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0:00Hello to my good friends! I hope you
0:01are all doing well. Welcome back to
0:03another important video. The topic of
0:08this video is boundaries; why can't I
0:09stick to them even though I have them,
0:11or why can't I set boundaries at all?
0:21Setting boundaries has a first step,
0:23and if this step is missing, I won't be
0:25able to stick to any boundary I set;
0:27meaning if I prioritize my boundaries,
0:29but this step is missing, my priorities
0:31will shift. It means that what I have
0:40set as my boundary is unfortunately
0:42shaky, and in the situations,
0:43relationships, and life issues I
0:45encounter, I end up failing to stick to
0:47them again. And this first step is
0:52nothing but my love for myself. I love
0:56myself, and sometimes I even emphasize
0:58why I should love myself. I am in love
1:01with myself; I am madly in love with
1:03who I am. Why? Because this is the one
1:07that does everything for me, this is
1:09the one that is supposed to get me
1:10somewhere, no one else. So, it needs a
1:18lot of attention, energy must be put
1:20into it, and in short, if I am to love
1:22myself, this love I have for myself
1:24today, what process has it been the
1:26result of? Ania has had a series of
1:33actions that have led her to be in love
1:35with herself today. The first thing I
1:38can mention is being independent, and
1:40let me explain: independent in what
1:42aspects? Even if I have a wealthy
1:46husband, if I have a partner who
1:48provides financial support, if I have a
1:50rich father, it doesn't matter; it
1:51really doesn't matter. We are humans,
1:56and no matter how much we have or how
1:58much is provided for us, ultimately, I
2:00am in this state of: "What can I do?"
2:04And "I must be useful, I must be
2:06valuable." Because see, the fundamental
2:09essence of us humans is that we must be
2:11able to offer something from ourselves,
2:13and if we can't do that, we feel
2:15worthless in a way. So, having
2:22independence for a woman and every
2:24human being is not just financial; it's
2:26about me setting a goal where with this
2:28art, with this work, with this talent I
2:30have, with this ability, I can work on
2:32this ability and monetize this art of
2:34mine. It's not just about the money it
2:41gives me, but the experience I gain on
2:43the path to independence. The
2:45challenges it brings me give me
2:46self-confidence. It makes me brave. It
2:50takes away my fears. It makes me a
2:52useful and valuable person in my own
2:54eyes. First and foremost. It’s true
2:56that people, your family, your mother,
2:58your father see that you are working.
3:00They feel proud of you, and it gives
3:02them a sense of security too. But first
3:04and foremost, it’s my own back that
3:05feels supported by me. I trust myself.
3:08I trust in my abilities. I reach
3:11self-belief. That is why independence
3:15illuminates so many different aspects
3:17of my life. Realizing that I have a
3:23skill, that I can earn an income by
3:25working on this skill, and gaining so
3:27much experience along the way gives me
3:29my own line of thought. This line of
3:34thought brings me respect. See how many
3:39aspects it has, how much it brings to
3:40me and my character if I move toward
3:42independence. Why is a line of thought
3:46important? Because when I take an art,
3:51a talent, or an ability—whether I
3:52learn it or already have it—and I
3:54work on it to achieve something. Along
3:59this path, due to the challenges that
4:01arise, I see things for myself, I
4:03experience them myself. That’s why I
4:07can express my independent thoughts
4:08based on personal experiences, and
4:10others take my words seriously. Why?
4:15Because they say, "Look, she has worked
4:17, she has experience, she has had her
4:20own path," so her opinion matters; but
4:22if I am idle, unemployed, doing nothing
4:24, and four people who are actually
4:26doing something are discussing a matter
4:28, is my opinion valuable there? No, it
4:32is not valuable. So, consequently, I
4:35can give this value to myself through
4:37independence. The second issue is my
4:39relationship with myself. I emphasize
4:43again, whether I am in a relationship
4:45or not makes no difference. My
4:48relationship with myself is more
4:50important than anything else. Meaning
4:53it takes priority over all my other
4:54connections. Look, when I enter a
4:58relationship, it is such that my
5:00priority is still myself; my own work
5:02and personal goals. If I don’t have
5:09these three, if I don’t do the tasks
5:11in my routine to reach my goals, I
5:12cannot handle that relationship, and I
5:14cannot feel good in it. Look, the
5:23problem people have is that as soon as
5:25they enter a relationship, they betray
5:27themselves; meaning as soon as they get
5:29into a relationship, they forget they
5:31had personal goals, a routine, their
5:33own lifestyle, self-care, their
5:34meditation, everything they were doing
5:36for themselves; they abandon all of
5:38that, they abandon themselves and their
5:40self-care, they go and cling to that
5:42person, and that person becomes the
5:44center of their life and attention, and
5:46they start to step into a position of
5:48servitude, trying to pour all that
5:49attention into that person. Understood?
6:00Something a successful girl, an
6:01independent girl, and a girl who has
6:03boundaries, will never, ever do is
6:05compromise or abandon this relationship
6:07she has with herself. Why? Because he
6:14knows these people might come and go in
6:16his life, and it's unclear what will
6:17happen in the future. No matter how
6:20good things are, or how good that
6:21person is, it doesn't really matter.
6:23The best version of me for me is, well,
6:25me. The one who is supposed to stay
6:28with me forever is me. Even if everyone
6:30else comes and goes, I’m the one who
6:31remains with myself. Therefore, my
6:33relationship with myself is very
6:35important. It’s important because in
6:40the events that happen in life, the
6:42challenges that arise, and the ups and
6:44downs of life, we undergo
6:46transformations; if my relationship
6:47with myself is good, I can pull myself
6:49together, not lose hope, get back on my
6:52feet, and manage my life. You've seen
7:00how some people, at the slightest
7:02incident, lose hope, withdraw, become
7:04isolated, get depressed, and think they
7:06are helpless; but my relationship with
7:08myself, the way I talk to myself, the
7:10self-love I give myself, the attention
7:12I pay to myself, and the routine I
7:14stick to no matter what happens, this
7:16is my relationship with myself that I
7:18won't change under any circumstances.
7:25If another person enters my life, our
7:27relationship has three dimensions: my
7:29relationship with myself, that person's
7:31relationship with themselves, and our
7:33relationship with each other. Meaning,
7:38I have a relationship with myself
7:39toward my personal goals; that person
7:41must be like me too; I don’t want to
7:43be this way while they are just
7:44clinging to me! They must also have
7:48their own personal goals; it's mutual,
7:49and they also have their relationship
7:51with themselves, and the third is our
7:53relationship with each other where we
7:55have shared goals. So, do not forget
7:57those two dimensions when you enter a
7:59relationship. And the third issue:
8:04wanting is important, but insisting is
8:06not; wanting to have goals, specifying
8:08that I’d like to reach certain things
8:11, reach a certain position, a career
8:13status, having such goals, wanting to
8:15be here or have this; all of these are
8:17very good. But the problem is, and I
8:28always explain this but people still
8:30misunderstand it, let me tell you: look
8:32, I have a desire, sure it's my goal;
8:34but I can't dictate how I want to reach
8:36it, at what time I reach it, or through
8:38which people I want to reach it. Don't
8:50set a method, don't set a time, just
8:52want something and move toward it, and
8:54be flexible enough to accept, receive,
8:56and embrace whatever comes along the
8:58way. Don't say "no, I don't like that,"
9:05"no, not this way or that way," maybe
9:07you don't know something that nature
9:09does. Sometimes I want something that
9:13nature doesn't want for me, because it
9:15isn't my true goal. It uses a series of
9:20events that might not seem pleasant to
9:21you at the moment, but it is putting
9:23you in the right direction and the
9:24right place. And on the path to
9:32reaching my goals, it’s not like
9:33I’ve chosen a goal, so I’m just
9:35going to move toward it beautifully
9:37today, tomorrow, and the next few
9:39months, with no challenging or—in my
9:40eyes—unfortunate events happening,
9:42and I’ll just cruise in a straight
9:44line to the peak I’ve imagined;
9:46it’s never like that. Things happen
9:53that don't look interesting or cool to
9:55me, and I think, "Oh, it's bitter, it's
9:57hard, I don't know what to do," and
9:58that state of mind emerges. But through
10:04all these situations that arise, nature
10:06is preparing me so that I can reach
10:08what I want. Readiness is very
10:12important. I’m sitting here having
10:14done nothing yet, and then I think to
10:15myself, "No, I am ready to become a
10:17millionaire right now"; but no,
10:19that’s not how it works. If I
10:22haven’t earned 1 million dollars yet,
10:24I can't just start a business and
10:26suddenly make 100,000 dollars a month.
10:29Whereas what actually happens is that
10:31if I am at zero today, I must think
10:33about how I can make 5,000 dollars.
10:35Then think about how I can make 15,000
10:37dollars. Then move on to a higher
10:40financial system. Let’s not go from
10:44zero to 100 all at once, taking on a
10:46burden too heavy to manage. We must
10:51always take small steps to reach the
10:53point we desire. Now, in taking these
10:59small steps, we are actually dividing
11:01our time, our energy, and gradually
11:03unfolding our abilities to reach that
11:05ultimate potential. So, consequently,
11:12when you want something, just be
11:14relaxed. I do whatever is necessary for
11:17me to do in the process of achieving my
11:19goals. But I am open to receiving
11:24events that can help me on the path to
11:26self-improvement, to make me more
11:27prepared or prepare me faster. I am
11:31receptive to anyone who can come and
11:33take my hand along this way. Any flow
11:37that can make me better and unlock more
11:38of my potential so I can reach what I
11:40want. The fourth issue is about making
11:43mistakes. We make mistakes.
11:49Unfortunately, there is an issue
11:51regarding making mistakes, and we
11:52generally have a flawed culture where
11:54as soon as my child, my sister, my
11:56boyfriend, my partner, my husband, or
11:58my wife makes a mistake, we say, "No,
12:00you shouldn't have made this mistake;
12:02how could you have made this mistake?""
12:07How didn't you have the sense to know
12:08better?" Everyone knows what they
12:10should have done after a mistake has
12:12happened. A lot of times, I process
12:14things in my own mind. I get stuck
12:19between crossroads, stuck between
12:20choices, and then I make a choice that
12:22feels right at that moment, but after I
12:24do it, I realize that it wasn't the
12:26best choice, and that is exactly the
12:28story of a mistake. I had different
12:35options in my mind, but I chose this
12:36one, and it led me to this mistake or
12:38this challenge where I couldn't reach
12:40the answer I wanted. But the reason for
12:47this is that just one option was
12:48eliminated, and I know that in the path
12:50I am on, this option was not the right
12:52one, and this is an experience that was
12:54just added to my baggage of experiences
12:56. Look, when I haven't started a task,
13:06haven't done it, and haven't worked on
13:08it, I don't know what I'm going to face
13:10, so expecting me—or others expecting
13:12me—not to make mistakes when facing
13:14these things is the most foolish thing.
13:21Making mistakes is part of the process
13:23of succeeding. Meaning, if I don't make
13:25mistakes, I won't understand what is
13:27right and what is wrong. It is by
13:29making mistakes that I understand what
13:30the wrong options are. I gain
13:33experience, and this is absolutely
13:35necessary. The mindset of other people
13:40who lack this awareness, whether it's
13:42my family or anyone else around me who
13:44sees my falls, sees my falls as a sign
13:46of my weakness. To hell with them. I
13:51need to know. You need to know that I
13:53have the right to make mistakes, and
13:55mistakes must happen; if they don't, I
13:57won't reach my goal at all. It hasn't
13:59happened—you know what I mean? It's
14:03impossible to go on a journey and say
14:05I'll reach the summit without getting
14:06hurt; it's not possible. You get hurt,
14:12you fall, and we should enjoy the whole
14:14journey along with the mistakes. A
14:20mistake shouldn't make me sit down and
14:22stop; a mistake should motivate me to
14:24go and try the next options. I'll try
14:30so many times that I'll arrive; the
14:31issue of making mistakes is exactly
14:33that, because it’s been misunderstood
14:35in our minds, we think that we
14:36shouldn't make mistakes. Perfectionists
14:44, those who always got high grades in
14:46school, one of the reasons they are
14:48weak at taking risks in business or
14:49entrepreneurship or new situations is
14:51because they like to always get the
14:53good grade; they like to always go up a
14:55sure path where everything is perfect,
14:57move forward, everything is perfect,
14:59and make a decision to start something.
15:07Whereas business, good money, and being
15:09an entrepreneur or doing something that
15:11leads to great success requires taking
15:13risks; it requires not being afraid; it
15:15requires making peace with making
15:17mistakes, holding the hand of the
15:19mistake, and saying, "I am going on
15:21this path, it's okay, it happens; this
15:23mistake is coming along with me." Stop
15:28fighting your mistakes; don't blame
15:29yourself, thinking, "Oh, I made a
15:31mistake." Whenever you make a mistake,
15:34clap for yourself. Clap, say you've
15:37eliminated an option; you're on the
15:39right path, and let's go turn on the
15:41next option. And I sit back and analyze
15:45again to see which better option I can
15:47choose from those now in mind. Who can
15:52I get help from to give me the best
15:54advice on this path? Someone who can
15:57help me choose a better option, and
15:59consequently, I move toward it. The
16:03next issue is the potential I have;
16:05sometimes we don't see our own maximum
16:07potential. These designers I was
16:11looking for, I wanted to find them
16:12among our own followers. I always try
16:16to use people from my own page for any
16:17work I have. Since most of them are
16:21girls, I love for girls to be
16:22independent, use their art, and I once
16:24announced regarding an admin and
16:26Instagram for fashion design that I was
16:28looking for some people. I provided my
16:34email so they could send me their work,
16:36and interestingly, many of them were
16:38truly talented, excellent, and you
16:39could clearly see that the person
16:41drawing could progress a lot and have a
16:43great future. Some were beginners, some
16:50intermediate, some very good, and some,
16:52even though they hadn't worked much,
16:54clearly had the talent. Meaning they
16:57hadn't studied it or taken classes, but
16:59some had that natural talent. For
17:01instance, their imagination in design
17:03was good, some were better at painting,
17:04and what's interesting is that they
17:06would share their stories in those
17:08emails, like, "Yes, I was like this,
17:09this happened, that happened, and now I
17:11want to do this." And you could see
17:14some had the ability but absolutely no
17:16self-confidence. Some didn't have as
17:20much ability, but their self-confidence
17:22was greater, and...Some had very strong
17:30hope for the future and a plan in mind,
17:32always seeking to challenge themselves
17:33and putting in the effort to learn.
17:41More and more, from the stories they
17:43told me—that "I want to do this, do
17:45it this way, so that it becomes this,
17:47and reaches that"—when I am a
17:48designer and today, I'm at home with
17:50the tools I have, even if the equipment
17:52isn't fully complete, and I'm painting.
17:57Now this is my passion, my art, or my
17:59talent. How much more can this become
18:03now? How much better can I be at what I
18:07am doing? How much stronger can I be?
18:13How much more precise, detailed, and
18:15stronger can I be in this design? How
18:20much more information can I gather
18:22about fabrics, mental imagery,
18:24designing, styling, fashion, and
18:26anything related to my work? How much
18:31further can I go, and how much can I
18:33add to myself? But it all starts from
18:36the first step. I start by recording
18:40podcasts, for instance, and sharing
18:42them for others to listen to. Then I
18:46open a YouTube channel, create videos
18:48from my home, and make them available
18:50to others. Next, I create podcasts, get
18:57invited to do them with more
18:58professional equipment, and then we
19:00move on to other tasks, programming,
19:02and a hundred other things happen, and
19:04then I keep expanding this and ask
19:06myself, "Well, how can I be better?"
19:11How can I have better communication
19:13skills? Create higher-quality videos,
19:16have more information, and I keep
19:18trying by adding and putting in effort;
19:20meaning, if I had stayed right there on
19:22the first day and moved forward with
19:24that same initial knowledge, could my
19:25videos have been of better quality? No,
19:28they couldn't have. Along with the
19:31talent I have, I must keep working on
19:33that talent, that art, that skill I
19:35possess—make it more, make it better,
19:37make it more diverse, make it more
19:39attractive—and try to keep growing it
19:41and improving it so I can reach my
19:43ultimate potential. What do you see as
19:46your ultimate potential? Where do you
19:49see it in relation to your art? This is
19:54very important, and alongside this
19:55potential I have in my field of work,
19:57as I try to reach that ultimate
19:59potential, being prepared is crucial.
20:03Being prepared in what way, guys? Look,
20:10for example, when I recently announced
20:11that I needed a designer, many people
20:13probably knew long before that
20:15designing was their art and that they
20:16could work on it. And then, because of
20:23the excuses they had: "No, what am I
20:25supposed to do with design? I won't get
20:30anywhere, this won't work in Iran,
20:31there's no such thing there, my family
20:34is like this, I don't have money, and
20:36so on"—and all these were excuses,
20:38whether mental or due to environmental
20:40limitations; yes, these came up in the
20:42person's mind as excuses for why, two
20:44years ago, a year ago, or six months
20:46ago, when I had this ability, I didn't
20:48work on it. Now today, when Ania Nami
20:54or many other people who might cross my
20:56path say, "I need a designer," they
20:58realize to themselves: "Look, an
21:00opportunity could have been this easy
21:02to grab!""If I had pursued design
21:06professionally and seriously a year ago
21:08, today I could have had the chance to
21:10be one of the designers that Anya or
21:11anyone else would want to hire."
21:15Opportunities come that easily, and
21:17many people lose them. People lose them
21:20. I mean, I have people around me who I
21:24always think of first when I need a job
21:26done, and they can never do it, even
21:27though they have the ability. Why?
21:31Because they weren't prepared for it.
21:34Then someone else comes along, someone
21:36who was prepared, snatches the
21:38opportunity, does the job, reaches the
21:40result they want, and says, "See? This
21:44is it—being prepared is what matters.
21:46" The skill you have today, that talent
21:51you think you possess, stick to it
21:52without any expectations, without
21:54thinking of excuses or limitations.
22:01Work on it so hard that opportunities
22:03will come; they will come from the air,
22:05from the sky, and you can seize that
22:07moment and that opportunity because you
22:09were prepared for it. Many have the
22:15skill but are not prepared. That's why
22:18they let opportunities slip away. The
22:20next issue is about the past. The past
22:23is a very important issue. Why is it
22:26important? It is important in the sense
22:28that I cannot let it go. But the past
22:30itself is of no importance at all. The
22:37past, with all the things that happened
22:38to me, may have hurt me; a past that
22:40has overshadowed my current life, a
22:42past that follows me, and I worry about
22:44the mistakes I made and the things that
22:46happened to me. And the past just keeps
22:52swirling around in my mind with me. Do
22:56not live in the past; you should only
22:58learn from the past. Do you know what
23:02the true gift of the past is? It is
23:03learning how to let go of this past. I
23:07have told you before that who I was in
23:09the past is completely different from
23:11who I am today. Everything I talked
23:19about in my shadows—I had many of the
23:21bad traits that I dislike today or used
23:23to be defensive about, which is why I
23:25was sensitive to them. Meaning, if I
23:31dislike weak people, it's because I was
23:33weak one day myself. If I dislike
23:36jealous people, perhaps I was once
23:38jealous. If I dislike lazy people,
23:43perhaps I was a lazy person, and I had
23:45a character that I didn't like any of
23:47those traits in, and I wanted to build
23:49a new character that could lead me to
23:51the things I want. What traits should
23:58this new character have so that I can
23:59reach what I want? It requires order,
24:04it requires discipline, it requires
24:06letting go of the past, a new
24:07personality that can focus on what is
24:09good, what does it need? Every trait
24:15that, if I have a goal and a crappy
24:16personality, I tell myself that this
24:18crappy personality I have today is now
24:20in the past for me, but that’s no
24:22excuse. When I say "conscious woman,
24:26conscious woman, conscious woman," if
24:27you are not a conscious woman or a
24:29conscious girl, you are not a conscious
24:31person today, it’s no problem; but
24:33have you decided to become a conscious
24:35woman? Make a decision, make a decision
24:38, and move in the direction of that
24:40decision. Write down: "I am such a
24:43crappy personality." Okay, I have this
24:46goal, and I also have a talent. If I
24:50want to reach my full potential, to
24:51reach this goal I have, I must throw
24:53away this crappy personality and then
24:55enter a new personality. The crappy
24:59personality becomes my past personality
25:01, and the new personality I want to
25:03build, I must add to it. If I want to
25:06become a successful designer, if I want
25:08to become a successful painter, if I
25:09want to become, I don't know, a
25:11successful tailor, a successful
25:13entrepreneur, I don't know, become a
25:15professor of such and such, become a
25:16doctor, what do I need? What options do
25:19I need? What are the options you need
25:22to reach your goal? You add all those
25:26options to yourself slowly, slowly,
25:28slowly, slowly, little by little,
25:30little by little, and your personality
25:32transforms from the crappy past
25:34personality into the new current
25:35personality that can take you to what
25:37you want. Whatever you were in the past
25:41, it was broken, it was bad, it was
25:43mean-spirited, it was messy and sloppy,
25:46it was disorganized, it was lazy, it
25:48had no order, it had no discipline, it
25:50didn't understand, it was illiterate;
25:52okay, today I can fix all of this, I
25:55can fix all of this. Don't let the past
25:58come with you. If you are ashamed of
26:03who you are today or what you were in
26:05your past, if you've made the biggest
26:07mistakes or had the worst conditions,
26:09it's no problem. I can be healed. I can
26:15get better, and; by myself! Even if
26:17some people don't have the conditions
26:19to go to a therapist, or go do this or
26:21that, or get help from that person,
26:23that coach...no! There is so much out
26:26there today that if I search, if I want
26:29to, if I really want to change, to
26:31transform from my past personality to a
26:33new personality, I can; I can do it
26:35myself. I was a person who managed, all
26:40by myself, to turn a crappy personality
26:42into a good personality; I turned a bad
26:44past into a happy present for myself.
26:50So whatever the past was, it’s not
26:52worth a single hair on your head; let
26:54go of all the pains of the past. I said
27:01its love is that I am able to let go;
27:02letting go is the most important thing
27:04...it’s one of the most important
27:06things life must teach me. Meaning, I
27:11came here to learn it. Let go, don't
27:14cling, leave it be. Dwelling in the
27:17past only brings the flow of the past
27:19back to life for you. Meaning it builds
27:21the future just the way you experienced
27:23it in the past. So let it go. Let it go
27:26. If thoughts come, let them go, clear
27:29them out. Every negative thought, every
27:33embarrassing thought, every feeling of
27:35guilt, every feeling of hurt from the
27:37past, clear them all out, and you must
27:39see how much of this energy returns to
27:41you. Another important trait that I
27:47must have if I love myself is to think
27:49in a way that nature is working for me.
27:56Everything is falling into place. This
28:03nature and these energies are helping
28:04me so that if I am moving in this
28:06direction and this is my goal,
28:08everything will cause me to reach what
28:10I want in the best possible way; to
28:11prepare for it in the best possible way
28:13; events will unfold in the best
28:15possible way so that even if they seem
28:17bad on the surface, an event happens
28:19that I don’t like, I didn't enjoy, it
28:21seems bad. But I have this mindset that
28:30it’s okay, if this happened, I don't
28:32know why it happened, and there is
28:33surely something behind the story that
28:35I don’t know, and nature is arranging
28:37this in a way that I reach what I want,
28:39and there is a benefit for me in this
28:41very event, you will see! And I have
28:48used this mindset time and time again
28:50in my life, and thousands of times it
28:51has happened that something came up
28:53that I didn’t like, asking why did it
28:55happen this way? Instead of grumbling
28:58in that moment, I said: Thank God,
29:00thank you that this happened. Because I
29:05am sure that this challenge that has
29:06arisen definitely has something good in
29:08it for me; it has definitely been for
29:10my benefit, or it is preparing me, or
29:12there is something behind it that I
29:13don’t know, and this event is going
29:15to change the path for me in a better
29:17way. So if I have this mindset in every
29:23challenge in life and every event that
29:25happens to me, that it is for my
29:27benefit that it happened this way and
29:28that something is going to come out of
29:30this event for my benefit and the best
29:32will be pulled out of this story, this
29:33mindset becomes the mindset of someone
29:35who has this love and affection for
29:37themselves. The next issue is that I
29:42must protect my energy. Protecting my
29:45energy is very important, very, very,
29:47very important. Listen up, guys! We are
29:52all trying to raise our energy; we
29:54talked about parameters, we talked
29:56about vibrations, about how I can
29:57change my energy level. So, this energy
30:02rises, right? When this energy rises,
30:07I’ve recharged myself; I’ve raised
30:09my vibration and energy levels. Now I
30:14have to choose what I want to spend
30:16this energy on; it’s like I have an
30:18energy capital, my energy is my asset.
30:22Because it’s very important; if this
30:24energy is high, wherever I go and
30:26whatever I do, throughout the day—
30:28today, tomorrow, the next—this energy
30:30can attract good things for me. Right?
30:33The flow of life and the wheel of life
30:35turn more beautifully for me. But if I
30:40take this energy I’ve gathered—
30:42through meditation, visualization,
30:44having a routine, working on myself,
30:46studying—and I’ve raised it, yet I
30:48thoughtlessly spend this capital on
30:50nonsense, then this energy drops again,
30:52runs out quickly, and I’m stuck again
30:54, attracting bad things and bad people
30:56once more. So when you ask yourself, "I
31:02meditate, I do all this work, I've
31:04worked on myself, so why?" Why? "Why
31:06don't I find good people?""Why do these
31:10things keep..." It’s because of how
31:12you are spending it and where you are
31:13spending it. Sometimes, the energy I've
31:23gathered—I've meditated, I feel good
31:25—suddenly hits zero from an argument;
31:28it’s wasted from one bad look at
31:30someone; someone insults me, and my
31:32energy is lost; or I get involved in
31:34some drama, or I gossip, or in my
31:35relationship someone does something and
31:38I start a fight with them—that's the
31:40energy. Or I socialize with a friend I
31:50shouldn't; or someone keeps talking
31:52about their misery, and instead of not
31:54letting it happen and blocking them the
31:56moment they start talking, or not
31:57letting them continue or drag me into
31:59side issues—this is an energy drainer
32:01; or I don't spend time with a person
32:03who is an energy vampire and isn't
32:04worth a connection with me; I shouldn't
32:06do that. Who are the people around me?
32:12It is very important; who are the
32:13people around me? What kind of people
32:15do I socialize with? Some think that
32:18the more people they have around them,
32:19the better. Let's assume I have a job,
32:24a business, a goal; in line with this
32:26goal, I need to connect with a specific
32:28group of people who lead me toward that
32:30goal; I need to have good associations
32:32regarding my work, my goals, and
32:33everything else. On the other hand, I
32:38have other people who enter my privacy,
32:40my close friends, and I have close
32:42interactions with them. First, examine
32:45who those friends are that you interact
32:47closely with, who enter your privacy,
32:48and with whom you discuss your life
32:50issues. And then take a look at the
32:54people you work with and who are of
32:56business benefit to you; you must have
32:57these interactions; who are they?
33:02It’s not supposed to be that those I
33:04work with enter my privacy system, or
33:06those in my privacy (my close friends)
33:08enter my work system. Separate the
33:12categories; just because they are close
33:13friends, should they be everywhere? No,
33:16not at all, it’s harmful. Especially
33:20when it comes to business, you
33:21shouldn't bring close friends into
33:23business or become partners, for
33:24reasons I will explain later. And
33:27regarding the work system, those you
33:29work for should not enter your privacy
33:31system; don't talk about your personal
33:33issues with someone you work with. The
33:35person you are friends with doesn't
33:37need to know about your work issues, so
33:39do an evaluation. See, with the friends
33:41you discuss your life issues with, if
33:43there is one quality person, talk only
33:45to that one person; don’t tell 10
33:47people. Know who you tell what, where
33:52you go with whom, who you spend time
33:53with, and who you invest energy in; do
33:55those people give you good or bad
33:57energy as friends? Are they giving you
34:00bad energy? Will you cut off those
34:02friendships? Maybe you are the toxic
34:05person; you are the one who sits there
34:07draining others 'energy, complaining,
34:09and talking about your relationship
34:11miseries. Don't do it! And finally, I
34:14must be committed to myself. My
34:18commitment to myself is very important.
34:20How can I be committed to myself?
34:24Throughout this entire path, it is very
34:26important that I do everything I say.
34:31Try to follow through on the things you
34:33say. I want to start a certain task. I
34:37want to achieve a certain goal. Study a
34:40certain subject. See a certain person.
34:45Study a certain business to see what it
34:47is. Go exercise and change my routine.
34:51I want to change this personality trait
34:52or my personal character. Whatever it
34:58is, from small to big, it doesn’t
35:00matter; but the point is that starting
35:02small, always bit by bit, bit by bit, I
35:04can change myself, or change my routine
35:06, or change my situation. The more
35:15committed I am to what I say and
35:16actually do it, my commitment to myself
35:18, my self-trust, and consequently my
35:20self-respect and the transformation in
35:22my life, will happen in the best way
35:24and much faster. So let’s start from
35:32here: if we say something to ourselves,
35:34we do it; if we make a promise to
35:36ourselves, we keep it. This makes you
35:42believe in your abilities, gain
35:43self-confidence, and become respectable
35:45and lovable in your own eyes. Now, you,
35:50having gone through this whole process,
35:52are able to love yourself. Knowing
35:56where to spend your energy, you try to
35:58reach your full potential. You have let
36:01go of the past, built a new personality
36:03, are committed to yourself, possess
36:05independence as I mentioned, and have a
36:07good relationship with yourself. Can
36:14such a person set boundaries and then
36:16not stick to them? In short, having
36:22worked on all these details and stages
36:24on myself and put them into practice, I
36:26will no longer easily lower my
36:27standards and boundaries. And if
36:34someone comes along who treats me below
36:36those standards and boundaries, I
36:38prefer them not to be there; I turn
36:39away and change my path, because I want
36:41to be treated the way I treat myself,
36:43when I treat myself in the most
36:45beautiful way possible. So, I will only
36:50accept someone who treats me that way.
36:58When I am bad to myself, I don't love
37:00myself, I don't see myself as worthy,
37:02I'm not committed to myself, and I
37:04can't get my life together; I see
37:05everything so perfectly in that person
37:07who has entered my life that I settle
37:09for bad behavior, I settle for less, I
37:11settle; even though I don't want it,
37:13don't like it, don't feel good, and am
37:15bothered by it, I still settle. So,
37:23realize that the most important thing
37:24you have in life is yourself, and learn
37:26to work on yourself, because I am the
37:28one who will always remain with myself.
37:34And don't be like those people who, two
37:36weeks before the New Year, start losing
37:38weight, exercising, and dieting to shed
37:40ten or twenty kilos. No, don't be like
37:44that. Start from now, get ready for
37:47good things, for good opportunities,
37:49and for entering the new year. Prepare
37:54yourself, build yourself, and I hope
37:56this video has helped you. Guys, I love
37:58you very, very much, take care of
38:00yourselves. Make sure to write your
38:01comments for me. Until another video,
38:03goodbye.

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