bogdana 15 mins 2 — Transcript

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1. 0:01Real life is different.
2. 0:04Real life is messy. You try, you learn,
3. 0:09you change something. You discover what
4. 0:12your first idea wasn't quite right. You
5. 0:17grow.
6. 0:19And for many people, the familiar life
7. 0:22feels safer than the unknowing one. Even
8. 0:26then the familiar life doesn't make them
9. 0:29happy anymore.
10. 0:32This is why I don't always agree when
11. 0:35people say you just need more
12. 0:37motivation.
13. 0:39No,
14. 0:41you can watch 20 motivations video say
15. 0:4650 quotes
16. 0:48writing
17. 0:50this is my year in very beautiful
18. 0:54capture letters.
19. 0:56and still
20. 0:58do nothing on next Monday
21. 1:03because information isn't always the
22. 1:07missing piece. Sometimes you need
23. 1:10understand that is holding your foot on
24. 1:14the brake where another part of you
25. 1:17still trying to move forward. That's the
26. 1:20work I found fascinating as a coach. Not
27. 1:25telling a woman come on try harder but
28. 1:30helping her see ah
29. 1:33that is what I'm doing.
30. 1:37This is why I keep stopping my here.
31. 1:42This is the decisions I will been
32. 1:44avoiding.
33. 1:46And when you can see the pattern you
34. 1:50have something to work with.
35. 1:53So let me make this
36. 1:57practical.
37. 1:58You already choose one things you will
38. 2:01been postponing. Remember my previous
39. 2:03question. Now I want you to ask yourself
40. 2:07three questions. You know in each time I
41. 2:11like you keep something for yourself
42. 2:14after you listen it.
43. 2:18Just relax, open your mind and answer
44. 2:22honestly to these questions. Why does
45. 2:25this
46. 2:27matter to me? These things what you
47. 2:30postponded, why is matter to me?
48. 2:34Not to Instagram,
49. 2:36not to your mother, not because somebody
50. 2:39told you successful woman should do
51. 2:42that. Why does it matter to you?
52. 2:51And second question,
53. 2:54what I'm really waiting for?
54. 2:58What is actually stopping you to do it
55. 3:00right now? But specific
56. 3:04time, permission,
57. 3:06certainly support, confidence, a perfect
58. 3:09moment.
59. 3:12And the third question is
60. 3:17what is one decision I can make about
61. 3:20this? Now
62. 3:24notice that I said decision not how I
63. 3:28completely changed my life before
64. 3:30dinner.
65. 3:33A decision.
66. 3:36You could find the course information.
67. 3:39You can book the appointment,
68. 3:42write the first page, ask one question,
69. 3:46have the conversation,
70. 3:48open the document you will been
71. 3:49avoiding.
72. 3:51Put one hour into your calendar. Tell
73. 3:55someone this is matter to me.
74. 4:00Small does not meanless.
75. 4:04A small decision can change your
76. 4:07directions and directions actions that
77. 4:10matters.
78. 4:12One of the most interesting things I
79. 4:14will notice in through my coaching is
80. 4:17that women often don't need more to give
81. 4:20them a dream. They already have
82. 4:24thoughts, ideas, abilities, things they
83. 4:28they are wanted to explore
84. 4:32sometimes for years. The problem is that
85. 4:35all of these gets mixed together with
86. 4:39responsibilities, other people needs,
87. 4:42tiredness, and constant interruptions.
88. 4:47Everything ends up in one big mental
89. 4:51drawer.
90. 4:53And when we start working together, we
91. 4:56open this drawer. Not literally. I don't
92. 4:59come to your house and organize your
93. 5:02furniture.
94. 5:03We look at that is actually happened.
95. 5:07What matters now?
96. 5:10What is taking your energy?
97. 5:13Where do you keep stopping? What are you
98. 5:16trying to solve all in once?
99. 5:20And very often woman starts seeing
100. 5:24possibility she couldn't see before. Not
101. 5:28because I magically create a new life
102. 5:30for her. Because clarity change what you
103. 5:35notice.
104. 5:36This is why I say clarity create calm.
105. 5:42When you can see your next step, you
106. 5:46don't need to fight this the whole
107. 5:49future today.
108. 5:51And this is also why one should
109. 5:53conversation can sometimes open
110. 5:57something.
111. 5:59But lasting change needs a way to
112. 6:02continue, a structure, a practice,
113. 6:06support. Someone who noticing then you
114. 6:09quietly return to the same old pattern
115. 6:13and says, "Wait,
116. 6:15we have been there before. What are you
117. 6:18choosing this time?"
118. 6:21And that is a very different
119. 6:23relationship from someone simply
120. 6:26motivate you.
121. 6:30Sometimes people only change when life
122. 6:33forces them. Relationship ends, health
123. 6:37change, a job disappears, the children
124. 6:40leaves the home sometimes happens and
125. 6:44suddenly we have to ask who I am now.
126. 6:50But I don't believe you need to wait for
127. 6:56your life to break
128. 7:00before you allowed to look at it. You
129. 7:04don't need a dramatic story. You don't
130. 7:08need to reach completely exhausting.
131. 7:11You don't need to prove that things are
132. 7:14bad enough.
133. 7:17You are allowed to notice
134. 7:21this part of my life doesn't fit me
135. 7:25anymore.
136. 7:29You know like your favorite shoes or
137. 7:32outfits sometimes they just don't fit
138. 7:35anymore.
139. 7:37you know to allow yourself to say I want
140. 7:40to grow or even I don't know exactly
141. 7:45what I want but I want to find out
142. 7:50that's enough to begin a conversation.
143. 7:56So before we finish today I want to
144. 7:59return to word later.
145. 8:03What have you been sending there to
146. 8:06later? Your health, your ideas, your
147. 8:10voice, your confidence, your next
148. 8:12chapter. And how long has it been
149. 8:15waiting? I'm not asking you to change
150. 8:18your whole life. Today I'm asking you to
151. 8:21notice
152. 8:23because sometimes the first change is
153. 8:26not an actions. It's the moment you stop
154. 8:30automatically saying later
155. 8:34and start asking why why not now.
156. 8:41Not everything, not all in once, just
157. 8:44the next honest decision.
158. 8:49And if today's episode made you recon
159. 8:53recognize your own later, you can send
160. 8:56me just one word later a t e r to my
161. 9:02b.dana
162. 9:04coach Facebook or on Instagram.
163. 9:07He don't need to explain it your whole
164. 9:09life in the message. You don't need to
165. 9:11write me an easier
166. 9:15just word later.
167. 9:19allowed yourself to start conversation
168. 9:22and I will know exactly which episode
169. 9:26you listen to right
170. 9:31and like always I want to highlight in
171. 9:34some of the local events
172. 9:38which popping up in our hawk bay
173. 9:41because it's also opportunity to
174. 9:43reconnect
175. 9:45and think and found
176. 9:50Saturday 1st of August from 10:00 a.m.
177. 9:53to 2 will be hasting stone and
178. 9:56collective fairs.
179. 9:58It's 12 for school actually support but
180. 10:02radio hook babe just bring it your toys
181. 10:05when it's probably collected in your
182. 10:07shelves for a long long time and give it
183. 10:09to the chance to have a second life to
184. 10:12people who actually you know be happy to
185. 10:16have it. You can bring any your
186. 10:17collections uh but don't forget to
187. 10:21contact it uh in advance to have your
188. 10:24own table for that or just come and have
189. 10:26a look. Maybe you can find this missing
190. 10:28part of your collections 1st of August
191. 10:3310:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. at the Warford
192. 10:36school. Uh you can found it this on the
193. 10:39Facebook Hastings Toy Stories and
194. 10:41collective fair
195. 10:45other event it's uh happens every
196. 10:49Tuesday start of the month
197. 10:53in the gallery. Meet me at the gallery
198. 10:57guiding talk if you have a time from
199. 11:001:30 to 2:15.
200. 11:03Welcome to the
201. 11:06library Hastings Art Gallery. It's near
202. 11:09the Hastings Library and just talk about
203. 11:13new gallery composition relaxing and
204. 11:17have a session with it. I think it's
205. 11:18quite interesting you know if you like
206. 11:21art and what the people driving to, you
207. 11:24know, share this expressions.
208. 11:26I say it every Tuesday. Uh next one it
209. 11:29will be I think uh 4 of August 1:30 to
210. 11:34215.
211. 11:37And uh one of the last interesting
212. 11:40things I want to talk about the social
213. 11:44detectives
214. 11:46society. Sorry for my accent. Yes, it's
215. 11:49a actually detective story. If you like,
216. 11:52you know, pretend you're a detective and
217. 11:55try to found it, you can do this in the
218. 11:58real life. And a social detective
219. 12:01society with the geeks uh guild
220. 12:05um guild, sorry. Uh it will be on
221. 12:09Wednesday, 5th of August from 3:30 to
222. 12:145:20 in the Hasting District Libraries.
223. 12:17If you want to know more just popping up
224. 12:19on hasting test libraries or maybe you
225. 12:22can just go into the um geeks guild.nz
226. 12:29and Z and uh have a look more
227. 12:31information how to uh you know sign it
228. 12:35to that it's age from 13 to 18 limited
229. 12:39spaces please registrate
230. 12:43and um
231. 12:46yeah it's lot of lot of different uh
232. 12:49events is popping up and festivals of
233. 12:55Latina music uh but time is almost And
234. 12:59and I want to leave it with something to
235. 13:04remember.
236. 13:05You listen radio hogs band. This is a
237. 13:08growing together on the air. My name is
238. 13:11Bogdana.
239. 13:13Remember your responsibilities are part
240. 13:17of your life. The people you love are
241. 13:21part of your life. Your work, your
242. 13:23family, your communities, they are
243. 13:26matters. But you
244. 13:29are part of your life too. Don't leave
245. 13:33that part waiting forever.
246. 13:37>> I will speak with you next time.
247. 13:41>> See you.
248. 13:45>> Do it alone. You don't have