Attracting Every Woman Without Hitting On Them — Transcript
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- 0:00The single biggest misconception I see
- 0:01in the dating space is this idea that in
- 0:03order to generate attraction with women,
- 0:05you have to hit on them. Where does this
- 0:06come from? First off, it comes from
- 0:08television and movies where a
- 0:10good-looking guy, the prince charming,
- 0:12the incredibly handsome actor walks up
- 0:14to the girl with a big old smile on his
- 0:15face and tells her how pretty she is and
- 0:17how much she wants to go on a date with
- 0:18him. The second place this terrible
- 0:20advice comes from is from Milktoast
- 0:21dating coaches who tell you to just be
- 0:23yourself and have good energy. Just walk
- 0:25up to her with a big old smile on your
- 0:27face and just be yourself and go up to
- 0:29her and just be as vulnerable as you can
- 0:31and let her know how you feel right when
- 0:33you walk up to her and let her know that
- 0:34you're attracted to her and that's how
- 0:35you'll get the girl. And the third place
- 0:37is from the pickup community who for
- 0:39years has been telling men to walk up to
- 0:41women, show man towoman intent, big
- 0:43energy, spin to win, insta, and if you
- 0:45just go up to women and let them know
- 0:47how sexually interested it you are in
- 0:49them, that these women will eventually
- 0:50cave into your creepiness and go on a
- 0:52date with you. Of course, for any of you
- 0:53who've been dating over the last 10 or
- 0:5520 years, you know that these strategies
- 0:57are completely unrealistic and outdated,
- 0:58especially for average men. Let me try
- 1:00to use an example here. Imagine you're a
- 1:02man and you're sitting at a bar and a
- 1:04very, very beautiful woman walks up and
- 1:06sits down next to you. While she's
- 1:08sitting down next to you, does she need
- 1:09to hit on you for you to be attracted to
- 1:11her? Does she need to hit on you to
- 1:13generate sexual tension? Does she need
- 1:15to show you intent in order for you to
- 1:17be attracted to her? No. She has
- 1:19qualities about her, in this case,
- 1:20physical qualities that make you
- 1:22attracted to her even though she hasn't
- 1:25hit on you. Let's think of another
- 1:26example. A famous movie star or famous
- 1:28singer who's up on stage and while he's
- 1:30singing, there are multiple girls, maybe
- 1:32thousands of women who are in the
- 1:33audience who are attracted to him and he
- 1:35doesn't even know they exist. These are
- 1:37examples of you being able to generate
- 1:39attraction in someone else without
- 1:41showing them that you're attracted to
- 1:42them. And of course, if you took the
- 1:44time to actually look in the literature
- 1:45on this, you'll find there's
- 1:46peer-reviewed data backing up everything
- 1:48I just said. In the paper titled He
- 1:50Loves Me, He Loves Me Not, uncertainty
- 1:52can increase romantic attraction,
- 1:54published in Psychological Sciences, it
- 1:56shows that when women were given the
- 1:57choice between three different types of
- 1:58men, men who they knew were attracted to
- 2:01them. Meaning, these men said, "Hey,
- 2:03you're one of the most beautiful women
- 2:04I've ever seen or I find you very
- 2:05attractive." A second group of men who
- 2:06were like, "I don't really find you that
- 2:08attractive at all." And a third group of
- 2:10men where it was uncertain. The women
- 2:11chose the men in the uncertain category
- 2:13to be the most attractive. This is
- 2:15obvious if you think about this from a
- 2:17sales standpoint or from any other
- 2:18standpoint. Uncertainty creates
- 2:20attraction. Uncertainty makes it so that
- 2:23people will invest more in you to figure
- 2:24out whether or not they're attracted. I
- 2:26want you to consider this scenario.
- 2:27You're a guy who lives in a home and a
- 2:28guy comes by and he knocks on your door
- 2:29and he says, "Hey, I'd like to sell you
- 2:31some aluminum sighting." So, you're
- 2:32like, "Okay, you know what? I'm not
- 2:33really interested in the aluminum
- 2:34sighting, but thank you for coming by. I
- 2:36appreciate it. If I know somebody, I'll
- 2:38keep you in mind." He comes by the next
- 2:39day. He's like, "Hey, listen. Uh, you
- 2:41remember the aluminum siding we had
- 2:43before? You know, you seem like a great
- 2:44guy. We're going to give it to you for
- 2:4520% off." Well, you're like, "You know
- 2:47what? I really don't need the aluminum
- 2:48siding, but thank you so much. I
- 2:49appreciate it." Then he comes back the
- 2:51next day. [snorts] Hey, uh, listen, uh,
- 2:53you know the aluminum sighting I told
- 2:54you about? I'll give it to you for 70%
- 2:56off. Listen, uh, you seem like an
- 2:58awesome person. I'll just give it to you
- 2:59for that much off. What would you think
- 3:01about that aluminum sighting? Okay. Now,
- 3:03take that same metaphor and imagine
- 3:04being a beautiful woman. Imagine a guy
- 3:06coming up to you and immediately without
- 3:08you doing anything whatsoever him being
- 3:10like, "Hey, listen. Um, I'm really
- 3:12attracted to you and uh, is there any
- 3:14way that I could take you on a date?
- 3:16Why? What did you do as a woman to get
- 3:19this man to be willing to take you on a
- 3:20date? Did you win an award? Did you win
- 3:23a spelling bee? Did you show some high
- 3:25level of accomplishment or achievement?
- 3:27Or is he asking you on a date just
- 3:29because you have big boobs?" Again, when
- 3:32a man shows his cards and does not allow
- 3:34for there to be any level of certainty,
- 3:36she knows she's already won. When a man
- 3:38comes up to a woman and asks her on a
- 3:40date, when she hasn't done anything to
- 3:42earn the date other than being
- 3:43physically attractive, she knows by
- 3:45definition that he is of lower sexual
- 3:47market value than she is. There's an
- 3:49algorithm. There's a sub routine running
- 3:50in her hindbrain that lets her know this
- 3:52is a lower status man. A higher status
- 3:54man is not going to come up and just ask
- 3:56her on a date. A higher status man is
- 3:58going to make her prove herself in some
- 4:00form or fashion before he asks her on a
- 4:02date because this man has higher
- 4:03standards. He has abundance. He has
- 4:05sexual abundance. He has abundance when
- 4:06it comes to dating and he has abundance
- 4:08when it comes to his social circle. So
- 4:10you showing women interest and intent
- 4:11off the rip without her doing anything
- 4:13to earn it lets her know by definition
- 4:15that you are lower sexual market value
- 4:17than she is. And also the peer-review
- 4:19data shows that her uncertain feelings
- 4:21towards you makes you more attractive.
- 4:24Which leads me to my second massive
- 4:25misconception. And that's the idea that
- 4:27when you do social circle, you don't do
- 4:30cold approach anymore. This is one of
- 4:32the most ridiculous, specious,
- 4:34incorrect, totally false implications
- 4:37that people make about myself, my
- 4:38program, and social circle in general.
- 4:40There's actual videos out there where
- 4:42guys are telling you that I'm saying
- 4:44don't approach women. Don't cold
- 4:46approach women. I have never said that.
- 4:47In fact, I have a video in my limiting
- 4:49beliefs playlist if you want to check it
- 4:50out. It's called, "Are you terrified to
- 4:52approach?" I have never said don't cold
- 4:54approach. What I've always said is cold
- 4:57approach to build a social circle. Don't
- 4:59cold approach showing intent to women
- 5:01who haven't shown you compliance. The
- 5:03data backs me up and my hundreds of
- 5:05testimonials back me up. You absolutely
- 5:07should be able to cold approach, not
- 5:09just to attract women. Being able to
- 5:11cold approach strangers is an
- 5:12incredible, incredible skill set to
- 5:14have. On big five personality traits,
- 5:16men generally score lower than women do
- 5:18when it comes to extroversion. Being
- 5:20extroverted, being able to go up and
- 5:21talk to strangers and have normal
- 5:23conversations with them helps you with
- 5:25business, it helps you with networking.
- 5:27It helps you with your friend group,
- 5:28your social group, and it helps you with
- 5:29dating. So, learning how to go up to
- 5:31strangers and cold approach is a
- 5:33phenomenal skill. But going up to
- 5:35individuals, women you see, and asking
- 5:37them on dates just because you find them
- 5:38physically attractive definitely works
- 5:40if she thinks you're more attractive
- 5:42than her. But of course, we know that's
- 5:44not the case. We look at any data set,
- 5:46we can see that the majority of women
- 5:48find the majority of men to be
- 5:50unattractive. Meaning, a woman who is a
- 5:52five has no interest in a man who's a
- 5:54five. A median woman thinks that she is
- 5:57far far far superior than a median man.
- 5:59And so, because of that, you going up to
- 6:01women, showing them interest and intent
- 6:03and asking them on a date is a losing
- 6:05battle. Those of you who have been
- 6:06trying this for the last 10, 20 years,
- 6:08those of you who've taken pickup boot
- 6:09camps, gone to see matchmakers, those of
- 6:11you who have gone to see these blue pill
- 6:13dating coaches or these anti-manosphere
- 6:15dating coaches who keep telling you to
- 6:16just be yourself, those of you who have
- 6:18gone to speed dating events, or those of
- 6:19you who have used dating apps, you know
- 6:21what I'm saying is true. You understand
- 6:23that women in general are more selective
- 6:24than men. And the reason why is clear.
- 6:26In 1972, a graduate student at Harvard
- 6:29named Robert Trivers came up with a
- 6:30groundbreaking idea called parental
- 6:32investment hypothesis. And basically the
- 6:34hypothesis works like this. In any two
- 6:36gender species, the gender that had the
- 6:38larger sex cell, i.e. more to lose
- 6:40during mating, that was the gender that
- 6:42was going to be the more selective, the
- 6:43pickier. And we see that with most
- 6:45mammals, it's females. There's a few
- 6:46exceptions. There's like seahorses and
- 6:48fishes where the males carry the
- 6:50children to term and so they're the ones
- 6:51who are more selective. But in humans,
- 6:53it's females. And what that also meant
- 6:55was that men were going to compete with
- 6:57other men. Males would compete with
- 6:58other males for those females. We find
- 7:00this to be the case in every single
- 7:02mammal. Now, here's the thing. What does
- 7:04that mean? That means in humans, women
- 7:06are more selective in general. That's
- 7:08not a bug. That's not a horrible thing.
- 7:10That's not us shaming women for being
- 7:12hypergamous. That's just biology. So,
- 7:15understanding that women in general are
- 7:17more selective than men. You should
- 7:18understand strategically,
- 7:20mathematically, scientifically that
- 7:22unless you are an incredibly
- 7:23good-looking man, going up to women on a
- 7:25regular basis and showing them that
- 7:26you're interested is not a good
- 7:28strategy. Now, if you're like, "Listen,
- 7:29Michael, I know what you're saying is
- 7:30true. I've been influenced by all these
- 7:32movies with these good-looking movie
- 7:33stars going up to women and telling them
- 7:35how they feel. All this milktoast
- 7:37generic dating advice, these pickup
- 7:39artists that keep telling you to go up
- 7:40and show women intent, and these
- 7:41matchmakers that keep trying to match up
- 7:43rich men with young women who only want
- 7:45money. I know none of this works. I've
- 7:47been trying this for years. I'm tired of
- 7:48beating my head up against the wall. I
- 7:50need a solution." If that's you, click
- 7:52the link below. For the rest of you,
- 7:53stay tuned. Which leads to the third
- 7:55massive misconception. This idea that we
- 7:57let women friend-zone us, that never
- 7:59happens. I want to make something
- 8:00absolutely abundantly clear, something
- 8:02that if you ever hear anybody say
- 8:04anything other than this, just know that
- 8:06they are bald-faced liars. Listen up
- 8:08very closely. When I say you put women
- 8:10in the friend zone, that does not mean
- 8:12women put you in the friend zone. I'm
- 8:14going to say it again because some of
- 8:16you keep getting this wrong. When I say
- 8:18you put women in the friend zone, that
- 8:20does not mean women put you in the
- 8:21friend zone. Those are two different
- 8:23things. Me putting a woman in the friend
- 8:25zone means I just don't show her any
- 8:26intent. I let her come to my social
- 8:28circle events. I invite her to different
- 8:29stuff. I give her a fist bump. I treat
- 8:31her like a bro. I introduce her to my
- 8:33other female friends, my other high
- 8:34status guy friends. I don't hit on her.
- 8:37I just put her in the friend zone. A lot
- 8:39of times women are super confused by
- 8:40this because they're used to every man
- 8:41hitting on them, especially women who
- 8:43are exceptionally attractive. But I
- 8:44don't do that. I tell all my clients to
- 8:47put every single woman they meet in the
- 8:49friend zone. Now, here's the problem.
- 8:50Guys, hear that and immediately think,
- 8:52"No, I'm going to get put in the friend
- 8:54zone." Nuh-uh. There is no way for you
- 8:56to get put in the friend zone if you do
- 8:58not show a woman intent. I'm going to
- 9:00say that a second time. I am willing to
- 9:01die on this hill. I will debate 50 of
- 9:03you at once. This is an absolute
- 9:05unassalable fact. A woman cannot put you
- 9:08in the friend zone if you don't show her
- 9:10intent. I'm going to say it a third time
- 9:12just in case any of you weren't able to
- 9:14hear what I said. A woman cannot put you
- 9:17in the friend zone if you do not show
- 9:20her intent. But if you put her in the
- 9:23friend zone, what you're doing is
- 9:24allowing her to orbit you. Much like how
- 9:27women want men to orbit them, women get
- 9:29now get to orbit you and see relevancy,
- 9:31competency, humor, charisma,
- 9:33pre-selection, social proof, access to
- 9:35scarce resources, locations, networks,
- 9:37and leadership. She gets to see all
- 9:39these incredible qualities that you have
- 9:41without you having to hit on her because
- 9:43you put her in your self-contained
- 9:46friend group, your social circle. Which
- 9:48leads me to one of my favorite
- 9:49peer-reviewed papers of all time, look
- 9:51up 2015 Lucy Hunt study, which goes over
- 9:54leveling the playing field. Basically,
- 9:55what they did is they took hundreds of
- 9:57couples and they checked to see how long
- 9:59these people knew each other before they
- 10:00got together and they match that with
- 10:02the correlation of how physically
- 10:03attractive they were. Meaning when
- 10:05people knew each other for a very short
- 10:06amount of time, the correlation of
- 10:08physical attractiveness between the two
- 10:09of them was very high. Meaning the best
- 10:11way for you as a man to date a woman
- 10:13who's a 10 that you just met was for you
- 10:14to also be a 10. However, after four or
- 10:175 months, that correlation got cut in
- 10:18half and at 9 months that correlation
- 10:20was set to zero. Meaning, if you put a
- 10:22woman in your friend zone and she got to
- 10:25see you in your social circle, that's
- 10:27when a guy who was a five was dating a
- 10:29woman who's a 10. And I have hundreds
- 10:31and hundreds and hundreds and hundreds
- 10:34and hundreds of examples of this
- 10:36happening every single time because
- 10:37instead of hitting on women and showing
- 10:40them intent, showing them the certainty
- 10:41that you're interested in them instead
- 10:43of the uncertainty which could generate
- 10:44attraction, you're letting them know
- 10:46that you're attracted to them, which
- 10:47lets them know that you're of lower
- 10:48sexual market value. And additionally,
- 10:50if you put a woman in the friend zone
- 10:52and she's able to see the other women
- 10:54that you've dated, your social
- 10:55alignments, how much social proof you
- 10:57have, how much pre-selection you have,
- 10:58what you're able to do is generate
- 11:01attraction. Here's the thing. When you
- 11:02talk to the mainstream dating coach, the
- 11:04milktoast dating coach, they do not
- 11:06fundamentally understand how to generate
- 11:08attraction with women who aren't
- 11:10attracted to you. When you talk to the
- 11:11matchmaker, they definitely do not
- 11:13understand this concept. When you get on
- 11:14the dating app, you're not able on the
- 11:16dating app to show pre-selection or
- 11:17social proof. all they can do is see a
- 11:19picture of you and swipe. You're not
- 11:20able to in any of these formats, you're
- 11:23not able to generate attraction. The
- 11:25only way for you as an averagel looking
- 11:27man to be able to generate attraction
- 11:28with an extremely good-looking woman is
- 11:31social circle. So, what does that mean?
- 11:32So, since I'm the top authority in the
- 11:34entire world on this subject, you don't
- 11:36believe me, you can look it up yourself.
- 11:37If you want to understand what social
- 11:38circle is, here [snorts] is the
- 11:40definition. And if there was another
- 11:41definition, you can throw it away cuz
- 11:42this from this point forward is the
- 11:44definition. Taking women from an
- 11:45unfamiliar environment to a familiar
- 11:47environment is social circle. Taking
- 11:50women that you just met who might be
- 11:52attracted to you or might not be
- 11:53attracted to you, inviting them to a
- 11:55common event where she can see
- 11:56relevancy, competency, humor, charisma,
- 11:58pre-selection, social proof, and these
- 11:59other things that generate attraction.
- 12:01taking her from the unfamiliar
- 12:02environment where Chad and Tyrone crush
- 12:04you, like going up to talk to women at
- 12:06bars and clubs or using dating apps, and
- 12:08taking her to a social circle
- 12:09environment like a charity gala, you
- 12:11guys going to play frisbee golf, going
- 12:13out to a park together, going to the
- 12:15movies together, or going to a house
- 12:16party. You going into this social circle
- 12:18environment allows you to be able to,
- 12:20wait for it, generate attraction with
- 12:22women who aren't attracted to you. So,
- 12:25one more time, I've given you several
- 12:26examples in case any of you are confused
- 12:27about this or if any of you want to
- 12:29discuss this further. When you do cold
- 12:30approach and show intent, when you use a
- 12:33dating app, when you use matchmakers or
- 12:34when you do speed dating, that is very
- 12:36effective for women who already find you
- 12:39attractive. If a woman sees you as an
- 12:41eight and she sees herself as a six and
- 12:43you come up and show intent, that will
- 12:45work some of the time. So, for those of
- 12:47you right there, for the 4% of you on
- 12:49dating apps who get all the right
- 12:50swipes, this is a great strategy for
- 12:52you. Don't listen to anything I'm
- 12:53saying. If you have an Academy Award, if
- 12:54you have a billion dollars, you won an
- 12:56NBA championship, if you're incredibly
- 12:58famous, you're a streamer with 40
- 12:59million followers, don't listen to
- 13:01anything I say. Go direct with every
- 13:03single woman you you can. If you are
- 13:05Drake, you should go direct. But if
- 13:07you're below Drake, if you're in that
- 13:09bottom 98 percentile all the way down to
- 13:12zero, you probably shouldn't be showing
- 13:13intent to women who have not shown you
- 13:15any compliance. You probably shouldn't
- 13:17be showing intent to women who are not
- 13:19attracted to you. So while cold
- 13:21approach, dating apps, and matchmakers
- 13:23are for women who are already attracted
- 13:25to you, social circle is for women who
- 13:27aren't attracted to you yet. Social
- 13:29circle is the only mechanism where a
- 13:31woman can stay in your environment where
- 13:33you can generate attraction with her.
- 13:36Now, here's the thing. I want you to
- 13:37think about a bonfire. I want you to
- 13:38think about a bunch of people sitting
- 13:40around a bonfire. The bonfire doesn't
- 13:42know that there's people sitting around
- 13:43it. The bonfire just generates heat. The
- 13:45bonfire doesn't focus its heat in one
- 13:47direction or another. The bonfire just
- 13:49focuses heat in all directions. If
- 13:51everybody got up and left, the bonfire
- 13:52would still be hot. If everyone came and
- 13:54sat around the bonfire, the bonfire
- 13:56would heat everyone. That's how I want
- 13:57you to be with your attractiveness. I
- 13:59want you to be able to generate
- 14:00attraction in all directions at all
- 14:02times using the mechanisms that I teach
- 14:04you in social circle. But I don't need
- 14:06you to direct it at one woman like a
- 14:08laser. It's for everyone. Everyone gets
- 14:10to see that you're loud and boisterous.
- 14:12Everyone gets to see that you're
- 14:13confident. Everyone gets to see that
- 14:15you're competent and relevant and have
- 14:17social proof. Everyone gets to see your
- 14:18pre-selection. Everyone gets to see your
- 14:20leadership. It's not focused on one
- 14:22woman. Just like an attractive woman,
- 14:24her attractiveness is in all 360 degrees
- 14:26and everyone who witnesses her sees that
- 14:29she is physically attractive. I want to
- 14:31create the same thing for you in a
- 14:33social circle environment where multiple
- 14:35women get to see your attractive
- 14:36qualities. You get to provide warmth for
- 14:39the room just like a fire. And in doing
- 14:40so, you don't show direct individual
- 14:42intent towards any one woman. Now, I
- 14:44already know what's going to happen. I
- 14:45made a video where I was back in London
- 14:47and I was talking about how cold
- 14:48approach pickup showing intent is
- 14:50completely outdated. And if you guys
- 14:51will read the comments, it made so many
- 14:53people angry. They were coming after me
- 14:55and I'm going to say to them what I'm
- 14:56going to say to you guys right now. If
- 14:57you want to criticize anything that I'm
- 14:59saying, that's totally fine. If you want
- 15:00to come in there and talk about
- 15:01Michael's scared to talk to this girl or
- 15:03whatever, forgetting about the fact that
- 15:05I was actually an approach coach for the
- 15:06Venian Arts 18 years ago. If you want to
- 15:08say whatever you want, ironically, not
- 15:10recognizing that whoever your favorite
- 15:11pickup artist coaches, I've done more
- 15:13cold approach than they have and they
- 15:15haven't done any social circle. However,
- 15:17you want to criticize me, I only ask one
- 15:19thing. When you criticize me and tell me
- 15:21that you doing cold approach pickup has
- 15:23actually gotten you hotter women, you've
- 15:25got to leave your Instagram in the
- 15:27comment. You have to show the results
- 15:28that you got that are so much better
- 15:30than doing social circle. If you don't
- 15:32leave a link to your Instagram in the
- 15:34comment, I'm probably just going to
- 15:35delete your comment. I'm tired of
- 15:37sitting there listening to these people
- 15:38misinformed talk about, "Oh, I did cold
- 15:40approach and I met all these hot girls."
- 15:42And I'm like, "Cool. Show your proof."
- 15:44And then all of a sudden I get all these
- 15:45insults. No more of that. If you're a
- 15:47dating coach and you hate my content, if
- 15:49you think I'm taking all your clients
- 15:50and you think that I'm misinforming all
- 15:52that all these people, fine. Leave your
- 15:53Instagram in the comments. Show your
- 15:55proof. I don't mind if you don't want to
- 15:57show proof. What I have a problem with
- 15:58is that when I show proof, you criticize
- 16:00mine. If you're going to criticize my
- 16:02evidence, the fact that I can show
- 16:04hundreds and hundreds and hundreds and
- 16:06hundreds of testimonials proving that
- 16:08what I'm saying is right. If you want to
- 16:09criticize that, that's fine. It's just
- 16:11now you've got to show your proof as
- 16:13well. And of course, nobody will. I've
- 16:15been trying this for weeks, months,
- 16:17years, and every time I get these
- 16:18criticisms, nobody wants to show their
- 16:20proof. So, number one, if you don't
- 16:22leave a link to your Instagram in the
- 16:24comment, I'm not going to accept your
- 16:25comment. Number two, I'm going to ask
- 16:27you five questions. I want you to answer
- 16:28these questions honestly. All you
- 16:30hardcore cold approach guys out there,
- 16:32all you dudes, you old rich sugar
- 16:33daddies who keep paying women, or you
- 16:35guys who are on these matchmaker sites,
- 16:37or all you guys who keep manipulating
- 16:39your photos to try to dominate on dating
- 16:41apps, all of you guys, I want you to
- 16:43answer these five questions. Your
- 16:44friends who hate me, the ones who think
- 16:46I have the most punchable face in the
- 16:47world, I want you to send this video to
- 16:49them and I want you to have them
- 16:51honestly answer these five questions.
- 16:53Number one, how many social events were
- 16:56you invited to last month? And I'm
- 16:57talking about social events where
- 16:59there's more women than men or there's
- 17:01very very high status men. Be honest.
- 17:03Don't tell me that every time you go to
- 17:04the club, that's not being invited to a
- 17:06social event. How many times were you
- 17:08invited to a mansion party with
- 17:09millionaires and billionaires? How many
- 17:11times were you invited to go to a party,
- 17:13a dinner, a birthday where there's way
- 17:14more women than men? How many times were
- 17:16you invited on stage at a concert? How
- 17:19many times were you invited to an event
- 17:20where there were way more women than men
- 17:22or way more high status individuals? How
- 17:24many times in the last month have you
- 17:26been invited? Number two, how many women
- 17:28in your life right now could comfortably
- 17:31introduce you to more attractive women?
- 17:33For me, I would probably say it's
- 17:35probably 7 or 800. How many women in
- 17:38your life think highly enough of you and
- 17:41know enough other attractive women that
- 17:43where they would invite you to events
- 17:44where there's other attractive women or
- 17:45they would introduce you to other
- 17:47attractive women that you could possibly
- 17:48go out with? How many, be honest, how
- 17:51many female friends that are on your
- 17:53side would be willing to introduce you
- 17:55to other women? Number three, answer
- 17:57this honestly. If I were to look at your
- 17:59Instagram right now, does it look like
- 18:00you're someone that people know, trust,
- 18:02and want to be around? Does your
- 18:04Instagram show compliance that people
- 18:06enjoy your company? Do people follow you
- 18:08and comment? Do you just have photos up
- 18:10there where you're just sitting by
- 18:11yourself in a the lobby of a hotel by
- 18:13yourself and there's no women who like
- 18:15your photos or comment on them at all?
- 18:17Guys, I'm a male performance coach. My
- 18:19following should be 99% men, but it's
- 18:22only 84% men, which mean there's about
- 18:2442,000 women who follow me. And the
- 18:27reason why is because I show a lifestyle
- 18:29on social media that it's fun. People
- 18:31want to hang out with me. They trust me.
- 18:33They enjoy being around me. They show me
- 18:35compliance. And when we go out and have
- 18:37a great time, everything is taken care
- 18:38of, and everyone enjoys themselves. Ask
- 18:40yourself, does your Instagram show the
- 18:42same thing? Number four, how often do
- 18:45you create social environments or get
- 18:47invited to social environments where
- 18:49people can meet each other where you can
- 18:50be the connector, the suggesttor, or the
- 18:52content creator? How often per month do
- 18:54you get groups of friends together? How
- 18:56often are you trying to be a wingman for
- 18:57your homeboys and get them with a girl?
- 18:59How often are you trying to introduce
- 19:00successful people to one another? How
- 19:02often are you introducing one beautiful
- 19:04woman to another? How many times per
- 19:06month is that happening for you? And
- 19:07finally, number five, and this is going
- 19:09to hurt for some of you. If I were to
- 19:10take away your cold approach, your
- 19:12dating apps, your passport bro stuff,
- 19:14your matchmaker, all those other things,
- 19:16how many natural opportunities in your
- 19:19life would you have to meet someone to
- 19:21date? How many natural occurrences would
- 19:23you have in a month to actually meet
- 19:25awesome people to network with? Be
- 19:26honest with yourself. If you honestly
- 19:28assess those last five questions in your
- 19:30life and you come to the realization
- 19:31that your social circle is not that
- 19:33strong and that you've come to depend
- 19:34way too much on cold approach pickup
- 19:36dating apps or matchmakers. If you want
- 19:38to make a change in your life to where
- 19:40you can automatically create a funnel
- 19:42that brings amazing, beautiful women
- 19:43into your life competing with each other
- 19:45for your attention and you want to see
- 19:48hundreds of testimonials of other guys
- 19:50who've done this. 4700 other guys have
- 19:53already gone through this course and
- 19:54check out all the Trust Pilot reviews
- 19:56that you can possibly look at. If you
- 19:58want to do that, if you want to stop
- 19:59being skeptical and actually give Social
- 20:01Circle a try, take a second, click the
- 20:03link below, and I'll see you on the
- 20:04other
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