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Attracting Every Woman Without Hitting On Them — Transcript

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  1. 0:00The single biggest misconception I see
  2. 0:01in the dating space is this idea that in
  3. 0:03order to generate attraction with women,
  4. 0:05you have to hit on them. Where does this
  5. 0:06come from? First off, it comes from
  6. 0:08television and movies where a
  7. 0:10good-looking guy, the prince charming,
  8. 0:12the incredibly handsome actor walks up
  9. 0:14to the girl with a big old smile on his
  10. 0:15face and tells her how pretty she is and
  11. 0:17how much she wants to go on a date with
  12. 0:18him. The second place this terrible
  13. 0:20advice comes from is from Milktoast
  14. 0:21dating coaches who tell you to just be
  15. 0:23yourself and have good energy. Just walk
  16. 0:25up to her with a big old smile on your
  17. 0:27face and just be yourself and go up to
  18. 0:29her and just be as vulnerable as you can
  19. 0:31and let her know how you feel right when
  20. 0:33you walk up to her and let her know that
  21. 0:34you're attracted to her and that's how
  22. 0:35you'll get the girl. And the third place
  23. 0:37is from the pickup community who for
  24. 0:39years has been telling men to walk up to
  25. 0:41women, show man towoman intent, big
  26. 0:43energy, spin to win, insta, and if you
  27. 0:45just go up to women and let them know
  28. 0:47how sexually interested it you are in
  29. 0:49them, that these women will eventually
  30. 0:50cave into your creepiness and go on a
  31. 0:52date with you. Of course, for any of you
  32. 0:53who've been dating over the last 10 or
  33. 0:5520 years, you know that these strategies
  34. 0:57are completely unrealistic and outdated,
  35. 0:58especially for average men. Let me try
  36. 1:00to use an example here. Imagine you're a
  37. 1:02man and you're sitting at a bar and a
  38. 1:04very, very beautiful woman walks up and
  39. 1:06sits down next to you. While she's
  40. 1:08sitting down next to you, does she need
  41. 1:09to hit on you for you to be attracted to
  42. 1:11her? Does she need to hit on you to
  43. 1:13generate sexual tension? Does she need
  44. 1:15to show you intent in order for you to
  45. 1:17be attracted to her? No. She has
  46. 1:19qualities about her, in this case,
  47. 1:20physical qualities that make you
  48. 1:22attracted to her even though she hasn't
  49. 1:25hit on you. Let's think of another
  50. 1:26example. A famous movie star or famous
  51. 1:28singer who's up on stage and while he's
  52. 1:30singing, there are multiple girls, maybe
  53. 1:32thousands of women who are in the
  54. 1:33audience who are attracted to him and he
  55. 1:35doesn't even know they exist. These are
  56. 1:37examples of you being able to generate
  57. 1:39attraction in someone else without
  58. 1:41showing them that you're attracted to
  59. 1:42them. And of course, if you took the
  60. 1:44time to actually look in the literature
  61. 1:45on this, you'll find there's
  62. 1:46peer-reviewed data backing up everything
  63. 1:48I just said. In the paper titled He
  64. 1:50Loves Me, He Loves Me Not, uncertainty
  65. 1:52can increase romantic attraction,
  66. 1:54published in Psychological Sciences, it
  67. 1:56shows that when women were given the
  68. 1:57choice between three different types of
  69. 1:58men, men who they knew were attracted to
  70. 2:01them. Meaning, these men said, "Hey,
  71. 2:03you're one of the most beautiful women
  72. 2:04I've ever seen or I find you very
  73. 2:05attractive." A second group of men who
  74. 2:06were like, "I don't really find you that
  75. 2:08attractive at all." And a third group of
  76. 2:10men where it was uncertain. The women
  77. 2:11chose the men in the uncertain category
  78. 2:13to be the most attractive. This is
  79. 2:15obvious if you think about this from a
  80. 2:17sales standpoint or from any other
  81. 2:18standpoint. Uncertainty creates
  82. 2:20attraction. Uncertainty makes it so that
  83. 2:23people will invest more in you to figure
  84. 2:24out whether or not they're attracted. I
  85. 2:26want you to consider this scenario.
  86. 2:27You're a guy who lives in a home and a
  87. 2:28guy comes by and he knocks on your door
  88. 2:29and he says, "Hey, I'd like to sell you
  89. 2:31some aluminum sighting." So, you're
  90. 2:32like, "Okay, you know what? I'm not
  91. 2:33really interested in the aluminum
  92. 2:34sighting, but thank you for coming by. I
  93. 2:36appreciate it. If I know somebody, I'll
  94. 2:38keep you in mind." He comes by the next
  95. 2:39day. He's like, "Hey, listen. Uh, you
  96. 2:41remember the aluminum siding we had
  97. 2:43before? You know, you seem like a great
  98. 2:44guy. We're going to give it to you for
  99. 2:4520% off." Well, you're like, "You know
  100. 2:47what? I really don't need the aluminum
  101. 2:48siding, but thank you so much. I
  102. 2:49appreciate it." Then he comes back the
  103. 2:51next day. [snorts] Hey, uh, listen, uh,
  104. 2:53you know the aluminum sighting I told
  105. 2:54you about? I'll give it to you for 70%
  106. 2:56off. Listen, uh, you seem like an
  107. 2:58awesome person. I'll just give it to you
  108. 2:59for that much off. What would you think
  109. 3:01about that aluminum sighting? Okay. Now,
  110. 3:03take that same metaphor and imagine
  111. 3:04being a beautiful woman. Imagine a guy
  112. 3:06coming up to you and immediately without
  113. 3:08you doing anything whatsoever him being
  114. 3:10like, "Hey, listen. Um, I'm really
  115. 3:12attracted to you and uh, is there any
  116. 3:14way that I could take you on a date?
  117. 3:16Why? What did you do as a woman to get
  118. 3:19this man to be willing to take you on a
  119. 3:20date? Did you win an award? Did you win
  120. 3:23a spelling bee? Did you show some high
  121. 3:25level of accomplishment or achievement?
  122. 3:27Or is he asking you on a date just
  123. 3:29because you have big boobs?" Again, when
  124. 3:32a man shows his cards and does not allow
  125. 3:34for there to be any level of certainty,
  126. 3:36she knows she's already won. When a man
  127. 3:38comes up to a woman and asks her on a
  128. 3:40date, when she hasn't done anything to
  129. 3:42earn the date other than being
  130. 3:43physically attractive, she knows by
  131. 3:45definition that he is of lower sexual
  132. 3:47market value than she is. There's an
  133. 3:49algorithm. There's a sub routine running
  134. 3:50in her hindbrain that lets her know this
  135. 3:52is a lower status man. A higher status
  136. 3:54man is not going to come up and just ask
  137. 3:56her on a date. A higher status man is
  138. 3:58going to make her prove herself in some
  139. 4:00form or fashion before he asks her on a
  140. 4:02date because this man has higher
  141. 4:03standards. He has abundance. He has
  142. 4:05sexual abundance. He has abundance when
  143. 4:06it comes to dating and he has abundance
  144. 4:08when it comes to his social circle. So
  145. 4:10you showing women interest and intent
  146. 4:11off the rip without her doing anything
  147. 4:13to earn it lets her know by definition
  148. 4:15that you are lower sexual market value
  149. 4:17than she is. And also the peer-review
  150. 4:19data shows that her uncertain feelings
  151. 4:21towards you makes you more attractive.
  152. 4:24Which leads me to my second massive
  153. 4:25misconception. And that's the idea that
  154. 4:27when you do social circle, you don't do
  155. 4:30cold approach anymore. This is one of
  156. 4:32the most ridiculous, specious,
  157. 4:34incorrect, totally false implications
  158. 4:37that people make about myself, my
  159. 4:38program, and social circle in general.
  160. 4:40There's actual videos out there where
  161. 4:42guys are telling you that I'm saying
  162. 4:44don't approach women. Don't cold
  163. 4:46approach women. I have never said that.
  164. 4:47In fact, I have a video in my limiting
  165. 4:49beliefs playlist if you want to check it
  166. 4:50out. It's called, "Are you terrified to
  167. 4:52approach?" I have never said don't cold
  168. 4:54approach. What I've always said is cold
  169. 4:57approach to build a social circle. Don't
  170. 4:59cold approach showing intent to women
  171. 5:01who haven't shown you compliance. The
  172. 5:03data backs me up and my hundreds of
  173. 5:05testimonials back me up. You absolutely
  174. 5:07should be able to cold approach, not
  175. 5:09just to attract women. Being able to
  176. 5:11cold approach strangers is an
  177. 5:12incredible, incredible skill set to
  178. 5:14have. On big five personality traits,
  179. 5:16men generally score lower than women do
  180. 5:18when it comes to extroversion. Being
  181. 5:20extroverted, being able to go up and
  182. 5:21talk to strangers and have normal
  183. 5:23conversations with them helps you with
  184. 5:25business, it helps you with networking.
  185. 5:27It helps you with your friend group,
  186. 5:28your social group, and it helps you with
  187. 5:29dating. So, learning how to go up to
  188. 5:31strangers and cold approach is a
  189. 5:33phenomenal skill. But going up to
  190. 5:35individuals, women you see, and asking
  191. 5:37them on dates just because you find them
  192. 5:38physically attractive definitely works
  193. 5:40if she thinks you're more attractive
  194. 5:42than her. But of course, we know that's
  195. 5:44not the case. We look at any data set,
  196. 5:46we can see that the majority of women
  197. 5:48find the majority of men to be
  198. 5:50unattractive. Meaning, a woman who is a
  199. 5:52five has no interest in a man who's a
  200. 5:54five. A median woman thinks that she is
  201. 5:57far far far superior than a median man.
  202. 5:59And so, because of that, you going up to
  203. 6:01women, showing them interest and intent
  204. 6:03and asking them on a date is a losing
  205. 6:05battle. Those of you who have been
  206. 6:06trying this for the last 10, 20 years,
  207. 6:08those of you who've taken pickup boot
  208. 6:09camps, gone to see matchmakers, those of
  209. 6:11you who have gone to see these blue pill
  210. 6:13dating coaches or these anti-manosphere
  211. 6:15dating coaches who keep telling you to
  212. 6:16just be yourself, those of you who have
  213. 6:18gone to speed dating events, or those of
  214. 6:19you who have used dating apps, you know
  215. 6:21what I'm saying is true. You understand
  216. 6:23that women in general are more selective
  217. 6:24than men. And the reason why is clear.
  218. 6:26In 1972, a graduate student at Harvard
  219. 6:29named Robert Trivers came up with a
  220. 6:30groundbreaking idea called parental
  221. 6:32investment hypothesis. And basically the
  222. 6:34hypothesis works like this. In any two
  223. 6:36gender species, the gender that had the
  224. 6:38larger sex cell, i.e. more to lose
  225. 6:40during mating, that was the gender that
  226. 6:42was going to be the more selective, the
  227. 6:43pickier. And we see that with most
  228. 6:45mammals, it's females. There's a few
  229. 6:46exceptions. There's like seahorses and
  230. 6:48fishes where the males carry the
  231. 6:50children to term and so they're the ones
  232. 6:51who are more selective. But in humans,
  233. 6:53it's females. And what that also meant
  234. 6:55was that men were going to compete with
  235. 6:57other men. Males would compete with
  236. 6:58other males for those females. We find
  237. 7:00this to be the case in every single
  238. 7:02mammal. Now, here's the thing. What does
  239. 7:04that mean? That means in humans, women
  240. 7:06are more selective in general. That's
  241. 7:08not a bug. That's not a horrible thing.
  242. 7:10That's not us shaming women for being
  243. 7:12hypergamous. That's just biology. So,
  244. 7:15understanding that women in general are
  245. 7:17more selective than men. You should
  246. 7:18understand strategically,
  247. 7:20mathematically, scientifically that
  248. 7:22unless you are an incredibly
  249. 7:23good-looking man, going up to women on a
  250. 7:25regular basis and showing them that
  251. 7:26you're interested is not a good
  252. 7:28strategy. Now, if you're like, "Listen,
  253. 7:29Michael, I know what you're saying is
  254. 7:30true. I've been influenced by all these
  255. 7:32movies with these good-looking movie
  256. 7:33stars going up to women and telling them
  257. 7:35how they feel. All this milktoast
  258. 7:37generic dating advice, these pickup
  259. 7:39artists that keep telling you to go up
  260. 7:40and show women intent, and these
  261. 7:41matchmakers that keep trying to match up
  262. 7:43rich men with young women who only want
  263. 7:45money. I know none of this works. I've
  264. 7:47been trying this for years. I'm tired of
  265. 7:48beating my head up against the wall. I
  266. 7:50need a solution." If that's you, click
  267. 7:52the link below. For the rest of you,
  268. 7:53stay tuned. Which leads to the third
  269. 7:55massive misconception. This idea that we
  270. 7:57let women friend-zone us, that never
  271. 7:59happens. I want to make something
  272. 8:00absolutely abundantly clear, something
  273. 8:02that if you ever hear anybody say
  274. 8:04anything other than this, just know that
  275. 8:06they are bald-faced liars. Listen up
  276. 8:08very closely. When I say you put women
  277. 8:10in the friend zone, that does not mean
  278. 8:12women put you in the friend zone. I'm
  279. 8:14going to say it again because some of
  280. 8:16you keep getting this wrong. When I say
  281. 8:18you put women in the friend zone, that
  282. 8:20does not mean women put you in the
  283. 8:21friend zone. Those are two different
  284. 8:23things. Me putting a woman in the friend
  285. 8:25zone means I just don't show her any
  286. 8:26intent. I let her come to my social
  287. 8:28circle events. I invite her to different
  288. 8:29stuff. I give her a fist bump. I treat
  289. 8:31her like a bro. I introduce her to my
  290. 8:33other female friends, my other high
  291. 8:34status guy friends. I don't hit on her.
  292. 8:37I just put her in the friend zone. A lot
  293. 8:39of times women are super confused by
  294. 8:40this because they're used to every man
  295. 8:41hitting on them, especially women who
  296. 8:43are exceptionally attractive. But I
  297. 8:44don't do that. I tell all my clients to
  298. 8:47put every single woman they meet in the
  299. 8:49friend zone. Now, here's the problem.
  300. 8:50Guys, hear that and immediately think,
  301. 8:52"No, I'm going to get put in the friend
  302. 8:54zone." Nuh-uh. There is no way for you
  303. 8:56to get put in the friend zone if you do
  304. 8:58not show a woman intent. I'm going to
  305. 9:00say that a second time. I am willing to
  306. 9:01die on this hill. I will debate 50 of
  307. 9:03you at once. This is an absolute
  308. 9:05unassalable fact. A woman cannot put you
  309. 9:08in the friend zone if you don't show her
  310. 9:10intent. I'm going to say it a third time
  311. 9:12just in case any of you weren't able to
  312. 9:14hear what I said. A woman cannot put you
  313. 9:17in the friend zone if you do not show
  314. 9:20her intent. But if you put her in the
  315. 9:23friend zone, what you're doing is
  316. 9:24allowing her to orbit you. Much like how
  317. 9:27women want men to orbit them, women get
  318. 9:29now get to orbit you and see relevancy,
  319. 9:31competency, humor, charisma,
  320. 9:33pre-selection, social proof, access to
  321. 9:35scarce resources, locations, networks,
  322. 9:37and leadership. She gets to see all
  323. 9:39these incredible qualities that you have
  324. 9:41without you having to hit on her because
  325. 9:43you put her in your self-contained
  326. 9:46friend group, your social circle. Which
  327. 9:48leads me to one of my favorite
  328. 9:49peer-reviewed papers of all time, look
  329. 9:51up 2015 Lucy Hunt study, which goes over
  330. 9:54leveling the playing field. Basically,
  331. 9:55what they did is they took hundreds of
  332. 9:57couples and they checked to see how long
  333. 9:59these people knew each other before they
  334. 10:00got together and they match that with
  335. 10:02the correlation of how physically
  336. 10:03attractive they were. Meaning when
  337. 10:05people knew each other for a very short
  338. 10:06amount of time, the correlation of
  339. 10:08physical attractiveness between the two
  340. 10:09of them was very high. Meaning the best
  341. 10:11way for you as a man to date a woman
  342. 10:13who's a 10 that you just met was for you
  343. 10:14to also be a 10. However, after four or
  344. 10:175 months, that correlation got cut in
  345. 10:18half and at 9 months that correlation
  346. 10:20was set to zero. Meaning, if you put a
  347. 10:22woman in your friend zone and she got to
  348. 10:25see you in your social circle, that's
  349. 10:27when a guy who was a five was dating a
  350. 10:29woman who's a 10. And I have hundreds
  351. 10:31and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds
  352. 10:34and hundreds of examples of this
  353. 10:36happening every single time because
  354. 10:37instead of hitting on women and showing
  355. 10:40them intent, showing them the certainty
  356. 10:41that you're interested in them instead
  357. 10:43of the uncertainty which could generate
  358. 10:44attraction, you're letting them know
  359. 10:46that you're attracted to them, which
  360. 10:47lets them know that you're of lower
  361. 10:48sexual market value. And additionally,
  362. 10:50if you put a woman in the friend zone
  363. 10:52and she's able to see the other women
  364. 10:54that you've dated, your social
  365. 10:55alignments, how much social proof you
  366. 10:57have, how much pre-selection you have,
  367. 10:58what you're able to do is generate
  368. 11:01attraction. Here's the thing. When you
  369. 11:02talk to the mainstream dating coach, the
  370. 11:04milktoast dating coach, they do not
  371. 11:06fundamentally understand how to generate
  372. 11:08attraction with women who aren't
  373. 11:10attracted to you. When you talk to the
  374. 11:11matchmaker, they definitely do not
  375. 11:13understand this concept. When you get on
  376. 11:14the dating app, you're not able on the
  377. 11:16dating app to show pre-selection or
  378. 11:17social proof. all they can do is see a
  379. 11:19picture of you and swipe. You're not
  380. 11:20able to in any of these formats, you're
  381. 11:23not able to generate attraction. The
  382. 11:25only way for you as an averagel looking
  383. 11:27man to be able to generate attraction
  384. 11:28with an extremely good-looking woman is
  385. 11:31social circle. So, what does that mean?
  386. 11:32So, since I'm the top authority in the
  387. 11:34entire world on this subject, you don't
  388. 11:36believe me, you can look it up yourself.
  389. 11:37If you want to understand what social
  390. 11:38circle is, here [snorts] is the
  391. 11:40definition. And if there was another
  392. 11:41definition, you can throw it away cuz
  393. 11:42this from this point forward is the
  394. 11:44definition. Taking women from an
  395. 11:45unfamiliar environment to a familiar
  396. 11:47environment is social circle. Taking
  397. 11:50women that you just met who might be
  398. 11:52attracted to you or might not be
  399. 11:53attracted to you, inviting them to a
  400. 11:55common event where she can see
  401. 11:56relevancy, competency, humor, charisma,
  402. 11:58pre-selection, social proof, and these
  403. 11:59other things that generate attraction.
  404. 12:01taking her from the unfamiliar
  405. 12:02environment where Chad and Tyrone crush
  406. 12:04you, like going up to talk to women at
  407. 12:06bars and clubs or using dating apps, and
  408. 12:08taking her to a social circle
  409. 12:09environment like a charity gala, you
  410. 12:11guys going to play frisbee golf, going
  411. 12:13out to a park together, going to the
  412. 12:15movies together, or going to a house
  413. 12:16party. You going into this social circle
  414. 12:18environment allows you to be able to,
  415. 12:20wait for it, generate attraction with
  416. 12:22women who aren't attracted to you. So,
  417. 12:25one more time, I've given you several
  418. 12:26examples in case any of you are confused
  419. 12:27about this or if any of you want to
  420. 12:29discuss this further. When you do cold
  421. 12:30approach and show intent, when you use a
  422. 12:33dating app, when you use matchmakers or
  423. 12:34when you do speed dating, that is very
  424. 12:36effective for women who already find you
  425. 12:39attractive. If a woman sees you as an
  426. 12:41eight and she sees herself as a six and
  427. 12:43you come up and show intent, that will
  428. 12:45work some of the time. So, for those of
  429. 12:47you right there, for the 4% of you on
  430. 12:49dating apps who get all the right
  431. 12:50swipes, this is a great strategy for
  432. 12:52you. Don't listen to anything I'm
  433. 12:53saying. If you have an Academy Award, if
  434. 12:54you have a billion dollars, you won an
  435. 12:56NBA championship, if you're incredibly
  436. 12:58famous, you're a streamer with 40
  437. 12:59million followers, don't listen to
  438. 13:01anything I say. Go direct with every
  439. 13:03single woman you you can. If you are
  440. 13:05Drake, you should go direct. But if
  441. 13:07you're below Drake, if you're in that
  442. 13:09bottom 98 percentile all the way down to
  443. 13:12zero, you probably shouldn't be showing
  444. 13:13intent to women who have not shown you
  445. 13:15any compliance. You probably shouldn't
  446. 13:17be showing intent to women who are not
  447. 13:19attracted to you. So while cold
  448. 13:21approach, dating apps, and matchmakers
  449. 13:23are for women who are already attracted
  450. 13:25to you, social circle is for women who
  451. 13:27aren't attracted to you yet. Social
  452. 13:29circle is the only mechanism where a
  453. 13:31woman can stay in your environment where
  454. 13:33you can generate attraction with her.
  455. 13:36Now, here's the thing. I want you to
  456. 13:37think about a bonfire. I want you to
  457. 13:38think about a bunch of people sitting
  458. 13:40around a bonfire. The bonfire doesn't
  459. 13:42know that there's people sitting around
  460. 13:43it. The bonfire just generates heat. The
  461. 13:45bonfire doesn't focus its heat in one
  462. 13:47direction or another. The bonfire just
  463. 13:49focuses heat in all directions. If
  464. 13:51everybody got up and left, the bonfire
  465. 13:52would still be hot. If everyone came and
  466. 13:54sat around the bonfire, the bonfire
  467. 13:56would heat everyone. That's how I want
  468. 13:57you to be with your attractiveness. I
  469. 13:59want you to be able to generate
  470. 14:00attraction in all directions at all
  471. 14:02times using the mechanisms that I teach
  472. 14:04you in social circle. But I don't need
  473. 14:06you to direct it at one woman like a
  474. 14:08laser. It's for everyone. Everyone gets
  475. 14:10to see that you're loud and boisterous.
  476. 14:12Everyone gets to see that you're
  477. 14:13confident. Everyone gets to see that
  478. 14:15you're competent and relevant and have
  479. 14:17social proof. Everyone gets to see your
  480. 14:18pre-selection. Everyone gets to see your
  481. 14:20leadership. It's not focused on one
  482. 14:22woman. Just like an attractive woman,
  483. 14:24her attractiveness is in all 360 degrees
  484. 14:26and everyone who witnesses her sees that
  485. 14:29she is physically attractive. I want to
  486. 14:31create the same thing for you in a
  487. 14:33social circle environment where multiple
  488. 14:35women get to see your attractive
  489. 14:36qualities. You get to provide warmth for
  490. 14:39the room just like a fire. And in doing
  491. 14:40so, you don't show direct individual
  492. 14:42intent towards any one woman. Now, I
  493. 14:44already know what's going to happen. I
  494. 14:45made a video where I was back in London
  495. 14:47and I was talking about how cold
  496. 14:48approach pickup showing intent is
  497. 14:50completely outdated. And if you guys
  498. 14:51will read the comments, it made so many
  499. 14:53people angry. They were coming after me
  500. 14:55and I'm going to say to them what I'm
  501. 14:56going to say to you guys right now. If
  502. 14:57you want to criticize anything that I'm
  503. 14:59saying, that's totally fine. If you want
  504. 15:00to come in there and talk about
  505. 15:01Michael's scared to talk to this girl or
  506. 15:03whatever, forgetting about the fact that
  507. 15:05I was actually an approach coach for the
  508. 15:06Venian Arts 18 years ago. If you want to
  509. 15:08say whatever you want, ironically, not
  510. 15:10recognizing that whoever your favorite
  511. 15:11pickup artist coaches, I've done more
  512. 15:13cold approach than they have and they
  513. 15:15haven't done any social circle. However,
  514. 15:17you want to criticize me, I only ask one
  515. 15:19thing. When you criticize me and tell me
  516. 15:21that you doing cold approach pickup has
  517. 15:23actually gotten you hotter women, you've
  518. 15:25got to leave your Instagram in the
  519. 15:27comment. You have to show the results
  520. 15:28that you got that are so much better
  521. 15:30than doing social circle. If you don't
  522. 15:32leave a link to your Instagram in the
  523. 15:34comment, I'm probably just going to
  524. 15:35delete your comment. I'm tired of
  525. 15:37sitting there listening to these people
  526. 15:38misinformed talk about, "Oh, I did cold
  527. 15:40approach and I met all these hot girls."
  528. 15:42And I'm like, "Cool. Show your proof."
  529. 15:44And then all of a sudden I get all these
  530. 15:45insults. No more of that. If you're a
  531. 15:47dating coach and you hate my content, if
  532. 15:49you think I'm taking all your clients
  533. 15:50and you think that I'm misinforming all
  534. 15:52that all these people, fine. Leave your
  535. 15:53Instagram in the comments. Show your
  536. 15:55proof. I don't mind if you don't want to
  537. 15:57show proof. What I have a problem with
  538. 15:58is that when I show proof, you criticize
  539. 16:00mine. If you're going to criticize my
  540. 16:02evidence, the fact that I can show
  541. 16:04hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and
  542. 16:06hundreds of testimonials proving that
  543. 16:08what I'm saying is right. If you want to
  544. 16:09criticize that, that's fine. It's just
  545. 16:11now you've got to show your proof as
  546. 16:13well. And of course, nobody will. I've
  547. 16:15been trying this for weeks, months,
  548. 16:17years, and every time I get these
  549. 16:18criticisms, nobody wants to show their
  550. 16:20proof. So, number one, if you don't
  551. 16:22leave a link to your Instagram in the
  552. 16:24comment, I'm not going to accept your
  553. 16:25comment. Number two, I'm going to ask
  554. 16:27you five questions. I want you to answer
  555. 16:28these questions honestly. All you
  556. 16:30hardcore cold approach guys out there,
  557. 16:32all you dudes, you old rich sugar
  558. 16:33daddies who keep paying women, or you
  559. 16:35guys who are on these matchmaker sites,
  560. 16:37or all you guys who keep manipulating
  561. 16:39your photos to try to dominate on dating
  562. 16:41apps, all of you guys, I want you to
  563. 16:43answer these five questions. Your
  564. 16:44friends who hate me, the ones who think
  565. 16:46I have the most punchable face in the
  566. 16:47world, I want you to send this video to
  567. 16:49them and I want you to have them
  568. 16:51honestly answer these five questions.
  569. 16:53Number one, how many social events were
  570. 16:56you invited to last month? And I'm
  571. 16:57talking about social events where
  572. 16:59there's more women than men or there's
  573. 17:01very very high status men. Be honest.
  574. 17:03Don't tell me that every time you go to
  575. 17:04the club, that's not being invited to a
  576. 17:06social event. How many times were you
  577. 17:08invited to a mansion party with
  578. 17:09millionaires and billionaires? How many
  579. 17:11times were you invited to go to a party,
  580. 17:13a dinner, a birthday where there's way
  581. 17:14more women than men? How many times were
  582. 17:16you invited on stage at a concert? How
  583. 17:19many times were you invited to an event
  584. 17:20where there were way more women than men
  585. 17:22or way more high status individuals? How
  586. 17:24many times in the last month have you
  587. 17:26been invited? Number two, how many women
  588. 17:28in your life right now could comfortably
  589. 17:31introduce you to more attractive women?
  590. 17:33For me, I would probably say it's
  591. 17:35probably 7 or 800. How many women in
  592. 17:38your life think highly enough of you and
  593. 17:41know enough other attractive women that
  594. 17:43where they would invite you to events
  595. 17:44where there's other attractive women or
  596. 17:45they would introduce you to other
  597. 17:47attractive women that you could possibly
  598. 17:48go out with? How many, be honest, how
  599. 17:51many female friends that are on your
  600. 17:53side would be willing to introduce you
  601. 17:55to other women? Number three, answer
  602. 17:57this honestly. If I were to look at your
  603. 17:59Instagram right now, does it look like
  604. 18:00you're someone that people know, trust,
  605. 18:02and want to be around? Does your
  606. 18:04Instagram show compliance that people
  607. 18:06enjoy your company? Do people follow you
  608. 18:08and comment? Do you just have photos up
  609. 18:10there where you're just sitting by
  610. 18:11yourself in a the lobby of a hotel by
  611. 18:13yourself and there's no women who like
  612. 18:15your photos or comment on them at all?
  613. 18:17Guys, I'm a male performance coach. My
  614. 18:19following should be 99% men, but it's
  615. 18:22only 84% men, which mean there's about
  616. 18:2442,000 women who follow me. And the
  617. 18:27reason why is because I show a lifestyle
  618. 18:29on social media that it's fun. People
  619. 18:31want to hang out with me. They trust me.
  620. 18:33They enjoy being around me. They show me
  621. 18:35compliance. And when we go out and have
  622. 18:37a great time, everything is taken care
  623. 18:38of, and everyone enjoys themselves. Ask
  624. 18:40yourself, does your Instagram show the
  625. 18:42same thing? Number four, how often do
  626. 18:45you create social environments or get
  627. 18:47invited to social environments where
  628. 18:49people can meet each other where you can
  629. 18:50be the connector, the suggesttor, or the
  630. 18:52content creator? How often per month do
  631. 18:54you get groups of friends together? How
  632. 18:56often are you trying to be a wingman for
  633. 18:57your homeboys and get them with a girl?
  634. 18:59How often are you trying to introduce
  635. 19:00successful people to one another? How
  636. 19:02often are you introducing one beautiful
  637. 19:04woman to another? How many times per
  638. 19:06month is that happening for you? And
  639. 19:07finally, number five, and this is going
  640. 19:09to hurt for some of you. If I were to
  641. 19:10take away your cold approach, your
  642. 19:12dating apps, your passport bro stuff,
  643. 19:14your matchmaker, all those other things,
  644. 19:16how many natural opportunities in your
  645. 19:19life would you have to meet someone to
  646. 19:21date? How many natural occurrences would
  647. 19:23you have in a month to actually meet
  648. 19:25awesome people to network with? Be
  649. 19:26honest with yourself. If you honestly
  650. 19:28assess those last five questions in your
  651. 19:30life and you come to the realization
  652. 19:31that your social circle is not that
  653. 19:33strong and that you've come to depend
  654. 19:34way too much on cold approach pickup
  655. 19:36dating apps or matchmakers. If you want
  656. 19:38to make a change in your life to where
  657. 19:40you can automatically create a funnel
  658. 19:42that brings amazing, beautiful women
  659. 19:43into your life competing with each other
  660. 19:45for your attention and you want to see
  661. 19:48hundreds of testimonials of other guys
  662. 19:50who've done this. 4700 other guys have
  663. 19:53already gone through this course and
  664. 19:54check out all the Trust Pilot reviews
  665. 19:56that you can possibly look at. If you
  666. 19:58want to do that, if you want to stop
  667. 19:59being skeptical and actually give Social
  668. 20:01Circle a try, take a second, click the
  669. 20:03link below, and I'll see you on the
  670. 20:04other

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