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0:01Today I’m going to tell you about a
0:02type of woman who causes massive
0:04devastation if she enters your life.
0:06And the reason is very simple. This
0:08woman has an absolute lack of warmth
0:11inside. Is she the ice queen? When you
0:14first meet her, it’s very easy to
0:17mistake that coldness for elegance,
0:19shyness, or the typical seduction game
0:21of playing hard to get. And you start
0:25investing time, well, to get that woman
0:28to open up, because you think she has a
0:30past that perhaps may have hurt her;
0:33but, in reality, you’re investing
0:35your energy and your hope in a
0:37bottomless pit alongside a woman who is
0:39never moved by what happens to you, but
0:42who only approaches you when it suits
0:44her. In today’s video, I’m going to
0:49explain the three clearest signs to
0:51detect an ice woman, a woman without
0:53empathy, on your first dates before you
0:55get way more involved. Also, stay until
0:59the end of the video because in the
1:01final reflection I’m going to reveal
1:03a psychological trap that makes you end
1:06up trying to save or change a woman who
1:08simply lacks the capacity to love you.
1:11But before we start with all of this, I
1:13want to remind you of something very
1:14important. I’m Laura S. Moreno and
1:16this is your channel, Laura Advises, a
1:18channel that would love to receive your
1:20like, your subscription, and also, why
1:22not? I suggest you become a member of
1:25this channel’s private circle. I’ll
1:27tell you about that in a bit, but for
1:28now, stay right here because we’re
1:29starting now. The first detail to look
1:41for to detect an ice woman, well, you
1:44might think she will appear very
1:46distant and very cold from the start.
1:49But that’s not how it happens; many
1:51times the exact opposite can occur. She
1:54can be the most interesting woman you
1:56meet at a party, and on the first few
1:58dates, you’ll see that this woman
2:00disguises her lack of empathy as
2:02confidence, an overwhelming sense of
2:04confidence. She’s a woman who talks
2:08to you about her projects, her travels,
2:11and her opinions with great energy,
2:13conveying a conviction that is very
2:15engaging, and you leave a date with her
2:18, or a few dates, thinking, "What an
2:20amazing, super independent woman, she
2:22has such a rich inner life and is
2:24incredibly deep." And I’m going to
2:28give you a very easy example that I see
2:30in my practice so you understand where
2:32the trap lies. Imagine the following.
2:34You are at a restaurant and she spends
2:3620 minutes telling you about the
2:38problem she had with her partner or the
2:40incredible trip she took last year. You
2:44, sitting there across from her,
2:46logically listen, show interest, even
2:49ask for details, and when there's
2:51finally a pause because the dialogue is
2:54dying down and you say something like,
2:57"Well, look, something similar happened
3:00at my job last week with a project,
3:02blah, blah, blah," a cold woman won't
3:05listen to you. What she does is use
3:08your sentence as a launchpad to hook
3:11into another story of her own, and she
3:14might say something like, "Oh, yeah,
3:16well, the same thing happened to me
3:18with another client." And she takes
3:21back the thread of the conversation
3:23very selfishly. You'll see there's no
3:26intention on her part to say to you, "
3:28Oh, yeah, that happened to you. And how
3:30did you solve it? What happened to you?
3:32Any further interest?" There's none of
3:34that. To her, your life is just
3:37background noise while she is preparing
3:39and thinking about her next
3:41intervention. And when I ask you in the
3:45consultation to analyze those real and
3:47unequal dynamics, you realize that
3:49you've been listening for 2 hours to a
3:52monologue where your participation is
3:54zero. It's as if there had been an
3:58exhibition by this woman, but she has
4:01shown zero interest in you. This is
4:05very clear because from the outside,
4:08it's obvious that you confuse this
4:10woman's egocentrism or constant need
4:12for admiration with a magnetic
4:14personality, and they are not the same
4:17thing. And to avoid feeling
4:20uncomfortable noticing that you don't
4:22matter to her, you mentally look for
4:24excuses like, "She was just nervous,
4:27she talks a lot because she has a very
4:29strong personality, or she's a very
4:31powerful woman, or she's a high-level
4:33professional," whatever. But look, to
4:36clear up any doubts, there is a very
4:39easy test you have to do on the next
4:41date. The change-of-direction test. Try
4:45taking the floor yourself without
4:47apologizing. And start sharing
4:49something of yours that you're
4:51enthusiastic about, something you're
4:53excited to share, something about work
4:55or a personal anecdote that follows the
4:57thread of what is being discussed. And
5:00observe, observe very carefully what
5:02she does in that instant, because a
5:04woman with empathy and interest will
5:06listen to you, connect, and ask you
5:08something about what you just said, but
5:11a cold woman will do one of these two
5:13things. Either she interrupts you after
5:1810 seconds to steer the conversation
5:20back to herself and be the protagonist,
5:22or she'll just stare at her phone, the
5:25menu, or something else, waiting for
5:27you to stop talking so she can take the
5:29floor and bring up a topic that
5:31interests her. If you notice that to
5:36have space in the conversation you have
5:39to fight for your turn or ask for
5:41permission, it’s not that she’s an
5:43independent woman, it’s that she’s
5:45a cold woman who just wants you to be a
5:48spectator. She wants nothing more, she
5:51doesn’t intend to be your partner
5:53because she finds it extremely
5:55difficult to connect with you
5:57empathically. Friend, allow me a few
6:01seconds to remind you of two important
6:03things. You may have noticed that there
6:05is a series of content on this channel
6:06that is for members only? Well yes, it
6:08is only for members, members of the
6:11private circle. And you can become a
6:13member of the private circle; I’ll
6:14tell you how in the description and the
6:16first pinned comment. And you can sign
6:19up and access all that content and also
6:21the live streams that I announce well
6:23in advance. And number two, if you want
6:26an online psychology session with me,
6:28you know where you can book it, right
6:31here: ww.laurasmoreno. laurasmoreno.com
6:34and we can have a session via video
6:37call. Let’s continue with the content
6:39right now. The second detail to detect
6:45this ice queen as soon as possible is
6:47the absolute absence of warm gestures
6:50or initiative. In this initial phase,
6:54when you’ve had a first date, well,
6:55what is she going to do? Well, very
6:58often, what she’s going to do is
7:00adopt a passive role in communication.
7:03That is, you propose plans, you find
7:06places, you insist on seeing her, you
7:08send messages to see how she’s doing;
7:11you carry all the weight, all the
7:14contact. And once again, a man’s mind
7:17has to justify that coldness by making
7:19up excuses. "She’s just a woman who
7:23likes to be conquered, she’s very
7:24independent and finds it hard to take
7:26the first step.""It's just that she
7:29doesn't want to seem desperate," which
7:31many of you say to me often, you say: "
7:33No, she does this because she doesn't
7:35want to seem desperate." But the truth
7:37is that there is a huge difference
7:39between being a reserved person who
7:41takes her time, and being an ice queen,
7:43emotionally frozen. A more reserved
7:47woman, if you propose a plan she likes,
7:49you will notice excitement in her, she
7:52will have some gesture, she will
7:54appreciate your effort. If she can't
7:56make that day, she'll suggest an
7:58alternative. You'll see her as very
8:01receptive, and she'll also take small
8:04steps toward you, shyly, but she'll be
8:06there with a certain level of
8:08commitment—the normal amount for the
8:10stage of the relationship you're in.
8:14The ice queen, right? The ice queen
8:16won't do any of this. She will take a
8:19stance as if she were a VIP spectator.
8:22She will just go with the flow. She
8:24accepts plans if they suit her, but she
8:26never goes as far as sending a
8:28thank-you message, or saying she
8:30thought of you, or asking how that
8:32important meeting went for you this
8:34morning. There won't be any gestures of
8:37that kind. And you can run a test. If
8:42you stop pulling the weight for three
8:44or four days to see what happens, you
8:46will see that her silence will be
8:47absolute. There is no curiosity about
8:51you as a person, or about your life.
8:53There is no gesture of warmth or any
8:55genuine outreach. In consultations,
8:58this is very clear, and this behavior,
9:01as I am explaining it to you here, has
9:04very little to do with shyness,
9:06insecurity, or caution. What happens is
9:09that these women conceive of
9:11relationships based on convenience,
9:13never on affection. There is no
9:15emotional involvement. That is why they
9:18are ice queens, and they will treat you
9:20like a service that is there whenever
9:22they feel like having a plan or feeling
9:25admired; but you will see that, on her
9:27part, there is no willingness or
9:29intention to invest even a little
9:32energy in your well-being or in
9:34cultivating the relationship from the
9:36heart. If you notice that you are the
9:41only one feeding the fire and you run
9:43the test—the ultimate test of not
9:46initiating contact—and the
9:48relationship goes cold, you are not
9:50facing a woman who is hard to win over;
9:53you are facing a woman who completely
9:56lacks the emotional empathy to give you
9:58a place in her life. The third sign to
10:04detect an ice queen is the most
10:06dangerous of all because it is the one
10:08that can confuse you the most. These
10:12are those sparks of instrumental
10:13empathy, I would call them, because
10:16they serve a purpose. Let me explain. A
10:20person without empathy, without
10:22emotional empathy, is not a robot that
10:24can be cold as ice 24 hours a day.
10:27There are very specific moments in
10:30which she can show herself to be a
10:32little closer, a little more
10:34affectionate, or even falsely attentive
10:36. The problem is that this warmth does
10:39not stem from a real interest in you,
10:41but from a specific need of hers. Let
10:44me give you a very clear example.
10:48Suddenly, on a Tuesday afternoon, she
10:50sends you a message that seems, let's
10:52say, affectionate. She asks how you're
10:57doing, suggests grabbing a drink, or
10:59says something with a different energy,
11:01and since you don't know her that well,
11:03you think, "This is it, she's opening
11:05up, the spark is there, the wall is
11:07coming down, right?" But later, when
11:12you've met up and talked, if you
11:15analyze the context, you'll see that
11:18this gesture of false empathy coincides
11:21exactly with a day she needed a favor,
11:24a boost to her self-esteem, or perhaps
11:27she had plans with friends that
11:30suddenly fell through. As soon as she
11:36gets that dose of attention or fulfills
11:39her need, the shutter of empathy, that
11:41ice, slams shut again, and the distance
11:44returns, along with cold messages and
11:47disinterest. It's empathy, as I say
11:51here, that you can just take off and
11:52put on. I know this is very confusing
11:55for you because it acts like a mirage
11:58in the desert, right? You cling to that
12:02one small, warm gesture to justify
12:05weeks of absence and coldness, and
12:07weeks of seeing no signs from the heart
12:10, just total detachment. Therefore, if
12:15you notice her displays of affection
12:16are unpredictable but coincide with
12:18what she needs at that moment, it’s
12:20not vulnerability, it’s not shyness,
12:22it's none of that. You are witnessing,
12:26my friend, how she uses closeness as a
12:29tool, as a bargaining chip to keep you
12:31available, but not to connect with you.
12:37And now, if this woman gives you so
12:39little, keeps so much distance, and is
12:42so cold, the question you should ask
12:44yourself is, why don't I turn around
12:47and leave as soon as I realize this?
12:51Well, for one thing, you know the
12:53classic intermittent reinforcement I've
12:56talked about in other videos comes into
12:58play, that little drop of attention now
13:01and then that keeps you hooked, waiting
13:03for another dose. But besides that, I
13:07wanted to tell you about a deeper
13:09psychological trigger that traps you,
13:11which is the fantasy of feeling like
13:13the man she chose. It works like this.
13:18When you detect a cold woman, your mind
13:20, because you like her so much, of
13:23course, doesn't read that coldness as a
13:25warning sign, but rather as a personal
13:28challenge. And you tell yourself: "She
13:32has had bad experiences, but if I am
13:35patient and show her that I am a
13:37different kind of man, I will achieve
13:39what others haven't, which is to get
13:42her to let her guard down and open up
13:44to me." You turn her inability to
13:47connect into a kind of trophy for
13:49yourself. That is very dangerous
13:51because you believe that if you manage
13:53to make that ice queen melt for you,
13:55you will have proven your value is
13:57superior to all the men who passed
13:58through her life. You take on the role
14:02of the Savior, which you guys love so
14:04much, without realizing that you are
14:06trying to open a door that isn't locked
14:08with a padlock; it's just that there is
14:10no door at all. Therefore, the danger
14:15of staying by an ice queen's side isn't
14:17just what you suffer due to her
14:19distance; you also have to consider how
14:22much you wear yourself out trying to
14:24prove your worth to someone who simply
14:26doesn't have the capacity to value you.
14:41Friends, we are here for this final
14:43reflection, characteristic of all my
14:45videos, and I want to make a very
14:47important clarification here before
14:49finishing, because I don't want you
14:51going through life discarding valuable
14:53women at the first sign of trouble. I
14:57mean, you have to know how to
14:58differentiate an ice queen from a woman
15:01who is simply shy, reserved, or who has
15:03suffered in the past and finds it a bit
15:06harder to open up. And it's not that
15:10easy to tell them apart, believe me,
15:11and of course, it's not that easy to
15:13tell them apart on the first date, so
15:15you don't need to be in any rush. What
15:18do I mean? That to clear up any doubts,
15:21the key isn't guessing; the key is to
15:23observe how she reacts when you test
15:25her with small gestures. A shy woman
15:29might be embarrassed to suggest a plan
15:31to you or might be timid when it comes
15:33to looking you straight in the eyes.
15:37But when you take the step or show her
15:39warmth on your part, she feels safe and
15:42responds with excitement, gratitude,
15:44and also enormous relief, because she
15:46was waiting for that from you. You will
15:51feel her warmth, even if she is a
15:53little harder to handle because she is
15:55more shy. An ice queen, no matter how
15:59many tests you put her through and how
16:01much time you give her, will always
16:04maintain that distance and that lack of
16:06interest in your inner world. And to be
16:10able to differentiate these cases and
16:12be more certain that you are dealing
16:14with an ice queen, you simply know what
16:17you have to do: invest a little more,
16:19not much more, just a little more in
16:21having a few more dates to be able to
16:23set some tests and realize that this
16:25woman has no heart, and then you can
16:28discard her. Don't rush it. So give
16:32yourself some space, watch closely how
16:34this woman acts, especially between
16:36dates, and put those reciprocity tests
16:38I've talked about in this video to the
16:40test. But you have to be very aware of
16:43what you are looking for, because if
16:46you see that after a reasonable amount
16:48of time—and you don't need to invest
16:51a huge amount of time—that scale
16:53never balances and the interest only
16:55goes in one direction, don't try to
16:58invest more or melt this woman's heart
17:00of ice, because this woman doesn't want
17:03you to melt anything. Remember that
17:06shyness is usually cured with
17:08confidence and giving it a little time,
17:10but a lack of empathy and coldness can
17:11never be cured with anything. Do you
17:16know that there is a profile of man who
17:18knows perfectly well how to avoid
17:20problematic women? Well look, if you
17:23don't know, there's a video I made a
17:25few weeks ago that talks exactly about
17:27that, profiles of women that smart men
17:30know how to avoid. If you haven't seen
17:33it, well, I think you need to watch it.
17:34I'm going to leave it linked for you
17:36here at the end of this video. Also, I
17:38remind you that you can sign up for my
17:40community, the one outside of YouTube,
17:42and you can also become a member of the
17:44channel, a member of the private circle
17:46, and access all the exclusive content
17:48for members. If you liked the video, I
17:51would love to receive your like. I'm
17:53going to read your comment because you
17:55know I really like snooping through
17:57your comments, you give me many ideas,
17:59and why not, I'll leave a big heart for
18:01you. There it is. I'll see you very
18:03soon in the next content or become a
18:05member of the channel. Alright, see you
18:07later.

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