's
130. 5:57taken me a It's taken me a second, but I
131. 5:59think I'm getting there.
132. 6:01>> Yeah.
133. 6:04So,
134. 6:06how else has your week been going?
135. 6:10Um, my week's been going pretty good. My
136. 6:13kids are back to school,
137. 6:16so um that's been nice. I've one of my
138. 6:20friends is just down a couple houses
139. 6:23down, so she's been able to carpool with
140. 6:24them. um we'll take them. So, that's
141. 6:28been nice. I can kind of like relax at
142. 6:31home for a while.
143. 6:34>> Are there any um [clears throat]
144. 6:36exciting parts about returning to work?
145. 6:39Do you have any close friends there that
146. 6:41you miss um from back when you used to
147. 6:43work there? Um anything look you're
148. 6:46looking forward to about that other than
149. 6:48the the drive not being something you
150. 6:51look forward to?
151. 6:52Yeah, I I'm really excited to kind of
152. 6:56get dressed up again, like, you know,
153. 6:59have to put real clothes on and get out
154. 7:01of the house and get into a new
155. 7:03environment and be able to kind of
156. 7:05chitchat with people. Um, even if it's
157. 7:08people I don't know very well, if it's
158. 7:10just like kind of like those bland
159. 7:13conversations. I feel like I haven't had
160. 7:14any of those in a while. So, I'm excited
161. 7:16to just kind of have a bit of a change
162. 7:19of environment, even though that the
163. 7:22getting to the environment scares me a
164. 7:24lot. Um, it's it's still something I'm
165. 7:27kind of excited to do.
166. 7:29>> Mhm. That's good. I'm glad to hear
167. 7:33everything's [clears throat] working out
168. 7:34and you you're making those changes and
169. 7:37you're going to continue this and um and
170. 7:39there's also some other things for you
171. 7:41to look forward to at work. Uh overall
172. 7:44great news and um yeah I think um
173. 7:49I think we're almost about to wrap up on
174. 7:52time. Um did you have a particular time
175. 7:55that you wanted to schedule for the next
176. 7:58one or does this time work good for you?
177. 8:01>> I think this time and day next week
178. 8:03works good for me if it's good with you.
179. 8:06Okay, I will jot that down and um
180. 8:10look forward to our next session.
181. 8:12>> Awesome. Thank you so much. You too.
182. 8:15>> Bye.