April 23, 2026 — Transcript

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1. 0:00You just walked in here and didn't say
2. 0:01anything. I didn't say anything.
3. 0:03>> You didn't
4. 0:03even say anything.
5. 0:04>> Why are you storming out?
6. 0:05>> Stop talking to your mother and stop
7. 0:08talking to her in private.
8. 0:10>> Love.
9. 0:10>> Do it in front of me. Why don't you call
10. 0:12her in front of me and say I want advice
11. 0:13from my mom.
12. 0:15>> You're right.
13. 0:15>> Talk to me. It's my dad.
14. 0:28>> What's she doing up there?
15. 0:32She just
16. 0:34slammed whatever door was upstairs.
17. 0:36[crying]
18. 0:40>> [screaming]
19. 0:45[crying]
20. 0:50>> I'm going to have to take care of you.
21. 1:19Hey, open up.
22. 1:23>> You're not listening to me.
23. 1:26>> What do you mean you're done?
24. 1:27>> You're done. Just ask me. Because I'm
25. 1:30right here. You can see your phone with
26. 1:32your mom every second.
27. 1:33>> No, it wasn't a secret phone call.
28. 1:37>> I DON'T CARE. IT'S MY DAD. ASK ME.
29. 1:40>> I was going to tell you.
30. 1:41>> Why would you do that?
31. 1:43>> I was going
32. 1:43>> Ask me before you go downstairs, not
33. 1:45after. And I go downstairs and I'm like,
34. 1:47"Where did he go?"
35. 1:48>> It was just a phone call.
36. 1:50>> No, it's not just a phone call. We just
37. 1:52talked about this, not asking your mom
38. 1:54for opinions.
39. 1:55>> It's not an opinion.
40. 1:56>> You, it's my dad.
41. 1:58>> No.
42. 1:59>> Stop doing it. Apologize.
43. 2:02>> Love.
44. 2:03>> Apologize.
45. 2:04>> Love.
46. 2:04>> Apologize.
47. 2:06>> Love.
48. 2:07Stop.
49. 2:08>> Right now, apologize.
50. 2:09>> Stop.
51. 2:10>> Apologize. We just got over this.
52. 2:13>> Yeah.
53. 2:13>> I thought we would be better about
54. 2:15communicating and you're on the phone
55. 2:17with your mom 2 seconds later.
56. 2:19The second you hear my dad's mad at you,
57. 2:21you call your mom?
58. 2:22>> Stop yelling.
59. 2:24>> Apologize to me now for going upstairs
60. 2:27in secret, number one, not telling me
61. 2:29before I'm going to go down and make a
62. 2:30phone call to your mom. You could have
63. 2:31done it in front of me, number two.
64. 2:33>> have told you.
65. 2:34>> And number three, you went to your mom.
66. 2:36>> I called both my mom
67. 2:38>> Why is your dad calling me?
68. 2:39>> Cuz he's probably thinking that you're
69. 2:41chewing me out, which you are. Which all
70. 2:43I asked was is, "Hey, how do I go about
71. 2:45this?"
72. 2:48>> Talk to me first.
73. 2:49>> I will tell her.
74. 2:50>> Not your mom first.
75. 2:52>> Which you've told ME
76. 2:53>> [ __ ] UP AGAIN. YOU WENT TO YOUR MOM
77. 2:55FIRST INSTEAD of me. I'm your wife.
78. 2:57>> You told me and you already gave me
79. 2:58advice.
80. 2:59>> I No, you didn't.
81. 3:01>> I was just getting You told me already.
82. 3:03>> I told you. You didn't ask me. I told
83. 3:05you. I said, "You know what? Actually,
84. 3:06you should probably call him tomorrow
85. 3:08instead." And you never asked me. You
86. 3:11didn't say a word.
87. 3:13>> Love.
88. 3:14>> You didn't say a word.
89. 3:16>> "You should probably call him first."
90. 3:18AND
91. 3:18>> APOLOGIZE. STOP TRYING THIS. APOLOGIZE.
92. 3:21You just did three things wrong. You ran
93. 3:23upstairs in secret. You then are on the
94. 3:26phone with your mom in secret. You don't
95. 3:28tell me beforehand, "I'm going to call
96. 3:30my mom." I don't know where you are. I'm
97. 3:32just like, "Where the heck did he go?"
98. 3:33He's in the garage for a minute. I'm
99. 3:35done with the garage being a secret
100. 3:36hiding spot, number two. Like that This
101. 3:38is getting ridiculous.
102. 3:40>> Love, you need to
103. 3:40>> The garage is not a secret hiding spot
104. 3:42to go and make secret phone calls.
105. 3:44>> Stop yelling at me.
106. 3:45>> Tell me you You knew you were going to
107. 3:47go downstairs and call your mom with the
108. 3:48intention to call her in private. And
109. 3:51you could have just called her in front
110. 3:52of me. So that and then you could have
111. 3:54also just asked me for advice and left
112. 3:56your mom out of it.
113. 3:57>> You already gave me advice. So I was
114. 3:59just saying, how do I go to
115. 4:01>> I was asking both my parents. I said,
116. 4:04"Hey, you and mom and dad
117. 4:06>> Stop it.
118. 4:07>> Love.
119. 4:07>> It's no longer This is the last time we
120. 4:10are calling him about this incident.
121. 4:12This is the last time.
122. 4:13>> It's not.
123. 4:14>> No, it is. I'm done with it. We're going
124. 4:16to therapy over it. I'm not doing your
125. 4:18parents anymore. They're biased. I'm not
126. 4:21doing this.
127. 4:22>> I'm asking them for me.
128. 4:24>> I'm not doing I don't care. It's an us
129. 4:26issue.
130. 4:27>> Please stop yelling.
131. 4:28>> It's an us issue.
132. 4:29>> Stop yelling.
133. 4:30>> You just pissed me off. WE JUST GOT OVER
134. 4:32THIS. YOU SAID YOU WOULD COME to me.
135. 4:34>> yelling. You're slamming the door.
136. 4:36>> You said you would come to me.
137. 4:39>> Stop yelling.
138. 4:40>> We just got over this.
139. 4:42>> Stop yelling.
140. 4:46>> Stop calling your parents. Stop it. It's
141. 4:49so disrespectful to me, especially in
142. 4:51secret. And not just tell me, "I want to
143. 4:54get my mom's opinion." cuz I would have
144. 4:55said, "No, baby. She Like she's not even
145. 4:57She doesn't know my Like my dad Like I
146. 4:59know my dad."
147. 5:00>> I know that.
148. 5:01>> Why do they keep calling me?
149. 5:03>> Answer it.
150. 5:04>> Why?
151. 5:04>> Answer it.
152. 5:05>> Why?
153. 5:06>> Answer it.
154. 5:06>> I don't want to. Why? Why is he calling
155. 5:08me? What did you say to your mom? Why is
156. 5:10she calling me?
157. 5:11>> Legit, the only thing I talked about was
158. 5:12your dad. Answer it.
159. 5:13>> are they calling?
160. 5:14>> Answer it.
161. 5:17>> Why?
162. 5:18>> Answer it.
163. 5:18>> I don't want to. I don't I don't want to
164. 5:20talk to your dad.
165. 5:21>> it's going to help you.
166. 5:23>> How? It's my own dad. What is this
167. 5:25about?
168. 5:26>> Babe.
169. 5:28To understand. Answer it.
170. 5:31>> Understand what?
171. 5:32>> My intention. It was not to make you
172. 5:35upset.
173. 5:35>> It did. Can you just apologize cuz it
174. 5:38did?
175. 5:38>> I'm sorry I called my mom in secret. I
176. 5:41should have told you.
177. 5:42>> up. We just went over this. I I believe
178. 5:45you did that once again.
179. 5:47>> There's no need to yell.
180. 5:48>> You don't even think we need therapy.
181. 5:49You don't think you're the problem. This
182. 5:50again. We're not getting anywhere.
183. 5:53>> I already said I'm sorry.
184. 6:02You just going to keep ignoring my dad?
185. 6:04>> What am I going to say to him? And what
186. 6:06is he I don't know what he even wants
187. 6:07from me. There's nothing I can say to
188. 6:09him. I don't have anything to say to
189. 6:10him.
190. 6:11>> to be fine.
191. 6:12>> It's not related to him. He shouldn't
192. 6:14even be a part of
193. 6:14>> to be okay.
194. 6:16>> He shouldn't even be a part of it. I'm
195. 6:17done. I'm done with your parents calling
196. 6:19me.
197. 6:21And your mom telling me to call her
198. 6:22and stuff. I'm not doing it.
199. 6:24>> is going to be in our life regardless.
200. 6:26>> Okay, well I'm not doing it because your
201. 6:28mom has already made it clear she's
202. 6:29biased. So I'm not talking to her about
203. 6:31other things. I'm not telling her about
204. 6:32my personal opinion or feelings anymore.
205. 6:34>> Love, you need to cool down.
206. 6:37Seriously, stop yelling at me.
207. 6:39>> did something incredibly hurtful that I
208. 6:41wouldn't even do.
209. 6:43I would have at least told you I wanted
210. 6:45to go talk to my mom or family in
211. 6:46private. When I went on my walk, I
212. 6:48didn't want to go call anyone.
213. 6:51And if I was going to, I would have said
214. 6:53that.
215. 6:53>> Hey, you're right, which is why I
216. 6:55apologized.
217. 6:56Ooh.
218. 6:58It's why you apologized.
219. 6:59>> Don't do it again. And I'm asking you,
220. 7:01please. Your mom told me earlier she's
221. 7:03done helping us at this point. So stop.
222. 7:07Stop going to her for this. It's therapy
223. 7:09now. We'll call someone tomorrow. I'm
224. 7:11not doing this. No more your mom.
225. 7:14She is like now like I like I I it
226. 7:18drives me nuts. I'm your wife and every
227. 7:21time I get to see you, you're on the
228. 7:22phone with your mom.
229. 7:23It's so rude. Get off the phone with
230. 7:25your mom. Am I on the phone with my
231. 7:26parents?
232. 7:28>> You were.
233. 7:28>> During our arguments, am I on the phone
234. 7:30with our parents? And am I running
235. 7:31downstairs making secret phone calls?
236. 7:34>> That's not what's happening.
237. 7:35>> I don't do that. And if I do call them,
238. 7:37it's days later. They didn't even know
239. 7:38about last week and I I now for freaking
240. 7:41a week later
241. 7:43told them.
242. 7:44>> Okay. So, this is like
243. 7:47you need to give it some time and not
244. 7:49like every single thing that comes to
245. 7:51your thought call and ask your mom.
246. 7:53And again, she doesn't know Michael like
247. 7:56I do. I know my dad better than anyone.
248. 7:58>> I'm saying from a parent's perspective,
249. 8:00how do you think I should handle this?
250. 8:01I'm not saying Michael specifically,
251. 8:03love. I'm saying, "Hey, if this were in
252. 8:06your shoes."
253. 8:07>> What did you tell your mom when you
254. 8:08called her? Any questions? She told me
255. 8:10that she told Michael everything
256. 8:13>> No. I said we are trying to apply for
257. 8:15this thing and she said that she told
258. 8:17Michael some stuff what happened. And I
259. 8:19said, "How should I go about this?
260. 8:21Should I call him now or should I call
261. 8:23him later?" And then you opened the
262. 8:24door. That's it.
263. 8:26Literally, that's it.
264. 8:28And then I said, "Hang on." And then I
265. 8:29opened the door. I said, "I'm just
266. 8:30trying to get advice."
267. 8:31>> dad now, I that would have been more
268. 8:33time in the garage and I was waiting to
269. 8:35eat
270. 8:36and I was
271. 8:36>> Which is why I'm just trying to figure
272. 8:37out if I should call your dad now or if
273. 8:39later. And then I was going to come up
274. 8:41and tell you what what it was. What the
275. 8:43conversation was. That's all it was.
276. 8:45It really was.
277. 8:47>> I told you wait tomorrow till tomorrow.
278. 8:49What did your mom say? Wait till
279. 8:50tomorrow. We're saying the same
280. 8:52thing. You need to stop. Drawing the
281. 8:54line. No more your mom in our
282. 8:55relationship. It's not a trying I didn't
283. 8:57marry your mom. I married you. Stop it.
284. 9:00>> Something in me felt like I should call
285. 9:02her.
286. 9:02>> it. Stop. This is a boundary I will have
287. 9:05from now on until we go to therapy and
288. 9:07even during therapy, no more your mom.
289. 9:10No more because it's driving me nuts and
290. 9:13it's not fair to me. I shouldn't be in
291. 9:15competition with your mom about advice
292. 9:17and stuff.
293. 9:18>> not in competition with my mom.
294. 9:19>> Stop then. Then stop. You don't need her
295. 9:22opinion. We most of times say the same
296. 9:24things.
297. 9:25You don't need a second opinion.
298. 9:28>> I'm saying the second opinion, but
299. 9:29>> Hey, we're not 7 and we're married. She
300. 9:32does not need to be in our relationship.
301. 9:33She does not need to give you advice.
302. 9:35That is between you and you in your own
303. 9:37head and you need to figure things out.
304. 9:39>> adulting.
305. 9:39>> You need to figure things out in our
306. 9:41relationship by yourself cuz you don't
307. 9:42need someone telling you how to be.
308. 9:45>> They're not giving me advice.
309. 9:46>> and what's No, they're giving you advice
310. 9:48and stuff. That's You don't shouldn't
311. 9:50need it from your mom.
312. 9:52>> But it's let's talk it out.
313. 9:54>> It's our issue. We agree We told me from
314. 9:56the start of our relationship if we have
315. 9:58an issue that it's between you and me
316. 10:00and to not let a third person in. My
317. 10:02therapist
318. 10:03>> the other thing
319. 10:04>> My therapist
320. 10:05>> Somebody is always talking like they
321. 10:06know everything.
322. 10:06>> planning, I was still going to my
323. 10:08therapist when we were wedding planning
324. 10:10and when your mom got involved and my
325. 10:13therapist said, "Do not create a
326. 10:15triangle in a relationship. Have Mason
327. 10:17come to you for everything first and
328. 10:19only you and because your mom is not in
329. 10:22the relationship. A marriage will not
330. 10:24survive if a third person is involved."
331. 10:27>> My mother
332. 10:28>> That's what the therapist said and I can
333. 10:29I can literally probably text her if you
334. 10:31have her number. She She'll probably
335. 10:33remember saying that. If you need her to
336. 10:34text I I will text her. A third person
337. 10:37cannot be in our relationship and your
338. 10:38mom feels like she's in the relationship
339. 10:41now.
340. 10:42>> on the texts.
341. 10:42>> Okay, no more. You have to agree. No
342. 10:45more.
343. 10:46We don't need to
344. 10:47>> to say I'm not going to say no more.
345. 10:49>> And if you do
346. 10:50>> But I will apologize for now.
347. 10:52>> You need to run it by me. Cuz there's no
348. 10:54more like you
349. 10:54>> apologize for now.
350. 10:55>> you driving away, there's no more like
351. 10:57of you taking space without telling me
352. 11:00where you're going or who you're
353. 11:01calling. Like you need to tell me if
354. 11:04you're going to get your mom's advice,
355. 11:05you need to say, "Babe, I'm letting you
356. 11:07know I'm going to share this information
357. 11:08with my mom." Because I need I want to
358. 11:10know.
359. 11:12Just like I told you that I told my dad,
360. 11:14I would want to know what you're telling
361. 11:16your mom. You need to tell me.
362. 11:17>> later.
363. 11:18>> Cuz you already told your parents. Why
364. 11:20does it matter? They already know Your
365. 11:21whole family knows everything.
366. 11:24Why does it matter if my dad knows
367. 11:26something? Your family already knows.
368. 11:27They already knew we were there.
369. 11:30My dad's been left in the dark.
370. 11:32>> It's only my parents and that I've tried
371. 11:34to call and your dad hasn't been left in
372. 11:36the dark. My dad has reached out and has
373. 11:39told him a little bit about what
374. 11:40happened.
375. 11:40>> Just her dad was trying to be respectful
376. 11:42and not tell him something.
377. 11:42>> what I also tried to do the same day. I
378. 11:45tried to call him the same day.
379. 11:47>> No, you didn't.
380. 11:49>> On my way to the gym, I told you I tried
381. 11:51to reach out to your dad, but my dad got
382. 11:53to meet him first.
383. 11:54>> Uh-huh.
384. 11:54>> I was going to kind of run through
385. 11:56everything that happened.
386. 11:57>> You didn't Okay, no more secret phone
387. 11:58calls.
388. 12:00>> I've already apologized.
389. 12:01>> And no more with your mom in the
390. 12:02relationship. I can't do it anymore.
391. 12:05>> I can't tell you
392. 12:06>> straw. I cannot do it anymore.
393. 12:09>> every I can't tell you
394. 12:11>> She already told me in any situation
395. 12:13next week when she was like go to
396. 12:14therapy. I can't do it anymore. I'm
397. 12:16biased.
398. 12:16>> I can't tell you that I'm not going to
399. 12:18go to my mom
400. 12:19if
401. 12:19>> she's biased. I'm telling you right now
402. 12:21she told me this morning she could to go
403. 12:23to therapy. She said I'm done helping
404. 12:24you guys. I'm so I'm biased.
405. 12:26>> see if I'm in the wrong about something.
406. 12:28>> But she said it's my son. I'll always
407. 12:30love him more and I will always take
408. 12:32usually and subconsciously take his
409. 12:34side.
410. 12:35>> Love.
411. 12:36>> You can't It's like me asking my own
412. 12:38mom. She's always going to take my side.
413. 12:40It's not fair.
414. 12:43It's not fair to me. You need to see
415. 12:45that.
416. 12:46>> I see it.
417. 12:46>> Go to a professional that's unbiased
418. 12:48from now on or a friend that's unbiased,
419. 12:50not a family member.
420. 12:52>> I'm not
421. 12:52>> Go to Jordan and Ashley, not a family
422. 12:54member.
423. 12:55>> cutting me off.
424. 12:56>> Stop going to your family that's known
425. 12:57you for years and years and they haven't
426. 12:59known you.
427. 13:01>> I'm someone that was added to the family
428. 13:03later on through marriage. I wasn't I'm
429. 13:05not as familiar.
430. 13:07>> You are family.
431. 13:09>> It's not the same, babe. I'm not blood.
432. 13:11It's not the same.
433. 13:12>> You are.
434. 13:13>> I'm not.
435. 13:14>> Love.
436. 13:15>> It's not the same. They're biased. Your
437. 13:17mom even said she's She admitted to me
438. 13:19this morning. She was like before I even
439. 13:20said anything, she said, "I'm biased. I
440. 13:22will admit it." Before I even said
441. 13:24anything, she admitted that.
442. 13:26>> This ties you here. I don't care what my
443. 13:30mother says.
444. 13:31I'm telling you that Levi, having Levi
445. 13:35and even marrying me
446. 13:38is important and it's not that it's not
447. 13:39important. You are family and you are a
448. 13:42family to my mother. She is not going to
449. 13:43treat you any different.
450. 13:45She wants what's best She wants what's
451. 13:48best for Levi and she wants what's best
452. 13:50for me
453. 13:51>> And for you.
454. 13:53>> She wants what's best for you.
455. 13:54>> She told us go to therapy cuz she's
456. 13:56buying us. I told her that.
457. 13:57>> told me She's also told me cuz Mason,
458. 13:59I'm sorry. I do have to withdraw myself.
459. 14:02>> Yeah.
460. 14:03>> But I hope Ava knows I want everything
461. 14:06that's best for her.
462. 14:06>> So withdraw her. She's even told you
463. 14:09she's told us twice today she's done.
464. 14:11Leave her out of it.
465. 14:12>> about an argument. This was just about
466. 14:14from a parent's standpoint, what should
467. 14:17I do?
468. 14:17>> on. I'm telling you Mason, leave her out
469. 14:20of our marriage, please.
470. 14:23It's not fair. No, I'm serious. This is
471. 14:25>> mother. I'm not going to cut her out
472. 14:27completely.
473. 14:28>> This is a boundary.
474. 14:29>> She's my mother. That's my boundary.
475. 14:32>> No, it's not. I don't tell No, this is
476. 14:34goes back to you not telling her every
477. 14:36argument we have.
478. 14:37>> telling her every argument.
479. 14:38>> Then stop going to her the way you are.
480. 14:40It's too much. It's too much for me.
481. 14:42It's too much every time we have an
482. 14:44argument, every time I leave for the
483. 14:46gym, it's too much.
484. 14:48>> When it gets to a point to where I feel
485. 14:51that the relationship is in danger, I'm
486. 14:53going to family
487. 14:54>> So I'm thinking that with me, I'm the
488. 14:56person that you're in danger with.
489. 14:57>> you are the one that caused the danger.
490. 15:00So I I am trying to figure out hey, I
491. 15:03I need I need
492. 15:05I need advice.
493. 15:06>> can't save it through your mom. I don't
494. 15:07care what she tells you. She could give
495. 15:10you She could give you advice that leads
496. 15:12you astray cuz you know me better than
497. 15:13she does. So don't listen to her.
498. 15:16>> So I can take what she says with a grain
499. 15:18of salt. I'm a big boy. I I handle it.
500. 15:20>> You're not a big boy. You can't handle
501. 15:22it. You're calling your mom. You can't.
502. 15:24You can't handle it.
503. 15:25>> You are now insulting.
504. 15:27>> You said you were too old for this.
505. 15:29>> She told us we're too old for this. Stop
506. 15:31calling her.
507. 15:32>> Call my dad.
508. 15:33>> I'm not calling your dad. I don't need
509. 15:35to talk to
510. 15:37>> I love you.
511. 15:39>> Why are you talking to
512. 15:45>> I've already apologized. I'm only
513. 15:47sitting here and having a yelling match.
514. 15:48>> I'm telling you to tell me you're not
515. 15:51going to do it as much as you're doing
516. 15:53it now. You need to stop doing it. I
517. 15:55shouldn't feel like every time I need to
518. 15:57be yelling on the phone with your mom.
519. 15:58You are. The whole day you've been on
520. 16:00the phone with your mom. You called her
521. 16:02at the gym. You called her when I was
522. 16:04gone at the gym.
523. 16:06You call her now. You called her this
524. 16:08morning. This is too much. It's like
525. 16:10five times today you called her.
526. 16:12>> why is cuz I'm worried that what has
527. 16:15happened has not been able to be
528. 16:16replaced.
529. 16:19>> I did.
530. 16:20>> Then leave it. Stop. Okay.
531. 16:21>> And I left it there.
532. 16:22>> Moving on. From tomorrow starting
533. 16:24forward, stop calling your mom for
534. 16:26everything cuz I'm telling you the same
535. 16:28thing. Stop going to her for advice
536. 16:30where you can easily ask me. Stop going
537. 16:32to her. If you're going to go to her for
538. 16:33advice, give me a warning. Tell me I
539. 16:36need to involve my mom in this so I know
540. 16:38what she knows and what she doesn't
541. 16:39know.
542. 16:39>> But But if you're If you don't listen to
543. 16:42me
544. 16:42>> Also keep in mind every argument you
545. 16:44tell her we have she's
546. 16:46she's going to think start thinking I am
547. 16:48the problem and I am crazy and All this
548. 16:50stuff subconsciously.
549. 16:51>> cutting me off. You cut me off. You
550. 16:54don't listen to my side. So I'm asking
551. 16:56to see if I'm actually in the wrong.
552. 16:59So you keep cutting me off and you get
553. 17:00to a point where you don't listen to
554. 17:02what I have to say.
555. 17:04You do.
556. 17:05So I need to be able to hear out and I
557. 17:08need to be able to talk out with
558. 17:09whatever I'm doing cuz you don't listen
559. 17:11to what I have to say.
560. 17:13>> I always listen. I sat here for 24 hours
561. 17:16listening to you.
562. 17:18>> No.
563. 17:18>> I even tried to get you to talk more. I
564. 17:21sat here through everything.
565. 17:23>> Love, but you don't listen to it. You
566. 17:24hear it.
567. 17:25>> I hear it. I listen. I understand it.
568. 17:28But, I don't agree with it. And I'm not
569. 17:30your mom, so I'm not the one fixing your
570. 17:32[ __ ] You don't know if you were in a
571. 17:33relationship with your mom the same
572. 17:34thing she would say. She's seeing it
573. 17:36from an outside perspective. She's not
574. 17:38in it. She wasn't there when we had this
575. 17:39conversation. She didn't see the tone.
576. 17:41She didn't hear everything we said.
577. 17:43>> No, but I heard everything that you
578. 17:45said. I heard everything that happened.
579. 17:50>> Why is he saying one of you needs to
580. 17:52call me back?
581. 17:54>> Call my dad.
582. 17:55>> My phone's going to die. I'm on 7%.